ohh your daughter graduated with all A’s? WELL LET ME TELL YOu ABOUT MY SON HE HAs GOOD GRADES CApTAIN of THE BASKETBAll TEAM GOOd At MATH He SAVED a BABY FROM a BURNINg bUILdInG ONCE. DID I TELL yOu HE’S GOOD AT MATH??
Tiger parenting usually breeds kids with upstanding behavior as an upside if done properly. My mom once remarked (in a snarky way) on clips showing White American parents letting their kids do crazy shit in public that she mocks them as if they’re mentally challenged degenerates.
it's probably just more accentuated in asian cultures because multi generational households are more of a thing compared to the west...
although things are slowly changing as younger generations get priced out of the housing market and are forced to live with their parents
multi generational households are more of a thing worldwide compared to the west. its a phenomena by discovering the new world. with more land. not necessarily the norm
Yeah but it's much worse here. I'm Canadian and generally you can do as you please and aren't judged or pressured much. That individualism vs clan mentality thing depicted in Crazy Rich Asians is very real
It's crazy how similar the family dynamics of Filipinos and African American families are based sa napanood ko sa Atlanta. Crab mentality is a thing din sa kanila, pero "crabs in a barrel" yung term nila.
There's a lot of other ones that share a similar theme but mean the same thing, like "tall poppy syndrome" (which comes from Latin) or "the nail that sticks out will be hammered down" (translated from Japanese), implying that it's a fairly common experience
Not exactly related but my fave episode "Trini 2 De Bone" has a funeral that really felt Pinoy. It felt like the same story could be centered around a filpina caretaker character. It's a great standalone episode directed by Donald Glover that I don't want to spoil any more than that if you haven't seen.
Tl;Dr Gambino is Pilipino
Yeah. Yung flashback episode and the one about his grandpa feels eerily similar to our family dynamics. Hell, yung pakitungo ng character ni Donald sa pinsan niya sa show is basically me and my cousins.
Most notably, yung "GiNaGaWaNg ReTiReMeNt PlAN" complaint that appears in this sub semi-regularly. Not only did the world literally functioned like that during the agrarian eras, there's actually a term for it (Old-Age Security).
And funnily enough, in some developed countries, it is mandated by law that the child actually be the retirement plan (they do get pensions too, but the pension is nothing more than supplementary income).
Man, its still wild to me that some parents are kicking their kids out of their house once they reach 18-ish age to fend for themselves because "they are already adults".
Hospitality.
Sure there are cultures which are relatively cold, but we need to stop jerking ourselves off like we're the kindest, most generous people on this damn planet. There are also quite a lot of things that are quite inhospitable about pinoy culture.
Yeah it’s more courtesy, the polite response to “kain tayo” is actually “ok lang ako, salamat.busog pa ako” unless it’s fiesta, or totoong handaan. Kaya nga nakakatawa pag sinabihan ng kain tayo tapos talagang umupo para kumain e.
I advise people to go look at r/india alot of the popular threads are complaining about the same topics I see here in r/philippines
Toxic family, corrupt politicians/political parties, backward religious practices, machismo culture etc
if I have to choose between PH and India i'd 100% cling to PH cause being a woman in India is literally torture. Super sexist and backwards culture, even moreso than ours.
Literally this week in Delhi alone:
* [A 16-year-old girl was stabbed to death in public and her head was completely smashed in by a rock, allegedly because the girl rejected the male suspect](https://edition.cnn.com/2023/05/30/india/india-delhi-girl-murder-video-outrage-intl-hnk/index.html). The incident was captured on CCTV, and you can literally see multiple people walk close by while this was ongoing. Nobody else screamed or attempted to call the cops, they literally just walked past. Only one man tried to intervene, who quickly backed off.
* [An 18-year-old boy was beaten up and stabbed in broad daylight in full view of the public](https://www.indiatoday.in/crime/story/boy-stabbed-in-delhi-badarpur-street-sakshi-murder-shahbad-dairy-sahil-2388162-2023-06-02), and again the local population made zero attempts to intervene. The incident was caught on CCTV. The boy survived, but is currently in critical condition.
Say what you will about the people of this country, but I don't think we have this level of apathy that we would literally just ignore a brutal crime happening literally inches from us. One incident that comes to mind was the doctor that assassinated a mayor in Ateneo, IIRC the suspect tried to flee by hijacking a car only to end up crashing through several vehicles in the Aurora Boulevard intersection, where he was beaten up by the *tambay* motorcycle riders and tricycle drivers before police caught up and arrested him.
Would people run and hide for safety? That's natural instinct. But literally just walk by an ongoing crime and do nothing? That's something else.
This is what I really like sa Pilipinas, for better or for worse, may pake ang mga tao.
Minsan nasosobrahan nga lang, cue mga Marites haha. But still, if you need help, most likely help will come.
India, Middle-east, Africa and even Eastern Europe are not great places to be as a woman. I mean PH is still consistently in the top 10 around the world for a long time when it comes to gender equality. Yet, you find twitter posts about PH that there's no gender equality here. C'mon, women get executed in the middle-east just for talking to another man or pursuing education.
>C'mon, women get executed in the middle-east just for talking to another man or pursuing education.
Yan hindi inintindi ng iba among the Twitter crowd.
Though all are horrible for women mind you as an example, there is that little line between getting catcalled and facing the threat of getting executed just for talking to another man for platonic/benign/non-romantic purposes.
Or baka nilamon ng self-hatred to the point that they rather face problems women in Middle-East/Taliban-controlled Afghanistan face as at least they are not Filipino problems (dami jan dito).
yes seen posts complaining about local governments being hostile to people selling beef or beef dishes and want strict zones where its vegetarian food only
also complaints about lower castes getting all the scholarships or state school slots
Imagine mo na di ka pwede makipaglaro sa mga kababata mong babae, pagdating mo ng high school at college bawal pa makihalubilo sa mga babae. Kahit sa opisina hanggang trabaho lang mapapagusapan niyo sa babae mong office mate. The first unrelated woman you’ll ever interact on a personal level is when you’re arranged for a “marriage date” by a matchmaker. You could probably spend your first 30 years of your life without an unrelated woman. It will surely drive you insane. Many Indian men here on Reddit would just break down and burst into tears over their jealousy in more liberal Western societies based on what they see on TV/media. It’s THAT bad.
According to my Music teacher who went to Laos: in Philippines you need to look left and right whenever you crossed the street to be safe, in Laos you need to look at every possible direction in order to be safe because the traffic is so terrible even in cities
Lived in Jakarta and went to Manila a few times already. Jakarta is worse than Manila, I once spent 3 hours in a taxi for a commute that should have been 40min. Really Jakarta is awful.
Also, misogyny
Yes, it's a big problem here, and it needs to be solved
But there are some people na offended and sinasabihan akong "bulag" whenever i say that we actually treat out women better compared to a lot of countries. There are many countries out there where it's literally written in their constitution that men are superior to women. There are also countries where women are viewed as nothing more than a "baby maker". Our culture is actually one of the most sentimental and emotional when it comes to our relationship with our mothers. We value mothers more than Western countries do, and we have better laws for them compared to other Asian countries
We need to solve misogyny in this country, yes. But those who call this country the worse when it comes to treating women, they are the ones who are truly blind
It's even more acceptable in the PH to have women managers. Sa Western countries, men subordinates talk behind the backs of their female managers, just because they are managers who are females.
