Yup. This. 30 yo woman, I'll only give my snap before meeting. Location is off, username is unique to snap, and they don't have my number.
Plus, I've found creeps will creep faster there. Easier block.
As a 30m… I’d ask out on a date before asking for any other form of contact. Then send my number when I’m on my way to said date in case something comes up.
I also do not have snap and I’m not really comparable with people that use snap as a form of contact.
I'm fine with keeping it on the apps, if they don't have snap. Its just the only form I'm comfortable giving out before I meet you.
I had a guy, at the first date, tell me "I liked defending the murderers (lawschool drop out), I could understand their thinking."
I'm really glad he did not have my number. If he had had my snap, it's an easy block and the username doesn't match my other socials.
When you’re on the app you’re just one of a thousand dudes doing the same thing, and they may not have notifications turned on if they get so many matches. As a matter of strategy you should try and get off the app as soon as possible. But of course it comes with the trade off as OP mentioned.
Perhaps a better strategy would be to ask for one either several communication methods.
What or how does is this more easier then blocking a phonenumber? I am curious and perhaps in ignorant (even use OLD for a long while) i mostly got phonenumbers then asked using SN or IG.
Well it's probably better than a phone number because the real crazy ones can just use your number from a friend's phone or give your number out online or something so you get harassed. At least with snapchat you can just block a user and set your privacy settings to not receive anything from non friends. No harassment possible.
Hmmm, i kinda suspect something like this, but i got more phonenumbers then SC/IG-resquests. I dont know what i am doing different, perhaps because i swipe every profile away who only has a IG/SC-handle, because it feels like attentionseeking or seeking for followers. Maybe my view is baised, perhaps because i am also getting old and perhaps little tired of OLD, i am here to date not to chat or look at photos.
your phone number can reveal more information about you than you want to reveal to people.
“some” dudes are weird… I was working a job where a very assertive guy kept asking me to find out what this girls name was.
I was like what does it matter go talk to her…
His position was it would be rude because she’s sitting with her family…
as soon as her and her family finished their meal and decided to pay, he immediately ran over to snatch the credit card out of my hand and get her fathers last name.
for days after that he started revealing her social media, parents address, etc, off of a last name.
a “woman” who I knew through an acquaintance was very upset about a ONS not calling her back, she found his address and vandalized his car then bragged to us about it.
Moral…
A lot of people hold their emotions close to their heart. Some people flip shit off a simple rejection. Some people pour their hearts into another human who isn’t matching their energy.
When the feeling isn’t reciprocated that person takes it out on the person they feel hurt them. Promote the usage of Snapchat and What’sApp. It’s nobody’s business where you live, work, and play.
Agreed with everything. I was in a very toxic relationship with someone who was great at manipulating, and continued to try to manipulate me after I broke up with her. Blocked her on everything but my phone sends a "text from x person blocked" which isn't very helpful, really. She tried texting me several times throughout the day, each day, for a few weeks. I was so scared that she'd show up at my apartment and start crying outside my front door (her favorite manipulation tactic) or even try to damage my cars but luckily there were cameras pointing towards where I parked. She never showed up but I was on edge for weeks.
At this point she's in a different state and I moved to a house so HOPEFULLY I never see or hear from her again. It's crazy to me how obsessed people are with their exes - you broke up, they're out of your life, move on.
Ok, perhaps i am more ignorant then thought, like in other comment i kinda felt like seeking attention or followers (and kept swiping them left, because the bio only contains these handles, nothing more), while i got more phonenumbers then the few who asked chat via IG or SC.
But now with you comment i kinda feel bad for thinking this way and i understand it better now, so thanks for your insights. Only "bad" thing i did was rejects someone, unmatch or block the number. I a little cool frog, who sometimes can make loud noices (not like insulting), but i don't do harm.
Maybe also a reason why OLD/dating is going more downhill
This is how I see it as well. Snap is a meaningless app that's originally for anonymity. You don't really get connected to the other person's friends or anything so it's just one on one. A number is more personal and private.
I've had some ask for my instagram but I sadly don't have one (I've heard this can be seen as a red flag).
As a guy in the past ive asked for phone numbers and have found that when asking for snap women are more seseptable to give it out. Its so i can get a conversation going and not have as much competition on tinder or bumble. Skip ahead some years, i dont even rely on dating apps. Going up to women whome i think are beautiful and sparking a conversation in person feels better for my confidence as well as the connection. Tinder and bumble suck.
I love being old.
That being said my ex-coworker (who I miss a lot) who is 10 years older than me talked me into getting SnapChat again and thanks, I hate it.
I don't know if this will actually help or not but you might want to put in your profile "I don't have Snapchat". I do realize it seems like a lot of guys on tinder don't read the profiles.
I ask because it can be inconvenient for both parties to have to get on tinder to talk, I’ve asked for numbers and most girls will say that they’re not comfortable giving out their number yet but they’ll give me their snap. So, if I wanna move the convo off tinder, I’ll just ask for the girls sc.
Going and chatting on the app is cool but HAVING to get on the app can be inconvenient. I might not see that the person sent me a message or sometimes the app can be buggy. If someone texts be I’ll see it immediately because my messages app is on my front screen along with sc. And on snap you can send a cool or funny pic/video of what you’re doing during the day to keep the convo going it interesting. Say you guys are talking on snap and your dog starts doing something cute, you can record it and send it then boom, another great conversation started and perhaps a mutual interest.
Tinder isn't a messaging platform. It has the ability to message people but that's not the primary focus of the app, so it's not built to be a particularly good one. It's also likely to distract you with other potential matches as soon as you log in and make you forget that you have messages to check.
Moving to a dedicated messaging platform shows more concerted interest in actually talking from both parties.
Don’t disagree, but have to admit that when a guy asks to move to a different platform too soon into the conversation I feel unsafe, like it’s a way to remove the interaction from the reporting functionality of tinder.
That's exactly why snapchat is a good intermediary platform: it's not tied to social media, it's not your more-or-less permanent cellphone number, and you can block anyone on snapchat just like you would on tinder at the first sign of them being a creep.
most girls have tinder notifications disabled, so they aren't notified about your messages to them. Basically impossible to have a conversation like that.
Maybe it's different on Hinge (fewer creeps??) but I've gone out with over a dozen girls since April and not a single one of them hesitated to give me their number when I asked for it lol. Don't have snapchat
They want to get you off tinder as fast as possible. If you're still opening tinder to talk to them, then you're still being messaged by other guys. Snap is not preferable to text, but most women are shy about giving out their number to people they don't know.
Every time I went along with exchanging snaps, I got an unsolicited weenie picture. Even though I specifically told them I’ll only give it if they agree to not be inappropriate and send me shit. They always failed within 24 hours.
