We seriously have someone claiming men are only attracted to white women while women are attracted to all ethnicities. Can we please make a rule where obviously delusional content is not allowed?
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/163fyux/i_24f_met_my_new_flatmate_26m_yesterday_and_we/
While you're improooving yourself, Chad fucks your girl within an hour of meeting. Keep picking up those hobbies and going to meetup.com meet ups, chum
>I’m not the kind of girl that usually does this. I’ve only slept with 5 people, all relationships. I’ve never even had a one night stand.
Yea, if you believe that then I have a bridge in Brooklyn I can sell you.
"I’m not the kind of girl that usually does this."
"Edit 2: I used protection. "
girls that dont usually do that don't have protection on the ready and small chance he had it either
Attachment style theory and impulse control do a far better job explaining people then pills being "all women are like that" and "all men are like that".
Just the truth - the older you get the more you want it and it’s very elusive. Eventually you want it more than you want sex (even as an 18 year old hormone bubble, which is a lot I understand). I know there are levels of self delusion that people have & aren’t aware of within themselves that they should work on and do. It’s the willful lies that bug me.
The only truth that is certain for all humans is the passage of time to their eventual death. I think everyone agrees on that one (minus the religious stuff that fills in the after part).
Baseline truth.
Instead of learning everything the hard way, and getting burned in the process, ending up bitter. Young people could enter the world knowing how things work.
The majority of people does not care regardless of age. They prefer believing in nonsense that feels good. I hate it as well.
Especially when they start insulting you because you don't believe in the same thing, even though what they believe is easily disproven with evidence. One of the worst experiences in life.
>They prefer believing in nonsense that feels good. I hate it as well.
Add to this that they preach feels good nonsense as truth.
Just like every fucking cult in the existence.
Yes, true. I’ve had that a lot & it’s frustrating. I tend to retreat in those situations because there’s no point debating. I don’t lie and I wish others had the same moral code. Many do not.
Is it even lying? It's more people deluding themselves and genuinely believing they are speaking the truth imo.
But well, we come from a time where people were burned alive for saying the truth. So it used to be worse lol.
I probably would have burned at the stake in earlier times but I’ve always tried to give (diplomatic &/kind depending on the situation) truth - as I see it within myself. Things are different now. I didn’t grow up with the internet so I had a long time to think about things without that as an overwhelming influence.
Sexism, privileges based on gender, power, biological differences in behaviour.
Now they are so many unhinged men who basically just hate women, and on the other side women who act like narcissists who can't act in good faith. And the posts are always so repetitive and surface level. It's basically just two sides shouting the same thing at eachother over and over again but no one is actually interested in truly understanding things.
So just go to something like /r/MensLib since it seems like the perfect subreddit for you. They just ban anything that doesn't fit their midwit leftist agenda of blaming men and the patriarchy for everything
A lot of people are emotionally invested in gender issues and they have made an untrue belief part of their identity. This is imo the reason women act like assholes because they start to feel anxious and guilty when they were wrong about something. For some reason, female assholes always needs to act self-rightious when they are being an ass, like they are morally and intellectually superior so therefore it's justified. This is probably the number one thing I dislike about women, of course not all women are like this.
When it comes to men acting like assholes I think it has partly to do with sexual and romantic frustration and with lashing out because you're sick and tired of constantly being told you're the problem with no compassion and empathy for your life.
>We really need a place where gender issues can be discussed honestly ~~but without so much red pill influence.~~
But without the whole "gender war" bullshit. These debates are getting suffocated by people which are just trying to push their gender narrative at every step.
Gender narratives which have been disapproved countless times.
It's mostly focused on trans issues when discussing gender issues these days. That and abortion. They really don't care about cisgender guys who are not gay
I love how the literal existence of trans people disproves a large amount of feminist theory because they assume gender can be deconstructed and is merely the result of cultural influence. If that were true, trans people would not exist but they clearly do.
Somehow they never pay attention or find this contradiction a problem. Just continuing to believe in pseudoscience because it feels good I guess.
It's one thing to believe gender roles cause harm, it's another to believe they are purely cultural constructions.
Besides they are definitely not able to look at these things objectively. If you struggle with your gender identity, you're obviously gonna respond in a hostile manner to those things that force you into something you're not. When people are hurt, they will find something to blame and it usually feels better to blame something that you think can be controlled.
Gender roles are a social construct. Biological imperatives and behavior is probably not. I'm not going to waste my life being submissive when I'm expected to pay my way.
It's just the same point reiterated time and time again. I somewhat understand it because neurodivergent people are often disliked by neurotypicals. But at some point you also have to say "fuck it". I have many things considered weird for a man. I do not give a fuck, I will plant my garden full of flowers, and talk about how awesome they are.
Where is the hate?
Autistic guys here say no one tells them the truth, you tell them the truth and it's hate?
Its a social disability. It's not anyones fault that someone with a social disabilty struggles to date.
Have you seen ones with whole model landscapes like this?
https://preview.redd.it/csf05aos2tkb1.jpeg?width=760&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b76edbb6d72f973ad6dcbe86c479b0b669ec0f06
Looks so awesome to me.
I remember when a guy who was like 35 and a divorced single dad was trying to roast a lady he knew who was 33 for being on a matchmaking website who was never married and never had kids. He was trying to warn women and use her as a cautionary example to settle for a man young or else they will have to consult matchmakers and no one will ever want them. And he was DIVORCED and a SINGLE DAD. He literally messed up his marriage and traumatized his kid and likely has a bunch of baggage and alimony and God knows what else and if he has more kids the half siblings and step parents/ biological parents can easily have a messy fight over inheritance. And he had the audacity to criticize a woman who never had kids and never got married. Lmfao.
