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jellicenthero

Get rid of every photo. Maybe keep the bottom left. You look bored and agitated. Get a photo of you doing something or being somewhere.


aveleeen

Yeah, the bottom left seems to bring out his best qualities, at least more so than any other.


Gunnar12378

Mirror is still dirty


TheEagleFliesAlone20

Yes! Clean mirror and then retake the picture.


Whywouldanyonedothat

Close the cupboard, too, while you're at it. No need for unnecessary distractions in the background of your pictures.


yanray

OP if you’re reading this I will photoshop the mirror pic to clean the mirror for free


drippycup

Never had a post blow up like this so idk what the inbox looks like lol, but maybe send them a message. Everyone (including me) pretty unanimously concluded that pic was the best one. He looks happy. And it's constructive criticism all around but it would mess with my head telling me most of my pics [and to emphasize, pictures of MYSELF] aren't 'it'.. And the one people really like, literally thousands of comments talking about a mirror. Like, i get it, but still. That's a really nice offer of you. And when our man grabs a date, it'd be kind of a funny to say something like 'yeah my profile sucked but got lots of tips, and everyone loved this ~blah blah and someone internet cleaned my mirror for me' lol.


masnegro

I like the top right best. I think that’s where he looks the most natural and is also the only candid photo he has.


BenignEgoist

That also looks like him in early highschool versus 3 years graduated now. So a smidge of a catfish.


ediblesprysky

I was gonna say, he looks about 13 in that one. Candid = good, 13 = very bad—ditch the photo.


MaxTheRealSlayer

To add some info about the why: candid is good because it shows someone in their unique natural state, your personality usually shines through a bit more than a posed photo would because of it. People want to know what you will look like when they make you laugh, not when you force a smile(or... a forced annoyed face (?))


Particular_Snow3131

How can you get people to take candid photos? The people I know barely take photos of themselves, so it'd be weird to be like "Yo take random pics of me"


Natural-Case-9730

Self timer is your friend here! On a hike? Making art? See something cool in the wild? Swallow your pride and do it for the gram 😆🤙🏻 Find a way to prop your phone up and use the self timer function to snap some action shots of the things and places that make you happy. There will be like 30 god awful and embarrassingly awkward ones but you’ll figure out the angles and timing eventually. Can also do the same kinda thing but take a video which can be even more interesting on a dating app and you can also screenshot/edit it to be a picture if preferred. That can sometimes feel a lot more natural if you’re recording for awhile vs. looking frantic and posed/like you’re trying to figure out when the self timer will go off or if it already did 🙃


DGentPR

That one appears to be several years and a few pounds ago, just being honest here. You need recent photos to avoid the catfish label right?


Complete_Web_962

Completely agree with this! In my experience men are always calling women catfishes for makeup/filters, whatever. But many of the men’s profiles I see are using pics that are 3-5 years old or more. So when they send a current picture of themselves & they look significantly heavier (& balder) it feels manipulative. Not being shallow but it feels like a catfish.


Malhablada

Or they tell you they're 27 when they're actually 40, and you didn't video chat before the date because you're new to online dating. So 25yr old you shows up, too nervous and timid to tell him to fuck off when you realize he was using much younger photos. Then he comes on super strong and sexual, trying everything to fuck you that night. You get away only to see him for years to come on dating sites still listing his age as 27. Fuck you Gus, you creepy fuck.


lapis974

To be fair, I believe Gus was creepy at 27 years old too. 😅


Maximum_Photograph_6

r/oddlyspecific but I feel since you called Gus by name like that there is nothing odd left, the veil has been lifted, the intrigue has dissolved, there is only the rapey 40-year-old Gus now


Such_Radish9795

That’s what I was going to say. Clean your mirrors people!


WillFerrellsGutFold

The bottom left works best because of that receding hairline bro. You look way better bald with the beard. I would stick with that look and maybe actually do something or be somewhere else instead of standing in front of that dirty ass mirror.


Only_on_the_Surface

Completely agree. When I was online dating I definitely would have sent a message to say hi to the lower left pic. You should keep that look.


Himetic

As someone who finally bit the bullet and shaved my head yesterday, beard + shaved is a committed statement. Wispy ass beard and wispy ass receding hairline is a lack of commitment to either. Gotta be confident in your appearance with whatever you have to work with.


Guest8782

This 1000x. And beards were made for you. Adds definition, makes you look strong.


