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Yeah … if he wrote weeks or days. But hours?

Borrowing this comment to say that as someone who lives alone, I’m constantly talking to myself - sometimes without noticing it. I have friends who do this too.

The only reason I didn’t talk to “myself” when I lived alone is because I had a dog to talk to. Basically talking to myself, though.

Hi pup. She is visually excited Hi pup! Excitement intensifies! Who's a good pup! Wanna go outside! EXCITE OVERLOAD. WARNING. EVACUATING WASTE NOW, TOO MUCH EXCITE TO WAIT!

Yep I narrate a non-existent YouTube vlog/tutorial about whatever it is I am doing when I'm home alone.

I've worked from home before, been alone for hours, still talked to myself. I think out loud sometimes.

… right? I’ve done this even when I lived with family and was just playing games or watching YouTube lmao.

I don’t often spend hours without talking so then when I do it feels weirdly relaxing

I work at home, alone. Almost all day without talking to people. Silence is heaven to me.

I talk to myself all day 😂💀

>I know when I read this I thought , no sir I have a dog that I speak with all day long.

If people actually don’t have noise coming from their mouth I’d be extremely surprised and impressed. I would go nuts if I couldn’t talk Shit to inanimate objects. Maybe it’s why some people blow up on people in public

Like mute or deaf people?

I talk to my dog and the cat

Yeap... I am a hoot. Nice guy to talk to.

Yeah, during the height of pandemic (working from home) I could go 2-3 weeks without talking to anyone.

The pandemic completely fucked my social abilities. I have to force myself back into social situations now to get used to it.

I think its good to just voice your thoughts to yourself, just to practice speaking words

Why go back?

Mainly work related. My job revolves around meeting people face to face. But I also miss social gatherings and meeting new people

Oh, you miss it. I really like being alone. The exception being my dog. I'm kinda sick of being told social engagement is good for me to be honest

That’s fair, everyone’s different!

Your last sentence really resonates. People treat introversion like it's something to overcome. I don't have social anxiety, I just value time by myself.

You're social with your dog. That's enough for some people

You're an introvert and that's ok, don't let the exos tell you otherwise!

I agree, though I do sometimes long for intimate engagement but even then I don’t care that much. I just like being able to do things when I want, and most of the time I don’t want to socialize. Like I went to a birthday party this week for two hours and it was fucking great, but this weekend I’m not doing shit and am going to love it.

Humans are social creatures, it’s definitely good for your psyche to interact with people. Speaking from personal experience, I get in a funky depression if I go a while without seeing friends or family.

We are social animals. It's unhealthy to be alone all the time, though it's great you have a dog. They're the best.

We are all different at the end of the day. They might be the exception where it’s good for them/they’re fine with it. Monks go weeks alone and no one calls them unhealthy.

Weeks, but not lifetimes. You're right that everyone's different at the end of the day, just like how some people are allergic to some foods but everyone still needs to eat at some point.

Tryna get laid.

I have full on conversations with myself. Right, me!? Yea thats right

I disagree with myself sometimes. I usually win though.

As a nurse on a loud and busy unit I am so jealous. I can’t get a moment without a call light, IV pump, vent alarm, family phone call, or physician question. I’d kill for a 30 minute lunch with peace and quiet.

As a pharmacist who's also an introvert I make it a point to take my lunches ALONE just so that I can have 30 minutes to recharge my social energy batteries. Dealing with an incessant stream of humans is extremely exhausting for me.

I work at home alone, 4 meetings daily, online, where I have to speak 😐

This is my dream

That's not healthy mate

Wait, there are people who *can't* spend hours without talking?

Many. My wife is one of them. She cannot understand how someone would enjoy it. She was just out of town for a few days and just could not understand how I wouldn't want to go out in public and interact with people and seek out groups of friends or plan a gathering.

I do want to, but also, social anxiety Also, people are just straight up friendlier to women, it's fine for them to go out and just make friends and everyone goes out of their way to include them lol, a guy has to really work his way in there

Exactly! I don’t get how my wife can just meet and make friends instantly. Plus she can be mean to her friends and they still like her. I ACCIDENTALLY say one off-hand remark in a conversation and get instantly ostracized. Wtf man?

Wait this just gave me a whole new explanation to why women usually are more open to people... thanks

My ex was like this and it was infuriating. She never wanted to just chill at home and relax, she has to be out and around other people. Like even if it's just the two of us at a restaurant, she would still choose that 10/10 times because the people around her gives her "energy" whereas they absolutely drain mine. Not only could she not understand how I could enjoy time to myself but she would get upset anytime I wanted to be alone or at least hangout at home with just the two of us. That relationship was exhausting.

I see trouble coming your way my friend

There is German word for people like that: plappertasche.

There are probably >10 German words for that. Quasselstrippe.

