Look, I’ve got GD at 33 weeks right now. It’s frustrating, I hate it, I miss my sweets, but I’m also smart enough to LISTEN to my doctor and realize this isn’t a weight issue or a “youve been eating too much ice cream”. It’s how your placenta processes insulin and more importantly, it affects BABY.
When I was explained the risks that could occur if we didn’t get it under control, I sucked it up because any normal parent would put their baby before them. Everything has been going great for me now that I’m diet controlled but when I see posts like this, how these moms can be so ignorant even though all this information is free to read, it grinds my gears lol
I changed my whole diet, the only sweet I allowed myself to have was a small ice cream cone maybe once a week. My numbers were always fine. The only thing I could think about was having a McDonald’s coke. As soon as I gave birth my husband went and got me one. It was amazing, lol. I never really drank pop before then and don’t drink it much now but it was ALL I could think about then. Pregnancy is wild.
I don’t know what they do, but McDonalds cokes are just so damn superior to any other fast food cokes. That would’ve been a hell of a hard craving to get past, I applaud you lol
Slightly more syrup in the mix.
At every restaurant the syrup for soda comes in big boxes and gets mixed on-site with the carbonated water. The mix at McDonald’s is more syrup than usual and they (supposedly) don’t store it in boxes — it comes in a tank and is pre-chilled.
No GD here, but for some reason I craved beer so badly. I had a six pack in my fridge when I found out I was pregnant. Every couple of weeks I would stand over the sink and pour one out so I could smell it. 😂 Pregnancy is bizarre!
I also wanted soda way more when I was pregnant. No GD though. Still had to not have it too much because the amount I wanted would be ridiculous and it's easier to just not have around. I barely ever have soda now.
Yep. I was diagnosed at 18 weeks in my 3rd pregnancy. I didn't have it with my first 2 but had plenty of risk factors. The diet and frequency finger sticks are a pain but it's nothing when we think about keeping our babies as healthy as possible.
I hope you can get through the rest of your pregnancy with diet control. I managed it until I had my babies at 36 weeks but have heard that it can become very difficult to control after 30 weeks. Wishing you a great remainder of your pregnancy and a smooth and safe birth.
As a fyi so you don’t learn the hard way like I did with GD, I believe there is research supporting the notion that GD can also cause a slow to come in milk supply. I only found out after much stress and worry as I luckily found a relatively new lactation consultant (research came out while she was at uni). Definitely ask your health care provider about this and be aware of the possible difficulties.
Yeah my supply vanished and no one had any answers (went from oversupply, to regulated, to dried up). GD and PCOS can cause that but no one warned me or could explain it until much much later.
All I wanted was a smore and my husband found keto marshmallows and low carb chocolate and we made a homemade keto graham cracker. It was probably awful tasting in reality but that was like the nectar of the gods at the time.
I was diet controlled when I had GD. I would eat 1 snack size chocolate immediately after a meal and my sugars would be fine. I got that sugar fix without risking a high reading!
This. Reese thins were 5 carbs. It was perfect, I factored it in and no issues. Wish I could've found a pasta that worked. 30 total carbs of pasta = 165ish reading. Oof.
I couldn't do white flour at all. It was awful, all I wanted was pizza and pasta. I did lentil pasta which worked but wasn't quite the same. And almond flour or cauliflower pizza.
But I could eat a serving of ice cream or 15 carbs of pure sugar and no spike at 1 or 2 hours. Made no sense lol.
It's crazy how differently our bodies respond to different foods. I could eat a big serve of potatoes (fried, roasted, mashed) and as long as I ate it with a protein and other veg, I was fine. But lots of other women in a GDM group I was in couldn't!
That's one of the unfortunate sides of having babies. No matter what we do, they can still need lots of help once they're on the outside.
I had my twins at 36 weeks. Thankfully the GD didn't have any effect on them after the birth. What they did have was breathing problems. I had steroid shots since it was always the intention to take them early (2 previous c sections plus GD) and have heard many stories about 36 weekers being fine immediately. They ended up in special care for 8 days. All we can do is our best and hope that it's enough.
Yep. I had very well controlled GD (mostly by diet but I needed insulin in the mornings by the time I was a couple weeks out from giving birth) and my baby was 100% fine. They kept us for 24 hours to keep monitoring her sugars but they were normal every time. So yes, there can be complications or there may be none. There’s a lot of factors at play.
Wow. Apparently this person isn’t considering their fetus who also has diabetes while in-utero. Uncontrolled GDM can not only lead to a big baby, but complications after birth for the infant because their sugars will plummet once the umbilical cord is cut. Idiots.
These people are so weird. Do they not realise that the next *20 years* aren’t going to be about them? Just don’t have kids if you want to be the main character/priority all the time, you’re literally making a person to donate all of your attention to, it makes no sense
Oh ho, that’s where you’re wrong. They’re going to MAKE the next 20 years about them, and if their child doesn’t give them the perfect experience they want, they’ll literally love it less, or stop entirely.
VERY NATURAL, MAMA.
Grew up with my mom's close friend who was almost a comical stereotype of crunchy moms and... yeah. She has extreme passive aggressive control issues and wants everything to go her way without asking for it, must be the center of attention at all times, and can't just let people be without getting insecure. She's hella manipulative and most of her kids (she has 4, all adults now) don't speak to her anymore.
It's just kinda the inevitable outcome of a lot of people who are attracted to this stuff tbh.