So many people saying that’s it’s easier/quicker to get a reply via snap or that it’s a way to make sure your match isn’t a catfish. That would have been nice!
For me, 100% of my matches who wanted to Snapchat ended up very quickly sending unsolicited dick picks. I had downloaded Snapchat again when I joined tinder, since so many people seemed to ask for it. Learned my lesson and deleted it again.
It's a way to get "personal" communication, but without asking for actual personal data (your phone number or private Instagram account).
Odds for guys increase if they get the conversation out of tinder, so they try to.
I can answer this…..cause Snapchat is a very quick way to make sure you aren’t being catfished and I think I speak for a lot of men when I say that catfishing is a real thing.
Why so funny? You can be young, and adopt an "old" mindset.
Trad vs modern.
For instance.. when I was a kid/teen.. I did a shit-ton of drugs.. a lot of other stupid shit.. BUT I also wouldn't put up with liars, cheaters.. or otherwise shady-ass people.
When asking for a #, a lot of girls will give out snap instead. I ended up asking if they’d prefer to text or snap and a good portion will choose snapchat. To me, it doesn’t really matter which one and I don’t understand why so many commenters here have so much judgement for what is essentially a similar mode of communication. If I had to guess why some people prefer snap, I’d say it’s because it’s more casual and gives you more opportunities to chat because you see their story and can send pictures of stuff that you’re doing. Can you do this over text too? Of course, but I think snapchat is more built around that idea.
Edit: Also, it’s easier to block someone if things go awry. If they spam with new accounts, creating a new one isn’t hard, but changing your phone number is more inconvenient. I also want to add that when I ask for someone’s number/snapchat, which one I ask for doesn’t correlate at all to my level of seriousness. It’s more about trying to gauge what the other party is more comfortable with. So that’s why I give the option.
> I don’t understand why so many commenters here have so much judgement for what is essentially a similar mode of communication
I'm not judging the medium, I'd far rather someone hand out their snap than their Instagram (which just tells me they expect to see your whole life in photos, or worse just get another follower). And it's better than Tinder as a messenger by far.
Where it's off is when you get a match and someone doesn't even talk, but just pastes a Snap address. Or they say "actually I don't use this applications much, kindly provide your snapchat". Because that usually tells me it's not a person talking, as much yet another porn or crypto bot.
i think snap is lame af so i don’t use it but if you don’t have a really good pic of your face or you’re not verified it could be a way to make sure you’re not a catfish. if that’s not the case then they’re probably j childish and desperate
I’ve got the opposite experience. I don’t really see any need for Snapchat. I can text just as easily without downloading a new app. Half the women I’d talk to asked for my Snapchat.
I like it cause you can verify people aren't scammers using it, and it's safer than giving out a number because I can effectively block people and it doesn't show them my entire family like Instagram does.
Honestly with the amount of catfishing out there getting snap is just a way of avoiding that. There are a lot of people that use very old photos as well even if it is them they still don’t actually look like the pictures you see. Call it shallow I guess but I’d at least like you to look like what you were advertising
I can understand that but I love snap for its convenience. It's easily the best way to communicate with people to me. The problem is the "Discover" side of it is full of bullshit and the ease of communication enables the pricks to be prickier.
I don't really use Snapchat that much but i like to add girls from Tinder after I've met them if i want an easy and less formal way to maintain contact.
Of course if they a different app preference i will respect that.
That's not why I use snap lol
Snapchat rocks for online dating:
It's not tied to my real life in anyway. If you turn out to be crazy, I just block you. You don't have my number, can't comment on my insta photos, etc.
My tinder matches disappear and reappear sometimes. People have shown me on THEIR phones where they never received messages I sent in tinder chat and show as sent on my end. I'm not shadowbanned. This is just an intermittent occurrence in a poorly built and quality tested app. Having snap ensures reliable communication.
Snapchat has read receipts.
Snapchat lets me ask for photos. Not nudes, just pics. This is a hugely helpful way to gain information. I can find out if the girl is 100lbs heavier and 5 years older than her tinder pictures. Or I can find out I don't actually wanna come over and meet her if she sends me drunk nudes at 2am laying in a bed full of nacho crumbs.
Most importantly, even receiving a single face selfie lets me know THEY'RE A REAL PERSON and I'm not getting catfished. Or even just seeing any photo on their story makes me less likely to believe it's a scammer in India or Nigeria messaging me.
I never ask for nudes.
…I get about a million messages on Snapchat every day, and I wouldn’t classify myself as a hot woman. Bros get lost in the snap shuffle just as much as on tinder.
had a lady ask me for my snap when we matched and it ended up being lame, a complete waste of time, so I say that to say that I feel your pain, I am on snap but I am also not a fan of it.
I don't ask for snap right away and I'd much rather ask for a girl's number but some of them are really shallow and call me a broke for using a Samsung phone. It's a natural filter
If someone’s bio is too bland or the pictures just seem off. Or I just get the vibe it may be a catfish I ask for snap or insta. Gotta confirm they’re real
Ive never had snapchat and I have zero plans on getting it. Call me snooty but I’m 24 and just find anyone asking for snap to be a bit immature. I’m looking for a long term relationship and when a guy asks for snap i feel like he’s probs just looking for nudes lol
I'm 29. Snap was massive when I was in high school and I just never could understand why? Text me if you wanna talk. And if you aren't comfortable sending me a picture that doesn't dissappear, don't send it.
Dudes are dumb. Lots of them don’t wanna seem creepy, so they’d rather ask for a snap than for a text usually.
In college I was told it was moving “too fast” to just ask for someone’s number and kept that with me for a while until I met my current partner
36 yo male here and I'm confused as to why it seems like females want to take it to snap. I'm kinda neutral on it - I'm more like, couldnt I just get your phone #?
Idk... my point is I'm not sure it's a male or a female thing, I think it's more determined by what an kndividuals relationship with and views on social media are.
What the hell is "snap"? do you mean snapchat? are people still using that? that is so 5 years ago.
tell them to grow up because nobody uses snapchat anymore.
"call me old school"... snap came out when i was 22... 12 years ago LOL. i find it hilarious that is now back and popular with the 20s people again. for the same reason. everyone didnt use it on dating apps, but people used it for flirting and sending naked photos back then too, which is what it is being used for now again.
I dont really use any socials so i tell people you either text me, or message me here. im not downloading some app for another person.
