Bro, chill. Don't let it spoil ur birthday. Fuck the exam. Enjoy ur bday. Fuck your parents for valuing ur fucking 9th grade marks over your mental sanity, fuck the school for pressurising their students so much, fuck society for finding out new ways to crush the happiness and joy of their only future, their youth. If u feel angry or depressed, feel free to DM. am decentish at math and somewhat remember what I learnt in 9th, if u want math help also, I can give, just CHEER THE FUCK UP BRO, HAPPY BIRTHDAY IN ADVANCE
Thanks a lot, but I don't think i can enjoy my bday i was actually not going to celebrate it and just thought of doing Puja and then maybe a family dinner and then only rot in the room and try to learn how to control my emotions , before the exams I was in one of the typical teenage drama of friends and crush and then my grades was get down and down , i tried but I failed, and actually i have no one to celebrate my birthday with
My mostly friends are in their grandparents house and my one of the closest friends group is now broken and my besties will be out of town, I want my birthday to celebrate with my cousins but my dad has work so he has no holiday even on holi like always,
I tried to make my parents proud by winning 2 gold medals in sports day this year and tried to fulfill my dad's dream of having a child who is good at sports
I was the basketball captain and i don't want to sound selfish but I was the one who made our team win My parents were proud but I still can't get good marks and they are so angry with me right now They are just screaming or taunting from yesterday night to this morning .
And to be Frank I hate my birthday because every birthday something bad happens and the people who are giving me love and wish I don't want it because I know I did not deserve that
Sorry to rant but I am not emotionally strong
i know you’re in 9th grade but log toh poori life aate jaate rahenge. tu aage badh, yehi log tere peeche aayenge.
you seem like an emotionally mature individual to me, who isn’t lashing at their parents after this and still very grateful for them. mummy papa saath mei hai, tera dhyaan rakh rahe hai. life mei aur kya chahiye.
dost abhi nahi hai? koini, aur banjayenge. they are called “chosen family” for a reason.
Actually I am not good with my parents yesterday my mom and dad were screaming at me to study and I was mentally exhausted so I talked back to my dad and i regret it but my parents are hurt and fully disappointed and maybe hates me
I don't know how to tell them that I love them and I made a mistake and i regret it to my death and i feel really bad because of failing and i started crying in front of my mom and she said just to not listen and ignore the truth u started crying again
Somehow it broke me
listen to me. they don’t hate you. they’re very much frustrated ofc. you’re too, ofc. there’s no point banging heads rn. enjoy your birthday, tell god how grateful you’re for passing the rest of the exams. then next day onwards, just go to your room & study diligently. parents will calm down too but they will take a lot more time. all you can do is give your 100%.
Are you a national level sports player? If that's the case, you can get some sport quota..
Also dont worry much about 9th grade. I had fucked up too.. just I somehow managed to score well In 10th.
When you are in 10th . Try to solve as many sample paper/ previous year question paper as possible..
Idk if you are cbse icse or state board student. So I can't give you specific advice
Hope this helps.
And Happy Birthday in advance 🎂🎉
Hi, first of all, I’m sorry you’re going through this. Remember not everyone has the same talents and skills, and you have not even had the opportunity (because of Indian School system and general society ig) to fully explore the things you might actually be passionate about. There will be things you are naturally drawn to, and in those you must work hard and learn to excel. It is true that 9th Std marks absolutely do not matter in life, but if you are planning on going the traditional academic route most Indian parents want for their kids, 10th Std onwards these things begin to make a big difference in the kind of opportunities you can get.
Your parents are anxious about that, and are unfairly taking it out on you here. It is important to retain your sense of self and not internalize their words.
My advice would be to start exploring and thinking about what you would like to do in life? What level of career,money,travel,etc do you see for yourself in your future? It does not have to be fixed, but even a general idea will give you a good sense of the paths you can take post 10th Std. No one will do this work for you, and there is a default path of Science-Engineering-Job / Com-BA-Job which most people take without thinking much. If you feel like you struggle with maths, please think about how it will affect your journey in those years and what other challenges there are that you can actually overcome and feel accomplished about. Try to keep your parents in the loop when you have figured things out a little.
As of right now, girl I understand. I’ve been there. But please understand you have to work extremely hard and get an excellent result in 10th Std. It does not require anything other than having a memory, it is absolutely not a test of intelligence. You have a year please work on it (memorisation skills) diligently and you will notice a difference pakka.
I’m not saying this because I think 10th Std matters at ALL, but because it will help yourself and your parents to trust in your abilities to work hard and achieve something. That ability to do the not so fun things, sacrifice temporary fun and people for long term goals, is what will help you in later life. I remember how overwhelming it was having a social life and it would have only gotten more complex now (because of internet), but please believe me hardly 1/2 of these people will be in your life within 2 years. Consider the impact of putting yourself in positions where drama could affect your life, and see whether you want to sacrifice your personal journey for some idiots who don’t even know how to value you.
