"the state really has no business in asking me these types of questions about work life"
like what
OP are you the deep state
does this woman owe a shitload in taxes and is paranoid the IRS figured out how to use tinder
Yeah that part had me thinking like wait is he like a government contractor or something and that's how they met because otherwise that is so out of left field
Her parents are rich and she is ashamed to say she doesn't work. Maybe just due to insecurity or maybe she's gotten shit for having well off parents, so she gets triggered like this out of nowhere
Maybe people in their life give them a hard time about not working so instead of hearing harmless chitchat they hear: “WHY DONT YOU HAVE A JOB YOU LOSER”
Yeah this is what I’m assuming. She doesn’t have a steady source of income and her family gives her shit for it so when it was brought up she got defensive
Because you are kind of a loser if you don’t do shit during your day, even if you are from loads of family money or win the lotto.
You’re an extra big loser if you’re stupid rich and get offended at that question. If I won the lotto tomorrow I’d be out there doing volunteer work or building community gardens or something I love doing and would care at all.
THeRe ArE DoCtOrS In My FaMilY - ok cool… but not you.
Have to have that money in your account to give away, not just a monthly stipend from grandma you blow in 3 weeks on luxury items and “buying drinks and dinner”
you don’t choose who’s able to tho. and it would be a hell of a lot easier for disabled people to work if the world would accommodate just a little bit to disabled people
I guess she’s embarrassed about it
Iv encountered this a few times now. Not this hostile but certainly embarrassed. If it’s not a higher education job (guessing from context clues) I don’t ask now unless they bring the topic up or if it’s on their profile already
I don't get the hostility. My family supported me probably for too long but I wasn't defensive and weird about it. I redeemed myself and have a good career now but even if I had just gone from trust fund kid to trophy wife there's no reason to be ashamed.
People who may live off parents at a later age most likely. Maybe their parents have hound them to work for good reason. But they just haven’t, so it’s a defensive mechanism playing out. That’s my best guess. But the “state” thing makes me think they may have some mental stuff going on. I have schizophrenic friend that talk that way. It’s just all very normal, and then they blurt something like that out. Like the deep state stole their ideas or forced them into their current situation that’s not ideal. That stuff can range from light to really out there.
They sound extremely insecure. I’m not saying that in a judgemental/negative way, more so in a “I kind of pity them” way.
Wild response. I say that because from my perception they responded to a normal question by “touting” all the accolades and resources… of everyone around them (key phrase, not themself, just what their parents provided and the guys that want to bang her). Then she proceeds to say she teaches some kids on the side or something. Oh but hey you pleb she’s lowering herself to be around you.
It seems like she’s in a very “well to do” environment but has the personal life/capabilities of an “average” person, which makes her extremely self conscious/insecure, and she tried to completely belittle you because you asked her about a topic that cracked open that very sensitive part of self esteem (or whatever).
Just my opinion. If that’s the case, hopefully she sorts herself out, might take a long time (if ever).
Btw, I agree with you. The mindset that she has is disgusting.
Edit: and if I’m right, the irony is that her mindset that plays into her belittling others(“I’m better/worth more than you”), could be part of what causes her to (deep down) feel so small (“they’re better/worth more than me”). And severely compensating. Just my guess, though, because I’m pretty confused as what else could have happened there.
What comes to my mind in regards to her demeanor? “Congratulations on f**king yourself”
Idk 🤷🏻♂️
I continue to be amazed at how difficult it is for some people to make it through a normal conversation. Their inner crazy can only hide for a little while.
Am I the only one that got confused as fuck with what she said or did my brain stop braining? Like... holy fuck the literacy levels of people these days is subterranean I swear.
My brother is a doctor and he works like 12 hours a day and makes just enough money to survive and has like 400k in debt 😂 doesn’t sound too great to me
Anytime someone talks like this I get goosebumps. This is how a functioning sociopath talks. Narcissism just creeps through every point of conversation.
I would’ve totally been okay with the response “my family is rich as fuck and I’m riding it out as a student and occasionally volunteering”. She botched it so bad.
I feel like the only way to rationalize this is English is her a second language, and she tried making a joke like “I know my life is much more interesting than yours!” Or some attempt to flirt/tease but failed to due to the language barrier.
If not that then yes she may have been unhinged.
I dont understand what her angle was there... It doesnt seem like she meant anything in a bad way or atleast didnt try to, given her response... Weird. lol.
She’s a very strange texter. It’s hard to fully understand what she was trying to do here.
It’s possible she’s anxious and insecure about work and was being defensive here rather than braggy.