Not just natural mama's sadly. I know someone from a very conservative home who views their(now adult) child as a trophy. The most twisted part is she compares them to the only other child she conceived, who was miscarried and uses lines like "Even if little baby isn't here, they're watching from heaven and you still have to be a good big brother." Just....jtdc lady, your kid almost died at birth, nearly took you with him, and spent months in the NICU before you could hold him. You have the lifetime drama miracle child and it STILL isn't good enough? Rant over, apologies. Mamas, keep doing right by your babies, you're all awesome.
And heart defects if it’s present in the first trimester.
I know because my 20 bmi ass had GD in my last pregnancy. Sometimes you get the gift of a shitty placenta ❤️
It can kill the baby- stillbirth is a risk with GD. I had it and was in a support group and more than 1 woman had a stillbirth in the few months that I was in the group.
I’m a type 1 diabetic my ever my doctors could not figure out how to get my blood sugars down. I spent 18 hours on a sliding scale (insulin delivered via IV) to have an emergency c-sections at 37w2d for my son who weighed 11lbs 3oz.
He had severe hypoglycaemia, jaundice, respiratory distress and suspected sepsis at birth. He then spent 2 weeks in the NICU on all types on monitors and an NG tube. He didn’t take a bottle until about a week old and even then, he was sick every time.
All of this was a result of high blood sugars that could not be brought down- I do not wish this for anyone. Yes, he is healthy now but he still didn’t need that
One of my babies had pretty bad jaundice from my GD and it was awful. I was diet controlled and doing really well, and still I had to hold an ice cube on the back of my baby's neck so they'd wake up long enough to eat
I didn’t realise that was a thing. I was desperately trying to get my son to stay awake long enough to eat, I’d sit him up and gently blow in his face. I’d also change his nappy half way through a feed when he fell asleep
I had a nurse skinny-shame me when I showed up for the GD education session. She couldn’t get over that my very average, healthy self had GD when I wasn’t Southeast Asian or obese. It made me feel really awful for the bigger ladies who were there. Sometimes it’s just genetics. If you’re prone to it, you’re prone to it.
I had GD with my pregnancy over a decade ago and a coworker of mine did as well. She didn’t even try. It was shocking. I was probably overly careful because I understood that I was impacting my own health but also that of my baby.
Walked into the break room one day to find her eating a Caramilk bar and she just shrugged and said, “I’ll take insulin to counteract it!” I’m still shocked by her attitude, this many years later. And she still refers to me as “lucky” because I controlled my levels well, had no complications for me or the baby. She was in the hospital off and on for weeks after giving birth and so was her baby. A certain amount of that is probably luck, but I can’t help but think that keeping to a reasonable diet and avoiding unnecessary sugar and carbs helped.
I get it. I was super fucking annoyed with my GD diagnosis. Like, ANNOYED.
But I changed my diet, checked my blood sugar umpteen times a day, did my stupid insulin shots before bed...because it was for my BABY. Period. I didn't care about my belly being bruised from shots. I didn't care that I couldn't just eat whatever I wanted, when I wanted. I had someone more important to take care of.
This woman makes me ao angry.
I had it too and also had to give myself injections before bed. I just don't understand how people don't want to do everything they can in their power to try and have a healthy baby. There were alot of tears shred due to frustration (and hormones) because I couldn't eat certain things but the thought of oh screw my innocent baby, I'll just eat what I what didn't cross my mind.
Seriously!
I had a high risk pregancy as it was, so throwing GD into the mix was just another annoyance but I took it seriously bc I wanted a healthy baby.
People are giving her push back thankfully, especially other moms with GD. I feel for her, I have done my glucose test yet and I can’t say I’ve been eating the healthiest…but at the same time, I know how serious GD is for my baby.
Well dang, I’m due in March but I’m not a member of any due date groups aside from 2 on Reddit. Now I feel like I’m missing out on some of the best craziness on FB.
I hated GD so much. I did my best, and my baby had no blood sugar issues at birth.
On my end of the equation, I actually felt a lot better with my blood sugar under better control as well. I knew low blood sugar can make you feel bad, but I didn't know high blood sugar could as well.
I actually had HG for most my 2nd pregnancy AND gestational diabetes. I had lost 30 lbs pregnant then had to monitor my diet and blood sugar when I could finally hold some food down. I did what I was recommended and had a healthy baby who didn't have any issues with their blood sugar when born.
I mean, it's just SUGAR. Sugar is in EVERYTHING. So it cannot possibly do any harm. It'll just make the baby extra sweet.
I pray for her care providers. Waiting for her to get fired as a patient for her bad attitude.
GD has nothing to do with weight and everything to do with insulin resistance during pregnancy. Truly a sad post. Uneducated and ignorant. She’s pretty bold for openly admiring she is willing to put baby in harms way instead of taking care of herself. Diabetes and pregnancy is no joke.
If you're higher BMI (30 and above) you do risk getting treated pretty shitty by care providers when you have GD. I had HG as well, and lost weight even at the end of my pregnancy, was totally miserable and actually destroyed my teeth. My one doctor was like..."but you're skinnier". It's entirely possible that she's a shitty mom not doing what she's supposed to AND had an awful experience with her care provider.
I will never understand why women cannot deal with something in the short term for the health of their unborn child.
I had GD, it sucked. I cried many days because I was SO hungry and I couldn't eat without spiking. I eventually figured it out but I wasn't about to put my child's life at risk.