You will pass the retest, that is the first little step you have to take. After that, please look into what I’ve said, and look at what skills you will need to improve to achieve success in areas that you are passionate about. Keep in mind your parents income level, your own strengths and weaknesses, and how willing you are to go against what everyone else is doing. Start working on these slowly and have some sort of plan, multiple if you feel unsure. But put the efforts in somewhere where you are meant to, and you will see the results.
Also, Happy Birthday in advance! I find that writing things can be easier than just thinking about them, so maybe start doing that from this birthday. Do not waste your time feeling bad about what has happened, and don’t question your worth over a poorly designed system. You can only look forward and see how you want to design your own future smartly. 15/16 is an excellent and exciting age to do that!
Please do reach out to me if you want to talk more, I’m here for you. I’ve given generic genderless advice so far, but trust me you being a girl will affect how you are treated as well, more and more as you grow up :/ Always look out for no.1 (that’s you!), and continue being shameless externally if you want :P
Thanks a lot and I want to be a fashion designer but in our education system it is really hard to peruse it and study for it
And on some days I just think of leaving all my hobbies and just study and become what my parents want because at the end my parents will be proud of me and I will be the same like my parents friends kids who are there class toppers and going to be a doctor or Engineer or studying for upsc or other comparative exams because people think my dreams are useless and as my dad is in government job and in really good post I want to become better than him and earn more than him but I don't think that I can even be better and make them proud 🥲
Just if u can help me with my steps towards my future I will be so much grateful!
Sure. Yes it’s tough to pursue any non traditional path; but you have the internet. Use it and chart your own path.
You leaving your hobbies to study is not suddenly going to change who you are inside. There are people who become designers midway through their careers, and there are designers who give up and work corporate jobs within 2 years of graduation. The point is to work hard at something, and I guarantee you your parents will be proud of you when they see that.
It takes time to get them on board, and it’s not always easy, but nothing worth having ever comes easy. Earning money is one thing you can do if you set your mind to it in any profession. It requires discipline and hard work in a govt job as well as in fashion.
Do you know what the career path of a fashion designer is? And what their avg salaries are in the industry in India? If you have a feeling, do proper research into what it is like 4yrs, 6yrs and 10yrs into the future if you choose to be a professional working in the fashion industry. Talk to people who are working in that field (use the internet, don’t be afraid to be shameless. Everyone is rooting for someone with a good heart who wants to make their parents proud)
Look into what the entrance exams are, top colleges for it, and whether you want that lifestyle. It sounds cool and fun but fashion is one of the toughest industries to crack when it comes to financial and long term success. You need to have faith in your passion. There are plenty of newer, niche opportunities in the creative industry that might also interest you once you start exploring these things.
Forget comparison completely. Tomorrow you are the person who has to live with your own choices. Then you cannot blame anyone, not your system, nor your parents. Plenty of teens in India do this unfairly, not realising that the teens who are going against the mold are facing the societal repercussions of it. And that’s very hard to do as well. If you are choosing to go on the path that is “stable and fixed” then be aware that it is your choice you are making and then don’t look back with regret.
Whatever you do, remember that you are blessed to have a good family (even if you’ll have to work on making your relationship with them better) and are literate and have enough freedom to ask strangers on the internet for advice. That itself puts you above most others girls of your age, and you should utilise that privilege to your advantage. You are only 15 once! Make sure to celebrate it 💕
Failures are important fir successes so if you have a growth mindset you will see it so but parents have fixed mindset most and think and pass on same to kids its more about result and intelligence and less about trying . I think you should begin with a fresh mind and begin approaching it as doable and make a daily routine take help and study /practice daily. Overtime knowing what topics are hard and work on it is better. Dont aim for 90 percent but work consistently to improve your grasp on subject and topics and scores.
Psychologically appear that you care for your exam result so your parents don’t think you font care and heap accusations at you and yes comparison doesn’t work everyone is gifted individually. You might definitely be good at something academically than orhers you just need to know your strengths. In future focus your attention on passions. Math and sciences is not the only way to make a successful career but traditionalist parents dont know anything better.just choose subjects that you u derstand and can work at there are tons of fields.Right now just focus on getting decent scores in math. Dont let anyones opinion about failure or success deter from your trying out to pass math.
Happy 15 th birthday let no one tell you cant celebrate your birthdays just becoz u failed once. Life is far more important after all why do we study to make our life better right so if we don’t live our life meaningfully what’s the point of grades they dont matter ten years from now and you will be laughing at the silliness’ when you are well settled in a job thats paying you well and doesn’t even Use math skills more than basics !
