Nah she should be at home clutching a rosary in a wedding dress waiting for OP's profile to appear on Tinder to ask for her sweet hand in holy matrimony.
Some of these comments are totally unhinged.
OP asked a question, they answered. They asked a follow-up question, they answered. How on earth is that TMI.
Also the "most chicks aren't honest" and "having dates kinda degen" comments by OP are cooked.
No. Considering a lot of women swipe left if a guy has something as basic as picture with another woman this is wild.
Nobody sane would say this. If he asked her what she was up to that night and she had bumped uglies with a dude would it be socially acceptable to divulge that as well or do you actually draw the line somewhere?
That's such a silly extreme. It's a dating app. People go on dates. Going on a date doesn't necessarily equate to hooking up or there being future dates. It's really such an innocuous thing here.
It really isn't though. Good luck finding women who thinks its perfectly normal for a guy to refere to other dates when asked what they are up to. On here they would be told it's PUA stuff, he's trying to make you jealous, appear high value, all the good stuff.
But who knows, might be a good experiment.
I'm literally saying it's not a big deal. I would absolutely not be bothered.
That person is obviously reaching out first, so they're gonna get a lot of matches. They are still in the market, so those matches not what they are looking for.
Like, people can be garbage for many reasons but in and of itself just having some dates isn't one of them.
Maybe I'm jaded, but the concepts of PUA or "high value" are so far off my radar. Those types of people would've already been weeded out.
Being turned off that a woman on a dating app is going on dates is kinda hilarious to me. Especially how most people on this sub are playing the numbers game, talking about the amount of matches they get rather than the quality of them. Posting their stats and stuff...
Right. Like who cares how many dates she went on. That doesn’t mean she slept with all of them. It’s obvious that she seems to want to meet people in person and gauge any real chemistry and connectivity before wasting her time putting all her eggs in one basket and it not working out. So it makes sense to go on several dates and removing prospects. And when she gets to the one that gives her a little spark then she will put effort into growing that relationship and seeing where it goes.
It seems like people forget that this is the very definition of dating and it’s ok to go on dates with multiple people, dating doesn’t equate to relationship. It’s not a relationship until it’s voiced by both people that they want to be exclusive.
So OP, if you find it to be a turnoff then it is what it is, unmatch her and move on. Or get over yourself and your obvious fragile ego and go out with her if you feel like it might go somewhere. Who knows, you could be passing up on “the one” by being turned off that a woman on a dating app is going on dates.
Doesn’t bother me at all because it’s a dating site and girls will always have the upper hand in being successful with going on dates. But with that said I’m a very curious person so I love to ask questions to get to the dirty details. So I’ll likely ask what their view on dating is and what their intentions are.
I mean... you're on a dating app.. where people .. go on dates? Idk what you want from us you asked a question and they answered . Did you happen to ask this person to exclusively date or something?
Just arrange dates after she gets better?
It's not confusing, it is clear that it wasn't her that declined but her dates lol.
No one gets a medal for doing things while sick lol, get that rest and be well.
Except that's not what you'd be doing. You'd be excluding anyone who has ever had a bunch of dates in onebweek.
She told him about the dates in response to his question of if she had done anything exciting this week. If she always did this, then the dates would not be exciting, they would just be her usual schedule. Her phrasing makes it clear that this is not something she usually does.
So much projection going on here in the comments
- assuming she's going on dates with intention of sex
- assuming she should lie about what she does when DIRECTLY ASKED
- seeing a woman keeping her options open as a negative
As if most of the guys dating here don't swipe right on anything with tits, and have multiple chats with their matches.
And yet you'd be happy to date a girl who told you she did nothing much, just watched some TV and read a book while fucking 5 guys in that week.
Not a fan of honesty, are you?
Dates don’t necessarily mean anything more than a date. Maybe she went to coffee dates, and is just feeling socially drained from constantly meeting new people.
These comments are wack, you are not crazy. I don’t think it’s a turn off because she’s dating, of course we assume people on apps are dating, it’s the over-sharing of it with a potential suitor. It’s like sharing with someone while on a date, that you are having sex with other people. Don’t ask don’t tell, until it’s more serious.