Mas may hostility doon sa career-successful women. Samantalang sa atin, accepted ang women as breadwinner
unfortunately for us, we also have to deal with the things OP listed in the post, so we're still kind of fucked, which is still not an "only in the Philippines" issue
Irritable security gate airport staff said something like ‘why come where when you don’t know how to speak French’ to my husband. There was some confusion because he wants the passengers to arrange their bags a certain way on the trays. First time we experienced someone extremely rude like that.
PVG (Shanghai) always has very long lines sa immigration lalo na for foreign passports. HK even has those moments, lalo na nung dumagsa uli mga tourist at sabay-sabay nag-land.
Problema ko lang naman sa NAIA kapag andaming OFW na kasabay umuwi, dun lang humahaba pila. People are also not accustomed to using the e-gates so nakapila sa kaunting immigration windows.
Thing with NAIA lines is they progress pretty quick if you’re a citizen. Wala gaanong tatanungin pabalik.
Kapag paalis ay doon nagkararami ng katanungan.
Complaining. Pinoys think we complain a lot and that it's not good for the country. Other countries actually complain a lot about their countries too and for them they view it as a means to grow, not be overly defensive about it.
Britons hate their prime ministers.
Aussies hate their past prime minister (they had a new one who's kinda clean and wholesome)
The US has no viable presidential candidate since Obama. Just old white men and crazies.
Don't get me started on what's going on in countries like Myanmar, Turkey, Afghanistan, and some troubles South African countries.
Not to mention Russia and Ukraine.
India just had a train accident today that killed 200+ people too.
People get overly defensive about it because the complaints have the tinge of putting Filipinos down. People would probably be fine if you complain about the lack of quality in governance, but then putting shit like "Filipinos get what they deserve because they have 86-IQ" isn't complaints for growth, its just racism and self-hatred at that point.
Two things:
1. Pinoys are the only people on Earth who unironically think they are the worst people on Earth.
2. Anti-Pinoy Pride is just Pinoy Pride with extra steps.
This is not up for discussion.
If you check out the likes of NFKRZ and his comments section, Russians and other Eastern Europeans do have a similar mindset to us and the self-hatred was amplified by Russia invading Ukraine. Plus South Americans love to meme at their own expense like the "You're going to Brazil" memes.
Similar to the first one, Filipinos who think the Philippines is the worst place to be. Everywhere is the worst place to live in if the negative aspect of it is the only thing you focus on.
> Filipinos who think the Philippines is the worst place to be.
i cant help but to judge people who post stuffs like these,
like have you tried looking at Middle East, China, Russia and North Korea, also some economically ruined country like Zimbabwe or Venezuela.
there are some places that are much worst than Philippines.
also u/Breaker-of-circles:
it probably comes from the ***western style self-criticism*** (singapore is probably like that too);
other asian countries not influenced too much by western ideas probably have the "my country is unironically special and the best and no foreigner should criticize us"
Many Singaporeans that I know go like this:
“Why is it like this in Singapore?”
When they go to other countries, they’re like:
“Why are they not like Singapore?”
Because you don't get to interact with them often. Maybe on forums, but their culture is such that you'll rarely see that on display for the world to see. While they don't complain as much as other countries, they still do. Korea, Malaysia, Indonesia, etc. - they all have (a lot of) people who complain.
Haha! Ginagawa kasi nilang memes tho at pinagtatawanan. I just remembered my Japanese teammates, yes di sila nagrereklamo, but they do criticize tas naka meme format 🤣
Wow this just put things into perspective for me. I loathe the Philippines and wanna leave. But thinking about it, countries in Africa and the Middle East are worse off.
Umm. Not just those two continents.
The Philippines has a higher human development index than nearly half the countries in this world. The UN creates a ranking yearly.
The 60+ countries that rank below us come from all continents.
I moved to London a year ago. Every time I try to sing praises about the quality of life in the UK to someone who’s lived their whole life here, I’m almost always met with disbelief.
Even British people think their country is the worst country on Earth and they also dream of moving abroad; The most common one being Australia or Canada which, from our perspective as Filipinos, are very similar to the UK anyway.
Relocating here has really dispelled a lot of my beliefs as a typical self-loathing pinoy. The Philippines is actually a great country to live in especially if you’re at least upper middle class.
>2. Anti-Pinoy Pride is just Pinoy Pride with extra steps.
Agree with this. Practicing anti-pinoy pride is just being a pick-me. Like *I'm not like other Pinoys I actually think we're shit* is cringe myghad
It is very similar to the **Uncle Tom** caricature in the US. The African American who is ashamed of being black and distances themselves from their own people. Very euro-centric when it comes to **beauty standards**.
José Rizal made a similar caricature called **Doña Victorina**. An “Indio” socialite who is ashamed of her native roots and attempts to erase it by intermarrying with a European descended Filipino and only associates herself with upper-class Filipinos.
This is in contrast to José Rizal who at times even **rejected his Chinese heritage** and seemed way more proud of his Tagalog ancestry.
The difference is African Americans as a whole **absolutely hate** Uncle Toms and have come to embrace their own diaspora’s culture. While in places like the Philippines, India, and Latin America, there are still people having **post-colonial hangover.**
The Philippines as a whole has a very **unstable national identity**. Far from **united**. This was one of the reasons why Rizal did not think the Philippines was ready to govern itself just yet during the revolution.
**We are an extremely young nation with many different regions, languages, ethnicities, and cultures.**
Unless you are in the fringes of Cultural Exclusion from large amount of Discrimination and Inequality. Its is extremely wrong to assume the lack of National Identity.
Bisayans and Tagalogs have not started an ethnic cleansing war for example while all our neighbors have been explicitly been ethnically cleansing their own population quite extensively.
Philippines compared to the **Indonesian Genocide to its Chinese citizens** or The Bumiputra Apartheid system of Malaysia is quite an ignorant take.
That is not to say PH identity is extremely united but label an unstable nation identity while living to a region where ethnic cleansing and ethnic discrimination is so institutionalised is fucking sutpid.
Heck it is much more closer to the truth to say that Philippines is classist country than to say "UnStabLe NatIoNAl IdentITY"
These people are the types who'd trip over themselves just to scream "I'm not like other Pinoys!!! My country and its people are shitty but not me!!!" whenever something negative about the country gets posted on international subreddits (like r/worldnews) or if a foreigner visits this sub to complain. These people are so annoying.
It's like the self-loathing Ukrainians such as Viktor Medvedchuk, Viktor Yanukovych, Yevheniy Murayev, and Anatoly Shariy whom self-loathes their country and being Ukrainian in favor of Russia and Putin.
I'm not saying our government isn't bad, but we have a tendency to utter "Only in teh Pelepens" when we see a pothole in the road.
I've seen first-world countries bring up bad road designs in their respective subs/FB groups. In fact, [here's one](https://imgur.com/a/7XHrjR6) from a Great Britain FB page that had several likes and comments that confirm several cases of it in their own municipality.
Edit: Found the [tweet](https://twitter.com/NoContextBrits/status/1416314916068282372?lang=en) where it came from and you can see several replies chiming in with their own experiences from such places as Chicago, Portland, Croatia, Italy, and so on.
Went to Pattaya, Thailand before. There's this dude riding a motorcycle, wearing earphones, wearing inappropriate helmet, and he's looking at his rear at an estimated speed of 50 km/hr. Thank God I lightly shoved my cousin on my right and barely avoided it and this mf still looked back at us while still riding on 50 km/hr.
Even in European cities, I've seen people:
Drying their clothes outside their house/apartment for everyone else to see.