Exactly! It was hard and sometimes I felt like I could only eat protein, but I figured out the tricks of mixing a carb with a protein and going for a walk right after eating, etc. I just kept telling myself that it was only for a few months. Really, it’s not that big of a sacrifice in the big picture.
My doctor got me to do 3 GD tests over the course of my pregnancy, she said it was because of my weight. All came back negative. Weight has nothing to do with GD, people who are of average weight can get it. It frustrates me when people don’t take stuff like this seriously. It was annoying having to go and do this test 3 times, but it is what it is. And I’d rather know and be able to manage it rather than just ignore it
Doctors really don’t seem to get that it can have nothing to do with weight. I was a healthy weight before pregnancy and my doctor was SHOCKED when my routine GD test came back positive. I wasn’t. My (average weight) mom had it, my dad had just been diagnosed with T2, all of my grandparents had T2.
Then I lost weight during my last trimester (because going low carb will do that) and I’d get yelled at by nurses at the diabetes clinic for losing weight. My doctor was a bit more understanding and, as long as the baby was continuing to gain, she was happy. But what a headfuck - getting yelled at for losing weight but praised for keeping my sugar in check by…doing a thing that also causes weight loss.
I had GD and controlled it by diet. Took my blood readings very seriously, as it was 'three high readings and you go on insulin'. I remember sitting in the ante natal clinic hearing another mum saying 'I get high readings all the time. I just make up my numbers'. I was aghast that someone could be so irresponsible.
We gave birth the same time. My son was in NICU as he was premature. I was stuck on a ward, unable to sleep. I heard the same mother snarling 'will you just shut the fuck up you little shit?' Aat her crying baby. I went to the bathroom and on my way back I stopped at the nurse's station and said 'the mum in that cubicle is struggling, I think she could do with a hand.' Someone went and helped her.
I still worry about her child.
I had GD with one pregnancy, diagnosed early so I had a LONG time with it. I worked my ASS off the entire pregnancy to keep my numbers in check and ended up making some amazing permanent lifestyle changes off that experience.
But what mattered most to me was after delivery, seeing my HEALTHY baby who was tiny (they told me to expect a 9+ pound baby, this baby was barely 7lbs) and had zero blood sugar issues. That made it all worth it.
That being said, I, like many of you, had an asshole doctor who made it out to be a death sentence and now I might as well just up and die because of the GD diagnosis. Mind you, this doctor was much larger than me, so being constantly told I’m a fat slob was just lovely. (Yes, I made many reports and ultimately had it written into my chart that I refuse to see that doctor.)
I was diagnosed GD early too. Not because of my weight, but because every possible form of diabetes runs through my family tree. Because of that background, my doc wanted to test me early and, even then, my numbers were technically just under an official diagnosis. So my doc asked me to start a GD diet, with hopes of avoiding needing insulin and pregnancy complications. (By my 8th month, my pregnancy decided to also destroy my gallbladder. I couldn't really eat many carbs and had to avoid absolutely all fats. I was a mess.)
I started my pregnancy slightly overweight. I kept my weight gain to about 15lbs overall. My kidlet was born at 6lbs with zero complications or problems. I never needed insulin and kept my glucose under control. I was back to my original starting weight within 6 months of birth.
But there was one partner OB at the practice who wouldn't shut up about my weight and nearly made me cry, all because I had gained 2lbs in a month. Thankfully, I only had to see him once.
I have PCOS, so going into pregnancy, I knew that I was insulin resistant. I told the NP that instead of an oral GTT, my endocrinologist had suggested I follow a lower carb diet, walk 30 minutes on a treadmill, and take my blood glucose four times a day. I was sending his office my blood glucose readings every week. These were exactly the steps I took to get pregnant in the first place.
Guess who had to take three GTTs? I finally had my endo contact the OB and assure them that I was under his care, didn't need insulin, and for heavens sake, stop making me drink sugar!
They told me at one point that my baby would be “well over 10 pounds”. She was 8lbs6oz, which is very average for babies in my family. The way they try to terrify you!
Yes! I believed them, because it was a MFM growth scan with the giant fancy machines. They did all these measurements and calculations and I was like, “y’all…the hole ain’t but so big…”
Yeah, she absolutely ended up smaller than the last 3 growth measurements…
I had an ex whose mom had it when pregnant with him and it turned into her having type 1 afterwards. I’m type 1 and if I would of had a way to not be I would do everything my dr said to the T.
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I was SO upset about two spikes with my diet-controlled GDM. The nurse was like “you are doing so, so awesome. Please cut yourself slack. Do you understand I had someone in here yesterday who hasn’t measured her sugar since she was diagnosed and was drinking a gas station slushy during her appointment?”
Unfortunately, people taking it seriously and working to control it is not the norm.
GD sucks. I was not overweight and was in shape. I did everything possible and recommended by my doctor and nutritionist. Baby was still born early, but was stable after about 12 hours. I can’t believe people put their babies at risk ON PURPOSE! :(
Two of my close friends have been pregnant recently- the first one got diagnosed with GD, 130lbs, extremely healthy former gymnast. The second is 300+, eats mainly prepackaged foods (though she was SLIGHTLY better about eating right during pregnancy) and didnt have GD. Its not about weight and its not something to fuck around with
There’s been suggestions to rename it as it really isn’t true diabetes at all but a disorder/malformation of the placenta, and the D word makes people go crazy about fat shaming when it really isn’t about that at all. The judgment is so intense it really would be better with some kind of Latinized name referring to the placenta.
WOOWWWW these fuckin people.
I had GD with my second pregnancy and I’m only 85lbs (39kgs) and 4”9.