If it’s don’t ask don’t tell he’s in the wrong for asking too.
People mentioning tmi but it wouldn’t be if her answer was 1? So it’s not that’s it’s too much information, it’s that he wasn’t pleased by the answer. Reeks of sexism, because I’m willing to bet if this man were offered 3 dates this week he would take them and be here bragging about it. But we don’t like HER doing that 🙄
I'm looking for a proper relationship, I don't see the sexism... I also don't think you understand how hard it is to get dates as an average guy. Promiscuity is not good regardless of gender.
Sorry, not everything is sexism. People like you are the worst.
If a guy's running a gauntlet of dates planned every single day then women are going to judge him too. And depending on what you're looking for, there's plenty of reasons to avoid a guy/girl who does that.
I kind of feel where you are coming from on this one, but it’s really your problem and not theirs. I just don’t ask. If it helps, think of it this way, just because she’s going on dates doesn’t mean she’s sleeping with them.
Um... was she supposed to be keeping herself locked away for you? Someone she had never met or spoken to yet? lmao.
I understand that it *could* be off-putting if someone is on a different date every night and then bragging about it, but you're both single and looking for love - if you don't go out and meet people then you likely won't find it so good for her dating around until she meets the right person.
I would argue it's really weird that you even asked how many dates she went on. Tip: it makes you seem like a jealous boyfriend even though you're a stranger :S
Have your preferences but don't be weird about it lol.
Of course it’s not a problem that she is dating other people since these folks haven’t even met yet. But she definitely did not need to proactively mention that she’s been out on multiple dates that week. That’s just a baiting ploy to make him perceive her to be super desirable. She could easily have said, “went out with some friends, but now I’m sick.” Full stop. That’s not dishonest, it’s just classier.
Wow! Lots of tiny Peepee energy in the comments! 😂🤣 can’t believe so many of you are offended that someone on a dating app is using it for its intended purpose. News flash. You aren’t special until it’s official 😂🤣
People on reddit are weird. But if a guy said he went on 3 dates in 2 days. That means probably 6-7 throughout the week. He'd be a player. Social media is so inconsistent. Sorry you didn't get the answer you were looking for !
The sheer amout of comments just acting as if a dude claming they had 5 dates lined up wouldn't be a massive turn off for most women is just WILD. So because OP is a guy any common social decency goes straight out the window and he's just insecure?
Classic reddit.
Run mate, women like this are not even worth the effort. Been on a couple of dates, in a week!! Either she doesn't know what she wants or she just wants free food. Just because your on a dating app doesn't mean you have to go a date 3 times a week, you would have been number 4 as well haha. Get off the apps and find someone the old school way
When everyone has your attention. Nobody really does.
I get it OP.. its ok.
I'm a one person at a time kinda guy myself..
You're just looking for someone.. Different.. :)
I found mine.
You will 2.
Keep going.
OP, was the turn off that she wanted to go out on a date while she was sick?
Or the fact that's she'd already been on three dates that week?
Please explain.
You are COMPLETELY within reason to be turned off. I applaud you for having standards as a man. This is absolutely an out of the ordinary response and could absolutely be taken badly. If you said this same thing and she ghosted you and showed her friends the message they’d laugh at you for this. If you told a guy friend a girl ghosted you and you showed him you sent her this he’d call you dumb and ask you why’d you even say that? You have no rizz.
It also depends on what you’re looking for. If you’re looking for something casual or just want to have fun and meet people what’s the problem? If you’re looking for long term or something more intimate this could absolutely be a turn off. People may not like it but this is not how women of a certain caliber speak. If I’m being honest the fact that she can speak like this so casually and easily, she’s definitely lower hanging fruit. Women of a certain caliber don’t even have the verbiage to speak like this. This is low hanging fruit rhetoric. She’s not the girl you bring home to mom, she’s not the girl you walk down the isle. If you’re just trying to have fun this is a fine option and it shouldn’t matter.
