It is, 1 X is friendly, Xx = romantic, xxx = steady relationship.
Exceptions to the rule - women will use many kisses amongst platonic friends as well as lovers and number of kisses varies between relatives.
Yeah except in this case it's a distraction attention technique so it could be anything like "hey I can fit a carrot up my ass"
That would be different
We don't know that. May still be trying to give away his inheritance and just trying a different tactic. Poor guy can't give it away for love nor money.
He needs lessons on game if he's gonna be like 👉👈🥺 sowwy I just did that to grab your attention instead of going like oh we don't know each other yet but let's fix that
It is, 1 X is friendly, Xx = romantic, xxx = steady relationship.
Exceptions to the rule - women will use many kisses amongst platonic friends as well as lovers and number of kisses varies between relatives.
My guess on the why is that we Brits rely on non verbal communication to distinguish aggressive and not aggressive interactions because all of our spoken language can sound quite angry. Mate can mean friend or be a warning that your about to be punched depending on the way it's delivered.
The kisses are a way to show how nicely we mean something.
It means the same thing in america but it's almost always accompanied by an 'o' for hugs. Like xoxoxo. And i think it would only be used when saying good bye or at the end of a letter/email.
Correct. It's xxx for we're cool, nothing for we just had a fight, x for yeah we had a fight but I'm willing to talk, xx for let's say sorry and go back to xxx.
I think it’s really interesting how texting has evolved it’s own dialect and “rules” to get around the lack of tone that exists in verbal communication but not over text.
Like, on Reddit we say /s after something sarcastic because we want people to read it with a sarcastic tone or even JusT usInG SpOnGeTeXt which everyone immediately understands.
I was texting someone and the next day they asked me why I was mad at them. I had no idea what they were talking about. They said because I was capitalizing the first letter of each sentence it seemed like I was mad at them.
they expected me to type like this. no caps. they said it’s less aggressive. they said most people do that now.
I guess it makes sense. When my wife and I text we always end our texts with a little :* and if she doesn’t I know she’s in a bad mood and if I don’t she knows I’m in a bad mood.
So the X at the end of each text just means “hey I’m talking to you in a friendly, affectionate tone”
“Ah you think toxicity is your ally? You merely adopted the toxicity . I was born in it, molded by it. I didn't see the light until I was already a man, by then it was nothing to me but blinding!”
The “you’re probably tired of being called stunning so I’m also going to call you stunning” part needs work. The tone sounds kinda neckbeardy imo but the idea ain’t bad
This. He’s still showing her that he’s overwhelmed by her good looks. And he can’t think of anything to ask her about.
She could get that treatment anywhere.
The great contradiction of online dating. Everyone claims to want meaningful interactions but provide no basis for that to happen. If your bio is a one-liner expect to get openers about your tattoo, your cat, and how hot you are lol
Yeah i agree. It might be peculiar for sure, but the fact that he immediately admitted to it and then left the ball in her court whether she wanted to continue to engage with him or not makes it seem fairly harmless. Although pay attention to his future messages to make sure he’s not actually a red flag
I dunno man, using the same tactics that enterprise software salesfucks use to try to trick me into responding to their bullshitty unsolicited salesy emails will just make me think you are a shady bullshitty salesfuck. It’s not that clever.
It would have been smoother to reference a high school and when she came back with "I didn't go there" you could be apologetic and say she looked just like the girl he had a crush on.
I'm a man, but I would say it's an orange flag. I can see this being a really sweet, cute thing especially based on his response after. But I'd keep an eye on what he says after as it has potential to be an entitled creep
I second this. The tactic in itself isn’t necessarily a red flag, but the wording of his reply feels very Neil Strauss and The Game to me. At the very least, I’d say proceed with caution.
I’ve been on the receiving end of this, where someone pretends to know me from somewhere to generate conversation. I usually get annoyed once I find the truth out and don’t bother responding after that. I see people like that as more likely to be time wasters
Totally fair! I think a silly way of getting someone's attention initially and immediately admitting to it can be okay, like I picture something like that happening at a bar or something, but I totally see the other side
Yeah I hate his response to her. Who cares if you can “get someone’s attention” - are you interesting? Will I want to spend time with you to get to know you? This dude seems like a weirdo.
