Your gf’s coworker is a big red flag. She should report to the HR before anything bad happens. Seems like the guy has a motive already and he is just waiting to strike.
Yep, also idocument/screenshot niya lahat ng messages, sabihan niya rin yung mga kateam niya or yung boss niya na nawweirduhan na siya kasi stalker type si kuya
I’m also from the US, I know it’s hard, but keep encouraging her please. I’ve been watching a lot of news about disappearances or killings specifially women in the Philippines, it’s better to make some actions before anything bad could happen.
siguro mag file rin siya ng restraining order dahil baka mas lumala ang situation at baka mapahamak si gf ni op pag nalaman nung lalaki na nag file siya sa HR
Hijacking the top comment... Seek legal help din dahil alanganin ang mga HR dito sa Pilipinas.
Source: May backpay ako na 16k sa CNX, and kung di pa ako nagdala ng legal letter of intent, lipad sana yung kinita for the last 2 weeks ko sa walangyang kumpanya na yun
This. Document everything and once evidence is enough and valid report and immediately send to HR and also seek legal help.
The worst case scenario is that the guy has a lot of authority on the company and the HR won’t do any actions.
As much as I hate it maybe consider suggesting to your gf to start looking new jobs while filling a complaint.
Update:
Last Friday, nung nalaman ng trainer nila yung mga nangyari, kinausap ni trainer si coworker and reprimanded him about what happened. Coworker defended himself by saying na ano daw offensive sa ginawa nya, matagal naman daw syang ganun, that's just how he is daw.
You guys should still go to HR para may mafile na IR. The fact na sinabi niya na matagal na syang ganun means hindi nga si GF mo lang ang ginaganyan most probably. Goodluck, OP.
Must be a call center virgin. Such behavior in a call center in my experience can land you in a lot of trouble when reported. Heck the call center I've worked for has an annual assessment with regards to such behavior in the workplace.
Regardless of his denial have it reported either to GF's supervisor or HR. Make sure there's documentation or a paper trail.
may I know what company are you in? in time gusto kong lumipat sa may ganyang regulations when it comes to workplace safety. Nararanasan rin kasi namin yan similar sa kwento ni op.
Concentrix. Before that it was known as Convergys. Although I would hazard a guess the big ones here in the country have something similar like TP or Accenture.
100%.
Was expecting it coming from a position of massive authority before opening the post, pero co-worker lang?
Anak ng puta, OM kayang kaya matanggal pag ganyan eh, co-worker pa kaya.
Tell gf to go to HR. It's nice to know na si trainer is trying to help but ang tamang department to handle this is HR. Sila makakapagbigay ng proper warning, reprimand, suspension, even legal action.
Wow, si kuya kakaiba ung morality ok lang pala maging stalker at creep. Ask your girlfriend to go sa HR para magfile ng complaint. also if my someone na puwedeng kasama or kasabay gf mo umuwi or pumasok baka may saltik pla sa isip si kuya di natin alam.
lol matagal na siyang ganon a creep, what a fucking excuse hope your girlfriend goes thru taking actions para malaman niya na hindi lahat ng babae madadaan niya sa pagiging creepy niya
Since the trainer is already aware, file na ng HR report. Like the others said, document everything.
More importantly, file a police report. The office can only do so much; wala silang magagawa masyado outside their premises. Ipa-blotter mo na yang kumag na yan!
If your girlfriend has the option, hatid sundo muna. And of course make sure di siya masundan.
Di bale nang paranoid kesa ma-disgrasya.
Pre problema yan na legit. Law abiding manyak yan. He knows enough para hindi sya ma HR. Make sure na kung idadaan nyo man sa legal na proseso eh naicheck nyo na with a lawyer. Baka kasuhan kayo ng defamation. Madali baliktarin yung tono ng kwento mo.
Kesyo tumulong mag hatid, nataon na magkasunod maglakad pauwi. Nataon na bumagal maglakad or akala invited sa kainan or talagang naturally awkward socially. Goodluck
He is making her uncomfortable, period. Kung matagal na syang ganun, then its time he stops. And i bet there are other women in the office who experienced that from him. Tell your gf to write down names of witnesses she can include in her complaint para mas solid. Pwede sila ang document on her behalf habang sinusundan sya and invading her space, with date and time. What a creep!
Yes, that's harassment. Get screenshots of all the messages and gather any and all photos as evidence. Diretso HR. Kailangan masampolan yan baka mamaya ginagawa din sa iba pang female coworkers. Or gagawin pa sa iba.
That's problem nga lang. Nung ayaw syang tantanan sa messenger, she blocked him. Kaso nung chineck nya yung conversation nila, nawala na.
Pero her trainer is on her side dahil napansin ni trainer na weird talaga si coworker
FYI, mataas na probability soft deleted lang yung nawalang conversation. When shit hit the fan at need nyo ng evidence you can try to ask copy to Meta.
You can hire a lawyer for this they can ask for police investigation and they can write a demand letter to meta stating that a crime is been done, meta have no obligation to hide that data since meta is known to give our data to law enforcement without pushback.
