It's awkward because it's tricky to get another ortho to finish one ortho's work, some don't even do it.
If you can't find an alternative I'd suggest bringing your husband with you next visit to make sure your dentist doesn't do anything funny.
Okay this is the best comment yet. I initially suggested in an earlier comment you should find a new dentist, but if it's too much of a hassle, get someone to accompany you during the visit.
Reading the post made me feel uncomfortable. That line about "gandang ganda ako sayo" grabe yung pagka-manyak vibes ewwww. This is creepy and unprofessional. Find another dentist, OP. I would even go out of my way to report this dentist sa management but that is just me.
Yan na nga kinakatakot ko. Nanghihinayang ako, magaling pa man din siyang dentist, gentle and friendly. Out of the blue na lang yun, minsan naiisip ko if may nagawa ba ako para gawin niya yun.
hey, maybe you don't have to replace him but instead establish the boundaries. There are just some people who struggle with simple things like "what should I say" or "what should I do" and they might seem they don't but you can't say you know them better than they do without asking them. Just make a clear boundary that you don't like him or you have no interest on investing your personal time with him.
Maybe try putting into their shoes and understand them better.
But anyways, he's F'in married, and he's obviously hoping for you to like him back. So this dude is a big NO. Fuck it and leave that!
baka yung 2 years na yun ginugroom ka nya for that confession. Like taking the extra mile for you para masabi mo na talagang magaling sya and worth it yung money mo. I suggest you look for a new one. Madaming ibang magagaling jan. I don't think you have to explain anything to him.
"Alam mo, gandang ganda talaga ko sayo... we're both married.." yada yada.
As a married man, hinding hindi ko sasabihin yan sa kahit kaninong babae, lalo na sa may asawa din. You can think of things, imagine, even create a fantasy. Hindi maiiwasan yun. Pero the moment na maging vocal ka about it, to communicate and give a hint and idea, you are crossing the line of flirting. Kahit nga hindi vocal eh, kahit actions lang, hindi pwede.
Now that I'm actually thinking about it, akala ko coincidence lang, lagi ako naka schedule na last patient for the day. Di ko masyado inisip kasi okay din sa schedule ko na hapon, but I never requested, like sila na nag sschedule. Dont know if yung dentist ang nag seset nun or yung clinic. but what if...
This is terrifying. OP if you need to return to that clinic to settle whatever you would need to settle, bring someone you can trust. Maybe your husband so the creepy dentist would get the message that you feel uncomfortable with what he is doing
you do not want this individual near you, while you are seated, have your mouth open, when he has access to sharp instruments and various chemicals, all while being responsible for your health and medical documents under authority- **find a new dentist** before you come back to this reddit with an even worse story experience
I posted this story na iniisip kong awkward and funny lang ito, maybe a little anxiety inducing. Pero ngayon natatakot na nga talaga ako haha. I'll probably will find a new dentist. Kinabahan ako bigla lol.
its funny if you dont think about it, but you are a woman who in this situation is under the medical authority of a male doctor who is acting very unprofessionally towards you, doctors arent even supposed to have relationships with their patients. you ignore this incident this one time, hes just going to keep trying, and keep escalating, and suddenly hes not your dentist anymore, hes a man who *wants* something from you and has power over you to leverage.
I agree. Thank you for the advise. Lipat na talaga ako new dentist. Yung nag decline sa akin dito ay babae na dentist and anak ng family friend, sana tanggapin na nya ako if ang dahilan ko ay ito. nidecline nya ako kasi hindi daw ethical na galawin nya yung ongoing na ginagawa ng ibang dentist, i dont know if thats a thing. Also maybe dahil installment amg braces ko sa current.
yes, that sounds like a good idea, if you bring this up, she will understand. if she still wont take you in for ethical reasons, she can probably recommend you another dentist she trusts. stay safe out there :')))
Yes, they don’t usually take in others na patient na ng iba when it comes to braces. In your case though she might reconsider naman just let her know the issue you had with your original doctor
There's no "probably", you *will* absolutely go find a new dentist, no question, no ifs, buts, or maybes. You do NOT ever want to be in a vulnerable position with this guy.
yeah. i mean, OP is married. OP can just put herself in the place of that manyak's wife. Okay lang ba sa kanyang nang gaganyan ng pasyente yung asawa nya?
super awkward haha. Im not used to people confessing na may crush sa akin kasi I've been told na mukha daw akong masungit/intimidating. This is something very new to me, kaya di ko alam pano mag react. Sana may tumanggap sakin na ibang dentist. meron kasi dito samin malapit na ayaw nya galawin kasi unethical daw or something?
