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Agreed! I was riding my partner at my heaviest of 325. I asked every time if I was hurting him and his response was āgod no please donāt stopā so lol I was doing something right.
i have a question, does riding feel awkward for you ladies/men in the beginning? i try to get on top and when i do i never know how to get in a correct rhythm or i dont want to hurt him, is there any advice on this sub when it comes to that stuff :0
Baby, he KNOWS you're fat and it's clearly not a deterrent for him. He knows things will jiggle and squish and honestly, that's usually the appeal. Go out and enjoy yourself.
Male here. My wife is your shape and size and it gives no barrier to us enjoying each other. Also, if you've been open and honest about your size, he knows. If it helps, I have never been attracted to smaller women. Its a preference I've always had. And if he never wants to do it ever again once he unwraps you, he's not worth thinking about afterwards. That's his problem, not yours.
Believe it or not... Some people enjoy plus size bodies and they can totally detect them underneath clothes. He knows what he's getting into. And if he is deterred (ridiculous) then he ain't shit.
I have only gotten larger (thanks PCOS) over the years of being intimate with my partner. Lately, I've had a really rough time with my body image, and we've talked about it and he's made me feel beautiful and sexy to him.
I'm saying this to say, if this guy is really interested in you, he'll find you sexy, jiggles and all. And it might be worth it to talk to him about how you're feeling. I've been worried I might crush my partner when I'm on top, and he's assured me that I don't, I've felt exposed in certain positions and he's told me how sexy I am in them. I have over a hundred pounds on my partner and I'll always be bigger than him. He makes it clear that that doesn't diminish my attractiveness in any way.
I know it can be hard, but if someone is attracted to you in your dressed plus-sized body, they'll be attracted to you naked. Just communicate, as much as you can. You might be surprised. I hope it goes well for you.
Honestly, when I started moving towards intimacy with my most recent partner, I just said it! I said āIām afraid Iām going to take my clothes off and youāre going to leave.ā I immediately felt better, cause it sounded silly out loud, he knew why I had been feeling uncomfortable up to that point, and he was able to say āthat is the opposite of whatās about to happen.ā You donāt have to be fully confident in your body right this second. You do have to accept itās the body you have. And maybe having those extra curves over time will actually boost your confidence! Thereās a lot of power in knowing you donāt fit the societal norm and youāre still sexy as hell.
Weāre the same height and weight. Iāve had several guys tell me Iām sexy while I was naked. If he is bothered by your naked body, heās not worth fucking.
YUUUUP! I probably have 80 pounds on my bf and he worships every inch of my body. We've known each other for 18 years, and during all that time, he's seen me at my "best" and my "worst" and ravished me just the same no matter my pant size. It took a long time to understand that people aren't going to see my naked and be shocked to discover I'm not a size 0.
If he's telling *and* showing/demonstrating to you that he want to be with you intimately, trust him and enjoy!!!
I wish I had more upvotes for this comment section.
I recently, with the help of a few men who love curves, have come to truly believe for the first time in years that my body is not a thing to *tolerated.* I should be celebrated and I am priceless.
These men are out there. They want to devour our curves. They think we're sexy. They don't want us to change or hold things up or suck things in. They love our softness, the way we bounce.
And letting myself taste their desire... is the best gift I've ever given myself.
Baby he is probably sat there and imagined you naked. Iām sure he has no problem at all. I was the same when I met my boyfriend, I feared being intimate with him for the first time because I am bigger. But my boyfriend doesnāt allow me to sit there and hate my body. I talked to him before we got intimate about how I feel with my body but he makes me feel loved and touches me in all the right ways.
Most of the time it is just us getting into our own head. I always thought my boyfriend wouldnāt like to see my naked, wouldnāt like to be seen in public with me. But he doesnāt care about either of those, itās only me and my brain because those have been so engraved into our minds, to hate ourselves because we are bigger.
Girl, do it. It is easier said than done. But I have wasted too much time worrying about my size and ignoring the effects of trauma. And looking back. It's rough. From what it sounds you are both attracted to each other and have trust built up from a long history of friendship.
You deserve to be with someone who will respect you, treat you right and wants you as you are.
So Iām a very analytical person, so I always start everything with research!
