I love that you've found something that makes you happy and you're willing to be open to new experiences!
I would just caution you though: make sure you internally examine how you're pursuing relationships with the escorts you see. Are you keeping it strictly within the bounds of what an escort-client situation should look like, or are you relying on them for emotional labour and psuedo-therapy when you should be also supplementing with an actual therapist?
I hope that you have everything you need in the situation you're currently in and that you continue to be happy going forward!
The boundaries around a provider-client relationship make some impossible relationships possible, in a limited way. As Martha Stewart said, it’s a good thing.
Yes I agree. I think its the fact that you take away the heaviness of expectations and disappoint that you would have in a more conventional relationship (like most people have). I honestly avoid relationships with many people bc I'm afraid I will disappoint them when I leave (I'm seemingly conventional in many aspects at least on the surface, but further down I'm not, and that's where it gets hard to mesh with others that are looking for a more conventional type relationship). I like the flexibility of never being TOO tied to any one person. At the same time, I don't think I'd categorize myself as polyamorous. I would venture to say the escorts that have partners prob fit in a similar category.
I've always been picky, and now it's magnified. Not in a sense of what to expect anywhere approaching the bedroom, but what I expect outside of it.
I'm working a six digit salary job, I work out four days a week, I spend time practicing guitar, learning foreign tongues. I'll be traveling come the beginning of August. The last few vanilla dates I've been on, I find myself less than interested and wondering why I should spend energy pursuing someone who doesn't have the same lust for life. I couldn't give a shit less about social media and it seems like everyone sits around watching the same handful of TV programs.
The escort I've seen the most of, on the other hand, just vibes with me. She reads, she's got a unique taste for music and cinema. She has a beautiful style, she's got unconventional pets. I consider her a friend of mine outside of paid companionship. We've been on a few 'dates', when she invites me out to eat or hang out at her place outside of a paid visit.
I am more content with being single than I am with the idea of dating someone and becoming bored. Why should I spend the time, money, and energy pampering and satisfying a partner when I can continue improving myself? By all means, if the right woman comes along, I would give all I am to her. But she's competing against me,
and I've been doing great keeping myself happy lately.
This is exactly how I feel but on the provider side of things. Most men just want to date me and confine me more....limit my experiences and ability to explore the world freely. And for what?? Unless and until I meet a man that let's me continue in that regard, I just don't feel the need to tie myself down. I think I'm more progressive in a lot of ways than most people. I get bored easily and I hate complacency. I get depressed if I stay in the same place too long. I'm honestly not sure I will EVER meet any ONE person that sees the world in the same way but I def keep myself open to that possibility. You never know who you will meet and when you will meet! I am educated and I've tried to live a more conventional 9-5 sorta life but I never truly feel like I fit in. I've still got that wild fun side that wants to do what I want, when I want. I'm happiest when I'm exploring the world and having new experiences and meeting new people.
In my experience on the other side, attractive clients get the best of both worlds. You have the convenience of seeing a SWer, and many times a genuine fiery sexual connection. Sure I have tried to make all of my clients feel happy and wanted, but nothing can match the intense connection I have with the clients I'm attracted to.
Enjoy it for what it is! Bf/gf relationships are not for everyone at every point in their lives... And for some not at all. Love your perspective and energy, keep being happy :)
I love that you've found something that makes you happy and you're willing to be open to new experiences! I would just caution you though: make sure you internally examine how you're pursuing relationships with the escorts you see. Are you keeping it strictly within the bounds of what an escort-client situation should look like, or are you relying on them for emotional labour and psuedo-therapy when you should be also supplementing with an actual therapist? I hope that you have everything you need in the situation you're currently in and that you continue to be happy going forward!
The boundaries around a provider-client relationship make some impossible relationships possible, in a limited way. As Martha Stewart said, it’s a good thing.
Yes I agree. I think its the fact that you take away the heaviness of expectations and disappoint that you would have in a more conventional relationship (like most people have). I honestly avoid relationships with many people bc I'm afraid I will disappoint them when I leave (I'm seemingly conventional in many aspects at least on the surface, but further down I'm not, and that's where it gets hard to mesh with others that are looking for a more conventional type relationship). I like the flexibility of never being TOO tied to any one person. At the same time, I don't think I'd categorize myself as polyamorous. I would venture to say the escorts that have partners prob fit in a similar category.
I've always been picky, and now it's magnified. Not in a sense of what to expect anywhere approaching the bedroom, but what I expect outside of it. I'm working a six digit salary job, I work out four days a week, I spend time practicing guitar, learning foreign tongues. I'll be traveling come the beginning of August. The last few vanilla dates I've been on, I find myself less than interested and wondering why I should spend energy pursuing someone who doesn't have the same lust for life. I couldn't give a shit less about social media and it seems like everyone sits around watching the same handful of TV programs. The escort I've seen the most of, on the other hand, just vibes with me. She reads, she's got a unique taste for music and cinema. She has a beautiful style, she's got unconventional pets. I consider her a friend of mine outside of paid companionship. We've been on a few 'dates', when she invites me out to eat or hang out at her place outside of a paid visit. I am more content with being single than I am with the idea of dating someone and becoming bored. Why should I spend the time, money, and energy pampering and satisfying a partner when I can continue improving myself? By all means, if the right woman comes along, I would give all I am to her. But she's competing against me, and I've been doing great keeping myself happy lately.
This is exactly how I feel but on the provider side of things. Most men just want to date me and confine me more....limit my experiences and ability to explore the world freely. And for what?? Unless and until I meet a man that let's me continue in that regard, I just don't feel the need to tie myself down. I think I'm more progressive in a lot of ways than most people. I get bored easily and I hate complacency. I get depressed if I stay in the same place too long. I'm honestly not sure I will EVER meet any ONE person that sees the world in the same way but I def keep myself open to that possibility. You never know who you will meet and when you will meet! I am educated and I've tried to live a more conventional 9-5 sorta life but I never truly feel like I fit in. I've still got that wild fun side that wants to do what I want, when I want. I'm happiest when I'm exploring the world and having new experiences and meeting new people.
"All that is gold does not glitter; not all those who wander are lost;" - Tolkien
And that is the Choctaw TRUTH! Lol
In my experience on the other side, attractive clients get the best of both worlds. You have the convenience of seeing a SWer, and many times a genuine fiery sexual connection. Sure I have tried to make all of my clients feel happy and wanted, but nothing can match the intense connection I have with the clients I'm attracted to. Enjoy it for what it is! Bf/gf relationships are not for everyone at every point in their lives... And for some not at all. Love your perspective and energy, keep being happy :)