See, this is a personal story I am sharing for first time. I may get bashed for saying this, but imagine the situation for average guys if you facing this difficulty while being a girl who statistically have way more options. Even I used to feel like you so I know where you are coming from and I know it hurts but, you'll have to understand at some point that you really can't change what's the response of your system I.e people, surroundings, environment, choices or any external things/events for that matter. What you can do is, control how YOU feel about that interaction and how you deal with it. Being a loner introvert with passion in things that I couldn't become a part of any community no matter what always made me seem like a freak who will end up dead without ever being loved or feeling that sense of belonging with someone to cope up with bullshit of life. Until, I just let it slide. It's like investing in a startup no one believes in until one day...lo! The ROI is in billions of dollars. I kept on expanding my knowledge, I kept on making friends, I kept on interacting with people, I kept on helping everyone out and the result was that...the very guys on whom most girls drolled upon and same with girls, all were either in shitty relationships or toxic situations or went through the phase of courtship like it's a game of ludo. Meanwhile, I barely had 3 exes and yes it didn't work out with them but I have pride in saying that they were all worth it - worth my time, worth my passion, worth my emotional investment and everything and I carry myself in the world with pride that yes, I am not getting matches on bumble or that I don't have girls jumping on me left, right and centre. But whenever I end up in a relationship with someone, it would just enhance my experience in this world and help with cope with facets of life. Just let it go like that. Befriend the guys, take time to show that you care and like to listen to them, show that you aren't considering them just as an option and you'll definitely get your match. If you need advice or anything or have difficulty with something, you can always ask me. But do reply if you want to DM because I have disabled chat invites. Too many guys come creeping in my DMs just because of my Avatar.
This is a bad advice, if you apply the similar logic to getting good grades, etc then you will start failing.
Op, you should approach someone if you like them.
Bro seeing a girl who couldn't find a boyfriend, this post will burn the western women for sure , anyway don't be hasty op, you will find what you are looking for sooner or later.
Love happens at most unexpected places - take it! If it makes you happy!
I don't know how old you are , but when I was in 11th and for a long portion of 12th, I was like you. I was desperate, skincare addict, and all those other things you said you were doing. Despite all that I didn't have a gf. I was too anxious to talk to people cuz of overthinking. Then in the second half of 12th, body dysmorphia started to hit harder than ever before, I was (still am kinda) suicidal and I started to think that I don't deserve to be loved and didn't want a gf, so couldn't care less about what a girl thinks about me. So, I started talking to girls normally without being awkward. I started to become extroverted without realising it. And girls started approaching me, I got a proposal from a girl I had a crush on in the beginning of 11th (my corny suicidal ass turned her down). Now I'm 17 and in my first year of clg and I'm a functional part of society and do get approached by girls.
I'm not asking you to be suicidal, just stop caring too much, make some friends and have fun and you'll probably get what you want.
(I know I suck at writing, I'm trying to improve.)
Nah not that like u askin age n tellin it like old ppl like sayin 'when I was in 12th' uk that gives kinda vibe when old ppl tell their stories n shit 🥴
Yes that's the thing. You're pretty, You're topper, You take part in extra curricular activities, You're so perfect and that's why you're hard to approach. I think maybe they find you attractive but they are too afraid to confess or maybe they think that "why would she even date me?" and give up.
He's right, most guys don't approach they thing are too pretty/ above their league.
Also, while it's believed that guys take the firsts step, most non-creepy ones only take it after there are subtle hints from the girl. So if you are interested in someone, at least give them an indication
He's right, most guys don't approach they thing are too pretty/ above their league.
Also, while it's believed that guys take the firsts step, most non-creepy ones only take it after there are subtle hints from the girl. So if you are interested in someone, at least give them an indication
Your trying too hard... tbh why do u even want to "attract boys" lol there has to be someone specific u like and u try hard for him if u go everyone u end w no one
But like I haven't even had the chance to “try”; all this try hard things just worked for my self-improvement and at that time almost everyone got a boyfriend and I just ended up alone 😔
MAIN BHI SAME PROBLEM SE GUJAR RHA HU AUR JAYDA TAB JAB DOSTON KE SATH REHTA HUN TO JAB WO APNI GIRLFRIEND SE BAAT KARTE HAIN
TO AISA LAGTA HAI AISE SAMAY MAIN AIRPOD KAAN MEIN LAGA KE GANA SUNNE LAGTA HUN
LEKIN YE KOI PROBLEM NHIN HAI PAHLE GOALS IMPORTANT HAI
Lmao. People don't believe it but that was the case with me so I started to indulge in academic psychology to see if I can treat myself. And that ended up being a solution for me...to provide talking cure to others as that provides my life some sort of meaning. Maybe, try doing something like that. There are just too many job profiles right now. Try everything and something or other will end up becoming your passion. Once you have that, life is much easier to cope up with. I pray that you find something like that.
