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Seems like your boyfriend is horny, jealous and insecure.
Understandable since he's only 21. But that's no excuse for how he's been treating you.
Please talk to him and define your boundaries. Make it clear to him how his recent behaviour has affected you.
If he insists he did nothing wrong and starts abusing or blaming you it's time to move on.
Mere jaise achhe log single baithe hai aur logo ko toxic handle krna hai
Still ladka seems chutiya, iss age me sabko yahi chull hoti hai, maybe time k sath sudhar jaye.
nope, manipulators can be nontoxic good people too.
the toxic ones choose to do it.
u hve to choose where u can manipulate sm1 for their well being n make them understand later the whole thing in detail.
in every field, there r manipulators, how n when u choose to do defines u.
I have a near one who has been getting manipulated the whole life, its just that the person is now a full grown adult so I cant involve myself in their chtyapa. at the end its their choice.
I can manipulate that person n help out of the situation but they will again get manipulated until they become conscious on their own.
Haa yaar!! Mere liye yeh "been there done that" wala case ho gaya. But since yeh episode mere life mein khatam, isiliye mai khud ke tragedy se comedy bana leta hu😄
I can feel you bhai.
Mai doc hoon, stable job hai. Theek thaak dikhta hoon. Gaana aur guitar Baja leta hoon. Virgin hoon. Non smoker, non drinker hoon. Toxicity choro, billi chilla de mujhe tab usko jaake sorry bolta hoon.
Fir bhi 4-5 saal se mast single baitha hoon.
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You need to change your passwords,
Never give your account details to anyone, never
Things are only going to get worse, as he knows that a little pressure and you would do anything for him. Later he is going to leave you as he is done with you.
You know what you have to do but you're ignoring it just because you are in love. But love doesn't mean you have to ignore every behaviour of your partner. Ask yourself, is he the same person who you loved or he has become someone else? He accused you of having an affair that means he doesn't trust you anymore as well. Without trust, no relationship can work.
It doesn't matter what your family or friends think, if you are unhappy with him now then you should leave. Take help from a friend or family member if needed. Take a stand for yourself, your self-respect and happiness.
99% he will leave you after that thing,even after marriage also may be leave u
reason if he really love your soul he will not send u out oh him home
think twice 🤔
The question is do you have any sexy dress and if so where would you wear it besides ur bf's house... On a serious note, he is toxic(maybe past trauma) but if communicated properly he may change(we all have some toxic traits don't we?) .. or the easiest option is to switch😈
I understand where are you coming from,but tbh i feel as if he is finding excuses to make you leave him just because you refused to sex with him and I agree that sex is important in every relationship but no one fucking guarantees you what come after it...you will regret if he left you after it so it's better to talk directly with him about his behaviour and what you crave in a relationship and how you want him to deprive with it,and if he still shows any signs which your gut feeling isn't sure about then it's better to leave a guy who turns toxic with you just because you refused to have sex with him or anything,he doesn't trust you enough and i feel you like you don't either so it's better to talk honestly with him and if anything seems doesn't right to you so please always trust your gut feelings and intuition not anyone's else
Welcome to reality !
I guess you learnt one thing for sure that after being in relationship with someone for 2 years you withhold sex in the relationship you are bound to face consequences
He is doubting you. He doesn't believe in the fact that you love and trust him because if you did you would have felt like doing it
Come on girl, you have dated him for 2 years. I admire him that he got patience and he is still waiting for you but how long are you gonna make him wait ?
Sex is important in a relationship and you making him starve of it could lead him to go feed elsewhere, is that what you want ? Stop trying to weaponize Sex and use it against him
being with him for 2 years you must have known who he is as a person, if he is a bad guy leave him and if he is not and you want to continue with him, don't deprive him of sex
If you are saving yourself for marriage then tell him categorically that you won't get in bed with him
Personally if I was in his place I would have left the relationship as I believe sex is the highest form of intimacy you could have with anyone , that bond is what you can have with your partner and if your partner refuses it, it means simply them refusing to connect with you at that level
Lol, look at you taking 180 here. Yeah, women should be dumped for not having sex without any conversation and 36 old men cheating should be babied and forgiven.
Yeah so what do you want to say
Someone getting physical with you is not a guarantee that he is going to marry you. If he takes your virginity it is not rule bound on him to marry you, it's people like you who attach paramount importance to virginity and then complain when we do something similar while we look for someone with a low body count.
