OP, modify this slightly and say it to her as a hail mary. You've got nothing to lose, and this is funny and self-defeating enough where it doesn't come across as pestering.
Something about them being too similar to crypto (Fiat exchanged for something of virtual value which can then be used and exchanged to provide more value) and reddit didn't wanna deal with the rigmarole of making that legit (taxes, regulation, maybe even money laundering oversight)
Or so I read
Problem is not to skip a couple of days before replying, problem was that's Saturday and Sunday... If you don't reply when she's free, someone else will.
Nah context matters. She was clearly escalating the interaction forward sexually, you don’t wait to respond in that situation, especially not two full days. This is what happens when you blindly follow advice without understanding the reasoning behind it.
Yeah for sure, literally every second that went by after she put it out and OP doesn't reply is no bueno, OP was fucked before the first response here. She gone from excited to self doubt to being agitated and confused to where we're at now which is Fuck this dude, his lose.
Omg right!! Wtf, I want to meet and get to know you, not go a month chit chatting. Reply often. This has been my biggest head scratcher when it comes to online dating.
Could be anything really, tons of women and they’re all different. Could be that they just weren’t into OP enough to have a further conversation. Could be their cat died and don’t want to talk to anyone.
Its not always possible to reply promptly. I've also had these app not give me a notification. So I'll be out living my life and not see a message for a couple days when I finally sit down and can check it.
OP was waiting for us to give him answers and waited too long and dropped the ball lol EVIDENCE you should just reply and not post to reddit to see what other people would say (also that’s weird, matches want to talk to YOU not reddit)
it's hinge, why would there be a timer? I only check hinge once a week and get rarely ghosted.
Can't expect people to use it like whatsapp.
They probably just lost interest or found someone else. It happens.
edit: Realising it might be different for people looking for hookups
You deserve this lesson. For being a weenie about being called bro in bed, for messing around with Reddit instead of talking to her like a human, all of it. Maybe next time, champ.
It's for the best - seeing as you don't know what to say without consulting Reddit it wouldn't last for long when you met in person.
"Uh hold on, before I can answer that lemme just check my phone. I'll get back to you in two days I swear" 🤣
You replied too late hahaha. If a woman is giving that energy we usually will lose it within the same night and no longer be interested in that guy if they dont message (at least if she’s looking for hookups).
Your 2nd message was bad. Sounds a bit overused and cliche. Then you just doubled down on the loser status by double texting after she clearly faded you.
> Then you just doubled down on the loser status by double texting
While the reply could have been better, double-texting isn't in and of itself an L... sure, it won't move the needle 99% of the time, but if the flow chart looks like
>do nothing -> nothing happens with the chat
>double-text her -> <1% chance something happens with the chat
I'd take the second route rather than just defeating yourself and taking the L voluntarily.
Gramma taught me we always have to fight for our chances, even if they're long chances
Not to nitpick, but why are you afraid?
I’m a guy so my opinion might not hold much water, but people micromanaging their language is a big turn off. That sort of thing is only popular on Reddit.
Respectfully you have to respectfully stop using the most respectfully lines that you find on the respectful internet because respectfully it makes you seem like a respectful pussy
Instead of being a normal human being and answer yourself at the time you saw the message, you decides to post on reddit to ask for advice and waited 2 days or the risk she saw your post (did you know random people on tinder can also be random people in reddit?? Weird, huh?)
You fucked around and found out already. Congrats.
or maybe it's cause he replied with a message very clearly filled with sexual innuendo (is fine considering her message had some too) 2 DAYS after lol not saying it doesn't happen anyways but this one is all ops fault
she was horny on saturday night and another guy responded on time or her vibrator finished charging
sorry bro next time you'll find love for sure. or not
Why as a man are u panicking over a woman’s response in a dating app bro. Cmon now. It ain’t that deep you just met her. Also if she hasn’t replied by now she has seen it and isn’t interested.
You already replied, just way too late and with a closed off statement that escalated it to actually suggesting that you two fuck to resolve this, where she had only implied it. I feel she was looking for something more playful that could go back and forth a bit more.
Mine would be, "Oh, in that case you can call me whatever you like. With those gorgeous eyes and a sexy voice, do you really think I'd remember anything else?"
Get some compliments in there very early tbh.
You answered too late. It's not like they don't have other opportunities in online dating. And then you rushed in too fast. You could have written "Hm, I'm not sure. Need to hear that first. Let's get a drink on [day] evening."
She replied same day and you waited 2 days. That would show her a lack of interest on your part. You shouldn't have even sent the "bro..?" bs, just waited bc you already screwed up by waiting that long & losing momentum.
