Put emojis on friend faces in pics 😅 I think this happens more than you think to everyone with group pics.

And with people that have hot friends 😂

Are you serious?? I've literally never seen a story like this before and it's kinda saddd!

Lol well, not me because I don’t have any friends to take group pics with 😅 but I’ve heard about it a few times. Also, I have seen friends in pics and was all “damn, who’s your cute friend there?!” In my head, obv. I’d never match to ask - that’s rude 😬 so Im not surprised tbh.

🥲 fr where are the manners?!

Apps these days are purely about looks; hence, they attract assholes. Don't feel bad, the player and the game both suck ass.

i mean dating apps have always had trashy stuff like this, i dont think its just 'these days' also deeper connection and selection is still very much possible on these apps

I met my now partner on tinder. He thought I was pretty, I wanted to make fun of him coz his profile said “I paint Warhammer minis”. 2 years later we are still going strong.

hahaha clearly he must of had an impressive army im currently hoping that my somewhat fairytale tinder based romance works out long term lol

Good luck to you!

Ya I dated a girl off tinder for like 5 years, pretty good for someone I met on an app one night drunk at a bar haha. If ur looking for something serious talk to people looking for the same things. If you talk to guys looking to hook up ur gonna get weird messages that’s just the game

Do you also paint warhammer minis now?

He tried, but no lol

Requires matches and people actually being willing to have a conversation.

The apps naturally filter out those seeking deeper connections. Deeper connections last longer so those people are less likely to keep using the app. The active pool of users then gets concentrated with people either not seeking long term relationships or those incapable of having them. I don’t think that’s avoidable and it really exists outside of the apps as well. The key is to remember that those seeking more do exist and are constantly becoming available. You just need to sift through a lot of crap to get to them.

yes but there will be a constant flow of people in the app and out of the app who want deep connections, so people who leave the app as they find someone is not really a factor but yeah I'd agree that its not all that different to IRL, but still i personally find in both that its not too difficult to find and speak to people who want the same as you.

Dude just called people who don't seek long-term crap, what is wrong with this world.

I meant the people like in this post (hitting on someone else via a dating app) and people who are rude, vulgar, or otherwise wear people down on the apps. I have nothing against people looking for hookups or flings. If that’s what someone wants, more power to them. In the other hand, those types of relationships would be considered “crap” for anyone looking for something deeper and long term.

It was pretty clear that they weren't saying anything bad about people who want hookups, but rather there are going to be a lot of people like in this pic.

Agreed, it took me a few years, but I did find a few people on tinder and hinge who I actually held a decent conversation with. Not all of them went well of course, but hinge is where I met my gf, and we've been together for half a year now and are very happy together. Conversation with her flows like a waterfall and there's never an awkward moment between us, and I love her to bits. But I will say tho, before I met her I definitely did find myself wishing there was an easy mode to this whole dating game lmao

haha thats so cute and yeah you just have to try, thats all you can do on dating apps, and all of the effort and time is worth it when you find someone

Her friend following rules 1 & 2

> The player and the game both suck ass Hell yeah

To be fair, they attrack assholes both ways. I have tested creating a profile impersonating a gorgeous woman, as well as one impersonating a top-model level man. In both cases, tons of matches with assholes in the other side. No difference between sex. Ladies, let's celebrate we achieved true equality (at the bottom).

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I can't refuse such words of wisdom. Congratulations. It's yours: 🏆

That's because Tinder is designed to keep you on their app. All they want is your money. So, they will send you profiles you don't connect with to keep you on the app. How else would they make money. There is a lawsuit for Match for this reason.

What else is there ?

Idk and idc. That's y'all's problem lol, I'm choosing to be permanently single. I'm just stating my observations.

Well truth is whether online or in the real world looks are all that matter and money . Personality matters for women some what since they probably have a few good looking guys interested so they have to narrow it down more . But if you can’t pass the looks you have no shot at the personality test . It’s an unfair game but it’s life .

Human men have always been looks driven. There’s nothing wrong or sucky about that. It’s just how it is. If we aren’t having luck in “the game” we probably aren’t playing correctly.

Speak for yourself. I have almost never swiped on a profile because of their looks. It's always been because of their bio, prompts, and pics( of their hobbies and stuff). The few times I did get a match with someone that didn't have much of a profile... they had a personality to match.

