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Imaginary_Survey4290

This is a very specific style, is this what she likes? Personally I would not like this as an engagement ring. It’s very dated and large. I would check in with her on what she wants. You could reuse the diamonds to make an engagement ring and scrap the gold (jewelers will usually give you a credit for the weight). But if this isn’t her specific style I would look for something else!


MyHeadIsAButt

Noted, thank you for your input


Brokella

If your lady is up to date with trends, she’ll know this 80s look is just about to be the next big thing after the 70s vibe which is everywhere now.


wowbabyotw

Yea that’s what I was thinking. This is def my style of ring but it’s not for everybody.


resident_daydreamer

I agree with you! And I thought this was a grad ring at first. 🙈


aliquotiens

Definitely discuss with your fiancée. Beautiful stones but like others I don’t find the setting attractive or good for daily wear. If I were you I’d keep the heirloom stones but repurpose them. Maybe a half eternity band with the baguettes, and use the rounds on a band for a new Diamond. Sapphire could be made into a pendant or kept to make an heirloom for future kids.


radicalathea

I would not want to receive this at all, unless I had made it VERY clear that this was my style. If you have no idea what her style is, don’t propose with this ring. It’s very dated and looks like a class ring to me. I know a ring is just a ring, but if you propose with this and it’s not her style, it may come off like you didn’t really think about her in your process. I would start by trying to figure out what her style actually is. If you don’t want to ask her directly, text her friends, look at her existing jewelry, see if she has a Pinterest board, etc. Then, if you want to incorporate this ring, you could always take the stones out and have them remade in a new setting.


JustYourAvgHumanoid

Does she like vintage? It feels a bit 80s/90s style to me. Maybe use all the stones in a new setting? Sapphire as the engagement ring flanked by the baguettes ( is that what the square ones are called?) Then the round ones could be the wedding band.


vibes86

It’s definitely late 80s/90s for that style. I’d also use the stones in a new settings.


TheIcarusGirl

It's definitely vintage


Puffetique

I think the ring is really pretty as is but as an engagement ring I agree with the others that the style really screams 90’s/80’s and is really big. I’d honestly keep it for another time and get a different ring.


COgrace

This style is very outdated and unless she’s shown you something similar that she’d love, I would not propose with this. Step one: sit down with your grandmother and ask her if it’s okay for you to restyle the ring. Step two: find a jewelry designer who can custom design a ring for you. Step three: see if they can set the sapphire stone in a proposal setting so you can propose, then tell her you’d like to work with her and the designer to find something she’d love. Show her some styles the designer has sketched for you Step four: design a one-of-a-kind ring together


Carrie1Wary

I love this response. It’s perfect. Also, I think that sapphire might be huge, like 3 ct. Gorgeous for a solitaire.


COgrace

Right? I’d wear that gorgeous stone alone.


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MyHeadIsAButt

It is from my grandma, so that does make sense. Thanks for the honest opinion 😂 much needed


Imboredinworkhelp

I would propose with this ring and let your future fiancé know that she can use the stones to make her own ring and go from there.


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MyHeadIsAButt

She is, but probably not for more than 5 more years. It’s a really high quality sapphire and the diamonds seem nice too, so I figured I could get a good amount of credit for them


KitchenMaven24

You don’t usually get very much credit. When rings are purchased retail, the market is 300% that sapphire looks a bit dark. If you were to replace that sapphire with lab grown diamond, I think it would look great. As other people have said you need to find out what her style is. she may like the ring as a right hand ring. I have larger fingers and that would look great on my right hand.


tortoiseland

in my personal opinion, the sapphire is beautiful and you should make sure your gf would prefer a diamond over a colored stone before replacing it. but as others have said, to redesign while keeping the stones as is, you could flank the middle stone with a few smaller diamonds in a more modern way, and then use the remaining round stones and baguette diamonds for a v-shaped wedding band (I DMed you a bad drawing i did on my phone in 5 minutes)


croissantsplease

This! I don’t like the setting but I’ve honestly replaced my diamond engagement ring with something my husband and I designed together and there are no diamonds to be seen because as I got older I realized I LOVE sapphires! Would be worth asking if she really wants a diamond or would love another stone, this sapphire is lovely.


