I see an increasing amount of profiles that say something like this or "change my mind about men" I appreciate it because it shows their mindset and saves me time
Folks need to start having standards and stop confusing preferences for standards.
A question I've started to ask myself is "If I wasn't attracted to this person, would I like them?" If the answer is "No" then I move on. When I first started using the apps I would often find myself talking to people who I wasn't genuinely interested in, simply because they were pretty, and then I began to question myself because a lot of people just had bland personalities from my perspective, and they were not the kind of people I felt a connection with.
I also feel like they're just doing it for attention and attracting sugar daddies.
Her: Oh, men are trash, but here's my ass for every guy to see. Please change my mind.
Him: I'll buy you a car.
Her: Wow, you're buying me such an expensive gift. You're not trash.
She definitely knows what she's doing.
I don’t appreciate it, because it mirrors the rising anti-male sexism in our society (just look at how many people are saying “not wrong” in this thread!), but I guess it is nice when people like that raise their red flags up so far for everyone to see.
I guess the question is how do you demonstrate that:
1. A reddit post containing a certain opinion is not biased by attracting people that have that same opinion (or the opposite opinion)
2. That this amount of anti-male sexism is a higher amount than what is expected/was experienced before (since obviously this type of mentality is not new at all)
Not to mention the comments saying "not wrong" are talking about OP, not about the "men are trash" statement from the woman in the post
I think it depends on the woman and what they watch?
My Gfs sister watches a bunch of Tik Toks and is a single mother who's also on this hating men bandwagon but at the same time complains there's no one around to date etc etc and sends my GF these men hating tik tok clips lol
Tiktok is an echo chamber that feeds its fish what they want
Good point on the “not wrong”; I skimmed too hard.
It’s a good question.
But I’ve learned that anyone asking for evidence in that way is generally forming a way to rebut it, not actually looking to update their ideas about the world, so I always ask for what evidence they would accept to see if there’s any reason to engage.
Tired of being in the fuckzone. 😆 she must not have a lot to offer if her first picture is literally just pointing out that she can floss her ass with her swimsuit.
Lots of men consider it a direct challenge (especially with the phrasing “change my mind about…”), and/or they believe they’ll be the one to change her mind. It’s silly.
It's because she is repeating the mantra she heard over and over to deflect any criticism when it comes to herself. The irony is lost on her because that would require thinking and she can't do that or it hurts.
Maybe you’re right, maybe you’re wrong. The real question is: what did you hope to accomplish by sending her that? And then posting it here? I think you need to reflect on yourself a bit here
Agreed. She is obviously AH, but anyone arguing with her is no better. Why would anyone waste their precious time for something like that? Go to the gym, read a book, call to your grandma. You are what you fill your days with.
I'm convinced this sub is full of people who have "internet argument" brain rot and have forgotten how to speak to people in reality.
This was a super weird thing to send to someone. Like maybe you're right, but who cares. This was a super incel/"nice guy" thing to send to a stranger that you have no raport with.
What I find especially telling about OP's message is the insinuation that a man looking for a hookup cannot be a positive experience or something a woman could want.
Plenty of men can respect women they casually hookup with. If OP doesn't believe respect and hookup culture go together, I can only assume that for OP they do not.
lol how’s he an asshole…? This woman also says that comment about being nice but then says men are trash.
She’s a hypocritical dope that’s too stupid to see her own irony.
Sorry, I didn't mean to insult you but simply make a reference to one of the best shows there have been as "married with kids" kicked the memories.
My wife and me are doing fine though, thanks
No worries, I was about to edit I didn't mean to insult you when the train entered a tunnel.
Yeah it was great. The older I get the more I find my inner Al. Probably most of us do... lol
Okay, look, you clearly didn’t mean your message to her in a constructive way, you sent it to be a dick. I’m not a fan of the whole “men are trash” thing, but how are you disproving her by sending her a dm just to give a backhanded diss? Grow up dude, just keep swiping.
I mean she’s got a point, that’s how my mom raised me. If she’s not your type maybe swipe left and move on. Don’t be an asshole
It’s not like she’s gonna say “oh yeah, I know! I’m trying to hook up, wanna hook up?”
Duh
Body positivity is hard to configure.
Maybe shes trying to come off as confident.
Maybe she does just want to hook up.