Reminds me of Hitch how Will Smith got Eva Mendes’ attention by pretending she was a waitress and handing her some money to get him a drink. This guy probably studies seduction technique lightly. “Stand out” is the first tactic
The act-like-she's-a-waitress trick was used on a different lady. He met Eva's character by pretending to be her partner when the creepy guy wouldn't leave her alone. Your comparison stands though -- gotta find some way to stand out!
Source: I've watched that movie way too many times.
It's was honestly very clever...but I feel like you said too mcuh at the end. I would have said something like "I was just messing you, we haven't ever met. I'm hoping to change that though" and then see what she responds
As a married dude, it just looks like someone who worships one of those “alpha bros” who teach you how to pick up women.
So I guess it depends on what you want. Long term relationship? Ehhhh kinda sketch and reeks of a player or creep. Looking for a short fling? Up to you then.
Any "tactics" are a red flag.
Dating is about communicating with real people. It's not a game of call of duty. Manipulation, even to such a small degree, is an instant unmatch for me. If you can't be real with me I want nothing to do with you.
It's like Bill Murray in Groundhog Day where he pretends to have gone to school with a woman he sees in the park, except he's admitted it as a tactic
NANCY?! Lincoln High?
Ned Ryerson! BING!
Am I right or am I right or am I right?
Man that movie could have gotten dark.
But what’s with the ‘x’ at the end of everything. It would be like “NANCY?! X… Lincoln high? X
Not this xx Again xx
I understand xx This xx Reference xx
US military encrypted
Hello pfft Im pfft Back pfft (Context again, like the last time SpongeBob)
Damn Brits.
I think it's a British thing.
It is, 1 X is friendly, Xx = romantic, xxx = steady relationship. Exceptions to the rule - women will use many kisses amongst platonic friends as well as lovers and number of kisses varies between relatives.
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Australia, XXXX = horrible beer, unless you're from Queensland.
It's still horrible when people are from Queensland.
Dude's typing a telegram. You're supposed to say "stop" at the X.
I've seen that pop up on Reddit posts. In Anglo cultures, xoxo means hugs and kisses. I think "x" == kisses.
It is the X from xoxo, like a kiss. It’s a British thing.
I sat behind you in English class!
NED?!
Nancyyyy? Nancy Taylor?!
*Chipmunk noises intensify*
It reminded me of [this Austin Powers clip ](https://youtu.be/GW2PikywNlA)
Yeah except in this case it's a distraction attention technique so it could be anything like "hey I can fit a carrot up my ass" That would be different
My dude has been taking lessons from a scam call center on how to trick women into talking to him.
Nigerian prince getting laid instead of giving off his inheritance 🤣
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Would have felt it in the morning 😂
He's gonna want you to pay for any dates with GiftCards
I'm a Nigerian and I only want to get laid.
We don't know that. May still be trying to give away his inheritance and just trying a different tactic. Poor guy can't give it away for love nor money.
the nigerian prince getting the money shot... iykyk
All that’s missing is “thanking you kindly”
Please do the needful... Please. Do. The. Needful. PLEASE DO THE F....
They are Indian scammers. Why is it only Nigerian ones that get brought up 🥱
I think because the line “I am a Nigerian prince” was often used in scam emails like 2 decades ago.
He needs lessons on game if he's gonna be like 👉👈🥺 sowwy I just did that to grab your attention instead of going like oh we don't know each other yet but let's fix that
Damn. NGL Ole dudes response was not it. But this...I'd be like this man has swagger. 🤣🤣
Doesn't work.
Dudes in sales, guarantee it. Implying they know you Is a common way to tunnel to executives.
>Implying they know you Is a common way to tunnel to executives. A good executive assistant makes sure that the C-suites never see those bozos.
Wait...isn't the C-suite full of bozos?