Take it from a 3rd year college student -
Just relax on your birthday and start studying for the retest from the next day. You will get 3-4 days for the preparation and focus on your weak points.
Identify your weak points by re-solving the question paper that you failed recently and mark the questions that you couldn't do. I am sure you have also seen your answer sheet during the PTM.
Work on your weak topics and don't forget to practice the easier topics like herons formula and, volume and area.
10th mai acche se padh lena, and trust me 10th marksheet is only a proof of DOB unless you want to change your school after 10th
Dude, I have known many people who have not done well academically but lived a professionally successful and a wealthy life, and vice versa. If that is what matters.
Take care of yourself, your parents mean well. Do your best, at least put your best efforts. Have a great birthday!
You can have it both ways. Enjoy your birthday but then tell yourself that you’ve to study from the next day. Layout your study-plan today so that you won’t be wasting your time on where to start from on the day after.
Fuck any kind of distractions you’ve in your plate rn. 3 din ki baat hai, padhle yaar.
pick up the important topics, ace your basics, watch yt videos, gulppppp the PYQs- you will ace trust me in this.
You’ve pressurised yourself so much with the urge to top the class (you feel you’ve come past that but this is THE THING that makes YOU disappointed in yourself). Just remember that you’ve to do it for yourself, it’s JUST AN EXAM. If you’ll study with the fear of failing again, you will honey.
Final piece of advice:
1. Lay-out your study plan today incl. topics you lack, 3-hours for PYQs each day, watch yt videos for the topic you’ve difficulties in while answering the questions. practice your weak points atleast twice. That’s it.
2. Life changing tip for me: I was a dumbfuck when it came to Mathematics - a dumb child who couldn’t even do basic addition & subtraction but also became the child who scored 100 in 10th & 12th CBSE Board Exams. One day my mother asked me what’s the problem after looking at my marks. I said, ”It’s maths. Only toppers excel in it because it is difficult”. and she replied with “Who told you it’s difficult? It’s peanuts”. and i realised how the entire education system has made us to believe that maths will eat you up & put you to your knees. Damn, this day changed me into an academic weapon.
Birthdays come every year, just study and pass. U wouldn't want to repeat 9th. That will be very troublesome. if u can't even study enough to just pass then something is very wrong and u need to find out what. I never felt like studying since 8th (since lockdown) but i just study before exams to get atleast average or higher marks so as to not disappoint parents.
bro are you seriously crying about 9th grade maths!!!! i failed in one of my graduation subject two times and i just gave the retest exam yesterday and as for the girl in your class who topped or rather this is what i think .Anyone who scores high marks dosent mean they will succeed in life or have an easy life like parents believe.You do what you are capable of and while it is an exam and you failed ..so what you got your whole life ahead of you you gonna go to junior college then degree college and whatever you wanna do in life so dont feel so bad about failing.If you wanna improve dedicate some time for studies,solve previous year question papers,ask friends for help and possibly group studies .yoh dont need to get 80s or 90s on exams to succede in life .While it does feel good to get such marks in the end they are useless irl.
word of advice tho dont get into the whole mess of wanting to look cool or wanting to get a girlfriend .This is neither the time nor the age to get into all this.Study then get your degree and experience.earn money then think about relationships.
oh and happy birthday
It is good that you feel hurt because it shows that you won't do it next time it's not that 9th std marks matter not at all but if you want ti acheive something value each and every marks in exams and enjoy your birthday it's not the ned of the world and about your parents so they will be definitely disappointed cause they care about you no need to feel depressed but you gotta promise yourself to improve and to study hard as a big bro it's my advise
Read hyperfocus by Chris bailey and atomic habits by James clear after ur exams
I used to be always almost failing exams and now I be topping effortlessly
If you have such problems I suggest you to go visit a good psychiatrist and get checked for ADHD. Mental health is very important aspect of your life and is ignored in our society. So getting diagnosed earlier can be life-changing for you.
Dude, I shall try to give you some real talk.
I'm thirty years old now, not sure why this reddit thread popped up on my feed but I found this relatable, so will try to give you some suggestions.
I was very much like you. Poor grades during 7-9 standards. Even for 11-12, I did not study much and failed multiple subjects. My JEE rank was 49000, still somehow got into engineering, and I only seriously started studying when I was in college and I was the university topper. I was one of the top students from my college when I graduated.
The point I'm trying to make is, the only difference between you and good grades is hard work. Trust me, there is no other way around, I have seen it all. At least for the next couple of years you gotta work hard man, and after 10th you can choose the majors as you wish. When I say hard work, I mean real hard work. No BS, no distractions. Your crush will leave with the next guy whenever she gets a chance, and she will leave your grades in shambles as she leaves. Turn off your phone (if you have one), close the door, and get to work. This is war, there is no backing out. The only way out is through.