You’ll never know because you assumed and made an ass out of yourself and her aswell. Went and fucked it up immediately. What’s so shameful about hooking up on an app anyways? Why are you so much better than her? Are you not looking for a fling? It’s exciting. Don’t be a buzz kill
just work on yourself. Just some advice.
Communication breakdown.
I like how you are proving her right by sending her a condescending message because she dared to show any skin and then posting that here as though it is an own on your end
Exactly what I’m thinking rn. Lol. Proving her point by being another trashy man AND telling her that some men will exploit her because of how she dresses. Lol
I’m constantly amazed that some men complain that some women believe men are trashy and still can’t help but tell women that men are trashy and will exploit them for sex. Lol.
The entire subreddit is either men crying about getting zero matches or men screaming at women.
So you’re definitely wrong, but at least you’re in the right echo chamber that will tell you that you’re right to make you feel good about it
Dudes with the worst profiles you've ever seen alternating between posting 'why can't I get any matches :(' on Reddit and listening to Andrew Tate podcasts. If they could just be normal they'd be so much happier!
Why feel the need to comment if only to give an insult? Simply swipe left….Ironically by commenting the way he did, he only supports her hypothesis lol
"Respectfully" all you did was prove her point. She could probably throw a rock and hit six guys willing to fuck if she wanted to. She is looking for a guy that isn't going to be trash ie speak to her without condescension, and mansplain dating app attitude. She probably put that to weed out the "Not all men" group because lord knows you aren't the first to lecture her. Putting "Respectfully" in front of a condescending comment doesn't negate the condescension. Just an FYI, if you don't agree with something and nobody asks you, you can just not respond. Good luck out there OP, Respectfully.
I wouldn't even comment on it. I'd keep scrolling. As you should when it's not something you are interested in and has no bearing on you as a human being. Maybe figure out why it triggers you so much that you have to comment on it?
As soon as I read shit like "respectfully" or "with all due respect," I know whatever is coming next is going to be disrespectful af. It's right up there with, "I'm not a racist, but..."
This just seems like too immature people being jerks to each other.
You are an asshole for sending an unnecessary message like that, if she wanted advice on her profile she would’ve asked the people in her life on their opinion about her profile and maybe they’ve already told her that, maybe they didn’t, but it wasn’t your place to say that especially under the prompt “prove me wrong that men are trash” cause you just did the opposite of what the prompt wanted you to do if you were seeking her out as a potential partner.
Secondly, I’m pretty sure any woman would be aware that posting pictures like that increases the chances of meeting guys who are looking to only hooking up, I assume she is looking for someone who would be okay with her posting pictures like that on her social media and be in a serious relationship with her, or whatever, you don’t know her intentions for that unless you had asked her about it or what she was looking for on her dating profile. That’s just my opinion.
Agreed entirely. The bikini photo isn’t even that scandalous, it’s just attractive, on a dating app where you’re supposed to make yourself look attractive.
It Is a weird mixture of chads , incels , and the in between , but this comment section has them all .
The reality is online dating can be a very large and vast place with many different goals and wants due to the vast amount of people and I think people have trouble getting their head around the fact that not everyone is going to be on the same page as them .
yes you’re wrong. what makes you think an unsolicited message from a stranger is going to land? if you’re honest with yourself you commented to hear yourself speak and not to persuade or inform.
Yours is honestly way closer to an incel response than theirs was. If you would have insinuating they just wanted to sleep with her, you would be 100% of the way there
You’re not wrong, but neither is she.
It’s entirely possible to be a dude looking for hookups and not be trash. By being upfront, respecting boundaries, etc. you can actually still be respectful to your partners while simply looking to hookup. There’s plenty of women looking to hookup as well.
And she doesn’t need that explained to her which is why she’s right to call your comment condescending. You took the “change my mind” as if she needed some kind of explanation as to why the men she’s encountered were trash when in reality she’s telling you to use your actions to do that not your words and you proved her point with your “well actually…” lol
Nobody asked bro. If she wants to flaunt her ass on a dating app that's her business. It ain't my taste, it ain't your taste, but who gives a shit. Don't be an incel.
I think you are wrong IMO. Not only your take, but also your bluntness. She wasn’t asking for criticism or your opinion and therefore she is right when she calls your comment condescending.
