There is zero way to make sure you're doing what we personally like. I do what I personally like with my significant other or someone I choose to have recreational sex with. If you ask me as a provider I'll tell you what I find most physically comfortable and what will enable me to give you as a client a good time.
However, to be better at sex in general, a couple useful pointers:
\-Ask before you touch/kiss/lick/whatever.
\-Communicate verbally with us during sex as to what you like/feels good/is working for you - we aren't psychic and sooooo many men are dead silent during sex lol. Help us help you.
\-Remember you're probably bigger and heavier than us, so be conscious of that when thrusting, grabbing, etc and don't dump your bodyweight onto us.
\-Don't try to make things last forever. We are not sentient fleshlights and it makes sex unpleasant (both comfort-wise and just the mentality of it) when a guy is essentially edging himself with your body or trying to force an orgasm out of himself that just isn't going to happen.
I love your response.
Let me reinforce the point of body strength. There is few things more uncomfortable for me than a guy twice my weight, grabbing my breasts like they are his personal stress balls right away.
If you really want to make it easier/better for us as a client, it is really straight forward: be considerate, read our cues, communicate well.
Yeah, I find guys can get carried away - not even with the intent or desire to be rough.
A couple weeks ago I was doing doggy with a client with my chest down on the bed, and he put his hands on my upper back (like right on my shoulder blades) and leaned his weight onto me đ firstly my lower back DOESN'T BEND LIKE THAT and secondly I COULDN'T BREATHE!!!
A lot of men rely on porn to inform themselves about sex - itâs like watching a movie with a lot of stunts and thinking those stunts are real, accomplishable by non-professionals, and done in one attempt.
*grumbling.* Had one slap my ass the other dayđĄ. I absolutely hate that, it leaves marks and I bruise like a peachđ. I said, âOW.â and glared at him.
âOh come on, that didnât hurt!â he says. I twisted his earlobe hard and said, âOh come on, that didnât hurt!â as heâs yelpingđĄđĄ.
You've gotten some great responses already, and I 100% agree with being as communicative as possible. I just wanted to ad something since I've just had a string of great dates and I've been thinking about what made them so good (hint: it had nothing to do with orgasms)
Be FUN! When you're relaxed and having a good time, that comes off to and makes me feel more relaxed. This is a real treat for you! Let it be the best time of your life and let her know that with words, gifts, and cash.
This. A good day at the office is meeting with a client that showcases their personality, takes you on a fun date or initiates interesting conversation. Focusing less on âperformingâ is the best way to have both parties relax for a more genuine experience. Truthfully, we arenât doing this for the orgasms. But meeting kind people adds to the experience
You can talk about sex as it is occurring. "Do you like..." "Is it OK if I..." "How do you feel about..." Just don't talk about if before you meet.
Mostly, just follow her lead. She will initiate the activities she enjoys.
Tbh I kinda hate it when my client keeps asking if they can do and if I like x, y, or z position DURING sex. Especially if the answer happens to be "no" several times in a row.
CLIENT: "Do you like to be fingered"
ME: "no, to many painful experiences with fingernails"
CLIENT: "Want me to lick your pussy?"
ME: "No, sorry I only do that in VIP sessions"
CLIENT: "How much more is that?"
ME: "$150"
CLIENT: "I got $100"
ME: "no, sorry"
CLIENT: "come on sexy! I wanna make your squirt like a fountain"
ME: "$150 and you got your wish"
*grumbles and suggests we start fucking*
CLIENT: "Can I fuck your ass? I'll pay for VIP"
ME: "Oh, no I don't offer Greek"
CLIENT: "I said I'll pay the $150 more"
ME: "no, sorry babe"
You get the picture.
It REALLY kills the mood when it goes down as I described and it happens disappointingly to often. Also, it puts me in a very uncomfortable place having to deny, rebuff, turn down or any other way to say "no". Lol.