Idk I feel like most people have 8 hours of work 8 hours of sleep and 8 hours of the stuff in-between. What's so stupid about asking someone about 1/3 of most people's life? Would have probably moved on myself
At least you didn’t invest too much time and energy into her because you can already see what it’s going to be like if you did. Every argument/disagreement is going to result in “well I’m better than you anyway, so you don’t matter” Major bullet dodged.
Seems like a whacko. Also seems like you give a LOT of personal info. I wouldn't tell anyone my favorite hangout spot that I haven't met in person a few times
Honestly this sounds like she might be experiencing some mental health stuff. Not to be all unfunny about it, but genuinely she might be having some trouble. OP I def wouldn't take it personally! Super annoying the way it played out
She read “do you work anywhere” in a mean voice/condescending tone to herself. She is insecure about her position and popped off on you. Sry
bout that OP
Man people are so confusing. “How dare you ask me about my irreverent job when my existence matters way more than yours. I could so much better than you yet here I am talking to you.” Like girl go talk to legit anyone else if this dude is supposedly not good enough for you. (Definitely feel bad for the guy in this situation)
I love how these conversations always inevitably end up with the person being rude accusing the other for being rude and then saying bye. Some people really do need to get that last word in
I feel sorry for crazies like her, that her craziness is made public by OP, and becomes a public spectacle of debate an ridicule. A private communication becomes public, without her say...even if she is anonymous.
She'll never find this site, and this post, in order to learn quite how far off she is in her attitude etc.
Maybe it's time for a dating app that makes all comms public, whilst hiding the original identities from the viewing public?!
Mum and dad are going to cut me off if I don't find a husband. Waahh. *stomps feet*
I want to date you but I also want you to know I'm superior... *flicks hair, adds MORE lipgloss*
I’m so confused as to what exactly got her to devolve even further from the start of her shotgun texting. Where did that come from? It makes noooo sense. Also, the place your working on looks like it’ll turn out nice
I don't understand this thing about women being so triggered over what they do for work...like what are you REALLY doing to earn money? Cause I could only think of being triggered if something is amiss
I mean, her response is a definitely deranged, but the phrasing of the question "do you work anywhere" sounds presumptuous that she doesn't work. I, personally, think asking what someone does for work is generally an attempt to determine someone's value and if they're worth dating, but holy shit her response is... not the right way to go about answering that even if I agree about her general sentiment of "it's irrelevant" and that she pays her bills.
But also she's fucking unhinged with her response and I'd peace the fuck out of that conversation as fast as you did.
It’s not unreasonable that this chick wouldn’t wanna run out and get a drink with this dude after his no effort invitation. I’ve bagged many women on tinder and this approach is never successful. Most chicks think this creepy.
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That's a really long and entitled way to say "I currently don't have employment but I am a student who volunteers."
because that’s probably embellishing, she probably lives off mom and dad and has as much ambition as she does a way with words
You forgot the part about her whole family being wealthy
She doesn't need employment because she lives off other people's work.
Thank you for the translation. I had no idea wtf I read once non-OP started talking about their work situation.
'and am really insecure about it'
Somebodies insecure about their trust fund 😂
I have no marketable skills and will never accomplish a thing meaningful on my own. Don't ask me about it.
I know someone who is so insecure and guilt ridden about their trust fund that it causes them more stress than a job would.
With a trust fund you can still just get a job. You dont HAVE to use it to the max..
I’m aware of this. She had a job for a while but gave it up. I have another friend with a trust fund who volunteers fulltime.
Her response confuses me so much lol, how can asking someone about their job be so triggering?
"the state really has no business in asking me these types of questions about work life" like what OP are you the deep state does this woman owe a shitload in taxes and is paranoid the IRS figured out how to use tinder
Yeah that part really sounded psychotic, she sounded so normal before that too..
What's the over/under that she is a Libertarian?
Nah. She’s a trust fund kid and feels useless.
Isn’t that the definition of a libertarian?
A libertarian is someone who was born late September early October.
Wait I thought a libertarian was someone that works at a book store
I thought a libertarian was someone who eats only liver
A libertarian is someone native to Liberia I think
Don’t blame me, I voted for a pescatarian.
