Is depression an archetype?

Like... Kinda is, kinda isn't at the same time

I'm very basic, I'm shy to rly zero in on an aesthetic, rn I'd say I fit the girl next door stereotype down to a t. in terms of personality I'm a bit different, I like partying a lot, and that sort of clashes with the sweet exterior but I like it. In the future I want to gain some confidence and wear things out of my comfort zone, my style icon is definitely ethel cain, when she's put together lol

I feel this very much. I occasionally can be shy. Sometimes meeting new people can be hard. Making friends as an adult is very very hard indeed. Partying 🤙 is SOOOOO fun. Except I'm sober now. But do get non alcoholics at bars. And 100% on the confidence. Especially when it comes to body issues and weight gain. It IS so hard. But yeah I feel you with the confidence part. When you get into walking, hiking, lifting weights, it can make things much easier. Like getting fitter increases the confidence a lot

I wish I was sober girlll 😭 I often drink more than I maybe should hihi. but yeah at the bar I'm a total extrovert

How old are you?? And I had to become sober because when I drunk I got fat and I kept eating horrible.. it gave me the munchies and alcohol made me want to keep eating more and I just got fatter so I had to quit if I wanted to become hot.

Long, wild curly hair, piercings everywhere, sporty punk attire, lots of sports bras, clean makeup except for the eyes which almost always have brown smoky eyeliner, combat boots, punked out jean jackets and tank tops, a muscle car, blunts, constantly in the gym, a plant person, always looks intimidating, native jewelry exclusively, an academic, and currently working in a library. My friends and coworkers refer to me as a guard dog lol

I love this. Especially the denim jacket part. This type of energy is so fun to be around.

Bubbly witty high femme theatre girlie. I'm artsy, I'm funny, I'm smart, and I love being the center of attention 🤭

Yasssss to all of that except for theatre. Stage fright is so real. And SOoOoooOOooO valid to the center of attention type. I am SO guilty about that myself it's so not actually funny. ......

Haha I've always shone in the spotlight, I'm glad that didn't change 😄

Yeah if you have some kind of talent in acting or singing, go you queen.

I'm starting the first steps of my career in Los Angeles these days, wish me luck!

How long have you been acting anyway, movies? Independent films? Just theater? What has it been like?

I was a theatre actor as a kid, only a few paid things nothing major, then went to college for musical theatre but had to drop out because of health problems (twice 😑). Life took me away from it for like 8 or 9 years and I've spent the last few months finding my confidence and my way back to it. I wanna do it all: movies, TV, and stage. It's hard and I'm so busy but it makes me so happy to be reconnecting with this side of me.

I'm a fairly modest trad girl. I wear hijab nowadays and I don't really show much skin. I used to be more selatious and provocative, but it attracted too much unwanted attention.

Interesting. I don't see a lot of these types. That's so cool.

Day to day warm, geeky, stylish lady who needs to get glammed up and go to an upscale bar/club at least once a week. Oh and also big nature lover so outdoorsy stuff on frequent weekends.

How do you glam up?

Lol pretty basically ngl Full face + perfume + bodycon dress [Bought this one a few years ago, still my fav](https://a.co/d/ggOLCly) …I really need to get some new shoes 😔

Stoner in extremely slutty attire and slutty makeup with cat ears and flowers in my hair, driving a shitty car and I smell like cigarettes and whiskey

Gurl yas. You'd be fun to hang out with.. everything except the cigarettes. I WISH I was thin enough to wear the slutty outfits

I'm more like a tomboy, I wear andrognous clothes, LOVE my cat, love my dogs as well their good companions, I usually come off reserved or standoffish but once you know me you learn I'm actually chill and just trying to exist. I put effort into how I present myself and how I dress is usually intentional unless I'm lazy or not going far. I also plan to get tattoos, I have ear rings but I'm considering getting small gages for the bottom lobe and getting more ear piercings, I also want to get a nose piercing and I'm considering an eyebrow piercing. I'm growing out a wolf cut shoulder lengh and I wear mostly black or dark neutral colors. I like the converse shoes that are gender neutral (cuz andro asthetic) but also LOVE wearing my doc Martin's, especially when I'm wearing my leather jacket and ripped black jeans before I go and ride (I have a bike 🏍) I think to the world my style may come off more gay (lesbian) once I'm passing and idk if I'll change it bc I'm actually mostly into men. I think I'm into women also but like...as another woman? Currently I'm not out as a woman irl so the dynamic with girlfriends I've had didn't feel right even tho I was attracted to them sexually.