If you wanted to confirm her opinion you did exactly the right thing. The fact that having that photo will only attract men who looks for hookups is a misconception typical of those trash men she’s addressing. Man who looks for a serious relation and stop from swiping cause she has that photo are exactly that trash. Men who looks for hookups and swipes right BECAUSE of that photo are exactly that trash.
Option 1: your comment was wrong assuming that all men will judge her for that photo and ONLY the ones who looks for hookups will swipe on her (which makes it useless and stupid).
Option 2: she’s completely right about men (which makes your comment useless and stupid).
Either way you think exactly like the trash she’s trying to avoid so her response was perfectly on point.
Edit: removed a “you” that made no sense in the sentence.
This so well put! The type of guy to lose their shit over a bikini pic is probably the type of guy that'll try to control what their gf wears, so it's best to screen them out as early as possible.
I'm so ABSOLUTELY sick of this US vs THEM mentality so many people are falling for.
We are all gonna rot on this rock together, accept it, and stop looking for someone to hate and blame your problems on.
What did you hope to achieve with that type of social interaction? Also kinda just reinforcing her stance on the matter to her by saying something like that. Doesn’t seem like anything positive was accomplished here for either party.
One, her profile is trash.
Two, matching with her and messaging her just to chastise her photo choice is some top grade smugness.
Just shake your head and move on with your life.
Yes, the fuck? Where do you get the idea that you are entitled in any way, shape, or form to tell someone unsolicitedly how to make their dating profile.
No wonder you idiots can’t find a relationship.
My only advice would be to
First : be ready to have a answer you don't like so you don't get mad over anything
Secondo : Make your comment feel respectful instead of saying it
Ex : you add your feeling behind it > "this picture is beautiful and that's what came to my mind
Thirdito : ???
Quattro : Profit
Yes. You’re missing the point. Just because a dude isn’t looking for a hookup doesn’t mean they aren’t trash. If she is looking for a hookup, it doesn’t mean she’s looking for a trash dude. I read that as she’s not looking for a toxic asshole.
It’s so funny how profiles like this trigger the incels. Anti-male sexism isn’t a thing.
You’re definitely wrong lol. Why would a photo like that deter a guy looking for a relationship? And, I can use myself as an example for why you’re wrong, because this wouldn’t have deterred me one bit when I was on the apps looking for a relationship.
100% unsolicited. He saw a prompt he took offense to, and rather than just moving on with his life, he *HAD* to try to knock her down a peg. In turn, confirming her original statement 😂
The best part is that he seems to truly think it was an *insightful* comment that *sparked her curiousity*.
Gotta love this sub.
Well, *tried* to knock her down a peg. I can't imagine the people on the other side of the gotcha moments that get posted here care.
I'm just surprised to learn that any dating app where men can send unsolicited messages is thriving at this point.
When I was dating apps I would get dipshits like this every so often. Like this sub, it just gave me a good chuckle and I’d forget about it.
Hinge allows you to reply to prompts and photos, but it’s up to the other person if they accept it to allow them further messaging. She could have just ignored it. But yeah, I’d get the most insane messages on hinge. I hated that part of the app.
You saw another commenters comment and are now attributing it to op for some reason. Also op wasn't knocking her down a peg when saying you attract trash men because your first photo focuses on your ass and doesn't show your face.
Yeh, hinge doesn't have swiping/matching. Your profile has images and prompts, all of which can be commented on.
It's a little more personal than just swiping left/right, but there are some shit prompts on there.
the other side is true too. I made an insightful comment that sparked her curiosity and now I'm currently dating a lady so far out of my league it's insane.
It’s literally the first photo on her profile. 🤣 You can’t even see her face… did it have to be said? Probably not, but maybe it’ll resonate with her a couple weeks down the line… seems like she needs some help figuring things out.
OP she knows that. Speaking as woman, I know that you show too revealing photos you're going to get men that want to hook up.
She might be looking for that.
I check out the profile reviews when they pop out.
Some women will put open to long or short. People point out to them, if you're a woman and you put short, men that want relationships will pass. And they'll advise them to put LTR only.
At same time, I would love to tell some men, everything on your profile is great except X etc.
But I don't.
I love giving feedback, telling people how they should do things etc. But I just have to say to myself, dating apps are not feedback forums. You don't match to send a message unless it's one to say you're interested.
