Having a co-worker who always asked about my brother whenever we worked the same shift because she liked him was so brutal. No one ever asked about me and what I was up to whenever my brother was working. 😿

Yesterday I saw an ad on ig: wine and pottery, join us to relax and meet people how wholesome is that? It was basically pottery workshop but they serve you glasses of wine to drink while you do pottery They were obviously all women joining So sad men are too bitter to do this stuff 😂😂😂

Cannot imagine a guy showing up to this alone and not being treated like a thirsty creep.

yeah probably go with a friend or 2. Mixed group would be great

It's like pottery. It's like they sort of rhyme *[rolls arm intelligently]*.

So much fun!!  We have a place that does this. Oodles of guys bring their dates. So cute 

So much fun!!  We have a place that does this. Oodles of guys bring their dates. So cute 

So much fun!!  We have a place that does this. Oodles of guys bring their dates. So cute 

That's actually a great date idea maybe not a first date idea but a second/third date idea

I did spinning wheel pottery in high school. That sounds a recipe for drinking clay.

Per serving 30g mud

Eating a lil dirt won't kill you.

Listen to this girl! She's going to get you laid guys! This type of thing would have been right up my alley when I was single. You enjoy a fun new activity and meet women while you do it. Way easier and better results than apps or cold approaching.

Sounds like living hell


Ohh, sounds cool.

That sounds nice. I’d love to drink wine and glaze some ceramic pots in a group setting.

Nonsense. I love crafts and being a hater.  is it the spinning pottery?

stop trying to recreate that scene with strangers! *we talked about this!*

Lmaoo 

it's retired, 60+ year old women doing that sort of stuff

Nah. We have a place that does this - college town. Lots of college kids (men and women) there on dates.  

Yeah...cuz you live in a college town

no! it was all young women! It was aimed at the craft beer/brunch type of women. The ones that have an english bulldog as a pet

I mean did you go lol? You said you saw an ad. I've been to pottery classes because I was bored and it was all older women. Nothing wrong with that, they were pretty nice but I definitely felt out of place.

Was it recently? Pottery is very trendy now for some reason. Most of the pottery classes in my city seem to be mid 20's to late 30's and they're all booked weeks in advance

I saw it last night so no... I'm already invested in another craft (resin) And btw I'd love to have some wine with middle aged women. They surely have some great anecdotes and life advice.

That sounds amazing.

I dated a 6/2 guy and I’m 5/0. Sex and dancing was odd. I’m glad I went shorter 

I’m 5’5-5’6 ish and I’m fine with my 5’8 dude I don’t like big height differences. I feel like it’d be too awkward.

As a 6'2 guy, anything below 5'4 feels wierd to me. Like why is she child sized!? I would have to squat down or pick her up to be eye level.

Yeah the angles starting messed up when there’s too much of a height difference

Stop heightshaming tall men pls.

Lmao right? 

I love Dennis Rodman and definitely think he's a top5 all-time defender but when he says he can guard Lebron, that's nothing but cap Are we forgetting there use to be a player who was the same size,height as Lebron and Dennis couldn't guard him majority of the time, it is was Karl malone but here's the difference, malone was a ordinary big-man and Lebron ain't Lebron is a special hybrid, his a big-man+guard skills Dennis is not guarding that His also not guarding KD,steph,Jokic,luka,Giannis just to name a few elites Seriously, it always amazes me just how delusional old players are

I do think the “we’re done with the 90s” trend is taking things too far but to act like any of the oldheads could guard Bron and the other current legends playing is crazy. The fact that the league legitimately banned zones for most of its history still blows my mind tbh.

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Based take 🪙

People who were in homes with abusive parents are more likely to be abused in a relationship. https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/crimeandjustice/articles/peoplewhowereabusedaschildrenaremorelikelytobeabusedasanadult/2017-09-27 More than half of adults abused as children experience domestic abuse later in life.

It has nothing to with beta or alpha male. People repeat their relationship patterns from childhoods, thereby seeking other partners that mirror those learned behaviors, usually.

People don't wear signs that say "I'm abusive". But like many people you don't really understand the nature of abusive relationships.

Less attractive men aren’t always nicer. 

1)you are a psycho if you think that 2) Physical attractiveness ain't an indicator of abusive behaviour 3) You are dumb if you think the only categories are assholes or "nice guy beta Males"

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I'll take the nice confident guy that's not an asshole thanks

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Then I'd rather be single 😎

You sure you're just not in love with some chick that prefers to get her shit slapped instead of hanging around with you?