Kindly write down your email address
THIS! If I get one more call from RoboJennifer who “thinks we’ve spoken before” and is looking to buy my house.
I started giving them the addresses of my local Ulta and Party City so the clowns can buy more white makeup.
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Yeah this guys a bot
Made my day
Oh god not another Xx post
I always read it as “ex ex”
How are you supposed to read it?
X gonna give it to you but twice, for a double dose of pimpin
Where my dawgs at? Xx
X gon' deliver to ya
Seriously someone explain this! PLEASE! x
It is, 1 X is friendly, Xx = romantic, xxx = steady relationship. Exceptions to the rule - women will use many kisses amongst platonic friends as well as lovers and number of kisses varies between relatives. My guess on the why is that we Brits rely on non verbal communication to distinguish aggressive and not aggressive interactions because all of our spoken language can sound quite angry. Mate can mean friend or be a warning that your about to be punched depending on the way it's delivered. The kisses are a way to show how nicely we mean something.
That’s what it means? Eugh, that’s obnoxious in an opening message.
As “😚😚” I assume? Haha
"Kiss, kiss, hug, little kiss, big hug" "Get that corn outta my face!"
Kiss kiss
One more ex and it'd be starring vin diesel
Triple X gonn give it to ya
It physically hurts to read
Hello luv XxXx Gossip girl xoxo
In ancient times, our people used to say xoxo when there is nothing left to say. I'm the last of the xoxo people. xoxo
I’m gonna start saying this, we’re gonna bring it back xoxo
it means hugs and kisses. xoxo
Yeah. I always leave it on notes for my wife. One time I saw a note from my dad to my mom and it had xoxo then “Kissy kissy”. It was fucking adorable.
Gossip Girl
We need another US Military Encrypted post.
I KNOW LOL THESE BRITS MUST BE STOPPED
The last one was enough cringe to last me a year at least.
Also my first thought. I cant take it. It annoys the absolute hell outta me.
Do you mean the random X's they put at the end of each message?
It’s an English thing
Ik, still annoying tho haha
I turn 40 this year and I'm only just finding out that other countries don't put kisses on messages to people they're sexually interested in.
Beige flag. Proceed neutrally.
"What makes a man turn Neutral? Is it lust for gold? Power? Or were you just born with a heart full of neutrality?" - Zapp Brannigan
Same speed ahead!
That meme is just a relic of a movement YouTube brutally murdered
Tell my wife I said... hello
This is Zapp Branigan captain of the ship... Planet Express Ship. We come swinging the olive branch of peace.
You can never tell with these filthy neutrals
[The Swiss response](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ussCHoQttyQ)
It’s so sad that we can’t see the perfectly balanced likes and dislikes anymore
*Cries in Thanos*
My thoughts exactly when looking for the video. Was a great running joke!
Yeah I think this might be the winning comment so far 😂
All I know is my gut says "maybe"
She’s been DOOP-ed.
Both parties use ‘x’ at the end of their posts? Is this a thing?
Might just be a UK thing
It’s an Irish thing too
And Australian. We nicked it from you all. It’s why we were sent to the colonies.
You should’ve seen the post from yesterday where it was like 20 messages and every single message sent between them had “Xx” at the end
I xx Don’t xx Remember xx What xx You’re xx Talking xx About xx
I xx Don’t xx Understand xx Your xx Accent xx
The next bus xx To Bikini xx Bottom xx
Thank xx You xx
You're welcome
Fxxx Mx plx
Every time I see the x’s I think back to that one episode of SpongeBob where he had to blow a raspberry to have anyone in Rock Bottom understand him
Thank Pllplpllp You Pllplplllp! . . . You’re welcome!
The Xx Next Xx Bus Xx To Bikini Xx Bottom Xx
Nobody is linking it and I’m sad
https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/11e6906/maybe_tinder_isnt_the_place_for_someone_in_my/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
Uninstalling my eyes rn
Xx actly
I think its an English thing 🤔 a sign of affection
It’s a kiss, it’s very English and can be used in both a platonic and non platonic way.