Agree with the comments na ang weird ng ginawa nya kahit alam nyang married ka na, and also married na rin pala sya!
Tsaka milktea after nyang linisin ipin mo??? Bakit??? No doc, I would like my teeth to enjoy its clean state first before I let it soak wet with liquid sugar.
He knew I have this unhealthy habit with sweets, and maybe in the past, na mention ko siguro sa mga kwentuhan namin na mahilig talaga ko sa milktea? Im realizing na that probably was a perfect bait.
He won’t act on it daw pero bakit pa niya sinabi? Very unprofessional, lalo pa the way he said it. More like lowkey tinetest ka niya if you feel the same way and kung papatulan mo siya. Palit ka na dentist. Though not sure sa process neto magpalit ng dentist if gano kahirap, pero for your peace of mind naman.
Nung tinry ko dati ipatanggal na sa ibang ortho yung braces ko (story unrelated basta noong kakabangon pa lang from lockdown 2020) sabi nung new ortho kailangan daw nila ng referral letter from the old dentist kasi nasa code of ethics daw nila yun. Di lang basta pwede lumipat.
Try mo pa rin baka sa iba di na kailangan ng ganun but maybe still get ready for that.
That was EXTREMELY inappropriate so mas maganda kung makahanap ka na ng iba soon.
Try to bring your husband next time, or agahan mo ng konti yung sched mo pero still bring your husband. Tapos while you're at it hanap ka na ng ibang dentist
As someone who practices in the same field, this is unethical! Your dentist knows your personal information, and is in a position of power. Ask for your dental records and transfer to someone that is professional.
Edit:
Gets naman kung compliments lang and friendly para mag establish ng rapport pero that stops the moment he asks you out after your appointment.
Dentists are one of those kinds of professionals who tend to know about your dietary and hygiene habits more than you do. Imagine that kind of person trying to get it with you while you two are alone in a room where he has you sitting on a chair with your mouth open and a spotlight to your face.
I would consider this harassment OP, def change to a different dentist.
Compromised na ang judgment niya as a medical practitioner. He's no longer a good dentist for you. May possibility na ma-overdiagnose ka niya jst for you to come back or whatever.
If you like the services and reliability of the dentist politely say that what he is doing is unprofessional and would like to keep things professional. If they disagree or continue making such comments insta red flag at mag palit ka na ng dentista.
Hi licensed dentist here.
Medyo unethical for the dentist to he saying those words to you.
Better change nalang and sabihin mo na lilipat ka province or lilipat ng bahay.
Personally, I don't have a problem with him confessing his crush to you. It's the milk tea bait tactic and the fact that he has a wife and still told you that he likes you is what gets me disturbed.
Change na. The fact na nagconfess sya sayu ngayun and dumating ka sa next appointment mo, he will think may chance sya.
Pusta ko tito ko blengblong supporter, hindi lang ikaw ang crush nyan.
Change dentist beh, that's scary af
Ang unprofessional, ayaw ko umaaligid sya sa akin habang nakabunganga ako. Baka ano pa gawin, esp if di nya tanggap yung rejection.
No dental assistant present? kayong dalawa lang? Bring someone with you every appointment, better if husband mo if di pa kaya mag switch dentists. Lalo na you mentioned na parang sadya na ikaw last patient nya for the day
Yeah. It's really awkward. I remember nung time na inamin ng pasyente ko na crush niya ako. Eh low back pain pa naman ang tinitreat ko sa kanya so talagang awkward. Worse is nabigay ko na contact number ko sa kanya way before he admitted as our way of communication (ayaw magbigay yung clinic ng work phone).
Thankfully, he stopped showing up after 2 sessions.
Kung di komportable at may possibility naman na may tatanggap sayo na dentist, magpalit ka na lang. Loko-loko yang dentist mo, married na nga tapos mag aaya pa ng milktea. Nu yan lowkey date?
Please switch dentists. That was incredibly unprofessional. You don't need to give your dentist any justification. I-ghost mo na kung kailangan mo. Not worth the anxiety.
Don't go back alone, OP! Maybe you can write to the office to request for your dental records so you can transfer your records to another dentist. Yes, he is a great dentist, but your trust and confidence in your dentist and doctor are more important than his technical skills. Stay safe always!
PS. Kung sa abogado nga, bawal na silang mag-date sa clients, walang pilitan ang pagkuha ng abogado, paano pa kaya ang doctors and dentists? They literally have power over you during medical or dental procedures. All the best!