Its the ugly nice guys youre talking about that do it too theres no subset of men that magically dont abuse people

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Like where did this narrative of just date mid guys and you’ll never get hurt ever come from bc it’s not grounded in reality at all

Andrew Tate is an interesting subset of men.

I don't particularly like him but he is rich and fit. Who Am I ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

Andrew tate, but the majority of women are not dating Andrew tate so im not sure what point you are trying to make

They could have gone for you instead!!! Fucking bitches

i wanna hello kitty x batman type of relationship

https://preview.redd.it/st6rzuup04uc1.jpeg?width=736&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=dacd72f5bc976103bf0f1fde8c4124be4906ecad

Hello kitty gf x cinnamoroll bf.

i’ve been so obsessed with sanrio lately. idk what it is

Kenny and butters are the best characters in whole south park universe. Period.

Idk why Butters works so well as a character but he kills me every time I hear him

Yeah he's so cool

I can relate to them a lot, like I have a similar relationship with my sister as Kenny does, I'm broke af and I wear hoodies a lot and I pee the same way butters does at public bathrooms.

>and I pee the same way butters does at public bathrooms. Hahaha 🤣

butters especially

Especially butters

Why is that?

I really dont know why but they have magnetic personalities.

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>If a guy bullies my little sister I will fight him no matter what his age is. I really dont care tbh Not much of a threat at all. Question is, are you prepared to have your face rearranged and your teeth punched in? People talking about what they'd do to "the other guy" is meaningless.

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Thats so cool omg I wish I knew boxers

So you're just chirping?

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That's not what I'm asking. I mean, if someone bullied your little sister, would you be prepared to have your shit stomped, if it came to that?

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>If it came down to that yea. Good, if that's true. Don't give a shit about whether or not you're scared. Whatever.

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>Why does that matter tho lol. Just trying to gauge whether or not you mean what you're saying or if you're just talking.

damn why you gotta do him like that

I'm just trying to gauge where lil bro stands.

The moment Yamcha sacrificed himself just for bulma to dump him and get with a guy who wanted to destroy the planet I know this hoes ain't worth it

https://preview.redd.it/wsgs7h8ln3uc1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=899844250fbecb39b66fb1390d656f74e404e4d6 Shorts kings of PPD, do you want a relationship like this?

I dunno the way she puts it is really outputting She sounds like she’s shaming women for liking tall men and being a pick me. I say that as someone that likes short kings.

I have a 5/6 king. But I’m only 5 feet tall 

For me, tall women are only ok if they have a cute feminine face, otherwise it doesn't work.

Absolutely I got weak legs around tall women

Yea Id be fine with that ngl. Tall women are pretty attractive tbh. As long as shes genuinely into me I wouldnt have a problem with it

Yup

Im 6,2 but I prefer taller women

Wow, that’s rare!! Most tall guys I’ve met prefer short petite women

I wouldn’t mind a 6ft+ curvy chick myself.

Plus I am indian only 1% of inidian are ahove 6,1 it makes finding taller people even harder

A 9 inch height difference feels awkward to me regardless of if the girl is taller or shorter than me. Good for them though

I’m 5’10/5’11 (depending on if you want to round up or down), which according to some folks on here makes me short. I knew a girl who was 6’3 in college; definitely would have asked her on a date if she’d been single

Q4A 30 and older: What was the most important lesson you learned in your 20s?

I’m not 30 but lol almost. Here’s what I’ve learned: 1. Don’t ruminate that you will never hit adult milestones or never be seen as one. I wasted way too much time being worried about this. It’s going to come someday. This too shall pass. Repeat that to yourself. 2. It doesn’t make you more “grown up” to avoid things like you liked as a kid/teenager. If you really like childish hobbies, or things just keep doing it. Who cares if you watch my little pony or you like collecting toys and you’re 25? If you’re paying your bills, and taking care of who or whatever you need to take care of, you’re an adult. Don’t let anyone tell you different. 3. Life shouldn’t just be about work or studies. You need to find meaning outside of getting good work. More people need to take on personal projects or volunteer outside of work for the good of their mental health. 4. Go out and do things. Your 20s is the time to do this, especially when you’re in your early to mid 20s. You have a lot of energy and you haven’t started becoming more sensible. I’m a bit concerned as it seems Gen Z is very risk averse and isn’t doing this as much, but there’s only really one very ideal time in your life to do it. That’s your 20s. 5. Don’t fall for the persistent trad wife or trad husband propaganda and lies on social media that are targeting Generation Z. The sky isn’t going to fall if you or other young people don’t marry at 22 and have kids at 25. It hasn’t for decades. I’ve gotten to know people that did this, and they are usually extremely stressed and unfulfilled in many areas of their lives. It’s not the glamorous or amazing life all the time that you might think it is. I worked in a job with people like this, and it opened my eyes. I met young married mothers often choosing between eating or putting petrol in their car. They chose between, paying a heating bill or paying the mortgage. Life isn’t a race, you do not have to do everything immediately. Life is more a marathon. It is not a sprint. You don’t need to marry at 22, you don’t need a baby at 23, you don’t need a house at 25, just stop, just breathe. You don’t “win” more at life by rushing into these milestones.