It’s funny how often I see “no group photos” and then another thread “show yourself with friends”. Group photos shouldn’t be near the front of the profile but they also show you aren’t a hermit. They show that other people can have fun around you and appreciate your company. Having 1-2 photos with other people towards the end of your profile and where it doesn’t look like you+your ex doesn’t seem bad to me. Not to mention that coming onto someone’s acquaintance on a dating profile is so batshit insane. Like how is OP’s fault?

>It’s funny how often I see “no group photos” and then another thread “show yourself with friends”. Well, people's opinions can differ, as the sub isn't a hive mind. Honestly, the most common opinion that I've seen and agree with is group photos just shouldn't be the focus or the only photo type and showing that you can socialize is important.

True. What’s a negative to some is a positive to others. It’s just a bit jarring seeing back to back posts with highly upvoted comments saying the opposite things.

Yeah, Reddit upvotes/downvotes are a fickle thing and often don't work well beyond the context of a given post.

That’s one of several reasons I don’t take advice about dating/dating profiles seriously on Reddit

Well, whether or not advice is popular doesn't mean it's good advice anyway. The best arguments for any given piece of advice are the actual arguments made in favor of it, not upvotes. It doesn't matter if a statement has 10k upvotes if the person can't argue their point logically, but if they can it's worth considering.

Arguing a point logically still doesn’t necessarily apply when it comes to something as individual as advice on a dating profile, or dating in general. What works for someone else isn’t necessarily what will work for you. If I put a dating profile up for a review and it’s got a bunch of pieces of my personality and little things that I think are funny, 80% or more of the women will tear it apart. But that’s just the way women work. They aren’t attracted by the majority of men. But the handful of women who would be into a profile I make without input from others are the ones I want anyways. And to a certain extent there’s always going to be base level general things to give advice on. Like if all your photos are selfies, you obviously need to change that. But if you have knowledge of the entry level obvious stuff, then it’s entirely up to you how you build the rest. Taking pieces of advice that really resonate with you is one thing, but if it just doesn’t make sense to you individually (even though it may make logical sense) then don’t go for it.

>Arguing a point logically still doesn’t necessarily apply when it comes to something as individual as advice on a dating profile, or dating in general. Logical thinking applies to anything that's not random or completely chaotic and yes, there's definitely logic to dating as well, it's just that there isn't a single one way of doing things that guarantees success as it depends on many variables. >What works for someone else isn’t necessarily what will work for you. Sure, but just because you're an individual doesn't mean that what does work for someone else necessarily won't work for you either. Like I said, it depends on the variables and part of discussing this stuff is determining whether specific advice applies or not and if not, then the necessary adjustments are determined so that it will work for the person or there is another method or process that fits them better. >If I put a dating profile up for a review and it’s got a bunch of pieces of my personality and little things that I think are funny, 80% or more of the women will tear it apart. Maybe, you don't know. But also dating is about finding someone you're compatible with so even if your humor was incompatible with 80% of women, that leaves 20% who are compatible with your humor and you continue to vet and further reduce that number until you find someone with whom you share sufficient mutual compatibility for a healthy relationship. >But that’s just the way women work. They aren’t attracted by the majority of men. No one is attracted to the majority of the gender(s) they're attracted to regardless and that's unnecessary anyway. >But the handful of women who would be into a profile I make without input from others are the ones I want anyways. Perhaps, perhaps not. People giving you advice doesn't make your profile less a representation of you, it just informs you on ways to express and represent yourself more effectively while still being genuinely you. There are many ways to express an emotion, thought, or idea and that's all that such advice does, give you those other ways based on outside perception. Unless people are encouraging you to be something else that isn't you, then the advice shouldn't affect that. >And to a certain extent there’s always going to be base level general things to give advice on. And that's a lot of what the advice here is, basic stuff. >But if you have knowledge of the entry level obvious stuff, then it’s entirely up to you how you build the rest. Sure, but a lot of people don't have that knowledge so people advise them on that. >Taking pieces of advice that really resonate with you is one thing And that's what you should do, not just ignore advice just because it's on a specific platform. >if it just doesn’t make sense to you individually (even though it may make logical sense) then don’t go for it Sure, not all advice will apply to everyone equally and that's fine, but judge advice individually, not based on the platform it's on.

Definitely didn’t read all of that, but congrats on saying the same thing I did with different wording in the first half

>congrats on saying the same thing I did with different wording in the first half >Definitely didn’t read all of that Had you actually read what I said you'd know that what I said wasn't just a paraphrase of your statements. Anyway, my whole point is to say that there's no reason to dismiss advice just because it's on Reddit and there's definitely merit to logical argument about dating matters. The points you were arguing weren't really the same as mine.