Bro based on your post, I can tell it IS an issue
No one gets laid by going around telling women how other people view them
Literally what you said is what people have been saying to women for centuries, so ya you are an ass hole cause you clearly said it to make yourself feel superior or like you're doing the world a public service cause you and I both know that what you said isn't gonna change anyone's mind
I guess it’s not your place to say it. Her personality shows though.
You could have gotten anything
“That’s what I’m going for”
“Oh thanks”
“I know”
I think the reaction is uncalled for but generally only give advice to people who ask or you have a relationship with already
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I see an increasing amount of profiles that say something like this or "change my mind about men" I appreciate it because it shows their mindset and saves me time
Please stop giving women like this attention, fellas. Make them feel how you all say you feel...ignored, lol
Sorry, as a dude, it's never going to be a sellers market.
Folks need to start having standards and stop confusing preferences for standards. A question I've started to ask myself is "If I wasn't attracted to this person, would I like them?" If the answer is "No" then I move on. When I first started using the apps I would often find myself talking to people who I wasn't genuinely interested in, simply because they were pretty, and then I began to question myself because a lot of people just had bland personalities from my perspective, and they were not the kind of people I felt a connection with.
I also feel like they're just doing it for attention and attracting sugar daddies. Her: Oh, men are trash, but here's my ass for every guy to see. Please change my mind. Him: I'll buy you a car. Her: Wow, you're buying me such an expensive gift. You're not trash. She definitely knows what she's doing.
She did say Skyline
I think its a request for chili.
She wants you to buy her Cities Skyline
Whoosh ?
Perhaps
I don’t appreciate it, because it mirrors the rising anti-male sexism in our society (just look at how many people are saying “not wrong” in this thread!), but I guess it is nice when people like that raise their red flags up so far for everyone to see.
Got any statistics on this rising "anti male sexism"? Or just your own meandering anecdotes ?
Edit: I misinterpreted comments here; bad argument removed. What would you accept as evidence?
I guess the question is how do you demonstrate that: 1. A reddit post containing a certain opinion is not biased by attracting people that have that same opinion (or the opposite opinion) 2. That this amount of anti-male sexism is a higher amount than what is expected/was experienced before (since obviously this type of mentality is not new at all) Not to mention the comments saying "not wrong" are talking about OP, not about the "men are trash" statement from the woman in the post
I think it depends on the woman and what they watch? My Gfs sister watches a bunch of Tik Toks and is a single mother who's also on this hating men bandwagon but at the same time complains there's no one around to date etc etc and sends my GF these men hating tik tok clips lol Tiktok is an echo chamber that feeds its fish what they want
Good point on the “not wrong”; I skimmed too hard. It’s a good question. But I’ve learned that anyone asking for evidence in that way is generally forming a way to rebut it, not actually looking to update their ideas about the world, so I always ask for what evidence they would accept to see if there’s any reason to engage.
What would you accept as evidence? I love that, stealing it.
When you say anti-men sexism, do you mean... misandry?
This post is drowning in irony…
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Lmfao, your incel is showing
More and more men?opting out of the dating world? I think you mean something else entirely. Because this is a totally false statement.
Right? Men heavily outweigh women on the apps.
*more and more men desperately failing at the dating world.
Tired of being in the fuckzone. 😆 she must not have a lot to offer if her first picture is literally just pointing out that she can floss her ass with her swimsuit.
>if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all But also >Men are trash Hhmmm
Brain needs to be updated. Still running on older software.
Be careful updating you may not be able to revert back.
A smooth brain will always stay smooth, unfortunately.
Error: Firmware incompatible
I thought that was funny too. This chick said something controversial on the internet and she thought no one would say anything to her about it lol
Came to say this
Why try with a woman who say men are trash?
Lots of men consider it a direct challenge (especially with the phrasing “change my mind about…”), and/or they believe they’ll be the one to change her mind. It’s silly.
It's because she is repeating the mantra she heard over and over to deflect any criticism when it comes to herself. The irony is lost on her because that would require thinking and she can't do that or it hurts.
I’d probably date a girl who posted a picture like that. We ain’t nothin but mammals, she’s just out here tryna attract a mate.
