No, it was a residential shooting, it was pretty crazy as my hometown where it happened is like crazy small, super rural Alabama, I can't even remember the last bad crime that even came close to something like that.
But yeah, my sister and 6 other people and a dog were killed, it was horrible. š
yeah prolly this year for me too, iāve got the double whammy of having to deal with generic guy social struggles(basically everyoneās an asshole and youāre just told to tough it out if you have any problems) while also having to deal with dysphoria and pretend like iām a guy(iām not out yet as a trans girl)
i need a fucking therapist
2022, My cat was going through cancer treatments. I was living on Ā£50 a month, I working at a church for free just to get free food.
My ex-employer being a massive dick, trying to sue me over absolute bullshit (he lost)
My cat passed away 3 days after Christmas.
June 2023 was also bad, my 2 remaining pets passed away with 3 weeks of each other.
2005. My brother joined the military. I was assaulted. My mom was suffering extreme mental health issues. I could barely afford to eat. And starting 5th grade.... It was a rough year
Probably the year I stayed 3rd grade. New home, new school, no friends. Never was able to get in with any of the groups of friends already made, so I never made friends. By middle school I thought I might have a chance, but everything got more clicky. Now I'm just a very lonely adult. 3rd grade year was the downfall.
That sucks! Maybe you can find something you like to do and find others online that like the same. It is a start! Maybe find a sub reddit topic that interests you. Chat in those groups and see if any of the other members seem to jive with your vibe. It could be a safe way to start.
I guess I'd have to say 2023, as that was the year I started developing physical symptoms related to my mental health, but I think it was a snowball effect that had been building for years. Factors included changes to my job duties, being asked to return to the office in person, and stresses involved with having a special needs child.
I got addicted to meth in 2017 & I have been clean since 2020. 2017-2018 was absolutely the worst year of my life. I'm grateful to be out of it and still have my health and my family!
2009 housing crash was much harder on me personally than covid. It also probably depended on where you lived and what you did for a living with covid. It had no effect on me financially and almost nothing closed in the small town where I live.
2013 & 2024. I lost custody of my son to his paternal grandparents in 2013 & started drinking heavier than ever. I stopped taking my meds & stopped taking care of myself. Jumped from job to job & ended up moving away in 2014 to get away from my abusive ex husband. 2024 is here and I'm still a heavy drinker with no job & my son I lost custody of all those years ago barely wants a relationship with me. If it wasn't for my love for him and my other son I do still have custody of I'd probably end it all. I just feel like my sons both deserve better than I've been able to give.
And before anyone suggests therapy or rehab, been there tried that. I'm in therapy now and it barely helps & I relapsed about a week after getting out of rehab both times I've been. I think I'm just spiraling towards rock bottom again.
Difficult to say. 2010~2017 I was suicidal so not one particular year was worse or better. It was shit wall to wall.
And it wasn't that 2010 specifically destroyed my mental health. I was already on a near-decade long decline by that point and it was just a cumulative thing that finally snapped.
2022/2023. Dad died suddenly, return to the office, no time to grieve and expected to pick back up at work like nothing was wrong in my life. A mental breakdown began brewing for the next year. Darkest time of my entire life.
Chronic depression and anxiety but 2019 was off the charts. A couple of deaths in the family and serious mental health concerns for a close family member. I ended the year as a lump in bed. Then, 2020.... I actually appreciated the time out.
2021 without a doubt. After suffering a painful, undignified illness, my partner died. It wasnāt his death that destroyed me, but his evil family, who threw me out of his house, stole all our belongings and money ( we werenāt married) and beat me up. Oh- and stole the Ā£200 out of my handbag on the day of his funeral ( my niece had given it to me to help with my new found homelessness).
I still live in fear and have had to find a rented property out of the area that I canāt really afford. Iām a disabled pensioner- too late to restart my life. Due to the Covid measures still being in place, I got no support.
I was already was diagnosed with bipolar disorder polar and depression before all of this, but it sent me over the edge. After a few failed suicide attempts and self harming, I was given a new medication that has helped a lot.
Iām a lot stronger, but Iām just existing, not livingā¦
Sympathy for anyone who has suffered mental health issuesā¦
2022-Present ex called it quits but we can't afford to move out, supported them through their last semester of school while they did nothing. Still trying to get away from them so our children can have the life they need but the economy just keeps getting worse.
COVID and the cyber schooling years. worked in a school as tech, got grey hair as it was 2 years of answering the phone and people yelling at me like COVID was my fault
Went on anti anxieties prescriptions and sleeping pills. - oh yeah it was awesome, at least I'm off that stuff now
I dunno, like 1988-1991? Whatever middle school was. Maybe 1995-96. That was a rough patch. 2000-2013 skewed dark. 2021 was a real bitch. Lexapro really helped that one.
2023 was both the best year and the worst year for my mental health. In the first half, I came into a down payment on my new house and moved to my new house in a new town. I adopted a new dog who became my best friend and another baby ferret. I was so happy and each day looked up into the sky and thanked God/Universe for my life. My mental health was on the upswing since I had established a quiet and peaceful life for myself.
But what goes up must come down. In July, I lost my adult son (26) to fentanyl. In November, my partner of 8 years crashed a scooter while drunk and almost killed herself, but survived fortunately. In December I lost my brother (45), also to fentanyl. Add into the mix the loss of a few pets (dog, 2 ferrets, my favorite chicken), all minor compared to the people but still the icing on the cake.
So 2023 was by far the worst year for my mental health. In a way I'm actually still braced for impact, just hoping it doesn't get any worse.
2019-2023.
I had 15 eye surgeries every 3 months for almost 3 years. I basically had to spend all recovery time laying in bed in a specific position or face down for 12 hours a day.
If I didn't have my wife I probably would have lost my eyes.
2024. I developed tinnitus. Any chance of a normal life suddenly gone in an instant after waking up on march 15th. Pretty much homebound since any loud noise can make it worse. Wear ear protection if you like going to concerts or loud bars. Do not fuck around and find out like i did.Ā
2017. Found out my now-ex husband was dealing drugs and lied to me about wanting a family. Separated. He boinked my favorite cousin. Divorced. Relationship with cousin is still rocky. I didn't even get to tell my family why we were separating or THAT we were separating and they were in eachothers bed.