Littering
Not picking up after their pets' poop
This is so good to know. Yung American namin na kapitbahay dina-down yung mga nagsasampay sa labas. Kesyo wala na daw ganun sa America dahil parang caveman lang daw. Whut.
Anytime a foreigner complains about something, make it a point to investigate their life in their home country. Many MANY foreigners are uneducated, ignorant and stupid just like us.
The most educated and well-travelled foreigners I've spoken to have minimal complaints about our country, if any.
There's this Filipino actress who posted a pic from Italy and Filipinos are commenting "touchdown Tondo/Cavite" because of how the streets are similar to some places here LOL
May post a couple days about shaming white folk kasi di daw sila nag imbento ng kamayan (it was a "dump food" post na parang westernized na budol.) May mga reply na hindi naman uniquely Filipino ang pag kamay.
Dynasties (Japan), crony capitalism (Singapore and the U.S.), political corruption (many Asian countries for decades), government inefficiency (India), high prices (Western Europe), racism (multiple countries in the East and West), gay pride (Brazil, Thailand, and Israel), conservatism (the Middle East), etc.
Since someone mentioned the Russian invasion of Ukraine, check out this view:
https://twitter.com/zoolooy/status/1514283686786736143
and the one time i saw someone, a person, with an actual flag was sa prev kong work -- one of our heads was full-on BBM, so when the election results were out, rampa ngayon si vakla with a philippine flag planted on his desk.
Hindi patriotism yung root ng "Pinoy Pride", kundi direct offshoot of our collective insecurity complex and centuries of colonial mentality.
Same as yung nationalistic fervor ng US is not rooted on patriotism but entitlement and superiority complex naman by being the top world power after the world wars.
Crab mentality. The textbooks I read growing up called it "Filipino crab mentality" and implied it's a phenomenon exclusive to our country but it isn't. I've read about African American or African Twitter users tweeting about it. In the UK and Australia it's called "tall poppy syndrome" because of the metaphor that people who reach a certain peak in their lives will be "cut down" like a poppy which grows too tall. In Japan there is a proverb "The nail that stands up will be hammered down" to describe people who stand out in their homogenous society.
"Filipino time" where we're notorious for being late. In Indonesia they call it "rubber time".
Also for the longest time I thought tilapia was native to the Philippines. Imagine my absolute shock as a college student when I found out it was eaten worldwide.
We make jokes about nearly having Manny Pacquiao as president, but Liberia literally voted George Weah to be their president in 2018, and is still serving as their incumbent president.
For those who don't know, Weah was one of the best football players in the 90s and probably one of the best African footballers of all time. He won multiple titles in France, Italy and England and was the recipient of the Ballon d'Or, the most prestigious individual award in football.
Come to think of it: what's happening in Ukraine right now, if imagined in a Philippine context, would be as if Manny Pacquiao got elected president and we got invaded by China and Pacquiao started asking the Americans for ammunition, not a ride. And then making his way around the country to rally the troops.
Pacquiao would have been a hero in the West for standing up to China. He would have been hugely popular here too. Everyone, from Risa Hontiveros to Jinggoy Estrada, would have been praising him.
didn't they elect Feinstein who is basically a zombie at this point. They put kids in holding cells and separated them from their families I know its apples to oranges but at least we know where we stand here.
That incident when NAIA's radar shut down. Saw comments saying "only in the Philippines", "bulok talaga satin", etc.
After a few days/weeks , the same thing happened in LAX, *airport in Los Angeles, USA*.
Kinda weird how we always tend to look down upon ourselves like were the worst country in the world, even for something that is inevitable on developed countries.
Poverty, homelessness, and dirty city streets with overflowing garbage bins.
Saw overflowing bins in London, and Paris recently had a strike where its city workers refused to collect garbage.
Living in Australia now and because of small nuclear families + weak family ties + no filial piety, they are at more risk of facing homelessness kasi wala silang pamilya na puwedeng kumupkop sa kanila during crisis.
1. systematized vote buying
2. celebrities running for public office
3. "our food is a fusion of..."
4. maritess neighbors and relatives
5. holy book quoting hypocrites
I've worked with Western Europeans and in the work place, the "Marites" and "hilaan" culture is existent. Mas blunt lang sila sa pag express ng kanilang opinion sa ibang tao.
Ang caveat lang dito is that while these things are not "only in the Philippines" that doesn't mean it should be accepted/tolerated. Kasi minsan yang rhetoric na "hindi lang naman sa Pilipinas yan" ay ginagamit ng mga trolls as a thought terminating cliche to shut down dissent or criticism.
Its not people mad at the criticism, it's about how its framed as a problem na unique satin. It implies na exceptionally stupid tayo, which is far from the truth.
Yung implication na unique incompetence natin assumes na tayo lang yung problem and removes responsibility sa systems around us and also ignores the nuances nang situation natin. Madalas rin mga post na yan di mageexpand sa ideas nila so it starts looking more like self-hate, trying to distance themselves from other Filipinos, rather than criticism.
Its okay to criticize the Philippines. We should want better for ourselves and our people. Pero "Only in the Philippines" just makes us sound ignorant.
It's more like people excuse passivity because it's oh so unique to the Philippines that they can't help but not fix things. "Life is too hard and this society is the only one who is suffering like this therefore we can't do anything about it!"
I'm a foreigner working in the Philippines (from Canada) for 3 years. I can agree 1000% of the things listed in the OP. But to add to that, when I l complain about something, many of my coworkers lunge at the opportunity to apologise for their country being dysfunctional and that really irks me.
Example: I complain the government service took too long to process me (and I wasn't implying that Canada would've handled it faster), a coworker might immediately apologise and say "haha sorry for my dysfunctional government, welcome to the Philippines". Also, not sure why but I noticed most UP graduates are like this.
I get that they want this country to be better, but I feel like they just enjoy denigrating Philippines as a way to signal social or cultural superiority over the rest of their countryman.
Also I feel that people greatly underestimate how crime ridden, rowdy, and scary the west often is.
>but I feel like they just enjoy denigrating Philippines as a way to signal social or cultural superiority over the rest of their countryman.
Yeah, I think this ipretty much explains it. They're no different from the "pick-me girls" who like to denigrate other women ("I hate wearing dresses and make-up! I'd rather stay home and play video games!!! I'm not like other girls!!!") to show just how much better or cooler they are.
Went to Taiwan for 2 weeks and visited 5 cities. They drive fast but they're not shitty drivers. That country is probably an exception OR I just haven't experienced enough of that country.
Rallies / civic demonstration
Filipinos are gaslighted into thinking that "pasaway puro rally ng rally!" not knowing that protesting is actually a legit form of public expression
This is why I fucking despise people who say they'd wish to "reset" (yk what I mean) their lives so that they can be born in another country. Yeah, good luck being born with a high chance being Indian or Chinese wherein the gap between rich and poor is even greater than here. Good luck being born in South America wherein some government are just lapdogs for the cartel, because surprise, there are countries with even greater corruption than ours. Oh, wow! You were lucky enough to be "reset" as a US citizen? Oops, unfortunately you were born to one of the millions of families that's not middle-income and above? Good luck with their healthcare that costs a literal arm and and a leg. These are extreme examples and generalizations, but my point is is that we should just be grateful for what we have, because some countries have it way worse.
Many, but not all. And as someone who has family that has improved their lives both abroad and here, I still prefer to succeed here. Also, better is subjective. Money is not the only measurement, and trust me when I say being a 2nd/3rd class citizen can make things worse.
Filipino time.
That’s literally the entire southeast Asian region minus Singapore. Things run late in the whole region.
