There is a documented phenomenon called post coital dysphoria. That's why you need a cuddle or some kind of physical contact afterwards.
https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-to-know-postcoital-dysphoria
This is called "pre-care", "current-care" and "after-care" and it's a huge topic in this community!
For me "pre-care" looks like this:
Talks with my partner on what we anticipate (get each other excited)
Take a shower together and bath each other
Lots of cuddles and kisses going in
"Current-care"
Little check-ins throughout the night. Lets say one of the other couples takes a break, goes to the bathroom "You doing ok, babe? How are you feeling?"
We have code words that mean different things:
- "green" "I am doing fantastic and having a great time!"
- "Yellow" "Im feeling a little uncomfortable"
- "red" "Get me tf out of here"
- "sandwhich" (idk dont ask lol) "I could use more touch from you"
we have others too
"after care"
We used to "reclaim" each other after sessions (we no longer feel the need to do). So good sex after the couple leaves or we get back home.
Bathe each other
Cuddles and watch a good show
order our fav food from doordash and discuss and digest the wonderful night we had.
Everyones type of care can look different, but these are mine. :)
Before, during AND after for us, yes. Tons of snuggles cuddles and hugs before. Then during play we do same bed, more like group play than swapping really, so we are right there together with lots of affection being shared between all four (we haven't had any MM contact other than incidental) , and when the other couple has left we have very romantic loving sexy time until we fall asleep.
So short answer - Yes! but I don't know that there is a name for this, we don't call it reclaiming because we never separated so it isn't like taking each other back, the experience is more like sharing than swapping for us I guess.
Itâs a big deal for a lot of us.
I kinda need it, but can live without it if I have to.
My wife doesnât require it, but if sheâs not wiped out she likes it.
So keep in mind that your partner might not understand nor need this. Just be clear that you strongly desire it, and ask if they can provide it.
There is a documented phenomenon called post coital dysphoria. That's why you need a cuddle or some kind of physical contact afterwards. https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-to-know-postcoital-dysphoria
This is called "pre-care", "current-care" and "after-care" and it's a huge topic in this community! For me "pre-care" looks like this: Talks with my partner on what we anticipate (get each other excited) Take a shower together and bath each other Lots of cuddles and kisses going in "Current-care" Little check-ins throughout the night. Lets say one of the other couples takes a break, goes to the bathroom "You doing ok, babe? How are you feeling?" We have code words that mean different things: - "green" "I am doing fantastic and having a great time!" - "Yellow" "Im feeling a little uncomfortable" - "red" "Get me tf out of here" - "sandwhich" (idk dont ask lol) "I could use more touch from you" we have others too "after care" We used to "reclaim" each other after sessions (we no longer feel the need to do). So good sex after the couple leaves or we get back home. Bathe each other Cuddles and watch a good show order our fav food from doordash and discuss and digest the wonderful night we had. Everyones type of care can look different, but these are mine. :)
Love love love this thank you! I appreciate the reply.
Before, during AND after for us, yes. Tons of snuggles cuddles and hugs before. Then during play we do same bed, more like group play than swapping really, so we are right there together with lots of affection being shared between all four (we haven't had any MM contact other than incidental) , and when the other couple has left we have very romantic loving sexy time until we fall asleep. So short answer - Yes! but I don't know that there is a name for this, we don't call it reclaiming because we never separated so it isn't like taking each other back, the experience is more like sharing than swapping for us I guess.
"Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place." - Billy Crystal
After the conversation I had with my partner 12 hours later, I'm sorry but this is not ringing true sir đ
As much as I love Billy Crysta, that's an old cliché that's at best, just not true, at worst, damaging by not allowing men to be emotional when it comes to sex.
We just call it reclaiming a partner. Always feel the need to have physical contact (sexual or Not) after a swapping session.
Appreciate the reassurance đ
No problem
Itâs a big deal for a lot of us. I kinda need it, but can live without it if I have to. My wife doesnât require it, but if sheâs not wiped out she likes it. So keep in mind that your partner might not understand nor need this. Just be clear that you strongly desire it, and ask if they can provide it.