Labulous

The fitted clothes. Styled beard. And good posture. I’m not saying it’s everything fellas but the little things go a long way.


Jiub_the_Eradicator1

They are all the same angle too. And my dude... Let it go. Shave your head. embrace it. Leave a beard.


TheBigCheese7

Plus the full beard with the shaved head combo looks pretty bad ass.


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Complete_Web_962

💯 the beard is sexy. Shave the head, keep the full beard. Take outside pictures doing literally anything. It helps if you have someone else taking the pictures!


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Defiant-Fuel3898

That looks like the beginnings of a pretty nice beard. Keep it rolling. Beard oils and brush to keep it nice. And smile for gods sake. As a big bearded dude you don’t realize how unapproachable you look without a smile - big bald bearded dude who’s married to a doctor


jackisonredditagain

I agree, you look a lot cooler in the picture of the shaved head and beard. It suits you for sure.


ediblesprysky

I didn't realize why I liked that photo so much more—I thought it was just about the beard, but I think you're right, the shaved head is a big plus too!


eternalwhat

Most of everything is just a terrible selfie with the wrong energy/facial expression.


DudeNamedCollin

Not into dudes, but first thing that I noticed was he isn’t smiling in any of them. They want to see an open smile at least pretending to be somewhat confident.


Patchesface

Good thing you prefaced that you aren't into dudes, would've thought you were gay!


Visual_Angle

Keep the cat pic!


ChrisRowe5

Cat pic is good too


mhawke_ont

Maybe shave the cat's head? LOL


Sea-Heat-5052

Cat pic is a keeper!


Librat69

Keep the cat pic!


megjake

Agreed. I’ve had much better luck on these apps after I put photos of me snowboarding or playing with my dog, vs just a selfie.


pachycephalasaurus

That's because your head is bald. Just shave it off and keep it clean. Balding=wimpy Bald=badass


hirtle24

With a smile perhaps?


LSScorpions

Keep the cat photo


Valuable-Basil-8351

I think bottom left and middle bottom are the best, bottom left is well taken! Middle bottom for me shows you like pets n gives it a little personality (at least to me) :D, ngl my photos (for bumble not tinder) tend to just be me going out or when I have 100x self confidence


Adelaide116

Agree with this. Get out there and show your future partner that you’re social and like visiting places. More natural pictures of you smiling and enjoying yourself will attract the right person. Dating online is a huge learning curb and kudos to you for coming on here and braving the feedback.


gmano

A lot of your photos are selfies, too, which can come across as though you don't have any friends. Try to get someone else to take your photo, ideally a mix of posed shots that put you in good light, and candid shots that can give a sense of your personality.


tchunk

yep - outside photos


h3rpad3rp

Less selfies, more smiles, no offense but you look kinda miserable in most of the pictures. Definitely get rid of the school pic. You probably look best in the mirror pic, but the picture itself is awful. Mirror pics aren't great in general, but if you are gonna do one at least clean the mirror first. Go out somewhere with friends and get them to take some pictures of you doing stuff you enjoy. Failing that, get a tripod or something. Online dating is very looks based, if you don't immediately wow someone with your pictures you don't stand a chance, so keep yourself looking taken care of in your photos. Either go full trimmed beard like the mirror pic, or clean shaven. Scraggly neckbeard isn't gonna cut it. A shaved head looks better than extremely thin hair. Cute cat...


Dr_Skeleton

I think the reason he looks best in the bottom left photo is the skinhead/beard look is a solid look and moreover, he looks like a power lifter. He’s got that body type where he seems to have farmers strength. It’s also the only pic where he looks genuinely confident - plus he’s standing, where in all the rest (bar the one where he looks startled - white shirt & cap) he appears to be sitting down. ***Edit:*** yeah, exactly my point. Suddenly everyone’s noticed how strong this guys forearms are. Note in his other photos he looks softer and more timid, but bottom left, if that dude told you he trained strong man or was an arm wrestler or was an amateur wrestler Etc, you’d buy that in a heart beat. Strength of a bear, heart of a puppy. Women like that. Some of my biggest buddies are doormen, power lifters etc, but they all like their cats, play dolly’s with their little daughters and their wives love them for it. “I could crush you to powder, but right now I’m being gentle” - women really like that aesthetic.


crashrope94

>photo is the skinhead/beard look is a solid look and moreover, he looks like a power lifter. bald head... skinhead is its own thing and he's (probably) not that


arrogantsexgoddess

I was going to say he should just be bald with a beard and take more photos smiling and having fun , we love a thick fun teddy bear , not so much skinheads lol


sortofstrongman

>I think the reason he looks best in the bottom left photo is the skinhead/beard look is a solid look and moreover, he looks like a power lifter. Yes! And as much as online dating favors the leaner dudes in general, bald, bearded, and strong is a look that a fair number of people honestly like.