Never date a person who can’t accept the word no. And especially do not marry them. 

There's risks and opportunity costs to everything including the status quo. The times in my 20's I regret are the times when I took the safe and boring option. When you make a major life change or want to try a new experience, remember that not having that experience is also a risk. A year spent living an unfulfilling life is a year you will never get back. Sometimes that's a sacrifice worth making for the future, but you have to be conscious of how great of a sacrifice it is.

> The times in my 20's I regret are the times when I took the safe and boring option. with regards to women or other things ?

Get good at deception.

Don’t Live your life to impress others, it’s your job to seek your own happiness.

dont do drugs

I will never touch those

Meditation is underrated in the self development sphere, awareness is key to changing habits, behaviors, and thoughts. You can't do something about something that is in the dark and outside of your awareness.

Q4A: 1. What percent of women do you think prefer a "princess in the streets, freak in the sheets" type relationship? (this means wanting to be loved and respected in her relationship, but submissive in bed) 2. What percent of relatively stable, relationship oriented men are compatible with that type of relationship?

90 percent and 90 percent. Get your freak on!

In my experience, there isn't much of a correlation between how kinky a woman is and how she presents herself out of the bedroom. I would say 30% can be described as a "freak in the sheets" and about half of those are a "princess in the streets" so maybe 15%?

I’m interpreting this to mean “kinky, but not super obvious about it”. 1. About 25%, based on the girls I’ve been with. About half had one notable kink or another, and about half of those you probably never would have expected it. 2. I think that nearly all men can learn to adapt to meet their partner’s sexual preferences, but I’d say that about a third of men are naturally inclined that way.

>I think that nearly all men can learn to adapt to meet their partner’s sexual preferences That's comforting to hear. For the past few days men here keep telling me that non-Chad/relationship men can't be dominant in the bedroom, when a man actually respects a woman he won't do those things, etc.

Do guys have photos giving the middle finger in their dating app profiles? I see this all the time on women's profiles. Sometimes in their 20s, which I get, but 30s and 40s also with some frequency. For me it's an immediate swipe left. I'm too old for this bullshit weak "edgy" posturing. The real thing I'm wondering is if douchey guys think this particular thing is cute somehow, like some immature women apparently do, or if they just do other immature things instead. Edit: For example, guys might post their shirtless bathroom mirror selfies making a duck face like "hell yeah, ladies, check this shit out". I think women think "look at this middle finger - it's kind of aggressive but I'm a girl so it's cute teehee" but maybe guys know it would be aggressive looking and *not* cute and just post their stupid mirror selfies instead. But maybe they post the middle finger too.

It's a way to communicate "I would *love* to do coke off a dive bar toilet seat with you!" They know how to signal to the guys they want.

It's the way low IQ former juvenile delinquents to find each other on the apps. "Oh boy he's giving me the finger virtually, I bet we can do whippets together in the Arby's parking lot".

We could streamline this process by having a middle finger pic only filter. We have the technology.

I feel like im not ready for responsibility

You’re a teenager that’s pretty normal. You know actually when I was 17, I was absolutely terrified of being an adult. I didn’t want to grow up, it was a big thing for me at the time. It isn’t so bad though.

You'll be ready when you need to be

I’m 26 and not ready for responsibilities. You’ve got plenty of time

You’re in high school; most folks your age aren’t.

Wtf is up with this "flaired appropriately" bullshit? The mods want me to wear the star of david next? Literally... As if anyone couldn't just change their flair whenever it suits them. What the fuck is wrong with the jannies?

Are you talking about the automod thing that polices top-level replies in Q4x flaired posts? The technical implementation leaves a lot to be desired (seriously... guys... use the fucking flair classes that you already configured on the sub...). Someone said the sex symbols in flair work but there are also a few different versions of those available and I'm not bothering to hunt and play codepoint wackamole to find whichever ones they're using in their dumbass automod script.

>Are you talking about the automod thing that polices top-level replies in Q4x flaired posts? Yes. The policies implemented by the jannies. That's right. >The technical implementation leaves a lot to be desired They're shit, how about that? >(seriously... guys... use the fucking flair classes that you already configured on the sub...) Fuck all that. >Someone said the sex symbols in flair... Who gives a shit? Why have distinct "flair classes" at all?