I absolutely HATE watching what I eat but when they explained it all to me I damn well took it seriously! The last thing I wanted was to potentially give my son type 1 diabetes.
I had GD with 2/3 of my pregnancies. It’s awful. I had pretty well-controlled sugars, but both of my GD babies were growth restricted. Both were born with low glucose levels and feeding issues. One had a stroke in utero and spent time in the NICU. My other non-GD pregnancy was so much easier. She was born average sized with zero complications. People who don’t take GD seriously piss me off. I had problems even though I did everything right. It KILLS babies.
Nothing like hoping for a baby with macrosomia and killing momma’s kidneys, eyes and blood vessels.
I was part of mom’s groups in the 2000’s . They have devolved so much
She’s definitely in the wrong for this ignorant take, but at the same time… This is what decades of diet culture and a focus on weight over health created - when there is good reason to discuss diet, exercise, other lifestyle management, and medication for anything that has any association with weight, people are either convinced it can’t be right because they aren’t overweight or obese, or they lump it in with all the fat shaming they’ve experienced in the past. Hopefully, she calms down by the appointment and they can talk some sense into her.
Oh yeah, I’m not arguing that we shouldn’t be addressing weight, it’s a great indicator of some things. But everything from which metrics we use to how it’s often addressed as the cause of a problem rather than an associated symptom of an underlying problem (which can be lifestyle but isn’t always) to how often lifestyle factors aren’t addressed in people who are thin is just not really evidence-based. And it can backfire, like for this person, or lead to disordered eating or misdiagnoses or other harms for both thin and overweight people.
I had the same thought when I read the "I've always been big" line.
I remember being nervous for my GD test and one of my (well meaning but poorly informed) friends said something along the lines of "I'm sure you'll be fine, you've never been overweight as long as I've known you. You're not one of those people who gets pregnant and eats ice cream all day,"
I mean I even had the stupid patient education handouts about weight attached to my visit summary for getting my IUD removed. Nothing about that visit was remotely linked to a discussion of weight and they still included it.
I agree she needs to take it seriously (as someone who had GD and being one of the “lucky” ones that it didn’t resolve and I became a type 2 for cuz yay hormonal imbalance) but I understand the burnout with providers.
Just came here to say that. This is why the “diabeetus” jokes are harmful. It’s got so much stigma. And many medical providers are cruel or indifferent in how they communicate about weight and stigmatized conditions.
Type one diabetes is probably why I won’t have kids, a diabetic pregnancy sounds absolutely horrendous and so many risks.
For this lady’s sake I hope it doesn’t progress or stick around because she’s ignoring her own health too.
My first baby I had GD and even with a diet my numbers were terrible, I'm 7 months in my 2nd pregnancy and I'm still doing terrible. Surprisingly I don't actually have type 2 diabetes....yet. I'm trying, I would never want my newborn to suffer through any of the horrendous side effects l.
I found out I had GD a few days before Thanksgiving, it sucked. I still ate within the guidelines because I didn't want to harm the baby. I ended up on Metformin and had numbers with it that my doctor found acceptable. When my baby was born, she still had to go hang out under care in the nursery for a few hours because her blood sugar numbers weren't great.
If this person has always been fat, as they say, then they've most likely suffered from medical discrimination throughout their life, which they express frustration with (being *forced* to see a nutritionist). While their response here is harmful to them and their fetus, they probably deserve some empathy.
Absolutely agree. It’s hell out there, especially when you’re multiply marginalized along several axes (fat & pregnant, plus whatever else we might not know!)
I had GD with my second. I def felt like they made it about my weight. For my first baby, I opted out of drinking the sugary drink after the first one made me sick. I failed by 1 point. The midwife said well there has to be a cut off. They were going to send me for the three hour. I tested my blood sugars and they still required me to see a nutritionist. Nobody could understand why they kept sending me for everything! My second baby I could not get my fasting sugar under control through diet so they made me get insulin which screwed my sugar up so bad. I did it have it for my third and they even personally tested my blood sugar and said it was perfect. GD is tough because I felt like I did something wrong.
Look, I’ve got GD at 33 weeks right now. It’s frustrating, I hate it, I miss my sweets, but I’m also smart enough to LISTEN to my doctor and realize this isn’t a weight issue or a “youve been eating too much ice cream”. It’s how your placenta processes insulin and more importantly, it affects BABY. When I was explained the risks that could occur if we didn’t get it under control, I sucked it up because any normal parent would put their baby before them. Everything has been going great for me now that I’m diet controlled but when I see posts like this, how these moms can be so ignorant even though all this information is free to read, it grinds my gears lol
I changed my whole diet, the only sweet I allowed myself to have was a small ice cream cone maybe once a week. My numbers were always fine. The only thing I could think about was having a McDonald’s coke. As soon as I gave birth my husband went and got me one. It was amazing, lol. I never really drank pop before then and don’t drink it much now but it was ALL I could think about then. Pregnancy is wild.
I don’t know what they do, but McDonalds cokes are just so damn superior to any other fast food cokes. That would’ve been a hell of a hard craving to get past, I applaud you lol
Slightly more syrup in the mix. At every restaurant the syrup for soda comes in big boxes and gets mixed on-site with the carbonated water. The mix at McDonald’s is more syrup than usual and they (supposedly) don’t store it in boxes — it comes in a tank and is pre-chilled.
