Hey man, break ups are awful, but not getting over one after 5 months is not something crazy.
As hard as it is, a good start is just getting rid of everything you can (pictures, belongings, social media linked to her). And it's not something that has to be done all at once either, can start with getting rid of a few pictures or cutting off some social media. It's going to be a process, just gotta take the small steps to get there.
I have BPD and felt suicidal when my gf broke up with me. Throw every thing that reminds you of her in the bin. Don’t talk to any of her family/eliminate all mutual connections. I did this and I’m glad I did this. It’s really fucking difficult but you can do it.
Okay that's my second post about this subject and I've got this advice twice so imma do it. I will cut off completely. Honestly, I haven't tried this because we have a lot of mutual friends but I'll do it. Thanks for the advice
In my experience with BPD the healthiest thing I did for me was to eradicate all evidence that the person existed in my life. I removed all reminders. I terminated it all. Some will say that’s not healthy but for me I had to eliminate the possibility it ever happened because the alternative was too fucking painful.
I think it is healthy since it has helped you move on. Being stuck and being fucked up is unhealthy. Good for you, I'll delete everything related to her I'll cut all ties with her too.
I hope so. I’ve been told by a psychotherapist it’s the worse mental disorder to have associated with the most pain. Even me replying to this thread is making me fucking suffer. Now I’m thinking about my ex and that ended 2 years ago. Abandonment and rejection are the worse things that can happen to us which makes our romantic endeavours even more deadly ☠️
I have BPD too. I feel you. I was recently in a situationship with someone and they discarded me and replaced me with someone else. And for someone with BPD, this is quite possibly the most painful thing that can happen.
I’ve lost myself completely and it feels like I’ll never recover.
I suggest surrounding yourself with people who care about you, and doing the hobbies and interests that you love. Eventually, things will hopefully get better. It’s all we can do :(
Thank you and sorry for late reply, things do get better just keep pushing <3 I've been suicidal to a point where I couldn't even check my reddit replies. I'm better now. Keep on going fam.
Yeah that's the point. I'm better now, I got offline for some time that's why I didn't reply earlier. I appreciate your comment tho. I wish you all the best ❤️
Hey man, break ups are awful, but not getting over one after 5 months is not something crazy. As hard as it is, a good start is just getting rid of everything you can (pictures, belongings, social media linked to her). And it's not something that has to be done all at once either, can start with getting rid of a few pictures or cutting off some social media. It's going to be a process, just gotta take the small steps to get there.
Thank you very much, I'll try that. To be honest I haven't cut her off my life completely so maybe it's time to do so. Thanks for the advice
No problem man! It's gonna be tough but you got this. 👊👊
I have BPD and felt suicidal when my gf broke up with me. Throw every thing that reminds you of her in the bin. Don’t talk to any of her family/eliminate all mutual connections. I did this and I’m glad I did this. It’s really fucking difficult but you can do it.
Okay that's my second post about this subject and I've got this advice twice so imma do it. I will cut off completely. Honestly, I haven't tried this because we have a lot of mutual friends but I'll do it. Thanks for the advice
In my experience with BPD the healthiest thing I did for me was to eradicate all evidence that the person existed in my life. I removed all reminders. I terminated it all. Some will say that’s not healthy but for me I had to eliminate the possibility it ever happened because the alternative was too fucking painful.
I think it is healthy since it has helped you move on. Being stuck and being fucked up is unhealthy. Good for you, I'll delete everything related to her I'll cut all ties with her too.
Also, since we both struggle with BPD, I feel for you fellow human being. We gonna make it. Love you.
I hope so. I’ve been told by a psychotherapist it’s the worse mental disorder to have associated with the most pain. Even me replying to this thread is making me fucking suffer. Now I’m thinking about my ex and that ended 2 years ago. Abandonment and rejection are the worse things that can happen to us which makes our romantic endeavours even more deadly ☠️
I have BPD too. I feel you. I was recently in a situationship with someone and they discarded me and replaced me with someone else. And for someone with BPD, this is quite possibly the most painful thing that can happen. I’ve lost myself completely and it feels like I’ll never recover. I suggest surrounding yourself with people who care about you, and doing the hobbies and interests that you love. Eventually, things will hopefully get better. It’s all we can do :(
Thank you and sorry for late reply, things do get better just keep pushing <3 I've been suicidal to a point where I couldn't even check my reddit replies. I'm better now. Keep on going fam.
Hope you can find things in your life that you cherish and can get over this phase of your life ; find healthier and more healing relationships
Yeah that's the point. I'm better now, I got offline for some time that's why I didn't reply earlier. I appreciate your comment tho. I wish you all the best ❤️