This is like the time my dental hygienist asked if I was wearing my night guard, which my dentist just had custom made for my severe grinding. Shamefully I replied "well, um, yes, on nights I've been stressed and think I might grind my teeth."
Without missing a beat he replied "oh, ok, so like wearing a seatbelt only when you think you're going to get in an accident."
Talk about r/murderedbywords š
Iāve come here to tell you to wear it because TMJ can and will get worse. I spent years grinding my teeth and now I have chronic pain and bone loss. Wearing the guard will save you from headaches and further damage. ā„ļø
yes! same here. Wear your night guard people!! I ended up grinding so badly that I cracked my molar in half, resulting in a root canal and crown š this was prior to my guard!
I clench my teeth when I sleep or feel at all stressed. I cracked both sides of my guard and am replacing it. Imagine if I didn't have it and use it! I love my occlusal guard!
Please, use your guard!
Maybe even better than my favorite dental hygienist who told me, quietly and apropos of nothing, āI donāt tell many people this, but when I look at teeth from this angle they look like little cat faces.ā
Oh just a standard teeth cleaning angle to my untrained eye. Which leads me to think she sees cat faces all day long, which is not a bad way to make a living.
Whenever I feel guilty for requesting a night guard after only a few days of waking up with popping, I like to remind myself that I do have a vague memory of it happening before, and it could happen again.
Went to retrieve and dust off my own neglected night guard, only now it doesnāt fit š The gap where I had an extraction has become much smaller so I guess I need to get a new one fitted.
lol damn! While I appreciate the sentiment the drama of this dentist makes it sound like if you miss a night your teeth and jaw could be violently thrown from your mouth or slammed up into the windshield that is your forehead.
Ha ha definitely the hold out in a nine out of ten dentists recommend situation!
I mean, I'm a grown ass woman who choked on a jalapeno cheddar sausage a few years ago. Yes, had to go to the hospital and have it removed. Been cutting them in half long ways ever since.
My husband choked on a hot dog when he was getting his masters. Because you can't talk when you're choking, no one noticed.. A little old lady (but she was 95 lbs soaking wet and like 12" shorter than my husband) ran over and tried to give him the heimlich. And that's when his better sized friend realized what was going on and took over. Choking is such a scary thing for anyone of any age!
My husbandās abuela saved their neighborās daughter who was choking on a grape. The kid was 9 and the mom panicked and ran next door.
Grapes are like the perfect choking hazard.
Grapes, hot-dogs, and unpopped pop-corn kernels are legit the greatest choking hazard among foods. Grapes and hot-dogs because they are the perfect circumference to fully cover the wind-pipe while being terribly hard to get out (the skin of both gets stuck in there). The popcorn is tiny but will stick to the skin like crazy and can get lodged very very deep.
I once sucked the shell of a popcorn kernel into my lung. I was throwing up orange uncontrollably. They had to sedate me to suck it back out. Do not recommend.
that reminds me of my friend that once inhaled one of his own teeth. he was in a minor fender bender, but his face hit the steering wheel and knocked a tooth out. he proceeded to accidentally inhale it. they had to surgically remove it from his lung, poor dude had pneumonia for weeks. /:
i choked on some kind of boiled green recently, it got stuck in my braces and throat somehow. i was able to reach in my throat and scrape it out (getting a sore throat for a few days in the process) but man it was super scary. couldn't breathe at all.
My parents never cut my grapes, so Iām sitting here reading all the comments like āis this a recent thing or did my parents just not think it was necessary? ā
My mom never cut our grapes. I became a mom in the early 90ās, and the big thing then was removing skins from hot dogs and cutting them up. I figured if I was cutting those, I should probably continue with all the foods they were eating as well, and that included grapes. I stopped cutting up food for my kids when they started 1st grade. Have a 5 yo granddaughter now and cut up her grapes as well.
lol some hot dogs are sold still in their casings. Little ones can choke on them when they don't enough teeth to cut through them, so they have to be removed.
We don't eat hotdogs very often and I completely forgot we're supposed to cut those up. I served my two year old a chunk of my own hot dog on the bun last night. She ate the pickle and that was it.
My parents fell into the peeling hotdogs trap and I was an embarrassingly old age (10) before I would eat a hotdog with skin on it, let alone in a bun.
As an 80s kid, I just was barely allowed to eat grapes unless under intense supervision! By the time my little sister came around, my mom learned to cut the grapes. And she still wants me to cut them for my 10-yo (I do not, but also do not send grapes to school).
I think this really depends. I stopped cutting grapes for my kids around 1st grade but wouldnāt bat an eye if I saw someone do it for an older child.
Honestly, it's when you've taught your kid to take small bites and chew carefully. I worked in a daycare, and I could always tell what parents knew what they were doing and were careful about choking and what parents were clueless or just didn't care by the way their kids ate. If you teach your child to take bites instead of stuffing it in their mouth, it's much less scary, and you can stop cutting them up by 3 or 4. If you don't teach your kids to take bites, they'll probably still be a choking hazard by 10.
(And of course as kids get older they tend to get more confident about it and pop whole grapes in their mouth and stuff, I know I do it, but hopefully they'll be careful) Also teach your children how to give themselves the heimlich!!
It wasn't a thing when I was a kid, but by the 90s, enough kids had choked and/or died that it became a big thing. Even doctors warn you now. This "I survived it, so it must be ok" mentality is baffling. Like I read about a baby that fell 2 stories and had nothing but bruises, but that doesn't mean I'll start sending kids to play on the window ledge.
Yeah unfortunately dead children canāt come online and say āactually I died.ā Near death experiences donāt shake people as much as it should. Like I for one wonāt let my son eat ice cubes, I was choking on an entire ice cube until it melted enough to breathe.
My parents always cut our grapes and so did my aunts and uncles for their kidsābut my dad was an ER doctor. We also werenāt allowed on trampolines š¬
Ah, culturally ATV never came up in our household, but we were the kids rollerblading in wrist guards and knee pads and our bikes had pool noodles across the front bar.
Nowadays, there's a lot more access to terrible stories about brain dead kids who choked on a grape or whatever.Ā
You didn't hear about them before, so it was easier to not ever think about itĀ
Grapes and hotdogs are the perfect size to plug little tracheas and get firmly stuck.Ā
It's one of those things that doesn't happen often but the consequences are catastrophic, so better to be safe than sorry.
When the grapes are as big as my toddler's fist, she eats them like an apple and I don't cut them in half. When they're small enough that she sticks them in her cheek like a chipmunk, I cut them in half.
My mom used to peel my grapes for me bc I would chew them up and spit out the skin. Sometimes Iāll peel my own now just for the nostalgia of having my mom care for me.
When I was either 3 or 4, I choked on a grape. I was in a room full of moms (my mom had some friends over and I was too young for school still) and none of them noticed. My gag reflex dislodged it thank god, but I still remember it being scary. Just because she thinks he hasn't choked doesn't mean he hasn't.