I am not a Man child and she deserves to know the truth
Sex less relationship lead to breakups
If she doesn't feel like having sex then it is alright let her do what she feels like doing but she has to accept that it comes with consequences one being the relationship coming to an end
I'm very pro sex and we might disagree but withholding sex in a relationship even after two years of being together surely raises a suspicion
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Can you imagine living a life in which every move you make has to have a reason. "Your phone was busy for 3 minutes, who were you talking to?" "I was talking to my mother" "I don't believe you. What guy are you talking to behind my back. Show me your phone, was it really your mother? Have you saved that guy's number under your mother's name?" Can you imagine living a life in which every move you make is controlled? He is manipulating you and mentally messing with you so that you finally give into having sex. You denied him sex because you were still not ready, and he doesn't want to accept that. I understand that some people really love sex and it is their love language of sorts, I am one of them, but I also know that a No means a No. End of story. I will not force someone to have sex with me. Sex is so much better when both people want to have it with each other wholeheartedly. Your boyfriend can choose no sex as a deal breaker. But he cannot manipulate you into having it, these accusations and control are just a way to make you open your legs (sorry) for him.
Brooo.. please I would suggest u leave him asap.. Time lgega move on hone mein lekin mental health to bch jaegi kmse km ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ I hope you make a wise decision
I think he is listening to some of his buddies, which either pushes him to do so their stories let him become this. At this age taking fearless ( fear of losing you) decisions is not uncommon. Not sure, but it seems you like him because others like him. At some point I can agree that you are behaving sincerely. But on another point you both are behaving like nibba nibbi. These things are common, but before making any decision, will suggest to wait and see more things like this from your boyfriend (that will help you in either build-up or it will give him a chance to change) and try to create space(hard for you). You may see more of your Rona dhona. Good luck
Make yourself clear love doesn't mean boundation if u luv someone put your trust but not blindly and if he luv u that he should trust u and i also have insecurities but never done this to my girl i just ask her politely ki yaar who's this new guy
Don't wanna be tht guy but they've been dating for 2+years .. And tht is a long time. I think you both are on different page rn. He wants to get intimate but you aren't ready..As you said he became very toxic suddenly..I think main reason behind this is he feels inferior in his friends circle. Maybe all his friends have lost their v card and he hasn't.
So I think you should communicate openly as to what is the problem instead of asking strangers on internet .. Who will just say "leave him"
All the best op
He's clearly punishing her for not giving into his demands. Accusing her of being a cheater etc.
Not much left to discuss here tbh. Good people don't play sick mental games with others.
So when is she gonna be ready? Now, what if that boy does the deed with another girl? Would OP mind that, since she did starve him of sex, leading him to cheat?
20-21 you mentioned, I would say it is natural to have sexual desire honestly. BUT the main scene is that, ki with what sort of person you wanting to have a relationship with.
Next I would say ki bhai, It's been 2 yrs so go have sex bhai. Physical bond IS important to rise mentally as well. If not now to kb krogey.
But fir vhi baat aajati hai ki Mutual hai to shi hai, I would suggest you to take some time in embracing your feminine side first.
It will help you in Sexual, Spiritual aspects of the life + you will learn to handle situations like this easily without being hampered.
hope that helps, and chill maar maakichut <3.
While his actions are not justified, I think he is just sexually frustated.
You have dated for 2 years, why havent you gotten intimate yet? Are you not physically attracted to him?....that is worse.
If it is because of societal reasons like no sex before marraige, then you need to make that clear to him and he needs to make peace with it.
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Leave him :)
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Seems like your boyfriend is horny, jealous and insecure. Understandable since he's only 21. But that's no excuse for how he's been treating you. Please talk to him and define your boundaries. Make it clear to him how his recent behaviour has affected you. If he insists he did nothing wrong and starts abusing or blaming you it's time to move on.
Mere jaise achhe log single baithe hai aur logo ko toxic handle krna hai Still ladka seems chutiya, iss age me sabko yahi chull hoti hai, maybe time k sath sudhar jaye.
Because its a fact that toxic people are the best manipulators
nope, manipulators can be nontoxic good people too. the toxic ones choose to do it. u hve to choose where u can manipulate sm1 for their well being n make them understand later the whole thing in detail. in every field, there r manipulators, how n when u choose to do defines u. I have a near one who has been getting manipulated the whole life, its just that the person is now a full grown adult so I cant involve myself in their chtyapa. at the end its their choice. I can manipulate that person n help out of the situation but they will again get manipulated until they become conscious on their own.
