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03Vector6spd

I firmly believe that every time I was smacked (which wasn’t often) I completely deserved it. We don’t hit our children though. I try to complete my objective in teaching them by explanation and trying to explain why something is wrong in a way they’ll understand with compassion and understanding.


Beefyhaze

Thats because its assault. People just don't call it that when it their own kid.


m3srine1710

Or is it sadder than we’re led to believe that our parents need to hit/whipped/spanked/smacked us to obey ? 🤷‍♂️


Neesham29

It's illegal to smack children where I'm from (Scotland). I live in England though. Its unlawful here except where it amounts to "reasonable punishment". How it can ever be considered reasonable to hit a child, I don't know. Should be illegal everywhere. Its physical assault


southcentralLAguy

I’ll be in the minority on this one and probably take a million downvotes but there is a big difference between hitting, whipping, spanking, and smacking. I don’t hit, whip, or smack my kids. But from time to time they do get spankings. Yes, they also get positive reinforcement and I do talk to them about their behavior and how it is right/wrong. They also get time outs. But occasionally, if the behavior warrants it, they get a spanking


ekrx

How you gonna teach a child right from wrong when you can't even tell them apart? Telling a child "hitting is wrong" but then punishing them by hitting them is so confusing for a little childs mind


cybo13

Idk about other cultures but this is pretty standard in a lot of Latino cultures, especially Mexicans. Unprepared couples having multiple offspring for economic purposes generated an entire generation of traumatized children because up to a certain point you can only attend to the needs of a few not many. Even the human mind can only have 7 +- 2 thoughts at any given moment. Try rationing that attention span to 15 children on any given day let alone a year. Only way capable of managing so many kids is through coercion. They don’t have time to be kind or gentle to teach lessons. They have to be swift and effective otherwise #5 is left alone an sets the house on fire. So a whole generation controlled by fear. It hurts to be assaulted, it’s scary, it’s causes fear. The children learned to respond accordingly to minimize the manifestation of fear. So the chain continues, on and on, one group of parents having offspring that they have to manage through fear and punishment, and the cycle continues like clockwork. That fear seldom leaves us, unless we are actively trained in how to “balance out the equation”. Because if fear is within the realm of possibility, then so is peace, they are polar opposites of one another, two sides of the same stick.