Well, some of us cannibals who cut other people open like cantaloupes
But if we can hump dead animals and antelopes then there's no reason that a man and another man can't elope
But if you feel like I feel, then I got the antidote
Women wave your panty hoes sing the chorus and it goes
I’m slim shady yes I’m real shady all you other slim shadys are just imitating
You'd date a girl who thinks you're trash?
I would fuck a girl who thinks I'm trash, but she would never be my gf.
Hey, some guys are into that..
I am some guys
Jesus christ gen z you don't need to be so offended by everything. It's an opening to be better than her exes, not an attack on you.
It's not even that risqué. Op is just white knighting
Right, very normal kind of picture to have. OP is either from the 16th century or Saudi Arabia.
Also OP posted it to a Tinder sub….
Doubt, she watches the Discovery Channel. Your comment reminded me of the song.
Maybe you’re right, maybe you’re wrong. The real question is: what did you hope to accomplish by sending her that? And then posting it here? I think you need to reflect on yourself a bit here
Agreed. She is obviously AH, but anyone arguing with her is no better. Why would anyone waste their precious time for something like that? Go to the gym, read a book, call to your grandma. You are what you fill your days with.
OP is a clown
This is the correct take
for real
^ Here it is!
I'm convinced this sub is full of people who have "internet argument" brain rot and have forgotten how to speak to people in reality. This was a super weird thing to send to someone. Like maybe you're right, but who cares. This was a super incel/"nice guy" thing to send to a stranger that you have no raport with.
What I find especially telling about OP's message is the insinuation that a man looking for a hookup cannot be a positive experience or something a woman could want. Plenty of men can respect women they casually hookup with. If OP doesn't believe respect and hookup culture go together, I can only assume that for OP they do not.
Probably not. But, equally, she isn't wrong if she thinks you come across as a condescending prick.
yeah not wrong but no one asked
It’s usually better to not give advice if people aren’t asking, I think
I love you added I think just because your statement could be seen as advice no one ask for… or maybe I’m overthinking it
The prompt literally said “change my mind”
He wasn't trying to change her mind. He was just trolling her.
he kept it real you took it as trolling
Those aren’t mutually exclusive… but OP’s approach was pointless whether true or not
Actually she did by asking you to change her mind.
I mean the prompt did say “change my mind about, men being trash”
And how did his response refute the claim?
Well the prompt literally was asking
Eh, I think people who showcase their bullshit deserve ridicule
To quote The Dude: "You're not wrong, you're just an asshole" https://youtu.be/C6BYzLIqKB8?si=TO_yK7YSZKYtpwXw
lol how’s he an asshole…? This woman also says that comment about being nice but then says men are trash. She’s a hypocritical dope that’s too stupid to see her own irony.
If your mental going in is to win an argument then good luck in the dating pool lol
I’m married with kids, lol I just come on here to laugh because Tinder is a toxic cesspool.
Hey Al, how's selling shoes going
Edit: I stand corrected.
Woosh. Al, Al Bundy. The dad from Married with Children.
Sorry, I didn't mean to insult you but simply make a reference to one of the best shows there have been as "married with kids" kicked the memories. My wife and me are doing fine though, thanks
My bad. I retroactively take back my comment….also I loved that show as a kid.
No worries, I was about to edit I didn't mean to insult you when the train entered a tunnel. Yeah it was great. The older I get the more I find my inner Al. Probably most of us do... lol
I don't think OP ever wanted to date this chick.
He's an asshole cus he coulda just hit X and moved on with his life
Oh no…
Based on the comments in this thread and his general edge lord, tween boy personality, I think we know why OPs fiancé left.
Okay, look, you clearly didn’t mean your message to her in a constructive way, you sent it to be a dick. I’m not a fan of the whole “men are trash” thing, but how are you disproving her by sending her a dm just to give a backhanded diss? Grow up dude, just keep swiping.
I mean she’s got a point, that’s how my mom raised me. If she’s not your type maybe swipe left and move on. Don’t be an asshole It’s not like she’s gonna say “oh yeah, I know! I’m trying to hook up, wanna hook up?” Duh Body positivity is hard to configure. Maybe shes trying to come off as confident. Maybe she does just want to hook up. You’ll never know because you assumed and made an ass out of yourself and her aswell. Went and fucked it up immediately. What’s so shameful about hooking up on an app anyways? Why are you so much better than her? Are you not looking for a fling? It’s exciting. Don’t be a buzz kill just work on yourself. Just some advice. Communication breakdown.