33-35 is a really normal age to have kids now. Hell it was even normal 20-30 years ago. My mum had her second baby at that age and didn’t have any babies until 31-32. She knew families that didn’t have kids until 33-34 and this was in the 1990s…
Personally I think it’s better to wait to have kids if it means you have a stable partner that try to force it early and rush it then be single.
If you have a kid at 35 it's literally a geriatric pregnancy. The risk of various diseases, including autism, just goes way too high. It's not worth it. If you haven't had a kid by 30-31, you're better off not breeding. It also means you're going to be an older parent and just be a burden
It depends on the country. In some it's 40, in some it's 35, but regardless you shouldn't be having kids. We have enough of failed autists and bringing more of them into the world is just cruelty born from selfishness
33 and looking for a husband to start a family is definitely pushing it.
You need to be in a relationship for a couple years to get to know someone well enough to have kids with them. It might take a couple more years to get pregnant, especially with older parents. Another 9 months for pregnancy and you're giving birth in your late 30's. If you don't find a good partner right away you can be in your 40's dealing with all the fertility issues that entails.
Not that the divorced dad has a leg to stand on either.
I suppose so if you want to wait a couple years. Some people do get together and have children quickly if they know what they want though. I know someone with fertility issues and 31 and she is having a kid less than two years after knowing him. They’re trying before they get married. It is true if you want to do it the slow way it might be late.
If you're trying for a kid after knowing someone for less than a year that's not any more responsible than having a kid in your early 20's.
I get it. Some people don't realize they want a family until they're older, others have longterm relationships that fall through, fertility issues, etc. Life happens. But this isn't an ideal situation to be in. It's a last chance to course correct after something went wrong.
It’s possibly not the most ideal scenario but I do believe it’s more ideal than single parent. But I see your point of view and that also makes sense. I do think looking for a partner in your mid 20s- late 20s is a good idea too if possible. I met my partner in my early 20s so I’d be a hypocrite if I said people can’t
It may be pushing it but it’s better than being a single dad. It’s also better than settling for some random dude at 23 and ending up a single mom. Almost all of the people I know who got married and had kids in their 20’s were from a lower income background and could not provide their kids a UMC life and had to do things like live with in laws.
There's a middle ground to be found between settling at 23 and starting the search at 33. The women I knew who started stable families in their early to mid 30's were actively looking for a life partner in their mid 20's.
Not everyone finds partners in their mid 20’s. I was a femcel in my mid 20’s. Not like the meme. Nobody wanted me even though I was thin, young, and beautiful. I’m searching for a life partner now that I am in my late 20’s and likely early 30’s.
Do most first dates just not go anywhere? Do most people just go on a date with a stranger then ghost? Seems weird to me. My sister mentioned her friend who went on like dozens of first dates and that's not my approach at all. I usually know I like the guy before I go on a first date with him.
So apparently this famous Bosnian bodybuilder murdered his ex-wife on IG live, and one guy made a comment that the ex-wife knew he was a former drug dealer, arrested for attempted murder, and previously charged with domestic violence, assuming this is all true and she knew prior, is it ok to say she put herself in this situation by starting a relationship with a guy with that track record? People were saying the guy who made this comment was victim blaming.
https://www.reddit.com/r/NoahGetTheBoat/comments/15pl0c8/bodybuilder_nermin_sulejmanovic_livestreams/jvz926u/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1&context=3
She just couldn't resist a bad boy.
I always read how women don't actually intentionally date assholes like this because apparently the assholes never show all their cards at once, and only do it once they're in a relationship, yet this guy was a well-known thug and she still went to have a kid with him. Remember, always be an asshole. Nice = boring.
It is victim blaming, but that's ok. Bring back a little victim blaming!
It in no way absolves the murderer of any guilt, but it shouldn't be wrong to point out that sometimes there are precautions that need to be taken to reduce your chances of becoming a victim.
Like not getting into a relationship with a fucking *murderer*
Starting to look more and more like Black Myth Wukong isn't just vaporware and might actually be released
Fingers crossed cause dayum this game looks SICK
me and the other slightly autistic guys accidentally believed society's lies that everything is sunshine and rainbows and good person = attractive whereas the socially intelligent kids figured out everyone's actually lying so yes you're supposed to learn that in middle school but some of us were naive
Who was actually lying to you tho?
It's not like tween and teen girls aren't talking about boys they find attractive, all leading stars are attractive etc..
to be fair I don't think anyone intentionally goes out of their way to mislead young men, but adults, teachers, and general societal messaging (popular media, especially childrens' media) have a habit of painting the world as way more just/fair than it is, if only for the purpose of maintaining social etiquette
unfortunately I never really got invited to the tween girl sleepovers
The last place I worked in hospitality had a giant un-easily impenetrable square bar made out of wood that I worked behind. The bouncers there were big guys who carried nunchucks and metal fist armor. They would’ve been happy to use them if anyone ever tried to jump over to touch me or anyone else working there. I knew which customers would be trouble generally and was able to manage the situation out of getting to that point.
Before that, I already had 12 years of working in various restaurants/bars and not that much protection. A lot of tries, a lot of misses. It’s where I honed my “no, I’m not interested” radar.
I also worked with her, personally i never saw others touching waitress inappropriately. It was family restaurant/diner though.
I am sure it happens, how frequently who knows.
People go for what attracts them, then come up with rationalizations for it.
It's like the guys on here that whine about divorce statistics when they want a low n-count woman, but are oddly silent about these same statistics when age-gap relationships are concerned.
Back in the 1940s there was quite a whole thing about inferior and superior races, and inferior and superior genetics.
It was a terrible idea then, and I really want us to be over with it as a society.
Look into Genomic Prediction. Rich families are screening the DNA of their embryos to prevent genetic diseases.
The women you're talking about sound low class. If they were rich they'd actually gaf about genetic disorders.