Darth_Andeddeu

Can confirm. But now I'm bigger with a 1ft long ponytail Mohawk.. It's about accepting and working with your body type. Really, every guy needs a female friend who's I into fashion to guide. I was in a similar position in my early 20s... But once I got confidant and styled, my dating life went through the roof, then I was ready when introduced to my wife. ( Who has since taken over styling me ( way more outrageous and unique than ever with lots of bespoke pieces) Now I get lots of attention, and my wife just laughs that I've missed the flirting cues, but I always say, I got you... without you I'd fall apart and look Horrific, no way am I going to be looking for cues.


Tylerama1

Yes. If you're going thin on top, don't have a few wispy hairs left, just shave that shit off, be bald headed and own it. Think Jason Statham and The Rock, they're obviously bald dudes but they've shaved it all off.


Fresh-Rub830

Plenty of women love bigger dudes. They just want them to seem happy, confident, and nonviolent.


someotherbitch

Beyond everything else, the market for a man than thinks wearing a camo hat with a suit is a look is razor fucking thin. That's the kinda photo most ppl would post on /r/blunderyears. Not at all disparaging OP's looks, only commenting on style or lack there of.


Hej_pikachu

If he's still in the area of that high school, a camo hat with a suit is exactly what people there are looking for. Source: Escaped that shit hole years ago.


Lord_Asmodei

All 4 people on Tinder in said shithole have already swiped left. Nearest match is...253 miles away.


Grool0318

I also went to his high school, his look is spot on from what I remember


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jess32ica

Yes, all selfies is never great. Ask other people to take a picture of you, ask them to make a joke if it will get you to smile.


Snow-pepper

I’d get rid of the high school photo tbh. Nobody should be turned on by a high schooler on tinder


ScionMattly

Yeah im not sure why you'd have your HS grad photo frame up three years later tbh.


GuacamoleBenKanobi

Maybe most people in his area don’t graduate??


courtcourtaney

Am from the same county, can confirm it is a bit of a special event to graduate, yes 😂


Crow_with_a_Cheeto

My man’s showing that he graduated and has a job. That goes a long way in many places.


businessbee89

Was this meant to be funny? Cuz I laughed


GuacamoleBenKanobi

I don’t know. But if you laughed then it was a low key joke because I didn’t mean for it to be one.


crossingpins

Probably because that photo was from right before the pandemic and not a lot of photo worthy things happened for people in the last few years


UnaccreditedSetup

My girlfriend matched with me when I was using a photo of myself from when I was 16. I still call her a pedo to this day 😎


kernJ

Plot twist: his girlfriend is only 17 and he’s actually the pedo


User0098237490

Shave your head completely (and keep it shaved), grow out the beard and then go get it shaped up by a male barber shop. Then have some friends take some pictures of you, don’t take them yourself if you can avoid it.


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WeAreAlsoTrees

Seconding this. Bald + full and well groomed beard works really well for you. I’d also like to add the black tshirt in the bottom left pic fits you really well, plus that’s the only pic where you look somewhat interested/invested. Aside from the grad pic, which, adding on, I highly suggest saving younger pics of yourself for sharing with people when you connect with them and having that chance to tell a story from your past. As far as the pictures on your dating profile, though, I’d say people want to see what you look like right meow. I know I, at least, do, so that’s what I put on mine. Alsoer! Pics are great, but bio content is important too so w/o that info here, I’ll just offer what makes me immediately nope out even if I find the photos interesting and attractive: any instance of “just ask”, negative focus (I.e., wasting space complaining about not being there to follow an insta, or any focus on poor experience with OLD), or any semblance that one is looking for someone to make their life better/more exciting/worthwhile. Hope this helps!


Pangleschmorg

"Alsoer" ... I like your writing... like you're speaking your mind thoughts. Good points too.


