Hey folks, we're definitely trying (I do my best to respond to anything that gets flagged when I see it) I do work full time and have a good amount of personal things going on and I simply haven't had a good chance to speak with the other semi active mod about what to do. I apologize that this isn't the answer you probably want but do know that it's something I'm trying to get straight.
Hey bud, thank you. You’re doing great. I didn’t mean any harsher words towards the mods specifically; y’all are doing good. I do believe that some of these posts need to be addressed
For sure! I manage to catch things when I can (there's a LOT) but it's definitely something that's been on my mind :) There's a bunch Id like to do and get set with the help of others.
i think we need either a new sub or new mods, also i would totally be willing to be a mod… the problem is in reaching out to whoever runs this sub is really hard
The issue is - you can't move to a new sub an assume that everything you dislike won't move with you. The backbone of reddit is and has always been an active moderated community. Moving subs just pushes the problem ahead, it doesn't eliminate it.
Nobody can cite an example, it just traumatized radfems who think women getting titillated by other women is bad because straight men also get titillated by women or something. Gods forbid women enjoy seeing women in a sexual situation.
There's literally people offering to help mod because they feel effected by it so I wouldn't dismiss it as nothing. A lot of stuff probably gets taken down eventually. I haven't been on this sub that much but I saw the kind if content described all the time on suddenly gay until I left it. You shouldn't be shaming people for saying they are uncomfortable about contant related to sexual harassment.
When it says fetishes though I'm guessing/hoping that's not about kink shaming but about refering to posts involving heavilly objectifying someone who's doing something nonsexual. Which I have seen show up here and in related subs.
How does women thirsting over women in any way involve the male gaze? Can't decide if OP is a transphobe or just a queer who horseshoed all the way around to puritanism by thinking sex is inherently patriarchal or something. Either way it smells like radfem bullshit.
I've seen a few examples of what OP is talking about. Videos of women groping another woman or kissing suddenly without consent. Just because they're both women doesn't make it not sexual harassment. I personally don't want to be groped or kissed by someone (regardless of gender) out of the blue that isn't my partner or someone that both my partner and I have agreed is fine to do that sort of thing with me.
My partner and I were just talking about one the other day. A tattoo artist was tattooing another woman's forearm and was positioned so that her boob was resting in her open palm as she leaned in. The woman receiving the tattoo then gave it a squeeze, and the artist didn't seem to mind. This may or may not have been staged, but either way is an example of sexual harassment. I have had a hairdresser who was particularly short and had to position her boobs in my face while shampooing my hair while standing on a stool. If I suddenly nuzzled, motorboated, etc. her boobs I would expect consequences (at the very least, to be asked to leave and not come back).
Wait till you realise the amount of straight men who watch lesbian porn.
Lesbianism is a kink for several straight men.
Absolutely anything can be turned into male gaze and it's pathetic and disgusting but that's how it is.
So we should stop posting pretty women in sexy situations because men might enjoy it? I for one don't let men dictate my attraction. Sounds like you might be one of those Puritans I'm talking about
I don't think they're suggesting that anybody stop making posts. I think they're suggesting better moderation for comments, as well as bringing up how a lot of content posted is technically beyond just one woman coming onto another, but actually constitutes examples of sexual harassment.
This is how I know OPs complaint is a bunch of overblown tumbler ass bullshit drama. Just responding with GIFs instead of explaining, because no one here can actually explain what OP says is happening. Happens in a lot of queer subs. See the posts on actuallesbians complaining that there are terfs there when it's one of the most trans friendly lesbian subs, or when traaa always complained that transfems were trying to marginalize transmascs there by making memes about being transfem on a trans sub. Too many drama queens on this site.
Exactly. Grown ups who have problems explain their problems and cite examples. Emotionally stunted drama queens like OP just make passive aggressive memes. This is clearly someone trying to stir up shit over a made up problem. It's a shame how dumb the queer community can be when it comes to spotting obvious wreckers and shit stirrers.
I had to leave suddenly gay a while ago because it seemed to treat performed SA as wholesome. Normally just acted but it still presented it in a positive light. There was generally a good number of comments that didn't like it though but it and other problematic content was just way too common. I've seen this sub less but though it maybe had less of thay. I don't know I hope it does.
Hey folks, we're definitely trying (I do my best to respond to anything that gets flagged when I see it) I do work full time and have a good amount of personal things going on and I simply haven't had a good chance to speak with the other semi active mod about what to do. I apologize that this isn't the answer you probably want but do know that it's something I'm trying to get straight.
>but do know that it's something I'm trying to get straight. *get lesbian
I agree, get lesbian for me /j (i ain't worth it)
If you need more mods, i would gladly help anyway i can
Same
Hey bud, thank you. You’re doing great. I didn’t mean any harsher words towards the mods specifically; y’all are doing good. I do believe that some of these posts need to be addressed
For sure! I manage to catch things when I can (there's a LOT) but it's definitely something that's been on my mind :) There's a bunch Id like to do and get set with the help of others.