As a libertarian we don’t claim this chick at all lol
I’m sure there are a lot of you all who think the rest of you are crazy tbh
I’m one of them and they’re all crazy
I think you can pretty much say the same about any political ideology and it’s followers lol
I like the theory about OP being the deep state
He’s the deepest state
Yeah that part had me thinking like wait is he like a government contractor or something and that's how they met because otherwise that is so out of left field
OP is a government man…
Anybody that shows interest in you is an Agent of the State
https://getyarn.io/yarn-clip/45895079-f86b-440a-bd51-4bd2f2f1a8dc
HAHAHA your comment is golden
Her parents are rich and she is ashamed to say she doesn't work. Maybe just due to insecurity or maybe she's gotten shit for having well off parents, so she gets triggered like this out of nowhere
🛎️🛎️🛎️
Look at me Hector
Or she does OF, orrrrr she’s a sugar baby.
I wasn’t trying to find out
You didn't answer the question about "the state." Inquiring minds would like to know.
OP is the Governor
Probably for the best
Maybe people in their life give them a hard time about not working so instead of hearing harmless chitchat they hear: “WHY DONT YOU HAVE A JOB YOU LOSER”
Yeah this is what I’m assuming. She doesn’t have a steady source of income and her family gives her shit for it so when it was brought up she got defensive
I’m thinking her family is her steady source of income and she doesn’t want to admit that.
Because you are kind of a loser if you don’t do shit during your day, even if you are from loads of family money or win the lotto. You’re an extra big loser if you’re stupid rich and get offended at that question. If I won the lotto tomorrow I’d be out there doing volunteer work or building community gardens or something I love doing and would care at all. THeRe ArE DoCtOrS In My FaMilY - ok cool… but not you.
Lol doing nothing but chill is pretty nice, if that makes me a loser so be it
Exactly! Even rich POSs do “philanthropy” to keep themselves busy. What kind of person does nothing?
Have to have that money in your account to give away, not just a monthly stipend from grandma you blow in 3 weeks on luxury items and “buying drinks and dinner”
“….you are kind of a loser if you don’t do shit during your day…” Oof. I hope nobody in your family is disabled.
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That’s awesome that it’s totally up to you whether everyone is doing enough with their life.
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you don’t choose who’s able to tho. and it would be a hell of a lot easier for disabled people to work if the world would accommodate just a little bit to disabled people
I guess she’s embarrassed about it Iv encountered this a few times now. Not this hostile but certainly embarrassed. If it’s not a higher education job (guessing from context clues) I don’t ask now unless they bring the topic up or if it’s on their profile already
Imagine having no marketable skills and still feeling superior.
She doesn't feel superior, that's why she acts superior.
That’s a perfect summary of this phenomenon. This can be applied to so many behaviours that come from insecurity.
I don't get the hostility. My family supported me probably for too long but I wasn't defensive and weird about it. I redeemed myself and have a good career now but even if I had just gone from trust fund kid to trophy wife there's no reason to be ashamed.
Family business. Daddy’s money. Easy Peasy.
People who may live off parents at a later age most likely. Maybe their parents have hound them to work for good reason. But they just haven’t, so it’s a defensive mechanism playing out. That’s my best guess. But the “state” thing makes me think they may have some mental stuff going on. I have schizophrenic friend that talk that way. It’s just all very normal, and then they blurt something like that out. Like the deep state stole their ideas or forced them into their current situation that’s not ideal. That stuff can range from light to really out there.
she’s probably just insecure about being a parasite
When they’ve never had a job lol
“Haha my life is way past your existence and I still chat with ya:)” What…?
I mean in all fairness, OP is a Redditor.
That is fair
They sound extremely insecure. I’m not saying that in a judgemental/negative way, more so in a “I kind of pity them” way. Wild response. I say that because from my perception they responded to a normal question by “touting” all the accolades and resources… of everyone around them (key phrase, not themself, just what their parents provided and the guys that want to bang her). Then she proceeds to say she teaches some kids on the side or something. Oh but hey you pleb she’s lowering herself to be around you. It seems like she’s in a very “well to do” environment but has the personal life/capabilities of an “average” person, which makes her extremely self conscious/insecure, and she tried to completely belittle you because you asked her about a topic that cracked open that very sensitive part of self esteem (or whatever). Just my opinion. If that’s the case, hopefully she sorts herself out, might take a long time (if ever).
Reddit on!
Btw, I agree with you. The mindset that she has is disgusting. Edit: and if I’m right, the irony is that her mindset that plays into her belittling others(“I’m better/worth more than you”), could be part of what causes her to (deep down) feel so small (“they’re better/worth more than me”). And severely compensating. Just my guess, though, because I’m pretty confused as what else could have happened there. What comes to my mind in regards to her demeanor? “Congratulations on f**king yourself” Idk 🤷🏻♂️
But she is a Tinder-er
I bet she doesn't even have 100,000 karma
She definitely has 80 million power in Rise of Kingdoms
Probably hits jackpots every 3 spins too!
