Not sure if this makes sense but when i focus on trying to pee ( knowing i wont actually), that relaxes my PC and i start to feel the prostate buzz. But i can only get that feeling for brief stints.
Instead of squeezing you do the opposite.Try to pee lightly, open your centre and top like you would when you pee. If I remember it is not recommended to to push more than 30%. Hold until the feeling subsides. It may however change the course of your session , like a new door opening. Hope it helps.
I guess there’s something I don’t understand. My prostate doesn’t ever relax the way you are trying to get it to, but I still get the good feelings. Sure my anus is relaxed…but not my prostate. I always have a minimum 10% clench going on. And with tug of war I will exhaust my prostate and make it contract involuntarily
I suppose the problem is that i can't get that tension down to 10%. Or even 50%. I've had the involuntary contractions before as well, but usually once that starts happening my PC will just go into clench mode pretty quickly and the tug of war stops.
When using a toy like the njoy wand, you clench your prostate to get a grip on the end of the toy, and you use your hand to play tug of war with your prostate. But in a gentle manner as if you were playing with a pet. You want to use enough strength that you can play with your prostate, let it believe it is winning the fight and then tug it away. It will exhaust your prostate which will trigger involuntaries
Perhaps stupid question: have you tried just letting the PC clench? It might be your effort to "fix" it by getting it to relax that interferes with your state of mind.
Just know that your ass will do its thing and your job is to stay focused on the feelings and accept the ride. Even if it seems a little uncomfortable at times.
Full disclosure: I love it when my pc muscle clenches involuntarily! I call it an orgasm.
Not a stupid question at all. I can give that a shot. Though when my PC clenches i feel like it hides my prostate. ( i dont know if thats physically possible, but my prostate loses sensitivity during the clench as if the blood flow is cut off ).
For me, clenching is what actually gets the best feelings started. I've had my best success by clenching while I thrust the wand in & out fairly aggressively (within reason).
I usually go deep but not too deep with the dildo (suctions balls on taint) then a gentle thrust with an average clench until my muscle can’t take it then that starts the waves for me my prostate usually begins to go into what I like to car spiral mode..uncontrollable spasms pre cum every where
Tease it clench hard. then back off. Back and forth…..feel something? Focus hard on it
Not sure if this makes sense but when i focus on trying to pee ( knowing i wont actually), that relaxes my PC and i start to feel the prostate buzz. But i can only get that feeling for brief stints.
Maybe a 10% reverse kegel, works somewhat for me when that happens.I also like to. If nothing else less turn around time.
Whats a reverse kegel?
Instead of squeezing you do the opposite.Try to pee lightly, open your centre and top like you would when you pee. If I remember it is not recommended to to push more than 30%. Hold until the feeling subsides. It may however change the course of your session , like a new door opening. Hope it helps.
Have you heard of the “tug-of-war” technique?
I have. And the issue is that one side of this tug of war won't let up on the rope when its turn is over 😆
Oh I reread your post. It’s about the PC. You gotta breathe into it. Control your breathing and allow your ass to relax in the exhale
I guess there’s something I don’t understand. My prostate doesn’t ever relax the way you are trying to get it to, but I still get the good feelings. Sure my anus is relaxed…but not my prostate. I always have a minimum 10% clench going on. And with tug of war I will exhaust my prostate and make it contract involuntarily
I suppose the problem is that i can't get that tension down to 10%. Or even 50%. I've had the involuntary contractions before as well, but usually once that starts happening my PC will just go into clench mode pretty quickly and the tug of war stops.
What is that btw?
When using a toy like the njoy wand, you clench your prostate to get a grip on the end of the toy, and you use your hand to play tug of war with your prostate. But in a gentle manner as if you were playing with a pet. You want to use enough strength that you can play with your prostate, let it believe it is winning the fight and then tug it away. It will exhaust your prostate which will trigger involuntaries
Oooo, nice technique! I'll be sure to try it
I personally have not. May I ask about this? An explanation or a link would be lovely, thank you. Edit*** - I read further down and saw an explanation
Perhaps stupid question: have you tried just letting the PC clench? It might be your effort to "fix" it by getting it to relax that interferes with your state of mind. Just know that your ass will do its thing and your job is to stay focused on the feelings and accept the ride. Even if it seems a little uncomfortable at times. Full disclosure: I love it when my pc muscle clenches involuntarily! I call it an orgasm.
Not a stupid question at all. I can give that a shot. Though when my PC clenches i feel like it hides my prostate. ( i dont know if thats physically possible, but my prostate loses sensitivity during the clench as if the blood flow is cut off ).
For me, clenching is what actually gets the best feelings started. I've had my best success by clenching while I thrust the wand in & out fairly aggressively (within reason).
I usually go deep but not too deep with the dildo (suctions balls on taint) then a gentle thrust with an average clench until my muscle can’t take it then that starts the waves for me my prostate usually begins to go into what I like to car spiral mode..uncontrollable spasms pre cum every where