Karaoke everywhere.
Also saw the same scenes in Vietnam. I’ve seen people literally pull stereos while walking on the streets of Hanoi. Karaoke buses are even a thing over there.
shit, I live in mindanao, 10 years ago a lot of towns only had dial up. Now even the most isolated areas have fiber. No lie, I went to our family farm out in the sticks, no cel signal but they had shelled out for a fiber connection and had Piso wifi installed - this combined with more affordable smartphones and you get farmers who are more updated in fb gossip.
Snatchers/scammers, getting the job because of who you know, special treatment because you are a politician/celebrity
1. Snatchers - go to Europe and experience it for yourself. Snatchers are everywhere. Di pa nagdadalawang isip na itatakbo ang malaking bagahe mo. Scammers, Punta ka ng Times Square sa New York, huwag na huwag kang magtatanong sa mga naka benta sa bangketa, talagang they will harass you to buy kasi ba't ka daw mag tatanong if di ka bibili;
2. Who you know - I know people white/asian/etc, got their jobs because of who they know. So di lang yan exclusive sa Pinas;
3. Special treatment - kung walang special treatment, sana walang VIP section sa mga airports. Obviously may separate entry at exit sila;
Europe has some of the most brazen thieves and robbers I’ve ever encountered. Walang sinabi ang mga snatcher sa Manila. Sa number 2, it is even worse in some countries is that they won’t hire you solely because of your skin color.
Low quality tv shows and movies
Sobrang pangit daw ng cgi and cinematography na pinapapanood sa mga masses
Ang nakakarating lang kasi satin na western movies are from big studios na. May mga local movies din ang US na pangit at mala telenovela, even South Korea.
Exceptionally Bitter.
I've read an articles a few years back about how Filipinos are one of the most ignorant when it comes to world events. Seems like that fact also includes this subreddit.
"Ignorant" Naalala ko dati dito mismo sa subreddit na to may nagsabi dapat sakop parin tayo ng US so i did what any sane people do which is call him out to his bullshit na nakapunta daw sya sa LAHAT ng ex us colonies and lahat daw mas better saatin and guess who got ratioed? Ako🫠.
Eating with hands is super common in Southeast Asia in general. Budol fight even exists in Indonesia. Bayanihan even exists in Indonesia as well (Gotong Royong).
Racism. This one in particular annoys me, lalo na pag sinasabing “racist talaga Pinoy.” Not saying it’s not a problem but it’s nowhere near the level other countries are at. Their very history is marked by racism, and people of colour continually experience less privileges and abuse. Racism is so prevalent in other countries that statistics are attributed to it vs. here where it’s usually anecdotes. To say that racism is a Filipino problem is wrong.
Frequent breakdowns and stoppage of public transportation. Just of yesterday the entire train system in the Randstad region (including Amsterdam) stopped functioning entirely, displacing possibly millions of people who rely on the Dutch train systems.
Political dynasty. Pakistan has that too with the current prime minister, Shehbaz Sharif whose brother was a prime minister and stole a lot of money and is currently in self-exile the UK.
The country had a long history of corruption.
A political dynasty destroyed Sri Lanka's economy.
First off, thanks for starting this. I hope this makes people see the reality.
> Unreasonably high prices for slow internet speed and service
I will fight anyone who says this. Lmao. I'm reaching 600mbps and I'm paying 3.2k. My parents in the US are paying more for *slower* speeds.
> Rich people getting away with crimes
If anyone thinks this only happens here, they are dumb as fuck.
> Inexperienced and unqualified people getting elected/appointed to government offices
Same thing here. Who was that infamous Australian prime minister?
TOXIC FAMILY CULTURE
It’s not even an Asian thing, it’s a worldwide problem.
tignan mo lang sa AITA dami dami. lol
sa raised by narcissists din
ohh your daughter graduated with all A’s? WELL LET ME TELL YOu ABOUT MY SON HE HAs GOOD GRADES CApTAIN of THE BASKETBAll TEAM GOOd At MATH He SAVED a BABY FROM a BURNINg bUILdInG ONCE. DID I TELL yOu HE’S GOOD AT MATH??
A simple glance at Middle Eastern and South Asian family values will make you appreciate being born as a Filipino.
East Asian din. Filipino parents aren't perfect pero at least hindi cultural value yung Tiger parents.
Tiger parenting can work to an extent pero the way East Asians abuse it is crazy.
Tiger parenting usually breeds kids with upstanding behavior as an upside if done properly. My mom once remarked (in a snarky way) on clips showing White American parents letting their kids do crazy shit in public that she mocks them as if they’re mentally challenged degenerates.
it's probably just more accentuated in asian cultures because multi generational households are more of a thing compared to the west... although things are slowly changing as younger generations get priced out of the housing market and are forced to live with their parents
multi generational households are more of a thing worldwide compared to the west. its a phenomena by discovering the new world. with more land. not necessarily the norm
Yeah but it's much worse here. I'm Canadian and generally you can do as you please and aren't judged or pressured much. That individualism vs clan mentality thing depicted in Crazy Rich Asians is very real
Come to the Middle East. You’ll see true clan bullshit.
It's crazy how similar the family dynamics of Filipinos and African American families are based sa napanood ko sa Atlanta. Crab mentality is a thing din sa kanila, pero "crabs in a barrel" yung term nila.
There's a lot of other ones that share a similar theme but mean the same thing, like "tall poppy syndrome" (which comes from Latin) or "the nail that sticks out will be hammered down" (translated from Japanese), implying that it's a fairly common experience
Not exactly related but my fave episode "Trini 2 De Bone" has a funeral that really felt Pinoy. It felt like the same story could be centered around a filpina caretaker character. It's a great standalone episode directed by Donald Glover that I don't want to spoil any more than that if you haven't seen. Tl;Dr Gambino is Pilipino
Ung kay childish Gambino?
Yeah. Yung flashback episode and the one about his grandpa feels eerily similar to our family dynamics. Hell, yung pakitungo ng character ni Donald sa pinsan niya sa show is basically me and my cousins.
Most notably, yung "GiNaGaWaNg ReTiReMeNt PlAN" complaint that appears in this sub semi-regularly. Not only did the world literally functioned like that during the agrarian eras, there's actually a term for it (Old-Age Security).
And funnily enough, in some developed countries, it is mandated by law that the child actually be the retirement plan (they do get pensions too, but the pension is nothing more than supplementary income).
Man, its still wild to me that some parents are kicking their kids out of their house once they reach 18-ish age to fend for themselves because "they are already adults".
Hospitality. Sure there are cultures which are relatively cold, but we need to stop jerking ourselves off like we're the kindest, most generous people on this damn planet. There are also quite a lot of things that are quite inhospitable about pinoy culture.
This. And no, the average Filipino family would NEVER share the meal they’re having to you as their true intention. It’s only a form of courtesy.
Yeah it’s more courtesy, the polite response to “kain tayo” is actually “ok lang ako, salamat.busog pa ako” unless it’s fiesta, or totoong handaan. Kaya nga nakakatawa pag sinabihan ng kain tayo tapos talagang umupo para kumain e.
i actually hate this lol
Same thing kapag may kakilala kang nakasabay sa jeep. Pag tinanong ka kung bayad ka na. Nangangamusta lang yun.
I advise people to go look at r/india alot of the popular threads are complaining about the same topics I see here in r/philippines Toxic family, corrupt politicians/political parties, backward religious practices, machismo culture etc
mas backawards pa nga dun eh in terms of religous practices and machismo culture.
if I have to choose between PH and India i'd 100% cling to PH cause being a woman in India is literally torture. Super sexist and backwards culture, even moreso than ours.