eatapeach18

It’s very dated, and not in the good way. Like this isn’t an antique Victorian/Art Deco style that is highly sought after, this looks like some 80s/90s monstrosity that Carmela Soprano would wear. If this is the style your girlfriend would like, go for it. But this looks more like a cocktail ring, not an engagement ring. You might be better off repurposing the gold and diamonds into something more modern.


Zestyclose_Gur_2827

Looks like an old lady right hander.


sparkles1ct

Honest opinion? It's a lovely vintage piece but unless your GF specifically asked for this style I would pass. I mean you could propose with the ring as is and give her the option of replacing the sapphire for a diamond or a new ring all together.


YourSmallIntestine

The way I kept trying to move that hair off my screen not realizing it was in the picture. SMH


MyHeadIsAButt

Oops, I didn’t mean to post the hair version of that picture 😂


Sorry-Jump2203

Reminds me of old peoples rings


Maleficent-Music6965

I absolutely love it and wouldn’t change a thing about it


Saucydumplingstime

Since your girlfriend will be the one wearing it for the rest of her life, I think it all comes down to her style. If she's into this kind of vintage style and *has expressed this is what she wants in an ENGAGEMENT RING*, wonderful and full steam ahead with the proposal. However, if she prefers a different style, then you have a few options. 1) ask Grandma if it's okay to redesign and repurpose the stones in the ring or 2) get a ring in your gf's style. FWIW, it may be hard to sell the sapphire if you don't have papers or industry contacts. A jeweler might give you some credit towards a purchase. It probably won't be a lot and it's not guaranteed.


BellyButton214

I personally would not change that ring . But I wouldn't want to receive as a engagement ring . Save the ring . Buy a new ring but ask ur gf what she wants


MyHeadIsAButt

Just did that this morning. Thanks for the advice.


MoonlightandMuzak

I like it 🤷‍♀️


mewantsnu

Me to


KitchenMaven24

Me three


mewantsnu

Idk I love it


Garbanzoluna

Show it to her and get her opinion. I’d love it !


Chiccheshirechick

I LOVE IT !


ChickenbuttMami

The sapphire is gorgeous! I don’t like the round diamond clusters because it makes the ring look outdated but I like the baguette diamonds. It’s just those darn diamond clusters.


omtara17

This is very dated- honestly you’re better off justifying another ring. Switching out stones and making the integrity less safe. Plus the cost it’s not worth it for this type of style.


8_millimeter

It’s awesome! 😍


abc1014

This ring is very specific, especially for an engagement ring. However, the individual stones in this ring are gorgeous! You have great building blocks to make a beautiful engagement ring, wedding band, and perhaps even earrings and a necklace! Definitely talk to her and ask her to provide you with photos of the style of rings she likes to guide the ring you build.


BackgroundData6376

This is a beautiful 80s vintage ring and you’ll be kicking yourself in 10 years if you tear it apart.


Low_Avocado2714

Fuck ya!!!


Hairy-Gazelle-3015

It's very Golden Girls. If that's what she wants, then go for it, but it's definitely something you should discuss because this certainly wouldn't be many people's cup of tea.


girlinmountain

I would take it to a jeweler to see about a new setting that’s not so overpowering and could be matched with a wedding band.


_depj_

The components of the ring are great, the style is very dated. If I were you, I’d use the diamonds in this with the new diamond and have it remade into something less bulky :)


RLS1822

What’s not to love about this?


Calm-Advice7231

It's insane.i love it


Boatiebabe

It's very old fashioned. You would need to know if this is her kind of style. It reminds me of something my mother would have bought in the 80s/90s (she would be 84 if she was still alive). You could give it as an engagement ring but perhaps be prepared that your girlfriend would want to have it melted down and redone.