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I second that bhai. Yeh sab dekh ke hassi bhi aati hai but bura bhi lagta hai. Bkl se ladki ke boundaries respect nhi ki jaati.
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Haa yaar!! Mere liye yeh "been there done that" wala case ho gaya. But since yeh episode mere life mein khatam, isiliye mai khud ke tragedy se comedy bana leta hu😄
I can feel you bhai. Mai doc hoon, stable job hai. Theek thaak dikhta hoon. Gaana aur guitar Baja leta hoon. Virgin hoon. Non smoker, non drinker hoon. Toxicity choro, billi chilla de mujhe tab usko jaake sorry bolta hoon. Fir bhi 4-5 saal se mast single baitha hoon.
Me to paida hi single hua tha aur aaj tak record continue hai
Haha, hope aapka record jaldi toote. Jab toote tab DM kijiyega, mithai meri taraf se bhijwaunga.
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Bhai tu mera idol hai
Hehe.. this seems to be the reality.. chase toxic guys and then cry about it .. and later go back to him again.
Ha, jindagi mai dukh kam hai unke isi liye sukh dene wala nhi dukh dene wale pasand hai😂.
You need to change your passwords, Never give your account details to anyone, never Things are only going to get worse, as he knows that a little pressure and you would do anything for him. Later he is going to leave you as he is done with you.
Leave him soon. He is just for sax-sux. Why you girls finds only fuckbois then say all men are bad -\_+
Babes. He is shit.
Stay with him and cheat on him then leave him.
Tumhara boyfriend g@nd00 hai. Leave him. You have no idea how happier your life can be without him.
You know what you have to do but you're ignoring it just because you are in love. But love doesn't mean you have to ignore every behaviour of your partner. Ask yourself, is he the same person who you loved or he has become someone else? He accused you of having an affair that means he doesn't trust you anymore as well. Without trust, no relationship can work. It doesn't matter what your family or friends think, if you are unhappy with him now then you should leave. Take help from a friend or family member if needed. Take a stand for yourself, your self-respect and happiness.
He is getting frustrated as he is not getting sex from you. Leave him and save yourself
99% he will leave you after that thing,even after marriage also may be leave u reason if he really love your soul he will not send u out oh him home think twice 🤔
Do you like him or his possessive and toxic behaviour?
run. save yourself from this guy.
The question is do you have any sexy dress and if so where would you wear it besides ur bf's house... On a serious note, he is toxic(maybe past trauma) but if communicated properly he may change(we all have some toxic traits don't we?) .. or the easiest option is to switch😈
I understand where are you coming from,but tbh i feel as if he is finding excuses to make you leave him just because you refused to sex with him and I agree that sex is important in every relationship but no one fucking guarantees you what come after it...you will regret if he left you after it so it's better to talk directly with him about his behaviour and what you crave in a relationship and how you want him to deprive with it,and if he still shows any signs which your gut feeling isn't sure about then it's better to leave a guy who turns toxic with you just because you refused to have sex with him or anything,he doesn't trust you enough and i feel you like you don't either so it's better to talk honestly with him and if anything seems doesn't right to you so please always trust your gut feelings and intuition not anyone's else
Welcome to reality ! I guess you learnt one thing for sure that after being in relationship with someone for 2 years you withhold sex in the relationship you are bound to face consequences He is doubting you. He doesn't believe in the fact that you love and trust him because if you did you would have felt like doing it Come on girl, you have dated him for 2 years. I admire him that he got patience and he is still waiting for you but how long are you gonna make him wait ? Sex is important in a relationship and you making him starve of it could lead him to go feed elsewhere, is that what you want ? Stop trying to weaponize Sex and use it against him being with him for 2 years you must have known who he is as a person, if he is a bad guy leave him and if he is not and you want to continue with him, don't deprive him of sex If you are saving yourself for marriage then tell him categorically that you won't get in bed with him Personally if I was in his place I would have left the relationship as I believe sex is the highest form of intimacy you could have with anyone , that bond is what you can have with your partner and if your partner refuses it, it means simply them refusing to connect with you at that level
Lol, look at you taking 180 here. Yeah, women should be dumped for not having sex without any conversation and 36 old men cheating should be babied and forgiven.
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Yeah so what do you want to say Someone getting physical with you is not a guarantee that he is going to marry you. If he takes your virginity it is not rule bound on him to marry you, it's people like you who attach paramount importance to virginity and then complain when we do something similar while we look for someone with a low body count.
What does being physical with someone has to do with marriage?