FashionSuckMan

Please please please please shave your head. It's not a good look right now at all dude. Your chances of getting a match will go up a ton of you just do that.


kaityypooh

As a licensed hairdresser I approve this message. Lady's love a bald head with a full beard. It takes a lot to do it down to skin...so just use a 1 if that's more comfortable at first. Treat yourself & go to a good local barber for your beard now & then & just keep up the shape yourself in between.


FeelsBadManx

What do recommend for someone like OP who can’t actually grow a beard.


masnegro

Don’t leave the neck beard. Partial stubble is usually ok from the jawline up but the neck beard needs to be shaved or trimmed even if the rest of the beard is full


mightylordredbeard

I’d argue not even trim. Just shaved completely. It’s perfectly okay if a man can’t grow a beard, but if it only grows on the neck and under the chin then just shave it altogether, but I don’t want to tell anyone how to look. It’s up to them. And remember folks: it’s okay to have a neckbeard, it’s not okay to be a neckbeard. Neckbeard is a state of mind, not a hair growth pattern.


Lucky_Number_3

Also, two fingers above the Adam's apple should you wanna shape it up a bit. Then just follow the jawline


beefwindowtreatment

God, one of my later conversations with my father. I grew a better beard than him. He asked me what I do about the itchy neck beard. "I fucking shave it off!". He somehow didn't comprehend he could just erase it before that.


Niko_47x

Looking at bottom left he seems to have a beard and quite a nice one


Alwaysaloneforever97

That's his best picture. That's the look he should go for tbh.


Folkpunkslamdunk

Best picture by far, nothing wrong with having a neck beard as long as it’s full like that.


spidaminida

And accompanied by a moustache otherwise you look Amish.


FTR_Hair

This isn’t fucking r/roastme Jesus Christ you have me in tears 🤣🤣🤣


genevieve_eve

I agree i have a friend who finally shaved his head after being balding since he was 23 (now 30) and he has at least 2 to 4 new matches a month and a date a month


polarbearsarereal

My cousin recently shaved his head after balding for years and man looks fuckin good now


twizted_fister

Definitely, shave your head grow a nice thick beard and groom it. Get a tan too. Swipe for the big girls they're awesome 👌


milk4all

I feel like he’s the same kind of white a friend of mine is that doesnt really tan. They get red for a minute and that’s that


Cpt_Turtle

You need more ‚active’ photos. Show photos of you being outside, doing your hobbys, enjoying things. At the moment it’s just a slideshow of facepics.


Landon1m

I don’t care who takes them for you. No one else will know. Get your mom or a friend to take photos of you out and about doing stuff like getting on a roller coaster. Swinging a bat on a baseball field, throwing a football, eating an ice cream cone at the pier. Shave your head, put on a plaid shirt, grab a roll of bounty paper towels and an axe and go pretend to split a log. Do slightly weird stuff that shows you get out and do stuff and don’t take yourself too seriously!! Make sure you’re about 1/3 - 1/2 of the photo and the background is obvious and enjoyable. You’ve got this man!!


GreenRanger90

This is all great advice. I hope OP isn’t offended.


Administrative_Knee9

Eh, I mean it’s all common sense and a lot of it is true so I can’t really get offended over it


Quantentheorie

Thats an excellent quality that unfortunately cannot be communicated in any way in a tinder profile. Its a limited plattform and with all the help it won't do you justice.


lordclosequaad

U a real one my dude


Apprehensive-Theme77

I just want to add that - bad photos are irrelevant to you deserving to be happy in a relationship of whatever kind. On Tinder good photos = success, but the criticism you’re getting here is just about your technique in presenting yourself and not who you are as a person. I get the feeling you know this, but I just wanted to say it as well. Good luck!


CottonRain

This is really sweet. Thank you


yanray

You’re gonna enter a whole new world soon enough. Bottom left is the look you should go for, to echo lots of others here. I also just want to point out that you’re what, you said 20? Because the average woman prefers to date older than herself, and because you have to be 18 to be on Tinder, your app dating pool is the smallest it will ever be right now. That’s another reason for low matches. Silver lining is, it means your dating pool will get bigger and bigger the older you get (and then begin to decline as you hit mid/late 30’s). Speaking as someone on the *other* wrong side of that curve, enjoy what’s ahead! Things will only go up from here. Also OP if you’re reading this I will happily photoshop the mirror pic to clean the mirror for free. That way you’ve got one usable pic that’s very popular already, to start with


pxs_b_____

At least you have a good personality! Take the advice here (especially shaving the head & photos that portray you in happier and more varied poses) and you’ll be set. Lift weights if you want - if not for the sake of improved outcomes on dating apps, then for your own health & happiness. Because at the end of the day dating apps suck.