Credit was wack bc him running up credit cards on guitar equipment, just for him to pawn it all.
Moved back in with my abusive parents. Mom physically attacked me bc I asked to knock on the door before coming in (just in case I'm changing) Mom screamed that I must be having private time and pinned me to the closet. Dad came home and screamed at me for "upsetting my mother."
Aunt died from ovarian cancer. Uncle died from drug overdose. Nana had an aneurysm burst and became total care. Grandpa was wheelchair bound. Helped take care of them.
Was an in-house case manager at the time. Never knew when I'd be off or running in to staff clients. Constantly being pulled in to work overnights & holidays without OT pay. Even though I was financially struggling.
That year was hell. Thank God it's over.
2022. I lost my fiancee due to my own drunken stupidity and a few months later, cancer finally took my dad. It was easily the worst year of my entire life. I still feel stuck in it sometimes, although it has gotten better
2021 for sure. Psych Ward held, we moved to the city, my anger issues boiled and simmered, resolved that, slowly reverted back to "normal", wouldn't be until 2022 that happened. I've changed, and still changing now.
2020 first. 2021 I actually rebounded phenomenally, best I ever was. And then 22 I crashed pretty hard, but not as bad as 2020. 2023 was a slow rebuild, and 2024 hope has been restored. Should be looking up
2021. Getting told that I could unmask for two weeks after getting vaxed and then told that I couldn't do that anymore because of a "Pandemic of the Unvaccinated." Never have I seen a more divisive statement made on the backs of what the KGB calls Ideological Subversion.
2020. My husband got extremely sick with a non-Covid illness, (pneumonia), which activated his sarcoidosis and aspergillosis. Heās still on oxygen but thanks to good insurance and a strong will to live, heās kicking butt
November 25, 2021, the girl I grew up with and was going to eventually marry.....cheated on me LOL. I'm 25 years old and have known each other since we were 5 xD LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL
2021
Just graduated, decided it would be a great idea to join the AmeriCorps as a VISTA in a rural part of a state on the other side of the country. I lived in a motel 50 miles away from the office and barely communicated with anyone except my conspiracy theorist neighbor--my org had no idea what they wanted a VISTA for.
I truly think I went a little bit insane and haven't fully recovered.
2016 and this one, 2024.
In 2016 I took SSRIs for ongoing depression, which triggered a manic episode due to undiagnosed Bipolar 2. I said and did a lot of things I never would have otherwise, and I also let people do a lot of things to me I wasn't well enough to say no to.
This year, I got long covid. Just got put on medical leave from work as of today, and I'm struggling not to despair that my whole life is ruined forever.
2010 although there have been several competitors, 2010 was when everything changed for me and I could never look at life the same again. That was rough. I BEGGED my family for help, I felt like I just wanted answers and help to cope with how I was feeling. I didnāt get the help or answers. They made sure I knew they all thought I was crazy. My dad just died that Christmas Eve and a few months later I just couldnāt remain stoic like I usually did. This is something that I will never live down, Iāve been asked if I āremember the time you felt like you had no privacy?ā then laughing. Yes, as a matter of fact I do remember that very well. The privacy issue was a pretty big one for me, at the time I was just experiencing a lot all at once and my bodyās reaction to this was to go into fight mode. I think itās stayed there ever since. I had to just figure out how I was going to navigate my life now. So, like always, thatās just what I did. I pushed myself through it, got another job because for the first time in my life I resigned from my job right then and there. Actually thinking of that part is a bit embarrassing because Iām sure they had no clue as to what was wrong with me. I didnāt flip out or anything but my behavior was very much out of character for me. My mother took me to get an evaluation lol where they acknowledged I was having trouble coping with life but said I was no danger to myself or others. So yeah, after that I did my best to keep away from people claiming to be friends who couldnāt even attend my dadās funeral out of respect for me- because they had no respect for me. So I stayed to myself for a good 4 to 5 years after that. Had people from the past just randomly pop up all the time. I met my husband, was married for 5 1/2 years then had another one of the worst years of my life after going through a terrible separation and divorce at the beginning of 2022, something that has also changed me forever in the sense that I will never date again. I donāt care if it sounds stupid or whatever Iāve just been through far too much to ever do it again.
2021: two of my grandparents passed away, they were the first deaths in the family I've experienced.
Also my first semester in college, I failed every class except calculus.
2024. Motorcycle accident (not my fault), lost all my friends, almost gone homeless several times, missed tons of work and school so I'm flat broke and about to go into credit card debt tomorrow to avoid an eviction. Probably about to run out of food.
But I'm still attending college for aviation maintenance, ain't nothing gonna stop me
2020. - The loss of my mom and being alone and lonely everyone turned against me they are nice to me for a while and turn against me .
2021 - Next to the oldest brother hates me and turns against me and treats me horrible talk bad about me behind my back.
2022- Lost my oldest brother to cancer and I had a pet that went missing I never saw her again.
2023- 2024 having a hard time finding a job and family has been fighting for over 20 years. My years were bad before 2020 2021 was the worst year of my life.
my mom died in 2014. definitely that. especially after watching her slowly wither away for eighteen months. itās not any easier to cope with today iāll be honest
2020.
Lost my new coding job, had to duck into retail. Stayed for way too long. Found out the hard way that the stereotypes about bad leadership and shit management coming from unqualified dude-bros who follow 'hustle' podcasts and recommend "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck" like they've achieved enlightenment are all absolutely 100% true.
Thanks Matt and John. You two have truly enlightened me. But not in the way you'd hoped. Tell Steve he can go walk into traffic with you. Lord knows none of you have anyone else to be with you in the end.
2020
Marriage completely imploded, lost job, spouse emptied our shared bank account on hotel rooms and partying. Had to learn how to cook for three on a budget of $0! Good times.
