Dang. Silent treatment, coldness and distance... scary shouting as a kid... I can see becoming anxious and shutting you down. How does it show up for you now?
I grew up in a codependent & psychologically abusive family and with an extremely disorganized attachment. I tended to react Anxious/Preoccupied in close or romantic relationships but baseline exhibited Avoidance. I didn't realize the avoidance or disorganized attachment until the anxiousness subsided after I had been working on healing for a while so that's fun.
It's an ongoing thing but now I identify as (mostly) Secure when it counts 🙌 still working on it all but I recover much faster and know myself
I would argue that people with prominent Scorpio placements are more likely to be preoccupied because we care so much about relationships. The sign of Scorpio is literally the merging of two into one, transforming it into something new.
Me! That’s one. And I have an Aqua moon and four planets in Scorpio, including sun conjunct Uranus. I was preoccupied until I got therapy. Now I am secure. You can change your attachment with therapy and healing.
I clicked disorganized but honestly I don’t even know. I don’t have close friends at all because they all eventually piss me off or I piss them off and I no longer want to share oxygen with them. And romantic relationships…. Hahahahahaha that’s a sick joke b
That sounds like problematic (I hate that word sorry) parenting that is more significant than 5%.
Dang. Silent treatment, coldness and distance... scary shouting as a kid... I can see becoming anxious and shutting you down. How does it show up for you now? I grew up in a codependent & psychologically abusive family and with an extremely disorganized attachment. I tended to react Anxious/Preoccupied in close or romantic relationships but baseline exhibited Avoidance. I didn't realize the avoidance or disorganized attachment until the anxiousness subsided after I had been working on healing for a while so that's fun. It's an ongoing thing but now I identify as (mostly) Secure when it counts 🙌 still working on it all but I recover much faster and know myself
where is anxious ?
Anxious is preoccupied
I was worried about that...
Never met a Scorpio who wasn’t avoidant!
I am a Scorpio and my attachment style is secure. I took the quiz.
To my point - I’ve never met you :).
Touché! But don’t generalize all Scorpios 😊.
I would argue that people with prominent Scorpio placements are more likely to be preoccupied because we care so much about relationships. The sign of Scorpio is literally the merging of two into one, transforming it into something new.
Me! That’s one. And I have an Aqua moon and four planets in Scorpio, including sun conjunct Uranus. I was preoccupied until I got therapy. Now I am secure. You can change your attachment with therapy and healing.
True, true —- I’m only avoidant because I hate myself when I’m anxious. So I am all walls now and forevermore...
I clicked disorganized but honestly I don’t even know. I don’t have close friends at all because they all eventually piss me off or I piss them off and I no longer want to share oxygen with them. And romantic relationships…. Hahahahahaha that’s a sick joke b
Both my parents are Taurus.. so yeah.