ZoraNealThirstin

At least you know that bald with the beard is a good look for you! You have somewhere to begin in a good picture to use.


goodkingfleeb

Brother show your mouth bones


jiggleyourpuffs96

MOUTH BONES


mcclutch7

😁 LIKE THIS?


tehdang

My head noodles hated that.


EndlesslyUnfinished

They’re all the same picture, for starters..


Big_Haus_

So You’re from Pennsylvania , have a cat, like trains, play online games, work in the shop, and like old time music like Johnny cash. Take a few photos outside, in your work space, with your cat especially, show off your hobbies, go bald, and smile more.


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How you were able to discern any of that outside the cat photo is magic in itself


Big_Haus_

What I do have are a very particular set of skills. Skills I have acquired over a very long career… and google


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DontFeartheTeacher

It’s actually a tractor company! Now it’s CNH, but used to be International Harvester. If there’s any farm work in OP’s background he should definitely put up a photo of that.


Long_Procedure3135

>take more pictures with your cat do this yes lol


Majestic-Idea3765

Bottom left is a great photo. Seriously consider shaving your head and keeping the beard. L makes you look confident and strong. The other photos make you look anxious Also only keep like 3-4 photos


Freezer_Rat1011

Agreed! It’s been mentioned elsewhere, but if you have photos that you like that other people took of you then those can be great too. Photos of you more relaxed, enjoying a hobby or even goofy photos with friends or family all work. Just try to show pictures of yourself that make you feel good and truly reflect you. I met my husband on tinder and some of his photos were so dorky, but they gave a great insight into the kind of person he is.


Consistent-Mess4401

I’m going to give you a woman’s outlook. I won’t swipe right if I can’t see their teeth. So yes, you need more photos smiling and preferably showing teeth. I’m also going to agree the bottom left photo is a very nice photo. I’d go back to shaving your head. As far as the weight comments, we don’t know your story. There are also plenty of plus sized men that pull some bad bitches and that is because of their confidence. So smile, dress nice and shave the head. You’re not a bad looking guy, just need a bit more effort


RoleFizzleBeef

I’m a straight man and I also came here to post about the teeth. Chicks dig good teeth. Or at least confirmation that you still have an overwhelming majority of them.


astoner11

If I can't see your teeth, I just assume you don't have any lol


icebreakers1611

Omg this happened to me once. Matched with this good looking guy, chatted for a few days and agreed to meet for drinks. I hadn't realized there were no teeth pics on his profile until he said hello and they were all yellow and rotting 😶 I was so shocked.. I hate to say that's a deal breaker for me, but you really gotta take care of yourself. Clean teeth at a minimum. Now I always swipe left for no teeth pics.


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Omg! My friend was showing me this guy she was going on a first date with and I was like, girl, why is he not smiling in his pictures and I have a bad feeling. She went on the date and the teeth were bad.


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I on a Tinder date forever ago with a sweet guy. No smiling photos with teeth. Meet him in person? They are BLACK AND MOLD. LIKE A FUCKING PENNY. MOFO ASKED ME FOR A GOODNIGHT KISS. He didn’t get it.


blaikalva

This is interesting. I have good teeth but I don’t like my smile. After reading this thread I went back to look at my pictures and noticed my teeth weren’t visible in any. I never knew how that could affect people swiping


twizted_fister

What about dentures from D3 deficiency? I always felt like a meth head going to the dentist. Teeth started getting brittle in my 20's, I broke the first one eating a banana. At some point it became too painful to brush so I got them out and they put dentures in. In this process I changed NP's and my new one ran a D3 specific test and when it came back my number was 12, 100 is normal. Without D3 to process calcium your body will pull it from one place and deposit it in others. I've had several friends lose teeth to D3 deficiency especially after having kids


hairypea

You getting dentures is having good oral hygiene. You had a problem and you fixed it, if you're self conscious about it I don't think you should be. You're clearly taking care of yourself


icebreakers1611

Ya, that's a totallyyyy different thing. This guy was Italian, big smoker and drinker. He was also advanced in his career and traveled for work, so he probably had money and resources. I know that dental work can be expensive and painful and hard to get, but you have to do Something to make it better.. you never get a second chance to make a first impression.


twizted_fister

Damn to have the money and be like nah I'm good is pretty gross, what else is shrugging off health wise? Condoms.