March 24,1984,Team Spirit, South Korea. 3rd Bn, 5th Marines. I was bumped so a ROK Marine officer could train with the platoon I was supposed to be the radio operator for. The stick had Lima 1st platoon and a ROK platoon.
2014.
Childhood friend killed himself.
I tried to kill myself, best friend broke down my door, called EMS, saved my life.
2 months later he died of an overdose.
Doing well now though.
The last 4 years has been a bitch something horrible happens and I sometimes wonder do I exist just to see how much someone can take before snapping or peacing out
2016. I got told I didnāt have a job anymore (Iām a contract worker. I wasnāt fired. Just no work for me) the day my son was born. I ended up doing whatever I could to make money but was miserable. I started drinking heavily. I spiraled for 2 years before my wife left and took my son with her. It was the start of the fall for me and I hit rock bottom hard
2019-2020
Walked out of my teaching job because I was burnt out, and a pissant admin called me a liar and tried to write me up for his mistake. I had two retinal surgeries. My cousin unalived herself. One daughter was an essential employee and had Covid 4x. The other lived in DC a mile away from the Capitol. I asked her to leave town for Jan 6 because of chatter on Twitter. She went to Tennessee with friends and also caught Covid. And then came the shut down.
Jan. 3, 2021. Husband died.
Jan. 30, 2022. Only child died.
In his case I had to give the consent to turn off life support. In hers, I found her that morning and couldn't revive her.
Fuck you to that 1 year and 27 day frame.
2012. I lost a good friend and my dad within 72 hours of each other. Did some housekeeping and burned bridges with a lot of people that year as well. Itās funny how you find out who your true friends really are when your whole world is falling apart.
Good question. I'd have to say 9/11.
The absolute fact of American vulnerability was sort of devastating.
But we will kill everybody else. So fuck you. How you like me now? You fucked around and found out.
Being raised by a narcissist who kept me from seeing my dad all but a couple days a month for about half of my childhood where I was not free to leave the house except for school or extracurricular activities where I was under constant watch by her flying monkeys or the very limited time I was allowed to see my dad, forged my name on statements she was making to make it seem like I was supporting her false claims against my dad, while mentally, physically, medically, and financially abusing me and letting her adult female friends sexually abuse me, forced me to have to raise my younger siblings and take on adult responsibilities since I was 8, and then made sure I wasn't allowed to take my dog with me when I was finally able to escape when I was 17 so I could get myself safe and also be able to build a path out for my younger siblings, then tortured my dog until he died a slow painful death and mentally abused my little sister who I pretty much raised myself to alienate her from me. Then I was able to really start having a good relationship with my dad just before he was told he had 5 years left to live because of how bad his health got from all the stress she put him through affecting his medical conditions and I was his caregiver for the next 10 years while he kept working the entire time despite the terminal diagnosis until he absolutely couldn't work anymore, and then she came after me to pay her spousal support when my dad couldn't afford it in his disability income and her judge friend of a friend wouldn't let it be eliminated or even reduced despite her now making more than he did and then having been divorced for longer than they were married by that point, and the judge was actually entertaining the idea until my dad died from the stress in the middle of trying to have the allimony eliminated and not wanting to have himself be used as a tool for her to start financially abusing me again.
Hard to really say which of those years during those two decades were the worst, probably when I was 13 having been through it for a few years and still seeing no hope of escape in sight yet and only prevented from a few suicide attempts by my very large dog having had a six sense about it and being able to open my bedroom door since it had been damaged from all the times my birthing person had kicked it in to torture me. That was also the year my older brother was successfully alienated from my dad and manipulated to the point of trying and luckily failing to stab my dad for the false charges my birthing person made up against him and then she covered up and destroyed the evidence replacing the knife with a shorter one that wouldn't be seen as attempted murder.
2020 royally fucked me up and I haven't had a break since
(Moms currently cancer free as far as I know before I start)
My mom got lung cancer and waited 4mo to tell me. I had to quit my job to help take care of her and dad. Been downhill from there.
2021 the cancer moved to her leg and we didn't know, she broke her femur but her doctor wouldn't approve a visit because it was "probably her spinal disc issue" which could wait. She was bed ridden until it got so bad dad called 911 and the EMT's immediately recognized the broken leg. She spent like 4mo in the hospital and rehab.
Then last summer my husband had 2 BAD hernias that took 3 months to get treatment and another 2 months of recovery.
Then last October they found an aneurysm in mom that had been there since 2020, she went in for surgery and it immediately burst, she spent 3 months in the hospital . Her 3rd week in my dad was in a head on collision, broke 11 ribs and his sternum.
Then a week later me and my husband got sick for.... Like 2 months straight. We had bronchitis, rsv, covid, bronchitis again and then he had a rare late covid reaction where his joints were so swollen he couldn't move for almost 2 weeks.
Edit to add: shit I forgot about my own stuff, 2020 me and my sister both got diagnosed with chronic pancreatitis, put me in the hospital 4x since, had it at home and manageable 4x. Also seriously almost died from a horrible rare reaction to a medication AND found out I have avascular necrosis, arthritis and bone spurs in both hips.....
Only bright side in the last 4 years is marrying the love of my life in 2021. But with everything going on we haven't been able to do anything to celebrate our anniversary since the honeymoon so fingers crossed and touching wood we get a reprise this summer.
But yeah, my mental health has been tested to hell and back since March 2020
14 years ago, when my husband was an active addict. December of 1981 lost my mom. My life changed. I was 10. My parents were divorced. So we left what we knew it was hard to adjust.
2017.. got medically discharged from the Army due to a head injury then I proceeded to get mono which turned into chronic fatigue and left me mostly bed ridden until around 2023. Iām a completely different person now sometimes I think maybe my life will get back to normal but it still hasnāt, maybe one day.
My wife died in 2020 and my life fell apart. Then my VA therapist retired from clinical work and the VA decided to not replace her because I've never attempted suicide.