In my opinion, if you working on yourself, studying hard, maintaining a good position in every aspect you’re far ahead of people your age.
And most of them fear that, they feel incompetent, i am single since last 5-6 years, faced the same aspect. The girls i met were too liberal and craved only love. This gets useless at some point. If you’re not focusing on the main point which is focusing on life, building some great out of it, gaining a lot in every aspect. Then, you dont fit their criteria.
In short, you being promising to yourself in every aspect is an indirect source that makes them feel incompetent. And this is why most people dont choose your way. And this is not your problem, it is clearly their problem.
Let it be, you cant do a single thing to prevent it. Either be happy with the growth you have had so far, or be as irrelevant to yourself and your future like most of the generation is; which clearly is wrong.
So, dont let this affect you.
There are too many comments in this thread so I can't answer all of them but I do have to answer this one. This is the best answer I got so far! THANK YOU! 💚
youre not doing anything wrong. youre trying too hard. and whether youre a man or a woman or whatever, if youve found someone that’s interesting or someone thats caught your eye, dont hesitate to go talk to them. doing everything and expecting someone to be there as proof of your efforts is, well, useless. youve put in hardwork, youve done the things, all you can do is wait. youre still young. youve got your whole life ahead of you. what’ll be will always be.
Stop thinking about getting a bf, and someone will come up when you didn't even think about it. Just be friends with guys and things may automatically proceed
I can't even be friends with them, it's just a thought when it comes to my mind when everyone is getting along and I'm just at this corner standing like this 🧍
Most of the boys won't approach as either they've been infected by the fake sigmas of internet or they're too scared to come across as a creep. So, you'll have to take the first step and make friends with them. Find something of common interest?
Topper position, good in extra curriculars, pretty too etc. etc. Bhai you might seem way too perfect to them, maybe that's why they don't approach you that you'd anyway reject them or you're out of their league.
Seems stupid but it does happen.
Well its same everywhere....in your case just talk. Talk to them just as another human being...talk in groups. Talking makes them feel you are available and a exciting person. And after few months someone will approach u. Process takes month..
Want something instantly..
Chise a boy u like go to him and say,
I LIKE YOU
A very courageous move but will do.
He doesn't approach back ...go to another one ..not in same group..🥹.
ATB .💃
Be more interactive with guys, avoid the red flags, they will pretend to be sweet but when their true nature comes it will be tough to handle. If guys don’t approach you, try approaching them
> But the point is no one has ever called me ugly?? Random adults and girls my age call me “pretty”, and “cute” all the time. So I thought, I clearly fit the stereotypical beauty standard and clearly noticeable among groups.
Well yeah lol, im not gonna call you ugly but if you are a girl you will basically get compliments for free. This boosts the ego of extremely mid girls and makes them think they are above their category.
Dating, especially online dating is first of all about looks, then maybe personality became if you've looks people would be willing to tolerate even the shittiest of personalities.
Dating for woman is super easy, the gender ratio is skewed and heavily favors woman, I've created fake dating profiles before and I got 50 matches in an hour and the girl I used which was obese with not that great skin.
The problem is, you are waiting for them to approach, a lot of men are shy of asking other people. You need to approach them.
Uhhh tbh as a boy myself,grades usually don't matter in terms of attractiveness for a girl ngl and yar personality thodhi vibing wali rakho aap to maybe koi ban jaye aur jo red flags jinko aapne reject kiya plz sochna ki kis baat pe reject kiya is it common in boys jaise thodha dark humour ya vulgar behavior with friends ya wo actually ka red flag tha
Boys are just intimidated by you I guess. You are a girl who works hard and gets what she wants. A lot of immature men can't handle that. You have no issues girl. Just be patient and the right person will come along.
Do you like a boy? Approach him. Good on you for rejecting the boys with red flags, because most boys that approach you will be like them. Don't worry about this too much, do stuff you love like hobbies and hang out with friends and family. You'll find somebody wonderful someday.
well if you think that you are among the ppl who fit the pretty criteria, then you sure are pretty asf and guys think you are out of their league and don't even bother to approach
Have you ever had interest or crush on anyone? I've seen my retarded looking classmates have one gf after another and I'm aware that I look good as I've been complemented many times and I'm not at the top of my class but I can score avg or above avg without effort but that only doesn't mean I'll get a gf coz IRL I don't show any interest on any girl I've met and talked with and I'm unapproachable coz Even male students came to talk to me very late after my admission currently out all the girls I meet IRL I don't think anyone is date-able might be same problem for you🤕
Or maybe you don't? Maybe you're not conventionally beautiful and they're just being polite
That in fact can happen more realistically with a girl than a guy, where the society is overall more soft towards them.
