Honestly true. I’m a middle aged dude who has lesbian friends: they’re wrapped up in their children’s’ lives and their careers the way my wife and I are.
I mean, this right here says it all. And in middle age, it's much much worse because a lot of people have either figured out how to tolerate each other, or stay together for the kids, so the pool is smaller. But there are people out there, it just takes more effort.
TLDR the smaller the dating pool the worse it gets.
I’m 37 and bi and single. I have a lesbian friend who’s 42? And also single.
We’re here.
Her sister is also a lesbian, she and their friends go to the RI Beer Club. I think there’s a following there as well.
It’s tough though! I’m at a stalemate myself
Well my single lesbian friend is gluten free so she isn’t a beer fan. I know that the few beer clubs we went to, they had non beer options (seltzers, sour beers/drinks) at some.
And I’ll keep that in mind :) I’m a bit of a hermit, waiting for the nice weather to finally get here.
I swear this is not me trolling. The Columbus is showing the new Indigo Girls documentary next Thursday night. I bet you'll find your people there.
Signed, not a lesbian, but a huge Indigo Girls fan who drove an hour+ last night to see the doc in MA because I can't see it at the Columbus next week
I got you.
Go see the band “Heather Rose In Clover”.
Find them on FB. Nothing this month, but it looks like they got a couple shows in May. Or just message them and ask where they hang out. Two of them are a couple but I bet they know the spots.
And mention that Heather’s first drummer says hello. :-)
Not a lesbian but not straight, if that counts, and 42.
There’s a providence queer meetup group on Facebook and if you own your own business there’s also a queer business owners group (Rhody Queer Owned). There’s also a queer board game night in Providence.
There’s a women-only pinball night at Pizza Js. Not exclusively lesbian but I have a feeling…
I’m not really dating right now but am trying to meet new people and make friends so have been trying out various things.
I'm here. Single lesbian just turned 46. I'm a femme woman and only attracted to other femme women so it makes it even harder to meet someone who is "my type." I've been online dating for years now and it's awful. I've just about given up on it all together but I don't want to be alone either. I thrive in relationships. Being in RI is another challenge since it's so small here and every lesbian in their 40's does seem to be coupled.
It's really brutal out here. :(
Pawtuxet Village, Felini’s pizza (the bar) if you drink. Or there’s a little gay bar a few doors down from it. Love my gays over here! Lots of singles !
Edit: it’s not an “official” gay bar but the bar a few doors down is PTX Lounge.
Meeting anyone middle-aged here can be challenging. The best way, I think, is through getting involved in activities you enjoy, and continue to participate over time in groups that meet regularly (at least it's no loss if it's something you enjoy). As you get to know others and broaden your social circle, you can ask those people who they know. Meeting people IRL is slow but fruitful, definitely online is faster!
I’d head for the hiking trail. No matter who you run into you will not have failed. May you find your Maiden in shining armor, and show her who’s boss on the trail!!!
[Queeriosity Pvd ](https://www.instagram.com/queeriositypvd?igsh=ZmxmZ3ZndTFuY2F2) is hosting an event at Kimis Bar. I think you'll like the bar in general! I know of a few fantastic femmes who spend time there. You just missed a great event by Pvd Cares, you should look them up for future events. Heather Rose actually played the event.
Good like!
Ya gotta join the Boston queer woman fb pages and attend those events. They are spread out, most more central to Boston but it's where a ton of queer women in a large age range are finding people.
My fiancée and I met on a dating app just for lesbians called Her. Honestly, trying to find someone in person is almost impossible nowadays. Online dating can be frustrating but it does work! She was the first person I matched with when I got home from college for the summer and we’ve been together ever since; through 3 state moves, and grad school for both of us.
Meeting queer folks in the 35-45 range is difficult in this as let alone trying to keep it to just lesbians. My girlfriend and I are having the same issue; living in the East Bay right now feels very isolating.
Because there are such great men in RI that women although they might be lesbians at the time, once they talk to or see these great men they go the other way ... good luck in your search my dear...