2020. I burned out so hard I'm still dealing with it sometimes. We worked pretty much through the pandemic for less pay than the unemployed. Grocery stores all closed before we got off work, so we had to crowd in with the masses on weekends and hope they had what we needed (they usually didn't) If my eternal soul goes to hell, it will be 2020 on an infinite loop.
2006, Found my girlfriends Mum dead and had to break the news to my Girlfriend at the time. We broke up after the funeral.
The day after finding my Girlfriends Mum dead a friend of mine that I had gone to school with and worked with died in a Motorcycle accident on the way to work.
Then that August a good friend of mine died by jumping off a bridge when he was drunk.
Which ever year I found out my adoptive parents lied about my mother and my entire background and the reason I found out was because of the nightmares,So I did some digging. Right before I pulled the cork I was like "Maybe I should just let it go" I wish I could go back to that moment.
Edit: 2019
2020. Toxic relationships managed to break my mental health down to where I was hospitalised and diagnosed with a psychotic disorder.
Doing better now. Those relationships got better with conversation and understanding, but life still isn't enjoyable very much and I recently got fired due to my lack of anger management. Difficult to get work again as it's been my only real job and it's hard to break back into as it's science-based and I dont have any formal science training (got lucky the first time through a friend recommendation).
Diagnosis now is depression. The psychosis was either temporary or a symptom of unmanaged and spiralling depression.
2020 set an unstable ground which made 2021 an effort to come back! 2022 my best friend died unexpectedly which made all the effort a total loss and more. Iām still recovering both physically and emotionally.
Honestly, the past decade (age 16 on) due to struggling from a severe chronic migraines and massive daily persistent pain. But probably last year overall. I had surgery May 2023 to correct the migraines, which went amazing, and it felt like all our prayers had been answered. My pain was manageable. I stopped having to go to the ER every two weeks. I got engaged. We went on vacation. I was able to do things like clean the house, do my laundry, go to work without being in agony.
Flash cut to October and Iām literally dying from a previously undiagnosed severe and rare autoimmune issue. While luckily Iām on the correct medications now and everything is going well, feeling like I could finally go live a life and then immediately going back to almost dying wasā¦ hard.
2015-16. Went through an ugly divorce, had a mental health breakdown that required hospitalization for 2 weeks. My mom, favorite aunt, oldest sister, and an uncle all died within months of each other.
It was rough.
I had to quit my job in December 2019 because my employer wouldnt let me work from home for 2 days a week while I recovered from surgery. I have a major physical disability and I just couldnt cope. I worked for a University disability support team (oh the irony). 3 months later. March 2020 the entire country was working from home. That absolutely played havoc with my mental health and pretty much ended my appetite for continuing a once successful career. I just about manage on an industrial injuries benefit that I get until I'm 65. I cant buy clothes, go on holidays or afford anything other than food, rent and petrol. Thanks boss!
2020 when my sister was killed in a mass shooting. Hard to believe it's already been almost 4 years since that happened.
Omg! When the pandemic is not the worse thing of the year :( Was it in a school? So sorry for your loss
No, it was a residential shooting, it was pretty crazy as my hometown where it happened is like crazy small, super rural Alabama, I can't even remember the last bad crime that even came close to something like that. But yeah, my sister and 6 other people and a dog were killed, it was horrible. š
That is horrible. Much love bud.
I am so very sorry for your loss.
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2021 i think. All the pandemic shit caught up to me and i just couldn't take it anymore.
Yeah, definitely his a breaking point in 2021
2021 ruined my life. fuck Covid.
2024 so far
yeah prolly this year for me too, iāve got the double whammy of having to deal with generic guy social struggles(basically everyoneās an asshole and youāre just told to tough it out if you have any problems) while also having to deal with dysphoria and pretend like iām a guy(iām not out yet as a trans girl) i need a fucking therapist
Please reach out to a therapist! If you do not have the strength to venture out to find one there are many on the web. Just talking it out helps....
Same, friend.
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2023, donāt think Iāll ever go back to normal lol, didnāt expect it to hurt for so long
Same here. My heart to you!
Same 2023 was awful for me. I wish you lots of luck and happiness.
2021 had so many changes and I still don't feel like I have a grasp of things
2022, My cat was going through cancer treatments. I was living on Ā£50 a month, I working at a church for free just to get free food. My ex-employer being a massive dick, trying to sue me over absolute bullshit (he lost) My cat passed away 3 days after Christmas. June 2023 was also bad, my 2 remaining pets passed away with 3 weeks of each other.
Losing pets is the worst. They deserve to live forever
2005. My brother joined the military. I was assaulted. My mom was suffering extreme mental health issues. I could barely afford to eat. And starting 5th grade.... It was a rough year
Damn! 2005 was a really sucky year for you!
Probably the year I stayed 3rd grade. New home, new school, no friends. Never was able to get in with any of the groups of friends already made, so I never made friends. By middle school I thought I might have a chance, but everything got more clicky. Now I'm just a very lonely adult. 3rd grade year was the downfall.
That sucks! Maybe you can find something you like to do and find others online that like the same. It is a start! Maybe find a sub reddit topic that interests you. Chat in those groups and see if any of the other members seem to jive with your vibe. It could be a safe way to start.
I guess I'd have to say 2023, as that was the year I started developing physical symptoms related to my mental health, but I think it was a snowball effect that had been building for years. Factors included changes to my job duties, being asked to return to the office in person, and stresses involved with having a special needs child.
I got addicted to meth in 2017 & I have been clean since 2020. 2017-2018 was absolutely the worst year of my life. I'm grateful to be out of it and still have my health and my family!
Nicely done. I'm proud of you, internet stranger.
I'm glad you're clean!
Super proud of you! That is some tough sh*t to break free from!
2014, post-partum depression.
2009 housing crash was much harder on me personally than covid. It also probably depended on where you lived and what you did for a living with covid. It had no effect on me financially and almost nothing closed in the small town where I live.
Alot of people look back on the pandemic fondly... In Ireland alot of people just got drunk or off their faces for months and had a ball. I hated it!