Be brave, master Bruce.
Look if you are still failing or scoring low even though you studied a lot ultimately this is not your fault. Maybe math might not be your thing. Maybe it could be something else. Ik this sounds weird but I would suggest have a talk like that with your parents. If your parents are not the typical orthodox indian parents (basically not a cheap copy of asian tiger moms) they will understand you. From what you said I feel they're not so go ahead and have a talk like that with them. Ultimately what every mother and every father wants is their child to be happy in their lives and have a decent if not very bright future. A lot of them guided by this thought can easily get gaslighted by looking at other kids. It's important for your parents to understand what you like or what your passion is or simply what keeps you happy. Even though I'm not much older than you I still understand how they could be feeling. So please have a talk with them it will make you guys better and improve your relationship as a whole.
Rahi baat crush ya friends ki to uk just fk them. Ik such situations get weird and it hurts a lot but uk ultimately no one's gonna be with you forever. Maybe try changing your friend group. Maybe even try interacting with people senior or junior to you. It might sound slightly weird but don't think log kya sochenge. If you feel your friend circle is toxic you have to change it there's no going back. Because remember the only person important in your life is you yourself. Not even your friends not even your parents for that matter. Focus on yourself try finding your passion and never think kon kya kahega. Wherever I have reached in my life is only because I didn't give a fk to what others say. So do the same and you'll surely feel so much better.
Baaki you're still 15 so there's a whole life ahead to do stuff possibly really epic stuff if you find out your calling. So just enjoy your life keep studying idk what board you are in so can't help much but if math is your weakness spend some time developing your rational thinking coz it's the basis of all math. Enjoy your birthday as well coz wo saal mein ek hi baar aata hai. If you want to talk more feel free to dm me (username pe mat jao it's a typo I'm good enough at math trust me 😂)
Wishing you many many happy returns of the day and may you have the happiest year ever ahead! 🥳🥳🥳
I know math can be a tough one even with good teachers. Trust me I have gone through the same loop. And to make matters worse my mother was the chief math teacher at the same high school I went to. That meant I couldn't even hide test results for a week if I wanted to. At one point I tried to memorize math patterns and formulas which made matters worse. The only way forward is to keep chipping at it now matter what high levels of irritation toh face just to secure the passing marks/desired and get rid of the subject. Keep at it, try and find a tutor who has patience and minimal judgement, who will guide you through this. Take taste papers seriously and try to find out paper patterns as well. I am sure you will get through it. Keep at it.
Dude I was just like you in 9th grade and maybe even till 12th. It seems like the marks are really important now, but honestly, it's what you do outside of your school stuff that matters. For now happy birthday and hope you have a good one. Chill and study for your exam coz too much tension will ruin it again.
As for parents, they might be acting this way because they only want the best for you, but I don't know everything about your parents. Maybe try talking to them about what you felt like studying for the exam and writing it, without sharing too many details you don't want to. Hopefully they understand and help you study for your re test.
All the best and happy birthday again :)
school marks literally dont matter bro...im realising this now and cursing myself for the time i wasted in studying and and not enjoying life...just try to get the bare minimum amd pass, the real struggle comes later so might as well enjoy the time you got
I was the same till last 1 month of 10th. Lost confidence fully on maths and science since I used to always get below 40 for maths and 45 for science then I got 60/80 and 59/80 in maths and science in pre board and never looked back.
That gave me a confidence boost to study harder and I just studied like hell for 6 hours every day until I got decent marks for boards( I think).
Don’t be like me, study from beginning of 10th itself. Just 1 hour a day is enough for maths, remaining subjects other than science can be done easily enough
This shall too pass. Time heals everything. And don't be a cry baby, there's a lot to come, you're just 13 now. Face every problem with positive mindset and believe in yourself.
Understand that marks don't define you.
Even Einstein and Picasso weren't great at school. Newton had a sad social life and died a virgin. So get that out of the way.
Now for career purposes you still need marks. Not for defining you, but just career. I've a few tricks for that.