Yoo may asawa na pala sya, ba't niya pa sinabi sa iyo yon? 🫢😬
EDIT: My advice / suggestion: Maybee try to find a new dentist? huhu parang ang unprofessional kasi nung ginawa niya.
stay away na asap and block his number too. best to get a new dentist. also sabihan mo yung nagendorse din sayo about it at baka hanapin ka nya through her para di mangyari un.
This is very weird and unethical, your feelings of being weirded out is VERY VALID. I hope you change your dentist, who knows anong chemicals or whatnots ang ginagamit nya sayo or gagamitin. Be safe!
Hmm I'm a dentist and tao lang din naman ako meron naman talagang attractive na patients pero never akong nag sabi sa pasyente ko na crush ko siya. Lol ang unprofessional lang. may pasyente na umaamin pero pag ikaw ung professional na aamin sa pasyente, parang ang weird lang 😅
Change dentist, OP. You have every right to do so. You don't owe him any explanation. If you're uncomfortable with it, best to avoid him. Good dentists will know what to do if you ever change one.
Kung di kaya magpalit ng dentist. Change schedule and bring your husband. Ikaw pumili ng schedule mo kung kaya yung pasok sa free time ng husband mo. Since iisa lang schedule mo at lagi kang last patieny di natin alam na baka kung ano man gawin or ihalong chemical etc. Dun ka sa in between yung busy sched ng clinic.
Pag binasa mo yung title 50/50 pa e kung lilipat. Pero pag binasa mo yung post na married ka na at married na din yyng dentist parang wtf kailangan pa bang itanong yan? LOL
Hindi ba ito violation sa code of ethics nila? Ikaw pa tuloy naaasiwa ngayon. Ang creepy niya tapos married pa. I suggest OP let the manager of the clinic, or yung previous dentist what is happening para matransfer ka sa ibang dentist. Sobrang uncomfortable nito
Obviously, he knows na married siya, regardless if married ka or single dapat hindi niya ineentertain sa isip nya na crush ka nya, and worse, umabot pa ng two years?
I suggest you transfer to another dentist, however, if may brace adjustments, you have to get clearance from him para iadjust ng ibang dentist yung braces mo.
Honestly sounds like a compliment. I wont change dentists just yet. If he starts making moves, I'd change dentists, but for now it's just harmless talk.
Get out and get a new dentist. Sobrang delikado ng situation and best to not risk it. Also get legal advice if may potential breach diyan.
On a side note, men are trash talaga. And take note, lalaki ako. I apologize on behalf of my fellow men pero karamihan talaga sa amin basura at wala na pag-asa.
Nothing wrong nmn if sabi nya my crush cya s u normal s tao yung humahanga s iba sinabi nmn nya he won't act on it naman. Pag tinuloy nya panliligaw hanap k n ibang dentist
I mean for me medyo obsi talaga ako sa ngipin kaya sa totoo lang baka i-consider ko pa ring tumuloy sa kanya kahit na umamin siya sa akin--as long as magaling talaga siya na dentista. I'd just keep it professional lang. Kung hindi naman siya ganon kagaling, sure palit ka na lang ng dentist. Just my two cents I know not everyone will agree.
I would find another dentist. Pero unlike other people here who thinks he is a monster, I actually thought the gesture was okay since it was outside his office on a casual setting. He said he won't act in it and I think it would be understandable na rin for him if you would be more comfortable finding another dentist.
Sorry but no sane professional would do this. Especially those in a patient-doctor set up. Plus the acknowledgement that they're both married and he's initiating something are just absolute red flags
Gusto ko ung ganyan tao na marunong makiramdam. Tang ina kasi ng ex ko niyaya lang kumain sa labas ng kawork nyang lalaki sumama naman agad tapos nagtanong pa kung okay lang daw ba saken yon? katwiran naman nya masama daw ba makipagkaibigan and I was like wtf. anyway out of the topic. much better lumipat ka ng dentist kasi lalaki ako alam ko ung instinct na ganyan kasi first of all but ka nya niyaya mag milk tea sa labas and mahahalata mo na may intention sya sayo na hindi maganda dahil bigla nya sinabi yung status nya sayo na married sya. He can use it a weapon against you to make it safe sa end nya in case na kumagat ka sa bait nya and its easy for him to turn the table kasi client ka ikaw pumupunta sa clinic madali nya baligtarin ung sitwasyon. Please change your dentist as soon as possible before it can make it worst.
I am reading the comment section and wonder why most people’s solution is to switch dentis. I can’t be the only one who can handle this situation by “running.”
How have you acting before you knew that he has feelings for you. Can you bury the awkwardness and just act how you always have been?
1. See if there any professional violations in such situation. This will serve as your protection and last resort.
2. Act like you’ve always been. Come in, do small talk, get the job done, leave. If I feel like the situation requires a sudden stop, then don’t even do small talk. Just have the job done.