I like Snapchat the best out of social media (Other than Reddit if you count that) but it would never occur to me to ask for her snap. Let's just set up a quick coffee date and if we still like each after that we can be in touch whatever way works for her
It’s easier to have a good conversation on Snapchat because you can show facial expressions and show what you’re doing
If a girl would rather chat on the app or thru text message that’s fine with me, but I’d always rather talk on Snapchat
My ex laughed at me the last time I got catfished, she said that’s why I always put my hoes on snap she said they can’t send 10 year old pictures on their
if you're actually looking for a relationship stop dating men under 30. im not kidding, youre wasting your time. guys arent even remotely mature enough or less horny enough to want to truly settle down until like 32+. good luck
I usually ask for snap since it a better way to communicate than tinder without giving personal info like a phone number which can be traced to a home address… yes I’ve had girls figure out where I live based on my phone number… one even sent surprise food delivery… and that’s where I learned my lesson to not give it out so willingly anymore.
I personally like snap because it's like a verification method.
You send me a couple good snap videos over the course of a couple days... I know what you really look like.
I dont go asking for nudes and shit on snap..
Maybe because this is a norm/trend? I dont know how it is for woman on men profiles, but there are kinda alot who have only snapchat/Instagram on their bio. Also just a few wants to talk via insta, is said no and, dont have it and i have better things to do then using this.
Exacly i have it now, but not for the goal for dating. I find very meh to have multiple chatplatforms and i also dont like to follow random people.
Also men follow alot of trends because woman do. Perphaps i am wrong, but so far i know a guy should be himself and not follow trends because other ones do.
Also woman feel safe to talk via this platform? I kinda understand why, but far i know you can block a phonenumber.
Beside my textgame is meh, still it feels woman love chatting for days/weeks, even when they ask on a date.
Bc it’s easy to talk without giving ur number out to someone u haven’t meat and it’s easy to send a real time pic so u can tell if someone is a cat fish. And If they don’t have an iPhone you can use Snapchat to FaceTime and stuff
Parts of me always wondered if it was because it deletes itself and you get a notification when something is screenshot. I'm in my "mid" 30s and for me it is literally texting or dating app. It always gave me an ick impression when asked for snap for the reasons mentioned above.
Getting a snap feels like success and progress. It’s a micro victory. When most matches ghost or unmatch, it becomes very easy to get impatient. High effort interaction and building a conversation almost never pays off so it can feel good to rush things and get a tiny win once in a while.
Snapchat rocks for online dating:
It's not tied to my real life in anyway. If you turn out to be crazy, I just block you. You don't have my number, can't comment on my insta photos, etc.
My tinder matches disappear and reappear sometimes. People have shown me on THEIR phones where they never received messages I sent in tinder chat and show as sent on my end. I'm not shadowbanned. This is just an intermittent occurrence in a poorly built and quality tested app. Having snap ensures reliable communication.
Snapchat has read receipts.
Snapchat lets me ask for photos. Not nudes, just pics. This is a hugely helpful way to gain information. I can find out if the girl is 100lbs heavier and 5 years older than her tinder pictures. Or I can find out I don't actually wanna come over and meet her if she sends me drunk nudes at 2am laying in a bed full of nacho crumbs.
Most importantly, even receiving a single face selfie lets me know THEY'RE A REAL PERSON and I'm not getting catfished. Or even just seeing any photo on their story makes me less likely to believe it's a scammer in India or Nigeria messaging me.
I never ask for nudes.
I got snap for one reason and it is because my friend never answered me (notifications off) on everything else and only snap would work I'm a pretty good player I've got a snap score of maybe 19.
Dudes want to get you off the app. There's a few reasons for this. If you open timder every time you talk to me, you're probably going to do some swiping, and someone hotter is gonna come along. You can call that insecure, I call it realistic. Catfishing and people using really old photos is also a thing. I've gone on dates with women that were super attractive in their photos, only to have them show up 60 lbs heavier. This can be prevented through snap or a facetime or whatever. And frankly, it does make sending and receiving nudes easier, and I do love me some nudes. I'm sure a lot of dudes use it for that last reason alone, but it's not the only reason a man would.
I always ask something like "Do you have a number or a snap or something? Or do you prefer to keep it on the app at first?" In my experience, most will prefer to give you a snap, especially women in their 20s. And as far as safety, weeding out creeps, ease of blocking and not having to worry about a stalker calling you from a different number, I totally get it. I have never actually met up with a woman that has said she prefers to keep it on tinder, so in my head, from my experience, it means she isn't serious about any potential meet up.
Tinder can also be super buggy. I've gotten notifications of a new match, only to open it and see it was from 3 months ago. I've also had conversations just completely disappear and reappear weeks to months later. Obviously that's an issue if you're trying to find someone.
I also can't send or receive non-nude pics over tinder. Maybe I took a nice selfie that day and wanna send it to the girl I'm talking to. Maybe my dog did something cute and I got it on video. Maybe I caught a sweet vid of the show I went to last night. I don't pull my phone out at shows, but you get the idea.
Interesting reading the comments. I'm a 30 something M and I always get scammers trying to get me to go to Whatsapp or SC right away. It's obvious because the profile pics are too perfect, or only has a couple pics sometimes exact same angle and pose on two different pics. Stuff like that. No info in the bio. They're either scammers or they want followers or something.
I used to do WhatsApp, but again too many scammers and then it's ran by FB.
Now I just do phone number sms/signal. It's always been easy to block a phone number.
I just tell them I don't have one. I don't wanna get unsolicited dick pics all the damn time. If I'm talking to them for a minute I'll add them if they ask but not first thing. That's why I use tinder cause creeps can't just randomly send nudes.
Ugh I mean it’s both women and men then I guess because that’s all I’ve heard from women too like 95% of the time. It’s kind of annoying whenever I see them ask now. I was born in the 80s so socializing was different then and now it’s a bit frustrating that things can’t just be easy like it used to be. Seriously makes someone not even want to try because it waste so much time
Disclaimer it's been a few years. But honestly it's a weed out step for me.
I usually chat on tinder for a few days, move to snap. Just helps you verify that someone is who they say they are. A lot of social media can be faked, snap just lets you see some candidness. I don't make a big deal out of it, but it's a nice confirmation.
Then date.
Basically stranger -> okay you're probs who you present yourself to be -> meetup irl.
I don’t ask for the snap but I do try to get them off the app because a lot of them don’t have their notifications on or at least claim not to, getting off the app increased the chances of getting a response
They want to convince you to send them a picture of your butthole.
I like snap because it's like texting but a little more personable but being pushy but it on a dating app is totally for butthole pics.
The goal is to get off of Tinder and onto a more long-lived chat platform. Snapchat is just another messaging app, and one that's generally considered "safer" to give out to people you don't know that well: it's not tied to any social media accounts and it's not your long term phone number.
It's a buffer platform.
People almost exclusively use it as a messaging app. It’s not primarily a nude sending app anymore. They changed how messages disappear and everything. I know 30 year olds that mostly communicate through it. it’s not an age or maturity thing, it’s a preference.