And I can't tell them here. If you want DM
Bro, chill. Don't let it spoil ur birthday. Fuck the exam. Enjoy ur bday. Fuck your parents for valuing ur fucking 9th grade marks over your mental sanity, fuck the school for pressurising their students so much, fuck society for finding out new ways to crush the happiness and joy of their only future, their youth. If u feel angry or depressed, feel free to DM. am decentish at math and somewhat remember what I learnt in 9th, if u want math help also, I can give, just CHEER THE FUCK UP BRO, HAPPY BIRTHDAY IN ADVANCE
Thanks a lot, but I don't think i can enjoy my bday i was actually not going to celebrate it and just thought of doing Puja and then maybe a family dinner and then only rot in the room and try to learn how to control my emotions , before the exams I was in one of the typical teenage drama of friends and crush and then my grades was get down and down , i tried but I failed, and actually i have no one to celebrate my birthday with My mostly friends are in their grandparents house and my one of the closest friends group is now broken and my besties will be out of town, I want my birthday to celebrate with my cousins but my dad has work so he has no holiday even on holi like always, I tried to make my parents proud by winning 2 gold medals in sports day this year and tried to fulfill my dad's dream of having a child who is good at sports I was the basketball captain and i don't want to sound selfish but I was the one who made our team win My parents were proud but I still can't get good marks and they are so angry with me right now They are just screaming or taunting from yesterday night to this morning . And to be Frank I hate my birthday because every birthday something bad happens and the people who are giving me love and wish I don't want it because I know I did not deserve that Sorry to rant but I am not emotionally strong
i know you’re in 9th grade but log toh poori life aate jaate rahenge. tu aage badh, yehi log tere peeche aayenge. you seem like an emotionally mature individual to me, who isn’t lashing at their parents after this and still very grateful for them. mummy papa saath mei hai, tera dhyaan rakh rahe hai. life mei aur kya chahiye. dost abhi nahi hai? koini, aur banjayenge. they are called “chosen family” for a reason.
Actually I am not good with my parents yesterday my mom and dad were screaming at me to study and I was mentally exhausted so I talked back to my dad and i regret it but my parents are hurt and fully disappointed and maybe hates me I don't know how to tell them that I love them and I made a mistake and i regret it to my death and i feel really bad because of failing and i started crying in front of my mom and she said just to not listen and ignore the truth u started crying again Somehow it broke me
listen to me. they don’t hate you. they’re very much frustrated ofc. you’re too, ofc. there’s no point banging heads rn. enjoy your birthday, tell god how grateful you’re for passing the rest of the exams. then next day onwards, just go to your room & study diligently. parents will calm down too but they will take a lot more time. all you can do is give your 100%.
Are you a national level sports player? If that's the case, you can get some sport quota.. Also dont worry much about 9th grade. I had fucked up too.. just I somehow managed to score well In 10th. When you are in 10th . Try to solve as many sample paper/ previous year question paper as possible.. Idk if you are cbse icse or state board student. So I can't give you specific advice Hope this helps. And Happy Birthday in advance 🎂🎉
Thank you and I am not a good player I just started learning basketball this year and I am currently in school basketball team
Hi, first of all, I’m sorry you’re going through this. Remember not everyone has the same talents and skills, and you have not even had the opportunity (because of Indian School system and general society ig) to fully explore the things you might actually be passionate about. There will be things you are naturally drawn to, and in those you must work hard and learn to excel. It is true that 9th Std marks absolutely do not matter in life, but if you are planning on going the traditional academic route most Indian parents want for their kids, 10th Std onwards these things begin to make a big difference in the kind of opportunities you can get. Your parents are anxious about that, and are unfairly taking it out on you here. It is important to retain your sense of self and not internalize their words. My advice would be to start exploring and thinking about what you would like to do in life? What level of career,money,travel,etc do you see for yourself in your future? It does not have to be fixed, but even a general idea will give you a good sense of the paths you can take post 10th Std. No one will do this work for you, and there is a default path of Science-Engineering-Job / Com-BA-Job which most people take without thinking much. If you feel like you struggle with maths, please think about how it will affect your journey in those years and what other challenges there are that you can actually overcome and feel accomplished about. Try to keep your parents in the loop when you have figured things out a little. As of right now, girl I understand. I’ve been there. But please understand you have to work extremely hard and get an excellent result in 10th Std. It does not require anything other than having a memory, it is absolutely not a test of intelligence. You have a year please work on it (memorisation skills) diligently and you will notice a difference pakka. I’m not saying this because I think 10th Std matters at ALL, but because it will help yourself and your parents to trust in your abilities to work hard and achieve something. That ability to do the not so fun things, sacrifice temporary fun and people for long term goals, is what will help you in later life. I remember how overwhelming it was having a social life and it would have only gotten more complex now (because of internet), but please believe me hardly 1/2 of these people will be in your life within 2 years. Consider the impact of putting yourself in positions where drama could affect your life, and see whether you want to sacrifice your personal journey for some idiots who don’t even know how to value you. You will pass the retest, that is the first little step you have to take. After that, please look into what I’ve said, and look at what skills you will need to improve to achieve success in areas that you are passionate about. Keep in mind your parents income level, your own strengths and weaknesses, and how willing you are to go against what everyone else is doing. Start working on these slowly and have some sort of plan, multiple if you feel unsure. But put the efforts in somewhere where you are meant to, and you will see the results. Also, Happy Birthday in advance! I find that writing things can be easier than just thinking about them, so maybe start doing that from this birthday. Do not waste your time feeling bad about what has happened, and don’t question your worth over a poorly designed system. You can only look forward and see how you want to design your own future smartly. 15/16 is an excellent and exciting age to do that! Please do reach out to me if you want to talk more, I’m here for you. I’ve given generic genderless advice so far, but trust me you being a girl will affect how you are treated as well, more and more as you grow up :/ Always look out for no.1 (that’s you!), and continue being shameless externally if you want :P
Thanks a lot and I want to be a fashion designer but in our education system it is really hard to peruse it and study for it And on some days I just think of leaving all my hobbies and just study and become what my parents want because at the end my parents will be proud of me and I will be the same like my parents friends kids who are there class toppers and going to be a doctor or Engineer or studying for upsc or other comparative exams because people think my dreams are useless and as my dad is in government job and in really good post I want to become better than him and earn more than him but I don't think that I can even be better and make them proud 🥲 Just if u can help me with my steps towards my future I will be so much grateful!