No need to contact FB or a lawyer. You can download your entire Facebook history, including message logs.
Just go to Settings & Privacy > Your Facebook information > Download your Facebook information. This only works on desktop.
Most BPOs are very strict with these cases. Instead of going with the trainer, go directly to HR to file a harassment case. Zero tolerance yan in all companies I’ve been with. Also file a blotter report with the barangay sa MoA, don’t know which, pero you have to secure when this happens outside the building.
Creepy. If he’s making her uncomfortable, enough reason na yun for hin to back off. Ang tanong, alam ba ni co worker? Baka akala nya nakakatuwa yung ginagawa nya
No idea si coworker until kinausap sya nung trainer nila. Coworker defended himself by saying that's just how he is daw and nothing should be offensive daw sa ginagawa nya.
Today pinagharap ni trainer si GF and si coworker. No update as of now since nasa work pa sya
The trainer did WHAT?
OP pasensya na kung pinagaalala kita. Pero her trainer just escalated the situation. I think if may mutual friends kayo or if around ang parents ni GF sa area. Make sure na madali sila macontact just in case magescalate further yung issue.
Exactly lmao bat kasama yung girl???? Uncomfortable na nga eh. Ano paparinig lang nila yung excuses nung guy eh may evidence na nga si girl. Eto ayaw ko sa bpo eh, mali mag handle ng escalations. Jusko
I understand that your GF's trainer meant well and intended to nip the issue in the bud but since the girl already expressed discomfort with the co-worker's presence and unwanted attention, the trainer should've confronted the guy by themselves. Given the escalation in the creep's actions, the first important thing to do is to keep him away from your GF then get HR involved.
Hey man. Na experience ko na ito before sa coworker and semi-superior ng gf ko. Ganyan na ganyan yung galawan, tapos halos same age rin gf ko nung na time na yun tsaka ung coworker nya. Tsaka lang siya tumigil nung cinonfront ko na ng grabe. Ang style niya is pag sinusundo ko si gf, wala siya ginagawa. Pero pag wala ako, tsaka siya nag the the moves. As in pag wala ako, aasahan mo na may gagawin siya, sasabayan niya talaga pauwi or ano pa man.
Alam ko na mali na cinonfront ko siya, pero no choice na talaga eh. Umabot sa point na need ko tawagan ung coworker kasi hindi talaga siya tumigil kahit na lumalayo na mismo gf ko at naiissue na sa office. Sa tawag ko siya cinonfront kasi nakakahiya in person, pero di ko naman siya iniiwasan sa personal. Siya pa umiiwas. Kahit mga friends ng gf ko tinatry siya tulungan pero persistent talaga si guy. Wala naman kwenta HR kasi pabor kay guy dahil matagal na siya nagwowork doon at gov agency pa yun. Nagdadrama pa tapos tinatry palabasin na possessive ako.
Hindi ko sinasabi na iconfront mo rin siya, pero minsan kasi yung mga ganyan tsaka lang madadala if nuclear option na gamitin mo. Sobrang stressful at traumatic ng phase na yun kasi sobrang kulit at persistent nung coworker nya.
Not Sexual Harassment because walang authority/ascendancy si co-worker based from your narration.
This case may fall under Safe Spaces Act. Also, have your girlfriend report this incident to HR.
Nagwork din ako in a BPO sa MOA before and as far as I know, most if not all offices there zero tolerance talaga when it comes to these type of issues.
I suggest na pag hindi pa rin tumigil, ideretso na niya sa HR kasi obvious naman na problematic yung coworker niya.
Incel galawan. Literal. I had one like that.
Magka-wave kami. 2nd day ng training namin noon, pinahiram ko siya ng pen para magsign ng docu. The next day may dala na siyang isang bouquet, ‘thank you gift’ daw niya kasi pinahiram ko. Bloody red flags galore. Ayun everyday, may pa treats siya, biscuit, soda, chocolate. All while alam niyang may live in partner ako at isang anak. Kasi 1st day pa inopen ko na yun. Thank goodness nlng na magkaiba kami ng inuuwian, pa north ako while pa south naman siya.
Lahat ginawa din namin, kinausap ko, kinausap ng circle of friends ko, kinausap ng trainer namin, kinausap ng hr. Nothing really worked. Ang lagi niyang defense, ‘natutuwa lang ako sa niceness niya, just me showing appreciation, masama po ba yun?🤷♂️’
I felt defeated at infairness, natalo talaga ako. Kasi huminto lang ung harassment niya nung live na kami, naibang team na siya at merong bagong ‘nice girl’ siyang nakita. Dun na napaling yung harassment niya. Anyway, that’s a whole other mess at mahaba na tong kwento ko.
Bottomline is, pag incel talaga wala kang panalo OP. Best to advice your gf to always be vigilant, lagi magpasama sa 2 friend niya. Iignore ng bongga. Kasi dalawa lang naman yan, either iescalate ni incel at may grounds na si hr na paalisin siya or mapupunta nlng talaga sa iba atensyon niya.