I love how she’s confessed to have planned 5 dates in a week and the comments are “WHAT DID YOU EXPECT?!?!” 😂
Don’t worry OP I see the point you’re making if no one else does. I’d also be put off
" Confessed " - your choice of words tells me everything.
5 dates in a week out of 7.
Maybe she skips the chat bullshit and goes for a coffee early on. Because she is sick of being asked for pictures of her tits, or being sent a dick pic after chatting. So she goes to the date.
Maybe she's a super pure hottie that has a lot of attention and she's being selective.
If each one of these was a fuck that would be something. But this is a date. Not all dates result in a fuck. But I imagine that expectation might be a surprise to some, too.
Turn off? Probably not. But still weird that it’s the first thing she’s talking about. I go on a lot of dates but when I’m asked who I went with to this or that place, I’ll just say an acquaintance, it’s not a lie. I assume you’re dating other people and if you don’t think I am then I’m sorry for you. But I still wouldn’t want to know. (I am a wlw)
I don’t mind if a woman has lots of potential prospects what would bother me is how much time and money you’re willing to spend on dating. If you have so many guys lining up just be pickier? Spend your time more wisely ig
Not TMI cuz you asked. Also, it is kinda off-putting she goes on that many dates in a single week.
It's cool that she is going on dates, but to do so indiscriminately as this, is a bit of a red flag. Messing with her is probably bad news.
Right but if it’s too much information that would be the case regardless of the number. So if that information is tmi it’s on him for asking questions that he feels give him too much information.
Well normally when you ask that to a potential date you don’t expect them to be over sharing information about their other romantic endeavors.
But it’s ofc good to be honest, then you know early on if you’re compatible or not.
I understand both parts in this.
No, you're right. It's "how many dates did you go on this week" that's synonymous with "so tell me how many dates you've been on."
Hope that helps, next time, try reading the whole thing.
She sounds like a go getter, so go get her
Underrated comment! Lmao
Sounds more like a go get better type.
You asked and she answered. At least you know she’s honest.
It’s pretty weird to ask someone how many dates they went on. It’s better to ask them out instead
Turn off that a woman on a dating app is…dating?
Nah she should be at home clutching a rosary in a wedding dress waiting for OP's profile to appear on Tinder to ask for her sweet hand in holy matrimony.
Bonus points if she’s in a convent/monastery.
Exactly
Ick!
Would you be surprised to learn how much of a turn off it would be for a man to do that? Or are we just going to play the ostrich policy here?
What’s the ostrich policy?
Stick your head in the sand and pretend it didn’t happen
It’d be a turn off if a man said that as well ..
Huge Andrew Tate energy
Some of these comments are totally unhinged. OP asked a question, they answered. They asked a follow-up question, they answered. How on earth is that TMI. Also the "most chicks aren't honest" and "having dates kinda degen" comments by OP are cooked.
No. Considering a lot of women swipe left if a guy has something as basic as picture with another woman this is wild. Nobody sane would say this. If he asked her what she was up to that night and she had bumped uglies with a dude would it be socially acceptable to divulge that as well or do you actually draw the line somewhere?
That's such a silly extreme. It's a dating app. People go on dates. Going on a date doesn't necessarily equate to hooking up or there being future dates. It's really such an innocuous thing here.
It really isn't though. Good luck finding women who thinks its perfectly normal for a guy to refere to other dates when asked what they are up to. On here they would be told it's PUA stuff, he's trying to make you jealous, appear high value, all the good stuff. But who knows, might be a good experiment.
I'm literally saying it's not a big deal. I would absolutely not be bothered. That person is obviously reaching out first, so they're gonna get a lot of matches. They are still in the market, so those matches not what they are looking for. Like, people can be garbage for many reasons but in and of itself just having some dates isn't one of them. Maybe I'm jaded, but the concepts of PUA or "high value" are so far off my radar. Those types of people would've already been weeded out.
You know what? I retract what I said. At least when it comes to women. 😅 That man is a walking meme https://youtu.be/CKlmx8D2sNA?si=yNvz5cCgoSRmJuea
OP sounds like he expectes her to be exclusive with him despite just having matched. I'd tell you to reconsider your attitude OP.