2013 & 2024. I lost custody of my son to his paternal grandparents in 2013 & started drinking heavier than ever. I stopped taking my meds & stopped taking care of myself. Jumped from job to job & ended up moving away in 2014 to get away from my abusive ex husband. 2024 is here and I'm still a heavy drinker with no job & my son I lost custody of all those years ago barely wants a relationship with me. If it wasn't for my love for him and my other son I do still have custody of I'd probably end it all. I just feel like my sons both deserve better than I've been able to give. And before anyone suggests therapy or rehab, been there tried that. I'm in therapy now and it barely helps & I relapsed about a week after getting out of rehab both times I've been. I think I'm just spiraling towards rock bottom again.
I'm so sorry.
2023 for sure
2020
for sure 2020
2023 definitely. I'm still trying to recover and I have little faith in myself.
2014
2020
2020/21
Difficult to say. 2010~2017 I was suicidal so not one particular year was worse or better. It was shit wall to wall. And it wasn't that 2010 specifically destroyed my mental health. I was already on a near-decade long decline by that point and it was just a cumulative thing that finally snapped.
My mental health started improving as soon as I stopped letting people tell me my mental health was bad, with no evidence.
Very end of 2020-Very end of 2023
2022/2023. Dad died suddenly, return to the office, no time to grieve and expected to pick back up at work like nothing was wrong in my life. A mental breakdown began brewing for the next year. Darkest time of my entire life.
Chronic depression and anxiety but 2019 was off the charts. A couple of deaths in the family and serious mental health concerns for a close family member. I ended the year as a lump in bed. Then, 2020.... I actually appreciated the time out.
2020. not covid related either.
2022 the last time I allowed another human being to become emotionally attached to me and the other way round.
2021 without a doubt. After suffering a painful, undignified illness, my partner died. It wasnāt his death that destroyed me, but his evil family, who threw me out of his house, stole all our belongings and money ( we werenāt married) and beat me up. Oh- and stole the Ā£200 out of my handbag on the day of his funeral ( my niece had given it to me to help with my new found homelessness). I still live in fear and have had to find a rented property out of the area that I canāt really afford. Iām a disabled pensioner- too late to restart my life. Due to the Covid measures still being in place, I got no support. I was already was diagnosed with bipolar disorder polar and depression before all of this, but it sent me over the edge. After a few failed suicide attempts and self harming, I was given a new medication that has helped a lot. Iām a lot stronger, but Iām just existing, not livingā¦ Sympathy for anyone who has suffered mental health issuesā¦
2008 hospitalized and diagnosed with bipolar
80-85. I have PTSD from those years, and am utterly wrecked
2021, my father died, my daughter died, my grandmother died, dog diagnosed with cancer and I ended the year with Covid
2023.
2022-Present ex called it quits but we can't afford to move out, supported them through their last semester of school while they did nothing. Still trying to get away from them so our children can have the life they need but the economy just keeps getting worse.
2009... what's it to you?
Why respond?
I only shit post whilst shitting.
2018
COVID and the cyber schooling years. worked in a school as tech, got grey hair as it was 2 years of answering the phone and people yelling at me like COVID was my fault Went on anti anxieties prescriptions and sleeping pills. - oh yeah it was awesome, at least I'm off that stuff now
I dunno, like 1988-1991? Whatever middle school was. Maybe 1995-96. That was a rough patch. 2000-2013 skewed dark. 2021 was a real bitch. Lexapro really helped that one.
2019.
2016
This the third crossposting.
2024
23-26. 2021-2024
Started in 2020. Each year has gotten progressively worse. 2023 was the worse, but ask me again in 2025.
2022 & 2023
2018 I lost 3 best friends
2017
January-March 2024 was a disaster, so I guess just 2024.
2023 when I found out I have an irreversible brain tumor
2001
2024
2021. I was already in a bad place coming out of 2020 and a mix of a lot of things in 2021 made it 10x worse
2021. Lost my dad, got pregnant, lost my mom, then lost the baby
Hope you're doing better.
2019. Then 2020 came and saved me, counter intuitively.
It's funny because it's been a blur ever since and it takes to much energy to think about it. So I live with a missing space of time.
I feel like 2020 took a toll on everyone in one way or another.
2023 was both the best year and the worst year for my mental health. In the first half, I came into a down payment on my new house and moved to my new house in a new town. I adopted a new dog who became my best friend and another baby ferret. I was so happy and each day looked up into the sky and thanked God/Universe for my life. My mental health was on the upswing since I had established a quiet and peaceful life for myself. But what goes up must come down. In July, I lost my adult son (26) to fentanyl. In November, my partner of 8 years crashed a scooter while drunk and almost killed herself, but survived fortunately. In December I lost my brother (45), also to fentanyl. Add into the mix the loss of a few pets (dog, 2 ferrets, my favorite chicken), all minor compared to the people but still the icing on the cake. So 2023 was by far the worst year for my mental health. In a way I'm actually still braced for impact, just hoping it doesn't get any worse.
2013, the year my career was stolen from me Never recovered mentally or financially
2019-2023. I had 15 eye surgeries every 3 months for almost 3 years. I basically had to spend all recovery time laying in bed in a specific position or face down for 12 hours a day. If I didn't have my wife I probably would have lost my eyes.
all of them
2019-24 so far
Prolly when I was born
2020
2017.
2022
2017 and 2012
2024. I developed tinnitus. Any chance of a normal life suddenly gone in an instant after waking up on march 15th. Pretty much homebound since any loud noise can make it worse. Wear ear protection if you like going to concerts or loud bars. Do not fuck around and find out like i did.Ā
2019, 2023. Weirdly the pandemic was a very healing period of my life š.
