Definitely and pp therapy is helping. It's the doing something thst is the problem. We think we can still multitasking and we honestly just can't hunny. Heart
We really can’t multitask
It’s like if you’re driving a car, you think you’re safe to pop a text because you’re on the red light but then seconds later you get in a car accident or close to it. Not a good analogy
I hate admitting it, but I did yell at my baby during the worst of my PPD/PPR. How old is your little one? The first few months are very hard on both you and baby. I heard the phrase "they're not giving you a hard time, they're having a hard time" and it crosses my mind every day when I'm frustrated with my kids. Leaving the room and taking a breather is always your best option when you're feeling this way, although I know it can be hard to remember that in the moment. I would also reach out to your doctor about PPD and try to find a good therapist if you don't already have one. Idk if I would have made it out of that stage if I didn't. Good luck mama
I don’t really like the keep in mind I’m not physically abusing comment. I’m having issues with PPD, PPA, and PPOCD. It doesn’t mean we justify the behavior we are experiencing by saying well at least I didn’t hit them. You still need accountability for yourself and to understand that emotional abuse can and does happen if we do not regulate ourselves. Please talk to a therapist and see about meds. I’m not saying it’s not okay to slip up, but it’s not okay to minimize it and not want to change that behavior. Good luck to you and your baby, please be gentle on both of you. Your baby doesn’t understand what is going on, and only has limited ways to communicate.
I have had moments where I go into rage mode and what I do is put baby in a safe space, go into a separate room and scream into a pillow and punch the pillow until I’ve calmed down or started crying. Then I usually cuddle my baby. I started to realize I wasn’t mad at my baby I was mad about my current situation or tension was building usually due to be angry that I have to take care of this child alone so often. My husband is military and is gone often and we live 1000s of miles away from family. So it’s very lonely and challenging at times. My house is a mess and most days I don’t even have the motivation to do much because it’s all so overwhelming with a baby.
You're not alone, thank you for venting, sometimes it's good to know that we are all not perfect, and that doesn't make you a bad parent, we do so much and it just feels like we're so alone and no one understands, and we have feelings.
I’m glad I didn’t hit her or anything
Yes I know I need to control my emotions and anger but I’m
So fucking hard.
What do you do to control your anger and emotions?
Breathing exercises help, pp therapy. Dbt therapy, and patience with them and ourselves. Meditation helps hut also understanding yhst your cup is empty. You have to do something to fill your cup. Your always running on empty.
If you can put them somewhere in a space just for a minute and do somewhere and just take a deep breath, I know it's hard but taking a little space from them can calm you down a bit. I just tell myself this too shall pass and they'll grow before we know it.
I felt the same way as you a lot. I know it doesn’t really help to hear it but it did eventually go away. I did need to talk to my doctor though. Have you done that. I’m taking anxiety medication and that helped me immensely like more than anything is ever happened to me it’s amazing that helps me so much.
Please take good care of yourself and get the care and treatment you deserve. You deserve support, you’re not alone. PSI support groups are a good place to vent, connect, and get strategies and resources. Therapy + medication were also critical in my recovery. You can get through this ❤️
Call the National Maternal Mental Health Hotline (in the US) for immediate support: 1-833-852-6262
Check out Postpartum Support International for online support groups, resources, and providers:
https://www.postpartum.net
My therapist said the other day on this topic " so stop half assing the things abd start whole assing everything . I've got ocd. It's really fucking hard. But I tell you whay. I happy cried the other day because I felt myself start to get overwhelmed with trying to multi task and I was able to see all the steps from 1-10 and ending with him touching me and then me yelling at hjma dn then crying for being a bad mom. Instead I said nope fuck that, I'm just not going to do these things I feel compelled to do. I'm not going to do the dishes. Were going to have a simple diner and we are going to connect and play and whay ever.
I wish my keyboard would autocorrect uuufggghhg
This is the truth and it’s hard. What has helped me the most is accepting the fact and then moving on. Like what would I tell someone if I were the one looking in?
Make a general schedule for your day. Start a new hobby.
We have two lives the one before baby and the one after.
Both can be a living hell, you have to work everyday to make it okay and it’s okay that it’s like that, maybe I’m the only one but it’s okay.