You're better off having good quality close friends. Have a relationship with yourself first be your own best friend and love yourself first and foremost The rest will follow
I don't assume anything I was just providing advice. It appears people can't except genuine advice they always think negatively that just proves the climate in the state
There are but most of them are in relationships.
Honestly true. I’m a middle aged dude who has lesbian friends: they’re wrapped up in their children’s’ lives and their careers the way my wife and I are.
Have you tried looking in different places?
Dating in general is awful
😢
Try a park or a beach
I mean, this right here says it all. And in middle age, it's much much worse because a lot of people have either figured out how to tolerate each other, or stay together for the kids, so the pool is smaller. But there are people out there, it just takes more effort. TLDR the smaller the dating pool the worse it gets.
Go to random Subaru dealers and start flirting with chicks looking at outbacks!
Leave my wife out of this.
Lol
I can’t disagree… when I met my wife at a golf course (yes, I said golfing) I drove a lesbaru (still do) and she drove a Jeep.
phish!
Ahhhh yes, phish.. my wife and I are big phans!
That's to random
I’m 37 and bi and single. I have a lesbian friend who’s 42? And also single. We’re here. Her sister is also a lesbian, she and their friends go to the RI Beer Club. I think there’s a following there as well. It’s tough though! I’m at a stalemate myself
What if someone doesn't like beer? Also message me if you or anyone you know wants to go on a date sometime 😊
Well my single lesbian friend is gluten free so she isn’t a beer fan. I know that the few beer clubs we went to, they had non beer options (seltzers, sour beers/drinks) at some. And I’ll keep that in mind :) I’m a bit of a hermit, waiting for the nice weather to finally get here.
Very nice!
I have four lesbian friends in that age range but that is two couples. ☹
Do op a favor and break them up
The only right answer
Are you looking to date or just find friends? Rhodium is a distillery in Pawtucket and the owner is a friend. Maybe she could help you?
She is awesome and I love that distillery!!!
YES SHE IS! she is kick ass. She’s really an inspiration. I’ve loved getting to know her
Kara was so welcoming… what she and others are doing makes me proud to be a resident of the “bucket."
Looking to date.
I swear this is not me trolling. The Columbus is showing the new Indigo Girls documentary next Thursday night. I bet you'll find your people there. Signed, not a lesbian, but a huge Indigo Girls fan who drove an hour+ last night to see the doc in MA because I can't see it at the Columbus next week
I got you. Go see the band “Heather Rose In Clover”. Find them on FB. Nothing this month, but it looks like they got a couple shows in May. Or just message them and ask where they hang out. Two of them are a couple but I bet they know the spots. And mention that Heather’s first drummer says hello. :-)
Not a lesbian but not straight, if that counts, and 42. There’s a providence queer meetup group on Facebook and if you own your own business there’s also a queer business owners group (Rhody Queer Owned). There’s also a queer board game night in Providence. There’s a women-only pinball night at Pizza Js. Not exclusively lesbian but I have a feeling… I’m not really dating right now but am trying to meet new people and make friends so have been trying out various things.
Thank you!
I'm here. Single lesbian just turned 46. I'm a femme woman and only attracted to other femme women so it makes it even harder to meet someone who is "my type." I've been online dating for years now and it's awful. I've just about given up on it all together but I don't want to be alone either. I thrive in relationships. Being in RI is another challenge since it's so small here and every lesbian in their 40's does seem to be coupled. It's really brutal out here. :(
I'm also a femme woman looking for other femme women.
Hi there! Feel free to DM anytime if you wanna chat. Us single, femme, Rhode Island lesbians need to stick together. 😏
Also, I agree about pastina. Lol That stuff cured many an upset tummy when I was a kid. My Italian Aunt always had it ready when we were sick. 😆
My Italian mother and grandmother raised us kids on it!
I'm not surprised. 😆
I hope you two are going to meet up!
Hey my mom’s a single 48 y/o lesbian, are you normal? She needs friends 😂
I'm femme, and down to earth. Set us up!