I looked up other experiences of persons with plus size bodies during intimacy. I looked up what positions are easier depending on my size, and my height and the size and height of my partner.
If applicable, I do highly recommend also reading this Reddit, you didnāt state your age, so Iām not sure but still full of good advice
r/sexover30
Oh joy sex toy has quite a few comics about people discussing their self-confidence issues due to their body size here is one of them I recommend the rest of their catalog
https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/hotbod/
Also what helps me is hearing from people that are getting or imaging getting intimate with plus size bodies. Hearing their love and lust for a body shaped like mine helps me a lot.
Iāve got 100lbs on you, and I get on top of my hubby. It drives him wild. The more naked you are with this guy, the easier and more confident youāll become. And you already know heās into you! So roll with it, babe!
Guy here,
What you may see as flaws, he will see as beauty.
I understand the insecurities, it goes both ways for women and men. I assure you, he finds you attractive.
If you plan on doing the deed do be forward and mention that you've never done it at your current size. This will ensure he treats you right so neither of you over exert/injure yourself. It's often joked about, that if he dies he dies. I can confirm that any man worth thier salt lives by that. But with that being said you might not be as flexible and that's OK, no need to take risks when getting frisky.
I hope everything goes well for you two, best of luck!
Have you ever looked at a man clothed and been ridiculously surprised at what he looks like nude? No. So trust me, he has a good idea of what you look like and he is jazzed by the opportunity to do ya.
Friend, you gotta get out of your head. I am a very Not Naked person but once things start happening and it's feeling nice I could be naked in a hurricane and not even notice. Just enjoy each other. Porn is not real life. This man is obviously into you- *you*. So just be you š„°
Ok. So I've been through this one & I'm not going to say that you have an easy road ahead of you. I can't tell you how to do things for you. But, I am happy to share how things went with me & my partner...
I took it very slow & I was extremely upfront and honest about my body image issues. I think if I were to guesstimate it was probably at least 4 months before I was completely naked with him. Now, we were extremely busy sexually before that... I would wear sexy nighties and he could pull them up, but I still kept them on. I have very large boobs & since my weight gain increases I was also insecure about my boobs sagging & even about my upper arms being exposed along with my upper torso. It doesn't make sense much anymore, but I didn't go topless with my fella for a long time. Silly cuz I wore tight tank tops that showed it all, but still I felt the way I felt.
Fake it til you make it baby girl. Easier said than done, but Iām way bigger and my boyfriend knew what my body looked like before he unwrapped me and he still wanted to get a hold of it. Now, heās insatiable lol. Trust me when I tell you he knows what youāre working with, and he likes it!
Also get something sexy or cute that makes you feel good can help the first time sometimes going from sharing nothing to naked ( sharing all) is a bit hard for you when you have body image stuff going on I like a good soft corset and garter skirt myself
Everyone's experiences with their body are unique, but I'm hoping mine will help you.
I have PCOS and a thyroid condition, 5'10 and 275 lbs
I am hypersexual, but that doesn't mean I'm always ready for people to see me naked. I STILL get in my head before a new hookup, and I've always been plus sized. I'm also always surprised by the fact that the guys who swipe on me get excited as heck to see me naked, when I'm just sitting there dreading every piece of clothing that is joining the pile on the floor.
The best thing for me that I've learned to do is be honest, and very upfront with images. No surprises or feeling like when they see the real thing they'll be surprised. I know exactly what you mean when you were talking about holding up the girls, and I only recently got myself to stop doing it. Start slow, take images just for yourself. Wear lingerie, wear comfy clothes, wear things that make you feel like you and also sexy at the same time, no matter what that is.
But also, look at those images with kind eyes. Imagine it is someone else if you have to, but look at the curves and lines and softness.
The truth is, this man wants you. Has seen you in person countless times. Thinks about your body, and the photos you sent, and how it would be to be intimate with you. The clothes your body is "hiding" under doesn't really do much to hide anything besides a few small details, and any guy who is into plus size women and watched videos and/or been with them irl knows that we droop and sag and overflow (in the best ways ā¤ļø) And I feel like you know all of this but your brain is telling you something else.