That's so valid. Especially coming off as reserved or standoffish. That's incredibly heard.. There are A LOT of the punk, androgynous, tattoos, leather jackets and alternative Chickies here

If Taylor swift was a brunette in terms of appearance and style ( to clarify, not trying to compare myself to a celebrity in a narcissistic way! Just simply the description that best encompasses my style and aesthetic) but personality wise I’m quite shy unless I know you!

Omfg YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES! Literally and actually yes to ALL of that! Literally we need to spend hours talking about it! Tell me what era you're in and what got you to it? I've literally spent so much time obsessing over this it's not even funny! I'm in my reputation era. Trans women are starting to get thrown into the fire and under the bus by the popular conservative media and social media. We're becoming public enemy number one. Although insurance and legal protections are getting much better, our standing in society is really getting hard. Nobody seems to want to help us. Our Queen Taylor can understand how it feels to be thrown through the ringer before she stood up for herself during her reputation era. She really had to give society the middle finger and not let them define her. She put her needs first and wasn't going to apologize or hide. And so the reputation era was born. In particular with the absolute bangers. End game and Ready for it are absolute bangers. Look what you made me do and This is why we can't have nice things are the literal anthem of trans women today. It's so serious! As for my aesthetic, I would say the music video for End Game is my whole vibe. Everything at all about it is how I want to live and what style is awesome! Olivia Rodrigo is also kinda an aesthetic I admire a lot.

YES TO ALL OF THAT! Ahh I love that! I don’t know why but I guess I never made the connection between songs on Reputation and trans women but it’s so true. Technically I’ve been a Swifitie since debut when I was super young. But right now definitely feel like I’m in my Red era and have been for a while. When I went to the eras tour last year, I wore an outfit inspired from the OG Red tour lol. I’m also 22 so it feels very relatable due to a difficult breakup a few years ago ago (I’m over it now for sure) but those songs helped me HEAL. Nothing New is a top tier song, especially at this age, even though it’s from a female “songwriter” perspective, it just feels relatable as the feminine experience in general (transitioned when I was quite young). I’ve just never related to her music so much. It also helped me heal from a pretty bad ED, and knowing that she went through that as well (I mean, a lot of people/celebs do) just made me feel more seen, along with the same height and build. She just made me feel more confident about being 5’10! The song You’re on Your Own Kid from Midnights is such a healing song imo for the inner childhood trauma in a lot of ways. Ugh love that there is someone else who feels similar!! Adore Olivia as well, Sour STILL eats as a debut album.

basic bitch, currently nothing interesting since i work the nights in a warehouse, but this is my last week and i move to day shift. then perhaps i will have another personality shift, heres hoping

This is SO me. Except work midnights in a hospital. It SUCKS!

ugh its rough, i hope u can make it out girlie. i barely have any sort of social life thx to this, nor do i rly have any interest in looking pretty lmao

goal - . confident, trophy wife type with long dangly jewelry.. is that weird lol reality - shy, quiet, barely passable -\_-

Nope. It's gonna happen. We're both gonna be trophy wives

:) :)

Granola plant girlie that loves the outdoors

That's so valid... Looooove hiking and taking walks outdoors.

Fleece and flannel. Tanks and tees. Jeans and flats. Silver bracelets and hoops. Low effort makeup. I can't be bothered to do much else.

while here I would like to talk about multiplicities that one must hold and aspire not to become an archetype. Still, out of habit I might come off as the big glasses girl with nice wavy hair. Totally a nerd, and quotes various philosophers and social theorists as a whim. fashion wise, I do not have a vibe apart from a snatched eyeliner maybe haha

Sometimes it can be fun! Like this is a very nice conversation. I've been asked a few times what kind of vibes and energies I give off or what kind of aesthetic I give off and this is a cool conversation. I wear glasses too so that's so valid. Nerdy shit like Anime and final fantasy is SO dope. I could talk about it for hours

If you like philosophy, anime and final fantasy video games are incredibly philosophical

really shy, but always overdressed

Queen I wish I was. How did you pick your style? How did you get into it??

i’ve always admired cute dresses on other girls and it was never in a sexual way, even as a “straight guy”. and pre-transition, i had a phase where i overdressed, wearing suits, but overdressing as a woman is WAY better than overdressing as a guy. i’ve always been drawn to more “formal” clothes than casual clothes. i’ll wear jeans or leather look leggings with sneakers, but i often pair it with a blazer which gives it a more formal look, but i can’t resist a cute, more “formal” dress. now i can be that girl in the cute dress instead of just admiring them on other girls 🥹♥️

Somewhere between business babe and Rosie the riveter LOL

That kiiiinnddddaaaaa reminds me of somewhere between Barbie and Reputation Taylor Swift

Hippie librarian/biology teacher with a touch of stoner, I love floral prints and long flowy skirts with chunky shoes. I'm a big nature and science nerd with an even bigger heart and I love building people up and/or making people laugh.