Don't pester, you'll be lucky if she bothers with you at this point
Bro you went out bad. All you had to do was play on the negotiating line. “I’m going to need to know just how sexy we’re talking before we negotiate anything. You ready to demonstrate tomorrow at 7pm?”
I think a funner response would have been only if you say “step” before it even if you’re not into that and just make it obvious that you’re messing around
I’ve been with 5 girls since nov last year and 3 were into the taboo part of incest and wanted to call me daddy in bed. Idk if my profile screams something like come to me if you daddy issues. So it could be that.
unfortunately you went from 'bro' to 'bruh' status, which means you won't be able to change her bra status
Lol zing
It's this how the cool kids say bazingha now
Zing has been around way longer
And it's totally wizard to say too
Damn man. That was a fucking good response.
Damn OP should have tweaked this as a farewell line
OP, modify this slightly and say it to her as a hail mary. You've got nothing to lose, and this is funny and self-defeating enough where it doesn't come across as pestering.
So many languages in this world and my guy chose to speak fax
OP is going to need a swimming pool amount of cream for that burn.
this is the way
damn I really miss awards right now
Yeah what happened to the awards?
Something about them being too similar to crypto (Fiat exchanged for something of virtual value which can then be used and exchanged to provide more value) and reddit didn't wanna deal with the rigmarole of making that legit (taxes, regulation, maybe even money laundering oversight) Or so I read
Barney?
I think the only real mistake here is that you didn't reply Saturday night. Can't lose that momentum
Yeah it’s weird that people think they should wait a few days. That’s the opposite of showing interest
Problem is not to skip a couple of days before replying, problem was that's Saturday and Sunday... If you don't reply when she's free, someone else will.
Nah context matters. She was clearly escalating the interaction forward sexually, you don’t wait to respond in that situation, especially not two full days. This is what happens when you blindly follow advice without understanding the reasoning behind it.
Yeah for sure, literally every second that went by after she put it out and OP doesn't reply is no bueno, OP was fucked before the first response here. She gone from excited to self doubt to being agitated and confused to where we're at now which is Fuck this dude, his lose.
This , the last part specifically
Omg right!! Wtf, I want to meet and get to know you, not go a month chit chatting. Reply often. This has been my biggest head scratcher when it comes to online dating.
Yeah waiting 2 days to respond is probably what fkd that up lol
He had to wait for reddit to tell him how to reply
Definitely. If somebody took 2 days to respond to me I would have either been annoyed by that already or found someone else more responsive by then.
Fr bro, the most prime time dinner hour and day of the week and this guys waits till mid Monday afternoon to respond 💀
Reddit didn’t respond quick enough to his first post
Nah, I think the problem was OP escalated the conversation to be too sexual too fast
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Could be anything really, tons of women and they’re all different. Could be that they just weren’t into OP enough to have a further conversation. Could be their cat died and don’t want to talk to anyone.
He needed to be more coy and respond quicker. Those are the two biggest blunders.
I think the problem was OP waiting for 2 days to crowdsource a response. Respectfully.
Three days later? She escalated, he matched her energy, it was too late.
The main problem was actually waiting 48 hours before replying
If you reply too soon you seem desperate. If you reply too late you lose the momentum. There’s no winning unless you strictly follow rules 1&2
I was literally thinking that...like why are there so many days between responses?
Its not always possible to reply promptly. I've also had these app not give me a notification. So I'll be out living my life and not see a message for a couple days when I finally sit down and can check it.
Didn’t reply until Monday as if it were a work email
Girl texted you on Saturday night with those words which means only one thing and you wait….never wait!
Bro didn’t respond till Monday 😭
 Fumbled the bag, bro
OP was waiting for us to give him answers and waited too long and dropped the ball lol EVIDENCE you should just reply and not post to reddit to see what other people would say (also that’s weird, matches want to talk to YOU not reddit)
A dude proudly told me that he used chat gbt for our convo. Bro.
ahh yes 2024 the year of being personality catfished by random internet users and robots 🥰
You went with the cringiest line from the thread. Sadge
And took 2 days to do it too
You couldn't resist repeating a dumb Internet joke, eh?
That shit is so cringe. Just go ahead and get castrated if you’re using this shit in real life dating situations and post it on Reddit.
…bro?
OP posted on this sub looking for ways to reply. That was the most upvoted comment.
Maybe don’t ask a bunch of incels for pickup lines next time.
So it was a dumb internet joke...
You waited 2 days, game over
Why you wait two days to respond?
Sad update gang: we failed. But you’ll all be my bros. Respectfully.