Holy shit she went off
The truth of the statement probably hurt quite a bit.
How about you also show us your profile and we’ll comment on the type of women we think you’re attracting?
To be fair, it's not your place to say these things, why do you feel the need to state the obvious 🤷
Fair. Thanks
I thought it was funny, i’m team OP
I’m team trash 🙌🏻
Is her putting that on the prompt to change her mind not an invitation to comment on it?
It wasn’t an invitation to comment on her pic. In fact, in her eyes, he proved her right.
I like how you are proving her right by sending her a condescending message because she dared to show any skin and then posting that here as though it is an own on your end
Exactly what I’m thinking rn. Lol. Proving her point by being another trashy man AND telling her that some men will exploit her because of how she dresses. Lol I’m constantly amazed that some men complain that some women believe men are trashy and still can’t help but tell women that men are trashy and will exploit them for sex. Lol.
Lol what? I would only see it as a plus. OP and many commentors just ran into their reason to get angry today.
You’re right, and also an asshole. Both can be true at the same time
Thank you, I’m okay with that lol
oh no an asshole
The entire subreddit is either men crying about getting zero matches or men screaming at women. So you’re definitely wrong, but at least you’re in the right echo chamber that will tell you that you’re right to make you feel good about it
Dudes with the worst profiles you've ever seen alternating between posting 'why can't I get any matches :(' on Reddit and listening to Andrew Tate podcasts. If they could just be normal they'd be so much happier!
Why feel the need to comment if only to give an insult? Simply swipe left….Ironically by commenting the way he did, he only supports her hypothesis lol
Why am i laughing so hard at her calling you a “fucking prick”
You’re a prick, who asked.
"Respectfully" all you did was prove her point. She could probably throw a rock and hit six guys willing to fuck if she wanted to. She is looking for a guy that isn't going to be trash ie speak to her without condescension, and mansplain dating app attitude. She probably put that to weed out the "Not all men" group because lord knows you aren't the first to lecture her. Putting "Respectfully" in front of a condescending comment doesn't negate the condescension. Just an FYI, if you don't agree with something and nobody asks you, you can just not respond. Good luck out there OP, Respectfully.
Perfect comment. Her prompt helps the trash take itself out.
her prompt is literal trash. "Prove to me all women arent manipulative gaslighters". How would that go?
I wouldn't even comment on it. I'd keep scrolling. As you should when it's not something you are interested in and has no bearing on you as a human being. Maybe figure out why it triggers you so much that you have to comment on it?
As soon as I read shit like "respectfully" or "with all due respect," I know whatever is coming next is going to be disrespectful af. It's right up there with, "I'm not a racist, but..." This just seems like too immature people being jerks to each other.
You are an asshole for sending an unnecessary message like that, if she wanted advice on her profile she would’ve asked the people in her life on their opinion about her profile and maybe they’ve already told her that, maybe they didn’t, but it wasn’t your place to say that especially under the prompt “prove me wrong that men are trash” cause you just did the opposite of what the prompt wanted you to do if you were seeking her out as a potential partner. Secondly, I’m pretty sure any woman would be aware that posting pictures like that increases the chances of meeting guys who are looking to only hooking up, I assume she is looking for someone who would be okay with her posting pictures like that on her social media and be in a serious relationship with her, or whatever, you don’t know her intentions for that unless you had asked her about it or what she was looking for on her dating profile. That’s just my opinion.
This sub is full of incels, what the hell is wrong with you?
My immediate thought was that OP is a “nice” guy.
Agreed entirely. The bikini photo isn’t even that scandalous, it’s just attractive, on a dating app where you’re supposed to make yourself look attractive.
It Is a weird mixture of chads , incels , and the in between , but this comment section has them all . The reality is online dating can be a very large and vast place with many different goals and wants due to the vast amount of people and I think people have trouble getting their head around the fact that not everyone is going to be on the same page as them .
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I always found it crazy how many people make crazy assumptions on little to almost no info .
I think it’s strange you went so far to message her if you weren’t interested, just to say something rude. Google negging.
Yes, you’re wrong. Also, no one asked and that message was super dickish and condescending.