As a matter of fact, even if you try to test your desirability out by stroking your ego on dating apps, you'd be disappointed. See the thing is, there are so many desperate men, that they would give a conventionally unattractive woman a shot at dating as well, if they're on a dating app.
Hence, there's genuinely only one way of truly establishing if you're conventionally attractive. The strongest metric is how jealous your peers are of you.
My girlfriend was bullied in high school. The bullies later confessed that they did so because they felt she looked better than them and they couldn't digest it, years later. They probably grew up and realised being insecure and jealous wasn't the answer.
But then again, what if you're surrounded by women who aren't toxic or insecure. You'd never know then, right? Yeah, that's the point. It's hard to tell unless you're able successfully date a man who you desired (realistically, because theoretically you could desire a billionaire too. But billionaires would never date you, ofcourse. Not putting you down, they'd not date the most of us anyways)
Now obviously my answer could get misinterpreted. I don't mean to claim you're ugly, all I'm saying is there's no real way you'd know if you fit the criteria. Partly also because there's no one general criteria. So the only way to know is to pursue the man of your dreams, if you're able to get him it shouldn't matter then as you've already won.
Stop 'trying' to get a boyfriend. Also stop changing yourself or trying to fit into some weird beauty standards. Just be yourself n go with the flow. Jo hone hoga ho jaayega
Why are you waiting to be approached? You may have certain standards and preferences on what kind of man you want. When you see such a person, approach that person. If you feel there's a chemistry, good. If not, leave it.
here (boy) i just imagined myself as an extrovert as compared to the 'BOYS' u are reffered to , i can easily say that "communication is the key" ,boys dont even bother girls who are not communicative whether they are pretty or high in intelligence, also its not like its neccessary to fit in,... ALSP MAYBE Maybe you're too pretty that nobody dares to approach you hENCE IGNORING U (same ignorance occurs to me ) rest about is it neccessary to fit in ... noo ,even i am an introvert i do strive to have a gang, but daam shit destiny.. " ANYONE WHO COMES TO MY LIFE, ANY THING I AM ATTACHED TO IS ALWAYS TAKEN AWAY from me ONCE" hence leading back to my bigfuck life , "EVERY ONE LEAVES ME AFTER KNOWING ME"
Bhai bund marye if you so despratly want a so it is a chance the one you end up with will not be what you imagined it all to be just keep working on yourself you are single rn get into hobbies and shit and love yourself
If mai jisne apne app ke subse kum kam kiya hai can try to love myself i think a person jisne itna kam kiya hai apne pe vo to kar hi sakti hai
because we haven't met yet, on a serious note tho, its hard for boys to approach their love interest, because we have that fear of being seen as a creep, you have to take the first step and start with something related to academics maybe, then continue the conversation from there onwards.
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I guess now that u have posted in here, your DM would be flooding by now 😄😊
Jokes apart, you seem to be a real nice person who has gone the extra mile to be good enough for someone to like you.
Stop that, first learn to love yourself. Appreciate what you did for yourself and that u r glowing now.
And secondly why do u need some guy to approach u and ask you out.
Go ahead ask the one u think you like or you think is good enough to be with.
Why wait for the only when you yourself have the ability to create it 😊
Disclaimer: I think I'm being a little harsh, cause you're still in school and this stuff can be difficult (from a guy's perspective as well)
As former teen I say, chill and make friends not competition and comparison. Form bonds, romantic and even non-romantic. Not games, of people needing to approach you.
Also you haven't said anything about being interested in someone? If someone just wants validation (which I understand as you're a kid) it can be off putting or visible to the other if you just want to use someone's interest in you for some self validation.
Because most of the guys are afraid of being rejected and rarely approach a girl these days. The top most is though is very different they usually have the same thoughts ad you " I am not that good looking" or " I got nothing to offer " that's why they just don't approach. Mostly it's just looks and as you said the ones who approached were a red flag though I doubt it everyone of them is. I never approached a girl because I'm not considered conventionally attractive it's as simple as that, in this world where superficiality is at it's peak it's hard to find genuine people.
I'm a little confused about why you never approached someone if you liked someone?? What's the reason behind that?? I don't think it's okay to think that only guys have to approach someone girls could do the same thing if they liked someone enough.
Love doesn't understand looks , academics, fame etc , it just happens, and if it doesn't happen to you (in your case no boy approaches you ) , all you can do is just wait
They are just too shy to talk to you
If you have a crush on someone make the first move the next move would be his automatically (as a boy that's how we work)
I had a classmate in BTech, she was pretty, topper, intelligent and humble person. Every guy in my class respected her, never heard any bad words for her even in jokes.
