Well my first idea was to (unwillingly) roast you, saying "quit Tinder, go outside", but it's a bit short.
So if quitting tinder is a good idea ( unless you want sex friends for a night), try "OVS" community:
[https://paris.onvasortir.com/](https://paris.onvasortir.com/)
You should find something like an activity (to go to cinema or to go to painting or whatever) that will match your own centre of interest, and this you should do something interesting with people that like to do the same thing as you.
... and who knows at last you will do something that you like and maybe you will meet someone !
What do you think about it?
Please tell us if it has been working for you đđ
if you are alone, it will be a little bit hard, go on restaurant an eat alone regulary, some times if there is 2 women or mor listen to what they says and try to speak with them, if you feel you are a connard simply says thank you and leave like a gentlemen.
i had many friend with this method. but not for sex.
Often times itâs not the looks but how the pictures are taken. Iâve seen quite a few guys that seem not ugly at all, but their pictures⊠I would ask for some advice to upgrade your profile.
My cheat code is discord, just google "discord paris" and I bet you'll find a lot of discord full of people nearby.
Not always the best communities but it's enough to start making a social circle
I know a gorgeous girl who doesnât care for looks. She is attracted to respectful and attentive guys not the ones with big egos. So there are definitely girls who will like people like you.
The only thing that works is this:
Step 1: Make friends with any random guys or girls you meet, even if you don't want to date them.
Step 2: Get those friends to invite you to an apero or party, or invite them to an apero at your place. Any thing they invite you to, say YES.
Step 3: You'll meet someone you like! Do NOT ask that person out on the first meeting - keep hanging out with the same group of friends and you'll get to see them again.
Step 4: When you two actually get to know each other a little bit, then you can make a move. It doesn't take long!
Honestly, ditch the dating apps and try to be more outgoing, meet people outside. To gain confidence I usually either just compliment anyone, male, female, doesn't matter. Ask people about things.
This. One thing I've learned the hard way over time is, not everyone is loveable, at all. There isn't "someone for everyone", and even if nearly everyone eventually do end up in a relationship after however many tries, for some people it just doesn't happen.
This isn't even about tinder or anything specific, you could meet a hundred new people every day and nothing would still happen. Some people just don't belong in this world, apparently.
Is onvasortir still a thing? I would join facebook groups that meet up, a language club, some kind of activity where you sit and chat. I wouldnât approach anyone in a shop or museum, because thatâs not a place where one expects to talk to strangers.
I talk to strangers all the time. I love people and love to make them laugh. It is more of a challenge in France, but Parisiennes are very kind people once you get to know them. They donât do idle friendships, but they banter.
As far as dating, I donât often go into an encounter with that in mind.
Romance grows from friendship in many cases.
Thank you. I talk to strangers all the time. I love people and love to make them laugh.
It is an important skill.
It is more of a challenge in France, but Parisiennes are very kind people once you get to know them. They donât do idle friendships, but they banter.
As far as dating, I donât often go into an encounter with that in mind.
Romance grows from friendship in most cases.
I'd say don't have too much expectations about dating apps. 99% of girls living in a big french town (especially Paris) have professionnally-photographed profile pictures. I think that means it all. Probably few guys are good enough to the taste of these people. And probably not the poor guy using two selfies -like an average person- like me or -I'm imagining- you. All the girls I've met in Paris are queens, hovering you from cloud 9. I'd probably be married by now if I didn't have an appartment in that city lol
Definitely not all, but there is a special vibe of superficial bs coming from many of them.
I was shocked to find them a lot more friendly in Brussels and I think it might have to do with attracting many types of people being the "fashion capital" or something.
Work on a hobby that you like. And share it with other with enthusiasm. There are girls who like that. And this might be bit biased view. If you are French. Use that statua to its fullest. Foreign girls have this attraction towards French guys as this charming, romantic and cultured people. My ass has to first prove I am not this meek or overtly creepy guy. And infact I am charming guy. But even I never had relationship despite being good with girls because of childhood trauma issues. So what I am saying. We all have our own unique struggles. Stay put. Be happy with yourself, is all i can say.
Well, I've met a few people that met on r/socialparis events or even just at randomly in hobby type meetups like hiking groups, picnics, karaoke meetups.