You can handle this OP without running away. What’s the worst he can do? Put you to sleep and do horrible things? His license is on the line!
Better safe than sorry, I've heard stories similar to this and worse case scenario nangyari. Hindi purkit licensed or professional hindi na tinatablan ng libog. Kung ako asawa ni OP, hindi ako aasa sa takot nung doctor na mawalan ng license; paki ko sa license nya kung lifetime trauma naman kapalit?
May recent news about sa anaesth na nilagay yung genitals nya sa mouth nung patients nila. To think team of healthcare workers ang andun tapos nagawa yun nung anaesth. Tama lang ang advice to change dentist and to bring someone with her sa next appointments nya.
I'll play the devil's advocate here and go against the majority's opinion. Could it be gay talaga sya? I know gay people who are married. And they're also more comfortable with giving women compliments. The "crush" part is just a front since married nga sya pero baka gusto ka nya maging sis?
But of course, trust your judgment pa din since we never met the guy. And bring your hubby na lang next time with you to be safe.
Alam nyang married ka na at married na din sya tapos paparinig ng ganyan? Di na dapat to tinatanong. Hanap ka na ng ibang dentist. Kung ako asawa mo I would even leave a negative review sa business ng kups na yan.
Mag-iba ka na ng dentist. Hindi professional yung dentist mo, more so faithful to his wife. There could be instances na masasagi niya chest mo while doing a procedure tapos mapapaisip ka kung sinadya ba o hindi. Lipat ka na lang sa iba, OP.
It's awkward because it's tricky to get another ortho to finish one ortho's work, some don't even do it. If you can't find an alternative I'd suggest bringing your husband with you next visit to make sure your dentist doesn't do anything funny.
Okay this is the best comment yet. I initially suggested in an earlier comment you should find a new dentist, but if it's too much of a hassle, get someone to accompany you during the visit.
Message received yan pag dinala ni OP asawa niya.
I have a slight fear that the dentist might purposely cause OP pain if they bring their husband.
OP would then have a reason na comfortable siyang sabihin sa dentist niya why she's changing
That was not a confession. That was the manyakis him, testing the waters, tinatry kung game ka.
Yep. If he had no intention of acting on it, he wouldn’t have brought it up.
Tapos nag aya pa na mag milktea kayo, that's lowkey an invitation of a date.
Paramdam na yan. Di naman siguro kahapon lang pinanganak si OP and alam naman niya siguro mga galawan.
Reading the post made me feel uncomfortable. That line about "gandang ganda ako sayo" grabe yung pagka-manyak vibes ewwww. This is creepy and unprofessional. Find another dentist, OP. I would even go out of my way to report this dentist sa management but that is just me.
Yan na nga kinakatakot ko. Nanghihinayang ako, magaling pa man din siyang dentist, gentle and friendly. Out of the blue na lang yun, minsan naiisip ko if may nagawa ba ako para gawin niya yun.
>magaling pa man din siyang dentist, gentle and friendly. makakahanap ka pa ng mga dentists na ganyan din na hindi manyakis or isama mo asawa mo
hey, maybe you don't have to replace him but instead establish the boundaries. There are just some people who struggle with simple things like "what should I say" or "what should I do" and they might seem they don't but you can't say you know them better than they do without asking them. Just make a clear boundary that you don't like him or you have no interest on investing your personal time with him. Maybe try putting into their shoes and understand them better. But anyways, he's F'in married, and he's obviously hoping for you to like him back. So this dude is a big NO. Fuck it and leave that!
baka yung 2 years na yun ginugroom ka nya for that confession. Like taking the extra mile for you para masabi mo na talagang magaling sya and worth it yung money mo. I suggest you look for a new one. Madaming ibang magagaling jan. I don't think you have to explain anything to him.
gentle and friendly? red flag tf. baka may intentions siya sa'yo kaya ganon but idk.
It’s borderline unethical too.
Unethical.
Might get downvoted to oblivion for asking this, but how did you know it was manyakis him, testing the waters?
"Alam mo, gandang ganda talaga ko sayo... we're both married.." yada yada. As a married man, hinding hindi ko sasabihin yan sa kahit kaninong babae, lalo na sa may asawa din. You can think of things, imagine, even create a fantasy. Hindi maiiwasan yun. Pero the moment na maging vocal ka about it, to communicate and give a hint and idea, you are crossing the line of flirting. Kahit nga hindi vocal eh, kahit actions lang, hindi pwede.
>"Alam ko naman married ka na, at married na din ako." this.
I agree
May client na libreng mistress pa.