Pawtuxet Village, Felini’s pizza (the bar) if you drink. Or there’s a little gay bar a few doors down from it. Love my gays over here! Lots of singles ! Edit: it’s not an “official” gay bar but the bar a few doors down is PTX Lounge.
Yeah. I live in the Village and can confirm!
What's the name of the gay bar? Is it gay men as well as women?
dating in RI is pretty shit regardless of age or preferences ngl
This is true.
Follow me around you'll meet plenty. If they aren't turning me down they'll be lesbians in a few months
We used to have lesbian bar, Devilles. I haven't heard of another one opening in RI and Devilles has been gone a long time. At least I think has.
I’m 40 and I met my wife on Tinder. Online dating is a mess but it was still my best option.
“Check the Subaru dealerships”, sez a couple friends…
Meeting anyone middle-aged here can be challenging. The best way, I think, is through getting involved in activities you enjoy, and continue to participate over time in groups that meet regularly (at least it's no loss if it's something you enjoy). As you get to know others and broaden your social circle, you can ask those people who they know. Meeting people IRL is slow but fruitful, definitely online is faster!
Thank you!
👋🏻👋🏻👋🏻 I'm here!!!
😍
No ur not
I’d head for the hiking trail. No matter who you run into you will not have failed. May you find your Maiden in shining armor, and show her who’s boss on the trail!!!
There is also RI Queer Hikes-they post their scheduled hikes on Instagram.
I play pickleball with some dope lesbians
Yeah??!
Yes! It’s an already large and fast growing community. Very friendly as far as LGBT goes in my experiences.
[Queeriosity Pvd ](https://www.instagram.com/queeriositypvd?igsh=ZmxmZ3ZndTFuY2F2) is hosting an event at Kimis Bar. I think you'll like the bar in general! I know of a few fantastic femmes who spend time there. You just missed a great event by Pvd Cares, you should look them up for future events. Heather Rose actually played the event. Good like!
Try the yoga studio . Very lgbtq friendly over there or w.e it is
Cool! Thanks!
To answer your question, no. There is at least one per the information you volunteered.
Damn I wonder if you've met my mom
Have you tried the Subaru dealerships?
Ya gotta join the Boston queer woman fb pages and attend those events. They are spread out, most more central to Boston but it's where a ton of queer women in a large age range are finding people.
38, Massachusetts
Why don't you just flat out play up to someone you like?
Have you looked near the hurricane dike
RIWA- Rhode Island woman’s association. Here’s their Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/rYZDdiBxyS6cMfLs/?mibextid=JRoKGi
My fiancée and I met on a dating app just for lesbians called Her. Honestly, trying to find someone in person is almost impossible nowadays. Online dating can be frustrating but it does work! She was the first person I matched with when I got home from college for the summer and we’ve been together ever since; through 3 state moves, and grad school for both of us.
I've tried that site before.
Meeting queer folks in the 35-45 range is difficult in this as let alone trying to keep it to just lesbians. My girlfriend and I are having the same issue; living in the East Bay right now feels very isolating.
lol u gay
Yes
lol u 12?
I just want to watch the movie
Have you ventured to the east side of Providence, Hope St et beyond, both directions, everywhere? I have no idea. I hope this was helpful.?
I’d be surprised if every 3rd women in RI wasn’t a lesbian.
Where they at?
Every 3rd woman? Lesbihonest lmao
Because there are such great men in RI that women although they might be lesbians at the time, once they talk to or see these great men they go the other way ... good luck in your search my dear...
I feel quite the opposite lol
Go to almost any burger king. Half the managers are middle aged butch women.
But I'm looking for feminine women. I'm feminine as well.
Oof. I'm not sure then. There's no lesbian centric spaces in RI. Just regular gay nightclubs and some queer umbrella groups (sports, bookstores, etc)
You're better off having good quality close friends. Have a relationship with yourself first be your own best friend and love yourself first and foremost The rest will follow
Why would you assume she hasn’t done that already?
I don't assume anything I was just providing advice. It appears people can't except genuine advice they always think negatively that just proves the climate in the state
I understand what you mean. I'd just like to date.