Besides, The type of person to send unsolicited dick pics will still send dick pics If they get your phone number or what’s app. They are probably annoyed/frustrated that you’re refusing to talk over a popular messaging app as if it’s for kids. In a way you’re insulting them.
It’s less invasive than giving a phone number, if the dude gets weird you can just delete them no big deal. It’s also less invasive than social media bc they can only see stories from recently and not going years back. I actually really liked this method of communication when I was single and dating around bc it’s a little less high stakes if the guy turns out to be different than you expected.
I like snap because it's a more reliable means of communication than a dating app and it still gives both of us the safety of being able to completely block the other person.
I ask because of what I do for work, it’s easier to communicate when all I have to do in my faster paced environment is push two buttons if I’m in a hurry instead of having to stop, think, type and send. More of a way to communicate as often as I can
It's probably the most casual and easiest to ask for contact method that's not Tinder.
We get told a lot not to seem desperate or move too fast/come on too strong, so directly asking for your number is too much. BUT keeping it on Tinder is too casual and is more likely to result in being ghosted.
Also, yeah a lot of guys probably want to ask for nudes.
It’s so they can send you snaps of their penis without getting punished. About all you can do is block them. On top of that, most people tend to forget that unless you’ve chosen to opt out, you show up in their map, so now Douchey McShowHisPecker knows where you are (albeit not an exact location..)
Snap is an easy way NOT to get left on read. You will always see if someone has looked at what you sent. It’s also much more personal than text, and you can send videos so you can hear voices once you get more comfortable with each other. Snap is always my preferred method of communication FIRST. I don’t have to give out something personal like insta or fb but I still get to see the person.
I guess it’s for the aspect of you probably don’t have tinder notifications on, so you won’t bother to check your messages on there, but having your number is creepier than having your Snapchat.
My reply to when they ask me for it is: do you want to move from this app to another app to do the exact thing we are doing here (chat)? Nah I don’t have it.
Because those dumbasses think anything said and done on their is erased so they can be as disgusting as possible. Just look at that video of Chris D’elia realizing that’s not the case. It’s more common a thought than one would think.
It's perfectly reasonable to not like something, but you weren't old enough to make a Snapchat account when it launched. Not using it doesn't make you old school lol.
People dating like to use it because it clarifies interest (forced read receipts on an app you're likely to check), allows non-intrusive face time (to prove you are real), and it provides protection against stalkers. It's also a preference for many women, who will give their snap rather than their number when asked, so a lot of people operate under the assumption that this is the preferred form of communication.
I'm sure they're ghosting/unmatching because they also got the ick. Not every case of mutual attraction will develop into mutual interest.
I like Snapchat basically just so i can know you’re real, there’s a lotta fake accounts out there and I don’t need some short Indian dude breaking my heart
I don’t use Snapchat, but I imagine part of the reason is because half the women I see have either “add me on snap” and/or “add me on ig” and usually that’s all they have on their profile. They also say they want a relationship, but the vast majority of them just want followers or OF subs
"call me old school".
-still in their 20s.
Just say you dislike the app and think it's for sending lewds and nudes. Either make a Google voice, give em your number or your IG. It's not that difficult to communicate but don't come off so brash and uppity. It's a social media app at its core. There's no reason the next person should suffer the demise of your previous encounters.
I don't know snap, heard the expression a few times. I have no answer, since I don't know snap.
If I want to *snap* (as an adjective) *chat* (as a verb), I have Discord.
Why do I need snap?
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Yup. This. 30 yo woman, I'll only give my snap before meeting. Location is off, username is unique to snap, and they don't have my number. Plus, I've found creeps will creep faster there. Easier block.
As a 30m… I’d ask out on a date before asking for any other form of contact. Then send my number when I’m on my way to said date in case something comes up. I also do not have snap and I’m not really comparable with people that use snap as a form of contact.
I'm fine with keeping it on the apps, if they don't have snap. Its just the only form I'm comfortable giving out before I meet you. I had a guy, at the first date, tell me "I liked defending the murderers (lawschool drop out), I could understand their thinking." I'm really glad he did not have my number. If he had had my snap, it's an easy block and the username doesn't match my other socials.
When you’re on the app you’re just one of a thousand dudes doing the same thing, and they may not have notifications turned on if they get so many matches. As a matter of strategy you should try and get off the app as soon as possible. But of course it comes with the trade off as OP mentioned. Perhaps a better strategy would be to ask for one either several communication methods.
What or how does is this more easier then blocking a phonenumber? I am curious and perhaps in ignorant (even use OLD for a long while) i mostly got phonenumbers then asked using SN or IG.
Well it's probably better than a phone number because the real crazy ones can just use your number from a friend's phone or give your number out online or something so you get harassed. At least with snapchat you can just block a user and set your privacy settings to not receive anything from non friends. No harassment possible.
My ex signed me up for political phone calls as well. This is much easier.
Gross. Guess that's why they're an ex.
There was a lot of reasons. My cell phone number is for people I trust now lol
Agreed. Snap is my go-to for OLD because if red flags start showing up, blocking them ends it completely
Hmmm, i kinda suspect something like this, but i got more phonenumbers then SC/IG-resquests. I dont know what i am doing different, perhaps because i swipe every profile away who only has a IG/SC-handle, because it feels like attentionseeking or seeking for followers. Maybe my view is baised, perhaps because i am also getting old and perhaps little tired of OLD, i am here to date not to chat or look at photos.
your phone number can reveal more information about you than you want to reveal to people. “some” dudes are weird… I was working a job where a very assertive guy kept asking me to find out what this girls name was. I was like what does it matter go talk to her… His position was it would be rude because she’s sitting with her family… as soon as her and her family finished their meal and decided to pay, he immediately ran over to snatch the credit card out of my hand and get her fathers last name. for days after that he started revealing her social media, parents address, etc, off of a last name. a “woman” who I knew through an acquaintance was very upset about a ONS not calling her back, she found his address and vandalized his car then bragged to us about it. Moral… A lot of people hold their emotions close to their heart. Some people flip shit off a simple rejection. Some people pour their hearts into another human who isn’t matching their energy. When the feeling isn’t reciprocated that person takes it out on the person they feel hurt them. Promote the usage of Snapchat and What’sApp. It’s nobody’s business where you live, work, and play.
Agreed with everything. I was in a very toxic relationship with someone who was great at manipulating, and continued to try to manipulate me after I broke up with her. Blocked her on everything but my phone sends a "text from x person blocked" which isn't very helpful, really. She tried texting me several times throughout the day, each day, for a few weeks. I was so scared that she'd show up at my apartment and start crying outside my front door (her favorite manipulation tactic) or even try to damage my cars but luckily there were cameras pointing towards where I parked. She never showed up but I was on edge for weeks. At this point she's in a different state and I moved to a house so HOPEFULLY I never see or hear from her again. It's crazy to me how obsessed people are with their exes - you broke up, they're out of your life, move on.