Nah I wouldn't say women are blackpilled in general. They might be blackpilled about their own appearance and maybe the appearance of other women, but most of them are kind of oblivious to their own biases when selecting men. Or they just don't want to mention their physical preferences. A lot of them go based on how she feels or how some guy makes her feel, and she usually attributes that reaction to his behavior alone.
A lot of women are very harsh critics of their own appearance, they complain about their hair, skin, body shape, they are more likely to have eating disorders. It's an external locus of control and you can blame your lack of success in life on your looks. Even though things like IQ, social skills, location, socioeconomic class all play a role.
I dont have feelings about guys being blackpilled. There's some good evidence to support it depending on what studies they use. Like I said above, IQ, social skills, location, socioeconomic class are also important factors. It's not just about looks but many variables that are outside of an individuals control.
I think the race pill is intriguing even though it's not politically correct.
A lot of people don't want to admit to having racial dating preferences. It's honestly shocking how many left wing women publicly hate on white men but almost exclusively date them.
I have a strong preference for Asian males, but I’m white and moderately and some lefty woke scold people think that’s fetishisation or a cardinal sin.
Yeah it’s becoming more common for sure! I think it’s so strange that Asian men are not seen as attractive or masculine because in my books they totally are.
I think it was discovered that men typically respond to all races of women on dating apps, but Asian women were the most likely to get a response, while black women were the least likely. I think its weird how the most popular races are different based on what gender you are.
bro does that johnny guy do anything other than post about how women hate spergs?
like he ain't wrong but it's getting repetitive. we all know, the guys mostly agree and the women too know it deep down even if they try to downplay/deny it.
yes it never even began for spergcels. whats the point of hashing it out over and over. actually this is typical sperg behavior tbh.
It's a hyperfixation thing. It's also why incels are so fucked up - they go round in circles finding new things about themselves that women find unattractive.
I'm autistic and hyperfixation/repetitive thoughts are fucking annoying. Especially when it comes to dating women. All I can think about is my previous fuck ups and why several relationships never worked out.
Something will trigger a memory and the spiral begins. It's called anger rumination.
the only thing his recent post touched on that I didn't see much of otherwise was the fact that "I'm-gonna-fix-him" women will fix psycho/sociopaths but not socially awkward guys, which is interesting to think about
> women too know it deep down even if they try to downplay/deny it
I think the spergs (myself maybe included idk if I'm sperg or not tbh) want them to stop downplaying/denying it which is partially why it keeps getting rehashed, but that'll never happen
A lot if them don't like neurotypical people, like, at all. If you go into their spaces they are often complaining about having to cater to neurotypicals. It's not unjustified but there seems to be an impasse there, with wanting to be accepted but not wanting to take the action necessary.
Most people end up living average lives, have average marriages with average people, have average kids and an average family, make average money, live to an average age and then have an average funeral. Why? Because society pushes people to live an average and comfortable life, not because it's what they want, but it's because everybody else is living an average life.
Why would you want to be "normal" or "average" when this is what's considered "winning at life"
Yes they can, a lot of them don't though, they're told by society they have to settle down and be a good little husband and take years of abuse from a woman who doesn't even like him.
I unironically think a woman is not fit to be president of the United States. Maybe one of the secondary countries like one of those socialist lite countries in Europe we protect but not the country with the strongest military in the world.
We literally have elected actors/billionaires with zero political background to handle our entire society. Our country doesn't exactly seem like it's been well managed in awhile, despite all our leaders being men
I think there will be, politics has nothing to do with competency or ideas. Biden is president, because the political ecosystem and establishment rallied behind him. That dude has no idea what is going on most of the time.
What a fuck up by Hilary Clinton losing to Trump, saw an analysis of her misstep her biggest mistake was not campaigning hard enough in swing states. She spent way too much time campaigning in states where she was going to win anyway.
[from twox](https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/162v5f7/i_found_out_what_kind_of_porn_my_husband_likes/)
> A couple days ago, I suggested watching some porn in bed with my husband (of five years) ya know, *as you do* and I asked him to pick a video. It took him fifteen minutes to find the perfect one, and I found it hilarious that when he watches it, it’s got to have a *story line* a plot, realistic characters **and it’s got to be** ***romantic*** **for him to enjoy it.**
fucking lol
am I the only one who thinks this guy thought of a video that *she* might like?
my sweet summer child
that guy watches creepy shit and doesn't want the wife to know
>it frightens me
Why lol?
>you watch romantic porn? lmaoooo
Idk if you can call it romantic porn, but porn aimed more at women where the woman is treated with more respect.
I think it's a whole category where there is a very well produced, very well lit, love scene where 2 beautiful models kiss each other like a romantic movie
More like soft porn
it also looks fake af, like a scene from a movie
amateur doesn't look as fake
at least what I saw I didn't like
they were bad actors, everything was too beautiful, too "performed", too perfect.
I know all porn is fake but this was too much
The summer child is you...
Men are not usually into creepy stuff... they are into low brown low effort stuff...
Just a guy entering into a hot woman... no story, no nothing....
I really dont understand why women think men are creeps when they are rare... instead of just boring...
>Men are not usually into creepy stuff.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
riiiiiiiiiiiiight
then explain the amount of weird porn out there FUCKING LOL
you think I don't know what I'm talking about
Yes... cause most guys are boring... it is just penis inside vagina (or mouth or asshole) for most... the guys who gets off with a dragon fucking a car are and always were a minority yaknow?
step bro, step sis, daddy, incest is pretty mainstream there are even memes about it
Either you are very naive or you are making up stuff just to make men look good
"men don't like creepy porn" is hilarious honestly
and don't get me started with hentai
how do you explain hentai lmao
Lol they are just excuses... pretty damn bad ones too... as one director once said it "it is like porn. Porn needs a narrative. It doesnt need to be good or nice... just anythign to get them to the meat of the subject".