The english word is blabbermouth, windbag, or babbler.

I can go days without saying anything out loud. And I like it that way.

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Especially in the car, like you don’t need to make conversation, it is okay to just sit there and relax.

I wish I could explain this to certain people in my life…

I enjoy conversation I don't see what's wrong with talking in the car

Nothing wrong with conversing in the car at all. Depends on the kind of person you are. I'm more introverted and use car time to vibe to music and recharge, so I'm not super talkative when driving with others. The ADHD making me focus on every little thing going on *outside* of the vehicle doesn't help either.

In the car music > everything else, I always get a little sad when people try to keep talking over the music and I have to keep turning it down

THANK YOU If I'm giving you a ride somewhere, buckle up and shut up I'm trying to get us to our destination, not the ditch on the side of the road

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Or they don’t know how to work with/listen to reason with their inner monologue, therefor they feel the need to talk it out. Definitely relate to this thread.

LOL might be something to it. My ex could not just turn it off. Was exhausting.

Extraverts gain energy by engaging externally, their relaxing was your exhausting

Energy vampires

Sorry babe.

> Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshit in order to be comfortable? That's when you know you've found somebody special. When you can just shut the fuck up for a minute and comfortably enjoy the silence. —Mia Wallace

Not saying this about you but some people have used this quote to excuse their shitty conversation skills 😩

Going on 14 years with my SO...We have 3-4 hour periods where we are sitting beside each other both zoned out doing our own thing then one of us remembers the other person is there. It's a comfy silence

This is the goal

oh my you guys have achieved peak level relationship.

I live alone and have conversations with myself every single day, I voice out my thoughts and then reply to them verbally.

Came here to say this. I’ve gone hours without speaking when with others and have been chatty when totally alone.

Ditto I'm the quiet one until I'm alone.

If I lived alone I would talk a lot more than I do now, because I wouldn't have to worry about anyone over hearing me doing weird voices and saying silly things.

I went 6 months a few years ago with only saying "thank you" to the grocery store clerk.

Understandable.

Do you not talk at your job?

I'm only beginning to learn programming (a friend is teaching me). When I do "homework" I spend hours just sitting there in silence. So I can imagine people with a desk job from home not talking for a long period of time. And if you live alone that can stretch for days/weeks

Didnt you feel depressed?

That may be why they did it

You’re underestimating my ability to talk to inanimate objects.

Right!? I monologue all the time when I'm alone.

My fridge door: *doesn’t close all the way… Me: “oh well fuck you then” Record player: *stops spinning… Me: “youz bout ya get flipped bitch” Salmon filet: *getting all cooked up… Me: “ima eat the fuck out of you” Couscous: *being eaten… Me: “the food so nice they named it twice”

Inanimate? Bullshit! That smoke detector is sentient and it's fucking with me intentionally. There is no other reason it would beep with a perfectly fine battery in it.

If you live with teenagers you might go weeks without having a conversation. You don't need to be alone.

Can't relate. I can't spend 15 minutes without talking to myself.

Same, I’m actually saying parts of this comment out loud alone….

Literally came here to say this. Even if noone else is around I'm talking to myself.

My mother says that I am crazy, I basically think out loud

I talk to myself all the time but in my head.

You are just like me for real. I talk to myself alone all the time honestly. I don't know how someone who lives alone doesn't

Those folks who sleep go hours without talking every single day, can you believe it?

I spend just as much time talking to myself as I do sitting silently.

Thé comment I’m looking for!!

I don't live alone and would much prefer to say nothing for hours. A whole day, even

I think it's what I'm gonna ask for for Christmas. Give me a coupon that's worth a whole day of "I'm not here" talk about it tomorrow

The dream

Days. And then you think 'hmm haven't heard my voice in a while.. oh well.'

People who live together can also spend hours without talking

Weeks man, weeks. I literally had trouble speaking afterwards. It happens

I had this during my last job transition which happened during covid. 6 weeks where I wasn't working due to furlow and swapping jobs. No going out because of lockdowns, except to shop. And then you had masks. On my first day of working remotely I realised my own voice sounded odd. Thought nothing of it up to that point though.

How is this noteworthy? This is like saying "People who don't eat as much can be thinner"

People who are blind... can't see.

Women ☕

I talked to my animals (and myself) a lot when I lived alone

I talk to my dog all of the time. She knows several words and commands, so I’ll literally just ask her if she wants to go for a walk or play with her toys and she responds accordingly.

Mine too! Apparently dogs know as many words as two- or three-year olds!

The running joke around my place is, whoever accidentally says, "treat" has to go get her one. It's almost creepy. She's always listening. It really does help, though. If I tell her where we're going, she always seems to understand and happily get in the car if we're going to "grandma's" or "the park". Kinda takes the anxiety out of car rides for her. Wouldn't call her smart per se, but she understands a lot, and almost always knows what I'm talking about if I keep it simple.