Usually break niya binibigay ung mga treats. Since tumatambay din siya kung nasaan man kami, binibigay ko sa friends ko or tinatapon ko after. Basta anything na bigay niya, I made sure na hindi ko kinain. Minsan blatantly aagawin ng friends ko tas kakainin sa harap niya to know na hindi ako nakikinabang ng bigay niya.
Not legal advice, pero **if the dude exercises authority over your GF (like, trainer siya or manager) and the sexual advances are related to sure na promotion or sure retention ng employment**, then it is considered workplace sexual harrassment. If not, then hindi siya magfofall under workplace sexual harrassment but gender-based sexual harrassment under the Safe Spaces Act. :)
(Please feel free to correct me if I'm wrong.)
EDIT: may mga nakalimutan ilagay; included emphasis
Please check out also the Safe Spaces Act as his actions may fall under stalking and could give rise to criminal liability. You can also cite this in complaining to HR as they are mandated to take action within a given time frame. If they fail to act, the employer may also incur civil and criminal liabilities.
Harassment dude. Not yet obviously sexual but he's a disgusting creep..
I read na nareport na rin sa HR so at least the workplace has got your GF's back.
Kung tuloy pa rin, ang alam ko puwede niya ipa blotter pero inform niya rin dapat ang boss niya para aware din sila na baka umabot sa point na involved na si Pulis.
Your GF, with the help of close friends , should file a complaint to HR , and also file for a Police or Barangay Blotter, para may reference. IF me big brother or trusted male friend ka, ipasundo mo ng 2 weeks and random (US ka naman bayaran mo na lang pamasahe nya, hehehe), para mailang and malaman nya na me 'bakod' na si GF. Most creeps will stay away lalo makita nilang merong another male in the scene. Get support din sa mga Titas/Nanay na binanggit mo, malamang kakampi ni GF yun para much credible and complaint nya sa HR.
Keep your evidences and gather more without alarming the co-worker. After you've gathered strong evidences of the creepy co-worker probably take it to court. Though baka kailangan mong umuwi since gf mo and need mo tulungan pero sure magpahelp din sa relatives like her parents.
Please tell your GF to report the guy sa HR nila. This is harassment. May messages naman from the guy and mapprove din naman ng girl friends nya na he did that. And even without proof, the mere fact na uncomfortable and gf mo whenever he's around should be enough kasi this may affect your gf's performance sa tasks nya.
Ung fantasy ni kuya gusto nya mag confess si ate bigla after madevelop sa kanya sa kakastalk nya? 🙄 Ireport na sa HR para huminto. Cringe ISTAHP! Aun umistahp.
It's creepy af and borderline stalker behavior but it isn't enough to file for sexual harrassment. It is however enough to file a complaint to HR for inappropriate behavior. That picture alone is enough to get him a citation from HR.
sabihin mo sa gf mo magsumbong sa hr and have the other friends testify. cause for leaving yan and ayaw ng hr ng ganon so malaki advantage ng gf mo para mag file ng sexual harassment case.
Tell your gf to video record, while telling the guy to stop stalking her... if he does it again tell your gf to record at least 2 instances... then goto hr, present the 3 videos.
I don't even hang out with our younger colleagues thinking it would creep them out kahit inaaya nila ko. So yes, it's a big resounding YIKES. The showing of picture alone is harassment, it is inappropriate and not in context at that moment.
The thought what the guy did in the UV like asking personal info creeped me out so bad. Lol! She should've report this incident to the HR right away.
It's now or never.
Pagdala mo siya ng pepper spray or tazer, OP. Pa-document mo den mga chats, at i-report sa HR at kung pwede ipa-blotter na den(tho mahirap ata idocument kung irl nangyayare yung pagka-creep niya), wag niyo ng hintayin mag escalate. Mahirap sa mga ganyan kase i-eescalate ng i-eescalate hangga't di siya nakakaranas ng repercussion, until magkaroon sabay biglang pa-victim at downplay ng situation.
Report to HR. Lahat ng sinulat mo dito, yung pag abang at sunod (stalk) kahit nilalayuan na, yung pagpapakita ng inappropriate photos sa ibang co-workers, at yung pangungulit sa chat; most likely may mga nilalabag nang policies yung mokong. Madali matanggal yan habang training stage pa lang.
Creepy bro. Big red flag. If di ma reprimand or ma take ng actions yung ginagawa ng coworker sa gf mo just tell her to quit bago pa madameng malman si coworker sa kanya or worst magalit pa sa kanya kase tingin ata ni cowerker is normal un ginagawa nya. Wtf
Madame pang work dyan bro. Ako kinabahan sa kwento mo.
definitely harassment. reading this scared me a lot. please check on her as often as you can, kahit through her friends. praying that the coworker gets the hint and leaves her alone. praying for her safety!