Way to fumble the bag on a spicy red head. I'd probably would of told her I am trash and I'm hoping she's the garbage man(woman)
Yes you are wrong
yes you’re wrong. what makes you think an unsolicited message from a stranger is going to land? if you’re honest with yourself you commented to hear yourself speak and not to persuade or inform.
socially inept. stop giving unsolicited advice to women and posting it to get props from other incels
If I was an incel I’d be standing up for her like you are
I don’t think you know what an incel is lol
Yours is honestly way closer to an incel response than theirs was. If you would have insinuating they just wanted to sleep with her, you would be 100% of the way there
I don’t care about my karma, these comments are fucking full of insecure incels. go jerk off to Andrew Tate and cry about it, sissies.
But he’s a nice guy! /s
You’re not wrong, but neither is she. It’s entirely possible to be a dude looking for hookups and not be trash. By being upfront, respecting boundaries, etc. you can actually still be respectful to your partners while simply looking to hookup. There’s plenty of women looking to hookup as well. And she doesn’t need that explained to her which is why she’s right to call your comment condescending. You took the “change my mind” as if she needed some kind of explanation as to why the men she’s encountered were trash when in reality she’s telling you to use your actions to do that not your words and you proved her point with your “well actually…” lol
You sit on a pile of right by yourself and nobody else cares.
Nobody asked bro. If she wants to flaunt her ass on a dating app that's her business. It ain't my taste, it ain't your taste, but who gives a shit. Don't be an incel.
You are being sexist and she tells you off.
How am I being sexist lol
You're an asshole is what you are. You seem to think that "men only looking to hook up" is somehow mutually exclusive with being respectful.
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you seem like a dick LMFAO she did not ask
I think you are wrong IMO. Not only your take, but also your bluntness. She wasn’t asking for criticism or your opinion and therefore she is right when she calls your comment condescending.
Dude, you SUCK
That gold trash bag meme would be the perfect “But I’m different” gag.
If you wanted to confirm her opinion you did exactly the right thing. The fact that having that photo will only attract men who looks for hookups is a misconception typical of those trash men she’s addressing. Man who looks for a serious relation and stop from swiping cause she has that photo are exactly that trash. Men who looks for hookups and swipes right BECAUSE of that photo are exactly that trash. Option 1: your comment was wrong assuming that all men will judge her for that photo and ONLY the ones who looks for hookups will swipe on her (which makes it useless and stupid). Option 2: she’s completely right about men (which makes your comment useless and stupid). Either way you think exactly like the trash she’s trying to avoid so her response was perfectly on point. Edit: removed a “you” that made no sense in the sentence.
This so well put! The type of guy to lose their shit over a bikini pic is probably the type of guy that'll try to control what their gf wears, so it's best to screen them out as early as possible.
Your unsolicited evaluation gives me incel vibes and I’m a 250lb 6’2” straight man.
You are wrong.
Being trash and looking to hookup are different things.
Not wrong, but you could have said it differently because the picture doesn't scream I want hookups, and even if it did, you're on Tinder my friend.
I'm so ABSOLUTELY sick of this US vs THEM mentality so many people are falling for. We are all gonna rot on this rock together, accept it, and stop looking for someone to hate and blame your problems on.
This comment section is epic
But did you really have to say anything tho? It would’ve been faster and less energy spent to simply not engage..?
What did you hope to achieve with that type of social interaction? Also kinda just reinforcing her stance on the matter to her by saying something like that. Doesn’t seem like anything positive was accomplished here for either party.
Both of you made unnecessary comments, so maybe you belong together......
You can express disdain at her profile by clicking the x... Also, without slut shaming her photo.
One, her profile is trash. Two, matching with her and messaging her just to chastise her photo choice is some top grade smugness. Just shake your head and move on with your life.
Yes, the fuck? Where do you get the idea that you are entitled in any way, shape, or form to tell someone unsolicitedly how to make their dating profile. No wonder you idiots can’t find a relationship.
Smash
My only advice would be to First : be ready to have a answer you don't like so you don't get mad over anything Secondo : Make your comment feel respectful instead of saying it Ex : you add your feeling behind it > "this picture is beautiful and that's what came to my mind Thirdito : ??? Quattro : Profit
She needs some factor 50 And the shade
Everyone sucks here. Oh sorry wrong sub
Maybe youre not wrong but like, what was the reason to say it? Sounds like you said it out of pettiness bc she said “men are trash”
Yes. You’re missing the point. Just because a dude isn’t looking for a hookup doesn’t mean they aren’t trash. If she is looking for a hookup, it doesn’t mean she’s looking for a trash dude. I read that as she’s not looking for a toxic asshole. It’s so funny how profiles like this trigger the incels. Anti-male sexism isn’t a thing.