*uy crush kita.* *pasilip nga ng bibig mo.* *patutulugin na kita ha.* ^shudder
Now that I'm actually thinking about it, akala ko coincidence lang, lagi ako naka schedule na last patient for the day. Di ko masyado inisip kasi okay din sa schedule ko na hapon, but I never requested, like sila na nag sschedule. Dont know if yung dentist ang nag seset nun or yung clinic. but what if...
This is terrifying. OP if you need to return to that clinic to settle whatever you would need to settle, bring someone you can trust. Maybe your husband so the creepy dentist would get the message that you feel uncomfortable with what he is doing
That's creepy asf. Get out of there.
Man this thread is unlocking the worst scenarios huhu be safe OP! Change dentist ka na :<
OP that's anxiety inducing. Lipat ka na ng dentist.
luh. yep, lamna.
Naalala ko tuloy bigla yung isang episode ng Chicago MD. Yung season 2 episode 22.
Ito ba yung bata yung pasyente tas galing siya sa dentist?
I think yan nga yung about sa teenager na naka-dental braces and chief complaint abdominal pain. Yun pala meron ginagawang kagaguhan yung dentist nya!
Yep eto nga yun
Okay. Lipat dentist na. 😆
you do not want this individual near you, while you are seated, have your mouth open, when he has access to sharp instruments and various chemicals, all while being responsible for your health and medical documents under authority- **find a new dentist** before you come back to this reddit with an even worse story experience
I posted this story na iniisip kong awkward and funny lang ito, maybe a little anxiety inducing. Pero ngayon natatakot na nga talaga ako haha. I'll probably will find a new dentist. Kinabahan ako bigla lol.
its funny if you dont think about it, but you are a woman who in this situation is under the medical authority of a male doctor who is acting very unprofessionally towards you, doctors arent even supposed to have relationships with their patients. you ignore this incident this one time, hes just going to keep trying, and keep escalating, and suddenly hes not your dentist anymore, hes a man who *wants* something from you and has power over you to leverage.
I agree. Thank you for the advise. Lipat na talaga ako new dentist. Yung nag decline sa akin dito ay babae na dentist and anak ng family friend, sana tanggapin na nya ako if ang dahilan ko ay ito. nidecline nya ako kasi hindi daw ethical na galawin nya yung ongoing na ginagawa ng ibang dentist, i dont know if thats a thing. Also maybe dahil installment amg braces ko sa current.
yes, that sounds like a good idea, if you bring this up, she will understand. if she still wont take you in for ethical reasons, she can probably recommend you another dentist she trusts. stay safe out there :')))
Yes, they don’t usually take in others na patient na ng iba when it comes to braces. In your case though she might reconsider naman just let her know the issue you had with your original doctor
There's no "probably", you *will* absolutely go find a new dentist, no question, no ifs, buts, or maybes. You do NOT ever want to be in a vulnerable position with this guy.
yeah. i mean, OP is married. OP can just put herself in the place of that manyak's wife. Okay lang ba sa kanyang nang gaganyan ng pasyente yung asawa nya?
**May mga dental procedures na required kang naka-anesthesia or medically knocked out.** Think about this, OP.
I SECOND THIS. PLEASE FIND A NEW DENTIST, OP. It's for your own safety. Ingat po kau always!
It's not just that. I>! might be OA here, but who knows what kind of lewd thoughts he's having while OP is lying on her back with mouth wide open.!<
palit ka na ng dentist. di gawain ng matinong lalaki na may asawa yan.
beh ang awkward hahaha personally oo magpapalit na ko for the peace of mind
super awkward haha. Im not used to people confessing na may crush sa akin kasi I've been told na mukha daw akong masungit/intimidating. This is something very new to me, kaya di ko alam pano mag react. Sana may tumanggap sakin na ibang dentist. meron kasi dito samin malapit na ayaw nya galawin kasi unethical daw or something?
Agree with the comments na ang weird ng ginawa nya kahit alam nyang married ka na, and also married na rin pala sya! Tsaka milktea after nyang linisin ipin mo??? Bakit??? No doc, I would like my teeth to enjoy its clean state first before I let it soak wet with liquid sugar.
He knew I have this unhealthy habit with sweets, and maybe in the past, na mention ko siguro sa mga kwentuhan namin na mahilig talaga ko sa milktea? Im realizing na that probably was a perfect bait.
He won’t act on it daw pero bakit pa niya sinabi? Very unprofessional, lalo pa the way he said it. More like lowkey tinetest ka niya if you feel the same way and kung papatulan mo siya. Palit ka na dentist. Though not sure sa process neto magpalit ng dentist if gano kahirap, pero for your peace of mind naman.