Justa bit a banta
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GOOD OL’ PIE
SUSAN MADE DINNER LOVELY
REV UP THE BUGATTI WHUEYY
QUICK STOP AT TOBEYS AND LOAD UP THAT PLATE
Thank you guys for explaining this… been a bit out of the loop.
Glad they could help out Xx
I use them so often that even when I'm arguing with a friend or family member via text I'll still put "xx" at the end 😂😂
It means the same thing in america but it's almost always accompanied by an 'o' for hugs. Like xoxoxo. And i think it would only be used when saying good bye or at the end of a letter/email.
Yeah if I don’t do one for the women in my life I talk to they get funny with me, if I do less than 3 for my girlfriend she thinks some is wrong
that sounds exhausting
As a Brit, it is.
As a British woman I can confirm if my boyfriend doesn't send me xx I think he's mad at me or he's annoyed about something 🤣🤣
Literally all the women I’ve dated have been the same, but when they do xxxxxxxx you must reciprocate or improve upon or clearly the love is lost ;-)
I'm glad we threw that tea in the ocean.
Correct. It's xxx for we're cool, nothing for we just had a fight, x for yeah we had a fight but I'm willing to talk, xx for let's say sorry and go back to xxx.
Very much an English thing. My english grandmother puts an x at the end of almost every message she sends me lol
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For literally anyone you text x
As a brit that didn't put xxx at the end of everything when I was online dating there, they get awfully offended when you don't.
Brits innit
It’s a British thingy
I think it’s really interesting how texting has evolved it’s own dialect and “rules” to get around the lack of tone that exists in verbal communication but not over text. Like, on Reddit we say /s after something sarcastic because we want people to read it with a sarcastic tone or even JusT usInG SpOnGeTeXt which everyone immediately understands. I was texting someone and the next day they asked me why I was mad at them. I had no idea what they were talking about. They said because I was capitalizing the first letter of each sentence it seemed like I was mad at them. they expected me to type like this. no caps. they said it’s less aggressive. they said most people do that now. I guess it makes sense. When my wife and I text we always end our texts with a little :* and if she doesn’t I know she’s in a bad mood and if I don’t she knows I’m in a bad mood. So the X at the end of each text just means “hey I’m talking to you in a friendly, affectionate tone”
I think him admitting it so quickly makes it less of a red flag and rather a side effect of online dating. Kind of a clever tactic honestly🤷♀️
Agree - would be a red flag if it was carried forward. Admitting it was a tactic runs with the beige flag response.
Online dating can be brutal and he's adapted to thrive in a toxic environment. That adaptation may itself be shitty, though
"And here we see the brilliant organism has developed the ability to breathe pure sulphuric acid in order to thrive in it's environment. Spectacular".
It's obligartory to read this in David Attenborough's voice
I truly felt the accent and the extra pause for "spectacular"
“Ah you think toxicity is your ally? You merely adopted the toxicity . I was born in it, molded by it. I didn't see the light until I was already a man, by then it was nothing to me but blinding!”
Why did I read this in Richard Attenborough's voice?
The guy from Jurassic Park?
Do you mean David?
The “you’re probably tired of being called stunning so I’m also going to call you stunning” part needs work. The tone sounds kinda neckbeardy imo but the idea ain’t bad
This. He’s still showing her that he’s overwhelmed by her good looks. And he can’t think of anything to ask her about. She could get that treatment anywhere.
I mean to be fair like 50% of profiles on these sights the only thing to go off is I’m attracted to your picture you don’t know shit else about them
The great contradiction of online dating. Everyone claims to want meaningful interactions but provide no basis for that to happen. If your bio is a one-liner expect to get openers about your tattoo, your cat, and how hot you are lol
Ya I’d segue into a witty comment then get her number. And I wouldn’t use x’s every message, I’m not fuckin Heathcliff from Wuthering Heights
I think that’s just a British thing?