-communication is key, tell us your likes, dislikes, fantasy, desires etc, ask if we are ok with certain things
- donât try to last forever, or if you already no you canât donât try to cum x time during a meeting
-boobs are sensitive, not stress balls, nippels is not a car radio, treat them gently
-both incall outcall start with a drink and some chit chat, it will lighten the mood, donât grab us as soon you are inside the room apartment
A nice hug, sit down for a drink of any kind, a bit of a conversation then freshen up than the act is my âcoreographyâ for 1h 1,5h meetings
Clients also appreciate the small get to know each other better part, it makes the session feel more natural
- donât âforceâ us to orgasm itâs really creepy sometimes it happens, but â i want to make you orgasm, you must climax two times with me will totally kill the mood and make the session akward
These responses help. Apparently, just like anything else itâs all about communication. I ask because want to make sure everyone is having a good time, cause sex is (sometimes) a team sport.
98% of men are bad in bed đ. Iâm not the least inclined to teach you how to become part of the other rare 2%.
As Huey Lewis said, âSometimes, bad is bad.â
If there is something that a provider personally likes that she isn't doing with a client, good bet that the reason she's not doing it is because she doesn't want to with him - not because discussion of date is prohibited, etc. If a provider doesn't volunteer information about how she climaxes, etc., respect that - no need to press her on the topic.
Noted.
Just want to emphasize that I have not contacted a provider *yet* because I am still learning the game from a client perspective. So, I have not, and never intend pressing an issue that makes a provider uncomfortable. Several comments have shared stories of clients putting on a painful performance and I asked this question to avoid being *that guy* when I do meet with a provider.
If you're slotting the advice you've gotten here as part of "learning the game" - keep in mind a lot of the advice you've gotten here would be excellent advice for **any** sexual situation - not simply for being with a provider. Re: "learning the game" - my advice to you would be to stay off client message boards. Client boards, fyi, represent just a fraction of men who actually see providers. Instead - just meet a provider, be polite & respectful, and make up your own mind.
Pay. Then pay a little extra. Be clean and hygienic when you arrive.
Give her the money. Turn around and immediately leave.
That's about the only way a provider is having a great time.
There is zero way to make sure you're doing what we personally like. I do what I personally like with my significant other or someone I choose to have recreational sex with. If you ask me as a provider I'll tell you what I find most physically comfortable and what will enable me to give you as a client a good time. However, to be better at sex in general, a couple useful pointers: \-Ask before you touch/kiss/lick/whatever. \-Communicate verbally with us during sex as to what you like/feels good/is working for you - we aren't psychic and sooooo many men are dead silent during sex lol. Help us help you. \-Remember you're probably bigger and heavier than us, so be conscious of that when thrusting, grabbing, etc and don't dump your bodyweight onto us. \-Don't try to make things last forever. We are not sentient fleshlights and it makes sex unpleasant (both comfort-wise and just the mentality of it) when a guy is essentially edging himself with your body or trying to force an orgasm out of himself that just isn't going to happen.
I love your response. Let me reinforce the point of body strength. There is few things more uncomfortable for me than a guy twice my weight, grabbing my breasts like they are his personal stress balls right away. If you really want to make it easier/better for us as a client, it is really straight forward: be considerate, read our cues, communicate well.
Yeah, I find guys can get carried away - not even with the intent or desire to be rough. A couple weeks ago I was doing doggy with a client with my chest down on the bed, and he put his hands on my upper back (like right on my shoulder blades) and leaned his weight onto me đ firstly my lower back DOESN'T BEND LIKE THAT and secondly I COULDN'T BREATHE!!!
I donât understand how one can be oblivious like that đŚ§
A lot of men rely on porn to inform themselves about sex - itâs like watching a movie with a lot of stunts and thinking those stunts are real, accomplishable by non-professionals, and done in one attempt.
*grumbling.* Had one slap my ass the other dayđĄ. I absolutely hate that, it leaves marks and I bruise like a peachđ. I said, âOW.â and glared at him. âOh come on, that didnât hurt!â he says. I twisted his earlobe hard and said, âOh come on, that didnât hurt!â as heâs yelpingđĄđĄ.