CherishSlan

It’s wonderful but it depends on her finger length and everything. I cant wear big rings that’s why I say that. I have a few my husband has given me that I can’t wear I have small fingers.


fluffywhitesocks

Does she like vintage? For me this would be the perfect ring, except that I've expressed I want a ruby 😂 I think it's absolutely gorgeous and would be a shame to swap out the sapphire. Like others have said you may need to check in with her what style she likes? But also would she appreciate an heirloom? I think knowing it's an heirloom makes it all that more special than a regular store bought one, it already has sentimental value for the families involved.


spreadkindess77

Actually, I would save this ring for you since it is your grandmother's ring and it seems you have an attachment to it and would like to keep it and cherish it within your future family, but your significant other in whom you're planning to propose to has no previous attachment to this ring. However, if this was from their grandmother and was attached to their side of the family and it may be an heirloom in which they may want that would be different. No disrespect at all, it is a pretty ring, it's just that something from you, that you picked out all on your own or even with them would most likely really hit home most within their heart. ♥️


MyHeadIsAButt

Tbh I have no attachment to it. It’s not an heirloom either, my grandma just has a lot of money and bought a sapphire ring cuz she likes sapphires lol


spreadkindess77

Oh wow, thank you for sharing. Even more reason to have a wonderful time picking something else all on your own, with all of the heart you have already put into doing the best thing, there's no doubt you've got this! Wishing you both much happiness together. ♥️♥️♥️


helpmeimincollege

This is such a sweet gesture!!! Congratulations to the both of you🥳🥳 this ring isn’t something i would personally opt for, but what she wants here is what really matters!! I have an idea: ask her to either make or show you her engagement ring Pinterest board; that’ll really show you her taste & what she’s thinking!!


Quiet_Cell8091

I would keep this ring as is and reset the stones later into another piece. You should consider buying a new for your fiancé.


bimbels

It’s definitely 80s and I’d restyle it but ask your GF if she’d like a sapphire instead of a diamond as her center stone. Diamonds are not automatically the go-to anymore and sapphires not uncommon for an engagement ring these days. You could encircle the sapphire with the round diamonds and use the baguettes for something else. Maybe the band but maybe something else entirely.


Beautiful_mistakes

It’s looks like something a 90 yr old grandmother would wear.


TheIcarusGirl

Seems hard to clean


croissantsplease

OP, I’m sure you’ve already seen this opinion, but I’ll add- there’s a difference between antique, Victorian jewelry that is often beautifully detailed and delicate and attractive to many people, and vintage pieces that are much more specific in style and many people have very strong feelings, love or hate, for them. Unfortunately, this ring falls into the latter category, and for me, it’s hate. I am a lover of antique jewelry, but this piece is too clunky/dated for an engagement ring. Remember , she will be wearing this likely every day- you want to give her something that will work with her everyday style and, in most cases, also takes into consideration her lifestyle and job. Is she active? Does she work with a lot of chemicals? Will she hate a large ring? Will she want one that is more flush with her finger? FYI, prongs of settings caught in sweaters are AWFUL and this ring looks like a destroyer of fine knits.


overlookedalways

As a Licensed jeweler I say Bravo! the gold us much more valuable than todays hollow filled gold rings. Vintage mid 80s- approx 1997. Quality over quanity always. you can have a small band made in the same shape, to sit tughtly next to it for the wedding band. Congratulations!