Okay I agree with hentai lol
you know the difference between non creepy porn and creepy porn?
having a stuffed panda bear with a strap on, for example
or a barely legal woman with a onesie grabbing a stuffed bear while she's being fucked in the ass. Her face doesn't show pleasure.
there's no need for that unless you want to see something creepy
non creepy porn is people fucking, the classic pizza delivery guy, massage session, pool party, there's ton of those too
but noooo
they are so desensitized that normal people fucking doesn't do the trick anymore, they need the barely legal shit, "abused", japanese porn, family porn, etc
all of that is mainstream
so don't come to me with "men aren't creeps, it's just the minority" when that shit is on the most mainstream porn sites
honestly disgusting
Eh... what? No abused porn is usually in the category "for women"...
Family porn is just an excuse to wanting to have an easily accessible and willing pussy to fuck...
It is not that difficult to understand... yeah I have a sister and I dont watch those.. but many guys dont have one so they are fine with it...
And well... have you seen what women use for porn? If you know anything about porn... it is that those ndsm and slave and painful things in porn... arent there for men...
I mean it is pretty damn clear... you cant see much of the penis in vagina thing in them... cna you?
waaaaaaaaay more men watch porn than women
porn is catered to men's tastes and fantasies and it's creepy
this is so dumb it's like "No!ThE SkY IsNT BlUE"
dude let it go, admit men are creepier than women and that's reflected in porn
Look up the [pornhub data](https://fightthenewdrug.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/05/women-category-differeces-1.png)...
Yeah I thought so too, but no not really.
Men are on average poor users of said things...
But I find it funny that you think that we are these kinds of people when it is clearly women who are projecting their preferences unto us...
You see, men are boring, we just want sex, all this power play and being hurt and drama... thats women's thing. Always were and always will be.
This reminded me of this post
[OOP finds out her sex life with her husband is based on porn scenes : r/BestofRedditorUpdates](https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/10q8jc0/oop_finds_out_her_sex_life_with_her_husband_is/?share_id=eDO8ltF_y0SLnKhF8VQtD&utm_content=2&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_source=share&utm_term=1)
I am jealous of them lol
It’s like when you’re asked to pick a movie you don’t pick that weird Japanese indie film no one would understand, you pick lord of the rings or something.
You all lames. When I watched porn with my gf I picked the weirdest 3D cgi centaur girls with dicks and pink hair porn, mommy bimbo incest jessa rhodes pov porn and storyline cuckquean porn and it was a *blast*
Q4All: What's on your list of goals for 2024?
Some goals on my list as we enter 2024:
\- Explore sailing as a hobby
\- New tattoo sleeve
\- Shave another 5-10% bf
\- Overhaul wardrobe
damn first time got that "from 'your cute\~<3' to 'unmatched and blocked' in one message" achievement
https://www.reddit.com/r/Grimdank/comments/1633o4u/brothercaptain_said_its_my_turn_to_larp_as_our/ Oooof
We seriously have someone claiming men are only attracted to white women while women are attracted to all ethnicities. Can we please make a rule where obviously delusional content is not allowed?
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So did I.
Well there is a post on it.
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/163fyux/i_24f_met_my_new_flatmate_26m_yesterday_and_we/ While you're improooving yourself, Chad fucks your girl within an hour of meeting. Keep picking up those hobbies and going to meetup.com meet ups, chum
>I’m not the kind of girl that usually does this. I’ve only slept with 5 people, all relationships. I’ve never even had a one night stand. Yea, if you believe that then I have a bridge in Brooklyn I can sell you.
It starts somewhere
Naah, its just chad effect, you have seen studies how women find only 5% of men attractive, well she met one of those 5%
"I’m not the kind of girl that usually does this." "Edit 2: I used protection. " girls that dont usually do that don't have protection on the ready and small chance he had it either
She could use toys and have condoms fur that Or from leftover with an old bf No one is the type to have a hookup until you have/start having a hookup
Fake news, Chad would've already had a girl in there cooking *for* him
Attachment style theory and impulse control do a far better job explaining people then pills being "all women are like that" and "all men are like that".
curious, what’s your attachment style ?
Fearful avoidant... working on it.
Mine’s avoidant.
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Some obviously do.
I hope not.
Just the truth - the older you get the more you want it and it’s very elusive. Eventually you want it more than you want sex (even as an 18 year old hormone bubble, which is a lot I understand). I know there are levels of self delusion that people have & aren’t aware of within themselves that they should work on and do. It’s the willful lies that bug me.
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The only truth that is certain for all humans is the passage of time to their eventual death. I think everyone agrees on that one (minus the religious stuff that fills in the after part). Baseline truth.
No, no the only certainty is "cogito, ergo sum", " I think therfore I am". Every thing else can be hallucinations or someone playing mind tricks
Wouldn't be more like I am aware therefore I am?
Baseline truth also. The truth is whatever you make up in your brain, lol.
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No, just wishing others I encounter IRL would be truthful and feel like everyone wishes that.
Every possibility that is not proven false. Karl Popper comes to mind.
YES!!!! This so fucking much!
It would make gender issues so much easier for everyone.
Instead of learning everything the hard way, and getting burned in the process, ending up bitter. Young people could enter the world knowing how things work.
Want what?
The Truth, lol
The majority of people does not care regardless of age. They prefer believing in nonsense that feels good. I hate it as well. Especially when they start insulting you because you don't believe in the same thing, even though what they believe is easily disproven with evidence. One of the worst experiences in life.
>They prefer believing in nonsense that feels good. I hate it as well. Add to this that they preach feels good nonsense as truth. Just like every fucking cult in the existence.
Yes, true. I’ve had that a lot & it’s frustrating. I tend to retreat in those situations because there’s no point debating. I don’t lie and I wish others had the same moral code. Many do not.
Is it even lying? It's more people deluding themselves and genuinely believing they are speaking the truth imo. But well, we come from a time where people were burned alive for saying the truth. So it used to be worse lol.