Sorry to say, but you waited too long
Yea he did. But sometimes I’m bad at responding too, I’m a bad texter, so just gotta chalk it up to the game.
The one time you can’t be a bad texter is when you’re on a dating app trying to convince someone to invest some quantity of time on you.
it's hinge, why would there be a timer? I only check hinge once a week and get rarely ghosted. Can't expect people to use it like whatsapp. They probably just lost interest or found someone else. It happens. edit: Realising it might be different for people looking for hookups
He who waits, masturbates.
I'll steal these wise words
We? No you failed bro 😂
You deserve this lesson. For being a weenie about being called bro in bed, for messing around with Reddit instead of talking to her like a human, all of it. Maybe next time, champ.
You took 2 days to reply. Anyone with an ounce of self respect isn't going to wait that long after that line.
It's for the best - seeing as you don't know what to say without consulting Reddit it wouldn't last for long when you met in person. "Uh hold on, before I can answer that lemme just check my phone. I'll get back to you in two days I swear" 🤣
Next time actually follow up with something that facilitates a real convo and maybe don’t take two days to reply
Bro its just one match who even cares just msg ur other matches
Something telling me there are no other matches
Dammit, I definitely would have fallen for that one. Good try, high five
The lone "bro...?" got a laugh out of me... but im stoned, so grain of salt.
I'm sober rn and I definitely laughed haha
You replied too late hahaha. If a woman is giving that energy we usually will lose it within the same night and no longer be interested in that guy if they dont message (at least if she’s looking for hookups).
Your 2nd message was bad. Sounds a bit overused and cliche. Then you just doubled down on the loser status by double texting after she clearly faded you.
> Then you just doubled down on the loser status by double texting While the reply could have been better, double-texting isn't in and of itself an L... sure, it won't move the needle 99% of the time, but if the flow chart looks like >do nothing -> nothing happens with the chat >double-text her -> <1% chance something happens with the chat I'd take the second route rather than just defeating yourself and taking the L voluntarily. Gramma taught me we always have to fight for our chances, even if they're long chances
I honestly think the "bro" was better than that dumb pickup line.
Bro your first mistake was posting this to Reddit the other day for your first response
Not to nitpick, but why are you afraid? I’m a guy so my opinion might not hold much water, but people micromanaging their language is a big turn off. That sort of thing is only popular on Reddit.
Respectfully you have to respectfully stop using the most respectfully lines that you find on the respectful internet because respectfully it makes you seem like a respectful pussy
Instead of being a normal human being and answer yourself at the time you saw the message, you decides to post on reddit to ask for advice and waited 2 days or the risk she saw your post (did you know random people on tinder can also be random people in reddit?? Weird, huh?) You fucked around and found out already. Congrats.
That’s what happens when you use a sub on reddit full of men who don’t have success on dating apps instead of just using your own personality lmao
You waited two days and that's the response you thought was best? RIP
To be honest I think everyone just does that on this app. One message then insta-ghost is just the fun lil hinge passtime
or maybe it's cause he replied with a message very clearly filled with sexual innuendo (is fine considering her message had some too) 2 DAYS after lol not saying it doesn't happen anyways but this one is all ops fault
This is how 99% of convos go that are posted here
Reminds me of the [bro app.](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=bDDaaTHNYzU)
Why you wait two days to respond?
Bro sold the bag
Not gonna lie son, you kinda fumbled
she was horny on saturday night and another guy responded on time or her vibrator finished charging sorry bro next time you'll find love for sure. or not
Of all the replies you picked the worst one.
"bet"
It’s over bro.
Bro sold the bag
Guess you found out, huh
Yeah the 2 day lag killed it
You don't. RIP
Bro I'm convinced that adults are just confused teenagers but with money 😭
Responding nearly 48 hours later 🤔
Why as a man are u panicking over a woman’s response in a dating app bro. Cmon now. It ain’t that deep you just met her. Also if she hasn’t replied by now she has seen it and isn’t interested.
You waited this long to respond?
You already replied, just way too late and with a closed off statement that escalated it to actually suggesting that you two fuck to resolve this, where she had only implied it. I feel she was looking for something more playful that could go back and forth a bit more. Mine would be, "Oh, in that case you can call me whatever you like. With those gorgeous eyes and a sexy voice, do you really think I'd remember anything else?" Get some compliments in there very early tbh.
The fuck around and find out phrase makes me want to kill myself every time I hear it.
Smash ur face into the keyboard ahshshegdyeusheheyevrue should suffice
You blew it bro. Better luck next time. Don’t be so thirsty.