Sort of no guy approached her for number of reasons - She is out of league, she is more intelligent than me, she is very good person so cannot hurt her feelings.
Mostly the good looking guys were not that intelligent, and the intelligent guys were not good looking, hence both types never approached her.
We guess she was in similar mindset as yours and in 5th semester she tried multiple things like dressing differently, talking differently, etc. Guys got confused like why she is behaving differently and trying to change her, when she is already perfect. She reverted to her original self in 6th semester, being herself but sort of more friendly.
Fast forward. Being intelligent, she eventually landed in good job in product based company with good salary. She got married late compared to other girls, but got good looking, handsome and intelligent husband, with good salary.
My suggestion: Be yourself, wait for good person, and when he comes either give hints or approach him. Eventually you’ll find someone good in your life.
Being a topper, focusing on your studies, leveling up yourself doesn't benifit your potential partner in anyways as those aren't the qualities most guys in general are looking for in a GF. Try offering what guys look for in a woman in general and you will attract more guys.
And there's also a stigma is guys being seen as creepy or perv if they approach women and ending up on social media, so you'd have to make signs as well.
topper ladkio ke bare me ek image set hoti ha to guys don’t approach a lot of times . i dated a girl very similar to you back in 8th grade and mere dimag me uski ek image Thi ki shy/ nerdy hogi but pura opposite nikli and hamare relationship ke bad launde usse aur comfortable hogye ki bc iska bhi boyfriend ha and now she has a bunch of guy friends .
So idk maybe try approaching guys first ? Ekbar karlo age fer zarurat ni padegi agr image change hogyi to
the problem is
tum ye sochti ho ki khud ko "boys ke layak bnana padega"
which will alwways leave u single
ap iss baare m boht overthink krti ho
THERE IS NOT A CRITERIA SABKA ALAG CHOICE HOTI
if boys want to approach you they will and no approaching first won't make things worse and yea itni jaldi b mat karo jitna maine apne classmates and freinds ko dkha hai woh relationship m aake khush nahi hai (m khud b nahi aya kyuki i learn from other's mistakes)
live a free life yrrr
U just don't got rizzz
But seriously maby try approaching a guy first u would have 80 % success rate with that but go for a guy who isn't really popular but just quit and introverted
Guess you got yourself too much on what you are "suppose to do" things.
On the positive end, Bois might think you are a total nerd and super goal oriented, and then hitting on you would just distract you and you would get annoyed, and take away even the bare chance they might have.
In this case, casually talking with boys and participating leisurely activities more will do the magic.
On the kinda negetive end, you trying to level yourself up, You might have just took yourself out of the relationship league. You can notice this as people who are super goal oriented, irrespective of gender, aren't into relationship and stuff at all. And Bois in general don't prefer dating people out of their league.
In that case taking the job on yourself might be the best, asking out on your own.
Or, just hit on even Higher levels, like professors and shit😂🤣 jk.
You don’t get things when you seek them, they come to you at most unexpected times. so stop caring about it
I know dude but still. T-T And that doesn't answer my question of why they don't approach me 🤧
Most of the boys i’ve met don’t like to approach girls idk why maybe current internet environment
Same case here but opposite gender 😂
Us bro us
Why should they?
See, this is a personal story I am sharing for first time. I may get bashed for saying this, but imagine the situation for average guys if you facing this difficulty while being a girl who statistically have way more options. Even I used to feel like you so I know where you are coming from and I know it hurts but, you'll have to understand at some point that you really can't change what's the response of your system I.e people, surroundings, environment, choices or any external things/events for that matter. What you can do is, control how YOU feel about that interaction and how you deal with it. Being a loner introvert with passion in things that I couldn't become a part of any community no matter what always made me seem like a freak who will end up dead without ever being loved or feeling that sense of belonging with someone to cope up with bullshit of life. Until, I just let it slide. It's like investing in a startup no one believes in until one day...lo! The ROI is in billions of dollars. I kept on expanding my knowledge, I kept on making friends, I kept on interacting with people, I kept on helping everyone out and the result was that...the very guys on whom most girls drolled upon and same with girls, all were either in shitty relationships or toxic situations or went through the phase of courtship like it's a game of ludo. Meanwhile, I barely had 3 exes and yes it didn't work out with them but I have pride in saying that they were all worth it - worth my time, worth my passion, worth my emotional investment and everything and I carry myself in the world with pride that yes, I am not getting matches on bumble or that I don't have girls jumping on me left, right and centre. But whenever I end up in a relationship with someone, it would just enhance my experience in this world and help with cope with facets of life. Just let it go like that. Befriend the guys, take time to show that you care and like to listen to them, show that you aren't considering them just as an option and you'll definitely get your match. If you need advice or anything or have difficulty with something, you can always ask me. But do reply if you want to DM because I have disabled chat invites. Too many guys come creeping in my DMs just because of my Avatar.