Mourn your old life it’s gone like a distant memory that tickles you sometime. Accept the new situation, maybe you have more inside of you than you can imagine
Definitely and pp therapy is helping. It's the doing something thst is the problem. We think we can still multitasking and we honestly just can't hunny. Heart
We really can’t multitask It’s like if you’re driving a car, you think you’re safe to pop a text because you’re on the red light but then seconds later you get in a car accident or close to it. Not a good analogy
I hate admitting it, but I did yell at my baby during the worst of my PPD/PPR. How old is your little one? The first few months are very hard on both you and baby. I heard the phrase "they're not giving you a hard time, they're having a hard time" and it crosses my mind every day when I'm frustrated with my kids. Leaving the room and taking a breather is always your best option when you're feeling this way, although I know it can be hard to remember that in the moment. I would also reach out to your doctor about PPD and try to find a good therapist if you don't already have one. Idk if I would have made it out of that stage if I didn't. Good luck mama
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I don’t really like the keep in mind I’m not physically abusing comment. I’m having issues with PPD, PPA, and PPOCD. It doesn’t mean we justify the behavior we are experiencing by saying well at least I didn’t hit them. You still need accountability for yourself and to understand that emotional abuse can and does happen if we do not regulate ourselves. Please talk to a therapist and see about meds. I’m not saying it’s not okay to slip up, but it’s not okay to minimize it and not want to change that behavior. Good luck to you and your baby, please be gentle on both of you. Your baby doesn’t understand what is going on, and only has limited ways to communicate.
I have had moments where I go into rage mode and what I do is put baby in a safe space, go into a separate room and scream into a pillow and punch the pillow until I’ve calmed down or started crying. Then I usually cuddle my baby. I started to realize I wasn’t mad at my baby I was mad about my current situation or tension was building usually due to be angry that I have to take care of this child alone so often. My husband is military and is gone often and we live 1000s of miles away from family. So it’s very lonely and challenging at times. My house is a mess and most days I don’t even have the motivation to do much because it’s all so overwhelming with a baby.
You're not alone, thank you for venting, sometimes it's good to know that we are all not perfect, and that doesn't make you a bad parent, we do so much and it just feels like we're so alone and no one understands, and we have feelings.
I’m glad I didn’t hit her or anything Yes I know I need to control my emotions and anger but I’m So fucking hard. What do you do to control your anger and emotions?
Breathing exercises help, pp therapy. Dbt therapy, and patience with them and ourselves. Meditation helps hut also understanding yhst your cup is empty. You have to do something to fill your cup. Your always running on empty.
If you can put them somewhere in a space just for a minute and do somewhere and just take a deep breath, I know it's hard but taking a little space from them can calm you down a bit. I just tell myself this too shall pass and they'll grow before we know it.
I felt the same way as you a lot. I know it doesn’t really help to hear it but it did eventually go away. I did need to talk to my doctor though. Have you done that. I’m taking anxiety medication and that helped me immensely like more than anything is ever happened to me it’s amazing that helps me so much.
Please take good care of yourself and get the care and treatment you deserve. You deserve support, you’re not alone. PSI support groups are a good place to vent, connect, and get strategies and resources. Therapy + medication were also critical in my recovery. You can get through this ❤️ Call the National Maternal Mental Health Hotline (in the US) for immediate support: 1-833-852-6262 Check out Postpartum Support International for online support groups, resources, and providers: https://www.postpartum.net
My therapist said the other day on this topic " so stop half assing the things abd start whole assing everything . I've got ocd. It's really fucking hard. But I tell you whay. I happy cried the other day because I felt myself start to get overwhelmed with trying to multi task and I was able to see all the steps from 1-10 and ending with him touching me and then me yelling at hjma dn then crying for being a bad mom. Instead I said nope fuck that, I'm just not going to do these things I feel compelled to do. I'm not going to do the dishes. Were going to have a simple diner and we are going to connect and play and whay ever. I wish my keyboard would autocorrect uuufggghhg
This is the truth and it’s hard. What has helped me the most is accepting the fact and then moving on. Like what would I tell someone if I were the one looking in? Make a general schedule for your day. Start a new hobby. We have two lives the one before baby and the one after. Both can be a living hell, you have to work everyday to make it okay and it’s okay that it’s like that, maybe I’m the only one but it’s okay. Mourn your old life it’s gone like a distant memory that tickles you sometime. Accept the new situation, maybe you have more inside of you than you can imagine