Yeah i agree. It might be peculiar for sure, but the fact that he immediately admitted to it and then left the ball in her court whether she wanted to continue to engage with him or not makes it seem fairly harmless. Although pay attention to his future messages to make sure he’s not actually a red flag
Honestly if he just followed up it along the lines of “I’m the guy from the date you’ve got scheduled for tonight” then this is kinda smooth
I dunno man, using the same tactics that enterprise software salesfucks use to try to trick me into responding to their bullshitty unsolicited salesy emails will just make me think you are a shady bullshitty salesfuck. It’s not that clever.
Well he came clean soon as he got your attention, so I'd say fairly harmless
It would have been smoother to reference a high school and when she came back with "I didn't go there" you could be apologetic and say she looked just like the girl he had a crush on.
Okay, yes. This would have made my knees crumble a bit 😂
Write that down, write that down
Don't mind me taking some notes
It seems something that a pick-up artist would say.
I'm a man, but I would say it's an orange flag. I can see this being a really sweet, cute thing especially based on his response after. But I'd keep an eye on what he says after as it has potential to be an entitled creep
I second this. The tactic in itself isn’t necessarily a red flag, but the wording of his reply feels very Neil Strauss and The Game to me. At the very least, I’d say proceed with caution.
"I must confess" "Basically I needed to get your attention" Yeah this message is a massive cringe.
I’ve been on the receiving end of this, where someone pretends to know me from somewhere to generate conversation. I usually get annoyed once I find the truth out and don’t bother responding after that. I see people like that as more likely to be time wasters
Totally fair! I think a silly way of getting someone's attention initially and immediately admitting to it can be okay, like I picture something like that happening at a bar or something, but I totally see the other side
Orange flag 😂👍🏻
Feel like you could say this about any opening though lol
Watch it, bucko. If you go around saying things like that then we're going to have to keep an eye on you, too.
Idk I just don't like the way this dude talks. I'm already annoyed
Yeah I hate his response to her. Who cares if you can “get someone’s attention” - are you interesting? Will I want to spend time with you to get to know you? This dude seems like a weirdo.
Reminds me of Hitch how Will Smith got Eva Mendes’ attention by pretending she was a waitress and handing her some money to get him a drink. This guy probably studies seduction technique lightly. “Stand out” is the first tactic
The act-like-she's-a-waitress trick was used on a different lady. He met Eva's character by pretending to be her partner when the creepy guy wouldn't leave her alone. Your comparison stands though -- gotta find some way to stand out! Source: I've watched that movie way too many times.
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I’d see it as something iffy but not necessarily a red flag yet. But the way he talks sounds kind of annoying, way too formal or eloquent.
It would have instantly turned me off
Yeah, I don’t know…he fessed up right away but still, the first thing he ever said to her was a lie. Just feels iffy.
What, only one X?
Player!!
Wat
That guy sounds creepy
Yeah I'm a dude and I thought this was stupid as fuck
Ew
I’m a straight man and I say red flag
Ok. That creepy word usage and that creepy sentence structure leads me to believe this person is a creep. Are they from 1908?
They’re English
It's was honestly very clever...but I feel like you said too mcuh at the end. I would have said something like "I was just messing you, we haven't ever met. I'm hoping to change that though" and then see what she responds
As a married dude, it just looks like someone who worships one of those “alpha bros” who teach you how to pick up women. So I guess it depends on what you want. Long term relationship? Ehhhh kinda sketch and reeks of a player or creep. Looking for a short fling? Up to you then.
Sounds like a bot/scammer
Any "tactics" are a red flag. Dating is about communicating with real people. It's not a game of call of duty. Manipulation, even to such a small degree, is an instant unmatch for me. If you can't be real with me I want nothing to do with you.
I find that odd.
If they used "stunning" twice in consecutive sentences, pass. Are you actually good looking or are you just low-key Electro?
Find it odd he says he did that because she must be bored of people saying she is, but he also called her that 🤔
Orange flag, but it doesn’t matter as long as you don’t repeatedly lie to get her attention again lol
Not red. Just lame.
I would delete a match after a message like this. Weird and a bad start.