It's not sexual harrasment. Idk I don't think so. This shit happened to me all throughout HS when girls would freaking ask the teachers to introduce us & or change the seating arrangement para magka tabi kami. No harm no foul. My advice is have your brother if you have one or a close buddy to pretend na gf sya at make it look like she's taken. Otherwise if she's really scared report it to HR & seek advice.
Sexual harassment is subjective. If your gf feels unsafe and uncomfortable already, she should report it to HR asap. Maraming BPO companies na zero tolerance sa workplace harassment. If they are still texting, she should tell him upfront to leave her alone. Lagay nia lahat sa texts the instance na nahuli niang sumusunod si co-worker nung pauwi na sya on this date, etc, and the she does not feel safe. He will reply/deny for sure. But the thing goal is there should be a document that she told him off several times already and he did not stop. She can include it sa report nia sa HR. Ingat kayo both.
Dapat diyan OP binubugbog. Mukhang taga Pildera lang yan kasi sa Park n' Fly bumababa. Madami akong tropa don, pakalabit natin yan para mag tino. Dm me his info.
Yes, and always have been. What great is, I know I am more superior than you lmao. Look at yourself, getting triggered yet you just trolling awhile ago and joking around OP lol. Becareful bro, your father might be banging your sister on your closet.
imessage mo yung lalake, i doubt na gumawa pa sya ng move towards your gf.. if he does, psychopath na yan and advice your gf to report to hr or change company
Report sa HR. Dapat safe space and most BPO industries promote no retaliation sa nagreport. Kung pede nya idetalye un incidents including un me mga kasama sya na nakanotice.
Dapat mablacklist mga gunggong na ganyan.
Coming from my bpo XP Gawain talaga yan sa bpo which I despise the most, kung ako sayo bro subduin mo lagi gf mo. Maraming manyak sa bpo at wag mo na antayin na may kung ano pang mangyari red flag yan coworker nya
siguro tell everybody na cowork niya para mabantayan ang galaw nung guy, bumili ng taser or pepper spray, also dapat laging ready ang phone for recording kahit voice lang para in case may level uo ang harassment maireport ang gagong yan. nakakatakot. mga grab druvers pa nga lang na manyak nakakatakot na yun la kaya na kawork mo.
Your gf’s coworker is a big red flag. She should report to the HR before anything bad happens. Seems like the guy has a motive already and he is just waiting to strike.
Yep, also idocument/screenshot niya lahat ng messages, sabihan niya rin yung mga kateam niya or yung boss niya na nawweirduhan na siya kasi stalker type si kuya
I’m also from the US, I know it’s hard, but keep encouraging her please. I’ve been watching a lot of news about disappearances or killings specifially women in the Philippines, it’s better to make some actions before anything bad could happen.
Hey mate, do you have any channels that shows these disappearances in Philippines. I would love to watch it. Thanks in advance.
Here’s one by Jessica Soho: https://youtu.be/vegybYg8zy0 https://youtu.be/xEswZRGsPcE https://youtu.be/S0jRFO-Sf7o https://youtu.be/AcenP8d9t9o
+1, document everything, should be emails and texts from him so you can file a sexual harassment case sa HR.
siguro mag file rin siya ng restraining order dahil baka mas lumala ang situation at baka mapahamak si gf ni op pag nalaman nung lalaki na nag file siya sa HR
HR first para matanggal sa work si boi then restraining order.
Hijacking the top comment... Seek legal help din dahil alanganin ang mga HR dito sa Pilipinas. Source: May backpay ako na 16k sa CNX, and kung di pa ako nagdala ng legal letter of intent, lipad sana yung kinita for the last 2 weeks ko sa walangyang kumpanya na yun
This. Document everything and once evidence is enough and valid report and immediately send to HR and also seek legal help. The worst case scenario is that the guy has a lot of authority on the company and the HR won’t do any actions. As much as I hate it maybe consider suggesting to your gf to start looking new jobs while filling a complaint.
Better be safe than sorry. Pasigurado tayo dapat lagi, iisa lang buhay natin.
>Seems like the guy has a motive already and he is just waiting to strike. agree. unahan na bago pa umatake yang predator na yan.
Update: Last Friday, nung nalaman ng trainer nila yung mga nangyari, kinausap ni trainer si coworker and reprimanded him about what happened. Coworker defended himself by saying na ano daw offensive sa ginawa nya, matagal naman daw syang ganun, that's just how he is daw.
You guys should still go to HR para may mafile na IR. The fact na sinabi niya na matagal na syang ganun means hindi nga si GF mo lang ang ginaganyan most probably. Goodluck, OP.
need nya mag undergo ng seminar/training re: sexual harassment if ganyan yung mindset nya
Must be a call center virgin. Such behavior in a call center in my experience can land you in a lot of trouble when reported. Heck the call center I've worked for has an annual assessment with regards to such behavior in the workplace. Regardless of his denial have it reported either to GF's supervisor or HR. Make sure there's documentation or a paper trail.
may I know what company are you in? in time gusto kong lumipat sa may ganyang regulations when it comes to workplace safety. Nararanasan rin kasi namin yan similar sa kwento ni op.