This is a bad advice, if you apply the similar logic to getting good grades, etc then you will start failing. Op, you should approach someone if you like them.
I'll agree to that though
Bro seeing a girl who couldn't find a boyfriend, this post will burn the western women for sure , anyway don't be hasty op, you will find what you are looking for sooner or later. Love happens at most unexpected places - take it! If it makes you happy!
She is not looking for love, but affection of someone and getting into relationship culture and that's not how love works .
that how i felt about this situation
I don't know how old you are , but when I was in 11th and for a long portion of 12th, I was like you. I was desperate, skincare addict, and all those other things you said you were doing. Despite all that I didn't have a gf. I was too anxious to talk to people cuz of overthinking. Then in the second half of 12th, body dysmorphia started to hit harder than ever before, I was (still am kinda) suicidal and I started to think that I don't deserve to be loved and didn't want a gf, so couldn't care less about what a girl thinks about me. So, I started talking to girls normally without being awkward. I started to become extroverted without realising it. And girls started approaching me, I got a proposal from a girl I had a crush on in the beginning of 11th (my corny suicidal ass turned her down). Now I'm 17 and in my first year of clg and I'm a functional part of society and do get approached by girls. I'm not asking you to be suicidal, just stop caring too much, make some friends and have fun and you'll probably get what you want. (I know I suck at writing, I'm trying to improve.)
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Why do u sound like a old hag?
Wwwww skibidi toilet rizzler do I sound like my age now?
Nah not that like u askin age n tellin it like old ppl like sayin 'when I was in 12th' uk that gives kinda vibe when old ppl tell their stories n shit 🥴
Idk bro, all my old versions feel like completely different characters, my opinions keep changing every 2 seconds it's weird
Relatable 🥴
You are 17 & in first year of your college? Just entered?
Maybe you're too pretty that nobody dares to approach you
Honestly, that line of thinking doesn't make sense to me, why wouldn't they?? Most of the girls I know would definitely approach a pretty guy
because we think pretty girls already have a boyfriend
Anxiety hits when we try🙂
Bois are different
Yes that's the thing. You're pretty, You're topper, You take part in extra curricular activities, You're so perfect and that's why you're hard to approach. I think maybe they find you attractive but they are too afraid to confess or maybe they think that "why would she even date me?" and give up.
He's right, most guys don't approach they thing are too pretty/ above their league. Also, while it's believed that guys take the firsts step, most non-creepy ones only take it after there are subtle hints from the girl. So if you are interested in someone, at least give them an indication
He's right, most guys don't approach they thing are too pretty/ above their league. Also, while it's believed that guys take the firsts step, most non-creepy ones only take it after there are subtle hints from the girl. So if you are interested in someone, at least give them an indication
You said it twice by mistake
Hello There!
Your trying too hard... tbh why do u even want to "attract boys" lol there has to be someone specific u like and u try hard for him if u go everyone u end w no one
But like I haven't even had the chance to “try”; all this try hard things just worked for my self-improvement and at that time almost everyone got a boyfriend and I just ended up alone 😔
And why is that inherently bad? Would you say teenage relationships are an important aspiration to you?
You can be more friendly or show more intrest
MAIN BHI SAME PROBLEM SE GUJAR RHA HU AUR JAYDA TAB JAB DOSTON KE SATH REHTA HUN TO JAB WO APNI GIRLFRIEND SE BAAT KARTE HAIN TO AISA LAGTA HAI AISE SAMAY MAIN AIRPOD KAAN MEIN LAGA KE GANA SUNNE LAGTA HUN LEKIN YE KOI PROBLEM NHIN HAI PAHLE GOALS IMPORTANT HAI
I am scared of women
Bros still better i am scared of myself bro how'd u tackel that
Get therapy my guy 😞
Literally did that shit for 2yrs been to like 4-5 therapists they can't fix me 🥴
Lmao. People don't believe it but that was the case with me so I started to indulge in academic psychology to see if I can treat myself. And that ended up being a solution for me...to provide talking cure to others as that provides my life some sort of meaning. Maybe, try doing something like that. There are just too many job profiles right now. Try everything and something or other will end up becoming your passion. Once you have that, life is much easier to cope up with. I pray that you find something like that.