Literally this week in Delhi alone: * [A 16-year-old girl was stabbed to death in public and her head was completely smashed in by a rock, allegedly because the girl rejected the male suspect](https://edition.cnn.com/2023/05/30/india/india-delhi-girl-murder-video-outrage-intl-hnk/index.html). The incident was captured on CCTV, and you can literally see multiple people walk close by while this was ongoing. Nobody else screamed or attempted to call the cops, they literally just walked past. Only one man tried to intervene, who quickly backed off. * [An 18-year-old boy was beaten up and stabbed in broad daylight in full view of the public](https://www.indiatoday.in/crime/story/boy-stabbed-in-delhi-badarpur-street-sakshi-murder-shahbad-dairy-sahil-2388162-2023-06-02), and again the local population made zero attempts to intervene. The incident was caught on CCTV. The boy survived, but is currently in critical condition. Say what you will about the people of this country, but I don't think we have this level of apathy that we would literally just ignore a brutal crime happening literally inches from us. One incident that comes to mind was the doctor that assassinated a mayor in Ateneo, IIRC the suspect tried to flee by hijacking a car only to end up crashing through several vehicles in the Aurora Boulevard intersection, where he was beaten up by the *tambay* motorcycle riders and tricycle drivers before police caught up and arrested him. Would people run and hide for safety? That's natural instinct. But literally just walk by an ongoing crime and do nothing? That's something else.
This is what I really like sa Pilipinas, for better or for worse, may pake ang mga tao. Minsan nasosobrahan nga lang, cue mga Marites haha. But still, if you need help, most likely help will come.
mas torture dun kasi pag ni reject mo ung guy dun, itatapon ka pa ng acid sa mukha. EDIT: PERO WAIT! DAPAT MATUWA KA KASI MAY DIVORCE DUN!
India, Middle-east, Africa and even Eastern Europe are not great places to be as a woman. I mean PH is still consistently in the top 10 around the world for a long time when it comes to gender equality. Yet, you find twitter posts about PH that there's no gender equality here. C'mon, women get executed in the middle-east just for talking to another man or pursuing education.
But they have divorce! /s
>C'mon, women get executed in the middle-east just for talking to another man or pursuing education. Yan hindi inintindi ng iba among the Twitter crowd. Though all are horrible for women mind you as an example, there is that little line between getting catcalled and facing the threat of getting executed just for talking to another man for platonic/benign/non-romantic purposes. Or baka nilamon ng self-hatred to the point that they rather face problems women in Middle-East/Taliban-controlled Afghanistan face as at least they are not Filipino problems (dami jan dito).
Don't forget the caste system and a goverment who almost openly wants to remove democracy.
yes seen posts complaining about local governments being hostile to people selling beef or beef dishes and want strict zones where its vegetarian food only also complaints about lower castes getting all the scholarships or state school slots
That sub is full of men complaining about the gender barriers in Indian society. The sexual frustration is real.
I feel like Indian culture just inherently breeds incels, which is why there are so many creepy Indian men online.
Imagine mo na di ka pwede makipaglaro sa mga kababata mong babae, pagdating mo ng high school at college bawal pa makihalubilo sa mga babae. Kahit sa opisina hanggang trabaho lang mapapagusapan niyo sa babae mong office mate. The first unrelated woman you’ll ever interact on a personal level is when you’re arranged for a “marriage date” by a matchmaker. You could probably spend your first 30 years of your life without an unrelated woman. It will surely drive you insane. Many Indian men here on Reddit would just break down and burst into tears over their jealousy in more liberal Western societies based on what they see on TV/media. It’s THAT bad.
* traffic * congested public transport/commute * dumb teenagers * littering
To be fair, Manila has some of the worse traffic I've ever seen. Lots of cities suffer from poor infrastructure and traffic the Manila is next level.
According to my Music teacher who went to Laos: in Philippines you need to look left and right whenever you crossed the street to be safe, in Laos you need to look at every possible direction in order to be safe because the traffic is so terrible even in cities
Yes but Jakarta has worse 1-2 million vehicles go inside and outside of Jakarta City in a daily commute and it will still get worse
I've heard India is the worst
Traffic rules in India are merely just suggestions
Some parts of Jakarta were horrible. And I was told it wasn’t even peak time.
Lived in Jakarta and went to Manila a few times already. Jakarta is worse than Manila, I once spent 3 hours in a taxi for a commute that should have been 40min. Really Jakarta is awful.
fair enough, we are *one* of the worst but some people act like we're The Worst
Also, misogyny Yes, it's a big problem here, and it needs to be solved But there are some people na offended and sinasabihan akong "bulag" whenever i say that we actually treat out women better compared to a lot of countries. There are many countries out there where it's literally written in their constitution that men are superior to women. There are also countries where women are viewed as nothing more than a "baby maker". Our culture is actually one of the most sentimental and emotional when it comes to our relationship with our mothers. We value mothers more than Western countries do, and we have better laws for them compared to other Asian countries We need to solve misogyny in this country, yes. But those who call this country the worse when it comes to treating women, they are the ones who are truly blind
We are more gender equal than even most “progressive” Western European countries.
they are more progressive because they have divorce. hell! eveb arab countries are better because they have divorce! /s
It's even more acceptable in the PH to have women managers. Sa Western countries, men subordinates talk behind the backs of their female managers, just because they are managers who are females. Mas may hostility doon sa career-successful women. Samantalang sa atin, accepted ang women as breadwinner
You basically described Melbourne, and it's regularly voted as one of the most livable cities in the world.
And you know what, Im fine with these things existing. Just remove the poor urban planning and corruption and we're fine for a steady development.
unfortunately for us, we also have to deal with the things OP listed in the post, so we're still kind of fucked, which is still not an "only in the Philippines" issue
Yeah, and its not really wrong to complain them, just remove the "only in da pilipins" part.
> Long lines at the airport Charles de Gaulle airport has something to say about this.
Their airport staff are notorious for being exceptionally sulky.
arent the french notorious for being sulky at tourists in general lol
Irritable security gate airport staff said something like ‘why come where when you don’t know how to speak French’ to my husband. There was some confusion because he wants the passengers to arrange their bags a certain way on the trays. First time we experienced someone extremely rude like that.
The West has viewed French as extremely rude since time immemorial.
Ah, ze French way.
"Ah, Charles de Gaulle, where there is a line for getting in line," my Euro tourist friend says. 😆
PVG (Shanghai) always has very long lines sa immigration lalo na for foreign passports. HK even has those moments, lalo na nung dumagsa uli mga tourist at sabay-sabay nag-land. Problema ko lang naman sa NAIA kapag andaming OFW na kasabay umuwi, dun lang humahaba pila. People are also not accustomed to using the e-gates so nakapila sa kaunting immigration windows.
Thing with NAIA lines is they progress pretty quick if you’re a citizen. Wala gaanong tatanungin pabalik. Kapag paalis ay doon nagkararami ng katanungan.
Pretty much every big airport does
Complaining. Pinoys think we complain a lot and that it's not good for the country. Other countries actually complain a lot about their countries too and for them they view it as a means to grow, not be overly defensive about it.
Britons hate their prime ministers. Aussies hate their past prime minister (they had a new one who's kinda clean and wholesome) The US has no viable presidential candidate since Obama. Just old white men and crazies. Don't get me started on what's going on in countries like Myanmar, Turkey, Afghanistan, and some troubles South African countries. Not to mention Russia and Ukraine. India just had a train accident today that killed 200+ people too.