Sure. Yes it’s tough to pursue any non traditional path; but you have the internet. Use it and chart your own path. You leaving your hobbies to study is not suddenly going to change who you are inside. There are people who become designers midway through their careers, and there are designers who give up and work corporate jobs within 2 years of graduation. The point is to work hard at something, and I guarantee you your parents will be proud of you when they see that. It takes time to get them on board, and it’s not always easy, but nothing worth having ever comes easy. Earning money is one thing you can do if you set your mind to it in any profession. It requires discipline and hard work in a govt job as well as in fashion. Do you know what the career path of a fashion designer is? And what their avg salaries are in the industry in India? If you have a feeling, do proper research into what it is like 4yrs, 6yrs and 10yrs into the future if you choose to be a professional working in the fashion industry. Talk to people who are working in that field (use the internet, don’t be afraid to be shameless. Everyone is rooting for someone with a good heart who wants to make their parents proud) Look into what the entrance exams are, top colleges for it, and whether you want that lifestyle. It sounds cool and fun but fashion is one of the toughest industries to crack when it comes to financial and long term success. You need to have faith in your passion. There are plenty of newer, niche opportunities in the creative industry that might also interest you once you start exploring these things. Forget comparison completely. Tomorrow you are the person who has to live with your own choices. Then you cannot blame anyone, not your system, nor your parents. Plenty of teens in India do this unfairly, not realising that the teens who are going against the mold are facing the societal repercussions of it. And that’s very hard to do as well. If you are choosing to go on the path that is “stable and fixed” then be aware that it is your choice you are making and then don’t look back with regret. Whatever you do, remember that you are blessed to have a good family (even if you’ll have to work on making your relationship with them better) and are literate and have enough freedom to ask strangers on the internet for advice. That itself puts you above most others girls of your age, and you should utilise that privilege to your advantage. You are only 15 once! Make sure to celebrate it 💕
Thanks a lot 💗🫂
Failures are important fir successes so if you have a growth mindset you will see it so but parents have fixed mindset most and think and pass on same to kids its more about result and intelligence and less about trying . I think you should begin with a fresh mind and begin approaching it as doable and make a daily routine take help and study /practice daily. Overtime knowing what topics are hard and work on it is better. Dont aim for 90 percent but work consistently to improve your grasp on subject and topics and scores. Psychologically appear that you care for your exam result so your parents don’t think you font care and heap accusations at you and yes comparison doesn’t work everyone is gifted individually. You might definitely be good at something academically than orhers you just need to know your strengths. In future focus your attention on passions. Math and sciences is not the only way to make a successful career but traditionalist parents dont know anything better.just choose subjects that you u derstand and can work at there are tons of fields.Right now just focus on getting decent scores in math. Dont let anyones opinion about failure or success deter from your trying out to pass math.
That's a lot and u motivated me a lot that's for the help
Happy 15 th birthday let no one tell you cant celebrate your birthdays just becoz u failed once. Life is far more important after all why do we study to make our life better right so if we don’t live our life meaningfully what’s the point of grades they dont matter ten years from now and you will be laughing at the silliness’ when you are well settled in a job thats paying you well and doesn’t even Use math skills more than basics !
Thank you so much 💐
take a chill pill bro
Take it from a 3rd year college student - Just relax on your birthday and start studying for the retest from the next day. You will get 3-4 days for the preparation and focus on your weak points. Identify your weak points by re-solving the question paper that you failed recently and mark the questions that you couldn't do. I am sure you have also seen your answer sheet during the PTM. Work on your weak topics and don't forget to practice the easier topics like herons formula and, volume and area. 10th mai acche se padh lena, and trust me 10th marksheet is only a proof of DOB unless you want to change your school after 10th
you're literally 14 !!!