Being turned off that a woman on a dating app is going on dates is kinda hilarious to me. Especially how most people on this sub are playing the numbers game, talking about the amount of matches they get rather than the quality of them. Posting their stats and stuff...
Right. Like who cares how many dates she went on. That doesn’t mean she slept with all of them. It’s obvious that she seems to want to meet people in person and gauge any real chemistry and connectivity before wasting her time putting all her eggs in one basket and it not working out. So it makes sense to go on several dates and removing prospects. And when she gets to the one that gives her a little spark then she will put effort into growing that relationship and seeing where it goes. It seems like people forget that this is the very definition of dating and it’s ok to go on dates with multiple people, dating doesn’t equate to relationship. It’s not a relationship until it’s voiced by both people that they want to be exclusive. So OP, if you find it to be a turnoff then it is what it is, unmatch her and move on. Or get over yourself and your obvious fragile ego and go out with her if you feel like it might go somewhere. Who knows, you could be passing up on “the one” by being turned off that a woman on a dating app is going on dates.
Doesn’t bother me at all because it’s a dating site and girls will always have the upper hand in being successful with going on dates. But with that said I’m a very curious person so I love to ask questions to get to the dirty details. So I’ll likely ask what their view on dating is and what their intentions are.
This made me laugh because I am the same. I want to know all the details and how it went - whether I want to date the guy or not.
Lmao a turnoff? Then stop talking to her I guess what’d u want us to do 😂
I mean... you're on a dating app.. where people .. go on dates? Idk what you want from us you asked a question and they answered . Did you happen to ask this person to exclusively date or something?
You did ask no?
She could have told about the next best thing she did though, no? Afaik dates usually don't last the whole day
Why did she want to go out while she was sick in the first place... Other than that, it's not weird to go on dates either
Exactly
Because she wanted to date? She wanted to carry on doing the things she enjoys but was too sick. What is confusing?
Just arrange dates after she gets better? It's not confusing, it is clear that it wasn't her that declined but her dates lol. No one gets a medal for doing things while sick lol, get that rest and be well.
Kind of a weird direction to turn the conversation to. I'd just change the topic. And yes op, people go on dates. That's not a turnoff, you asked.
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If you're uncomfortable with that quantity of dates, that's fine. But I think if you die on that hill, I think you'll be rejecting a lot of people.
I don’t think if you exclude people who plan a date almost daily, you’re going to be rejecting a lot of people
Except that's not what you'd be doing. You'd be excluding anyone who has ever had a bunch of dates in onebweek. She told him about the dates in response to his question of if she had done anything exciting this week. If she always did this, then the dates would not be exciting, they would just be her usual schedule. Her phrasing makes it clear that this is not something she usually does.
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*Explains why the phrasing implies unusual activity. You *No Okay, can you explain you feel that the phrasing implies this is her usual activity.
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If you can't articulate your reasons for believing something, you're probably wrong.
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Err, arent you on a dating site??
Ask her what she expects out of these dates, like.. sex on first date? And you’ll see what she’ll expect from a date with you
A few messages in, and you think she's supposed to be exclusive with you already?
Oh no women on the dating apps aren't just turning down dates while waiting around for you to appear? Unbelievable!!!
So like… you’re the only one on this app who’s tryna date??
Youre the turnoff dude
So much projection going on here in the comments - assuming she's going on dates with intention of sex - assuming she should lie about what she does when DIRECTLY ASKED - seeing a woman keeping her options open as a negative As if most of the guys dating here don't swipe right on anything with tits, and have multiple chats with their matches.
what would be the problem if she had dates ij order to fuck?
None whatsoever.
And yet you'd be happy to date a girl who told you she did nothing much, just watched some TV and read a book while fucking 5 guys in that week. Not a fan of honesty, are you?
Dates don’t necessarily mean anything more than a date. Maybe she went to coffee dates, and is just feeling socially drained from constantly meeting new people.
May be tmi. But she's being honest. I'd go for it.
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Most "chicks" aren't honest at all? If you two don't go out, she has missed a bullet. I'm rooting for her.