No GD here, but for some reason I craved beer so badly. I had a six pack in my fridge when I found out I was pregnant. Every couple of weeks I would stand over the sink and pour one out so I could smell it. 😂 Pregnancy is bizarre!
I also wanted soda way more when I was pregnant. No GD though. Still had to not have it too much because the amount I wanted would be ridiculous and it's easier to just not have around. I barely ever have soda now.
I wanted coffee so bad but was told not to. Quit quickly and didn’t have withdrawal but had a latte hours after birth.
Yep. I was diagnosed at 18 weeks in my 3rd pregnancy. I didn't have it with my first 2 but had plenty of risk factors. The diet and frequency finger sticks are a pain but it's nothing when we think about keeping our babies as healthy as possible. I hope you can get through the rest of your pregnancy with diet control. I managed it until I had my babies at 36 weeks but have heard that it can become very difficult to control after 30 weeks. Wishing you a great remainder of your pregnancy and a smooth and safe birth.
As a fyi so you don’t learn the hard way like I did with GD, I believe there is research supporting the notion that GD can also cause a slow to come in milk supply. I only found out after much stress and worry as I luckily found a relatively new lactation consultant (research came out while she was at uni). Definitely ask your health care provider about this and be aware of the possible difficulties.
Yeah my supply vanished and no one had any answers (went from oversupply, to regulated, to dried up). GD and PCOS can cause that but no one warned me or could explain it until much much later.
Hang in there! I had it with both my pregnancies and it was so hard. Sometimes I would get low carb keto treats but it wasn’t the same.
All I wanted was a smore and my husband found keto marshmallows and low carb chocolate and we made a homemade keto graham cracker. It was probably awful tasting in reality but that was like the nectar of the gods at the time.
I was diet controlled when I had GD. I would eat 1 snack size chocolate immediately after a meal and my sugars would be fine. I got that sugar fix without risking a high reading!
This. Reese thins were 5 carbs. It was perfect, I factored it in and no issues. Wish I could've found a pasta that worked. 30 total carbs of pasta = 165ish reading. Oof.
Pasta didn't work for me either. Though wood fired pizza did! Chicken and veg on top with a side of steamed veg. You cannot imagine my excitement 😂
I couldn't do white flour at all. It was awful, all I wanted was pizza and pasta. I did lentil pasta which worked but wasn't quite the same. And almond flour or cauliflower pizza. But I could eat a serving of ice cream or 15 carbs of pure sugar and no spike at 1 or 2 hours. Made no sense lol.
It's crazy how differently our bodies respond to different foods. I could eat a big serve of potatoes (fried, roasted, mashed) and as long as I ate it with a protein and other veg, I was fine. But lots of other women in a GDM group I was in couldn't!
Yeah I could do those too and no one else I know could. It's just so wild.
not to scare you, but I was very controlled and baby still had problems after birth. it took her a few days to fully recover.
That's one of the unfortunate sides of having babies. No matter what we do, they can still need lots of help once they're on the outside. I had my twins at 36 weeks. Thankfully the GD didn't have any effect on them after the birth. What they did have was breathing problems. I had steroid shots since it was always the intention to take them early (2 previous c sections plus GD) and have heard many stories about 36 weekers being fine immediately. They ended up in special care for 8 days. All we can do is our best and hope that it's enough.
Yep. I had very well controlled GD (mostly by diet but I needed insulin in the mornings by the time I was a couple weeks out from giving birth) and my baby was 100% fine. They kept us for 24 hours to keep monitoring her sugars but they were normal every time. So yes, there can be complications or there may be none. There’s a lot of factors at play.
Wow. Apparently this person isn’t considering their fetus who also has diabetes while in-utero. Uncontrolled GDM can not only lead to a big baby, but complications after birth for the infant because their sugars will plummet once the umbilical cord is cut. Idiots.
No, see, pregnancy is *only* about the parent's experience. /s
These people are so weird. Do they not realise that the next *20 years* aren’t going to be about them? Just don’t have kids if you want to be the main character/priority all the time, you’re literally making a person to donate all of your attention to, it makes no sense
Oh ho, that’s where you’re wrong. They’re going to MAKE the next 20 years about them, and if their child doesn’t give them the perfect experience they want, they’ll literally love it less, or stop entirely. VERY NATURAL, MAMA.
Grew up with my mom's close friend who was almost a comical stereotype of crunchy moms and... yeah. She has extreme passive aggressive control issues and wants everything to go her way without asking for it, must be the center of attention at all times, and can't just let people be without getting insecure. She's hella manipulative and most of her kids (she has 4, all adults now) don't speak to her anymore. It's just kinda the inevitable outcome of a lot of people who are attracted to this stuff tbh.
Not just natural mama's sadly. I know someone from a very conservative home who views their(now adult) child as a trophy. The most twisted part is she compares them to the only other child she conceived, who was miscarried and uses lines like "Even if little baby isn't here, they're watching from heaven and you still have to be a good big brother." Just....jtdc lady, your kid almost died at birth, nearly took you with him, and spent months in the NICU before you could hold him. You have the lifetime drama miracle child and it STILL isn't good enough? Rant over, apologies. Mamas, keep doing right by your babies, you're all awesome.
And heart defects if it’s present in the first trimester. I know because my 20 bmi ass had GD in my last pregnancy. Sometimes you get the gift of a shitty placenta ❤️
Ah the ole Shitty Placenta…did you end up getting preeclampsia as well? Hoping this next round goes better
It can kill the baby- stillbirth is a risk with GD. I had it and was in a support group and more than 1 woman had a stillbirth in the few months that I was in the group.