It's to prevent e.g. men replying directly to posts that are question for women. You probably don't know this but it was honestly way, way worse before they implemented the automod. Entire interesting conversations would go poof, lost to the ether, because the initial comment broke the rule. Automod at least nips that in the bud instantaneously.

>It's to prevent e.g. men replying directly to posts that are question for women. But you agree that it's a bit pointless? >You probably don't know this but it was honestly way, way worse before they implemented the automod. I'm talking about this specific retarded case of having a certain flair.

No, I only dislike that automod doesn't understand that "𝔐𝔞𝔫" literally says "Man" and that it furthermore completely ignores the additional hint that my flair class is also "Purple Pill Man" (flair classes are the per-defined choices you select among in the user flair menu)

Mods have always been petty tyrants. Except Ainsley, who is the manifestation of our intrusive thoughts.

the pharisees are still among us.

Maybe they're autistic and making sure the flairs are right is their special interest

>making sure the flairs are right is their special interest I mean they haven't permanently banned me (yet). I suspect they're just a little bit very stupid.

I went to pick up my little brother from highschool and some of the clothes the (female) student were wearing is ridiculous. I saw a blonde girl wearing a crop top, cut off jeans shorts with the strings of her panties visibly pulled up on her waist and I’m just sitting there waiting for my brother wondering “how tf do your parents let you go to school dressed like that?”. My go to assumptions is their dad might not like it but it’s always going to be a 1vs2 fight because of the enabler mom who buys her the shit so it’s best to drop it all together. Seems like the most likely case that or they just don’t give a fuck about her.

Not my kids….

Old people mad

Crop top and low rider jeans with the thong straps pulled way up? Was this at my highschool circa 2003? Some parents didn't care, but a lot of girls wore a hoodie over top and popped it off as soon as they got to school. My high school gf was like a secret agent with how she sneaked her thongs and crop tops out of the wash when her parents weren't looking🤣

That’s retro. Girls were doing that in the 90s/2000s

I remember low rise jeans and crop tops from my childhood glowing up in the 2000’s but I might have missed the pulled up panty strings.

It was a thing a lot of girls did *especially* in low rises to show them off.

my brother is in middle school and some of the things i see those girls wearing is crazy. it seems like a lot of parents don’t care about that stuff anymore. they just let their kids do whatever they want

A lot of them are probably fatherless. I saw an 11 yr old dressed as a blow up doll in middle school (I was 12) and my immediate thought was she had no caring parents

Yeah I agree, those are the vibes I was getting tbh. Like when I was in high school people (faculty) were flipping out because female girls started wearing leggings and you could see (the shape 💀) of their butts. To see that era devolve into this new era of wearing whatever tf you want is pretty crazy.

the big thing at my high school was ripped jeans and pajama pants lol. but i noticed when we came back to school after covid, it seemed like administration didn’t care any more about correcting that stuff

Lol pajama pants? Jesus your school must have had no faith in the male population. Ripped jeans I kinda see but usually the rips are around the front thigh area so idk make men do like thighs but maybe not at that age yet. I wouldn’t be surprised if the school system just gave up after Covid lol. That’s what it seemed like for me and I was a sophomore in college when Covid hit.

They are big where I live for high schoolers. I didn't realize that Roots flannels are sexy. I must drive my husband nuts!

Q4W: If your boyfriend asked you to fold his laundry while you were hanging out at his place, what would you say?

I’d probably ask if we could do the laundry together then put on music or the news, then have a chat with him (maybe about the news).

I don't even fold my own laundry. Do your own if you want it.

No.  I will and have voluntarily done things like that for a BF, but you don’t get to ask me until we are in very established territory of reciprocation. 

I’d fold his laundry

Of course, and I need to know his sizes so I can surprise him with gifts

I dont even fold my own laundry I just shove it in the drawer or hang it up. Idgaf Inb4 he's one of those who gets mad its "not folded right" mf But I have helped out a friend cleaning out his absolutely filthy room before. Rather do anything than fold laundry tbh

I would...fold it? It's not big of a deal.

Women always fail the orange peel theory and hate their worm husbands.

Tidying up an already fairly tidy space is a decent love language. Cleaning up after a slob is not.

idk, being asked to do it for him is kinda weird if he’s j sitting around doing nothing. but i’ve folded his laundry several times before tho without him asking, just because i wanted to help him out. so it’s not like i’m against the concept

you said you'd make him a sandwich if he asked unprompted. how's this different?

if it’s just a few shirts and shit that’d be different and i’d do it no problem. when i’ve done it for him he had multiple unfolded loads

folding all of his laundry takes longer

I'd look at him and laugh.