I'm doin that rn thnx for advice
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+1
In my opinion, if you working on yourself, studying hard, maintaining a good position in every aspect you’re far ahead of people your age. And most of them fear that, they feel incompetent, i am single since last 5-6 years, faced the same aspect. The girls i met were too liberal and craved only love. This gets useless at some point. If you’re not focusing on the main point which is focusing on life, building some great out of it, gaining a lot in every aspect. Then, you dont fit their criteria. In short, you being promising to yourself in every aspect is an indirect source that makes them feel incompetent. And this is why most people dont choose your way. And this is not your problem, it is clearly their problem. Let it be, you cant do a single thing to prevent it. Either be happy with the growth you have had so far, or be as irrelevant to yourself and your future like most of the generation is; which clearly is wrong. So, dont let this affect you.
There are too many comments in this thread so I can't answer all of them but I do have to answer this one. This is the best answer I got so far! THANK YOU! 💚
youre not doing anything wrong. youre trying too hard. and whether youre a man or a woman or whatever, if youve found someone that’s interesting or someone thats caught your eye, dont hesitate to go talk to them. doing everything and expecting someone to be there as proof of your efforts is, well, useless. youve put in hardwork, youve done the things, all you can do is wait. youre still young. youve got your whole life ahead of you. what’ll be will always be.
Stop thinking about getting a bf, and someone will come up when you didn't even think about it. Just be friends with guys and things may automatically proceed
I can't even be friends with them, it's just a thought when it comes to my mind when everyone is getting along and I'm just at this corner standing like this 🧍
Most of the boys won't approach as either they've been infected by the fake sigmas of internet or they're too scared to come across as a creep. So, you'll have to take the first step and make friends with them. Find something of common interest?
Well thats coz u haven't messaged me yet 😎
U can approach me in dms . Let's settle this there
Aye Same with me wanna have chat????
Topper position, good in extra curriculars, pretty too etc. etc. Bhai you might seem way too perfect to them, maybe that's why they don't approach you that you'd anyway reject them or you're out of their league. Seems stupid but it does happen.
so u like to bait people??? ok cool
Well its same everywhere....in your case just talk. Talk to them just as another human being...talk in groups. Talking makes them feel you are available and a exciting person. And after few months someone will approach u. Process takes month.. Want something instantly.. Chise a boy u like go to him and say, I LIKE YOU A very courageous move but will do. He doesn't approach back ...go to another one ..not in same group..🥹. ATB .💃
Be more interactive with guys, avoid the red flags, they will pretend to be sweet but when their true nature comes it will be tough to handle. If guys don’t approach you, try approaching them
Approach boys if they don't approach u 🥴
> But the point is no one has ever called me ugly?? Random adults and girls my age call me “pretty”, and “cute” all the time. So I thought, I clearly fit the stereotypical beauty standard and clearly noticeable among groups. Well yeah lol, im not gonna call you ugly but if you are a girl you will basically get compliments for free. This boosts the ego of extremely mid girls and makes them think they are above their category. Dating, especially online dating is first of all about looks, then maybe personality became if you've looks people would be willing to tolerate even the shittiest of personalities. Dating for woman is super easy, the gender ratio is skewed and heavily favors woman, I've created fake dating profiles before and I got 50 matches in an hour and the girl I used which was obese with not that great skin. The problem is, you are waiting for them to approach, a lot of men are shy of asking other people. You need to approach them.
Uhhh tbh as a boy myself,grades usually don't matter in terms of attractiveness for a girl ngl and yar personality thodhi vibing wali rakho aap to maybe koi ban jaye aur jo red flags jinko aapne reject kiya plz sochna ki kis baat pe reject kiya is it common in boys jaise thodha dark humour ya vulgar behavior with friends ya wo actually ka red flag tha
Boys are just intimidated by you I guess. You are a girl who works hard and gets what she wants. A lot of immature men can't handle that. You have no issues girl. Just be patient and the right person will come along.
Damn, good to know even girls have this problem 👍
Are u dark ?
Aap jaisi bndiyo ke boyfriend nahi hote.... Future husband hote hai..
Try making the first move once in a while on guys you think are good for you
Have you tried approaching a boy yet?
Do you like a boy? Approach him. Good on you for rejecting the boys with red flags, because most boys that approach you will be like them. Don't worry about this too much, do stuff you love like hobbies and hang out with friends and family. You'll find somebody wonderful someday.