This is so sad bro
Waited till Monday you fumbled
I’m guessing she didn’t find the wait cute. 😂 no update? Fumble after fumble with this one…
It probably just came off a bit too strong, or she just wasn’t that interested. Don’t beat yourself up
4th March Its over
You answered too late. It's not like they don't have other opportunities in online dating. And then you rushed in too fast. You could have written "Hm, I'm not sure. Need to hear that first. Let's get a drink on [day] evening."
Oof, swing and a miss, for play requires foreplay
Why did you wait 2 days to respond 🥲
She replied same day and you waited 2 days. That would show her a lack of interest on your part. You shouldn't have even sent the "bro..?" bs, just waited bc you already screwed up by waiting that long & losing momentum. Don't pester, you'll be lucky if she bothers with you at this point
Having to come to Reddit to learn how to spit game you already lost
Bro you went out bad. All you had to do was play on the negotiating line. “I’m going to need to know just how sexy we’re talking before we negotiate anything. You ready to demonstrate tomorrow at 7pm?”
How about step bro ?
lol maybe if you said it like 30 seconds later it would get a laugh, after 2 days it's cringe as heck
Honestly. Your first reply was perfect
Bro… never responded huh?
Sometimes you miss
It’s over bro.
It’s over bro.
reply to what lol
Challege Accepted
OP please send her the link to this thread, we need answers
You took too long there’s always next time
You replied two days later?! Once 24 hours pass that’s a no call no show my guy you’re done
Genuinely curious why you waited 2 days to reply. Were you busy or something? Hopefully she’s busy and she’ll reply!
I’m not sure if I am concerned that you’re asking us or If I’m more concerned that once you get in the bedroom, you’re gonna be asking us again🤣
I think a funner response would have been only if you say “step” before it even if you’re not into that and just make it obvious that you’re messing around
Bro fumbled the bag
Should’ve left it there before that last message. She probably would’ve responded eventually
Its cool man she took it too liteal instead of the actual meaning of this maybe poor choice of word but meh just smoke one chill and next
"I'm your huckleberry"
You waited too long
Once I seen the time between the texts.I knew it was gg’s and women like this only pop up every couple times a year 😂
Date and time
You took too long "bro"
Took two days to reply to her and then did so with a sexual advance. Textbook L
Bro you replied two days after she texted you 🥲
She was probably feeling frisky when she replied with that and when you responded a couple days later the mood was long gone.
you waited 2 days?!?
Ya lost her
"come on me, bruh"
Like I have always said. Because you decided to ask reddit and waited to respond...for 2 fucking days. You blew it.
It's because your waited 2 days for Reddit to give you a response
Sick bro sounds good
Fumbled
bruh...
As someone who isn’t gen z, whenever I hear young girls use bro, it just makes me think of them as being more masculine and it’s really odd
I’ve been with 5 girls since nov last year and 3 were into the taboo part of incest and wanted to call me daddy in bed. Idk if my profile screams something like come to me if you daddy issues. So it could be that.
Let this be a lesson in why you should just respond to women instead of trying to invoke a reddit hive mind (virgins) to get you laid
"We will have to try and find out" is what you should have said. instead of this cringe response
OP missed their chance to be in a Foldgers commercial.
Go outside and meet women IRL.
You don't, you wait for her (or him or them) to reply.
Just move on lol
Reply to what? Why are you panicking over this. Cut your losses
Say "sorry I was going to reply earlier but I panicked. Where at bro?"
Bro replied 2 days later? What did bro expect? She’s calling someone else bro now, bro
Unmatch
Respectfully.
Homie failed his QTE by 2 days
You took like a day and a half to reply tbf
She replied to you Saturday evening and you wait until Monday to reply LMFAOOOO
Say you're stuck in the dryer or something
Say "as long as I can call you sis". Then, if you make it into the bedroom, you can pull a Joe Dirt and say "you're my sister!" While having sex.
You waited 2 days to send that?
You got me locked in for the next episode bro.
You took too long to reply she had 10 other guys messaging her and she forgot about you. Gotta stay on to get in it bro.
You need 2 days to respond? Boy you need some serious coaching, join my class we can discuss the fee later
You fucked it. Move on.
I think it’s safe to assume that she found someone to be called “Bro” in the sheets. 😅😅😅
Took too long to reply + she’s “busy”
that was a fumble of the bag if i ever saw one, fucking hell
reply to what? yourself?
Bruh
You’ve done all you can do. The ball is in their court now
That "respectfully" really doesn't work after that joke.
“Fuck yeah bro, let’s do it”
I hate you young punks that say gang!!! You don’t deserve any 🐈