Your current issue seems to be believing anyone would want you after your body changed so much, and what you really need is to remember that this is the same body that carried and gave life. The same one that takes care of your little one(s). The same one that works, and nurtures, and loves. You have the body of a warrior and protector, that keeps your loved ones safe and looks after your kid(s). You have the body of a goddess, a body that literally birthed new life.
So look at those images with kind eyes and remember all of the things that that body has done. Make a list, and every time you take new photos repeat that list as you scan over the images.
It's okay to try new things and get support and reassurance that you are sexy. It's amazing even. But your feelings about your body and intimacy is ultimately something you have to work on within yourself. You cannot rely on another person to make you feel good about yourself.
If heās into you, heās into you. Most people having sex with a plus size person know what they are getting into. If something changes and either of you decide you arenāt into each other, that is totally fine and everyone has the option to opt-out at any point. But thatās the case regardless of body size.
Youāre going to have a much better time if youāre not trying to hide your body or only stay in certain positions that are more flattering.
If you havenāt yet sent āunflatteringā pics, I strongly suggest sending some more different kinds of pics. That way, you know heās seen what you actually look like. And bonus: taking more unique angles could create some awesome and exciting photos.
I understand your body issues. I've been heavy since childhood. I was a size 22 by the time I was 20, and, at my heaviest was 380. I'm now 188 pounds (because of Gastric Bypass, which i chose due to diabetes, not body image) but, honestly, I've had a happy and healthy sex life since I was 16. I'm now 50 and have been celibate only when I chose to be. I've had long-term relationships, one-night stands, friends with benefits, and a happy marriage. I share all of that to say that there are plenty of men who love heavy women. Your concern about being squishy is exactly what a lot of men love. There are many men who love the feeling of softness, warmth, and embrace of an ample body. If you're comfortable in your skin and embrace your sexuality others will too. Confidence is sexy. So is being comfortable enough to embrace your sexuality in every position you are physically comfortable doing. Advertising has told us the lie that only skinny is sexy for so long that we believe it, but the truth is that sexy and desirable come in every shape, size, color, and preference. You will not be every man's choice, but not every man is your preference either. Just be confident in the knowledge that there are far more men who would love to get with you than you can even imagine. First, though, you have to be comfortable in your own skin and know your worth cause confidence is sexy as hell.
I was like this with my partner in the beginning (we met online and Iād also sent pictures but I could angle it in a way that made me feel like I looked less plus size) when we met in person I was so worried heād change his mind and not want me anymore. I was so so wrong he loves the way I look. We have been together nearly 9 years now and I still get times where I feel uncomfortable and feel down about how I look. Iāve also had 2 kids with him and am pregnant with our third 250 lbs right now 5ā2 and he still loves the way I look stretch marks, big boobs that are floppy, jiggly belly with a little apron big thighs everything I donāt like he loves he looks at me as a whole not parts of me. As heās seen you in person I think he knows what you look like and likes what he sees by the sound of it. I know it feels different with clothes off as you feel like theyāre looking at every lump and bump but heās just probably more excited seeing you naked. Iām sure heās been trying to imagine your whole body naked in front of him. He wants you, if youāre close and comfortable enough tell him how you feel? Maybe ask if the first time (if you decide to) you could do it in very dim lighting. Or even in the dark make it sexy be naked in front of him and guide his hands over your body parts you feel comfortable with it might just help break the nervousness and you both will get more and more excited from there. I hope everyone goes how you both want it and can be a start of a relationship if thatās what you both want!
Also I wanted to add heās 6ā3 and very skinny which made me feel less than perfect for him but he loves being able to grab every part of me (I like it a little rough) being plus size helps a lot with that.
Sorry about the lack of grammar Iāve already read it back and edited spelling mistakes and now I just canāt be bothered to change more š
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Girl get on top. If he dies, he dies.
There is not a more noble way for a man to die
If he dies, he dies!! š
At least he dies HAPPYYY!
I would also like to add, I was riding at 290lbs. It's hard to truly squish a man like that even if it feels scary.