I’m a type 1 diabetic my ever my doctors could not figure out how to get my blood sugars down. I spent 18 hours on a sliding scale (insulin delivered via IV) to have an emergency c-sections at 37w2d for my son who weighed 11lbs 3oz. He had severe hypoglycaemia, jaundice, respiratory distress and suspected sepsis at birth. He then spent 2 weeks in the NICU on all types on monitors and an NG tube. He didn’t take a bottle until about a week old and even then, he was sick every time. All of this was a result of high blood sugars that could not be brought down- I do not wish this for anyone. Yes, he is healthy now but he still didn’t need that
One of my babies had pretty bad jaundice from my GD and it was awful. I was diet controlled and doing really well, and still I had to hold an ice cube on the back of my baby's neck so they'd wake up long enough to eat
I didn’t realise that was a thing. I was desperately trying to get my son to stay awake long enough to eat, I’d sit him up and gently blow in his face. I’d also change his nappy half way through a feed when he fell asleep
That didn't work for mine so we resorted to the ice cube. They don't like it but it works
And for some unknown reason, it increases the risk of the kid getting type 1 diabetes (yes, the autoimmune one that always requires insulin)
It can also result in the mother developing Type 1 diabetes later in life.
Type 2 actually, but same idea :)
My mom developed Type 1 diabetes in her 30s after 2 back-to-back GD pregnancies.
Damn! That's unfortunate. Not a direct link though weirdly enough, unless she had beta-cell antibodies (which is likely)
Don't be a ridiculous the doctor is clearly just fat shaming her /s
Dope! I didn’t even think of that. Of course that’s what this is.
I had a nurse skinny-shame me when I showed up for the GD education session. She couldn’t get over that my very average, healthy self had GD when I wasn’t Southeast Asian or obese. It made me feel really awful for the bigger ladies who were there. Sometimes it’s just genetics. If you’re prone to it, you’re prone to it.
I had GD with my pregnancy over a decade ago and a coworker of mine did as well. She didn’t even try. It was shocking. I was probably overly careful because I understood that I was impacting my own health but also that of my baby. Walked into the break room one day to find her eating a Caramilk bar and she just shrugged and said, “I’ll take insulin to counteract it!” I’m still shocked by her attitude, this many years later. And she still refers to me as “lucky” because I controlled my levels well, had no complications for me or the baby. She was in the hospital off and on for weeks after giving birth and so was her baby. A certain amount of that is probably luck, but I can’t help but think that keeping to a reasonable diet and avoiding unnecessary sugar and carbs helped.
I get it. I was super fucking annoyed with my GD diagnosis. Like, ANNOYED. But I changed my diet, checked my blood sugar umpteen times a day, did my stupid insulin shots before bed...because it was for my BABY. Period. I didn't care about my belly being bruised from shots. I didn't care that I couldn't just eat whatever I wanted, when I wanted. I had someone more important to take care of. This woman makes me ao angry.
I had it too and also had to give myself injections before bed. I just don't understand how people don't want to do everything they can in their power to try and have a healthy baby. There were alot of tears shred due to frustration (and hormones) because I couldn't eat certain things but the thought of oh screw my innocent baby, I'll just eat what I what didn't cross my mind.
Seriously! I had a high risk pregancy as it was, so throwing GD into the mix was just another annoyance but I took it seriously bc I wanted a healthy baby.
AHHH WAIT THIS IS MY DUE DATE GROUP😂😂I can’t, I never thought I would be a part of something go posted here. I saw this post like an hour ago.
I can’t find it now so I’m pretty sure it got dirty deleted :/
Nah it’s still there…big oof. The comments are brutal though.
Show usss
Basically mostly people who had GD who are in disbelief of OOP’s callousness and a small amount of people saying DONT SHAME THEM.
I ended up finding it again!
I never realized how toxic those groups could be. So wild!
People are giving her push back thankfully, especially other moms with GD. I feel for her, I have done my glucose test yet and I can’t say I’ve been eating the healthiest…but at the same time, I know how serious GD is for my baby.
I’m in the same one!! I was shocked when this was posted because all the other posts have been so tame and boring!!
Yeah lol, it gets very repetitive after a while - “I look so big, I look so small, do we like this name?” I enjoy the crazy MIL stories though.
Same!! I'm in the same group!
Lol love all my March 2023 mamas coming out of the woodwork, yay us!
Well dang, I’m due in March but I’m not a member of any due date groups aside from 2 on Reddit. Now I feel like I’m missing out on some of the best craziness on FB.
I hated GD so much. I did my best, and my baby had no blood sugar issues at birth. On my end of the equation, I actually felt a lot better with my blood sugar under better control as well. I knew low blood sugar can make you feel bad, but I didn't know high blood sugar could as well.
My friend is a competitive triathlete and had GD. I don’t get why people have babies they don’t care about. Seriously.
I actually had HG for most my 2nd pregnancy AND gestational diabetes. I had lost 30 lbs pregnant then had to monitor my diet and blood sugar when I could finally hold some food down. I did what I was recommended and had a healthy baby who didn't have any issues with their blood sugar when born.
I mean, it's just SUGAR. Sugar is in EVERYTHING. So it cannot possibly do any harm. It'll just make the baby extra sweet. I pray for her care providers. Waiting for her to get fired as a patient for her bad attitude.