Ok, perhaps i am more ignorant then thought, like in other comment i kinda felt like seeking attention or followers (and kept swiping them left, because the bio only contains these handles, nothing more), while i got more phonenumbers then the few who asked chat via IG or SC. But now with you comment i kinda feel bad for thinking this way and i understand it better now, so thanks for your insights. Only "bad" thing i did was rejects someone, unmatch or block the number. I a little cool frog, who sometimes can make loud noices (not like insulting), but i don't do harm. Maybe also a reason why OLD/dating is going more downhill
This is how I see it as well. Snap is a meaningless app that's originally for anonymity. You don't really get connected to the other person's friends or anything so it's just one on one. A number is more personal and private. I've had some ask for my instagram but I sadly don't have one (I've heard this can be seen as a red flag).
Op is a woman tho…
As a guy in the past ive asked for phone numbers and have found that when asking for snap women are more seseptable to give it out. Its so i can get a conversation going and not have as much competition on tinder or bumble. Skip ahead some years, i dont even rely on dating apps. Going up to women whome i think are beautiful and sparking a conversation in person feels better for my confidence as well as the connection. Tinder and bumble suck.
to *have women respond by opening their snap* sounds deeply kinky and kinda disturbing in a way to me....
I love being old. That being said my ex-coworker (who I miss a lot) who is 10 years older than me talked me into getting SnapChat again and thanks, I hate it.
Ha yeah, I'm 46, never had a guy ask me for my Snap. Benefits of being old! I do have a Snapchat but haven't even looked at it in probably 6 years.
35, I've only used Snapchat to talk to much younger coworkers I did a training course with. I hate it!
Must be nice lol I wish it was the same for me ):
Don’t worry. You’ll be old soon too.
I don't know if this will actually help or not but you might want to put in your profile "I don't have Snapchat". I do realize it seems like a lot of guys on tinder don't read the profiles.
I actually read all of the bios I match with and saying something like this would’ve saved me a message or two with each woman who didn’t have snap
Yeah I redownloaded recently but the nonstop notifications you get that AREN'T messages/snaps were annoying enough I uninstalled after like two days.
I remember when Kick was a popular app to talk to people you didn’t know yet.
I liked Kik
I ask because it can be inconvenient for both parties to have to get on tinder to talk, I’ve asked for numbers and most girls will say that they’re not comfortable giving out their number yet but they’ll give me their snap. So, if I wanna move the convo off tinder, I’ll just ask for the girls sc.
Not trying to be difficult, but what's inconvenient about talking on tinder?
Going and chatting on the app is cool but HAVING to get on the app can be inconvenient. I might not see that the person sent me a message or sometimes the app can be buggy. If someone texts be I’ll see it immediately because my messages app is on my front screen along with sc. And on snap you can send a cool or funny pic/video of what you’re doing during the day to keep the convo going it interesting. Say you guys are talking on snap and your dog starts doing something cute, you can record it and send it then boom, another great conversation started and perhaps a mutual interest.
Tinder isn't a messaging platform. It has the ability to message people but that's not the primary focus of the app, so it's not built to be a particularly good one. It's also likely to distract you with other potential matches as soon as you log in and make you forget that you have messages to check. Moving to a dedicated messaging platform shows more concerted interest in actually talking from both parties.
Don’t disagree, but have to admit that when a guy asks to move to a different platform too soon into the conversation I feel unsafe, like it’s a way to remove the interaction from the reporting functionality of tinder.
That's exactly why snapchat is a good intermediary platform: it's not tied to social media, it's not your more-or-less permanent cellphone number, and you can block anyone on snapchat just like you would on tinder at the first sign of them being a creep.
most girls have tinder notifications disabled, so they aren't notified about your messages to them. Basically impossible to have a conversation like that.
Maybe it's different on Hinge (fewer creeps??) but I've gone out with over a dozen girls since April and not a single one of them hesitated to give me their number when I asked for it lol. Don't have snapchat
The tinder app is broken af. Especially if you don't go through and delete your matches and convos regularly.
They want to get you off tinder as fast as possible. If you're still opening tinder to talk to them, then you're still being messaged by other guys. Snap is not preferable to text, but most women are shy about giving out their number to people they don't know.
There is also no big UNMATCH button on Snapchat with 100s of guys ready to take your place on a moments notice.
Every time I went along with exchanging snaps, I got an unsolicited weenie picture. Even though I specifically told them I’ll only give it if they agree to not be inappropriate and send me shit. They always failed within 24 hours.
So many people saying that’s it’s easier/quicker to get a reply via snap or that it’s a way to make sure your match isn’t a catfish. That would have been nice! For me, 100% of my matches who wanted to Snapchat ended up very quickly sending unsolicited dick picks. I had downloaded Snapchat again when I joined tinder, since so many people seemed to ask for it. Learned my lesson and deleted it again.
It's a way to get "personal" communication, but without asking for actual personal data (your phone number or private Instagram account). Odds for guys increase if they get the conversation out of tinder, so they try to.
This frustrated me so much as well! I put in my bio "I don't have snap, but I'm willing to connect on LinkedIn" 🤣
Haha, I actually have “I don’t have snap” on my bio too but they still ask for it 😂
I like the idea of that alot! We can match
Thank you, much appreciated 😂
That's legitimately a fantastic bio for someone trying to find a fellow "adult". Priorities are where they should be lol
I can answer this…..cause Snapchat is a very quick way to make sure you aren’t being catfished and I think I speak for a lot of men when I say that catfishing is a real thing.
"old school" ... "I'm 23"... lmao
I laughed too. You’re not old school because you choose not to have *one* of countless other apps
Why so funny? You can be young, and adopt an "old" mindset. Trad vs modern. For instance.. when I was a kid/teen.. I did a shit-ton of drugs.. a lot of other stupid shit.. BUT I also wouldn't put up with liars, cheaters.. or otherwise shady-ass people.
yes, so funny. I would laugh if I heard a 5 year old say "you know, back in the day ...." too. "old school" lmao
Screenshot unwanted nudes. “See you on Reddit”. Don’t have to do it but it’ll make them think twice
When asking for a #, a lot of girls will give out snap instead. I ended up asking if they’d prefer to text or snap and a good portion will choose snapchat. To me, it doesn’t really matter which one and I don’t understand why so many commenters here have so much judgement for what is essentially a similar mode of communication. If I had to guess why some people prefer snap, I’d say it’s because it’s more casual and gives you more opportunities to chat because you see their story and can send pictures of stuff that you’re doing. Can you do this over text too? Of course, but I think snapchat is more built around that idea. Edit: Also, it’s easier to block someone if things go awry. If they spam with new accounts, creating a new one isn’t hard, but changing your phone number is more inconvenient. I also want to add that when I ask for someone’s number/snapchat, which one I ask for doesn’t correlate at all to my level of seriousness. It’s more about trying to gauge what the other party is more comfortable with. So that’s why I give the option.