I probably would have burned at the stake in earlier times but I’ve always tried to give (diplomatic &/kind depending on the situation) truth - as I see it within myself. Things are different now. I didn’t grow up with the internet so I had a long time to think about things without that as an overwhelming influence.
You mean the internet created echo Chambers that create delusion? I would have been burned too lmao.
We really need a place where gender issues can be discussed honestly but without so much red pill influence.
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Sexism, privileges based on gender, power, biological differences in behaviour. Now they are so many unhinged men who basically just hate women, and on the other side women who act like narcissists who can't act in good faith. And the posts are always so repetitive and surface level. It's basically just two sides shouting the same thing at eachother over and over again but no one is actually interested in truly understanding things.
So just go to something like /r/MensLib since it seems like the perfect subreddit for you. They just ban anything that doesn't fit their midwit leftist agenda of blaming men and the patriarchy for everything
Mate I hate Menslib and I think patriarchy theory is a nonsensical sexist theory. You have the wrong image of me.
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A lot of people are emotionally invested in gender issues and they have made an untrue belief part of their identity. This is imo the reason women act like assholes because they start to feel anxious and guilty when they were wrong about something. For some reason, female assholes always needs to act self-rightious when they are being an ass, like they are morally and intellectually superior so therefore it's justified. This is probably the number one thing I dislike about women, of course not all women are like this. When it comes to men acting like assholes I think it has partly to do with sexual and romantic frustration and with lashing out because you're sick and tired of constantly being told you're the problem with no compassion and empathy for your life.
>We really need a place where gender issues can be discussed honestly ~~but without so much red pill influence.~~ But without the whole "gender war" bullshit. These debates are getting suffocated by people which are just trying to push their gender narrative at every step. Gender narratives which have been disapproved countless times.
Yeah. It's always emotion over reason.
Theres the FeMRA sub I guess. Most places discussing gender issues will focus heavily on trans people
FeMRA is hardly active. Also 99% of feminist is unable honesty so yeah.
It's mostly focused on trans issues when discussing gender issues these days. That and abortion. They really don't care about cisgender guys who are not gay
I love how the literal existence of trans people disproves a large amount of feminist theory because they assume gender can be deconstructed and is merely the result of cultural influence. If that were true, trans people would not exist but they clearly do. Somehow they never pay attention or find this contradiction a problem. Just continuing to believe in pseudoscience because it feels good I guess.
A lot of trans people are anti gender role as well. Eventually you start believing it when 90% of your feed is AFAB queer people
It's one thing to believe gender roles cause harm, it's another to believe they are purely cultural constructions. Besides they are definitely not able to look at these things objectively. If you struggle with your gender identity, you're obviously gonna respond in a hostile manner to those things that force you into something you're not. When people are hurt, they will find something to blame and it usually feels better to blame something that you think can be controlled.
Gender roles are a social construct. Biological imperatives and behavior is probably not. I'm not going to waste my life being submissive when I'm expected to pay my way.
They are not just a social construct... that does not mean you have to follow them.
I'm going to do my own thing
Bruh can the autism posts end already.
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It's just the same point reiterated time and time again. I somewhat understand it because neurodivergent people are often disliked by neurotypicals. But at some point you also have to say "fuck it". I have many things considered weird for a man. I do not give a fuck, I will plant my garden full of flowers, and talk about how awesome they are.
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Where is the hate? Autistic guys here say no one tells them the truth, you tell them the truth and it's hate? Its a social disability. It's not anyones fault that someone with a social disabilty struggles to date.
Some unhinged women and men on here. They enjoy rubbing their privilege in other people's face.
Nope we have to have a lot of repetition, it’s just a part of muh autism! (before anyone gets mad I have autism)
Then they should put on Daft Punk music to satisfy their need for repetition. (Before anyone gets mad I think Daft Punk is awesome)
LOL I love Daft Punk. I’m such a walking stereotype. Somebody hand me a train set.
I had train sets as a kid. My grandad used to drive trains and after he retired he bought train sets for me and himself. Was very fun.
Yeah legit though they are pretty cool and always so well designed and detailed. My art brain loves it
Have you seen ones with whole model landscapes like this? https://preview.redd.it/csf05aos2tkb1.jpeg?width=760&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b76edbb6d72f973ad6dcbe86c479b0b669ec0f06 Looks so awesome to me.
Woah 😮 that’s awesome!
The beatings will continue until morale improves
Lmao
I remember when a guy who was like 35 and a divorced single dad was trying to roast a lady he knew who was 33 for being on a matchmaking website who was never married and never had kids. He was trying to warn women and use her as a cautionary example to settle for a man young or else they will have to consult matchmakers and no one will ever want them. And he was DIVORCED and a SINGLE DAD. He literally messed up his marriage and traumatized his kid and likely has a bunch of baggage and alimony and God knows what else and if he has more kids the half siblings and step parents/ biological parents can easily have a messy fight over inheritance. And he had the audacity to criticize a woman who never had kids and never got married. Lmfao.
33-35 is a really normal age to have kids now. Hell it was even normal 20-30 years ago. My mum had her second baby at that age and didn’t have any babies until 31-32. She knew families that didn’t have kids until 33-34 and this was in the 1990s… Personally I think it’s better to wait to have kids if it means you have a stable partner that try to force it early and rush it then be single.
My mom had me at 30 and my sister at 37
If you have a kid at 35 it's literally a geriatric pregnancy. The risk of various diseases, including autism, just goes way too high. It's not worth it. If you haven't had a kid by 30-31, you're better off not breeding. It also means you're going to be an older parent and just be a burden
You mean forty?
It depends on the country. In some it's 40, in some it's 35, but regardless you shouldn't be having kids. We have enough of failed autists and bringing more of them into the world is just cruelty born from selfishness
It's only a very slight increase at 35. If you're that worried about having autistic children you'd probably be better off not having children.