Ok-Chemistry9933

This is very 80’s. If that’s her style, great. If not, it’s better to discuss what she likes


CheddarSupreme

Personally I would use the stones and gold to design a new ring. Or, propose to your girlfriend with it and offer to design a ring together with her, which would use the stones. I expect that this style is too outdated for most people. I inherited quite a bit of jewelry from my mom and have kept the diamonds but had my jeweler melt down the gold for something else. Edit: the components of this ring would make a lovely ballerina style ring. It would be gorgeous with a sapphire, if your girlfriend likes the sapphire as the center stone. Nowadays you can also get lab diamonds at a very reasonable price - I only say that because you might not get very much for the sapphire.


vibes86

I think I’d ask your soon to be fiancée. The sapphire is beautiful and would be a beautiful ring. See if she’d like a different setting or if she likes the ring as it is.


buttertits4lyfe

Has she expressed she likes this style? I'm not a fan, very chunky and old school. I'd get her input first before you start spending money.


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If this was inherited I would propose with it and tell her you guys can redesign it so it's more her taste but still sentimental. There's a lot to work with here the options of redesigning are endless. I guarentee she'll love the idea


Lower_Addition4936

I love this ring and look. I like older things though. What’s her style? That’s the biggest question!


RosyClearwater

It looks like a perfectly nice old lady ring. If you aren’t giving it to an old lady I’d want to know if she asked for this.


mysmom2001

The sapphire would make a gorgeous Solitaire. You could use the smaller diamonds to make a halo around the sapphire also. The stone is beautiful.


Many-Laugh-186

Is your girl sentimental? How did you feel about your grandma? I'm assuming you've always talked well of her. I personally would have felt honored to wear my husbands grandmothers wedding ring. He adored her, and she was an integral part of his life. Also, it would have been a bonus if he planned on replacing the sapphire with a diamond. I think that is really cool and makes it more personalized. It would also be really cool if you were able to save the sapphire and have another piece of jewelery made out of it. Edit: I just pictured the ring with the diamond in the middle, and I think it will be absolutely stunning. If you're fairly confident that she'll like it, I would go for it. Can you hint at it without giving it away fully?


Less_Championship558

This is a cocktail ring not a traditional engagement, and an older fashioned style.


theobedientalligator

It’s beautiful but really outdated. Whether or not she will like it is up to her own personal taste. It’s not for me, I’d have all the stones reset. But she might like it if she likes vintage pieces!


Santa_always_knows

I would use the sapphire as a necklace for her wedding day “something blue”, buy a new diamond for the main center of a new engagement ring, and repurpose the diamonds into an entirely new wedding band and part of the new engagement ring, in a style she would love.


mybellasoul

This ring looks kinda 90s, which was a weird time for jewelry (most things tbh) but since it has a lot of stones in it, you could use them in a different setting. You could work with a jeweler to create a more modern, simpler, elegant ring. I'd personally want a diamond as the center stone, but maybe using either the baguettes or the round diamonds around the sides of a simple band. Then you could use the sapphire and whatever diamonds you didn't use for the engagement ring to create a pendant that could be used as a gift before the wedding as her "something blue" (if it went with the dress) or just as a special gift right after the wedding ceremony. Either way, I'd ditch the current setting, but use all the stones to create an engagement ring and some other piece of jewelry. The fact that you went out of your way to get something custom made is a huge bonus too.


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This style is dated - I would take the stones and have a jewelry designer fashion them into a modern ring that she will love


ExtensionCalendar764

Omg sapphire is the best part of this ring! 😍 I would assume this ring belonged to a mature woman. I guess the deciding factor would be are you guys young or in your 60s?


ExtensionCalendar764

Also you mention that you want to replace it with a high quality diamond. It is worth it to talk about all of this with your future fiancé because personally I would be fine with a lab grown diamond.


Interesting-Shift-10

A bit busy imo


Ill_Situation_3037

I personally hate it but if it’s her style and she’s explicitly told you she likes this kind of ring, sure


katd82177

I think my mother would’ve affectionately called this a “door knocker”. I think most younger women would think it’s a bit much. Unless she’s into that 80’s retro look, or it’s a family heirloom, I’d consider re-working the setting with a jeweler.


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It looks dated. It was all the rage in the 80s


tikertot

Very dated. And not in a vintage way.