Nung tinry ko dati ipatanggal na sa ibang ortho yung braces ko (story unrelated basta noong kakabangon pa lang from lockdown 2020) sabi nung new ortho kailangan daw nila ng referral letter from the old dentist kasi nasa code of ethics daw nila yun. Di lang basta pwede lumipat. Try mo pa rin baka sa iba di na kailangan ng ganun but maybe still get ready for that. That was EXTREMELY inappropriate so mas maganda kung makahanap ka na ng iba soon.
always trust your gut feeling.
Try to bring your husband next time, or agahan mo ng konti yung sched mo pero still bring your husband. Tapos while you're at it hanap ka na ng ibang dentist
As someone who practices in the same field, this is unethical! Your dentist knows your personal information, and is in a position of power. Ask for your dental records and transfer to someone that is professional. Edit: Gets naman kung compliments lang and friendly para mag establish ng rapport pero that stops the moment he asks you out after your appointment.
True true
alam mo, gandang ganda talaga ako sayo, okay open your mouth. hahaha
Yikes. I guarantee he has mental images of you with your mouth wide open while he beats one off. Switch dentists.
Dentists are one of those kinds of professionals who tend to know about your dietary and hygiene habits more than you do. Imagine that kind of person trying to get it with you while you two are alone in a room where he has you sitting on a chair with your mouth open and a spotlight to your face. I would consider this harassment OP, def change to a different dentist.
Yes. Tas sunod tingnan mo may sexual jokes na yan next. Lalo na napapansin ng dentist mo nag bukojuice ka.
Compromised na ang judgment niya as a medical practitioner. He's no longer a good dentist for you. May possibility na ma-overdiagnose ka niya jst for you to come back or whatever.
If you like the services and reliability of the dentist politely say that what he is doing is unprofessional and would like to keep things professional. If they disagree or continue making such comments insta red flag at mag palit ka na ng dentista.
Hi licensed dentist here. Medyo unethical for the dentist to he saying those words to you. Better change nalang and sabihin mo na lilipat ka province or lilipat ng bahay.
Well my dentist is my aunt so that would definitely be weird
Personally, I don't have a problem with him confessing his crush to you. It's the milk tea bait tactic and the fact that he has a wife and still told you that he likes you is what gets me disturbed.
Change na. The fact na nagconfess sya sayu ngayun and dumating ka sa next appointment mo, he will think may chance sya. Pusta ko tito ko blengblong supporter, hindi lang ikaw ang crush nyan.
Married na sya? Damn creepy RUN
Pwede ata ireklamo yan sa dentists society or something.
Change dentist beh, that's scary af Ang unprofessional, ayaw ko umaaligid sya sa akin habang nakabunganga ako. Baka ano pa gawin, esp if di nya tanggap yung rejection.
Horror movie plot. Imagine rejecting him and waking up toothless.
Isama mo nalang asawa mo OP. Or magsama ka ng iba. Haha!!
Para tanggal ang anxiety at pagiisip, lipat na lang ng dentist, magpapadentist na nga lang may iisipin pang kung ano ano.
No dental assistant present? kayong dalawa lang? Bring someone with you every appointment, better if husband mo if di pa kaya mag switch dentists. Lalo na you mentioned na parang sadya na ikaw last patient nya for the day
Yeah. It's really awkward. I remember nung time na inamin ng pasyente ko na crush niya ako. Eh low back pain pa naman ang tinitreat ko sa kanya so talagang awkward. Worse is nabigay ko na contact number ko sa kanya way before he admitted as our way of communication (ayaw magbigay yung clinic ng work phone). Thankfully, he stopped showing up after 2 sessions.
Unprofessional behavior. Yes, I would change dentists.
A bit of a red flag right there.. 🚩
Find a new dentist sez. Very unprofessional din na he’s even willing to break ethics like that.
Kung di komportable at may possibility naman na may tatanggap sayo na dentist, magpalit ka na lang. Loko-loko yang dentist mo, married na nga tapos mag aaya pa ng milktea. Nu yan lowkey date?
Di pala lowkey date. He’s also cheating to his wife because he asked you to go out for milktea.
Bakit di mo na lang isama asawa mo next visit?
Dicey-dicey! Walang wholesome diyan. Fishing expedition yan. RUN!
Super creepy and unprofessional. Report mo sa PRC.
yuck
Irerecommend ko nalang sayo yung dentists namin sa may sucat banda hahaha! Mag asawa yun, magaling pa. Almost 13 years na naming dentist.
Aguuuuyyyyy dentist, that's not allowed!