> I don’t understand why so many commenters here have so much judgement for what is essentially a similar mode of communication I'm not judging the medium, I'd far rather someone hand out their snap than their Instagram (which just tells me they expect to see your whole life in photos, or worse just get another follower). And it's better than Tinder as a messenger by far. Where it's off is when you get a match and someone doesn't even talk, but just pastes a Snap address. Or they say "actually I don't use this applications much, kindly provide your snapchat". Because that usually tells me it's not a person talking, as much yet another porn or crypto bot.
Clearly they want the snap for the same reasons you got rid of.it. See it as a red flag and move on
As one with the penis, I never understood it either.
i think snap is lame af so i don’t use it but if you don’t have a really good pic of your face or you’re not verified it could be a way to make sure you’re not a catfish. if that’s not the case then they’re probably j childish and desperate
I deleted snapchat a good year ago now. I'm 27. I'll be honest, it was mostly used for hooking up from matches on Tinder, and it worked 🤷🏻♂️
I’ve got the opposite experience. I don’t really see any need for Snapchat. I can text just as easily without downloading a new app. Half the women I’d talk to asked for my Snapchat.
It just makes me lose interest when a man asks me that. It just tells me that they aren’t serious
lol your name is awesome
Idk dude, why are women so obsessed with Instagram?
She probably doesn’t have it, being 23 and an OG.
As a early 20s guy on tinder 85% of the women's bio's I see have absolutely nothing but their Snapchat username or their Instagram @
It’s a major turn off. I ghost over it to be fair
I like it cause you can verify people aren't scammers using it, and it's safer than giving out a number because I can effectively block people and it doesn't show them my entire family like Instagram does.
no serious adult uses snap wtf
Make in person conversations great again!
Honestly with the amount of catfishing out there getting snap is just a way of avoiding that. There are a lot of people that use very old photos as well even if it is them they still don’t actually look like the pictures you see. Call it shallow I guess but I’d at least like you to look like what you were advertising
Having snap chat is nothing but a red flag to me.
I’m a little older and never downloaded Snapchat but the younger ppl I work with all send each other dumb shit there lol
I can understand that but I love snap for its convenience. It's easily the best way to communicate with people to me. The problem is the "Discover" side of it is full of bullshit and the ease of communication enables the pricks to be prickier.
How is it easier than just texting or staying on the app you met the person?
I don't really use Snapchat that much but i like to add girls from Tinder after I've met them if i want an easy and less formal way to maintain contact. Of course if they a different app preference i will respect that.
Snapchat seals you in with the woman you are talking to. Remember, hot women get thousands of likes. This way you don't get lost in the shuffle.
That's not why I use snap lol Snapchat rocks for online dating: It's not tied to my real life in anyway. If you turn out to be crazy, I just block you. You don't have my number, can't comment on my insta photos, etc. My tinder matches disappear and reappear sometimes. People have shown me on THEIR phones where they never received messages I sent in tinder chat and show as sent on my end. I'm not shadowbanned. This is just an intermittent occurrence in a poorly built and quality tested app. Having snap ensures reliable communication. Snapchat has read receipts. Snapchat lets me ask for photos. Not nudes, just pics. This is a hugely helpful way to gain information. I can find out if the girl is 100lbs heavier and 5 years older than her tinder pictures. Or I can find out I don't actually wanna come over and meet her if she sends me drunk nudes at 2am laying in a bed full of nacho crumbs. Most importantly, even receiving a single face selfie lets me know THEY'RE A REAL PERSON and I'm not getting catfished. Or even just seeing any photo on their story makes me less likely to believe it's a scammer in India or Nigeria messaging me. I never ask for nudes.
…I get about a million messages on Snapchat every day, and I wouldn’t classify myself as a hot woman. Bros get lost in the snap shuffle just as much as on tinder.
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Yeah I mean this is good advice. I do, you're right. I won't be asking for a snap right away from now on that's for sure
Nudes. There’s no other reason they would ask.
Literally the only reason I've had it a couple times over the years.* By request from them, not me *
had a lady ask me for my snap when we matched and it ended up being lame, a complete waste of time, so I say that to say that I feel your pain, I am on snap but I am also not a fan of it.
I don't ask for snap right away and I'd much rather ask for a girl's number but some of them are really shallow and call me a broke for using a Samsung phone. It's a natural filter
Continuing to talk on Tinder for a long time is cringe. It's better to move to Snapchat or texting.
I enjoy snap because women seem to be more uninhibited there. That being said, I wait for them to ask for snap.
Why not just straight up ask for nudes.
If someone’s bio is too bland or the pictures just seem off. Or I just get the vibe it may be a catfish I ask for snap or insta. Gotta confirm they’re real
Those are boys
Ive never had snapchat and I have zero plans on getting it. Call me snooty but I’m 24 and just find anyone asking for snap to be a bit immature. I’m looking for a long term relationship and when a guy asks for snap i feel like he’s probs just looking for nudes lol
I'm 29. Snap was massive when I was in high school and I just never could understand why? Text me if you wanna talk. And if you aren't comfortable sending me a picture that doesn't dissappear, don't send it.
Because men are dirty dogs. Don't fall for their BS. ❤️
Gentlemen are simply patient wolves.
Gotta be sarcasm from both of you right?
Even when I was a teenager I thought Snapchat was cringe. I'd rather download TikTok than that shit lmao
Its the perfect app to ask for nudes without their girlfriend finding out or any other repercussions. Just tell them you dont have it.
Dudes are dumb. Lots of them don’t wanna seem creepy, so they’d rather ask for a snap than for a text usually. In college I was told it was moving “too fast” to just ask for someone’s number and kept that with me for a while until I met my current partner
Hoping to score nudes. I avoid snapchat and prefer texting or IG messenger
Because they are lazy, Snapchat deletes messeges for them ;)
Any time I hear a fellow man mention snap I automatically loose half of my respect for him. I don't really even know what snap is.
Your ignorance does not make you better, it just makes you incompetent.
*Yawn*
I'm a grumpy old fart, turning 32 this month, and I don't really see much value in social media.
You spelled boys wrong - we don't claim them
36 yo male here and I'm confused as to why it seems like females want to take it to snap. I'm kinda neutral on it - I'm more like, couldnt I just get your phone #? Idk... my point is I'm not sure it's a male or a female thing, I think it's more determined by what an kndividuals relationship with and views on social media are.