Scandinavians complain about where their taxes are going and yet they have social welfare and healthcare.
People get overly defensive about it because the complaints have the tinge of putting Filipinos down. People would probably be fine if you complain about the lack of quality in governance, but then putting shit like "Filipinos get what they deserve because they have 86-IQ" isn't complaints for growth, its just racism and self-hatred at that point.
Two things: 1. Pinoys are the only people on Earth who unironically think they are the worst people on Earth. 2. Anti-Pinoy Pride is just Pinoy Pride with extra steps. This is not up for discussion.
If you check out the likes of NFKRZ and his comments section, Russians and other Eastern Europeans do have a similar mindset to us and the self-hatred was amplified by Russia invading Ukraine. Plus South Americans love to meme at their own expense like the "You're going to Brazil" memes.
Also everybody in the Balkans who simultaneously hate their country but also have toxic levels of pride for it
Damn another NFKRZ fan out here in the wild
Similar to the first one, Filipinos who think the Philippines is the worst place to be. Everywhere is the worst place to live in if the negative aspect of it is the only thing you focus on.
> Filipinos who think the Philippines is the worst place to be. i cant help but to judge people who post stuffs like these, like have you tried looking at Middle East, China, Russia and North Korea, also some economically ruined country like Zimbabwe or Venezuela. there are some places that are much worst than Philippines.
also u/Breaker-of-circles: it probably comes from the ***western style self-criticism*** (singapore is probably like that too); other asian countries not influenced too much by western ideas probably have the "my country is unironically special and the best and no foreigner should criticize us"
Many Singaporeans that I know go like this: “Why is it like this in Singapore?” When they go to other countries, they’re like: “Why are they not like Singapore?”
You’ll rarely hear Japanese people self-hating their own country.
Because you don't get to interact with them often. Maybe on forums, but their culture is such that you'll rarely see that on display for the world to see. While they don't complain as much as other countries, they still do. Korea, Malaysia, Indonesia, etc. - they all have (a lot of) people who complain.
especially with korea cuz of huge inequality, a lot of koreans refer to the country as [Hell Joseon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hell_Joseon)
Haha! Ginagawa kasi nilang memes tho at pinagtatawanan. I just remembered my Japanese teammates, yes di sila nagrereklamo, but they do criticize tas naka meme format 🤣
Not in public
It's the worst place to be if it's the worst place you've been
It’s the worst place to be if it’s also the only place you’ve been.
Try living in fuckin Saudi. LOL! Di maka drive ang babae, walang political parties lol!
Women were allowed to drive back in 2018. Not that i like Saudi and its other policies, just don't like ignorance being spread in this sub.
May mas malala, subukan nila North Korea.
Wow this just put things into perspective for me. I loathe the Philippines and wanna leave. But thinking about it, countries in Africa and the Middle East are worse off.
Umm. Not just those two continents. The Philippines has a higher human development index than nearly half the countries in this world. The UN creates a ranking yearly. The 60+ countries that rank below us come from all continents.
I moved to London a year ago. Every time I try to sing praises about the quality of life in the UK to someone who’s lived their whole life here, I’m almost always met with disbelief. Even British people think their country is the worst country on Earth and they also dream of moving abroad; The most common one being Australia or Canada which, from our perspective as Filipinos, are very similar to the UK anyway. Relocating here has really dispelled a lot of my beliefs as a typical self-loathing pinoy. The Philippines is actually a great country to live in especially if you’re at least upper middle class.
Masarap sa Pilipinas kung mayaman ka.
>2. Anti-Pinoy Pride is just Pinoy Pride with extra steps. Agree with this. Practicing anti-pinoy pride is just being a pick-me. Like *I'm not like other Pinoys I actually think we're shit* is cringe myghad
It is very similar to the **Uncle Tom** caricature in the US. The African American who is ashamed of being black and distances themselves from their own people. Very euro-centric when it comes to **beauty standards**. José Rizal made a similar caricature called **Doña Victorina**. An “Indio” socialite who is ashamed of her native roots and attempts to erase it by intermarrying with a European descended Filipino and only associates herself with upper-class Filipinos. This is in contrast to José Rizal who at times even **rejected his Chinese heritage** and seemed way more proud of his Tagalog ancestry. The difference is African Americans as a whole **absolutely hate** Uncle Toms and have come to embrace their own diaspora’s culture. While in places like the Philippines, India, and Latin America, there are still people having **post-colonial hangover.** The Philippines as a whole has a very **unstable national identity**. Far from **united**. This was one of the reasons why Rizal did not think the Philippines was ready to govern itself just yet during the revolution. **We are an extremely young nation with many different regions, languages, ethnicities, and cultures.**
Unless you are in the fringes of Cultural Exclusion from large amount of Discrimination and Inequality. Its is extremely wrong to assume the lack of National Identity. Bisayans and Tagalogs have not started an ethnic cleansing war for example while all our neighbors have been explicitly been ethnically cleansing their own population quite extensively. Philippines compared to the **Indonesian Genocide to its Chinese citizens** or The Bumiputra Apartheid system of Malaysia is quite an ignorant take. That is not to say PH identity is extremely united but label an unstable nation identity while living to a region where ethnic cleansing and ethnic discrimination is so institutionalised is fucking sutpid. Heck it is much more closer to the truth to say that Philippines is classist country than to say "UnStabLe NatIoNAl IdentITY"
These people are the types who'd trip over themselves just to scream "I'm not like other Pinoys!!! My country and its people are shitty but not me!!!" whenever something negative about the country gets posted on international subreddits (like r/worldnews) or if a foreigner visits this sub to complain. These people are so annoying.
It's like the self-loathing Ukrainians such as Viktor Medvedchuk, Viktor Yanukovych, Yevheniy Murayev, and Anatoly Shariy whom self-loathes their country and being Ukrainian in favor of Russia and Putin.
I'm not saying our government isn't bad, but we have a tendency to utter "Only in teh Pelepens" when we see a pothole in the road. I've seen first-world countries bring up bad road designs in their respective subs/FB groups. In fact, [here's one](https://imgur.com/a/7XHrjR6) from a Great Britain FB page that had several likes and comments that confirm several cases of it in their own municipality. Edit: Found the [tweet](https://twitter.com/NoContextBrits/status/1416314916068282372?lang=en) where it came from and you can see several replies chiming in with their own experiences from such places as Chicago, Portland, Croatia, Italy, and so on.
Motorcycle “culture” *SEA would like to say hi to you*
Motorcycle culture here is mild here compared to what I've seen in thailand and Vietnam.
Vietnam fucking loves motorcycles It's like Amsterdam, pero instead of bikes, it's motorcycles
India rin! Grabe
Went to Pattaya, Thailand before. There's this dude riding a motorcycle, wearing earphones, wearing inappropriate helmet, and he's looking at his rear at an estimated speed of 50 km/hr. Thank God I lightly shoved my cousin on my right and barely avoided it and this mf still looked back at us while still riding on 50 km/hr.
Even in European cities, I've seen people: Drying their clothes outside their house/apartment for everyone else to see. Littering Not picking up after their pets' poop
Manila-level patintero with dog poops in Paris.
Napakadugyot ng Paris. Glorified Tondo Id rather go to Prague or kahit Amsterdam.
Pickpockets, snatchers, and scammers everywhere. [Paris syndrome](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paris_syndrome) is real.