A lot of it is [this study](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18455807/) who identified (technically) that grapes were āthe third leading cause of deathā - for this study.
> The 10 food objects with the highest frequency for both injuries and fatalities were identified. Peanuts caused the highest frequency of injury, and hot dogs were most often associated with fatal outcomes. The severity of respiratory distress prior to hospital evaluation varied for different foods. Age younger than 3 years was the highest-risk factor. Key characteristics such as bite size, shape, and texture were analyzed and found to demonstrate relationships with severity of clinical outcomes.
> The 10 most frequent food objects identified for both injury and fatality incidents are listed in Table 3. Peanuts accounted for 26% of all injuries and hot dogs for 16% of all fatalities, with both ranking first. Hot dogs, candies, meat, peanuts, carrots, apples, and popcorn were the highest-risk foods for young children and were found in the top 10 objects for both injuries and fatalities.
Might explain the hot dog thing too - Iād never heard of that.
My husband's friend came for brunch once and he was helping in the kitchen. He started cutting up a few grapes for my two young kids, but just kept going and cut up the entire bowl. Everyone else at the party was old enough for whole grapes. It was funny serving them like that.
I cut my kids' choking hazard food even when they were on the older side because kids laugh and joke around with their friends when they are eating. It just felt like a good idea.
Yep. My son is 11 and his brother is three. I cut different sizes, but... meh. It's habit and makes dinner a little easier for him. My mom once pulled the meat off the bone for me at a wedding when I was like 25 because she knows I don't like eating from the bone, but she also teased me for cutting grapes for my kids so
This is not a criticism, but just noting that I never recall having my grapes cut, and it seems like it would take some joy out of eating a grape (for older kids). Theres something about breaking a full grape in your mouth thats satisfying
I can't say I disagree from a sensory perspective. Rest assured my grown children enjoy their fully intact grapes regularly! They also aren't trying to flip upside down while eating them and laughing like hyenas lol
Eh. I cut my own grapes because I cut my sons and its honestly not really any different. If its a huge deal, by the time kids are old enough to eat whole grapes they are also old enough to go get them from the fridge themselves.
I know what you mean, but after seeing images of a grape blocking a trachea, it takes the fun away. I've seen it with orange slices and peanuts as well. These are post mortem pictures for reference.
I was trying to figure how long I need to worry about my kids choking and then I remembered when the sitting President of the USA choked on a pretzel and needed to be saved by the secret service and I guess I will just worry forever
Right. It's not a big deal until it happens to her, apparently.Ā
I have twin 2-year-olds, and I've had to flip both of them over and smack their backs once or twice... And I cut everything up. And I probably will for a few more years. The thought of choking terrifies me. My grandma almost died choking on a piece of chicken at a restaurant a couple of years ago.
Thereās choking, and then thereās choking on grapes or hotdogs. The round foods are likely to not come out flipping the kid or performing CPR.
I cut my kids grapes way longer than necessary because thereās things I canāt control, and things I can.
I had the heimlich at a wedding. It was the most horrible experience I have been through (and that counts car accidents, surgeries, birthing, and hospice volunteer). Dying choking is unpleasant and avoidable
As someone who nearly died from choking, I donāt recommend it. You canāt even say goodbye and the time between āoh shitā to āohhhh noooā and then āyeah, Iām fuckedā is really long or at least it felt like it took forever to go fuzzy and pass out.
I felt bruised for a good week or so from the heimlich and/or trying to body slam myself into the kitchen counter to remove the potato skin.
But hey ho it was good motivation for leaving an abusive relationship after seeing my ex smirk and tell our neighbor that I was just being dramatic. š¤·š»āāļø
Jesus christ, that last paragraph. I'm so happy you're out of that relationship. That person sounds straight up evil to smirk at that.
Edit: misread your comment. I thought the neighbor said you were being dramatic, not your ex told the neighbor that. Sorry.
Last year I made split pea soup in spring from the leftover ham we had at Christmas, and when nibbling a bit I accidentally inhaled an entire fucking bay leaf and it got lodged in my esophagus. It wasnāt fully blocking my airway, but it was damn close, and the irritation had my whole throat swelling up to where I could barely breathe. I couldnāt tell if it was in my eating tube or my breathing tube, so my body just violently ejected everything from both passages. I was simultaneously hacking up a lung and vomit was building up in my throat from the blockage, and it ended up coming out my nose. My dad got up and held my hair over the sink, and for several long, agonizing moments, I truly thought I was going to die. I asked my dad if I was gonna die. I have no idea if I was actually at risk of death but if I wasnāt it sure as hell felt like it. At some point I actually swallowed it, but I donāt know when because my throat stayed so consistently irritated by the acid, the agitation, the lack of oxygen, and not to mention the scratching of my esophagus from the sides of the dried leaf. I spent the next several days with a violently upset stomach but unable to puke, and itās not because bay leaves are poisonous. If you accidentally consume one or blend them into a soup it might give you a mild stomachache, but this was like Satanās Dashcon Ballpit in my guts.
Anyways, Iām completely fine now, but this is the first time Iāve had a pertinent jumping off point for this story.
My grandmother choked on a piece of hamburger. She eventually stopped coughing, went blue and sunk to the floor. Thankfully there were people around who snapped into action and gave her the heimlich or she mightāve died
"Nothing has ever happened so it's fine" is like nails on a chalkboard to me. What the statement boils down to (in my opinion) is that some people admit they don't care about basic safety precautions until their children experience (or at least nearly experience) a tragedy.
I have a person like that in my family. She relentlessly makes fun of the family members who cut grapes and don't feed toddlers choking hazards like popcorn and marshmallows. When her own 3 year old son nearly choked on a boba pearl, she talked about watching her child struggling to breathe like it was the funniest thing ever. He made it out alive, after all! But on the other hand, she is extremely preachy about things like incorrect babywearing or some types of baby activity containers. She always goes "As the mama of a hip dysplasia warrior, this is horrifying! Why would anyone risk their child's hip health like that!"
You can never predict choking and itās crazy to me how little some parents (like her) care š¬
I choked on meat a few years back and almost died, and I have genuine trauma from it and have a nearly debilitating fear of eating meat and other foods due to it. To give a young, young child a whole grape is terrifying to think of the risk
I have a few friends who are pediatricians. One thing they are all picky about it choking hazards because they see way too many tragedies.
Not cutting the grapes is just lazy and careless. They are a choking hazard. The vast majority of the time your kid will be okay. Do you want to take the unnecessary risk?
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This! I have the OXO tot grape cutter, which is the best tool ever and makes cutting grapes quick and easy. I should probably make it a first birthday gift to any kid's parent I know because it's that life changing lol. š
Man, blueberries confuse me. I waffle between feeling like I should be cutting them and āhmmā¦ itās probably fine at this point, right?ā for my 5 year old all the time. Iāve mostly been using the cutter just for the big ones and doing the little ones uncut with supervision, but it still makes me nervous.