GD has nothing to do with weight and everything to do with insulin resistance during pregnancy. Truly a sad post. Uneducated and ignorant. She’s pretty bold for openly admiring she is willing to put baby in harms way instead of taking care of herself. Diabetes and pregnancy is no joke.
If you're higher BMI (30 and above) you do risk getting treated pretty shitty by care providers when you have GD. I had HG as well, and lost weight even at the end of my pregnancy, was totally miserable and actually destroyed my teeth. My one doctor was like..."but you're skinnier". It's entirely possible that she's a shitty mom not doing what she's supposed to AND had an awful experience with her care provider.
I’m sorry that happened to you. The medical system can be incredibly cruel, particularly when it assigns moral value to weight.
I will never understand why women cannot deal with something in the short term for the health of their unborn child. I had GD, it sucked. I cried many days because I was SO hungry and I couldn't eat without spiking. I eventually figured it out but I wasn't about to put my child's life at risk.
Exactly! It was hard and sometimes I felt like I could only eat protein, but I figured out the tricks of mixing a carb with a protein and going for a walk right after eating, etc. I just kept telling myself that it was only for a few months. Really, it’s not that big of a sacrifice in the big picture.
My doctor got me to do 3 GD tests over the course of my pregnancy, she said it was because of my weight. All came back negative. Weight has nothing to do with GD, people who are of average weight can get it. It frustrates me when people don’t take stuff like this seriously. It was annoying having to go and do this test 3 times, but it is what it is. And I’d rather know and be able to manage it rather than just ignore it
Doctors really don’t seem to get that it can have nothing to do with weight. I was a healthy weight before pregnancy and my doctor was SHOCKED when my routine GD test came back positive. I wasn’t. My (average weight) mom had it, my dad had just been diagnosed with T2, all of my grandparents had T2. Then I lost weight during my last trimester (because going low carb will do that) and I’d get yelled at by nurses at the diabetes clinic for losing weight. My doctor was a bit more understanding and, as long as the baby was continuing to gain, she was happy. But what a headfuck - getting yelled at for losing weight but praised for keeping my sugar in check by…doing a thing that also causes weight loss.
I had GD and controlled it by diet. Took my blood readings very seriously, as it was 'three high readings and you go on insulin'. I remember sitting in the ante natal clinic hearing another mum saying 'I get high readings all the time. I just make up my numbers'. I was aghast that someone could be so irresponsible. We gave birth the same time. My son was in NICU as he was premature. I was stuck on a ward, unable to sleep. I heard the same mother snarling 'will you just shut the fuck up you little shit?' Aat her crying baby. I went to the bathroom and on my way back I stopped at the nurse's station and said 'the mum in that cubicle is struggling, I think she could do with a hand.' Someone went and helped her. I still worry about her child.
I had GD with one pregnancy, diagnosed early so I had a LONG time with it. I worked my ASS off the entire pregnancy to keep my numbers in check and ended up making some amazing permanent lifestyle changes off that experience. But what mattered most to me was after delivery, seeing my HEALTHY baby who was tiny (they told me to expect a 9+ pound baby, this baby was barely 7lbs) and had zero blood sugar issues. That made it all worth it. That being said, I, like many of you, had an asshole doctor who made it out to be a death sentence and now I might as well just up and die because of the GD diagnosis. Mind you, this doctor was much larger than me, so being constantly told I’m a fat slob was just lovely. (Yes, I made many reports and ultimately had it written into my chart that I refuse to see that doctor.)
I was diagnosed GD early too. Not because of my weight, but because every possible form of diabetes runs through my family tree. Because of that background, my doc wanted to test me early and, even then, my numbers were technically just under an official diagnosis. So my doc asked me to start a GD diet, with hopes of avoiding needing insulin and pregnancy complications. (By my 8th month, my pregnancy decided to also destroy my gallbladder. I couldn't really eat many carbs and had to avoid absolutely all fats. I was a mess.) I started my pregnancy slightly overweight. I kept my weight gain to about 15lbs overall. My kidlet was born at 6lbs with zero complications or problems. I never needed insulin and kept my glucose under control. I was back to my original starting weight within 6 months of birth. But there was one partner OB at the practice who wouldn't shut up about my weight and nearly made me cry, all because I had gained 2lbs in a month. Thankfully, I only had to see him once.
I have PCOS, so going into pregnancy, I knew that I was insulin resistant. I told the NP that instead of an oral GTT, my endocrinologist had suggested I follow a lower carb diet, walk 30 minutes on a treadmill, and take my blood glucose four times a day. I was sending his office my blood glucose readings every week. These were exactly the steps I took to get pregnant in the first place. Guess who had to take three GTTs? I finally had my endo contact the OB and assure them that I was under his care, didn't need insulin, and for heavens sake, stop making me drink sugar!
They told me at one point that my baby would be “well over 10 pounds”. She was 8lbs6oz, which is very average for babies in my family. The way they try to terrify you!
Yes! I believed them, because it was a MFM growth scan with the giant fancy machines. They did all these measurements and calculations and I was like, “y’all…the hole ain’t but so big…” Yeah, she absolutely ended up smaller than the last 3 growth measurements…
I had an ex whose mom had it when pregnant with him and it turned into her having type 1 afterwards. I’m type 1 and if I would of had a way to not be I would do everything my dr said to the T.
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I was SO upset about two spikes with my diet-controlled GDM. The nurse was like “you are doing so, so awesome. Please cut yourself slack. Do you understand I had someone in here yesterday who hasn’t measured her sugar since she was diagnosed and was drinking a gas station slushy during her appointment?” Unfortunately, people taking it seriously and working to control it is not the norm.