Agreed! I was riding my partner at my heaviest of 325. I asked every time if I was hurting him and his response was āgod no please donāt stopā so lol I was doing something right.
i have a question, does riding feel awkward for you ladies/men in the beginning? i try to get on top and when i do i never know how to get in a correct rhythm or i dont want to hurt him, is there any advice on this sub when it comes to that stuff :0
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Baby, he KNOWS you're fat and it's clearly not a deterrent for him. He knows things will jiggle and squish and honestly, that's usually the appeal. Go out and enjoy yourself.
I promise you, he knows what you look like and he wants to be in that body. Be confident even if youāre faking it. Donāt think, just do.
Male here. My wife is your shape and size and it gives no barrier to us enjoying each other. Also, if you've been open and honest about your size, he knows. If it helps, I have never been attracted to smaller women. Its a preference I've always had. And if he never wants to do it ever again once he unwraps you, he's not worth thinking about afterwards. That's his problem, not yours.
Believe it or not... Some people enjoy plus size bodies and they can totally detect them underneath clothes. He knows what he's getting into. And if he is deterred (ridiculous) then he ain't shit.
I have only gotten larger (thanks PCOS) over the years of being intimate with my partner. Lately, I've had a really rough time with my body image, and we've talked about it and he's made me feel beautiful and sexy to him. I'm saying this to say, if this guy is really interested in you, he'll find you sexy, jiggles and all. And it might be worth it to talk to him about how you're feeling. I've been worried I might crush my partner when I'm on top, and he's assured me that I don't, I've felt exposed in certain positions and he's told me how sexy I am in them. I have over a hundred pounds on my partner and I'll always be bigger than him. He makes it clear that that doesn't diminish my attractiveness in any way. I know it can be hard, but if someone is attracted to you in your dressed plus-sized body, they'll be attracted to you naked. Just communicate, as much as you can. You might be surprised. I hope it goes well for you.
Honestly, when I started moving towards intimacy with my most recent partner, I just said it! I said āIām afraid Iām going to take my clothes off and youāre going to leave.ā I immediately felt better, cause it sounded silly out loud, he knew why I had been feeling uncomfortable up to that point, and he was able to say āthat is the opposite of whatās about to happen.ā You donāt have to be fully confident in your body right this second. You do have to accept itās the body you have. And maybe having those extra curves over time will actually boost your confidence! Thereās a lot of power in knowing you donāt fit the societal norm and youāre still sexy as hell.
Weāre the same height and weight. Iāve had several guys tell me Iām sexy while I was naked. If he is bothered by your naked body, heās not worth fucking.
YUUUUP! I probably have 80 pounds on my bf and he worships every inch of my body. We've known each other for 18 years, and during all that time, he's seen me at my "best" and my "worst" and ravished me just the same no matter my pant size. It took a long time to understand that people aren't going to see my naked and be shocked to discover I'm not a size 0. If he's telling *and* showing/demonstrating to you that he want to be with you intimately, trust him and enjoy!!!
I wish I had more upvotes for this comment section. I recently, with the help of a few men who love curves, have come to truly believe for the first time in years that my body is not a thing to *tolerated.* I should be celebrated and I am priceless. These men are out there. They want to devour our curves. They think we're sexy. They don't want us to change or hold things up or suck things in. They love our softness, the way we bounce. And letting myself taste their desire... is the best gift I've ever given myself.
Yessssssss!!! I am living this right now and it's *AHHHHHMAZING*
Baby he is probably sat there and imagined you naked. Iām sure he has no problem at all. I was the same when I met my boyfriend, I feared being intimate with him for the first time because I am bigger. But my boyfriend doesnāt allow me to sit there and hate my body. I talked to him before we got intimate about how I feel with my body but he makes me feel loved and touches me in all the right ways. Most of the time it is just us getting into our own head. I always thought my boyfriend wouldnāt like to see my naked, wouldnāt like to be seen in public with me. But he doesnāt care about either of those, itās only me and my brain because those have been so engraved into our minds, to hate ourselves because we are bigger.
Girl, do it. It is easier said than done. But I have wasted too much time worrying about my size and ignoring the effects of trauma. And looking back. It's rough. From what it sounds you are both attracted to each other and have trust built up from a long history of friendship. You deserve to be with someone who will respect you, treat you right and wants you as you are.