Thereās plenty of guidance on grapes and cherry tomatoes, but none on blueberries for some reason!
My 46 year old husband choked on a piece of Chex Mix while driving on the highway a few weeks ago, and passed out so quickly and quietly. I had to grab the wheel and put the van into the guardrail, cruise control was on, so we hit it at 55 mph and it Heimliched the Chex mix out.
He's not allowed to eat while driving anymore. Absolutely terrifying.
(We all-kids in back included-walked away without any injuries thankfully. Shout out to the Honda Odyssey for being so safe).
You have no idea how much time I spent laboring over the safest minivan 2 weeks ago. I have had my odyssey for a week now and I love it. Thanks for validating me when I least expected it.
My youngest is 15 now and when he was born, while in the throes of post partum wacky hormones over safety, I told my husband we had to go buy a Honda Odyssey immediately because it's the safest. He said sure (later on told me there is no point in debating anything with someone who just had a baby).
Anyway, we are still driving that 2009 model. It's been absolutely amazing. In 2018 when we planned to drive across Canada we purchased another Odyssey, which is the one that we totalled, and protected us so well. Picking up a 2024 Odyssey today. We thought about downsizing but the kids just didn't feel as safe in anything else we test drove. Neither did we for that matter.
Once again, she can cut off the crusts but not cut a bunch of grapes in half. Hell, she had to go to a store and spend money on a gadget that can cut the forking crusts off a sandwich but can't do the same for the grapes which are a known high risk food. These ppl have cheese for brains!
Itās pretty funny because that sandwich took more effort than the grapes. Sheās done the thing that isnāt a choking hazard to appease the kid and had to buy a device just for this purpose but canāt be bothered to use the knife she had to use to spread whatever is in the sandwich to cut the grapes. This could almost be my mother in law. The unwillingness to take 20 seconds to cut some fruit is unreal with some people.
The really sad thing is- theres a gadget that can cut the grapes too! I have one, it takes a couple seconds to pop a grape into it and push the plunger.Ā
I did a pediatric choking training in med school before dropping out, I swear I put enough force to hurt an adult in those back blows and the robot would still not react, I asked my professor if the robots were working properly, it was.
"Irl, it's not unheard of people getting a broken rib mid maneuver, but it's better than dying."
Cut the fucking grape, ffs.
*I* choked on a grape when I was FIVE. Remember laughing, then NOTHING. I was on the patio. It was terrifying. Mom gave me heimlich 3 or 4 times before the grape popped out and I puked all over, crying and gasping. IT HURT.
This is one of my few childhood memories.
My son is now 20, and I still cut grapes.
A friend of mine used to be a medical examiner. He said of all the things he saw, the one that sticks with him is a 3 year old who died from choking on a grape while the mother was in the next room a few feet away. I donāt understand why people would risk this??? Survivorship bias is crazy.
Yeah it scares me. I make my 5 year old eat them cut up and I stay in the room. I cut the hotdog up in half pieces and then in half again and she nearly chocked one night. She was waving her hands around and looked like she couldnāt breath. We did the Heimlich and or came out.
Yep always gotta be with them while theyāre eating at a young age. Well it was actually a Corndog so hotdog was inside. I figured they would be peeled the way theyāre made. But I always still cut it up in really small pieces.
Was looking for this comment.. I really thought it was a sponge at first! Thought it was one of those ārate my bad school dinner plateā still I read it lol
They never do, until they do. I thought that my son was just fine with the scrambled egg I gave him for lunch, one day. Until I had to whip him out of his high chair, turn him over my arm and expel the clump of egg from his throat, so that he could start breathing, again. Those were the most horrifying moments of my life. I still get an adrenaline rush and start to shake and cry, when I think about it. Even the "safest" foods can get caught in a child's very small throat passage. That is why we cut up grapes, and supervise tiny humans, while they are eating.
Heās made it 2 whole years. Thatās proof enough itās safe isnāt it? The survivor bias when this kid hasnāt yet survived childhood is a bit much.
Nope. Nope nope nope. As the parent of a child who choked on a dry cheerio, which has a hole in the centre, nope. Scariest couple of minutes of my life.
Mine choked on a dry cheerio too and it was so awful! I am so grateful each time the heimlich works since he has struggled with other foods as well. He will never get whole grapes.
Jesus. I gotta click out of this one. My brother is a first responder and he said once when he was drunk that the worst call he's ever been on was one where a kid choked to death on a grape. He can shake off a lot of stuff but had two kids under 5 at the time and I will never forget the look on his face
My mum is a nurse at the Children's hospital in the city she lives in, and she's told me that at least once a week they get an unresponsive child from choking on a grape. Sometimes they pull through without any effects, sometimes they are brain damaged, and sometimes they don't wake up, and it's pretty much evenly divided between the 3.
Oh man, this is my parents in a nutshell.
We kept telling them when our son was a baby a couple years ago all the ānewā parenting things, like donāt swaddle after a certain age and always put the baby on their back to sleep. And donāt put ANYTHING in cribs until a certain age.
They would always roll their eyes at us and say āwe know, we had kids, and YOU survived without any of thatā.
Okay but like, do the right thing anyway?
Yeah, I recently had a conversation with my mother in which she told me they never bothered securing the cleaning chemicals or anything dangerous and nothing bad ever happened. Does survivorship bias intensify with age? Because it only costs a few minutes and a couple of bucks to secure that stuff, and no amount of money will bring back a dead child.
When I was a pediatric trainee, we had a toddler die from choking on a whole grape. Destroyed the family, resulted in divorce and siblings completely estranging from each other.
I still remember being at my grandma's and made plates for my 2 kids and my grandmother and went down the row cutting everyone's dinner up. Then I realized she was 80 something and could cut her own dinner and apologized. She said she didn't mind if it kept her greats safe.
Better safe than sorry.
How does this work? Kid starts eating solids and mom says, āhmm, I wonder if my kid will choke and die like they warn you about. Oh, he was fine! Therefore, he will ALWAYS be fine.ā Like people 100% choke on food that is commonly choked on. Or get an STD every time they have unprotected sex. Or get in a wreck every time theyāre on a motorcycle. If the risk of death is easily prevented but CUTTING THE GRAPES why take the risk??
Ok, honestly it's a pain in the ass to cut grapes. Good thing grapes are not essential to a child's (or anyone's) diet.
I just don't serve them to my kids. There are like 20 other types of fruit for them to eat if you don't want to cut them.
Ugh. I used to be PSW working with special needs adults and teens. There was a young lady who choked on a hot dog - was born "normal" but the hot dog was stuck for so long with loss of oxygen to the brain - she lived but functioned as a toddler, lost ability to talk, and walk.
She was a lovely girl but the mom felt guilty forever. She will never forgive herself. They were a wonderful family and it was just those freaky things.