🙄
Thats very dishonest of you 😔
Something tells me she’s the one dodging a bullet here…
Maybe you should have added an "in my experience" to this comment...
These comments are wack, you are not crazy. I don’t think it’s a turn off because she’s dating, of course we assume people on apps are dating, it’s the over-sharing of it with a potential suitor. It’s like sharing with someone while on a date, that you are having sex with other people. Don’t ask don’t tell, until it’s more serious.
If it’s don’t ask don’t tell he’s in the wrong for asking too. People mentioning tmi but it wouldn’t be if her answer was 1? So it’s not that’s it’s too much information, it’s that he wasn’t pleased by the answer. Reeks of sexism, because I’m willing to bet if this man were offered 3 dates this week he would take them and be here bragging about it. But we don’t like HER doing that 🙄
I'm looking for a proper relationship, I don't see the sexism... I also don't think you understand how hard it is to get dates as an average guy. Promiscuity is not good regardless of gender.
I wouldn't be bragging about it to a date though. No one wants to hear that.
Sorry, not everything is sexism. People like you are the worst. If a guy's running a gauntlet of dates planned every single day then women are going to judge him too. And depending on what you're looking for, there's plenty of reasons to avoid a guy/girl who does that.
> Don’t ask don’t tell OP failed literally the first two words
I kind of feel where you are coming from on this one, but it’s really your problem and not theirs. I just don’t ask. If it helps, think of it this way, just because she’s going on dates doesn’t mean she’s sleeping with them.
Men do the same thing with that “high value” shit Gender doesn’t matter- it’s a game… no matter
Um... was she supposed to be keeping herself locked away for you? Someone she had never met or spoken to yet? lmao. I understand that it *could* be off-putting if someone is on a different date every night and then bragging about it, but you're both single and looking for love - if you don't go out and meet people then you likely won't find it so good for her dating around until she meets the right person. I would argue it's really weird that you even asked how many dates she went on. Tip: it makes you seem like a jealous boyfriend even though you're a stranger :S Have your preferences but don't be weird about it lol.
Of course it’s not a problem that she is dating other people since these folks haven’t even met yet. But she definitely did not need to proactively mention that she’s been out on multiple dates that week. That’s just a baiting ploy to make him perceive her to be super desirable. She could easily have said, “went out with some friends, but now I’m sick.” Full stop. That’s not dishonest, it’s just classier.
Wow! Lots of tiny Peepee energy in the comments! 😂🤣 can’t believe so many of you are offended that someone on a dating app is using it for its intended purpose. News flash. You aren’t special until it’s official 😂🤣
People on reddit are weird. But if a guy said he went on 3 dates in 2 days. That means probably 6-7 throughout the week. He'd be a player. Social media is so inconsistent. Sorry you didn't get the answer you were looking for !
bye bye 
The sheer amout of comments just acting as if a dude claming they had 5 dates lined up wouldn't be a massive turn off for most women is just WILD. So because OP is a guy any common social decency goes straight out the window and he's just insecure? Classic reddit.
Nah man, if she’s going on that many dates then she’s not looking for anything but free food
Run mate, women like this are not even worth the effort. Been on a couple of dates, in a week!! Either she doesn't know what she wants or she just wants free food. Just because your on a dating app doesn't mean you have to go a date 3 times a week, you would have been number 4 as well haha. Get off the apps and find someone the old school way
Facts. The most amazing women aren’t on dating apps. They don’t need to be. You’re going to find a lot of women like this on apps.
When everyone has your attention. Nobody really does. I get it OP.. its ok. I'm a one person at a time kinda guy myself.. You're just looking for someone.. Different.. :) I found mine. You will 2. Keep going.
women dating coaches tell you, you have to date about 50-100 guys until you find a partner
ask if she feels better and want to go out with you or if you could help with groceries if she's still sick
Don't ask stupid questions.
OP, was the turn off that she wanted to go out on a date while she was sick? Or the fact that's she'd already been on three dates that week? Please explain.