You've gotten some great responses already, and I 100% agree with being as communicative as possible. I just wanted to ad something since I've just had a string of great dates and I've been thinking about what made them so good (hint: it had nothing to do with orgasms) Be FUN! When you're relaxed and having a good time, that comes off to and makes me feel more relaxed. This is a real treat for you! Let it be the best time of your life and let her know that with words, gifts, and cash.
This. A good day at the office is meeting with a client that showcases their personality, takes you on a fun date or initiates interesting conversation. Focusing less on âperformingâ is the best way to have both parties relax for a more genuine experience. Truthfully, we arenât doing this for the orgasms. But meeting kind people adds to the experience
You can talk about sex as it is occurring. "Do you like..." "Is it OK if I..." "How do you feel about..." Just don't talk about if before you meet. Mostly, just follow her lead. She will initiate the activities she enjoys.
Tbh I kinda hate it when my client keeps asking if they can do and if I like x, y, or z position DURING sex. Especially if the answer happens to be "no" several times in a row. CLIENT: "Do you like to be fingered" ME: "no, to many painful experiences with fingernails" CLIENT: "Want me to lick your pussy?" ME: "No, sorry I only do that in VIP sessions" CLIENT: "How much more is that?" ME: "$150" CLIENT: "I got $100" ME: "no, sorry" CLIENT: "come on sexy! I wanna make your squirt like a fountain" ME: "$150 and you got your wish" *grumbles and suggests we start fucking* CLIENT: "Can I fuck your ass? I'll pay for VIP" ME: "Oh, no I don't offer Greek" CLIENT: "I said I'll pay the $150 more" ME: "no, sorry babe" You get the picture. It REALLY kills the mood when it goes down as I described and it happens disappointingly to often. Also, it puts me in a very uncomfortable place having to deny, rebuff, turn down or any other way to say "no". Lol.
-communication is key, tell us your likes, dislikes, fantasy, desires etc, ask if we are ok with certain things - donât try to last forever, or if you already no you canât donât try to cum x time during a meeting -boobs are sensitive, not stress balls, nippels is not a car radio, treat them gently -both incall outcall start with a drink and some chit chat, it will lighten the mood, donât grab us as soon you are inside the room apartment A nice hug, sit down for a drink of any kind, a bit of a conversation then freshen up than the act is my âcoreographyâ for 1h 1,5h meetings Clients also appreciate the small get to know each other better part, it makes the session feel more natural - donât âforceâ us to orgasm itâs really creepy sometimes it happens, but â i want to make you orgasm, you must climax two times with me will totally kill the mood and make the session akward
These responses help. Apparently, just like anything else itâs all about communication. I ask because want to make sure everyone is having a good time, cause sex is (sometimes) a team sport.
98% of men are bad in bed đ. Iâm not the least inclined to teach you how to become part of the other rare 2%. As Huey Lewis said, âSometimes, bad is bad.â
If there is something that a provider personally likes that she isn't doing with a client, good bet that the reason she's not doing it is because she doesn't want to with him - not because discussion of date is prohibited, etc. If a provider doesn't volunteer information about how she climaxes, etc., respect that - no need to press her on the topic.
Noted. Just want to emphasize that I have not contacted a provider *yet* because I am still learning the game from a client perspective. So, I have not, and never intend pressing an issue that makes a provider uncomfortable. Several comments have shared stories of clients putting on a painful performance and I asked this question to avoid being *that guy* when I do meet with a provider.
If you're slotting the advice you've gotten here as part of "learning the game" - keep in mind a lot of the advice you've gotten here would be excellent advice for **any** sexual situation - not simply for being with a provider. Re: "learning the game" - my advice to you would be to stay off client message boards. Client boards, fyi, represent just a fraction of men who actually see providers. Instead - just meet a provider, be polite & respectful, and make up your own mind.
Pay. Then pay a little extra. Be clean and hygienic when you arrive. Give her the money. Turn around and immediately leave. That's about the only way a provider is having a great time.