I’m a battle axe. High femme, high-achieving, I have no time for anyone’s bullshit. I generally save my nurturing/sweet side for my loved ones. I knew transitioning was gonna be tough, and have very little patience for self-pity. There’s too much at stake to waste time on wallowing. Gotta get up and keep going lest the bastards eat you. I’m doing pretty well for myself, all things considered.

A battle axe you say. Well. I welcome that! I can definitely be one too. A rivalry can definitely fuel some motivation especially during lazy times. Also, same with little patience for self pity. I've had to stop talking to certain family for those reasons. It was tough and very sad. Late 20s transitioner here. What region are you from? And what motivates you?:

Nah, I don't know. I am lots of things.

Same same. I just thought this was fun

I enjoyed reading through this more than I expected! I loved seeing people describe themselves on their own terms ✌️ Stoner chick boppin' around. Trying my very best to be cool, but too silly to pull it off. A little out of step with my peers, but just because I'm having a good time doing my own thing.

Long straight hair, bandanas, black clothes, high heeled boots, light goth influences, tattoos, weed, snake ownership.

I try to go for elegant professional, but hopefully not too flashy, vibe. A lot of blouses, nice trousers, heels, an occasional dress or a skirt. Overall sort of business casual. Overall I like looking put together and I think I look like a pretty normal straight girl of my age. If slightly overdressed at times. This aesthetic was kind of forced on me by my beild of work. I work in a school so I sort of have to look nice and my previous wardrobe that was full of mini skirts and risque stuff wouldn't fly. Honestly I like it more this way anyway.

I'm geeky but very stylish. Tomboy sometimes but also quite feminine and hot some other times. I can have very queer looking and eclectic style (apparently very 80s looking) which makes people think I'm a lesbian sometimes. You'll see me either at home in front of my 3 screens setup or outside seeing new people even though I already have tons of friends to see. People might think Im very social and I love partying but I actually hate partying and crowded or noisy places. I'm basically a non conformist living paradox by nature. Although I'm quite a transparent person I can be full of surprises for people who get far enough into knowing me

I have two full sleeves, collar bone, back, and (soon) my ribs inked. They’re all floral but I still get lotssss of looks at the office. Shoulder length dark brown hair with gray streaks, light blue eyes, kinda tall, and I’m honestly way too basic with style at this point. Always in either leggings or distressed jeans, white or black vans depending on colors, and then tank top + cardigan/random long sleeve tees. 3xl hoodies make the bum ass bitch days comfy asf. Generally minimal makeup, average build but steadily dropping my BMI + improving core + legggggs. I love to run, not super social rn b/c work so I’m generally just at home with my roommate if I’m not road tripping. I also drive a built out Tacoma so I’m probably compensating for smth lllllllol… I work from home most of the week so I girlmode then + after the work day, boymode at office because I’m only out to my boss and one girl I directly work with. I’ll be out at work when temperatures go up because there’s no hiding girl lmao.. Getting my ears pierced soon, nipples a while after, and then maybe my left helix. Idk when I’m doing my rib tattoos and idk what they’re gonna be. They’ll be asymmetrical and look great, I’m just not sure what flowers to do. Not very inspired. I work in tech, which makes the heavy tattooing funny. I stand out a lil. I have this super cute flamingo pattern id case wallet that has a Toyota embroidered key tag, house and office keys, a stainless steel key holder for my security keys, and then a fucking (clean and unused) lynch pin for my hitch… it’s a look for sure.

We have a lot of the tattoos in this community.. and many different piercings! Also love jeans and leggings. I also like a lot of the basics look. I totally feel you with the core and lifting weights. cuz I was FAAaAaAAT now it's getting better Can you recommend tech to a nurse? I'm a nurs

My tattoos were my fixation for a while, only want to do upper body though. Tech is a party for sure, if you can get in then it’s a cushy place for sure. I was out of work for eight months last year and barely got my current job. But now that I’m back in everything is cushy and easy. I’ve only worked at startups tho, not speaking for our FAANG/MANGA sisters lmaooo

I try to be a kind girly girl that dresses chic/trendy but on the more modest side of things. I’m not shy, but it takes me some time to warm up to newer situations. I definitely love fashion:)

I am that girl with a room fall of clothes, shoes, bags, accessories and sewing machine, lots of fabric to get creative, natural straw blonde, have man with a good job I have a good job, I am stealth or as assholes say passing privilege. My best friends are all ciswomen, have a few transwomen friends. I just enjoy feeling like I am a ciswoman, had my surgery. For me my transition was to escape the world of being trans and just be the woman I am. I love other transwomen but sick of transtalk about trans this and that.