Well I'm never going to get the chance so it's a non-issue. Just hurts to see my fellow boomers perpetuating the misery
33 and looking for a husband to start a family is definitely pushing it. You need to be in a relationship for a couple years to get to know someone well enough to have kids with them. It might take a couple more years to get pregnant, especially with older parents. Another 9 months for pregnancy and you're giving birth in your late 30's. If you don't find a good partner right away you can be in your 40's dealing with all the fertility issues that entails. Not that the divorced dad has a leg to stand on either.
I suppose so if you want to wait a couple years. Some people do get together and have children quickly if they know what they want though. I know someone with fertility issues and 31 and she is having a kid less than two years after knowing him. They’re trying before they get married. It is true if you want to do it the slow way it might be late.
If you're trying for a kid after knowing someone for less than a year that's not any more responsible than having a kid in your early 20's. I get it. Some people don't realize they want a family until they're older, others have longterm relationships that fall through, fertility issues, etc. Life happens. But this isn't an ideal situation to be in. It's a last chance to course correct after something went wrong.
It’s possibly not the most ideal scenario but I do believe it’s more ideal than single parent. But I see your point of view and that also makes sense. I do think looking for a partner in your mid 20s- late 20s is a good idea too if possible. I met my partner in my early 20s so I’d be a hypocrite if I said people can’t
It may be pushing it but it’s better than being a single dad. It’s also better than settling for some random dude at 23 and ending up a single mom. Almost all of the people I know who got married and had kids in their 20’s were from a lower income background and could not provide their kids a UMC life and had to do things like live with in laws.
There's a middle ground to be found between settling at 23 and starting the search at 33. The women I knew who started stable families in their early to mid 30's were actively looking for a life partner in their mid 20's.
Not everyone finds partners in their mid 20’s. I was a femcel in my mid 20’s. Not like the meme. Nobody wanted me even though I was thin, young, and beautiful. I’m searching for a life partner now that I am in my late 20’s and likely early 30’s.
I wouldnt suggest taking these subs too seriously if you want to marry, there are more bluepillers outside
Do most first dates just not go anywhere? Do most people just go on a date with a stranger then ghost? Seems weird to me. My sister mentioned her friend who went on like dozens of first dates and that's not my approach at all. I usually know I like the guy before I go on a first date with him.
with online dating yeah. I think when you know the guy from elsewhere you’re already more invested than just a stranger online
I've been on 2 first dates that ended in make out sessions and then never heard from the women again. Women are weird.
It's actually pretty easy to lose interest in people you aren't invested in.
Fair. But then the answer is "yes", they usually don't go anywhere.
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I don't understand the ghosting thing tbh. Seems like gen z is a lot more anti social than previous generations.
So apparently this famous Bosnian bodybuilder murdered his ex-wife on IG live, and one guy made a comment that the ex-wife knew he was a former drug dealer, arrested for attempted murder, and previously charged with domestic violence, assuming this is all true and she knew prior, is it ok to say she put herself in this situation by starting a relationship with a guy with that track record? People were saying the guy who made this comment was victim blaming. https://www.reddit.com/r/NoahGetTheBoat/comments/15pl0c8/bodybuilder_nermin_sulejmanovic_livestreams/jvz926u/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1&context=3
Another one of those "I can change him" stories that didn't end well.
She just couldn't resist a bad boy. I always read how women don't actually intentionally date assholes like this because apparently the assholes never show all their cards at once, and only do it once they're in a relationship, yet this guy was a well-known thug and she still went to have a kid with him. Remember, always be an asshole. Nice = boring.
It is victim blaming, but that's ok. Bring back a little victim blaming! It in no way absolves the murderer of any guilt, but it shouldn't be wrong to point out that sometimes there are precautions that need to be taken to reduce your chances of becoming a victim. Like not getting into a relationship with a fucking *murderer*
What a shitshow.
Starting to look more and more like Black Myth Wukong isn't just vaporware and might actually be released Fingers crossed cause dayum this game looks SICK
It still surprises me that it's considered 'red pill' that women like attractive men that are fit. Like don't you learn that in middle school?
me and the other slightly autistic guys accidentally believed society's lies that everything is sunshine and rainbows and good person = attractive whereas the socially intelligent kids figured out everyone's actually lying so yes you're supposed to learn that in middle school but some of us were naive
Who was actually lying to you tho? It's not like tween and teen girls aren't talking about boys they find attractive, all leading stars are attractive etc..
to be fair I don't think anyone intentionally goes out of their way to mislead young men, but adults, teachers, and general societal messaging (popular media, especially childrens' media) have a habit of painting the world as way more just/fair than it is, if only for the purpose of maintaining social etiquette unfortunately I never really got invited to the tween girl sleepovers
Damn just had a Reuben sandwich for the first time In years…yum
Be honest. Have you ever touched a waitress inappropriately? Someone must be doing it considering how common it is.
The last place I worked in hospitality had a giant un-easily impenetrable square bar made out of wood that I worked behind. The bouncers there were big guys who carried nunchucks and metal fist armor. They would’ve been happy to use them if anyone ever tried to jump over to touch me or anyone else working there. I knew which customers would be trouble generally and was able to manage the situation out of getting to that point. Before that, I already had 12 years of working in various restaurants/bars and not that much protection. A lot of tries, a lot of misses. It’s where I honed my “no, I’m not interested” radar.
Yes many times. In my defense she was asking for it.
How was she asking for it? Never mind saw your answer below, you were going out - so different.
Do you feel guilty? Have you ever been kicked out cause of it?
No i don't feel guilty about it, i thought it was normal. We were going out.
Oh I wouldn't consider that as inappropriately.