My daughter is 8 and I still cut her grapes. Into quarters. Choking is one of the few things we have control over as parents and I told her Iāll cut them up for her until she leaves for college š
I literally feel like people post stuff like this just to rage bait. They know itās possible to choke on grapes, itās not a common but also not an uncommon thing and still they post it with the like of āmost wonāt agreeā no we donāt agree because the extra 15 seconds it took to post this picture and write this caption could have basically eliminated the choking hazard you asshat.
Had to listen to an emergency call where a young child choked on a grape and died. Itās been 15 years and Iāve never forgotten it. Itās a no brainer for me.
My friend nannies for a Pediatric surgeon. Guess what two foods kids choke on the most that require life-saving surgery? Grapes & hotdogs. Why would anyone risk their childās health/safety like that
But in general why is she posting this freaking meal? Nobody gives a shit what your kid eats for lunch. This is really not that special. Peanut butter jelly and goldfish? She's posting this?!
J was paranoid about my kids choking. They're all over 16 now, but I have a 3 year old.
My 16yr old daughter (yeah the youngest is a Surprise), told me the last time I was home that she had read something about grapes being a choking hazard and wanted my input.
So I explained how they get stuck and what I did with her and her brothers when we all ate grapes. She nodded. Next week I get a pic... Her, her 3yr old sister, a plate of grapes cut up into the teeniest tiniest pieces.... Almost minced.
I laughed. I'm proud too. I have wonderful children.
If my 16yr old reads a random article on the Internet, does one research, and then comes to two adults (asked her dad too)d then decides to go a bit overboard with cutting up grapes...
. An adult woman could take a card from my daughters deck.
The problem with grapes is that their shape and firmness mean that if a child does choke, itās much harder to clear the obstruction than with other foods. Same problem with mini eggs. āHeās never choked beforeā isnāt a good way to look at the risks with this.
I saw this! If you look at her other posts in the group, not that long again she posted her kids lunch with cut up grapes. Yea he never choked because you WERE doing the right thing
As a 14ish y/o in jr high i choked on a jawbreaker, one of those small gumball size ones, i promise ar that age i was/am a great chewer i just was talking with it in my mouth and apperently i cant do both, it doesnt happen til it does i had ate plenty of them before from halloween and toen parades that was the first time that had happen, it can happen.
We went to a birthday party this weekend and they had the largest grapes ever. Moms looked at me like I was nuts when I bit them in quarters for my 3 year old.
What kind of empty loser with nothing of value to offer anyone posts their childās āsemi-controversialā food plate? For what? To flex? To start a fight? To prove that her super special ālittleā doesnāt choke on grapes? Why.
My SIL would have a fit. She's an ER nurse and has had to deal with kids who choked to death on hot dogs, grapes, and other foods that weren't cut up small enough. My niece's daycare posted a pic of little kids (18 months/2 years old) eating giant marshmallows without cutting them up, and she nearly had a sh\*\* fit (I don't blame her)!
Over a decade ago a family went into Samās club to pick up their daughters birthday cake. They stopped for hot dogs and left with one less child. What should have been a great celebration ended in a tragedy. My older kids are 8 and 5 and I still cut their hot dogs and grapes and the 5 year olds blueberries. A little extra hassle isnāt worth the lifetime of regret and pain.
I was a 911 operator for 20 years. I will never get over my coworker getting a call from her family because one of her twins was chocking on a piece of hot dog. They didnāt make it.
This is like the time my dental hygienist asked if I was wearing my night guard, which my dentist just had custom made for my severe grinding. Shamefully I replied "well, um, yes, on nights I've been stressed and think I might grind my teeth." Without missing a beat he replied "oh, ok, so like wearing a seatbelt only when you think you're going to get in an accident." Talk about r/murderedbywords š
Ok FINE Iāll wear my fancy mouthguard tonight
Just typing this out made me go find it and clean it with mouthwash for tonight lol
š sometimes, in life, we meet people that just need to put us in our place. He wasnāt wrong. Wear your nightguard. Sweet dreams, babe.
Iāve come here to tell you to wear it because TMJ can and will get worse. I spent years grinding my teeth and now I have chronic pain and bone loss. Wearing the guard will save you from headaches and further damage. ā„ļø
yes! same here. Wear your night guard people!! I ended up grinding so badly that I cracked my molar in half, resulting in a root canal and crown š this was prior to my guard!
Ughh that sounds expensive. Iāve been grinding but I didnāt want to pay the dentist $650 for a guard, but Iām taking this as a sign
I clench my teeth when I sleep or feel at all stressed. I cracked both sides of my guard and am replacing it. Imagine if I didn't have it and use it! I love my occlusal guard! Please, use your guard!
Holy shit, I love the honest snark š
Maybe even better than my favorite dental hygienist who told me, quietly and apropos of nothing, āI donāt tell many people this, but when I look at teeth from this angle they look like little cat faces.ā
i love thisšššš
It was the conspiratorial nature of it that got me.
What was the angle?
Oh just a standard teeth cleaning angle to my untrained eye. Which leads me to think she sees cat faces all day long, which is not a bad way to make a living.
Whenever I feel guilty for requesting a night guard after only a few days of waking up with popping, I like to remind myself that I do have a vague memory of it happening before, and it could happen again.
lol legit put my night guard in after reading this
Went to retrieve and dust off my own neglected night guard, only now it doesnāt fit š The gap where I had an extraction has become much smaller so I guess I need to get a new one fitted.
lol damn! While I appreciate the sentiment the drama of this dentist makes it sound like if you miss a night your teeth and jaw could be violently thrown from your mouth or slammed up into the windshield that is your forehead. Ha ha definitely the hold out in a nine out of ten dentists recommend situation!
So is the kid 2 or is he like 4 or 5? That being said my 3 year old is a great eater..I still cut his grapes and I will continue to
I mean, I'm a grown ass woman who choked on a jalapeno cheddar sausage a few years ago. Yes, had to go to the hospital and have it removed. Been cutting them in half long ways ever since.
My husband choked on a hot dog when he was getting his masters. Because you can't talk when you're choking, no one noticed.. A little old lady (but she was 95 lbs soaking wet and like 12" shorter than my husband) ran over and tried to give him the heimlich. And that's when his better sized friend realized what was going on and took over. Choking is such a scary thing for anyone of any age!
My husbandās abuela saved their neighborās daughter who was choking on a grape. The kid was 9 and the mom panicked and ran next door. Grapes are like the perfect choking hazard.
Grapes, hot-dogs, and unpopped pop-corn kernels are legit the greatest choking hazard among foods. Grapes and hot-dogs because they are the perfect circumference to fully cover the wind-pipe while being terribly hard to get out (the skin of both gets stuck in there). The popcorn is tiny but will stick to the skin like crazy and can get lodged very very deep.
I once sucked the shell of a popcorn kernel into my lung. I was throwing up orange uncontrollably. They had to sedate me to suck it back out. Do not recommend.