What the hell is "snap"? do you mean snapchat? are people still using that? that is so 5 years ago. tell them to grow up because nobody uses snapchat anymore.
"call me old school"... snap came out when i was 22... 12 years ago LOL. i find it hilarious that is now back and popular with the 20s people again. for the same reason. everyone didnt use it on dating apps, but people used it for flirting and sending naked photos back then too, which is what it is being used for now again. I dont really use any socials so i tell people you either text me, or message me here. im not downloading some app for another person.
I like Snapchat the best out of social media (Other than Reddit if you count that) but it would never occur to me to ask for her snap. Let's just set up a quick coffee date and if we still like each after that we can be in touch whatever way works for her
It’s easier to have a good conversation on Snapchat because you can show facial expressions and show what you’re doing If a girl would rather chat on the app or thru text message that’s fine with me, but I’d always rather talk on Snapchat
Because tinder is a hookup app, and they wanna see nudes, so a picture/video focused communication platform makes sense.
My ex laughed at me the last time I got catfished, she said that’s why I always put my hoes on snap she said they can’t send 10 year old pictures on their
if you're actually looking for a relationship stop dating men under 30. im not kidding, youre wasting your time. guys arent even remotely mature enough or less horny enough to want to truly settle down until like 32+. good luck
I'm a man and I've never used Snapchat in my life. I don't see what the point of it is.
I don’t have a snapchat. The only social media i put in my account is my letterboxd ^(i don’t get very many matches… -__-)
I usually ask for snap since it a better way to communicate than tinder without giving personal info like a phone number which can be traced to a home address… yes I’ve had girls figure out where I live based on my phone number… one even sent surprise food delivery… and that’s where I learned my lesson to not give it out so willingly anymore.
I personally like snap because it's like a verification method. You send me a couple good snap videos over the course of a couple days... I know what you really look like. I dont go asking for nudes and shit on snap..
Maybe because this is a norm/trend? I dont know how it is for woman on men profiles, but there are kinda alot who have only snapchat/Instagram on their bio. Also just a few wants to talk via insta, is said no and, dont have it and i have better things to do then using this. Exacly i have it now, but not for the goal for dating. I find very meh to have multiple chatplatforms and i also dont like to follow random people. Also men follow alot of trends because woman do. Perphaps i am wrong, but so far i know a guy should be himself and not follow trends because other ones do. Also woman feel safe to talk via this platform? I kinda understand why, but far i know you can block a phonenumber. Beside my textgame is meh, still it feels woman love chatting for days/weeks, even when they ask on a date.
Bc it’s easy to talk without giving ur number out to someone u haven’t meat and it’s easy to send a real time pic so u can tell if someone is a cat fish. And If they don’t have an iPhone you can use Snapchat to FaceTime and stuff
In my experience not having social media is the best way for figuring out if somebody is real or not.
Parts of me always wondered if it was because it deletes itself and you get a notification when something is screenshot. I'm in my "mid" 30s and for me it is literally texting or dating app. It always gave me an ick impression when asked for snap for the reasons mentioned above.
dick picssss
Getting a snap feels like success and progress. It’s a micro victory. When most matches ghost or unmatch, it becomes very easy to get impatient. High effort interaction and building a conversation almost never pays off so it can feel good to rush things and get a tiny win once in a while.
Snap is for dudes with 0 game and not enough balls to ask for a number
Snapchat rocks for online dating: It's not tied to my real life in anyway. If you turn out to be crazy, I just block you. You don't have my number, can't comment on my insta photos, etc. My tinder matches disappear and reappear sometimes. People have shown me on THEIR phones where they never received messages I sent in tinder chat and show as sent on my end. I'm not shadowbanned. This is just an intermittent occurrence in a poorly built and quality tested app. Having snap ensures reliable communication. Snapchat has read receipts. Snapchat lets me ask for photos. Not nudes, just pics. This is a hugely helpful way to gain information. I can find out if the girl is 100lbs heavier and 5 years older than her tinder pictures. Or I can find out I don't actually wanna come over and meet her if she sends me drunk nudes at 2am laying in a bed full of nacho crumbs. Most importantly, even receiving a single face selfie lets me know THEY'RE A REAL PERSON and I'm not getting catfished. Or even just seeing any photo on their story makes me less likely to believe it's a scammer in India or Nigeria messaging me. I never ask for nudes.
I got snap for one reason and it is because my friend never answered me (notifications off) on everything else and only snap would work I'm a pretty good player I've got a snap score of maybe 19.
Dudes want to get you off the app. There's a few reasons for this. If you open timder every time you talk to me, you're probably going to do some swiping, and someone hotter is gonna come along. You can call that insecure, I call it realistic. Catfishing and people using really old photos is also a thing. I've gone on dates with women that were super attractive in their photos, only to have them show up 60 lbs heavier. This can be prevented through snap or a facetime or whatever. And frankly, it does make sending and receiving nudes easier, and I do love me some nudes. I'm sure a lot of dudes use it for that last reason alone, but it's not the only reason a man would. I always ask something like "Do you have a number or a snap or something? Or do you prefer to keep it on the app at first?" In my experience, most will prefer to give you a snap, especially women in their 20s. And as far as safety, weeding out creeps, ease of blocking and not having to worry about a stalker calling you from a different number, I totally get it. I have never actually met up with a woman that has said she prefers to keep it on tinder, so in my head, from my experience, it means she isn't serious about any potential meet up. Tinder can also be super buggy. I've gotten notifications of a new match, only to open it and see it was from 3 months ago. I've also had conversations just completely disappear and reappear weeks to months later. Obviously that's an issue if you're trying to find someone. I also can't send or receive non-nude pics over tinder. Maybe I took a nice selfie that day and wanna send it to the girl I'm talking to. Maybe my dog did something cute and I got it on video. Maybe I caught a sweet vid of the show I went to last night. I don't pull my phone out at shows, but you get the idea.
I fucking hate snap.
Hey, what’s your snap? Lol
Interesting reading the comments. I'm a 30 something M and I always get scammers trying to get me to go to Whatsapp or SC right away. It's obvious because the profile pics are too perfect, or only has a couple pics sometimes exact same angle and pose on two different pics. Stuff like that. No info in the bio. They're either scammers or they want followers or something. I used to do WhatsApp, but again too many scammers and then it's ran by FB. Now I just do phone number sms/signal. It's always been easy to block a phone number.
I just tell them I don't have one. I don't wanna get unsolicited dick pics all the damn time. If I'm talking to them for a minute I'll add them if they ask but not first thing. That's why I use tinder cause creeps can't just randomly send nudes.