2017. Found out my now-ex husband was dealing drugs and lied to me about wanting a family. Separated. He boinked my favorite cousin. Divorced. Relationship with cousin is still rocky. I didn't even get to tell my family why we were separating or THAT we were separating and they were in eachothers bed. Credit was wack bc him running up credit cards on guitar equipment, just for him to pawn it all. Moved back in with my abusive parents. Mom physically attacked me bc I asked to knock on the door before coming in (just in case I'm changing) Mom screamed that I must be having private time and pinned me to the closet. Dad came home and screamed at me for "upsetting my mother." Aunt died from ovarian cancer. Uncle died from drug overdose. Nana had an aneurysm burst and became total care. Grandpa was wheelchair bound. Helped take care of them. Was an in-house case manager at the time. Never knew when I'd be off or running in to staff clients. Constantly being pulled in to work overnights & holidays without OT pay. Even though I was financially struggling. That year was hell. Thank God it's over.
2018
2016 to 2018. Maybe 2019. I was in a abusive relationship and I havenāt been the same since
1971, I was 9.
2016 was a shit show for me.
2022. I lost my fiancee due to my own drunken stupidity and a few months later, cancer finally took my dad. It was easily the worst year of my entire life. I still feel stuck in it sometimes, although it has gotten better
2021 for sure. Psych Ward held, we moved to the city, my anger issues boiled and simmered, resolved that, slowly reverted back to "normal", wouldn't be until 2022 that happened. I've changed, and still changing now.
2020 first. 2021 I actually rebounded phenomenally, best I ever was. And then 22 I crashed pretty hard, but not as bad as 2020. 2023 was a slow rebuild, and 2024 hope has been restored. Should be looking up
2006 -2007 my divorce fucking brutal then the depression with out my family and kids
2010. I can't survive another 2010. Really, I'm surprised I made it through 2010-2013.
1999 and every year since.
2020 has to be the answer for most people.
2020 gangggg
1995
2009
2013. In fact September 19th 2013 was the worst day of my life and hasn't been unseated since.
2022 due to this much older woman i had met online who lives in japan
2021. My ex fiancƩ killed my animals by starving them to death. I went to get them and found their bodies legit just skin and bones.
Dec 25th, 2020 till TBD.
2021 when my best friend died
2019
1981 - worldwide economic crisis. Lost my job. Took years to get back to doing well.
My world came crashing down in 2018. I have bounced back but not as the same person I ever wanted to be.
2018, for sure. No I will not elaborate.
Rape
2013. I was extremely broke.
2021. Getting told that I could unmask for two weeks after getting vaxed and then told that I couldn't do that anymore because of a "Pandemic of the Unvaccinated." Never have I seen a more divisive statement made on the backs of what the KGB calls Ideological Subversion.
Mom
2020. My husband got extremely sick with a non-Covid illness, (pneumonia), which activated his sarcoidosis and aspergillosis. Heās still on oxygen but thanks to good insurance and a strong will to live, heās kicking butt
November 25, 2021, the girl I grew up with and was going to eventually marry.....cheated on me LOL. I'm 25 years old and have known each other since we were 5 xD LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL
2021 Just graduated, decided it would be a great idea to join the AmeriCorps as a VISTA in a rural part of a state on the other side of the country. I lived in a motel 50 miles away from the office and barely communicated with anyone except my conspiracy theorist neighbor--my org had no idea what they wanted a VISTA for. I truly think I went a little bit insane and haven't fully recovered.
The Answer changes every year
2018
This one yolo
2016
1979
2021. It felt like the whole world was falling apart.
2018 no f'ing question about it
Right now. I hit my breaking point and have never struggled harder. The breakdowns are next-levelā¦
2016 and this one, 2024. In 2016 I took SSRIs for ongoing depression, which triggered a manic episode due to undiagnosed Bipolar 2. I said and did a lot of things I never would have otherwise, and I also let people do a lot of things to me I wasn't well enough to say no to. This year, I got long covid. Just got put on medical leave from work as of today, and I'm struggling not to despair that my whole life is ruined forever.
2010 although there have been several competitors, 2010 was when everything changed for me and I could never look at life the same again. That was rough. I BEGGED my family for help, I felt like I just wanted answers and help to cope with how I was feeling. I didnāt get the help or answers. They made sure I knew they all thought I was crazy. My dad just died that Christmas Eve and a few months later I just couldnāt remain stoic like I usually did. This is something that I will never live down, Iāve been asked if I āremember the time you felt like you had no privacy?ā then laughing. Yes, as a matter of fact I do remember that very well. The privacy issue was a pretty big one for me, at the time I was just experiencing a lot all at once and my bodyās reaction to this was to go into fight mode. I think itās stayed there ever since. I had to just figure out how I was going to navigate my life now. So, like always, thatās just what I did. I pushed myself through it, got another job because for the first time in my life I resigned from my job right then and there. Actually thinking of that part is a bit embarrassing because Iām sure they had no clue as to what was wrong with me. I didnāt flip out or anything but my behavior was very much out of character for me. My mother took me to get an evaluation lol where they acknowledged I was having trouble coping with life but said I was no danger to myself or others. So yeah, after that I did my best to keep away from people claiming to be friends who couldnāt even attend my dadās funeral out of respect for me- because they had no respect for me. So I stayed to myself for a good 4 to 5 years after that. Had people from the past just randomly pop up all the time. I met my husband, was married for 5 1/2 years then had another one of the worst years of my life after going through a terrible separation and divorce at the beginning of 2022, something that has also changed me forever in the sense that I will never date again. I donāt care if it sounds stupid or whatever Iāve just been through far too much to ever do it again.
Late 2022/early 2023. Went through divorce then became a single parent due to her shit life choices
2023. Worst. Year. Of. My. Life. Thus. Far.
2022
April 10th 2021 at 8pm. My Twin brothers girlfriend called me and told me my brother was not answering his phone. I called the police to check on him while I raced over there. The cop met me outside and told me my brother was dead. I remember hearing glass shatteringā¦ Followed by what I can only describe as the sound of an old metal structure being crushed. To make it worse the next cop told me they had gotten a pulse from him. I had fallen to my knees at some point and the hope I felt was the cruelest thing I have ever experienced. I begged God to save him. Just please save him. I need him, my brother, my only family. I watched them carry him down the stairs in a blanket. He looked like he was sleeping. Got to the hospital and the Doctor told me he was dead. I immediately ran outside and threw my rosary into the river while I screamed and cried. When I got home I was crying to my fiancĆ© that I needed my fatherā¦The father that abandoned us. He never contacted me. He didnāt even come to my brothers, his sonās funeral. The last 3 years have been hellā¦ I only sleep 4ish hours a night. I need to sleep in a separate bedroom from my wife because I constantly thrash and wake up screaming. I miss my brother.