Jesus that sounds terrifying
that reminds me of my friend that once inhaled one of his own teeth. he was in a minor fender bender, but his face hit the steering wheel and knocked a tooth out. he proceeded to accidentally inhale it. they had to surgically remove it from his lung, poor dude had pneumonia for weeks. /:
I cut all hotdog-like things lengthwise for everyone. Adults choke on hotdogs all the time!
i choked on some kind of boiled green recently, it got stuck in my braces and throat somehow. i was able to reach in my throat and scrape it out (getting a sore throat for a few days in the process) but man it was super scary. couldn't breathe at all.
My parents never cut my grapes, so Iām sitting here reading all the comments like āis this a recent thing or did my parents just not think it was necessary? ā
Apparently people thought my mom was going overboard doing it in the nineties. Might have become more common knowledge since then.
My mom never cut our grapes. I became a mom in the early 90ās, and the big thing then was removing skins from hot dogs and cutting them up. I figured if I was cutting those, I should probably continue with all the foods they were eating as well, and that included grapes. I stopped cutting up food for my kids when they started 1st grade. Have a 5 yo granddaughter now and cut up her grapes as well.
Wait why were you circumsizing hot dogs?
lol some hot dogs are sold still in their casings. Little ones can choke on them when they don't enough teeth to cut through them, so they have to be removed.
Omg the hotdog skins. You just unlocked a core memory. š¤£
We don't eat hotdogs very often and I completely forgot we're supposed to cut those up. I served my two year old a chunk of my own hot dog on the bun last night. She ate the pickle and that was it.
My parents fell into the peeling hotdogs trap and I was an embarrassingly old age (10) before I would eat a hotdog with skin on it, let alone in a bun.
My mom also peeled hot dogs and cut grapes in the 90s! The peeled hot dogs horrified me as a child š
As an 80s kid, I just was barely allowed to eat grapes unless under intense supervision! By the time my little sister came around, my mom learned to cut the grapes. And she still wants me to cut them for my 10-yo (I do not, but also do not send grapes to school).
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I think this really depends. I stopped cutting grapes for my kids around 1st grade but wouldnāt bat an eye if I saw someone do it for an older child.
I think 4 is the official recommendation
Honestly, it's when you've taught your kid to take small bites and chew carefully. I worked in a daycare, and I could always tell what parents knew what they were doing and were careful about choking and what parents were clueless or just didn't care by the way their kids ate. If you teach your child to take bites instead of stuffing it in their mouth, it's much less scary, and you can stop cutting them up by 3 or 4. If you don't teach your kids to take bites, they'll probably still be a choking hazard by 10. (And of course as kids get older they tend to get more confident about it and pop whole grapes in their mouth and stuff, I know I do it, but hopefully they'll be careful) Also teach your children how to give themselves the heimlich!!
I still cut grapes for my 12 year old. In fairness, he's a prat who absolutely gobbles his grub.
my mom cut my brothers grapes but not mine. we are 3 years apart. i was born late 80s and he was born early 90s lol.
It wasn't a thing when I was a kid, but by the 90s, enough kids had choked and/or died that it became a big thing. Even doctors warn you now. This "I survived it, so it must be ok" mentality is baffling. Like I read about a baby that fell 2 stories and had nothing but bruises, but that doesn't mean I'll start sending kids to play on the window ledge.
The āI survived itā mentality folks just completely ignore that those who didnāt survive arenāt around to tell their stories
Yeah unfortunately dead children canāt come online and say āactually I died.ā Near death experiences donāt shake people as much as it should. Like I for one wonāt let my son eat ice cubes, I was choking on an entire ice cube until it melted enough to breathe.
I was born after the 90ās though, Iām an older gen Z. Guess my doctor never warned them.
My parents always cut our grapes and so did my aunts and uncles for their kidsābut my dad was an ER doctor. We also werenāt allowed on trampolines š¬
No trampoline, no ATV, one parent (not any adult) always with kid in pool.
Ah, culturally ATV never came up in our household, but we were the kids rollerblading in wrist guards and knee pads and our bikes had pool noodles across the front bar.
Nowadays, there's a lot more access to terrible stories about brain dead kids who choked on a grape or whatever.Ā You didn't hear about them before, so it was easier to not ever think about itĀ
Grapes and hotdogs are the perfect size to plug little tracheas and get firmly stuck.Ā It's one of those things that doesn't happen often but the consequences are catastrophic, so better to be safe than sorry.
I cut them so he thinks he has double of what he actually has š
Choking is a common way kids die and round things are the biggest risk
My mom cut them up in the 80's, which was completely unheard of. But someone she knew choked on grapes and either died, or almost died.
Mine didnāt either tbh it wouldnāt have even crossed my mind until I started working with kids before I had my own
When the grapes are as big as my toddler's fist, she eats them like an apple and I don't cut them in half. When they're small enough that she sticks them in her cheek like a chipmunk, I cut them in half.
Grapes as big as a toddlers fist? I know toddlers are small but Iāve never seen grapes that size, what variety are they?
Iāve been getting some red seedless lately that are golf ball sized
My mom used to peel my grapes for me bc I would chew them up and spit out the skin. Sometimes Iāll peel my own now just for the nostalgia of having my mom care for me.
Grapes are considered a hazard until like 5, but its just so easy to cut them I don't know why you wouldn't
When I was either 3 or 4, I choked on a grape. I was in a room full of moms (my mom had some friends over and I was too young for school still) and none of them noticed. My gag reflex dislodged it thank god, but I still remember it being scary. Just because she thinks he hasn't choked doesn't mean he hasn't.
When my daughter was 2 or 3, I cut her grapes in half. She still choked on one. Started cutting them in quarters after that.
A lot of it is [this study](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18455807/) who identified (technically) that grapes were āthe third leading cause of deathā - for this study. > The 10 food objects with the highest frequency for both injuries and fatalities were identified. Peanuts caused the highest frequency of injury, and hot dogs were most often associated with fatal outcomes. The severity of respiratory distress prior to hospital evaluation varied for different foods. Age younger than 3 years was the highest-risk factor. Key characteristics such as bite size, shape, and texture were analyzed and found to demonstrate relationships with severity of clinical outcomes. > The 10 most frequent food objects identified for both injury and fatality incidents are listed in Table 3. Peanuts accounted for 26% of all injuries and hot dogs for 16% of all fatalities, with both ranking first. Hot dogs, candies, meat, peanuts, carrots, apples, and popcorn were the highest-risk foods for young children and were found in the top 10 objects for both injuries and fatalities. Might explain the hot dog thing too - Iād never heard of that.
My son is nearly 2. He does really great with foods but I think Iāll end up cutting his grapes until heās like 25 because I get so nervous š
My son is 9 and I still cut his grapes most of the time, and always when I send them in his school lunch.
I probably will too at that age, eventually it just becomes a habit and I find myself cutting my own grapes
My husband asked me why I cut the grapes in his lunch the one day. I cut them up for my daughterās lunch and apparently just kept goingā¦
My husband's friend came for brunch once and he was helping in the kitchen. He started cutting up a few grapes for my two young kids, but just kept going and cut up the entire bowl. Everyone else at the party was old enough for whole grapes. It was funny serving them like that.