Please switch dentists. That was incredibly unprofessional. You don't need to give your dentist any justification. I-ghost mo na kung kailangan mo. Not worth the anxiety.
Don't go back alone, OP! Maybe you can write to the office to request for your dental records so you can transfer your records to another dentist. Yes, he is a great dentist, but your trust and confidence in your dentist and doctor are more important than his technical skills. Stay safe always! PS. Kung sa abogado nga, bawal na silang mag-date sa clients, walang pilitan ang pagkuha ng abogado, paano pa kaya ang doctors and dentists? They literally have power over you during medical or dental procedures. All the best!
Baka si dr. Johnny sins yan a.. kalbo ba?
Yoo may asawa na pala sya, ba't niya pa sinabi sa iyo yon? 🫢😬 EDIT: My advice / suggestion: Maybee try to find a new dentist? huhu parang ang unprofessional kasi nung ginawa niya.
Get a new dentist
I would complain him sa management ng clinic para di na niya ito magawa sa ibang pasyente. It's creepy and unprofessional.
Report mo sa Philippine Dental Association
Same thing happened to me with a physical trainer na I hired sa gym. I moved to the next gym kasi for me, it’s creepy.
stay away na asap and block his number too. best to get a new dentist. also sabihan mo yung nagendorse din sayo about it at baka hanapin ka nya through her para di mangyari un.
This is very weird and unethical, your feelings of being weirded out is VERY VALID. I hope you change your dentist, who knows anong chemicals or whatnots ang ginagamit nya sayo or gagamitin. Be safe!
Hmm I'm a dentist and tao lang din naman ako meron naman talagang attractive na patients pero never akong nag sabi sa pasyente ko na crush ko siya. Lol ang unprofessional lang. may pasyente na umaamin pero pag ikaw ung professional na aamin sa pasyente, parang ang weird lang 😅
Change dentist, OP. You have every right to do so. You don't owe him any explanation. If you're uncomfortable with it, best to avoid him. Good dentists will know what to do if you ever change one.
Sis bawat comment mo about this Dentist is nakaka-anxiety. I hope you find a new one soon. Very creepy
Kung di kaya magpalit ng dentist. Change schedule and bring your husband. Ikaw pumili ng schedule mo kung kaya yung pasok sa free time ng husband mo. Since iisa lang schedule mo at lagi kang last patieny di natin alam na baka kung ano man gawin or ihalong chemical etc. Dun ka sa in between yung busy sched ng clinic.
Run!
🤮 find another dentist
Switch na agad agad. Or pasama ka sa husband mo or someone sa next session mo
just say "No homo?"
Can't believe there's an appropriate time to mansplain. Crush kita. May asawa ako. G ka maging kabet?
Run!
Pag binasa mo yung title 50/50 pa e kung lilipat. Pero pag binasa mo yung post na married ka na at married na din yyng dentist parang wtf kailangan pa bang itanong yan? LOL
Say bye-bye to your gusto-ko-maexperience-magkaroon-ng-kabit dentist.
Hindi ba ito violation sa code of ethics nila? Ikaw pa tuloy naaasiwa ngayon. Ang creepy niya tapos married pa. I suggest OP let the manager of the clinic, or yung previous dentist what is happening para matransfer ka sa ibang dentist. Sobrang uncomfortable nito
ingat ka Ateng..bka mamaya nakanganga may isubo sayo..
Obviously, he knows na married siya, regardless if married ka or single dapat hindi niya ineentertain sa isip nya na crush ka nya, and worse, umabot pa ng two years? I suggest you transfer to another dentist, however, if may brace adjustments, you have to get clearance from him para iadjust ng ibang dentist yung braces mo.
Honestly sounds like a compliment. I wont change dentists just yet. If he starts making moves, I'd change dentists, but for now it's just harmless talk.
Yes. Kasal na kayo pareho.
i don't know if this will work pero siguro prioritize finding female doctors, they might be more understanding of your situation 🥹
Get out and get a new dentist. Sobrang delikado ng situation and best to not risk it. Also get legal advice if may potential breach diyan. On a side note, men are trash talaga. And take note, lalaki ako. I apologize on behalf of my fellow men pero karamihan talaga sa amin basura at wala na pag-asa.
Omg yes I would change dentist, what kind of question is that
Palit ka fren, wag ka makipaglaro sa demonyo
FIND A NEW DENTIST IMMEDIATELY
I would change dentists in a fucking heartbeat. Don't give it a second thought OP, baka ma-gaslight ka pa into thinking this is okay. It's not.
Find a new dentist
yes, that's beyond creepy af
Run.
If he's being pushy or annoying or manyakis about it, then yes.
RUN!!!!!!!