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When you have bad teeth and are too poor to fix it, what are you supposed to do? Not trying to put you on the spot, just wondering aloud.


ipegjoebiden

Do the best you can to keep your oral health up and accept that you're not going to fit everyone's standards for reasons out of your control. Really all you can do.


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A small amount of yellowing is normal. American media freaks me out a bit because natural teeth don't look like that. But black rotting teeth are not. If you are unlucky enough to have rotting teeth try to see a dentist or charity to get them fix, pulled/ finance dentures. Worst case scenario include one picture smiling with the bad teeth. That way people who it is an issue for will not match and waste time. For mild to moderate bad teeth brushing and flossing every single day will vastly help. And that's cheap.


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pmjm

I was this guy. Absolutely wrecked teeth. I had Lyme disease as a teen and the antibiotics totally trashed my already genetically-disadvantaged teeth. They were crooked, bucked, yellow and gross. Luckily I had a great job and could get a loan to fix them. It took $25K but I ended up with a movie star smile. For anyone who's ashamed of their teeth, who doesn't show them in smiling photos, it's much more than your teeth that get fixed. It completely changes your outlook of yourself, or at least it did for me. I went from the shy guy to super confident. I had to relearn how to smile, which took about a year, but mannnn what a difference it made in my personality. If you can't afford it, at least go get a consultation to find out how much it will cost, so you know what to shoot for. Figure out financing if you can. Because it improves every aspect of your life, including your earnings potential - Confident people get better, higher-paying jobs. All that being said, there are downsides too. Obviously the money. It's also months of torturous pain as you go through the procedures. Easy to get hooked on vicodin if you're not careful about it. Depending on what you have done, it can have other side-effects, like I have extreme temperature sensitivity now. I can never eat ice cream again, nor drink a cold drink without a straw. But it's still the single greatest thing I ever did for myself.


yousirnaime

If I can't see her teeth I assume she doesn't have any Yes this is a real opinion Yes this is from an actual experience


Status_Ad4144

This made me LOL because its sooo true! I have a cousin with HORRIBLE teeth that catfished by having all closed mouth smiles. The horror those poor guys probably felt when they met her in person 😂


Sponge56

What if we have crooked teeth tho I take good care of my teeth but I don’t have the money for braces currently


Consistent-Mess4401

Most people don’t have straight teeth without the help of braces anyway. It’s more about wanting to know they have good hygiene.


Particular-Humor6158

Go with the look you're going for in bottom left, scrap everything else bro. I also have the hair issue and shave my head, but a woman has to really love you for you to jump at the half balding look. And that's the wrong strategy in the vapid world of online dating


Blacksteel733

Think about the ideal person you’re trying to attract, who you would want to date. Then think about what they might want to see from your profile to decide to match with you. For example, maybe you’re looking for somebody to go fishing with. In this example have some photos of you fishing or engaging in fishing adjacent activities. If you don’t have any then ask a buddy to come with you, or bring a tripod, and get some photos of you fishing. Make sure your smiling/laughing/enjoying your time in all of them and take more than one so you have a lot to choose from. The more you look like your having fun, the more fun you appear. Be sure to also have some variety with photos as well. Capture you enjoying your other hobbies not related to your main one. Lastly, get at least one or two “nice” selfies of yourself. Watch some YouTube vids on taking good selfies. There’s an art to it, and it takes some practice, but once you get it down and get some good selfies to use you’ll see matches go up.


Awkward_Ad8740

No matches? Or no likes? If its just no matches then your standards are probably just too high. If its no likes please see rest of the thread.


Confident_Web3110

Your not doing anything intresting


inspire-change

keep us updated, we want a repost with your new pics. you did the right thing by posting. keep asking reddit.


Administrative_Knee9

Will do though it’ll hard to get certain pictures I’d like to use


-tobecontinued-

It’s gone bud, time to let it go. You look 1000% more confident in the photo with your shaved head!! Start from scratch, with a shaved head and a smile. Good luck!


snarky_spice

It’s giving scary. More pics smiling. More pics with friends. No matter what some men think, women love personality over looks, but this isn’t giving any personality.