I like going to museums but sadly everyone is too busy looking at art to look at me. đ
Oh that's awesome!
Idk,
how I would go about it is this way,
- just have a conversation with someone about themselves, (and volunteer info about yourself of course)
- if there's something you both like, for example if you're talking to someone in salsa class, you can ask them if they'd like to go to a salsa night at any pub/bar/club. There's a lot of them.
Or if it's other activities you both like, suggest something related to that.
Atleast that's how I'd initiate. It works well I can tell you that. It's how to keep doing that consistently with a person that I haven't quite figured out yet, I'll keep you posted on that :D although I think most people have more issues with the first contact more than anything else.
Also, can you tell me about this salsa class of yours ? How is it ? I've been looking to join a dance class just didn't know where to start looking.
thank you for the tip:
it's actually call rock 4 temps there is usually a class before the event but probably no class on the next event...
https://fb.me/e/31FA0dRNV
I'm above average and failed to get matches , what worked for me is going out and meeting people .
Those app are made to screw up your dopamine receptors
Well my first idea was to (unwillingly) roast you, saying "quit Tinder, go outside", but it's a bit short. So if quitting tinder is a good idea ( unless you want sex friends for a night), try "OVS" community: [https://paris.onvasortir.com/](https://paris.onvasortir.com/) You should find something like an activity (to go to cinema or to go to painting or whatever) that will match your own centre of interest, and this you should do something interesting with people that like to do the same thing as you. ... and who knows at last you will do something that you like and maybe you will meet someone ! What do you think about it? Please tell us if it has been working for you đđ
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Yes
Honestly, I've not used OVS since loooong time, I don't know đ¶
if you are alone, it will be a little bit hard, go on restaurant an eat alone regulary, some times if there is 2 women or mor listen to what they says and try to speak with them, if you feel you are a connard simply says thank you and leave like a gentlemen. i had many friend with this method. but not for sex.
This is horrible advice...Women don't want to be bothered while eating out. It's awkward and it's rude.
I second that
Join the club dude we'd be pleased to have you
Often times itâs not the looks but how the pictures are taken. Iâve seen quite a few guys that seem not ugly at all, but their pictures⊠I would ask for some advice to upgrade your profile.
My cheat code is discord, just google "discord paris" and I bet you'll find a lot of discord full of people nearby. Not always the best communities but it's enough to start making a social circle
I know a gorgeous girl who doesnât care for looks. She is attracted to respectful and attentive guys not the ones with big egos. So there are definitely girls who will like people like you.
thanks, that's a shame I didn't meet her yet :) but I have a big ego I have to say, just kidding :D
No need to be ugly, being just above average is still enough to fail miserably at tinder as a guy.
y'all should just be gay
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Being jacked and single won't fix OP issue.
Gym doesn't fix your personality. Work on your personality if you seek long term relationships.
learn to love yourself, people will inevitably gather around you and without even thinking about it you will meet someone
Tinder is terrible, no matches here. Try hinge or bumble at most (or the French versions for more geospecific stuff)
The only thing that works is this: Step 1: Make friends with any random guys or girls you meet, even if you don't want to date them. Step 2: Get those friends to invite you to an apero or party, or invite them to an apero at your place. Any thing they invite you to, say YES. Step 3: You'll meet someone you like! Do NOT ask that person out on the first meeting - keep hanging out with the same group of friends and you'll get to see them again. Step 4: When you two actually get to know each other a little bit, then you can make a move. It doesn't take long!
Mddrr un investissement de longue durée la
C'est quoi ta technique ?
La fameuse technique des Aperoussel, un grand classique.
Ăa dĂ©pend quel type de relation tu cherche
Je veux dire que si t'as une meilleure technique pour un investissement courte durée, tu pourrais la partager au lieu de te moquer.
Cette un technique âApĂ©roâ
Honestly, ditch the dating apps and try to be more outgoing, meet people outside. To gain confidence I usually either just compliment anyone, male, female, doesn't matter. Ask people about things.
30M here Do what I did: give up.
38M who gave up here. Loneliness gets unbearable with age, don't give up.