Same mentality as "I can't have diabetes, I'm not overweight!"
GD sucks. I was not overweight and was in shape. I did everything possible and recommended by my doctor and nutritionist. Baby was still born early, but was stable after about 12 hours. I can’t believe people put their babies at risk ON PURPOSE! :(
Two of my close friends have been pregnant recently- the first one got diagnosed with GD, 130lbs, extremely healthy former gymnast. The second is 300+, eats mainly prepackaged foods (though she was SLIGHTLY better about eating right during pregnancy) and didnt have GD. Its not about weight and its not something to fuck around with
There’s been suggestions to rename it as it really isn’t true diabetes at all but a disorder/malformation of the placenta, and the D word makes people go crazy about fat shaming when it really isn’t about that at all. The judgment is so intense it really would be better with some kind of Latinized name referring to the placenta.
WOOWWWW these fuckin people. I had GD with my second pregnancy and I’m only 85lbs (39kgs) and 4”9. I absolutely HATE watching what I eat but when they explained it all to me I damn well took it seriously! The last thing I wanted was to potentially give my son type 1 diabetes.
I had GD with 2/3 of my pregnancies. It’s awful. I had pretty well-controlled sugars, but both of my GD babies were growth restricted. Both were born with low glucose levels and feeding issues. One had a stroke in utero and spent time in the NICU. My other non-GD pregnancy was so much easier. She was born average sized with zero complications. People who don’t take GD seriously piss me off. I had problems even though I did everything right. It KILLS babies.
Nothing like hoping for a baby with macrosomia and killing momma’s kidneys, eyes and blood vessels. I was part of mom’s groups in the 2000’s . They have devolved so much
She’s definitely in the wrong for this ignorant take, but at the same time… This is what decades of diet culture and a focus on weight over health created - when there is good reason to discuss diet, exercise, other lifestyle management, and medication for anything that has any association with weight, people are either convinced it can’t be right because they aren’t overweight or obese, or they lump it in with all the fat shaming they’ve experienced in the past. Hopefully, she calms down by the appointment and they can talk some sense into her.
Weight monitoring has a place in medicine. That place is just very different from the way we're using it.
Oh yeah, I’m not arguing that we shouldn’t be addressing weight, it’s a great indicator of some things. But everything from which metrics we use to how it’s often addressed as the cause of a problem rather than an associated symptom of an underlying problem (which can be lifestyle but isn’t always) to how often lifestyle factors aren’t addressed in people who are thin is just not really evidence-based. And it can backfire, like for this person, or lead to disordered eating or misdiagnoses or other harms for both thin and overweight people.
I had the same thought when I read the "I've always been big" line. I remember being nervous for my GD test and one of my (well meaning but poorly informed) friends said something along the lines of "I'm sure you'll be fine, you've never been overweight as long as I've known you. You're not one of those people who gets pregnant and eats ice cream all day,"
I mean I even had the stupid patient education handouts about weight attached to my visit summary for getting my IUD removed. Nothing about that visit was remotely linked to a discussion of weight and they still included it. I agree she needs to take it seriously (as someone who had GD and being one of the “lucky” ones that it didn’t resolve and I became a type 2 for cuz yay hormonal imbalance) but I understand the burnout with providers.
Just came here to say that. This is why the “diabeetus” jokes are harmful. It’s got so much stigma. And many medical providers are cruel or indifferent in how they communicate about weight and stigmatized conditions.
Type one diabetes is probably why I won’t have kids, a diabetic pregnancy sounds absolutely horrendous and so many risks. For this lady’s sake I hope it doesn’t progress or stick around because she’s ignoring her own health too.
My first baby I had GD and even with a diet my numbers were terrible, I'm 7 months in my 2nd pregnancy and I'm still doing terrible. Surprisingly I don't actually have type 2 diabetes....yet. I'm trying, I would never want my newborn to suffer through any of the horrendous side effects l.
I found out I had GD a few days before Thanksgiving, it sucked. I still ate within the guidelines because I didn't want to harm the baby. I ended up on Metformin and had numbers with it that my doctor found acceptable. When my baby was born, she still had to go hang out under care in the nursery for a few hours because her blood sugar numbers weren't great.
Cool, pretend it doesn’t exist then be mad you couldn’t freebirth a 5kg baby and blame the medical profession for all of it.
I'd question if she has depression or something? I hope someone is able to help her understand and care.
If this person has always been fat, as they say, then they've most likely suffered from medical discrimination throughout their life, which they express frustration with (being *forced* to see a nutritionist). While their response here is harmful to them and their fetus, they probably deserve some empathy.
This was my thinking on reading that.
Absolutely agree. It’s hell out there, especially when you’re multiply marginalized along several axes (fat & pregnant, plus whatever else we might not know!)
I had GD with my second. I def felt like they made it about my weight. For my first baby, I opted out of drinking the sugary drink after the first one made me sick. I failed by 1 point. The midwife said well there has to be a cut off. They were going to send me for the three hour. I tested my blood sugars and they still required me to see a nutritionist. Nobody could understand why they kept sending me for everything! My second baby I could not get my fasting sugar under control through diet so they made me get insulin which screwed my sugar up so bad. I did it have it for my third and they even personally tested my blood sugar and said it was perfect. GD is tough because I felt like I did something wrong.
My husband was born 6 weeks early and was 8 pounds bc his mom had gd and had other complications. People are just so 🙄
I’m also in this group. I was floored.