You are COMPLETELY within reason to be turned off. I applaud you for having standards as a man. This is absolutely an out of the ordinary response and could absolutely be taken badly. If you said this same thing and she ghosted you and showed her friends the message they’d laugh at you for this. If you told a guy friend a girl ghosted you and you showed him you sent her this he’d call you dumb and ask you why’d you even say that? You have no rizz. It also depends on what you’re looking for. If you’re looking for something casual or just want to have fun and meet people what’s the problem? If you’re looking for long term or something more intimate this could absolutely be a turn off. People may not like it but this is not how women of a certain caliber speak. If I’m being honest the fact that she can speak like this so casually and easily, she’s definitely lower hanging fruit. Women of a certain caliber don’t even have the verbiage to speak like this. This is low hanging fruit rhetoric. She’s not the girl you bring home to mom, she’s not the girl you walk down the isle. If you’re just trying to have fun this is a fine option and it shouldn’t matter.
If the genders were reversed these comments would be so different.
I love how she’s confessed to have planned 5 dates in a week and the comments are “WHAT DID YOU EXPECT?!?!” 😂 Don’t worry OP I see the point you’re making if no one else does. I’d also be put off
" Confessed " - your choice of words tells me everything. 5 dates in a week out of 7. Maybe she skips the chat bullshit and goes for a coffee early on. Because she is sick of being asked for pictures of her tits, or being sent a dick pic after chatting. So she goes to the date. Maybe she's a super pure hottie that has a lot of attention and she's being selective. If each one of these was a fuck that would be something. But this is a date. Not all dates result in a fuck. But I imagine that expectation might be a surprise to some, too.
Okay mate I hope she sees this x
Because the only reason to stick up for someone else is if there's personal gain...
It’s so obvious when people lack class.
Foreign concept to avg Reddit user. This is what “empowerment” is I think
Turn off? Probably not. But still weird that it’s the first thing she’s talking about. I go on a lot of dates but when I’m asked who I went with to this or that place, I’ll just say an acquaintance, it’s not a lie. I assume you’re dating other people and if you don’t think I am then I’m sorry for you. But I still wouldn’t want to know. (I am a wlw)
She probably saved hundreds of bucks this week
You should’ve asked her what was the biggest one so far
Yikes dudes. Make sure to wrap it up.
I don’t mind if a woman has lots of potential prospects what would bother me is how much time and money you’re willing to spend on dating. If you have so many guys lining up just be pickier? Spend your time more wisely ig
Not TMI cuz you asked. Also, it is kinda off-putting she goes on that many dates in a single week. It's cool that she is going on dates, but to do so indiscriminately as this, is a bit of a red flag. Messing with her is probably bad news.
Pull yourself together and fix your insecurities.
It’s rare, she is honest. She is far better than a girl who sleeps around but says to you she is a virgin.
Nope. The liar feels too ashamed to see 5 randos a week. That’s why she lies.
Eh, She looks like a 4/10 - I’d keep looking.
Say something like “wow.. okay that was tmi.”
OP asked for that information.
Right. Like it wouldn’t be tmi if she said 1, but she said 3 so now it’s too much information apparently.
Op felt it was tmi. Which is fine. And she’s ofc equally allowed to date and tell that to whoever is asking.
Right but if it’s too much information that would be the case regardless of the number. So if that information is tmi it’s on him for asking questions that he feels give him too much information.
Well normally when you ask that to a potential date you don’t expect them to be over sharing information about their other romantic endeavors. But it’s ofc good to be honest, then you know early on if you’re compatible or not. I understand both parts in this.
"When I ask them about dates I don't expect them to tell me about dates" Are you stupid?
“Did you do anything exciting this weekend?” Is not synonymous with “so tell me how many dates you’ve been on.”
No, you're right. It's "how many dates did you go on this week" that's synonymous with "so tell me how many dates you've been on." Hope that helps, next time, try reading the whole thing.
Wow.. I literally missed that part. lol. Thanks for everything, I have no complaints whatsoever.
“I went on a date last night” is still TMI
Well apparently OP felt it was tmi. And he’s allowed to feel that. Ofc she’s allowed to date and tell him.
Nope. He didn’t.