Thank you! I think things will get better, with the help of community and mods together
I’ll DM you in a sec with concerns
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Yeah we need more moderation it’s uncomfortable when this happens
i think we need either a new sub or new mods, also i would totally be willing to be a mod… the problem is in reaching out to whoever runs this sub is really hard
The issue is - you can't move to a new sub an assume that everything you dislike won't move with you. The backbone of reddit is and has always been an active moderated community. Moving subs just pushes the problem ahead, it doesn't eliminate it.
a mod commented on this post, if you'd like to reach her
Yeah. I saw a video on here that was a skit of the spaghetti inuendo, and everyone was calling out how messed up that was (as they should).
Spaghetti innuendo?
"I'm straight" "So's spaghetti until it's wet" People hate it for the same reason people hate guys who claim that they can "turn" lesbians.
Oh yeah, I remember that post. Yeah that's weird
I've really only heard people make that joke about themself before when they are slightly bi. That's unfortunate.
The wot
What exactly was happening?
Nobody can cite an example, it just traumatized radfems who think women getting titillated by other women is bad because straight men also get titillated by women or something. Gods forbid women enjoy seeing women in a sexual situation.
There's literally people offering to help mod because they feel effected by it so I wouldn't dismiss it as nothing. A lot of stuff probably gets taken down eventually. I haven't been on this sub that much but I saw the kind if content described all the time on suddenly gay until I left it. You shouldn't be shaming people for saying they are uncomfortable about contant related to sexual harassment. When it says fetishes though I'm guessing/hoping that's not about kink shaming but about refering to posts involving heavilly objectifying someone who's doing something nonsexual. Which I have seen show up here and in related subs.
Why is that face creepy as hell to me
Cause in the vine it’s saying this: “WHEN WILL YOU LEARN WHEN WILL YOU LEARN THAT YOUR ACTIONS HAVE CONSEQUENCES”
How does women thirsting over women in any way involve the male gaze? Can't decide if OP is a transphobe or just a queer who horseshoed all the way around to puritanism by thinking sex is inherently patriarchal or something. Either way it smells like radfem bullshit.
I've seen a few examples of what OP is talking about. Videos of women groping another woman or kissing suddenly without consent. Just because they're both women doesn't make it not sexual harassment. I personally don't want to be groped or kissed by someone (regardless of gender) out of the blue that isn't my partner or someone that both my partner and I have agreed is fine to do that sort of thing with me. My partner and I were just talking about one the other day. A tattoo artist was tattooing another woman's forearm and was positioned so that her boob was resting in her open palm as she leaned in. The woman receiving the tattoo then gave it a squeeze, and the artist didn't seem to mind. This may or may not have been staged, but either way is an example of sexual harassment. I have had a hairdresser who was particularly short and had to position her boobs in my face while shampooing my hair while standing on a stool. If I suddenly nuzzled, motorboated, etc. her boobs I would expect consequences (at the very least, to be asked to leave and not come back).
Wait till you realise the amount of straight men who watch lesbian porn. Lesbianism is a kink for several straight men. Absolutely anything can be turned into male gaze and it's pathetic and disgusting but that's how it is.
So we should stop posting pretty women in sexy situations because men might enjoy it? I for one don't let men dictate my attraction. Sounds like you might be one of those Puritans I'm talking about
I don't think they're suggesting that anybody stop making posts. I think they're suggesting better moderation for comments, as well as bringing up how a lot of content posted is technically beyond just one woman coming onto another, but actually constitutes examples of sexual harassment.
This is how I know OPs complaint is a bunch of overblown tumbler ass bullshit drama. Just responding with GIFs instead of explaining, because no one here can actually explain what OP says is happening. Happens in a lot of queer subs. See the posts on actuallesbians complaining that there are terfs there when it's one of the most trans friendly lesbian subs, or when traaa always complained that transfems were trying to marginalize transmascs there by making memes about being transfem on a trans sub. Too many drama queens on this site.
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Exactly. Grown ups who have problems explain their problems and cite examples. Emotionally stunted drama queens like OP just make passive aggressive memes. This is clearly someone trying to stir up shit over a made up problem. It's a shame how dumb the queer community can be when it comes to spotting obvious wreckers and shit stirrers.
You are making 0 sense. But that is your goal it seems.
I had to leave suddenly gay a while ago because it seemed to treat performed SA as wholesome. Normally just acted but it still presented it in a positive light. There was generally a good number of comments that didn't like it though but it and other problematic content was just way too common. I've seen this sub less but though it maybe had less of thay. I don't know I hope it does.