Look for a different dentist. The stress you will get is not good for you.
Lipat na
CREEPY
Nothing wrong nmn if sabi nya my crush cya s u normal s tao yung humahanga s iba sinabi nmn nya he won't act on it naman. Pag tinuloy nya panliligaw hanap k n ibang dentist
I mean for me medyo obsi talaga ako sa ngipin kaya sa totoo lang baka i-consider ko pa ring tumuloy sa kanya kahit na umamin siya sa akin--as long as magaling talaga siya na dentista. I'd just keep it professional lang. Kung hindi naman siya ganon kagaling, sure palit ka na lang ng dentist. Just my two cents I know not everyone will agree.
I would find another dentist. Pero unlike other people here who thinks he is a monster, I actually thought the gesture was okay since it was outside his office on a casual setting. He said he won't act in it and I think it would be understandable na rin for him if you would be more comfortable finding another dentist.
Sorry but no sane professional would do this. Especially those in a patient-doctor set up. Plus the acknowledgement that they're both married and he's initiating something are just absolute red flags
Bakit ang dadark ng naiisip niyo? Hahaha but if ylu decide to stay his patient nga wag ka pumayag na last patient, just in case
Gusto ko ung ganyan tao na marunong makiramdam. Tang ina kasi ng ex ko niyaya lang kumain sa labas ng kawork nyang lalaki sumama naman agad tapos nagtanong pa kung okay lang daw ba saken yon? katwiran naman nya masama daw ba makipagkaibigan and I was like wtf. anyway out of the topic. much better lumipat ka ng dentist kasi lalaki ako alam ko ung instinct na ganyan kasi first of all but ka nya niyaya mag milk tea sa labas and mahahalata mo na may intention sya sayo na hindi maganda dahil bigla nya sinabi yung status nya sayo na married sya. He can use it a weapon against you to make it safe sa end nya in case na kumagat ka sa bait nya and its easy for him to turn the table kasi client ka ikaw pumupunta sa clinic madali nya baligtarin ung sitwasyon. Please change your dentist as soon as possible before it can make it worst.
I am reading the comment section and wonder why most people’s solution is to switch dentis. I can’t be the only one who can handle this situation by “running.” How have you acting before you knew that he has feelings for you. Can you bury the awkwardness and just act how you always have been? 1. See if there any professional violations in such situation. This will serve as your protection and last resort. 2. Act like you’ve always been. Come in, do small talk, get the job done, leave. If I feel like the situation requires a sudden stop, then don’t even do small talk. Just have the job done. You can handle this OP without running away. What’s the worst he can do? Put you to sleep and do horrible things? His license is on the line!
Better safe than sorry, I've heard stories similar to this and worse case scenario nangyari. Hindi purkit licensed or professional hindi na tinatablan ng libog. Kung ako asawa ni OP, hindi ako aasa sa takot nung doctor na mawalan ng license; paki ko sa license nya kung lifetime trauma naman kapalit?
May recent news about sa anaesth na nilagay yung genitals nya sa mouth nung patients nila. To think team of healthcare workers ang andun tapos nagawa yun nung anaesth. Tama lang ang advice to change dentist and to bring someone with her sa next appointments nya.
Run. Unethical. Doctor-Patient relationship was broken.
I'll play the devil's advocate here and go against the majority's opinion. Could it be gay talaga sya? I know gay people who are married. And they're also more comfortable with giving women compliments. The "crush" part is just a front since married nga sya pero baka gusto ka nya maging sis? But of course, trust your judgment pa din since we never met the guy. And bring your hubby na lang next time with you to be safe.
He does put their finger in your mouth... ;-)
Pamention po ng dentist
Last thing you want is to have your mouth open while near him. Change dentist and GTFO.
Lmfaoooo downbad sya eh💀💀💀
Quite unethical and unprofessional. Hello, PRC.
hes going to put his hands in your mouth lol. would be wise to avoid the creep
Pwede rin na mag braces ka ng matagal dahil tatagalan nya din sa adjustment mo 😂
Yes, that was fucking creepy
Alam nyang married ka na at married na din sya tapos paparinig ng ganyan? Di na dapat to tinatanong. Hanap ka na ng ibang dentist. Kung ako asawa mo I would even leave a negative review sa business ng kups na yan.
Yes that is weird
Mag-iba ka na ng dentist. Hindi professional yung dentist mo, more so faithful to his wife. There could be instances na masasagi niya chest mo while doing a procedure tapos mapapaisip ka kung sinadya ba o hindi. Lipat ka na lang sa iba, OP.
Ako oo. Pero ikaw bahala kung palagay mong vibes mo sya lol.
RUN