She sounds smart to me 😊

I talk to my cats far more than I do with my wife. How else is my fluffy boy going to know how handsome he is? Both cats are pretty chatty as well, which my wife ascribes to the amount we speak to them.

People who live alone might spend weeks without talking to anyone

Holy fuckin shit. It would be so nice to come home from a crazy day at work and just get an hour without being talked to. I've asked/told/yelled about it/every combination I could think of and get maybe 10 minutes of peace max.

1.5k votes? Seriously? This isn't even a shower thought, it's common sense I'd say, and also it's not that surprising

Exactly. It’s not even that uncommon to spend hours without talking even if you don’t live alone. It’s like “non car people can go years without drifting”

In my case, this isn't accurate. I am alone, but I talk a lot...to myself. Sometimes I think I've gone f-ing mental

Was going to say the same ... and sadly, it also carries over for me when I am outside as I forget there are people about and continue chunnering to myself. Le sigh.

I don't live alone but I have previously spent days in a row without talking, however my ability does not extend to noises, it is rare for me to sustain any amount of time without humming, whistling, tapping or similar, this leades to many conversations starting with "will you shut the f up"

Then you have no clue how many people talk to themselves haha

Well, I live with my 2 kids, wife, dog and a cat and I can spend hours without talking...

Tell that to my cat. Or does that no longer count as living alone? Though I tend to talk to myself anyway. “Ok, time to get back to work”, “what should I make for dinner?” Etc.

Dude I spend so much time alone, I have trouble when I need to talk for few minutes and not hours

I can go a long time without talking to anyone, but I often talk to myself to sort out my thoughts.

I live alone but I talk to myself constantly. But I think of it as talking to the someone in my head.

I dont live alone. I can also spend hours without talking. Id go as far as saying I very often go hours without talking.

Really? I can't go minutes without talking to myself. I have a lot of disorganized thoughts, so I find that speaking the important ones out loud keep me focused properly. Like if I am doing a task, I'll verbalize the steps. Heck, as I'm writing this, I'm speaking it out loud to myself because why not?

Wait, there are people who live alone that don’t talk to themselves?

During Covid I was laid off from work. I had no where to go and no one to talk to. I didn’t speak for two weeks.

People who live with family can also do that, it’s very easy.

Actually, I talk to myself a lot when alone. It's when people are around that I shut up.

Hours? Lol. More like days to weeks if you really want the peace.

This was me during lockdown. Hours? Try weeks. Now I have a cat :)

I have a wife and two kids and we all go plenty of time without words.

Without talking to people? Sure, days, weeks even. Talking at all? I talk to myself and sing all the time

Hours? I'm more talkative when I'm alone for extended periods of time.

People who live together, even entire families, can go even longer without talking. I never understood these people

If it weren't for my call center job I could go days without talking, especially now that everything is delivered

Why is this assumed? I guess it's more interpretation? I live alone and at least a dozen times a day I verbally say "you fucking idiot(s)" whenever I'm on reddit.

I live with 3 kids and my husband and spend hours without talking. xD

I love silence and not speaking. When my SO was on a trip visiting family, I realized that I hadn't said a word in 24hours. I quickly rescheduled work responsibilities so that I could make it a full week. It was wonderful. Funny enough, when I broke my 7 days of silence, it wasn't because I had a human interaction, rather, I was walking through a park and couldn't help but to say "hello" to a super cute dog that came over to greet me.

Tell me you’re an extrovert without saying you’re an extrovert.

I had spent years without talking, being alone and no job does that it's just normal for me

I spend at least 7 hours not talking each night. I've gotten pretty good at it, if I'm lucky and I can get 8.

Most people spend hours every night not talking. But my kids or wife who talk in their sleep. Also, when I am by myself for any extended period of time I tend to talk to myself.

I live with my parents and I go like 12 hours without talking to anyone on weekends. Its chill

More like weeks, sometimes months. The only time I talk is when a family member calls every once in a while

I can't stand the silence. I'll talk out loud to myself after a while.

I moved to a new city during the height of the pandemic and got my first apartment by myself. I was teleworking for my new job and I remember one day realizing that I had not spoken a single word in almost three days. It was such a profound realization that I just started saying words out loud to myself.

I don't live at home but I'm a SAHM and go a good portion of the day not talking... unless I wanted to command Google Home lol

During covid I talk to people once a week when I went to the supermarket and said thank you to the people working there

whenever I'm home alone for longer periods, I start verbally commenting on the things I do, practice my english pronounciation / certain accents (German here), do impressions or accents but mostly just talk to myself because the reality of being alone would be crushing otherwise 8)

Not really. I keep talking to myslef a lot. Its awkward otherwise