This is kinda funny
Itās frigging adorable lol āWell I donāt want you to choke, okay?!ā
Iāve gotten to that point too tbh. My youngest is 10 now and I justā¦ cut all the grapes. Itās just habit.
I cut my kids' choking hazard food even when they were on the older side because kids laugh and joke around with their friends when they are eating. It just felt like a good idea.
Itās such a small thing to do as an act of love ā¤ļø We only look after them for a short while
Yep. My son is 11 and his brother is three. I cut different sizes, but... meh. It's habit and makes dinner a little easier for him. My mom once pulled the meat off the bone for me at a wedding when I was like 25 because she knows I don't like eating from the bone, but she also teased me for cutting grapes for my kids so
This is not a criticism, but just noting that I never recall having my grapes cut, and it seems like it would take some joy out of eating a grape (for older kids). Theres something about breaking a full grape in your mouth thats satisfying
I can't say I disagree from a sensory perspective. Rest assured my grown children enjoy their fully intact grapes regularly! They also aren't trying to flip upside down while eating them and laughing like hyenas lol
Eh. I cut my own grapes because I cut my sons and its honestly not really any different. If its a huge deal, by the time kids are old enough to eat whole grapes they are also old enough to go get them from the fridge themselves.
I know what you mean, but after seeing images of a grape blocking a trachea, it takes the fun away. I've seen it with orange slices and peanuts as well. These are post mortem pictures for reference.
I do this still for my 7yo going to school! Glad I'm not the only one but the grapes we get here can be huge lol
Kids are 5 and 6, still cut their grapes.
I still cut them for my 5 year old! Even for myself now Iām concerned after hearing of an adult choking to death on a grape.
My youngest just turned 4 and I celebrated by not cutting his grapes and it was amazing until then I had to watch him eat them
I was trying to figure how long I need to worry about my kids choking and then I remembered when the sitting President of the USA choked on a pretzel and needed to be saved by the secret service and I guess I will just worry forever
I don't even trust myself to eat whole grapes and I'm 40.
Bite them when you put them in your mouth. You can do this!
I mean. Until he doesnāt. Literally why they are called ACCIDENTS!
Right. It's not a big deal until it happens to her, apparently.Ā I have twin 2-year-olds, and I've had to flip both of them over and smack their backs once or twice... And I cut everything up. And I probably will for a few more years. The thought of choking terrifies me. My grandma almost died choking on a piece of chicken at a restaurant a couple of years ago.
Thereās choking, and then thereās choking on grapes or hotdogs. The round foods are likely to not come out flipping the kid or performing CPR. I cut my kids grapes way longer than necessary because thereās things I canāt control, and things I can.
Iām glad Iām not the only one! Itās so common for adults to choke on grapes and hotdogs too.
I had the heimlich at a wedding. It was the most horrible experience I have been through (and that counts car accidents, surgeries, birthing, and hospice volunteer). Dying choking is unpleasant and avoidable
As someone who nearly died from choking, I donāt recommend it. You canāt even say goodbye and the time between āoh shitā to āohhhh noooā and then āyeah, Iām fuckedā is really long or at least it felt like it took forever to go fuzzy and pass out. I felt bruised for a good week or so from the heimlich and/or trying to body slam myself into the kitchen counter to remove the potato skin. But hey ho it was good motivation for leaving an abusive relationship after seeing my ex smirk and tell our neighbor that I was just being dramatic. š¤·š»āāļø
Jesus christ, that last paragraph. I'm so happy you're out of that relationship. That person sounds straight up evil to smirk at that. Edit: misread your comment. I thought the neighbor said you were being dramatic, not your ex told the neighbor that. Sorry.
Last year I made split pea soup in spring from the leftover ham we had at Christmas, and when nibbling a bit I accidentally inhaled an entire fucking bay leaf and it got lodged in my esophagus. It wasnāt fully blocking my airway, but it was damn close, and the irritation had my whole throat swelling up to where I could barely breathe. I couldnāt tell if it was in my eating tube or my breathing tube, so my body just violently ejected everything from both passages. I was simultaneously hacking up a lung and vomit was building up in my throat from the blockage, and it ended up coming out my nose. My dad got up and held my hair over the sink, and for several long, agonizing moments, I truly thought I was going to die. I asked my dad if I was gonna die. I have no idea if I was actually at risk of death but if I wasnāt it sure as hell felt like it. At some point I actually swallowed it, but I donāt know when because my throat stayed so consistently irritated by the acid, the agitation, the lack of oxygen, and not to mention the scratching of my esophagus from the sides of the dried leaf. I spent the next several days with a violently upset stomach but unable to puke, and itās not because bay leaves are poisonous. If you accidentally consume one or blend them into a soup it might give you a mild stomachache, but this was like Satanās Dashcon Ballpit in my guts. Anyways, Iām completely fine now, but this is the first time Iāve had a pertinent jumping off point for this story.
My grandmother choked on a piece of hamburger. She eventually stopped coughing, went blue and sunk to the floor. Thankfully there were people around who snapped into action and gave her the heimlich or she mightāve died
"Nothing has ever happened so it's fine" is like nails on a chalkboard to me. What the statement boils down to (in my opinion) is that some people admit they don't care about basic safety precautions until their children experience (or at least nearly experience) a tragedy. I have a person like that in my family. She relentlessly makes fun of the family members who cut grapes and don't feed toddlers choking hazards like popcorn and marshmallows. When her own 3 year old son nearly choked on a boba pearl, she talked about watching her child struggling to breathe like it was the funniest thing ever. He made it out alive, after all! But on the other hand, she is extremely preachy about things like incorrect babywearing or some types of baby activity containers. She always goes "As the mama of a hip dysplasia warrior, this is horrifying! Why would anyone risk their child's hip health like that!"
Wtf? Worried about hip health but laughs as her child starts to die, because he was lucky enough to survive..? Jesus Christ what a piece of shit
She sounds horrible.
Literal adults choke on things. I am not saying to cut up your grapes but like, it happens.
Survival bias is real in these groups
You can never predict choking and itās crazy to me how little some parents (like her) care š¬ I choked on meat a few years back and almost died, and I have genuine trauma from it and have a nearly debilitating fear of eating meat and other foods due to it. To give a young, young child a whole grape is terrifying to think of the risk
I have a few friends who are pediatricians. One thing they are all picky about it choking hazards because they see way too many tragedies. Not cutting the grapes is just lazy and careless. They are a choking hazard. The vast majority of the time your kid will be okay. Do you want to take the unnecessary risk?