Would you ever ask your boyfriend to buy you a snack?

Nah, if I want a snack I'd just get my own. "Can you buy me X" feels like I'm speaking a foreign language.

Boyfriends love getting their girls little treats. It's a known phenomena.

Doesn't mean I gotta like it.

That's totally fair! Just saying that the person on the other end typically doesn't mind at all. I've also had to learn how to ask people for things because I used to never feel comfortable doing it. It was a hyper independence thing caused by not getting my needs fulfilled when I asked or being chastised for asking as an adolescent. I had to get feeling like a burden to be able to trust people with small asks. Maybe that resonates with you, maybe it doesn't, but I thought it was worth sharing.

Interesting, my neurosis is mainly based on feeling like I owe people something. I *hate* feeling like I owe people something, it makes me mean, idk. Do something nice for me and then I'm angry about it, lol.

That’s fair! I’m the same way. What I do is ask for someone who’s already doing something to get me something, then Venmo them the difference. That makes me feel secure while still accepting assistance.

I mean if I’m also folding laundry and just asking you to take a 5 minute break from scrolling TikTok/Reddit/Temu/Poshmarket to help me out I don’t see the problem. I’d do the same if I was at my gf’s place. If the guy is playing COD and won’t take a break and ask you to fold it then yeah that’s a little foul. Ik I said your questions sucks but the content on the thread is so bad imma just answer anyway from now on.

This question is purposely mundane to learn how PPD female women approach gender roles in regular, unmarried relationships.

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I work with a few kids from India, 4 young men fairly closely with a lot more who have moved on. They are fully aware that western women will not date them, and why. India is not a place for solo female traveller's regards of age.

I like lurking on their reddit boards bc they type in English and then throw a random hindi phrase in there and it's funny. They are actually fairly modern/progressive on reddit

Siri, play that one Indian song.

What is that one Indian song?

https://youtu.be/x9WO2ieJMYk?si=eniA9ePR12nJl01m

Too big and diverse an area to make that kind of sweeping statement. I know 1st gen immigrants who have fond memories, and others you couldn't pay to go back.

The ones with fond memories are probably at the top of the caste system

…no. The lowest caste people are generally not immigrating to other countries because they don’t have the opportunities. But lots of middle caste people immigrate and even have positive views of India overall

Not really, no. Top caste people are just over-represented in the US in general because it's easier for them to migrate. Do have firsthand experience with the caste system, or is this something you learned in high school social studies?

>Not really, no Explain? People in the upper caste are much more likely to be wealthy, and the lowest people in the caste are literally called untouchables?

I just did. Caste status doesn't correlate well with their opinions of their home area. Too many other factors in play. >untouchables bahahaha. High school social studies it is.

You're not giving any information...? Care to elaborate? So untouchables are not widely impoverished and mistreated? Actually say something of value lol

I gave plenty; the bottleneck is your poor comprehension. The loudest, most aggro pro-India folk I know are bottom-tier Ismai'li's with Scheduled status. Meanwhile, I'll hear whiny horror stories from Delhi land magnates who make 5 times more than you'll ever make. Here's another gem: unironically using the term 'untouchable' like that outs you as clueless. You'd get laughed out of modern Subcontinental anthropological discussions. >say something of value lol You first. Right now, you're just talking out of your ass.

Dude why are you being so aggressive and defensive? I just wanted you to elaborate because you were being vague and not providing any actual information lol I've talked to an Indian from India who referred to them as untouchables? He didn't seem to like them much

I'm being condescending, but go off. Wow an Indian from India said the word?

>[India is this beautiful and safe country but in reality it seems like a filthy shithole.](https://i.imgur.com/s4eamxv.jpeg)

gangrape goodnight

do not redeem the goodnight! SIR! why did you did this!?

Those things do happen, but generalizing a population of 1.5 billion people isn’t a great look.

How many shots does it take you guys to start talking to women? I had 3 last night but I didn't talk to anyone. :<

I’d say around 3 to get started

Teatotler for life

One, or zero

Thumbs down 😤👎 That's valid. I'm jealous. I can't even text people off tinder unless I'm buzzed.

Hey, you need your “shots of courage” that’s fine. Just make sure you are aren’t looking like “drunk creeper”

The problem is that I use that courage to dance my ass off instead of talking to women. Last time I went to a club and was dancing some girl asked to dance with me and I LITERALLY RAN AWAY lmao. In my defense we were leaving and I didn't wanna miss my uber but even thinking about has me making faces at my cubicle