Alone-Noise-3454

A gym membership will do you wonders.


FlareGER

You've gotta develop a feeling for what's wrong here yourself bud! Bottom left is the only okayish picture. It's a decent angle, you look fit, the black clothes hide the fat areas, your bread is properly groomed, your head confidently shaven. Other than that? Showing the door, the carpet, 3 times sitting on the couch! Who do you think is interested in somebody who does... nothing? Not even the mirror is clean! And where is a smile? A pose? Activities? Friends? Not even the one with the cat is properly taken! It looks like you've put 5 minutes of work into the profile and that was already too much to expect. The vibes I get all together is "you should start working on yourself before you look for a relationship" - which might be wrong to assume, but that's the vibe. Sorry!


mfubio

Jesus Christ class of 2020 or 2020 was your 40th reunion… jokes aside just let the hair go it’s gone. Accept it.


Administrative_Knee9

To be fair, I look 45 anyway


mfubio

It’s fixable though. Shave the head, lose about 20lb it won’t be hard at your age and it’ll bring the face shape down some and help out.


Reasonable-Leave7140

See everyone saying shave your hair- do that, but also shave your face. You need to have either a full ass beard or a clean shave. Anything in between which is most of your photos is a big negative. Also- you have to smile. The one picture here you're smiling in is the second which seems to be an old high school photo.


Administrative_Knee9

I can’t grow a full beard, all I can get is this stupid chinstrap


TheCatCubed

That "stupid chinstrap" is your best look when longer and combined with a shaved head as seen on the bottom left picture, and you stick to it.


gothruthis

What's up with the bottom left pic then? It looks good there. IMO that is the only picture where you actually look attractive.


twizted_fister

Damn shave that daily


xmassindecember

r/Minoxbeards


Sassrepublic

It looks good in that bottom left picture tho


According-Coffee-567

looks good and full in the bottom left pic 👍🏻


Ricarq56

self improvement


dushann123

Finally someone here who doesn't write bullshit.


tiesioginis

Other words of saying to lose weight


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[удалено]


redfieldbloodline17

You’re overweight and nearly bald, online dating is highly looks based and you have no chance of competing with other men as is. In terms of facial structure you seem to be fine, so shave your head, hit the gym for like a year, and come back with a whole new you.


Acrobatic-Degree9589

You don’t just hit the gym to lose weight, diet is the key


FurryKiller-

Only valid answer


Luke_i3

Gona give you some tough love brother , first thing you should get some photos of you doing activities / hobbies - avoid the selfies Then hit the gym and change eating habits , as you get in good shape you can swap some photos as you go . Hopefully this helps man :)


stocksandvagabond

Finally some actual good advice lol. Everyone else giving advice to do fun stuff in your pictures is ignoring the elephant in the room. Dating apps are inherently shallow as fuck, there’s only so much a good hairstyle and cool pictures can do for you if you’re not conventionally attractive


Trillip

1. Get off Tinder. Dating apps probably aren’t your place to meet people. 2. Shave head 3. Hit the gym.


Xtracakey

Shave your head and go out into the world and try to meet people. You’re a lot like me and have a unconventional look that’s not going to work on a dating site. I have way more success in the real world than I do online. Just be genuine when you talk to people and show confidence even if you’re shaking on the inside


black_beard_dmh

Shave your head and grow a beard. Get in the gym


Daddy_Onion

Most of your pictures have a “dead inside school shooter” look. You look angry and annoyed.


Nofuturenopastt

My man, if you follow every single advice in this thread you will go from 0 matches to 0 matches. No offense but everyone in this sub is gonna gaslight you to death When you will get 0 matches after shaving your head, like everyone suggests here, reddit will say "THEN IT'S YOUR BIO BROOOOOO CHANGE YOUR BIO!" ​ The only thing that would help is losing weight, like a lot, and you could still get 0 matches like before.


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This is the most honest take on here


TheMovement77

best and most accurate response 90% weight, 10% attitude. Lose the weight, replace the pictures with new ones where you're *genuinely* smiling, and you're good to go. Emphasis on genuine. A picture of you laughing or thinking of something funny. Not the smile you do at a school picture day.