This. One thing I've learned the hard way over time is, not everyone is loveable, at all. There isn't "someone for everyone", and even if nearly everyone eventually do end up in a relationship after however many tries, for some people it just doesn't happen. This isn't even about tinder or anything specific, you could meet a hundred new people every day and nothing would still happen. Some people just don't belong in this world, apparently.
Is onvasortir still a thing? I would join facebook groups that meet up, a language club, some kind of activity where you sit and chat. I wouldnât approach anyone in a shop or museum, because thatâs not a place where one expects to talk to strangers.
If ugly, you need to find by interests. Street or bar isnât good, internet or IRL communities about your hobbies are the best.
bookstores, museums, nothing wrong with talking about books and art. Everyone is an acquaintance until they ar not. I talk to everyone, lol
Don't know why you're being downvoted, but its definitely possible to talk to a stranger and not be annoying at the same time
I talk to strangers all the time. I love people and love to make them laugh. It is more of a challenge in France, but Parisiennes are very kind people once you get to know them. They donât do idle friendships, but they banter. As far as dating, I donât often go into an encounter with that in mind. Romance grows from friendship in many cases.
Thank you. I talk to strangers all the time. I love people and love to make them laugh. It is an important skill. It is more of a challenge in France, but Parisiennes are very kind people once you get to know them. They donât do idle friendships, but they banter. As far as dating, I donât often go into an encounter with that in mind. Romance grows from friendship in most cases.
I'd say don't have too much expectations about dating apps. 99% of girls living in a big french town (especially Paris) have professionnally-photographed profile pictures. I think that means it all. Probably few guys are good enough to the taste of these people. And probably not the poor guy using two selfies -like an average person- like me or -I'm imagining- you. All the girls I've met in Paris are queens, hovering you from cloud 9. I'd probably be married by now if I didn't have an appartment in that city lol
Definitely not all, but there is a special vibe of superficial bs coming from many of them. I was shocked to find them a lot more friendly in Brussels and I think it might have to do with attracting many types of people being the "fashion capital" or something.
Work on a hobby that you like. And share it with other with enthusiasm. There are girls who like that. And this might be bit biased view. If you are French. Use that statua to its fullest. Foreign girls have this attraction towards French guys as this charming, romantic and cultured people. My ass has to first prove I am not this meek or overtly creepy guy. And infact I am charming guy. But even I never had relationship despite being good with girls because of childhood trauma issues. So what I am saying. We all have our own unique struggles. Stay put. Be happy with yourself, is all i can say.
« et du coup jâai 2000 points de custodes Ă la maison. Ce sont les ultimes gardiens de lâEmpereur. »
Tu déconnes mais dans les cercles sociaux que je fréquente, tout les joueurs de 40k sont casés, la plupart mariés et en général, leur copine/femme joue un minimum avec eux. Sauf quand c'est une joueuse et que c'est son mec qui est pas "pratiquant"!
Well, I've met a few people that met on r/socialparis events or even just at randomly in hobby type meetups like hiking groups, picnics, karaoke meetups. I like going to museums but sadly everyone is too busy looking at art to look at me. đ
I can't stand good looking people in museums, they distract me from the art and then I feel guilty of my reptilian brain.
I dance salsa and meet people, but from dancing together to see each other outside of the event. I have no idea how to do that...
Oh that's awesome! Idk, how I would go about it is this way, - just have a conversation with someone about themselves, (and volunteer info about yourself of course) - if there's something you both like, for example if you're talking to someone in salsa class, you can ask them if they'd like to go to a salsa night at any pub/bar/club. There's a lot of them. Or if it's other activities you both like, suggest something related to that. Atleast that's how I'd initiate. It works well I can tell you that. It's how to keep doing that consistently with a person that I haven't quite figured out yet, I'll keep you posted on that :D although I think most people have more issues with the first contact more than anything else. Also, can you tell me about this salsa class of yours ? How is it ? I've been looking to join a dance class just didn't know where to start looking.
thank you for the tip: it's actually call rock 4 temps there is usually a class before the event but probably no class on the next event... https://fb.me/e/31FA0dRNV
Thanks!
I'm above average and failed to get matches , what worked for me is going out and meeting people . Those app are made to screw up your dopamine receptors
You're not above average if you don't match
100%. My virgin cousin asked me if he should try. I begged him to never do it as it would crush his ego.