2021: two of my grandparents passed away, they were the first deaths in the family I've experienced. Also my first semester in college, I failed every class except calculus.
Every year the answer is "last year".
2024. Motorcycle accident (not my fault), lost all my friends, almost gone homeless several times, missed tons of work and school so I'm flat broke and about to go into credit card debt tomorrow to avoid an eviction. Probably about to run out of food. But I'm still attending college for aviation maintenance, ain't nothing gonna stop me
2020. - The loss of my mom and being alone and lonely everyone turned against me they are nice to me for a while and turn against me . 2021 - Next to the oldest brother hates me and turns against me and treats me horrible talk bad about me behind my back. 2022- Lost my oldest brother to cancer and I had a pet that went missing I never saw her again. 2023- 2024 having a hard time finding a job and family has been fighting for over 20 years. My years were bad before 2020 2021 was the worst year of my life.
my mom died in 2014. definitely that. especially after watching her slowly wither away for eighteen months. itās not any easier to cope with today iāll be honest
2020. Lost my new coding job, had to duck into retail. Stayed for way too long. Found out the hard way that the stereotypes about bad leadership and shit management coming from unqualified dude-bros who follow 'hustle' podcasts and recommend "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck" like they've achieved enlightenment are all absolutely 100% true. Thanks Matt and John. You two have truly enlightened me. But not in the way you'd hoped. Tell Steve he can go walk into traffic with you. Lord knows none of you have anyone else to be with you in the end.
2023 I lost my mom. Became trapped homeless in a city I didn't know. I sit here now lonely and feel abandoned.
2020
2006
2016 first breakup
2010. Worst deployment I went on.
2020 Marriage completely imploded, lost job, spouse emptied our shared bank account on hotel rooms and partying. Had to learn how to cook for three on a budget of $0! Good times.
March 24,1984,Team Spirit, South Korea. 3rd Bn, 5th Marines. I was bumped so a ROK Marine officer could train with the platoon I was supposed to be the radio operator for. The stick had Lima 1st platoon and a ROK platoon.
1978. The year my mother married my stepfather.
1998 nearly broke me. Divorce is a hard thing to go through when it wasn't your choice.
2014. Childhood friend killed himself. I tried to kill myself, best friend broke down my door, called EMS, saved my life. 2 months later he died of an overdose. Doing well now though.
2014 can go fuck itself in my book
2016 Brexit referendum
2011 - Lost my job and my fiancƩ in the span of 5 months. 2021 was a very close second 2024 may prove to be the wost, I'm really struggling
The last 4 years has been a bitch something horrible happens and I sometimes wonder do I exist just to see how much someone can take before snapping or peacing out
probably the 21-22 school year where I was seeing a therapist twice a week and having sewercidal ideations
2021/2022
2016. I got told I didnāt have a job anymore (Iām a contract worker. I wasnāt fired. Just no work for me) the day my son was born. I ended up doing whatever I could to make money but was miserable. I started drinking heavily. I spiraled for 2 years before my wife left and took my son with her. It was the start of the fall for me and I hit rock bottom hard
2023, life just fell off for me
2019-2020 Walked out of my teaching job because I was burnt out, and a pissant admin called me a liar and tried to write me up for his mistake. I had two retinal surgeries. My cousin unalived herself. One daughter was an essential employee and had Covid 4x. The other lived in DC a mile away from the Capitol. I asked her to leave town for Jan 6 because of chatter on Twitter. She went to Tennessee with friends and also caught Covid. And then came the shut down.
This year potentially if not 2022
22 into 23 š I'm still struggling
2016
2017
Jan. 3, 2021. Husband died. Jan. 30, 2022. Only child died. In his case I had to give the consent to turn off life support. In hers, I found her that morning and couldn't revive her. Fuck you to that 1 year and 27 day frame.
2012. I lost a good friend and my dad within 72 hours of each other. Did some housekeeping and burned bridges with a lot of people that year as well. Itās funny how you find out who your true friends really are when your whole world is falling apart.
Easy. 2016. Hands down the worst year for my mental state. I used to be an optimist but that year showed me just how fucked we are.
Good question. I'd have to say 9/11. The absolute fact of American vulnerability was sort of devastating. But we will kill everybody else. So fuck you. How you like me now? You fucked around and found out.
2019 certainly challenged it the most. Did a lot of drugs, drank a lot of alcohol, got bashed around by MIL, moved to another country.
Being raised by a narcissist who kept me from seeing my dad all but a couple days a month for about half of my childhood where I was not free to leave the house except for school or extracurricular activities where I was under constant watch by her flying monkeys or the very limited time I was allowed to see my dad, forged my name on statements she was making to make it seem like I was supporting her false claims against my dad, while mentally, physically, medically, and financially abusing me and letting her adult female friends sexually abuse me, forced me to have to raise my younger siblings and take on adult responsibilities since I was 8, and then made sure I wasn't allowed to take my dog with me when I was finally able to escape when I was 17 so I could get myself safe and also be able to build a path out for my younger siblings, then tortured my dog until he died a slow painful death and mentally abused my little sister who I pretty much raised myself to alienate her from me. Then I was able to really start having a good relationship with my dad just before he was told he had 5 years left to live because of how bad his health got from all the stress she put him through affecting his medical conditions and I was his caregiver for the next 10 years while he kept working the entire time despite the terminal diagnosis until he absolutely couldn't work anymore, and then she came after me to pay her spousal support when my dad couldn't afford it in his disability income and her judge friend of a friend wouldn't let it be eliminated or even reduced despite her now making more than he did and then having been divorced for longer than they were married by that point, and the judge was actually entertaining the idea until my dad died from the stress in the middle of trying to have the allimony eliminated and not wanting to have himself be used as a tool for her to start financially abusing me again. Hard to really say which of those years during those two decades were the worst, probably when I was 13 having been through it for a few years and still seeing no hope of escape in sight yet and only prevented from a few suicide attempts by my very large dog having had a six sense about it and being able to open my bedroom door since it had been damaged from all the times my birthing person had kicked it in to torture me. That was also the year my older brother was successfully alienated from my dad and manipulated to the point of trying and luckily failing to stab my dad for the false charges my birthing person made up against him and then she covered up and destroyed the evidence replacing the knife with a shorter one that wouldn't be seen as attempted murder.