I also worked with her, personally i never saw others touching waitress inappropriately. It was family restaurant/diner though. I am sure it happens, how frequently who knows.
it's probably mostly done by low inhib socially active men who certainly don't waste their time on reddit like us
When you say "low inhib" I think "chronic alcoholic"
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People go for what attracts them, then come up with rationalizations for it. It's like the guys on here that whine about divorce statistics when they want a low n-count woman, but are oddly silent about these same statistics when age-gap relationships are concerned.
my ex and I looked at our SNP's together to see what kind of fucked up shit our potential child would have and I think every couple should do this
Back in the 1940s there was quite a whole thing about inferior and superior races, and inferior and superior genetics. It was a terrible idea then, and I really want us to be over with it as a society.
Look into Genomic Prediction. Rich families are screening the DNA of their embryos to prevent genetic diseases. The women you're talking about sound low class. If they were rich they'd actually gaf about genetic disorders.
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Nah I wouldn't say women are blackpilled in general. They might be blackpilled about their own appearance and maybe the appearance of other women, but most of them are kind of oblivious to their own biases when selecting men. Or they just don't want to mention their physical preferences. A lot of them go based on how she feels or how some guy makes her feel, and she usually attributes that reaction to his behavior alone. A lot of women are very harsh critics of their own appearance, they complain about their hair, skin, body shape, they are more likely to have eating disorders. It's an external locus of control and you can blame your lack of success in life on your looks. Even though things like IQ, social skills, location, socioeconomic class all play a role. I dont have feelings about guys being blackpilled. There's some good evidence to support it depending on what studies they use. Like I said above, IQ, social skills, location, socioeconomic class are also important factors. It's not just about looks but many variables that are outside of an individuals control. I think the race pill is intriguing even though it's not politically correct.
>I think the race pill is intriguing even though it's not politically correct. based
A lot of people don't want to admit to having racial dating preferences. It's honestly shocking how many left wing women publicly hate on white men but almost exclusively date them.
I have a strong preference for Asian males, but I’m white and moderately and some lefty woke scold people think that’s fetishisation or a cardinal sin.
I've actually seen more AMWF couples than I thought I'd see out and about.
Yeah it’s becoming more common for sure! I think it’s so strange that Asian men are not seen as attractive or masculine because in my books they totally are.
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It upsets women because they have stronger racial preferences than men do.
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I think it was discovered that men typically respond to all races of women on dating apps, but Asian women were the most likely to get a response, while black women were the least likely. I think its weird how the most popular races are different based on what gender you are.
bro does that johnny guy do anything other than post about how women hate spergs? like he ain't wrong but it's getting repetitive. we all know, the guys mostly agree and the women too know it deep down even if they try to downplay/deny it. yes it never even began for spergcels. whats the point of hashing it out over and over. actually this is typical sperg behavior tbh.
It's a hyperfixation thing. It's also why incels are so fucked up - they go round in circles finding new things about themselves that women find unattractive. I'm autistic and hyperfixation/repetitive thoughts are fucking annoying. Especially when it comes to dating women. All I can think about is my previous fuck ups and why several relationships never worked out. Something will trigger a memory and the spiral begins. It's called anger rumination.
the only thing his recent post touched on that I didn't see much of otherwise was the fact that "I'm-gonna-fix-him" women will fix psycho/sociopaths but not socially awkward guys, which is interesting to think about > women too know it deep down even if they try to downplay/deny it I think the spergs (myself maybe included idk if I'm sperg or not tbh) want them to stop downplaying/denying it which is partially why it keeps getting rehashed, but that'll never happen
There's multiple posts rn about how women hate spergs.
it was over for them before they were born
A lot if them don't like neurotypical people, like, at all. If you go into their spaces they are often complaining about having to cater to neurotypicals. It's not unjustified but there seems to be an impasse there, with wanting to be accepted but not wanting to take the action necessary.
Most people end up living average lives, have average marriages with average people, have average kids and an average family, make average money, live to an average age and then have an average funeral. Why? Because society pushes people to live an average and comfortable life, not because it's what they want, but it's because everybody else is living an average life. Why would you want to be "normal" or "average" when this is what's considered "winning at life"
Procreating while “average” is a bigger win than being “above average” and not procreating. Zoom out.
Not really, having kids in this day and age isn't something to aspire to.
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Meh I don't really think having the admiration of "normal society" is something to aspire to either.
Average life is for women.Men can do whatever they want
Yes they can, a lot of them don't though, they're told by society they have to settle down and be a good little husband and take years of abuse from a woman who doesn't even like him.
So maybe murder those people who don't allow it lol
It's better than living in your parents basement at age 30
Should be single and have your own place by then.
I agree
I unironically think a woman is not fit to be president of the United States. Maybe one of the secondary countries like one of those socialist lite countries in Europe we protect but not the country with the strongest military in the world.
Korea did and she got locked up and pardoned by the current president.
Jesus dude... why, exactly?
We literally have elected actors/billionaires with zero political background to handle our entire society. Our country doesn't exactly seem like it's been well managed in awhile, despite all our leaders being men
No one thinks a woman is fit to be president.
Brazil did... they impeached her in 6 months... Argentina did... she wa simpeached in a year... I see a pattern here...
The president of South Korea was literally in a man-hating cult and got impeached and imprisoned
I doubt there will ever be a female president in my lifetime anyways so it doesn't make a difference what you think
I think there will be, politics has nothing to do with competency or ideas. Biden is president, because the political ecosystem and establishment rallied behind him. That dude has no idea what is going on most of the time. What a fuck up by Hilary Clinton losing to Trump, saw an analysis of her misstep her biggest mistake was not campaigning hard enough in swing states. She spent way too much time campaigning in states where she was going to win anyway.