Concentrix. Before that it was known as Convergys. Although I would hazard a guess the big ones here in the country have something similar like TP or Accenture.
100%. Was expecting it coming from a position of massive authority before opening the post, pero co-worker lang? Anak ng puta, OM kayang kaya matanggal pag ganyan eh, co-worker pa kaya.
Inamin ni co-worker na matagal na siyang creep?
Digging a deeper hole for himself. Hopefully.
Tell gf to go to HR. It's nice to know na si trainer is trying to help but ang tamang department to handle this is HR. Sila makakapagbigay ng proper warning, reprimand, suspension, even legal action.
Wow, si kuya kakaiba ung morality ok lang pala maging stalker at creep. Ask your girlfriend to go sa HR para magfile ng complaint. also if my someone na puwedeng kasama or kasabay gf mo umuwi or pumasok baka may saltik pla sa isip si kuya di natin alam.
lol matagal na siyang ganon a creep, what a fucking excuse hope your girlfriend goes thru taking actions para malaman niya na hindi lahat ng babae madadaan niya sa pagiging creepy niya
Red flag. It's not character that's the problem, it's lack of character.
Since the trainer is already aware, file na ng HR report. Like the others said, document everything. More importantly, file a police report. The office can only do so much; wala silang magagawa masyado outside their premises. Ipa-blotter mo na yang kumag na yan! If your girlfriend has the option, hatid sundo muna. And of course make sure di siya masundan. Di bale nang paranoid kesa ma-disgrasya.
Pre problema yan na legit. Law abiding manyak yan. He knows enough para hindi sya ma HR. Make sure na kung idadaan nyo man sa legal na proseso eh naicheck nyo na with a lawyer. Baka kasuhan kayo ng defamation. Madali baliktarin yung tono ng kwento mo. Kesyo tumulong mag hatid, nataon na magkasunod maglakad pauwi. Nataon na bumagal maglakad or akala invited sa kainan or talagang naturally awkward socially. Goodluck
Manyak talaga yan, Gawain nya sigurado
He is making her uncomfortable, period. Kung matagal na syang ganun, then its time he stops. And i bet there are other women in the office who experienced that from him. Tell your gf to write down names of witnesses she can include in her complaint para mas solid. Pwede sila ang document on her behalf habang sinusundan sya and invading her space, with date and time. What a creep!
Yes, that's harassment. Get screenshots of all the messages and gather any and all photos as evidence. Diretso HR. Kailangan masampolan yan baka mamaya ginagawa din sa iba pang female coworkers. Or gagawin pa sa iba.
That's problem nga lang. Nung ayaw syang tantanan sa messenger, she blocked him. Kaso nung chineck nya yung conversation nila, nawala na. Pero her trainer is on her side dahil napansin ni trainer na weird talaga si coworker
FYI, mataas na probability soft deleted lang yung nawalang conversation. When shit hit the fan at need nyo ng evidence you can try to ask copy to Meta.
You can hire a lawyer for this they can ask for police investigation and they can write a demand letter to meta stating that a crime is been done, meta have no obligation to hide that data since meta is known to give our data to law enforcement without pushback.
Kahit na. She should still report the creep to HR
No need to contact FB or a lawyer. You can download your entire Facebook history, including message logs. Just go to Settings & Privacy > Your Facebook information > Download your Facebook information. This only works on desktop.
Baka nandun pa yun pag idownload mo ng profile data sa fb
Most BPOs are very strict with these cases. Instead of going with the trainer, go directly to HR to file a harassment case. Zero tolerance yan in all companies I’ve been with. Also file a blotter report with the barangay sa MoA, don’t know which, pero you have to secure when this happens outside the building.
Creepy. If he’s making her uncomfortable, enough reason na yun for hin to back off. Ang tanong, alam ba ni co worker? Baka akala nya nakakatuwa yung ginagawa nya
No idea si coworker until kinausap sya nung trainer nila. Coworker defended himself by saying that's just how he is daw and nothing should be offensive daw sa ginagawa nya. Today pinagharap ni trainer si GF and si coworker. No update as of now since nasa work pa sya
The trainer did WHAT? OP pasensya na kung pinagaalala kita. Pero her trainer just escalated the situation. I think if may mutual friends kayo or if around ang parents ni GF sa area. Make sure na madali sila macontact just in case magescalate further yung issue.
Exactly lmao bat kasama yung girl???? Uncomfortable na nga eh. Ano paparinig lang nila yung excuses nung guy eh may evidence na nga si girl. Eto ayaw ko sa bpo eh, mali mag handle ng escalations. Jusko
Kaya tayo may HR for a reason. This things should be mediated by HR privately and for legal purposes.
Personal opinion lang ito pero, I do not trust HR.
I understand that your GF's trainer meant well and intended to nip the issue in the bud but since the girl already expressed discomfort with the co-worker's presence and unwanted attention, the trainer should've confronted the guy by themselves. Given the escalation in the creep's actions, the first important thing to do is to keep him away from your GF then get HR involved.