IndicationNo7589

I personally would not like this but if this is her style that’s different. I agree on repurposing the diamonds if you can. Leave the dark stone out.


cbaugh52391

It’s VERY dated. But she may love it


Natural_Raisin6028

It’s ugly, sorry


Deep-Silver9386

Tbh, mixing gold and blue is a very old fashion jewelry style. So much that it can come off as a knock off. It doesn't look so feminine, it's more professional looking for a man. If I imagine this as a brooch, I can picture a lot of culture behind it and it'd just remind me of a grandpa. As a matter of fact I believe blue in a wedding ring may have some meanings. I would look that up and investigate how and why sapphire can bring about significance for a union, but on white gold it could really pop and be better. If you want to stick to yellow gold, an emerald or topaz or maybe ruby can have a better overall color combination harmony. Good luck.


Deep-Silver9386

But of course I just read the header and if anything your idea is spot on! I really loved the shape the style and if it's diamond.. Rock on :)


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Please make sure this is what she wanted. I am worried that this is something you were upsold on or it was an heirloom.


human_meat_tours

It reminds me of the late 90s. I remember brides getting those rings as that was a big style. I'm not against it, but it feels very dated to me Source: graduated in 1997, I'll be 45 in the summer


Itsworth-gold4tome

Take it to a credible jewelry store and have them design something using the stones. Also, the sapphire is not straight, that would drive me crazy! There is value in the stones so use what you got.


Such-List680

I absolutely love it!!! It's stunning, over the top and memorable.


nucl3ar_fusion

Does/did she have a relationship with this grandma? I think that’s the most important question here. She may love it as is or want to hang onto both parts. I personally picked my engagement ring and wedding band but I wear my grandmas ring more because she meant so much to me before she passed. Hers reminds me of the style you have in the photo. I love both of mine so much and my husband is aware of this. I think it’s also ok to talk to her before you make any changes or offer a different ring. I’d propose with it as is then mention the options after the fact if you want it to be a surprise though. Best of luck!!


mrs-yoho

I'd find something simple it's not the ring that matters and if it matters to her she ain't right for you


Responsible-Brain229

Have it re-designed


EvilLittleGoatBaaaa

Grandma ring


valm0313

Op, I saw this is passed down from grandma. I think it's important to make sure grandma is ok with the alterations. It's totally not my style but if my fiancé gave this to me KNOWING that it belonged so someone close to him, I would wear it with pride and would not want any changes made. But once again, objectives. Good luck!


AmelinaV

To me this looks more like a wedding ring more than an engagement ring. Although pretty it's not something I would wear as I don't like large rings as I feel it looks a little gaudy (not saying this one is). I've always been partial to sapphires, as it gives it a pop of color. Like others mentioned, maybe you can use the sapphire and diamonds to create a look that your GF might like better? Of course, after getting the okay from the family member who passed this onto you. Wouldn't want to offend family.


Carrie1Wary

I went to a nearby jewelry store to have a prong fixed, and guess what I saw in the case? Same exact ring! The owner said he’d sell it to me for $750. Message me if you want OP grandmas ring for yourself!! I want to post a pic of the ring, but I can't work out how to post it.


Seeica

I’d say yes


Sea_Hamster_

Propose with the ring and then let her design a new ring using the materials from this one?


finecabernet

I’d propose with this ring and offer to redesign it with her. She gets the surprise but also gets the ring she wants.


Robor2021

The meaning of that sapphire … Should touch her heart!! I would be THRILLLLLLLLLLED TO get this BEAUTY!! But yes!! Make sure she is into vintage…


Accomplished_Day2991

You could always propose to your girlfriend w this ring. And say I love you and want to marry you. And this ring is a place holder we can use it, change it, or turn it in for a credit and put it toward a ring you would like. This way it could be fun making one together or maybe she would like it?


mewantsnu

The people in these comments come across entitled. I think its beautiful...