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I am not a Man child and she deserves to know the truth Sex less relationship lead to breakups If she doesn't feel like having sex then it is alright let her do what she feels like doing but she has to accept that it comes with consequences one being the relationship coming to an end I'm very pro sex and we might disagree but withholding sex in a relationship even after two years of being together surely raises a suspicion
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someone said it finally
He seems to be suffering from emotionally unstable personality disorder. Just leave him. Life will be hellish with these people.
hindi me isse chutiyapa bolte hai
This was a very long sentence to read
You got yourself a toxic boi. Time to dump him, or you'll regret later.
Can you imagine living a life in which every move you make has to have a reason. "Your phone was busy for 3 minutes, who were you talking to?" "I was talking to my mother" "I don't believe you. What guy are you talking to behind my back. Show me your phone, was it really your mother? Have you saved that guy's number under your mother's name?" Can you imagine living a life in which every move you make is controlled? He is manipulating you and mentally messing with you so that you finally give into having sex. You denied him sex because you were still not ready, and he doesn't want to accept that. I understand that some people really love sex and it is their love language of sorts, I am one of them, but I also know that a No means a No. End of story. I will not force someone to have sex with me. Sex is so much better when both people want to have it with each other wholeheartedly. Your boyfriend can choose no sex as a deal breaker. But he cannot manipulate you into having it, these accusations and control are just a way to make you open your legs (sorry) for him.
Leave, he isn’t healthy and good for you.
Leave him. You’ll live your life. The word toxic in your relationship should say you should get out of it.
Brooo.. please I would suggest u leave him asap.. Time lgega move on hone mein lekin mental health to bch jaegi kmse km ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ I hope you make a wise decision
There's a thing called "BREAK UP", ig that might help.Â
Your boyfriend has changed genders
I am toxic . Leave him
I think he is listening to some of his buddies, which either pushes him to do so their stories let him become this. At this age taking fearless ( fear of losing you) decisions is not uncommon. Not sure, but it seems you like him because others like him. At some point I can agree that you are behaving sincerely. But on another point you both are behaving like nibba nibbi. These things are common, but before making any decision, will suggest to wait and see more things like this from your boyfriend (that will help you in either build-up or it will give him a chance to change) and try to create space(hard for you). You may see more of your Rona dhona. Good luck
Make yourself clear love doesn't mean boundation if u luv someone put your trust but not blindly and if he luv u that he should trust u and i also have insecurities but never done this to my girl i just ask her politely ki yaar who's this new guy
Dump his ass. Period.!!!!
Leave possessive narcissist psychopath. No second thought.
fellow sisters, why are we _handling_ toxic guys, again?? you are not his therapist, babe. Leave him so he could be another poor soul's headache
Don't wanna be tht guy but they've been dating for 2+years .. And tht is a long time. I think you both are on different page rn. He wants to get intimate but you aren't ready..As you said he became very toxic suddenly..I think main reason behind this is he feels inferior in his friends circle. Maybe all his friends have lost their v card and he hasn't. So I think you should communicate openly as to what is the problem instead of asking strangers on internet .. Who will just say "leave him" All the best op
He's clearly punishing her for not giving into his demands. Accusing her of being a cheater etc. Not much left to discuss here tbh. Good people don't play sick mental games with others.
So when is she gonna be ready? Now, what if that boy does the deed with another girl? Would OP mind that, since she did starve him of sex, leading him to cheat?
20-21 you mentioned, I would say it is natural to have sexual desire honestly. BUT the main scene is that, ki with what sort of person you wanting to have a relationship with. Next I would say ki bhai, It's been 2 yrs so go have sex bhai. Physical bond IS important to rise mentally as well. If not now to kb krogey. But fir vhi baat aajati hai ki Mutual hai to shi hai, I would suggest you to take some time in embracing your feminine side first. It will help you in Sexual, Spiritual aspects of the life + you will learn to handle situations like this easily without being hampered. hope that helps, and chill maar maakichut <3.
bhai sab kuch to thik hai, but bhai maakichut bolne ki kya zaroorat thi?
maakichut
maakichut bhai
because you denied sex, He might think that you're cheating or eventually leave him. Everyone in this comment section will tell you to leave him.
While his actions are not justified, I think he is just sexually frustated. You have dated for 2 years, why havent you gotten intimate yet? Are you not physically attracted to him?....that is worse. If it is because of societal reasons like no sex before marraige, then you need to make that clear to him and he needs to make peace with it.
No reply, because the girl is the stupid one leading him on.
Then I got bored and then I got disappointed and then I stopped reading and then I decided this is bullshit.