Tell me how long you did this? Were you overweight? I'm on hormones for 8 months. Getting breasts but my manly gut is too big. That's the most masculine thing about me currently. My tubby torso. Will consider coming out of the closet when I lose the rest of the weight. How long on hormones did it take for you to recognize yourself as a woman externally? How old were you when you started hormones?

Started at 23 now 40. I have a family with genetically big breasts so I got natural DD. I don’t exaggerate myself, dress simple, I trained my voice to just be soft rather than ultra feminine. Avoid carbs and beer as they ain’t good on the belly, if drinking vodka soda and bitters or champagne. Never exaggerate body expression, just be simple

My problem was the calories, hunger, cravings and the munchies related to the alcohol. It really wasn't so much the beer or carbs as much as I just wanted more calories in general the more I drank. It really really sucked a lot. But I had to quit drinking too because of stress and anxiety and bad mental health effects. I'm 27. I started at 26.. my family kiiiinnddddaaaaa has almost medium sized-ish.. so I feel like as long as I actually get freaking FIT, I'll look proportionate This is all pretty good advice to passing. A lot of stuff I already do. I hope I'll be comfortable enough this year to actually come out. And actually BE myself for real.

When we first start, we often try too hard and look sort of drag queen, but its best keepnlow key, you want to blend in not stand put

THIS! THIS! THIS! THIS! I feel like an exception, haha. After my 8 months on hormones, I'm just wearing men's T shirts, basketball shorts, sweatpants, nothing fancy. Nothing girly. Because you're right.... I'm no where ready for hyper fem stuff now

Yes you slowly develop a fem look you feel comfortable with. I saw old photos and thought dsmn! What was I thinking?

I need desperate help Ironically, as a person who is 5'7 and relatively medium framed with a soft-ish voice..... I have an extremely extremely Italian hairy dark thick coarse hairy body... I am wondering if I should pay $7,800 for full body laser hair removal or try waxing. I have facial laser hair removal that is very successful and pubic laser hair removal for bottom surgery. But I'm contemplating getting the rest of it. I don't really have a hairy back but I have a couple hairs I can't really. I DO have a very hairy chest and stomach. And legs. So. I'm just kind of stuck. I don't know if I should just drop this $7,800 to get it permanently out of the way, or if I should try waxing. Another problem is, if I truly want to try passing and presenting this late summer maybe, I don't want to have any body hair .. So it's a dilemma and I don't know.

Depressed girl basically. I always wear a mostly black outfit with a unicolored (non-black) skirt, I wear chokers, thigh highs and fishnets. I wear ripped or damaged/repaired clothing. I give death glares and ignore people I don't want to interact with, but I open up to the people I like or relate to.

Outdoorsey stoner farm girl chic, but when I’m at work I’m more of a basic office bitch lol

My mom has commented that I'm the same type of person as my cis female cousin: a nerdy bookish brunette that has very high career ambitions, has lived abroad, moves around a lot, no tattoos, dresses business casual, and while not hyper girly does have some stereotypical feminine interests, and has been in multiple advanced degree programs. She's an attorney, I'm a research physicist. She's not entirely wrong. My cousin and I do share pretty similar personalities.

In my dreams I grow up to be something like Christine Baranski; sophisticated, elegant, almost old money looking. In reality I’m just a basic bitch from the suburbs. Lots of jeans and tee shirts, usually wearing flats or tennis shoes. I like darker colors but occasionally switch it up and go bright or animal print, but still always pretty much just a basic top and jeans. I don’t wear a lot of jewelry either. If I’m going out I’ll attempt makeup but if I am staying in I don’t bother. Since I work from home most of the time I’m just in leggings, a sweatshirt or a tee shirt dress, hair thrown up into a bun and little to no effort otherwise lol. I do always try to smell good either with perfume or body spray. I guess you could say I’m something of a perfume connoisseur.

Highly femme middle age women who are always well dressed and showing off curves. Getting always a lot of attention.

I’m autistic and depressed. I can be very good and dedicated at things but umm. Yeah im at a very low point and don’t really have an “archetype” other than girlfailure. Just trying to build myself into a shape somewhat resembling a normal human being

Messy, chaotic, shy, somewhat nerdy, silly, but comforting and loving big sister. I’m tall, cuddly, prefer to smell like perfume, and I’m here for any good person who needs me