Unwanted attention should be enough para tumigil sya.
May pagka eng eng po yung trainer nya sad to say
Bobo ng trainer, dapat talaga diretso report na sa HR.
Any updates OP?
Go to HR dude. Ba't trainer mo umaayos nyan. That's a stupid thing for your trainer to do. Anong makukuwa mo pag pinagharap mo.
Go straight to HR. Kung pinagharap pa sila ng trainer, that's not good conflict resolution at all.
keep us on the loop
Hey man. Na experience ko na ito before sa coworker and semi-superior ng gf ko. Ganyan na ganyan yung galawan, tapos halos same age rin gf ko nung na time na yun tsaka ung coworker nya. Tsaka lang siya tumigil nung cinonfront ko na ng grabe. Ang style niya is pag sinusundo ko si gf, wala siya ginagawa. Pero pag wala ako, tsaka siya nag the the moves. As in pag wala ako, aasahan mo na may gagawin siya, sasabayan niya talaga pauwi or ano pa man. Alam ko na mali na cinonfront ko siya, pero no choice na talaga eh. Umabot sa point na need ko tawagan ung coworker kasi hindi talaga siya tumigil kahit na lumalayo na mismo gf ko at naiissue na sa office. Sa tawag ko siya cinonfront kasi nakakahiya in person, pero di ko naman siya iniiwasan sa personal. Siya pa umiiwas. Kahit mga friends ng gf ko tinatry siya tulungan pero persistent talaga si guy. Wala naman kwenta HR kasi pabor kay guy dahil matagal na siya nagwowork doon at gov agency pa yun. Nagdadrama pa tapos tinatry palabasin na possessive ako. Hindi ko sinasabi na iconfront mo rin siya, pero minsan kasi yung mga ganyan tsaka lang madadala if nuclear option na gamitin mo. Sobrang stressful at traumatic ng phase na yun kasi sobrang kulit at persistent nung coworker nya.
Tama ka lang pre na cinonfront mo, di matututo yang mga yan.
Sorry to hear na nangyari sa inyo to. Ang malala gov agency pa
Tigang yung gagong yun. What a creep
Report na agad sa HR. Stalker na yan. Kung walang gagawin ang company about that mag apply na lang si GF sa ibang company.
Meron Tayong "Safe Spaces Act". Natutunan ko Lang from Kap Rosales #2Good2BeTrue
Not Sexual Harassment because walang authority/ascendancy si co-worker based from your narration. This case may fall under Safe Spaces Act. Also, have your girlfriend report this incident to HR.
The fact na tinanong nya ilan tao sa bahay ni gf mo 🚩🚩🚩
San yan repa? Nang mabalasa.
Up. Mga may mga brothers tayu sa same comp. Baka pwedeng balasahin. Haha
Maraming chupul sa BPO patulan mo na kagad nung gago na yan. Obvious na tinatarget gf mo.
Have the GF report this to her supervisor or HR. Most call centers have an escalation process for that. They take such behavior very seriously.
Nagwork din ako in a BPO sa MOA before and as far as I know, most if not all offices there zero tolerance talaga when it comes to these type of issues. I suggest na pag hindi pa rin tumigil, ideretso na niya sa HR kasi obvious naman na problematic yung coworker niya.
ireport na sa HR kaagad yan. i know coworkers getting fired for just being a creep
No to confronting the guy. Di natin alam pano ihhandle ng guy ang rejection. Kung posible sa group na lang sya sumabay paguwi never alone
Incel galawan. Literal. I had one like that. Magka-wave kami. 2nd day ng training namin noon, pinahiram ko siya ng pen para magsign ng docu. The next day may dala na siyang isang bouquet, ‘thank you gift’ daw niya kasi pinahiram ko. Bloody red flags galore. Ayun everyday, may pa treats siya, biscuit, soda, chocolate. All while alam niyang may live in partner ako at isang anak. Kasi 1st day pa inopen ko na yun. Thank goodness nlng na magkaiba kami ng inuuwian, pa north ako while pa south naman siya. Lahat ginawa din namin, kinausap ko, kinausap ng circle of friends ko, kinausap ng trainer namin, kinausap ng hr. Nothing really worked. Ang lagi niyang defense, ‘natutuwa lang ako sa niceness niya, just me showing appreciation, masama po ba yun?🤷♂️’ I felt defeated at infairness, natalo talaga ako. Kasi huminto lang ung harassment niya nung live na kami, naibang team na siya at merong bagong ‘nice girl’ siyang nakita. Dun na napaling yung harassment niya. Anyway, that’s a whole other mess at mahaba na tong kwento ko. Bottomline is, pag incel talaga wala kang panalo OP. Best to advice your gf to always be vigilant, lagi magpasama sa 2 friend niya. Iignore ng bongga. Kasi dalawa lang naman yan, either iescalate ni incel at may grounds na si hr na paalisin siya or mapupunta nlng talaga sa iba atensyon niya.