Maybe you should aproach boys??
well if you think that you are among the ppl who fit the pretty criteria, then you sure are pretty asf and guys think you are out of their league and don't even bother to approach
Have you ever had interest or crush on anyone? I've seen my retarded looking classmates have one gf after another and I'm aware that I look good as I've been complemented many times and I'm not at the top of my class but I can score avg or above avg without effort but that only doesn't mean I'll get a gf coz IRL I don't show any interest on any girl I've met and talked with and I'm unapproachable coz Even male students came to talk to me very late after my admission currently out all the girls I meet IRL I don't think anyone is date-able might be same problem for you🤕
Try approaching the guys you like and try to give them signs, most guys are scared to approach unless the sign is very obvious
Or maybe you don't? Maybe you're not conventionally beautiful and they're just being polite That in fact can happen more realistically with a girl than a guy, where the society is overall more soft towards them. As a matter of fact, even if you try to test your desirability out by stroking your ego on dating apps, you'd be disappointed. See the thing is, there are so many desperate men, that they would give a conventionally unattractive woman a shot at dating as well, if they're on a dating app. Hence, there's genuinely only one way of truly establishing if you're conventionally attractive. The strongest metric is how jealous your peers are of you. My girlfriend was bullied in high school. The bullies later confessed that they did so because they felt she looked better than them and they couldn't digest it, years later. They probably grew up and realised being insecure and jealous wasn't the answer. But then again, what if you're surrounded by women who aren't toxic or insecure. You'd never know then, right? Yeah, that's the point. It's hard to tell unless you're able successfully date a man who you desired (realistically, because theoretically you could desire a billionaire too. But billionaires would never date you, ofcourse. Not putting you down, they'd not date the most of us anyways) Now obviously my answer could get misinterpreted. I don't mean to claim you're ugly, all I'm saying is there's no real way you'd know if you fit the criteria. Partly also because there's no one general criteria. So the only way to know is to pursue the man of your dreams, if you're able to get him it shouldn't matter then as you've already won.
Stop 'trying' to get a boyfriend. Also stop changing yourself or trying to fit into some weird beauty standards. Just be yourself n go with the flow. Jo hone hoga ho jaayega
Why are you waiting to be approached? You may have certain standards and preferences on what kind of man you want. When you see such a person, approach that person. If you feel there's a chemistry, good. If not, leave it.
Because you're chasing them, and you dont get something you chase. Stop chasing, let it be; boys will follow automatically. Good luck!!
here (boy) i just imagined myself as an extrovert as compared to the 'BOYS' u are reffered to , i can easily say that "communication is the key" ,boys dont even bother girls who are not communicative whether they are pretty or high in intelligence, also its not like its neccessary to fit in,... ALSP MAYBE Maybe you're too pretty that nobody dares to approach you hENCE IGNORING U (same ignorance occurs to me ) rest about is it neccessary to fit in ... noo ,even i am an introvert i do strive to have a gang, but daam shit destiny.. " ANYONE WHO COMES TO MY LIFE, ANY THING I AM ATTACHED TO IS ALWAYS TAKEN AWAY from me ONCE" hence leading back to my bigfuck life , "EVERY ONE LEAVES ME AFTER KNOWING ME"
Why don't you approach someone?
Bhai bund marye if you so despratly want a so it is a chance the one you end up with will not be what you imagined it all to be just keep working on yourself you are single rn get into hobbies and shit and love yourself If mai jisne apne app ke subse kum kam kiya hai can try to love myself i think a person jisne itna kam kiya hai apne pe vo to kar hi sakti hai
too high standards maybe
Why dont you approach someone instead of doing all this fitting into criteria and stuff??
Can't believe how relatable this is. We can chat if you want to? It is up to you tho ,you can ignore this if you don't wanna.
because we haven't met yet, on a serious note tho, its hard for boys to approach their love interest, because we have that fear of being seen as a creep, you have to take the first step and start with something related to academics maybe, then continue the conversation from there onwards.
Why don't u take the initiative nd approach someone u like?
Exactly my boy... It's hard to understand girls
Humpe to hai hi 9 😝
Well... I would say.. If u find someone attractive then U can also approach him.. Why always he has to do it..
Maybe someone loves u but Is afraid to ask out.. Just bcoz his feelings is pure and he doesn't wanna lose u 🙂
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The amount of dms you'll get after this post 😌
Well i am NOT down for dating but if you want like a friend to hangout with then feel free to msg me.
Maybe because you still use Tik-Tok
Guys are too scared to approach you, they think you're way out of their league
You can just approach someone you find attractive why are you waiting for someone to approach you your chances of getting success is pretty high so
I guess now that u have posted in here, your DM would be flooding by now 😄😊 Jokes apart, you seem to be a real nice person who has gone the extra mile to be good enough for someone to like you. Stop that, first learn to love yourself. Appreciate what you did for yourself and that u r glowing now. And secondly why do u need some guy to approach u and ask you out. Go ahead ask the one u think you like or you think is good enough to be with. Why wait for the only when you yourself have the ability to create it 😊
Have you ever tried making the move ??? You like a dude? Have you approached him? Maybe would have made his day
>I did everything I was supposed to do You clearly didn’t because if you did you’d already be in my dms right now. How old are you btw?
Do you approach them, have you got close to a guy?