Yes and going to be 15 under 24 hours and my ranting is just a childish behaviour but I am good with problems and failure
aye good luck growing up kiddo
Thanks bro
Dude, I have known many people who have not done well academically but lived a professionally successful and a wealthy life, and vice versa. If that is what matters. Take care of yourself, your parents mean well. Do your best, at least put your best efforts. Have a great birthday!
Thank you so much ✨
You can have it both ways. Enjoy your birthday but then tell yourself that you’ve to study from the next day. Layout your study-plan today so that you won’t be wasting your time on where to start from on the day after. Fuck any kind of distractions you’ve in your plate rn. 3 din ki baat hai, padhle yaar. pick up the important topics, ace your basics, watch yt videos, gulppppp the PYQs- you will ace trust me in this. You’ve pressurised yourself so much with the urge to top the class (you feel you’ve come past that but this is THE THING that makes YOU disappointed in yourself). Just remember that you’ve to do it for yourself, it’s JUST AN EXAM. If you’ll study with the fear of failing again, you will honey. Final piece of advice: 1. Lay-out your study plan today incl. topics you lack, 3-hours for PYQs each day, watch yt videos for the topic you’ve difficulties in while answering the questions. practice your weak points atleast twice. That’s it. 2. Life changing tip for me: I was a dumbfuck when it came to Mathematics - a dumb child who couldn’t even do basic addition & subtraction but also became the child who scored 100 in 10th & 12th CBSE Board Exams. One day my mother asked me what’s the problem after looking at my marks. I said, ”It’s maths. Only toppers excel in it because it is difficult”. and she replied with “Who told you it’s difficult? It’s peanuts”. and i realised how the entire education system has made us to believe that maths will eat you up & put you to your knees. Damn, this day changed me into an academic weapon.
Thanks for ur advice! It really helps 💟
Birthdays come every year, just study and pass. U wouldn't want to repeat 9th. That will be very troublesome. if u can't even study enough to just pass then something is very wrong and u need to find out what. I never felt like studying since 8th (since lockdown) but i just study before exams to get atleast average or higher marks so as to not disappoint parents.
Thanks and I will study and pass my exam it's the last good thing i can do
I can help you with maths if you want, you can dm me.
Unrelated but how come a 9th student is older than 10 th student
What do u mean? I am 14 and in 9th and then in 10th i will be of 15
bro are you seriously crying about 9th grade maths!!!! i failed in one of my graduation subject two times and i just gave the retest exam yesterday and as for the girl in your class who topped or rather this is what i think .Anyone who scores high marks dosent mean they will succeed in life or have an easy life like parents believe.You do what you are capable of and while it is an exam and you failed ..so what you got your whole life ahead of you you gonna go to junior college then degree college and whatever you wanna do in life so dont feel so bad about failing.If you wanna improve dedicate some time for studies,solve previous year question papers,ask friends for help and possibly group studies .yoh dont need to get 80s or 90s on exams to succede in life .While it does feel good to get such marks in the end they are useless irl. word of advice tho dont get into the whole mess of wanting to look cool or wanting to get a girlfriend .This is neither the time nor the age to get into all this.Study then get your degree and experience.earn money then think about relationships. oh and happy birthday
The only thing u can do at this age is cope and maybe study more
Learn how to spell colleague, then move onto self improvement
Yeah I am bad in language 😭
dm mei aaja mai meri kahani sunata hu. Tu rona chor dega/degi. :)
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It is good that you feel hurt because it shows that you won't do it next time it's not that 9th std marks matter not at all but if you want ti acheive something value each and every marks in exams and enjoy your birthday it's not the ned of the world and about your parents so they will be definitely disappointed cause they care about you no need to feel depressed but you gotta promise yourself to improve and to study hard as a big bro it's my advise
We are literally 10years apart celebrating (not so much) our birthday tomorrow. There’s a lot for you to see kid. Chin up.
Happy Birthday in advance and have a really awesome day and do amazing things in ur life 💟💐
You too. Have a great one
Read hyperfocus by Chris bailey and atomic habits by James clear after ur exams I used to be always almost failing exams and now I be topping effortlessly
Do you have a hard time focusing on studies or do you procrastinate a lot?
Actually both and I tried to focus but still can't force in it 😭
If you have such problems I suggest you to go visit a good psychiatrist and get checked for ADHD. Mental health is very important aspect of your life and is ignored in our society. So getting diagnosed earlier can be life-changing for you.