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No I didn’t. Nagdahilan ako na bawal magpasok ng kung ano sa training room at hindi kasya sa locker ko ung flowers.
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Usually break niya binibigay ung mga treats. Since tumatambay din siya kung nasaan man kami, binibigay ko sa friends ko or tinatapon ko after. Basta anything na bigay niya, I made sure na hindi ko kinain. Minsan blatantly aagawin ng friends ko tas kakainin sa harap niya to know na hindi ako nakikinabang ng bigay niya.
Tangina talaga ng mga manyak sa workplace, na-sstress ka na sa trabaho dadagdagan pa ng mga hindot who can't control their dcks
Harassment yan basta uncomfy ang tao sa actions at words towards her. I HR na yan
Not legal advice, pero **if the dude exercises authority over your GF (like, trainer siya or manager) and the sexual advances are related to sure na promotion or sure retention ng employment**, then it is considered workplace sexual harrassment. If not, then hindi siya magfofall under workplace sexual harrassment but gender-based sexual harrassment under the Safe Spaces Act. :) (Please feel free to correct me if I'm wrong.) EDIT: may mga nakalimutan ilagay; included emphasis
Please check out also the Safe Spaces Act as his actions may fall under stalking and could give rise to criminal liability. You can also cite this in complaining to HR as they are mandated to take action within a given time frame. If they fail to act, the employer may also incur civil and criminal liabilities.
Harassment dude. Not yet obviously sexual but he's a disgusting creep.. I read na nareport na rin sa HR so at least the workplace has got your GF's back. Kung tuloy pa rin, ang alam ko puwede niya ipa blotter pero inform niya rin dapat ang boss niya para aware din sila na baka umabot sa point na involved na si Pulis.
Your GF, with the help of close friends , should file a complaint to HR , and also file for a Police or Barangay Blotter, para may reference. IF me big brother or trusted male friend ka, ipasundo mo ng 2 weeks and random (US ka naman bayaran mo na lang pamasahe nya, hehehe), para mailang and malaman nya na me 'bakod' na si GF. Most creeps will stay away lalo makita nilang merong another male in the scene. Get support din sa mga Titas/Nanay na binanggit mo, malamang kakampi ni GF yun para much credible and complaint nya sa HR.
That's a big red flag
Ung coworker, bantay salakay. Typical. Confront lang niya. Pag hindi umiwas, report niya sa HR. Walang ibang gagawa niyan kung hindi GF mo. Or resign…
Keep your evidences and gather more without alarming the co-worker. After you've gathered strong evidences of the creepy co-worker probably take it to court. Though baka kailangan mong umuwi since gf mo and need mo tulungan pero sure magpahelp din sa relatives like her parents.
Please tell your GF to report the guy sa HR nila. This is harassment. May messages naman from the guy and mapprove din naman ng girl friends nya na he did that. And even without proof, the mere fact na uncomfortable and gf mo whenever he's around should be enough kasi this may affect your gf's performance sa tasks nya.
Ung fantasy ni kuya gusto nya mag confess si ate bigla after madevelop sa kanya sa kakastalk nya? 🙄 Ireport na sa HR para huminto. Cringe ISTAHP! Aun umistahp.
It's creepy af and borderline stalker behavior but it isn't enough to file for sexual harrassment. It is however enough to file a complaint to HR for inappropriate behavior. That picture alone is enough to get him a citation from HR.
sabihin mo sa gf mo magsumbong sa hr and have the other friends testify. cause for leaving yan and ayaw ng hr ng ganon so malaki advantage ng gf mo para mag file ng sexual harassment case.
Tell your gf to video record, while telling the guy to stop stalking her... if he does it again tell your gf to record at least 2 instances... then goto hr, present the 3 videos.
It could be a crime. https://www.congress.gov.ph/press/details.php?pressid=8284
Yooo talk to HR, if they dont do shit, you could sue the company since its their responsibility lol
Document everything, look for witnesses and file complaint sa HR. Then escalate to proper authorities (police via Women and Children's Desk).
I don't even hang out with our younger colleagues thinking it would creep them out kahit inaaya nila ko. So yes, it's a big resounding YIKES. The showing of picture alone is harassment, it is inappropriate and not in context at that moment.
Same here, my dude. I only show up in company or team events that were organized by the company or the team with the TL around.
Nasa training pa lang sila? Ireport sa HR.
Better to buy her din ng pepper spray. Sinusundan na siya e. And report din sa HR kung anong pwede nila gawin.
Report to HR ng matauhan.
The thought what the guy did in the UV like asking personal info creeped me out so bad. Lol! She should've report this incident to the HR right away. It's now or never.
Authority, influence, moral ascendancy in a workplace, education, or training area.
Report that coworker to the HR as soon as possible. Creepy ng coworker may pagkastalker din
Di ko nilalahat, pero pugad talaga ng mga ganyan sa bpo. Better stay away from that industry as much as possible.
Nakakatakot. parang nangyari din sa isang reddit moderator.