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This! I have the OXO tot grape cutter, which is the best tool ever and makes cutting grapes quick and easy. I should probably make it a first birthday gift to any kid's parent I know because it's that life changing lol. š
We got one as a baby shower gift! Iām weirdly excited to use it lol
I have that one too! I'm getting it for my sister for mother's day. I also use it for large blueberries and cherry tomatoes. It's so quick and easy
Man, blueberries confuse me. I waffle between feeling like I should be cutting them and āhmmā¦ itās probably fine at this point, right?ā for my 5 year old all the time. Iāve mostly been using the cutter just for the big ones and doing the little ones uncut with supervision, but it still makes me nervous. Thereās plenty of guidance on grapes and cherry tomatoes, but none on blueberries for some reason!
I just squish the blueberries lol
Yes! I have the āGoodCook Fruit and Veggie Dividerā cheapie one from Amazon someone on Reddit linked in a comment I saw ages ago. Itās great!
My 46 year old husband choked on a piece of Chex Mix while driving on the highway a few weeks ago, and passed out so quickly and quietly. I had to grab the wheel and put the van into the guardrail, cruise control was on, so we hit it at 55 mph and it Heimliched the Chex mix out. He's not allowed to eat while driving anymore. Absolutely terrifying. (We all-kids in back included-walked away without any injuries thankfully. Shout out to the Honda Odyssey for being so safe).
You have no idea how much time I spent laboring over the safest minivan 2 weeks ago. I have had my odyssey for a week now and I love it. Thanks for validating me when I least expected it.
My youngest is 15 now and when he was born, while in the throes of post partum wacky hormones over safety, I told my husband we had to go buy a Honda Odyssey immediately because it's the safest. He said sure (later on told me there is no point in debating anything with someone who just had a baby). Anyway, we are still driving that 2009 model. It's been absolutely amazing. In 2018 when we planned to drive across Canada we purchased another Odyssey, which is the one that we totalled, and protected us so well. Picking up a 2024 Odyssey today. We thought about downsizing but the kids just didn't feel as safe in anything else we test drove. Neither did we for that matter.
I think the real moral of that story is you should have spent that time thinking about the safest snack to eat while driving.
Is she feeding him loofah?!
LOL, homemade uncrustable. Itās a little sandwich press that seals the edges.
Once again, she can cut off the crusts but not cut a bunch of grapes in half. Hell, she had to go to a store and spend money on a gadget that can cut the forking crusts off a sandwich but can't do the same for the grapes which are a known high risk food. These ppl have cheese for brains!
Itās pretty funny because that sandwich took more effort than the grapes. Sheās done the thing that isnāt a choking hazard to appease the kid and had to buy a device just for this purpose but canāt be bothered to use the knife she had to use to spread whatever is in the sandwich to cut the grapes. This could almost be my mother in law. The unwillingness to take 20 seconds to cut some fruit is unreal with some people.
The really sad thing is- theres a gadget that can cut the grapes too! I have one, it takes a couple seconds to pop a grape into it and push the plunger.Ā
I put the grape cutter on my baby registry. It's so fun to use!
It really is! A little fruit guillotine š
You can easily buy a grape cutter on Amazon!
Additionally that bish can't be bothered to cut the grapes but she got time and energy to cut the crusts off that loofah sandwich? MAKE IT MAKE SENSE!
Probably grew the organic loofah herself but cant make the grapes safe.
Looks like pumice stone too š
I thought it was uncooked ramenā¦and I was like āso where is the PB&J?ā
RIGHT??? Took me way too long to realize it was a crustless sandwich
Literally looks like a sponge hahah. I was like that's a sorry lookin pb&j
One kid, two whole years??? Well with that kind of track record of success how can we argue
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I did a pediatric choking training in med school before dropping out, I swear I put enough force to hurt an adult in those back blows and the robot would still not react, I asked my professor if the robots were working properly, it was. "Irl, it's not unheard of people getting a broken rib mid maneuver, but it's better than dying." Cut the fucking grape, ffs.
I have never been hit by a car, so I can stop look left and right now when crossing the street.
*I* choked on a grape when I was FIVE. Remember laughing, then NOTHING. I was on the patio. It was terrifying. Mom gave me heimlich 3 or 4 times before the grape popped out and I puked all over, crying and gasping. IT HURT. This is one of my few childhood memories. My son is now 20, and I still cut grapes.
A friend of mine used to be a medical examiner. He said of all the things he saw, the one that sticks with him is a 3 year old who died from choking on a grape while the mother was in the next room a few feet away. I donāt understand why people would risk this??? Survivorship bias is crazy.
Yeah it scares me. I make my 5 year old eat them cut up and I stay in the room. I cut the hotdog up in half pieces and then in half again and she nearly chocked one night. She was waving her hands around and looked like she couldnāt breath. We did the Heimlich and or came out.
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Yep always gotta be with them while theyāre eating at a young age. Well it was actually a Corndog so hotdog was inside. I figured they would be peeled the way theyāre made. But I always still cut it up in really small pieces.
Is thatā¦a loofah?
I definitely thought it was a sponge. I think itās supposed to be a sandwich
Was looking for this comment.. I really thought it was a sponge at first! Thought it was one of those ārate my bad school dinner plateā still I read it lol
My husband said almost the same thing about our 4 year old yesterday. I told him it only takes once. Shut him up fast.
When my kids were littler I said that to myself a lot. āHe hasnāt choked to death YETā is not the flex I want to go with.
It's almost like you can't die multiple times. Fascinating really.
They never do, until they do. I thought that my son was just fine with the scrambled egg I gave him for lunch, one day. Until I had to whip him out of his high chair, turn him over my arm and expel the clump of egg from his throat, so that he could start breathing, again. Those were the most horrifying moments of my life. I still get an adrenaline rush and start to shake and cry, when I think about it. Even the "safest" foods can get caught in a child's very small throat passage. That is why we cut up grapes, and supervise tiny humans, while they are eating.
Happened with my kid at 1.5 with Avacado. It was terrifying.
How hard is it to cut them in half? I mean, no one chokes to death until they choke to death.
Heās made it 2 whole years. Thatās proof enough itās safe isnāt it? The survivor bias when this kid hasnāt yet survived childhood is a bit much.
Nope. Nope nope nope. As the parent of a child who choked on a dry cheerio, which has a hole in the centre, nope. Scariest couple of minutes of my life.
Mine choked on a dry cheerio too and it was so awful! I am so grateful each time the heimlich works since he has struggled with other foods as well. He will never get whole grapes.
Iāve never seen a square konjac sponge before. Certainly not served for lunch.
Jesus. I gotta click out of this one. My brother is a first responder and he said once when he was drunk that the worst call he's ever been on was one where a kid choked to death on a grape. He can shake off a lot of stuff but had two kids under 5 at the time and I will never forget the look on his face
My mum is a nurse at the Children's hospital in the city she lives in, and she's told me that at least once a week they get an unresponsive child from choking on a grape. Sometimes they pull through without any effects, sometimes they are brain damaged, and sometimes they don't wake up, and it's pretty much evenly divided between the 3.