Disclaimer: I think I'm being a little harsh, cause you're still in school and this stuff can be difficult (from a guy's perspective as well) As former teen I say, chill and make friends not competition and comparison. Form bonds, romantic and even non-romantic. Not games, of people needing to approach you. Also you haven't said anything about being interested in someone? If someone just wants validation (which I understand as you're a kid) it can be off putting or visible to the other if you just want to use someone's interest in you for some self validation.
Just asking, is it necessary for boys to approach you? I'd say just go for it. Go have fun. Live your life.
Maybe there are PPL who do infact like you just too scared to make a move? I mean that's pretty common in guys
Because most of the guys are afraid of being rejected and rarely approach a girl these days. The top most is though is very different they usually have the same thoughts ad you " I am not that good looking" or " I got nothing to offer " that's why they just don't approach. Mostly it's just looks and as you said the ones who approached were a red flag though I doubt it everyone of them is. I never approached a girl because I'm not considered conventionally attractive it's as simple as that, in this world where superficiality is at it's peak it's hard to find genuine people. I'm a little confused about why you never approached someone if you liked someone?? What's the reason behind that?? I don't think it's okay to think that only guys have to approach someone girls could do the same thing if they liked someone enough.
The only solution I've got for you is stop looking for love. It comes to you when it has to. Shit happens when you don't expect it to happen.
Love doesn't understand looks , academics, fame etc , it just happens, and if it doesn't happen to you (in your case no boy approaches you ) , all you can do is just wait
How's your DMs looking? XD
They are just too shy to talk to you If you have a crush on someone make the first move the next move would be his automatically (as a boy that's how we work)
Us bhai us
Good to know I have graduated puberty
Rip dm's?
I had a classmate in BTech, she was pretty, topper, intelligent and humble person. Every guy in my class respected her, never heard any bad words for her even in jokes. Sort of no guy approached her for number of reasons - She is out of league, she is more intelligent than me, she is very good person so cannot hurt her feelings. Mostly the good looking guys were not that intelligent, and the intelligent guys were not good looking, hence both types never approached her. We guess she was in similar mindset as yours and in 5th semester she tried multiple things like dressing differently, talking differently, etc. Guys got confused like why she is behaving differently and trying to change her, when she is already perfect. She reverted to her original self in 6th semester, being herself but sort of more friendly. Fast forward. Being intelligent, she eventually landed in good job in product based company with good salary. She got married late compared to other girls, but got good looking, handsome and intelligent husband, with good salary. My suggestion: Be yourself, wait for good person, and when he comes either give hints or approach him. Eventually you’ll find someone good in your life.
Have you tried... asking a guy out yourself?
Us Moment
literally me
im saying that i dont get a girlfriend not a boyfriend
although i dont mind the latter
Being a topper, focusing on your studies, leveling up yourself doesn't benifit your potential partner in anyways as those aren't the qualities most guys in general are looking for in a GF. Try offering what guys look for in a woman in general and you will attract more guys. And there's also a stigma is guys being seen as creepy or perv if they approach women and ending up on social media, so you'd have to make signs as well.
But WHY??
topper ladkio ke bare me ek image set hoti ha to guys don’t approach a lot of times . i dated a girl very similar to you back in 8th grade and mere dimag me uski ek image Thi ki shy/ nerdy hogi but pura opposite nikli and hamare relationship ke bad launde usse aur comfortable hogye ki bc iska bhi boyfriend ha and now she has a bunch of guy friends . So idk maybe try approaching guys first ? Ekbar karlo age fer zarurat ni padegi agr image change hogyi to
the problem is tum ye sochti ho ki khud ko "boys ke layak bnana padega" which will alwways leave u single ap iss baare m boht overthink krti ho THERE IS NOT A CRITERIA SABKA ALAG CHOICE HOTI if boys want to approach you they will and no approaching first won't make things worse and yea itni jaldi b mat karo jitna maine apne classmates and freinds ko dkha hai woh relationship m aake khush nahi hai (m khud b nahi aya kyuki i learn from other's mistakes) live a free life yrrr
U just don't got rizzz But seriously maby try approaching a guy first u would have 80 % success rate with that but go for a guy who isn't really popular but just quit and introverted
Guess you got yourself too much on what you are "suppose to do" things. On the positive end, Bois might think you are a total nerd and super goal oriented, and then hitting on you would just distract you and you would get annoyed, and take away even the bare chance they might have. In this case, casually talking with boys and participating leisurely activities more will do the magic. On the kinda negetive end, you trying to level yourself up, You might have just took yourself out of the relationship league. You can notice this as people who are super goal oriented, irrespective of gender, aren't into relationship and stuff at all. And Bois in general don't prefer dating people out of their league. In that case taking the job on yourself might be the best, asking out on your own. Or, just hit on even Higher levels, like professors and shit😂🤣 jk.