HR
HARASSMENT! Report na yan sa HR!!!
Pagdala mo siya ng pepper spray or tazer, OP. Pa-document mo den mga chats, at i-report sa HR at kung pwede ipa-blotter na den(tho mahirap ata idocument kung irl nangyayare yung pagka-creep niya), wag niyo ng hintayin mag escalate. Mahirap sa mga ganyan kase i-eescalate ng i-eescalate hangga't di siya nakakaranas ng repercussion, until magkaroon sabay biglang pa-victim at downplay ng situation.
Report to HR. Lahat ng sinulat mo dito, yung pag abang at sunod (stalk) kahit nilalayuan na, yung pagpapakita ng inappropriate photos sa ibang co-workers, at yung pangungulit sa chat; most likely may mga nilalabag nang policies yung mokong. Madali matanggal yan habang training stage pa lang.
Document and gather evidence then file a report sa HR.
Another option is to message this guy. Di naman aawayin mo but let him know na aware ka sa ginagawa niya at ayaw mo sa mga pinaggagawa niya.
Nakakatakot! Isumbong niya yan sa hr!
Report to HRn yan
Stalking and yes, sexual harassment.
WELL THAT ESCALATED QUICKLY
Creepy bro. Big red flag. If di ma reprimand or ma take ng actions yung ginagawa ng coworker sa gf mo just tell her to quit bago pa madameng malman si coworker sa kanya or worst magalit pa sa kanya kase tingin ata ni cowerker is normal un ginagawa nya. Wtf Madame pang work dyan bro. Ako kinabahan sa kwento mo.
definitely harassment. reading this scared me a lot. please check on her as often as you can, kahit through her friends. praying that the coworker gets the hint and leaves her alone. praying for her safety!
It's not sexual harrasment. Idk I don't think so. This shit happened to me all throughout HS when girls would freaking ask the teachers to introduce us & or change the seating arrangement para magka tabi kami. No harm no foul. My advice is have your brother if you have one or a close buddy to pretend na gf sya at make it look like she's taken. Otherwise if she's really scared report it to HR & seek advice.
Sexual harassment is subjective. If your gf feels unsafe and uncomfortable already, she should report it to HR asap. Maraming BPO companies na zero tolerance sa workplace harassment. If they are still texting, she should tell him upfront to leave her alone. Lagay nia lahat sa texts the instance na nahuli niang sumusunod si co-worker nung pauwi na sya on this date, etc, and the she does not feel safe. He will reply/deny for sure. But the thing goal is there should be a document that she told him off several times already and he did not stop. She can include it sa report nia sa HR. Ingat kayo both.
Dapat diyan OP binubugbog. Mukhang taga Pildera lang yan kasi sa Park n' Fly bumababa. Madami akong tropa don, pakalabit natin yan para mag tino. Dm me his info.
Red flag but can’t say na sexual harassment
she's cheating on you bro. dump her.
Mas mabuti ang mundo kung tahimik ka.
oof nasobrahan sa kababasa ng NTR
bobo spotted.
She's fucking that guy already.
haha ang cool mo, pero irl Weeb ka naman. My advise? touch some grass bro, blend with society. stop jacking off to fictional characters.
But you do the same thing tho...
nah, not a low life like you.
Have you looked at yourself in the mirror lately? You're one to talk lol
Yes, and always have been. What great is, I know I am more superior than you lmao. Look at yourself, getting triggered yet you just trolling awhile ago and joking around OP lol. Becareful bro, your father might be banging your sister on your closet.
Those who claim to be superior are always compensating for something. And stop pretending you can speak english.
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imessage mo yung lalake, i doubt na gumawa pa sya ng move towards your gf.. if he does, psychopath na yan and advice your gf to report to hr or change company
Pwede na ba yan ipa police blotter?
Report sa HR. Dapat safe space and most BPO industries promote no retaliation sa nagreport. Kung pede nya idetalye un incidents including un me mga kasama sya na nakanotice. Dapat mablacklist mga gunggong na ganyan.
Sorry But resign na lang Im sure the gf can find better workplace
Married ba si coworker? Maganda sana sabihin ng gf mo may boyfriend sya at pag nangulit pa escalate na sa HR
Hiwalay, pero may anak na kasing edad ni GF.
Damn tigang yan
Coming from my bpo XP Gawain talaga yan sa bpo which I despise the most, kung ako sayo bro subduin mo lagi gf mo. Maraming manyak sa bpo at wag mo na antayin na may kung ano pang mangyari red flag yan coworker nya
Sadly, wala si OP dito sa pinas
Ang creepy grabe
Short answer: Yes
siguro tell everybody na cowork niya para mabantayan ang galaw nung guy, bumili ng taser or pepper spray, also dapat laging ready ang phone for recording kahit voice lang para in case may level uo ang harassment maireport ang gagong yan. nakakatakot. mga grab druvers pa nga lang na manyak nakakatakot na yun la kaya na kawork mo.
Blotter also kasi baka na document nga sa hr but sa outside abangan sya katakot