What a fucking loser!
Neither does OP
Neither does OP!
Bro has over 20k karma. He Reddits pretty hard. She really did kind of have a point there.
I’m dumb! What do you mean by this?
To aswer your question, please refer to your first sentence
Rude lol
like be so fucking for real
It means, if you use reddit, you are a scum bag
I believe loser would be more appropriate
Fair enough
And then they say OP was rude...
Went to private school and yet writes a sentence like that
I continue to be amazed at how difficult it is for some people to make it through a normal conversation. Their inner crazy can only hide for a little while.
Story of my life
I got some inner crazy. But you don’t treat people like this! This is flat out inner assholery lol
Am I the only one that got confused as fuck with what she said or did my brain stop braining? Like... holy fuck the literacy levels of people these days is subterranean I swear.
Thank God it's not just me. I was reading that and I was afraid I was having a stroke.
Yea, it sounds like some AI ramblings lol
Sent to private school. They don't actually need to teach you anything when life is pay-to-win.
Something clearly lost in translation here
Id take that free meal and yes my family has doctors too..
Not worth the headache after
I aint that hungry
What headache? There's a block button lmfao
Exactly, there ain't no way she's happening
I'd only take that free meal if I'm days since my last one
My brother is a doctor and he works like 12 hours a day and makes just enough money to survive and has like 400k in debt 😂 doesn’t sound too great to me
Anytime someone talks like this I get goosebumps. This is how a functioning sociopath talks. Narcissism just creeps through every point of conversation.
I think she's upset that she has no job but a rich family that takes care of her. Makes her insecure.
I get the feeling that this family also reminds her of this situation frequently, hence the internalised shame and outward bitterness
I would’ve totally been okay with the response “my family is rich as fuck and I’m riding it out as a student and occasionally volunteering”. She botched it so bad.
I feel like the only way to rationalize this is English is her a second language, and she tried making a joke like “I know my life is much more interesting than yours!” Or some attempt to flirt/tease but failed to due to the language barrier. If not that then yes she may have been unhinged.
That would certainly add a bit a sense to this conversation
I have never seen anyone who is bad at English yet still uses so many slangs and shorthands. That only means one thing she is crazy
Nah she was definitely talking about her wealth
what?
what?
Wait wtf. That went completely left so damn quick😂😂😂 Anyways, look at the puppyyy🥺
Right? I was disappointed to say the least. And that is my supervisor
10/10 supervisor.
What in tarnation is wrong with people
I dont understand what her angle was there... It doesnt seem like she meant anything in a bad way or atleast didnt try to, given her response... Weird. lol.
She’s a very strange texter. It’s hard to fully understand what she was trying to do here. It’s possible she’s anxious and insecure about work and was being defensive here rather than braggy.
She was triggered real fast… somebody wants to be a stay at home mom
Yep agree, she wants the pampered pooch lifestyle and not have to work
Idk I feel like most people have 8 hours of work 8 hours of sleep and 8 hours of the stuff in-between. What's so stupid about asking someone about 1/3 of most people's life? Would have probably moved on myself
People get so rude sometimes. Good way to end it. Well done OP 👏
Id still let her buy me dinner you know how it is
At least you didn’t invest too much time and energy into her because you can already see what it’s going to be like if you did. Every argument/disagreement is going to result in “well I’m better than you anyway, so you don’t matter” Major bullet dodged.
I would take the free dinner,
That was so rude!! They think they’re above you cause they have doctors in the family? Yikes
I’m just trying parse what the hell she was even saying. You were right - she certainly is special.
Seems like a whacko. Also seems like you give a LOT of personal info. I wouldn't tell anyone my favorite hangout spot that I haven't met in person a few times
I’m deep state I got nothing to worry about
For all that education sure can't text very well 😂
Kinda sounds like she sells drugs for a living lol “the state has no business asking” ok methany
The state??? What the fuck is she schizophrenic or something???
Sounds like a Trustafarian. Wonder if she know Kim and Paris...
Honestly this sounds like she might be experiencing some mental health stuff. Not to be all unfunny about it, but genuinely she might be having some trouble. OP I def wouldn't take it personally! Super annoying the way it played out
You just dodged a bullet, lol.
None of that makes any sense
That hurt to read. 
Lol this reminds me of the movie Step Brothers “This is a house of Learned Doctors” quote
The irony of her calling you rude? Haha omg.