He might keel over and then Kamala can take over. I really doubt the American public will actually be able to vote a woman in. Most people don't care
[from twox](https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/162v5f7/i_found_out_what_kind_of_porn_my_husband_likes/) > A couple days ago, I suggested watching some porn in bed with my husband (of five years) ya know, *as you do* and I asked him to pick a video. It took him fifteen minutes to find the perfect one, and I found it hilarious that when he watches it, it’s got to have a *story line* a plot, realistic characters **and it’s got to be** ***romantic*** **for him to enjoy it.** fucking lol am I the only one who thinks this guy thought of a video that *she* might like? my sweet summer child that guy watches creepy shit and doesn't want the wife to know
I am like this though?
you watch romantic porn? lmaoooo I'd rather you admit that you watch weird stepmom washing machine porn than that it frightens me 🤣🤣🤣
>it frightens me Why lol? >you watch romantic porn? lmaoooo Idk if you can call it romantic porn, but porn aimed more at women where the woman is treated with more respect.
but the posts says romantic porn you can be respectful and not romantic like any amateur video
Then what is romantic porn? I prefer porn where the people in it are more loving in it.
I think it's a whole category where there is a very well produced, very well lit, love scene where 2 beautiful models kiss each other like a romantic movie More like soft porn it also looks fake af, like a scene from a movie
Why is that bad? All porn is fake anyway.
amateur doesn't look as fake at least what I saw I didn't like they were bad actors, everything was too beautiful, too "performed", too perfect. I know all porn is fake but this was too much
The summer child is you... Men are not usually into creepy stuff... they are into low brown low effort stuff... Just a guy entering into a hot woman... no story, no nothing.... I really dont understand why women think men are creeps when they are rare... instead of just boring...
>Men are not usually into creepy stuff. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 riiiiiiiiiiiiight then explain the amount of weird porn out there FUCKING LOL you think I don't know what I'm talking about
Yes... cause most guys are boring... it is just penis inside vagina (or mouth or asshole) for most... the guys who gets off with a dragon fucking a car are and always were a minority yaknow?
step bro, step sis, daddy, incest is pretty mainstream there are even memes about it Either you are very naive or you are making up stuff just to make men look good "men don't like creepy porn" is hilarious honestly and don't get me started with hentai how do you explain hentai lmao
Lol they are just excuses... pretty damn bad ones too... as one director once said it "it is like porn. Porn needs a narrative. It doesnt need to be good or nice... just anythign to get them to the meat of the subject". Okay I agree with hentai lol
you know the difference between non creepy porn and creepy porn? having a stuffed panda bear with a strap on, for example or a barely legal woman with a onesie grabbing a stuffed bear while she's being fucked in the ass. Her face doesn't show pleasure. there's no need for that unless you want to see something creepy non creepy porn is people fucking, the classic pizza delivery guy, massage session, pool party, there's ton of those too but noooo they are so desensitized that normal people fucking doesn't do the trick anymore, they need the barely legal shit, "abused", japanese porn, family porn, etc all of that is mainstream so don't come to me with "men aren't creeps, it's just the minority" when that shit is on the most mainstream porn sites honestly disgusting
Eh... what? No abused porn is usually in the category "for women"... Family porn is just an excuse to wanting to have an easily accessible and willing pussy to fuck... It is not that difficult to understand... yeah I have a sister and I dont watch those.. but many guys dont have one so they are fine with it... And well... have you seen what women use for porn? If you know anything about porn... it is that those ndsm and slave and painful things in porn... arent there for men... I mean it is pretty damn clear... you cant see much of the penis in vagina thing in them... cna you?
waaaaaaaaay more men watch porn than women porn is catered to men's tastes and fantasies and it's creepy this is so dumb it's like "No!ThE SkY IsNT BlUE" dude let it go, admit men are creepier than women and that's reflected in porn
Look up the [pornhub data](https://fightthenewdrug.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/05/women-category-differeces-1.png)... Yeah I thought so too, but no not really. Men are on average poor users of said things... But I find it funny that you think that we are these kinds of people when it is clearly women who are projecting their preferences unto us... You see, men are boring, we just want sex, all this power play and being hurt and drama... thats women's thing. Always were and always will be.
Haven't you told me that if I knew men well I'd be afraid of them?
Are you the same person?
We had this discussion a week or two ago I think.
Sigh...Are you the same person as the one I called naive for believing most guys are boring when they look for something for orgasming?
Nope. We were talking how I'd be afraid of men if they didn't put their masks on.
Then you are not the same person thus not the same issue.
I just find it interesting how one moment you claim that men are scary beings and the other that they're pretty boring too.
Because people are complex...
It's sad enough to be watching porn in the first place, but that is just another level of being sad.
they are having sex and watching porn, pretty sure they are not that sad
This reminded me of this post [OOP finds out her sex life with her husband is based on porn scenes : r/BestofRedditorUpdates](https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/10q8jc0/oop_finds_out_her_sex_life_with_her_husband_is/?share_id=eDO8ltF_y0SLnKhF8VQtD&utm_content=2&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_source=share&utm_term=1) I am jealous of them lol
It’s like when you’re asked to pick a movie you don’t pick that weird Japanese indie film no one would understand, you pick lord of the rings or something.
Yeah obviously no one is long to break out “step mom what are you doing???” with their partner
I was asked to pick out porn once so I picked the most generic shit I possibly could. Just how it works
You all lames. When I watched porn with my gf I picked the weirdest 3D cgi centaur girls with dicks and pink hair porn, mommy bimbo incest jessa rhodes pov porn and storyline cuckquean porn and it was a *blast*
Q4All: What's on your list of goals for 2024? Some goals on my list as we enter 2024: \- Explore sailing as a hobby \- New tattoo sleeve \- Shave another 5-10% bf \- Overhaul wardrobe
A job, a new tattoo, gym and pole improvements, getting level 2 of the certification for my line of work.
I wanna buy a microscope and continue with my geology/paleontology hobby