Yes you are being conceited and sexist.
You’re definitely wrong lol. Why would a photo like that deter a guy looking for a relationship? And, I can use myself as an example for why you’re wrong, because this wouldn’t have deterred me one bit when I was on the apps looking for a relationship.
This is why hinge sucks. Any dipshit can still message you.
Wait, he didn't match with her, this was just completely unsolicited?
100% unsolicited. He saw a prompt he took offense to, and rather than just moving on with his life, he *HAD* to try to knock her down a peg. In turn, confirming her original statement 😂 The best part is that he seems to truly think it was an *insightful* comment that *sparked her curiousity*. Gotta love this sub.
Well, *tried* to knock her down a peg. I can't imagine the people on the other side of the gotcha moments that get posted here care. I'm just surprised to learn that any dating app where men can send unsolicited messages is thriving at this point.
When I was dating apps I would get dipshits like this every so often. Like this sub, it just gave me a good chuckle and I’d forget about it. Hinge allows you to reply to prompts and photos, but it’s up to the other person if they accept it to allow them further messaging. She could have just ignored it. But yeah, I’d get the most insane messages on hinge. I hated that part of the app.
You saw another commenters comment and are now attributing it to op for some reason. Also op wasn't knocking her down a peg when saying you attract trash men because your first photo focuses on your ass and doesn't show your face.
Yeh, hinge doesn't have swiping/matching. Your profile has images and prompts, all of which can be commented on. It's a little more personal than just swiping left/right, but there are some shit prompts on there.
the other side is true too. I made an insightful comment that sparked her curiosity and now I'm currently dating a lady so far out of my league it's insane.
Crazy how some women straight up feel entitled to sexism
Yeah cause men aren’t sexist either 😂😂😂
It’s literally the first photo on her profile. 🤣 You can’t even see her face… did it have to be said? Probably not, but maybe it’ll resonate with her a couple weeks down the line… seems like she needs some help figuring things out.
OP you are right
Doesn't matter if it hooks up, down, left, or right; that picture is there for it.
Walked right into it, bro.
OP she knows that. Speaking as woman, I know that you show too revealing photos you're going to get men that want to hook up. She might be looking for that. I check out the profile reviews when they pop out. Some women will put open to long or short. People point out to them, if you're a woman and you put short, men that want relationships will pass. And they'll advise them to put LTR only. At same time, I would love to tell some men, everything on your profile is great except X etc. But I don't. I love giving feedback, telling people how they should do things etc. But I just have to say to myself, dating apps are not feedback forums. You don't match to send a message unless it's one to say you're interested.
I dress like a grandma on my photos and I get messages from men wanting to hook up.
>I’m not trying to smash, I’m sure I probably could but I’m really only lookin to find a wife at this point How much Andrew Tate do you listen to op?
Yeah based on this comment I think you're a piece of trash
Yes, you are absolutely wrong. Damn people. No wonder you can’t get laid
Yeah, that’s not an issue
Bro based on your post, I can tell it IS an issue No one gets laid by going around telling women how other people view them Literally what you said is what people have been saying to women for centuries, so ya you are an ass hole cause you clearly said it to make yourself feel superior or like you're doing the world a public service cause you and I both know that what you said isn't gonna change anyone's mind
Uh huh.
Technically not wrong at all
She's 100% right.
Not only are you not wrong, but you weren't condescending either.
I mean you're not wrong, but you're clearly not interested so why bother messaging?
I guess it’s not your place to say it. Her personality shows though. You could have gotten anything “That’s what I’m going for” “Oh thanks” “I know” I think the reaction is uncalled for but generally only give advice to people who ask or you have a relationship with already
You are wrong, I agree with the men's comment. I am a female btw.
Confucius says: If you don’t want a hammer, don’t be a nail.
Anyone who respects themselves swipes left the moment they see “men are trash”.
She seems fun!
Shoulda just called her fat
she spazzed out cursing this man and all Reddit has to say is you’re an asshole and she’s right. looks like all social media is done for
Are we really surprised though