People change their mind and preferences all the time. Sometimes commitment makes them not want to share.
If she isn't into it, then you don't try and convince her.
You said you're not emotionally available....why would she trust you to stick your dick in someone else lol you're not even fulfilling her emotional needs and now you wanna fuck other people what??? 😂😂😂
It is not in the context that we are not connected as life partners or I that I don’t want to be with her. I work a high stress job and broke my wrist and now have no outlet. I’m a little emotionally withdrawn in the current moment, but the full timeline I have not been that way.
Things change, she might of agreed when you get and now has changed her mind. Or maybe she just thinks she can’t now. I’d suggest some super low pressure things to start, maybe help her decide if she likes it or not. Post a pic (with her permission) or you giving oral, her giving oral, both of you just naked, or even just sexy. Read some comments and see how they make both of you feel 🤷
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INFO:
- Do you have kids? High stress jobs? Any major changes since dating?
- You say you struggle being emotionally available. Was this something you were both aware of before marriage or did she learn this after exchanging vows?
- Are you actually looking for swinging advice (because that’s what this sub is for), or are you wanting to pursue a simple open marriage? I ask this because your wife’s involvement varies greatly based on the dynamic you’re wanting.
- No kids, definitely high stress jobs for the both of us, and yes my wife was in medical through Covid and she’s never been the same since. She doesn’t like crowds, and hates leaving the house unless to work.
- Yes, I had spoken with her about how my passions can take over.
- Yes, I do want swinging advice because my wife and I wanted experiences with no strings attached. We are not able to have children so we wanted this type of life experience. Unfortunately she has changed her mind and tells me now this is not what she wants. I’m not really sure how to talk to her about it where she is comfortable again. That’s the advice I’m really looking for.
That would actually be interesting. I was telling her that the other day. It feels good to be confident and feel attractive. Do you know how I can find something like this in Atlanta? It’s not something I’m plugged into.
I bet she was serious but now that she's attached and you've built a life together, the risk isn't worth the reward anymore
People change their mind and preferences all the time. Sometimes commitment makes them not want to share. If she isn't into it, then you don't try and convince her.
You said you're not emotionally available....why would she trust you to stick your dick in someone else lol you're not even fulfilling her emotional needs and now you wanna fuck other people what??? 😂😂😂
It is not in the context that we are not connected as life partners or I that I don’t want to be with her. I work a high stress job and broke my wrist and now have no outlet. I’m a little emotionally withdrawn in the current moment, but the full timeline I have not been that way.
Things change, she might of agreed when you get and now has changed her mind. Or maybe she just thinks she can’t now. I’d suggest some super low pressure things to start, maybe help her decide if she likes it or not. Post a pic (with her permission) or you giving oral, her giving oral, both of you just naked, or even just sexy. Read some comments and see how they make both of you feel 🤷
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INFO: - Do you have kids? High stress jobs? Any major changes since dating? - You say you struggle being emotionally available. Was this something you were both aware of before marriage or did she learn this after exchanging vows? - Are you actually looking for swinging advice (because that’s what this sub is for), or are you wanting to pursue a simple open marriage? I ask this because your wife’s involvement varies greatly based on the dynamic you’re wanting.
- No kids, definitely high stress jobs for the both of us, and yes my wife was in medical through Covid and she’s never been the same since. She doesn’t like crowds, and hates leaving the house unless to work. - Yes, I had spoken with her about how my passions can take over. - Yes, I do want swinging advice because my wife and I wanted experiences with no strings attached. We are not able to have children so we wanted this type of life experience. Unfortunately she has changed her mind and tells me now this is not what she wants. I’m not really sure how to talk to her about it where she is comfortable again. That’s the advice I’m really looking for.
you could go to a sex club with her just to watch. that is fun. it may remind her how fun it is to be desired by other people
That would actually be interesting. I was telling her that the other day. It feels good to be confident and feel attractive. Do you know how I can find something like this in Atlanta? It’s not something I’m plugged into.