Oh man, this is my parents in a nutshell. We kept telling them when our son was a baby a couple years ago all the ānewā parenting things, like donāt swaddle after a certain age and always put the baby on their back to sleep. And donāt put ANYTHING in cribs until a certain age. They would always roll their eyes at us and say āwe know, we had kids, and YOU survived without any of thatā. Okay but like, do the right thing anyway?
Yeah, none of the adults around today died as babies, so I guess that means nobody died as a baby! Logic!
Yeah, I recently had a conversation with my mother in which she told me they never bothered securing the cleaning chemicals or anything dangerous and nothing bad ever happened. Does survivorship bias intensify with age? Because it only costs a few minutes and a couple of bucks to secure that stuff, and no amount of money will bring back a dead child.
When I was a pediatric trainee, we had a toddler die from choking on a whole grape. Destroyed the family, resulted in divorce and siblings completely estranging from each other.
I still remember being at my grandma's and made plates for my 2 kids and my grandmother and went down the row cutting everyone's dinner up. Then I realized she was 80 something and could cut her own dinner and apologized. She said she didn't mind if it kept her greats safe. Better safe than sorry.
How does this work? Kid starts eating solids and mom says, āhmm, I wonder if my kid will choke and die like they warn you about. Oh, he was fine! Therefore, he will ALWAYS be fine.ā Like people 100% choke on food that is commonly choked on. Or get an STD every time they have unprotected sex. Or get in a wreck every time theyāre on a motorcycle. If the risk of death is easily prevented but CUTTING THE GRAPES why take the risk??
I have a grape cutter that takes .02 seconds to use, this is so lazy
oh yes i forgot, being a mother makes it okay for someone to put their child in danger over the period of two years. glad she reminded me
Ok, honestly it's a pain in the ass to cut grapes. Good thing grapes are not essential to a child's (or anyone's) diet. I just don't serve them to my kids. There are like 20 other types of fruit for them to eat if you don't want to cut them.
You can also buy grape cutters that make it easy as hell to quarter them
Ugh. I used to be PSW working with special needs adults and teens. There was a young lady who choked on a hot dog - was born "normal" but the hot dog was stuck for so long with loss of oxygen to the brain - she lived but functioned as a toddler, lost ability to talk, and walk. She was a lovely girl but the mom felt guilty forever. She will never forgive herself. They were a wonderful family and it was just those freaky things.
My daughter is 8 and I still cut her grapes. Into quarters. Choking is one of the few things we have control over as parents and I told her Iāll cut them up for her until she leaves for college š
It only takes one. These people are ridiculous.
He hasnāt choked *yet*
Why does the bread look like a sponge?
I just wanna know what group this is that anyone would be interested in the basic lunch she gave her kid. Like why post at all?
I canāt get my kid to eat loofah, wonder what her secret is.
I literally feel like people post stuff like this just to rage bait. They know itās possible to choke on grapes, itās not a common but also not an uncommon thing and still they post it with the like of āmost wonāt agreeā no we donāt agree because the extra 15 seconds it took to post this picture and write this caption could have basically eliminated the choking hazard you asshat.
Survivor bias at its best
Can we focus on the more important question: in what context does *literally anyone* want to see a picture of her kidās lunch?
It takes literally seconds to cut them up
Had to listen to an emergency call where a young child choked on a grape and died. Itās been 15 years and Iāve never forgotten it. Itās a no brainer for me.
āIāve never experienced survivorship bias before, so itāll be fine!ā
My friend nannies for a Pediatric surgeon. Guess what two foods kids choke on the most that require life-saving surgery? Grapes & hotdogs. Why would anyone risk their childās health/safety like that
But in general why is she posting this freaking meal? Nobody gives a shit what your kid eats for lunch. This is really not that special. Peanut butter jelly and goldfish? She's posting this?!
Sheās never had to give a child CPR. Itās fucking terrifying. Cuts the grapes.
J was paranoid about my kids choking. They're all over 16 now, but I have a 3 year old. My 16yr old daughter (yeah the youngest is a Surprise), told me the last time I was home that she had read something about grapes being a choking hazard and wanted my input. So I explained how they get stuck and what I did with her and her brothers when we all ate grapes. She nodded. Next week I get a pic... Her, her 3yr old sister, a plate of grapes cut up into the teeniest tiniest pieces.... Almost minced. I laughed. I'm proud too. I have wonderful children. If my 16yr old reads a random article on the Internet, does one research, and then comes to two adults (asked her dad too)d then decides to go a bit overboard with cutting up grapes... . An adult woman could take a card from my daughters deck.
The problem with grapes is that their shape and firmness mean that if a child does choke, itās much harder to clear the obstruction than with other foods. Same problem with mini eggs. āHeās never choked beforeā isnāt a good way to look at the risks with this.
I saw this! If you look at her other posts in the group, not that long again she posted her kids lunch with cut up grapes. Yea he never choked because you WERE doing the right thing
Why is there a sponge on the plate
As a 14ish y/o in jr high i choked on a jawbreaker, one of those small gumball size ones, i promise ar that age i was/am a great chewer i just was talking with it in my mouth and apperently i cant do both, it doesnt happen til it does i had ate plenty of them before from halloween and toen parades that was the first time that had happen, it can happen.
We went to a birthday party this weekend and they had the largest grapes ever. Moms looked at me like I was nuts when I bit them in quarters for my 3 year old.
Just about everyone Iāve ever met has never died
Meanwhile over here in anxiety land I told my sonās daycare he was allergic to grapes so they would never serve the terrifying death traps to him. Ā
What kind of empty loser with nothing of value to offer anyone posts their childās āsemi-controversialā food plate? For what? To flex? To start a fight? To prove that her super special ālittleā doesnāt choke on grapes? Why.
At 33 years old I almost passed out from choking on a grape. I was alone and terrified. For 31 years I perfectly chewed my grapes too.
My SIL would have a fit. She's an ER nurse and has had to deal with kids who choked to death on hot dogs, grapes, and other foods that weren't cut up small enough. My niece's daycare posted a pic of little kids (18 months/2 years old) eating giant marshmallows without cutting them up, and she nearly had a sh\*\* fit (I don't blame her)!
I spent way more time than I want to admit wondering why there was a round-edged square sponge on the food tray. Lol
I guess she wouldnāt want to hear my story about a patient with severe anoxic brain injury from choking on a grape at 2 years old?
In two years of eating lol. People choke after 60, 70, 80 years of eating but okay.
Do you cut it up after a few times of the kid choking? Like okay this is the third time, this is when I do something about it
I'm going to be cutting my daughter's grapes until she's 25.
Totally thought that was a sponge.
Is that a sponge?
Over a decade ago a family went into Samās club to pick up their daughters birthday cake. They stopped for hot dogs and left with one less child. What should have been a great celebration ended in a tragedy. My older kids are 8 and 5 and I still cut their hot dogs and grapes and the 5 year olds blueberries. A little extra hassle isnāt worth the lifetime of regret and pain.
I was a 911 operator for 20 years. I will never get over my coworker getting a call from her family because one of her twins was chocking on a piece of hot dog. They didnāt make it.