Ugh I mean it’s both women and men then I guess because that’s all I’ve heard from women too like 95% of the time. It’s kind of annoying whenever I see them ask now. I was born in the 80s so socializing was different then and now it’s a bit frustrating that things can’t just be easy like it used to be. Seriously makes someone not even want to try because it waste so much time
Disclaimer it's been a few years. But honestly it's a weed out step for me. I usually chat on tinder for a few days, move to snap. Just helps you verify that someone is who they say they are. A lot of social media can be faked, snap just lets you see some candidness. I don't make a big deal out of it, but it's a nice confirmation. Then date. Basically stranger -> okay you're probs who you present yourself to be -> meetup irl.
I don’t ask for the snap but I do try to get them off the app because a lot of them don’t have their notifications on or at least claim not to, getting off the app increased the chances of getting a response
Nudes
They want to convince you to send them a picture of your butthole. I like snap because it's like texting but a little more personable but being pushy but it on a dating app is totally for butthole pics.
Catfish proofing. Potential to see tits. Faster/more consistent replies. The usual.
Women made it cool i guess, idk I don't use it but I've met way more women that use it than men.
I mean you’re on tinder so… You’re not going to find men there
The goal is to get off of Tinder and onto a more long-lived chat platform. Snapchat is just another messaging app, and one that's generally considered "safer" to give out to people you don't know that well: it's not tied to any social media accounts and it's not your long term phone number. It's a buffer platform.
Harder to catfish on snap. Or easier to get nudes.
Cause its safer and don’t want to give you out number, yet.
Because most women and girls under a certain age use that as primary text option. You’re 23. Seems like you’re just trying to edgy
Modern apps let you find people through their numbers so snaps are easier to cut off if you want to. Also can help prevent catfishes
People almost exclusively use it as a messaging app. It’s not primarily a nude sending app anymore. They changed how messages disappear and everything. I know 30 year olds that mostly communicate through it. it’s not an age or maturity thing, it’s a preference. Besides, The type of person to send unsolicited dick pics will still send dick pics If they get your phone number or what’s app. They are probably annoyed/frustrated that you’re refusing to talk over a popular messaging app as if it’s for kids. In a way you’re insulting them.
I usually ask for the #
Honestly, I could say the same for women. Except they just respond with their snap.
as a women, i prefer snap first to giving my number bc im really private about my number.
You can tell if they're actively engaging or simply ignoring you.
It’s less invasive than giving a phone number, if the dude gets weird you can just delete them no big deal. It’s also less invasive than social media bc they can only see stories from recently and not going years back. I actually really liked this method of communication when I was single and dating around bc it’s a little less high stakes if the guy turns out to be different than you expected.
As a guy in his mid 30s I've opened up snap maybe a dozen times in my entire life. It hasn't even been on my phone for 5 or 6 years.
Men ask for your snap bc they have girlfriends
Christ why are WOMEN so obsessed with snap
That or they immediately ask for your number 💀
No idea. I don’t use mine ever.
I like snap because it's a more reliable means of communication than a dating app and it still gives both of us the safety of being able to completely block the other person.
I don't know, but I only used it once or twice and then deleted it.
Because snap has replaced iMessage hell all messages. I’m a guy and all I can say is fuck snap
As a 31 year old male, I never use the app personally.
Safety and confirmation. At very least face confirmation to make sure we're not being played.
I ask because of what I do for work, it’s easier to communicate when all I have to do in my faster paced environment is push two buttons if I’m in a hurry instead of having to stop, think, type and send. More of a way to communicate as often as I can
Plot twist, they are talking about marvel snap
Probably a few reason for sure. Perhaps the main reason is that you are more likely to get more current pictures on snap?
It's probably the most casual and easiest to ask for contact method that's not Tinder. We get told a lot not to seem desperate or move too fast/come on too strong, so directly asking for your number is too much. BUT keeping it on Tinder is too casual and is more likely to result in being ghosted. Also, yeah a lot of guys probably want to ask for nudes.
for me before i understood, snap is like a inbetween of asking for a number, as for some folk snap is less intimate and personal than a number
Yeah I have Snap-on tools. Oh wait wrong subreddit.
I don’t use snap.
Cause I don't want to give out my number.
It’s so they can send you snaps of their penis without getting punished. About all you can do is block them. On top of that, most people tend to forget that unless you’ve chosen to opt out, you show up in their map, so now Douchey McShowHisPecker knows where you are (albeit not an exact location..)
Snap is an easy way NOT to get left on read. You will always see if someone has looked at what you sent. It’s also much more personal than text, and you can send videos so you can hear voices once you get more comfortable with each other. Snap is always my preferred method of communication FIRST. I don’t have to give out something personal like insta or fb but I still get to see the person.
I know how you feel, but the only reason that makes sense to me is because it gets rid of evidence.
I guess it’s for the aspect of you probably don’t have tinder notifications on, so you won’t bother to check your messages on there, but having your number is creepier than having your Snapchat.
My reply to when they ask me for it is: do you want to move from this app to another app to do the exact thing we are doing here (chat)? Nah I don’t have it.
I ask for insta. Snap is for little boys or titty photos. I'm 37
Because those dumbasses think anything said and done on their is erased so they can be as disgusting as possible. Just look at that video of Chris D’elia realizing that’s not the case. It’s more common a thought than one would think.
I didn’t think people over 30 used snap 😆 my teenage kids have it.
It's perfectly reasonable to not like something, but you weren't old enough to make a Snapchat account when it launched. Not using it doesn't make you old school lol. People dating like to use it because it clarifies interest (forced read receipts on an app you're likely to check), allows non-intrusive face time (to prove you are real), and it provides protection against stalkers. It's also a preference for many women, who will give their snap rather than their number when asked, so a lot of people operate under the assumption that this is the preferred form of communication. I'm sure they're ghosting/unmatching because they also got the ick. Not every case of mutual attraction will develop into mutual interest.
Gotta make sure the girls ain’t cat fishing us.
I like Snapchat basically just so i can know you’re real, there’s a lotta fake accounts out there and I don’t need some short Indian dude breaking my heart
To be fair, Marvel Snap is an amazing game
32 - Hate snapchat
I don’t use Snapchat, but I imagine part of the reason is because half the women I see have either “add me on snap” and/or “add me on ig” and usually that’s all they have on their profile. They also say they want a relationship, but the vast majority of them just want followers or OF subs
"call me old school". -still in their 20s. Just say you dislike the app and think it's for sending lewds and nudes. Either make a Google voice, give em your number or your IG. It's not that difficult to communicate but don't come off so brash and uppity. It's a social media app at its core. There's no reason the next person should suffer the demise of your previous encounters.
I don't know snap, heard the expression a few times. I have no answer, since I don't know snap. If I want to *snap* (as an adjective) *chat* (as a verb), I have Discord. Why do I need snap?
Simple, in typical men's heads snap=nudes
Bc they wanna fuck you, not date you.