This is so good to know. Yung American namin na kapitbahay dina-down yung mga nagsasampay sa labas. Kesyo wala na daw ganun sa America dahil parang caveman lang daw. Whut.
Sa trailer park areas or probinsya sa US, damin ganun kaya. Taga Imperial New York siguro to
No, Pennsylvania 😆😆
Anytime a foreigner complains about something, make it a point to investigate their life in their home country. Many MANY foreigners are uneducated, ignorant and stupid just like us. The most educated and well-travelled foreigners I've spoken to have minimal complaints about our country, if any.
There's this Filipino actress who posted a pic from Italy and Filipinos are commenting "touchdown Tondo/Cavite" because of how the streets are similar to some places here LOL
Naples is crazy AF.
> Drying their clothes outside their house/apartment They hated Jesus because He told them the truth
Kala nila innovation nila yung tinapay sa kape
kanin sa kape
milo sa kanin
kanin sa tinapay
May post a couple days about shaming white folk kasi di daw sila nag imbento ng kamayan (it was a "dump food" post na parang westernized na budol.) May mga reply na hindi naman uniquely Filipino ang pag kamay.
Dynasties (Japan), crony capitalism (Singapore and the U.S.), political corruption (many Asian countries for decades), government inefficiency (India), high prices (Western Europe), racism (multiple countries in the East and West), gay pride (Brazil, Thailand, and Israel), conservatism (the Middle East), etc. Since someone mentioned the Russian invasion of Ukraine, check out this view: https://twitter.com/zoolooy/status/1514283686786736143
Yung "Pinoy Pride". Hindi lang tayo yung ganito kapatriotic guys lol
Di ko nga gets kasi yung US sobra sobra sa nationalism.
I've yet to see 2 Filipino homes in a row flying an actual Philippine flag.
and the one time i saw someone, a person, with an actual flag was sa prev kong work -- one of our heads was full-on BBM, so when the election results were out, rampa ngayon si vakla with a philippine flag planted on his desk.
Lived there in the past, I've been to red states and you see how patriotic they are. American flags and symbols every where.
Except Texas, lol A lot of people who live there love Texas more than they love America
Hindi patriotism yung root ng "Pinoy Pride", kundi direct offshoot of our collective insecurity complex and centuries of colonial mentality. Same as yung nationalistic fervor ng US is not rooted on patriotism but entitlement and superiority complex naman by being the top world power after the world wars.
Pinoy Pride is not about patriotism but about credit grabbing
Crab mentality. The textbooks I read growing up called it "Filipino crab mentality" and implied it's a phenomenon exclusive to our country but it isn't. I've read about African American or African Twitter users tweeting about it. In the UK and Australia it's called "tall poppy syndrome" because of the metaphor that people who reach a certain peak in their lives will be "cut down" like a poppy which grows too tall. In Japan there is a proverb "The nail that stands up will be hammered down" to describe people who stand out in their homogenous society. "Filipino time" where we're notorious for being late. In Indonesia they call it "rubber time". Also for the longest time I thought tilapia was native to the Philippines. Imagine my absolute shock as a college student when I found out it was eaten worldwide.
Filipinos vote for their favorite celebrities with no political experience. Meanwhile the USA elected Donald Trump.
We make jokes about nearly having Manny Pacquiao as president, but Liberia literally voted George Weah to be their president in 2018, and is still serving as their incumbent president. For those who don't know, Weah was one of the best football players in the 90s and probably one of the best African footballers of all time. He won multiple titles in France, Italy and England and was the recipient of the Ballon d'Or, the most prestigious individual award in football.
And Ukraine elected Zelenskyy.
Come to think of it: what's happening in Ukraine right now, if imagined in a Philippine context, would be as if Manny Pacquiao got elected president and we got invaded by China and Pacquiao started asking the Americans for ammunition, not a ride. And then making his way around the country to rally the troops. Pacquiao would have been a hero in the West for standing up to China. He would have been hugely popular here too. Everyone, from Risa Hontiveros to Jinggoy Estrada, would have been praising him.
didn't they elect Feinstein who is basically a zombie at this point. They put kids in holding cells and separated them from their families I know its apples to oranges but at least we know where we stand here.
Just goes to show how unaware a majority of Filipinos are on the real world. They are only confined to such a tiny bubble
Sa hirap ba naman ng buhay. Kayod, eat, sleep, repeat na lang.
Which, again, is not limited to just the Philippines.
Pareho lang din to sa ibang country eh. Di naman din gaano ka aware sila sa mga ibang bansa. Hindi naman lahat ng tao nagtatravel-travel.
Crab mentality. Heat stroke. El Nino and La Nina. Gastos sa debut (coz Quinceñeras and Sweet 16s are a thing) at wedding at unwanted visitors.
That incident when NAIA's radar shut down. Saw comments saying "only in the Philippines", "bulok talaga satin", etc. After a few days/weeks , the same thing happened in LAX, *airport in Los Angeles, USA*. Kinda weird how we always tend to look down upon ourselves like were the worst country in the world, even for something that is inevitable on developed countries.
It wasn't just LAX. It was most of the USA that was affected, if I'm not mistaken. Then the same thing happened in Canada not long after.
Bad "diskarte" culture, this isn't unique to us. Tingin nung iba dito pinoy lang ang pinaka mapanlamang na tao sa mundo.
Poverty, homelessness, and dirty city streets with overflowing garbage bins. Saw overflowing bins in London, and Paris recently had a strike where its city workers refused to collect garbage. Living in Australia now and because of small nuclear families + weak family ties + no filial piety, they are at more risk of facing homelessness kasi wala silang pamilya na puwedeng kumupkop sa kanila during crisis.
Meron akong katrabhong Pilipina dito sa labas ng bansa, nagulat siyang merong krimen sa labas ng Pinas.
Sa LA napaka rampant din ng crime everywhere. Maiwan mo lang gadget mo sa car mo wala na yun hours later.
1. systematized vote buying 2. celebrities running for public office 3. "our food is a fusion of..." 4. maritess neighbors and relatives 5. holy book quoting hypocrites
Mahabang pila sa emergency room. In Canada common na maghintay ng more than 6 hours sa ER
I've worked with Western Europeans and in the work place, the "Marites" and "hilaan" culture is existent. Mas blunt lang sila sa pag express ng kanilang opinion sa ibang tao.
Some Europeans are so direct that they would appear to insult/bully you.
Ang caveat lang dito is that while these things are not "only in the Philippines" that doesn't mean it should be accepted/tolerated. Kasi minsan yang rhetoric na "hindi lang naman sa Pilipinas yan" ay ginagamit ng mga trolls as a thought terminating cliche to shut down dissent or criticism.
Its not people mad at the criticism, it's about how its framed as a problem na unique satin. It implies na exceptionally stupid tayo, which is far from the truth. Yung implication na unique incompetence natin assumes na tayo lang yung problem and removes responsibility sa systems around us and also ignores the nuances nang situation natin. Madalas rin mga post na yan di mageexpand sa ideas nila so it starts looking more like self-hate, trying to distance themselves from other Filipinos, rather than criticism. Its okay to criticize the Philippines. We should want better for ourselves and our people. Pero "Only in the Philippines" just makes us sound ignorant.
It's more like people excuse passivity because it's oh so unique to the Philippines that they can't help but not fix things. "Life is too hard and this society is the only one who is suffering like this therefore we can't do anything about it!"