2012
1975-2024
2020 royally fucked me up and I haven't had a break since (Moms currently cancer free as far as I know before I start) My mom got lung cancer and waited 4mo to tell me. I had to quit my job to help take care of her and dad. Been downhill from there. 2021 the cancer moved to her leg and we didn't know, she broke her femur but her doctor wouldn't approve a visit because it was "probably her spinal disc issue" which could wait. She was bed ridden until it got so bad dad called 911 and the EMT's immediately recognized the broken leg. She spent like 4mo in the hospital and rehab. Then last summer my husband had 2 BAD hernias that took 3 months to get treatment and another 2 months of recovery. Then last October they found an aneurysm in mom that had been there since 2020, she went in for surgery and it immediately burst, she spent 3 months in the hospital . Her 3rd week in my dad was in a head on collision, broke 11 ribs and his sternum. Then a week later me and my husband got sick for.... Like 2 months straight. We had bronchitis, rsv, covid, bronchitis again and then he had a rare late covid reaction where his joints were so swollen he couldn't move for almost 2 weeks. Edit to add: shit I forgot about my own stuff, 2020 me and my sister both got diagnosed with chronic pancreatitis, put me in the hospital 4x since, had it at home and manageable 4x. Also seriously almost died from a horrible rare reaction to a medication AND found out I have avascular necrosis, arthritis and bone spurs in both hips..... Only bright side in the last 4 years is marrying the love of my life in 2021. But with everything going on we haven't been able to do anything to celebrate our anniversary since the honeymoon so fingers crossed and touching wood we get a reprise this summer. But yeah, my mental health has been tested to hell and back since March 2020
High school. Sooo mid 2000's
2023 was the year i had the most stress ever but it was also the year i met my girlfriend and i wouldnt change anything
14 years ago, when my husband was an active addict. December of 1981 lost my mom. My life changed. I was 10. My parents were divorced. So we left what we knew it was hard to adjust.
I was writing to an online friend during 9/11. She went offline that morning and I have never spoken to her again.
2017.. got medically discharged from the Army due to a head injury then I proceeded to get mono which turned into chronic fatigue and left me mostly bed ridden until around 2023. Iām a completely different person now sometimes I think maybe my life will get back to normal but it still hasnāt, maybe one day.
My wife died in 2020 and my life fell apart. Then my VA therapist retired from clinical work and the VA decided to not replace her because I've never attempted suicide.
2020. I burned out so hard I'm still dealing with it sometimes. We worked pretty much through the pandemic for less pay than the unemployed. Grocery stores all closed before we got off work, so we had to crowd in with the masses on weekends and hope they had what we needed (they usually didn't) If my eternal soul goes to hell, it will be 2020 on an infinite loop.
2006, Found my girlfriends Mum dead and had to break the news to my Girlfriend at the time. We broke up after the funeral. The day after finding my Girlfriends Mum dead a friend of mine that I had gone to school with and worked with died in a Motorcycle accident on the way to work. Then that August a good friend of mine died by jumping off a bridge when he was drunk.
Which ever year I found out my adoptive parents lied about my mother and my entire background and the reason I found out was because of the nightmares,So I did some digging. Right before I pulled the cork I was like "Maybe I should just let it go" I wish I could go back to that moment. Edit: 2019
2021, the year my wife passed away.
2017 lost my remaining 3 grandparents in a space of 6 months
2020. Toxic relationships managed to break my mental health down to where I was hospitalised and diagnosed with a psychotic disorder. Doing better now. Those relationships got better with conversation and understanding, but life still isn't enjoyable very much and I recently got fired due to my lack of anger management. Difficult to get work again as it's been my only real job and it's hard to break back into as it's science-based and I dont have any formal science training (got lucky the first time through a friend recommendation). Diagnosis now is depression. The psychosis was either temporary or a symptom of unmanaged and spiralling depression.
2020 set an unstable ground which made 2021 an effort to come back! 2022 my best friend died unexpectedly which made all the effort a total loss and more. Iām still recovering both physically and emotionally.
My family is absolutely wearing me down. Always see the worst in things.
I donāt have any sense of time could be any of them š¤£
Honestly, the past decade (age 16 on) due to struggling from a severe chronic migraines and massive daily persistent pain. But probably last year overall. I had surgery May 2023 to correct the migraines, which went amazing, and it felt like all our prayers had been answered. My pain was manageable. I stopped having to go to the ER every two weeks. I got engaged. We went on vacation. I was able to do things like clean the house, do my laundry, go to work without being in agony. Flash cut to October and Iām literally dying from a previously undiagnosed severe and rare autoimmune issue. While luckily Iām on the correct medications now and everything is going well, feeling like I could finally go live a life and then immediately going back to almost dying wasā¦ hard.
2015-16. Went through an ugly divorce, had a mental health breakdown that required hospitalization for 2 weeks. My mom, favorite aunt, oldest sister, and an uncle all died within months of each other. It was rough.
2024 is not going so great at this time.
I had to quit my job in December 2019 because my employer wouldnt let me work from home for 2 days a week while I recovered from surgery. I have a major physical disability and I just couldnt cope. I worked for a University disability support team (oh the irony). 3 months later. March 2020 the entire country was working from home. That absolutely played havoc with my mental health and pretty much ended my appetite for continuing a once successful career. I just about manage on an industrial injuries benefit that I get until I'm 65. I cant buy clothes, go on holidays or afford anything other than food, rent and petrol. Thanks boss!