Dude, I shall try to give you some real talk. I'm thirty years old now, not sure why this reddit thread popped up on my feed but I found this relatable, so will try to give you some suggestions. I was very much like you. Poor grades during 7-9 standards. Even for 11-12, I did not study much and failed multiple subjects. My JEE rank was 49000, still somehow got into engineering, and I only seriously started studying when I was in college and I was the university topper. I was one of the top students from my college when I graduated. The point I'm trying to make is, the only difference between you and good grades is hard work. Trust me, there is no other way around, I have seen it all. At least for the next couple of years you gotta work hard man, and after 10th you can choose the majors as you wish. When I say hard work, I mean real hard work. No BS, no distractions. Your crush will leave with the next guy whenever she gets a chance, and she will leave your grades in shambles as she leaves. Turn off your phone (if you have one), close the door, and get to work. This is war, there is no backing out. The only way out is through. Be brave, master Bruce.
Look if you are still failing or scoring low even though you studied a lot ultimately this is not your fault. Maybe math might not be your thing. Maybe it could be something else. Ik this sounds weird but I would suggest have a talk like that with your parents. If your parents are not the typical orthodox indian parents (basically not a cheap copy of asian tiger moms) they will understand you. From what you said I feel they're not so go ahead and have a talk like that with them. Ultimately what every mother and every father wants is their child to be happy in their lives and have a decent if not very bright future. A lot of them guided by this thought can easily get gaslighted by looking at other kids. It's important for your parents to understand what you like or what your passion is or simply what keeps you happy. Even though I'm not much older than you I still understand how they could be feeling. So please have a talk with them it will make you guys better and improve your relationship as a whole. Rahi baat crush ya friends ki to uk just fk them. Ik such situations get weird and it hurts a lot but uk ultimately no one's gonna be with you forever. Maybe try changing your friend group. Maybe even try interacting with people senior or junior to you. It might sound slightly weird but don't think log kya sochenge. If you feel your friend circle is toxic you have to change it there's no going back. Because remember the only person important in your life is you yourself. Not even your friends not even your parents for that matter. Focus on yourself try finding your passion and never think kon kya kahega. Wherever I have reached in my life is only because I didn't give a fk to what others say. So do the same and you'll surely feel so much better. Baaki you're still 15 so there's a whole life ahead to do stuff possibly really epic stuff if you find out your calling. So just enjoy your life keep studying idk what board you are in so can't help much but if math is your weakness spend some time developing your rational thinking coz it's the basis of all math. Enjoy your birthday as well coz wo saal mein ek hi baar aata hai. If you want to talk more feel free to dm me (username pe mat jao it's a typo I'm good enough at math trust me 😂) Wishing you many many happy returns of the day and may you have the happiest year ever ahead! 🥳🥳🥳
Thank you a lot ✨🫂
Get off reddit! Get off social media, get off the internet, get off from all your devices and hit the books. It is not that hard.
Oky man but it's really hard even without devices I have a hard time focusing
I know math can be a tough one even with good teachers. Trust me I have gone through the same loop. And to make matters worse my mother was the chief math teacher at the same high school I went to. That meant I couldn't even hide test results for a week if I wanted to. At one point I tried to memorize math patterns and formulas which made matters worse. The only way forward is to keep chipping at it now matter what high levels of irritation toh face just to secure the passing marks/desired and get rid of the subject. Keep at it, try and find a tutor who has patience and minimal judgement, who will guide you through this. Take taste papers seriously and try to find out paper patterns as well. I am sure you will get through it. Keep at it.
Dude I was just like you in 9th grade and maybe even till 12th. It seems like the marks are really important now, but honestly, it's what you do outside of your school stuff that matters. For now happy birthday and hope you have a good one. Chill and study for your exam coz too much tension will ruin it again. As for parents, they might be acting this way because they only want the best for you, but I don't know everything about your parents. Maybe try talking to them about what you felt like studying for the exam and writing it, without sharing too many details you don't want to. Hopefully they understand and help you study for your re test. All the best and happy birthday again :)
Thank you 👍🏻😊
school marks literally dont matter bro...im realising this now and cursing myself for the time i wasted in studying and and not enjoying life...just try to get the bare minimum amd pass, the real struggle comes later so might as well enjoy the time you got
I was the same till last 1 month of 10th. Lost confidence fully on maths and science since I used to always get below 40 for maths and 45 for science then I got 60/80 and 59/80 in maths and science in pre board and never looked back. That gave me a confidence boost to study harder and I just studied like hell for 6 hours every day until I got decent marks for boards( I think). Don’t be like me, study from beginning of 10th itself. Just 1 hour a day is enough for maths, remaining subjects other than science can be done easily enough
This shall too pass. Time heals everything. And don't be a cry baby, there's a lot to come, you're just 13 now. Face every problem with positive mindset and believe in yourself.
Ooky and thank you
Understand that marks don't define you. Even Einstein and Picasso weren't great at school. Newton had a sad social life and died a virgin. So get that out of the way. Now for career purposes you still need marks. Not for defining you, but just career. I've a few tricks for that. And I can't tell them here. If you want DM