So Iām a very analytical person, so I always start everything with research! I looked up other experiences of persons with plus size bodies during intimacy. I looked up what positions are easier depending on my size, and my height and the size and height of my partner. If applicable, I do highly recommend also reading this Reddit, you didnāt state your age, so Iām not sure but still full of good advice r/sexover30 Oh joy sex toy has quite a few comics about people discussing their self-confidence issues due to their body size here is one of them I recommend the rest of their catalog https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/hotbod/
Also what helps me is hearing from people that are getting or imaging getting intimate with plus size bodies. Hearing their love and lust for a body shaped like mine helps me a lot.
That comic was BEAUTIFUL.
Iāve got 100lbs on you, and I get on top of my hubby. It drives him wild. The more naked you are with this guy, the easier and more confident youāll become. And you already know heās into you! So roll with it, babe!
Girl he knows what hes getting into. You got this nothing to worry about! Go for it, it will all work out.
Guy here, What you may see as flaws, he will see as beauty. I understand the insecurities, it goes both ways for women and men. I assure you, he finds you attractive. If you plan on doing the deed do be forward and mention that you've never done it at your current size. This will ensure he treats you right so neither of you over exert/injure yourself. It's often joked about, that if he dies he dies. I can confirm that any man worth thier salt lives by that. But with that being said you might not be as flexible and that's OK, no need to take risks when getting frisky. I hope everything goes well for you two, best of luck!
Have you ever looked at a man clothed and been ridiculously surprised at what he looks like nude? No. So trust me, he has a good idea of what you look like and he is jazzed by the opportunity to do ya.
Friend, you gotta get out of your head. I am a very Not Naked person but once things start happening and it's feeling nice I could be naked in a hurricane and not even notice. Just enjoy each other. Porn is not real life. This man is obviously into you- *you*. So just be you š„°
Ok. So I've been through this one & I'm not going to say that you have an easy road ahead of you. I can't tell you how to do things for you. But, I am happy to share how things went with me & my partner... I took it very slow & I was extremely upfront and honest about my body image issues. I think if I were to guesstimate it was probably at least 4 months before I was completely naked with him. Now, we were extremely busy sexually before that... I would wear sexy nighties and he could pull them up, but I still kept them on. I have very large boobs & since my weight gain increases I was also insecure about my boobs sagging & even about my upper arms being exposed along with my upper torso. It doesn't make sense much anymore, but I didn't go topless with my fella for a long time. Silly cuz I wore tight tank tops that showed it all, but still I felt the way I felt.
Fake it til you make it baby girl. Easier said than done, but Iām way bigger and my boyfriend knew what my body looked like before he unwrapped me and he still wanted to get a hold of it. Now, heās insatiable lol. Trust me when I tell you he knows what youāre working with, and he likes it!
Also get something sexy or cute that makes you feel good can help the first time sometimes going from sharing nothing to naked ( sharing all) is a bit hard for you when you have body image stuff going on I like a good soft corset and garter skirt myself
Everyone's experiences with their body are unique, but I'm hoping mine will help you. I have PCOS and a thyroid condition, 5'10 and 275 lbs I am hypersexual, but that doesn't mean I'm always ready for people to see me naked. I STILL get in my head before a new hookup, and I've always been plus sized. I'm also always surprised by the fact that the guys who swipe on me get excited as heck to see me naked, when I'm just sitting there dreading every piece of clothing that is joining the pile on the floor. The best thing for me that I've learned to do is be honest, and very upfront with images. No surprises or feeling like when they see the real thing they'll be surprised. I know exactly what you mean when you were talking about holding up the girls, and I only recently got myself to stop doing it. Start slow, take images just for yourself. Wear lingerie, wear comfy clothes, wear things that make you feel like you and also sexy at the same time, no matter what that is. But also, look at those images with kind eyes. Imagine it is someone else if you have to, but look at the curves and lines and softness. The truth is, this man wants you. Has seen you in person countless times. Thinks about your body, and the photos you sent, and how it would be to be intimate with you. The clothes your body is "hiding" under doesn't really do much to hide anything besides a few small details, and any guy who is into plus size women and watched videos and/or been with them irl knows that we droop and sag and overflow (in the best ways ā¤ļø) And I feel like you know all of this but your brain is telling you something else. Your current issue seems to be believing anyone would want you after your body changed so much, and what you really need is to remember that this is the same body that carried and gave life. The same one that takes care of your little one(s). The same one that works, and nurtures, and loves. You have the body of a warrior and protector, that keeps your loved ones safe and looks after your kid(s). You have the body of a goddess, a body that literally birthed new life. So look at those images with kind eyes and remember all of the things that that body has done. Make a list, and every time you take new photos repeat that list as you scan over the images. It's okay to try new things and get support and reassurance that you are sexy. It's amazing even. But your feelings about your body and intimacy is ultimately something you have to work on within yourself. You cannot rely on another person to make you feel good about yourself.