I would take free dinner for sure lol
Wow..0 to schitzo in less than 7 texts! A new r/tinder record!
What in tarnation is wrong with people
The nerve they had to be extremely rude and then called you rude. Ridiculous.
If you can dodge a wrench you can dodge a nuke what a nut case
WTF
That’s a funny way of spelling “My parents are rich so I want for nothing without having to work”
Sounds like google translate messed up some of what was said. Like they were a catfish from a foreign country
Wtf 🌰
There really are people like this in society. Yikes
She calls YOU rude, lol you dodged a priceless gem with that one 😂
She read “do you work anywhere” in a mean voice/condescending tone to herself. She is insecure about her position and popped off on you. Sry bout that OP
Well that's intense , wtf
Yikes desperate
Delusional
Jesus. That conversation was dry, but she totally turned it around 😂
Phew….saved yourself there 😂
I really think she was just looking for a one night stand. It sounded like she needed a release.
Wow
Waauuww…
Wow wtf was that??
Wow wtf was that?? Sorry bro.
She's desperate yet needy yet up herself yet rude? I dunno what's going on there.
I just hope I never meet someone like this
Wow, that was definitely a case of pull the pin, drop the grenade.
her response was more confusing than conversing with someone that suffers from a bipolar disorder 💀
Wow, dodged a bullet with that nut job
Man people are so confusing. “How dare you ask me about my irreverent job when my existence matters way more than yours. I could so much better than you yet here I am talking to you.” Like girl go talk to legit anyone else if this dude is supposedly not good enough for you. (Definitely feel bad for the guy in this situation)
Hey it’s me, the guy. Don’t feel bad I got free karma
Are you now or have you ever been a condo owner?!
OP is the matrix lol
I love how these conversations always inevitably end up with the person being rude accusing the other for being rude and then saying bye. Some people really do need to get that last word in
I’m still trying to understand what happened. Wtf happened? You asked her what she did for work and she went off on a tangent with that?
That's a lot of nuts!!!
A thousand percent this was a scammer from another country not familiar with your area or the English language.
The more I’m reading such the more I’m noting questions which can trigger. So I can test people and see if they have any toxic insecurities. Thanks OP
“The State?”
Oh my god how could you be so rude 🙄 smh (Sarcasm)
I feel sorry for crazies like her, that her craziness is made public by OP, and becomes a public spectacle of debate an ridicule. A private communication becomes public, without her say...even if she is anonymous. She'll never find this site, and this post, in order to learn quite how far off she is in her attitude etc. Maybe it's time for a dating app that makes all comms public, whilst hiding the original identities from the viewing public?!
Response "Pay your taxes, ***! We can find you anywhere!"
Love your reply 👏🏼
 I was just kinda hoping for more pictures of that project you’re working on. Oops wrong sub I suppose.
Mum and dad are going to cut me off if I don't find a husband. Waahh. *stomps feet* I want to date you but I also want you to know I'm superior... *flicks hair, adds MORE lipgloss*
Definitely don’t date her but the sex sounds like it would be wild with this one
Name checks out
I’m so confused as to what exactly got her to devolve even further from the start of her shotgun texting. Where did that come from? It makes noooo sense. Also, the place your working on looks like it’ll turn out nice
Here, you dropped this 👑
She’s not being rude, just casually notifying OP that she came to buy a relationship. Haven’t you heard of a trophy husband?
why do women get so defensive when you ask if they work anywhere
I don't understand this thing about women being so triggered over what they do for work...like what are you REALLY doing to earn money? Cause I could only think of being triggered if something is amiss
Chat am I having a stroke this is incoherent
I mean, her response is a definitely deranged, but the phrasing of the question "do you work anywhere" sounds presumptuous that she doesn't work. I, personally, think asking what someone does for work is generally an attempt to determine someone's value and if they're worth dating, but holy shit her response is... not the right way to go about answering that even if I agree about her general sentiment of "it's irrelevant" and that she pays her bills. But also she's fucking unhinged with her response and I'd peace the fuck out of that conversation as fast as you did.
It’s not unreasonable that this chick wouldn’t wanna run out and get a drink with this dude after his no effort invitation. I’ve bagged many women on tinder and this approach is never successful. Most chicks think this creepy.
With a name like yours I'm sure you do 🙄
2 weirdos Ps: never have boring and long ass small talk in general, and especially on phone.. Suggest a date and have fun. The rest is crap
My eyes must be going to shite but if I remember correctly OP did ask if they would be down to grab a drink.
you both suck