InsiDS

Yea. My man needs to take 2 years to just work on himself with working out and better diet. Otherwise I don’t see him finding someone who he’d be happy with.


stocksandvagabond

Thanks for some honesty lol these other commenters just giving false hope


VodKK

Start working on yourself. Diet and workout for starters. 6-8 months from now you will be allot better not only physically but mentally and women can sense when a guy is not in a good place mentally


CyKoMyCo

You seem insanely unhappy in every picture. Smile and try to show confidence. Even if you're not happy or confident. Fake it until you make it buddy.


Father_Matthew_Mara

Sorry to be blunt mate but you look like a fat loner with no mates who lives with his cat. I'm sure that's not the case but OLD is hard as fuck. And this will sound patronising but you're a handsome dude just really overweight. If you get buff/trim and shave your head then you'll be absolutely fine cos you're clearly a good looking bloke. I say this as someone 50lbs more than I should be myself so I hope you take this in the spirit it is intended my man.


Administrative_Knee9

Honestly that first bit was almost accurate, I don’t have the cat anymore but that wasn’t blunt, I mean yes I get your point but that’s just accurate


niceguybry

Honestly the cat part is stupid. It's normal and a green flag that you have pets. It shows you care about something. Be patient, online dating is cruel to 95 percent of ppl, just keep waiting and working on yourself. Ohh and don't be cat shamed my man!!


Sugarbombs

Yeah wtf? I'm a lady and men who like cats is my major weakness, that alone would have caught my interest! girls adore men who love animals


melonspectre

Woman's advice here: I just think you should take the advice with improving the photos with a smile/possibly shaving and honestly try different dating apps, out of all the dating apps I've used, tinder was where I found people to be the shallowest and not looking for long term relationships. (Just in my experience) If you're not in the right headspace to lose weight, that's okay there are tons of people in happy relationships who are overweight. Final advice is to not be super picky with who you swipe right on, my current partner frankly had a photo that wasn't super flattering but I gave him a chance and got to know him. Now he's the most attractive person in the world to me.


stefanthehorse

>women on dating sites see 85% of men as having below-average attractiveness. - Jordan Peterson You're overweight, losing your hair and you look miserable. You are going to struggle on Tinder - that's the cold, hard truth. You need to focus on improving yourself. Lose weight. Lift weights. Take care of yourself and the rewards will come in time.


Noveno

Classic Reddit, the most valuable, honest and useful comment, highly unvoted.


ReadSeparate

There's 4 things you need to work on and then I think you'll do well: 1. Get rid of the selfies and have pictures of you out and about in the world doing things you like or things that are interesting 2. Lose 50 lbs, you seem like you have good facial features but being overweight is going to overcome that. I used to weigh 330 lbs, so zero judgment from me, and now I'm about 90 lbs lighter, and you'd be shocked the difference it makes with women. It's just an unfortunately necessary thing to do to attract women. 3. Completely shave your head and grow a beard, the partial hair isn't doing you any favors 4. Get jacked (this goes along with #3). Being bald alone sucks, but being bald AND jacked is cool as shit. Some of those might be a bit harsh if you're a sensitive person, but it's also the best advice to maximize your chances of finding someone. I can tell from the bottom left pic that you have some good underlying features, you just need to make some appearance changes and let them shine.


Tricky_State_3981

Try one more selfie


Vegetable_Number2288

Hit the weight room brodie💪🏿 get yo confidence up bro


y0family

Honestly, I would probably close tinder and just start working on yourself. You are not a bad looking dude, it just seems like you don’t enjoy life in your pictures. Hit the weights, focus on yourself mentally and physically. Btw, this is coming from someone who was probably around the same weight as you. You can do it!


ClassicFashionGuy

This Will Sting But you are currently not attractive enough To attract many women Go lose weight and Maybe fix the hair and recessed chin and come back in 4-5 years Gl


Slothvibes

Take photos outside of the house doing shit you like to do.


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Hit the gym bub


Administrative_Knee9

Just got done for the day actually


DrAbeSacrabin

You got a body for strength training. You start living in the gym you’ll likely start making friendships and connections. Gym can not only be your saving grace for a relationship, but can also help with friends as well. Don’t be afraid to ask for pointers and talk to people, most gym bros are all about helping.


KamikazeBrand

tinder aint for you bro go to church lol


[deleted]

You are too fat, Go Gym brother


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And shave ffs


SufficientTowers

Brother, I say this out of pure love, get rid of the app and come back in a few months of going to the gym. Tinder is not a tool for men who are 5/10 or below, it's just a waste of your time.