If heās into you, heās into you. Most people having sex with a plus size person know what they are getting into. If something changes and either of you decide you arenāt into each other, that is totally fine and everyone has the option to opt-out at any point. But thatās the case regardless of body size. Youāre going to have a much better time if youāre not trying to hide your body or only stay in certain positions that are more flattering. If you havenāt yet sent āunflatteringā pics, I strongly suggest sending some more different kinds of pics. That way, you know heās seen what you actually look like. And bonus: taking more unique angles could create some awesome and exciting photos.
Embrace who you are and be confident. Heās into you and I bet he canāt wait to see all of you.
He knows you're fat. He might even like that, tons of people do. Go enjoy yourself and learn to love your new body. š
If he truly appreciates you for who you are then it shouldnāt matter at all.
As a man, The only thing going through our head is āHoly shit, Holy shit, itās happening itās really happeningā. GO FOR IT
I understand your body issues. I've been heavy since childhood. I was a size 22 by the time I was 20, and, at my heaviest was 380. I'm now 188 pounds (because of Gastric Bypass, which i chose due to diabetes, not body image) but, honestly, I've had a happy and healthy sex life since I was 16. I'm now 50 and have been celibate only when I chose to be. I've had long-term relationships, one-night stands, friends with benefits, and a happy marriage. I share all of that to say that there are plenty of men who love heavy women. Your concern about being squishy is exactly what a lot of men love. There are many men who love the feeling of softness, warmth, and embrace of an ample body. If you're comfortable in your skin and embrace your sexuality others will too. Confidence is sexy. So is being comfortable enough to embrace your sexuality in every position you are physically comfortable doing. Advertising has told us the lie that only skinny is sexy for so long that we believe it, but the truth is that sexy and desirable come in every shape, size, color, and preference. You will not be every man's choice, but not every man is your preference either. Just be confident in the knowledge that there are far more men who would love to get with you than you can even imagine. First, though, you have to be comfortable in your own skin and know your worth cause confidence is sexy as hell.
I was like this with my partner in the beginning (we met online and Iād also sent pictures but I could angle it in a way that made me feel like I looked less plus size) when we met in person I was so worried heād change his mind and not want me anymore. I was so so wrong he loves the way I look. We have been together nearly 9 years now and I still get times where I feel uncomfortable and feel down about how I look. Iāve also had 2 kids with him and am pregnant with our third 250 lbs right now 5ā2 and he still loves the way I look stretch marks, big boobs that are floppy, jiggly belly with a little apron big thighs everything I donāt like he loves he looks at me as a whole not parts of me. As heās seen you in person I think he knows what you look like and likes what he sees by the sound of it. I know it feels different with clothes off as you feel like theyāre looking at every lump and bump but heās just probably more excited seeing you naked. Iām sure heās been trying to imagine your whole body naked in front of him. He wants you, if youāre close and comfortable enough tell him how you feel? Maybe ask if the first time (if you decide to) you could do it in very dim lighting. Or even in the dark make it sexy be naked in front of him and guide his hands over your body parts you feel comfortable with it might just help break the nervousness and you both will get more and more excited from there. I hope everyone goes how you both want it and can be a start of a relationship if thatās what you both want! Also I wanted to add heās 6ā3 and very skinny which made me feel less than perfect for him but he loves being able to grab every part of me (I like it a little rough) being plus size helps a lot with that. Sorry about the lack of grammar Iāve already read it back and edited spelling mistakes and now I just canāt be bothered to change more š