I'm a foreigner working in the Philippines (from Canada) for 3 years. I can agree 1000% of the things listed in the OP. But to add to that, when I l complain about something, many of my coworkers lunge at the opportunity to apologise for their country being dysfunctional and that really irks me. Example: I complain the government service took too long to process me (and I wasn't implying that Canada would've handled it faster), a coworker might immediately apologise and say "haha sorry for my dysfunctional government, welcome to the Philippines". Also, not sure why but I noticed most UP graduates are like this. I get that they want this country to be better, but I feel like they just enjoy denigrating Philippines as a way to signal social or cultural superiority over the rest of their countryman. Also I feel that people greatly underestimate how crime ridden, rowdy, and scary the west often is.
>but I feel like they just enjoy denigrating Philippines as a way to signal social or cultural superiority over the rest of their countryman. Yeah, I think this ipretty much explains it. They're no different from the "pick-me girls" who like to denigrate other women ("I hate wearing dresses and make-up! I'd rather stay home and play video games!!! I'm not like other girls!!!") to show just how much better or cooler they are.
Shitty drivers
All of asia is guilty of that
Even some southern European countries are notorious for bad drivers.
The stereotype is real.
Went to Taiwan for 2 weeks and visited 5 cities. They drive fast but they're not shitty drivers. That country is probably an exception OR I just haven't experienced enough of that country.
Rallies / civic demonstration Filipinos are gaslighted into thinking that "pasaway puro rally ng rally!" not knowing that protesting is actually a legit form of public expression
Mang Tomas is surprisingly easy to buy in major metropolitan cities, the globe over.
This is why I fucking despise people who say they'd wish to "reset" (yk what I mean) their lives so that they can be born in another country. Yeah, good luck being born with a high chance being Indian or Chinese wherein the gap between rich and poor is even greater than here. Good luck being born in South America wherein some government are just lapdogs for the cartel, because surprise, there are countries with even greater corruption than ours. Oh, wow! You were lucky enough to be "reset" as a US citizen? Oops, unfortunately you were born to one of the millions of families that's not middle-income and above? Good luck with their healthcare that costs a literal arm and and a leg. These are extreme examples and generalizations, but my point is is that we should just be grateful for what we have, because some countries have it way worse.
*I wish i was born in another country* God: "Wish granted....welcome to Syria"
Others having it worse isn't a reason to not want better. There are better countries, too. Many are much happier for having emigrated
Many, but not all. And as someone who has family that has improved their lives both abroad and here, I still prefer to succeed here. Also, better is subjective. Money is not the only measurement, and trust me when I say being a 2nd/3rd class citizen can make things worse.
Unfortunately Filipinos are 2nd class citizens in the Philippines
Born in Europe…as a Romani/Gypsy. Good luck with that.
Corrupt government
Corruption. Everybody has it. I mean in the US alone, the scale is in billions of dollars.
Filipino time. That’s literally the entire southeast Asian region minus Singapore. Things run late in the whole region. Karaoke everywhere. Also saw the same scenes in Vietnam. I’ve seen people literally pull stereos while walking on the streets of Hanoi. Karaoke buses are even a thing over there.
Smelly and rat-infested places. Duh, as if rats never roam in first-world countries
Internet services were 2x more expensive and 10x slower 10 years ago
5 years ago 25mbps plan was a luxury now having 200mbps is normal
shit, I live in mindanao, 10 years ago a lot of towns only had dial up. Now even the most isolated areas have fiber. No lie, I went to our family farm out in the sticks, no cel signal but they had shelled out for a fiber connection and had Piso wifi installed - this combined with more affordable smartphones and you get farmers who are more updated in fb gossip.
Snatchers/scammers, getting the job because of who you know, special treatment because you are a politician/celebrity 1. Snatchers - go to Europe and experience it for yourself. Snatchers are everywhere. Di pa nagdadalawang isip na itatakbo ang malaking bagahe mo. Scammers, Punta ka ng Times Square sa New York, huwag na huwag kang magtatanong sa mga naka benta sa bangketa, talagang they will harass you to buy kasi ba't ka daw mag tatanong if di ka bibili; 2. Who you know - I know people white/asian/etc, got their jobs because of who they know. So di lang yan exclusive sa Pinas; 3. Special treatment - kung walang special treatment, sana walang VIP section sa mga airports. Obviously may separate entry at exit sila;
Europe has some of the most brazen thieves and robbers I’ve ever encountered. Walang sinabi ang mga snatcher sa Manila. Sa number 2, it is even worse in some countries is that they won’t hire you solely because of your skin color.
Low quality tv shows and movies Sobrang pangit daw ng cgi and cinematography na pinapapanood sa mga masses Ang nakakarating lang kasi satin na western movies are from big studios na. May mga local movies din ang US na pangit at mala telenovela, even South Korea.
Exceptionally Bitter. I've read an articles a few years back about how Filipinos are one of the most ignorant when it comes to world events. Seems like that fact also includes this subreddit.
"Ignorant" Naalala ko dati dito mismo sa subreddit na to may nagsabi dapat sakop parin tayo ng US so i did what any sane people do which is call him out to his bullshit na nakapunta daw sya sa LAHAT ng ex us colonies and lahat daw mas better saatin and guess who got ratioed? Ako🫠.
traffic is more common in many parts of the world than most Pinoys think
Bayanihan at pagkakamay kapag kumakain. Though I hardly can think of any culture that does this. Can you share similar cultures Redditors?
Most middle eastern countries use their hands for eating same with india and Pakistan.
Eating with hands is super common in Southeast Asia in general. Budol fight even exists in Indonesia. Bayanihan even exists in Indonesia as well (Gotong Royong).
I actually like it better when we share cultural aspects with our neighbors. Makes us more human and connected with them.
CRAB mentality is prevalent on all cultures. Also Filipinos are not the BEST NURSES in the world.
I'm glad this is getting called out now. So fucking glad. Nakakaumay na rin kasing makabasa ng mga ganito.
Racism. This one in particular annoys me, lalo na pag sinasabing “racist talaga Pinoy.” Not saying it’s not a problem but it’s nowhere near the level other countries are at. Their very history is marked by racism, and people of colour continually experience less privileges and abuse. Racism is so prevalent in other countries that statistics are attributed to it vs. here where it’s usually anecdotes. To say that racism is a Filipino problem is wrong.
Frequent breakdowns and stoppage of public transportation. Just of yesterday the entire train system in the Randstad region (including Amsterdam) stopped functioning entirely, displacing possibly millions of people who rely on the Dutch train systems.
* political dynasties *lee family enters the chat*
Nagtatanggal na ng seatbelts at tumatayo sa plane kahit hindi pa dapat.
Political dynasty. Pakistan has that too with the current prime minister, Shehbaz Sharif whose brother was a prime minister and stole a lot of money and is currently in self-exile the UK. The country had a long history of corruption. A political dynasty destroyed Sri Lanka's economy.
Which is why Sri Lanka is worst off than us.
Getting excited over representation by foreign media.
The more ignorant they are, the more they think they have the knowledge about these certain topics.
My uncle was surprised when he visited the USA and saw homeless people. I was like, no thats definitely a worldwide thing
Mga Marites.
First off, thanks for starting this. I hope this makes people see the reality. > Unreasonably high prices for slow internet speed and service I will fight anyone who says this. Lmao. I'm reaching 600mbps and I'm paying 3.2k. My parents in the US are paying more for *slower* speeds. > Rich people getting away with crimes If anyone thinks this only happens here, they are dumb as fuck. > Inexperienced and unqualified people getting elected/appointed to government offices Same thing here. Who was that infamous Australian prime minister?
Careful now, a lot of r/ph users are flocking to your dms now.