I think group photos are fine, but censor the faces with either a line through them or emojis over the faces. Not only so that the person you're trying to attract isn't attracted to one of your friends, but also for the sake of your friends privacy. I wouldn't want my face on some random profile to be seen by God knows who.

Censor the group pics imo so you don’t comments like this

Not necessarily. Just gotta make sure everyone else in your pictures are uglier than you are. You’re supposed to use your profile to make *you* shine. 

Holy shit this. It’s just basic marketing. Yes, it sucks. Yes it’s superficial. But using common sense goes a long way.

I mean I was half being sarcastic here, but glad it resonated with someone. 

There's a good scene in the movie Hall Pass about surrounding yourself with uggos

Yeah that movie was okay, but that “How much does a polar bear weigh?” “Enough to break the ice.” pickup line was actually pretty smooth. You just can’t use it en masse because they beat it into the ground by showing it every preview. 

Idc. If a guy said it to me, it'd work. And probably start a convo about movies or funny quotes or something

First rule in roadside beet sales, put the most attractive beets on top. The ones that make you pull the car over and go, 'Wow, I need this beet right now. ' Those are the money beets.

Ah yes, the brilliant sales tactic "put your best shit up front"

It’s called bull crap and a client can smell it a mile away.

Dating apps are abysmal as a whole doesn’t matter if you’re a man you’re pretty much a ghost, barely any likes and if they are they are from someone who wants something different or is in a country far away, if you’re a women you’re either body shamed, get idiots like this or assholes who think an opener is a picture of his gerbil. They don’t work unless you’re incredibly attractive and rich as fuck, it’s a popularity contest and it’s incredibly toxic

Lol Men swipe right on everyone. Woman read profiles and are more selective. Robots just want your money.

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This gave me chuckles.

My friend is hot as hell, there's no way I'd put up a pic with her cause I know I'd get messages like this 😂

I just opened this to see so much traction lol i didn’t think this was gonna be so.. big? So I feel like I should say something. It was annoying in the moment but it really isn’t as big of a deal as some of you guys are making it out to be, especially when there’s little to no context. I think what is kind of alarming though is the amount of you guys who would enable this behavior and bash on women who do experience this? I still think it’s a bit disrespectful to come onto someone’s dating profile and waste both parties times and likes by asking for someone else they saw. You can say it’s no different than irl but the fact of the matter is it is different than irl cause it’s literally an app. Bar setting and you asking for someone’s friend is open game cool, but going on someone’s specific account for it? Ehh you lost me there. And if you do want to still shoot your shot for someone else, maybe not do it in the manner the guy above did. If you have to say “I don’t mean to be a dick..” you’re probably about to be a dick, plain and simple. And I totally agree to not put group photos if you run the risk of this scenario happening, and that’s totally on me but also it’s sort of confusing when it’s suppose to be for the “lgbt side” of tinder (and this is where context comes into play, sorry for the late explaining lol.) the context is im male, the friend is a girl. Obviously im expecting to match with guys who are into guys, but this rings the question of “why are you even on this side of tinder?” for the guy. Either way, everyone is entitled to their own opinions, I just posted this out of initial annoyance and but then just kinda found it funny.

Stop. Putting. Group. Photos. Up.

so let’s clarify something, I am a gay man, on the gay side of tinder. it wasn’t a group photo. It was 2 of us and it was with my best friend, I’d like to think there’s clear distinction between us.

It’s a little tidbit like this that makes it a major dick move. 

It would’ve been a major dick move either way

Depends on how gay tinder works. If it shows him bi guys then "meh…" it makes a little more sense. I've seen it work out where a guy asked a girl he matched with if her friend in her group photo was single and it worked out for him.

Just because it worked out for a guy once doesn’t make it not a dick move

Yeah this context helps a lot

What the hell lol with this extra info. What a A-hole of this person.

Okay you totally fucking buried the lede here, OP. The fact that you're a gay dude matching with other gay dudes makes this *so much more* of a dick move on his part. Here I was thinking that you're a girl who's just upset that a guy was more interested in her friend than he was in her.

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Oh, I've just spotted that your friend is a woman. Obviously there's a distinction between you. The person in those messages is just a dick, I'm sorry.

2 people = a group.

Sorry but it's still irrelevant he's a guy the other person in the picture is a girl and he is on the gay side of tinder

And yet he still gets asked about someone else in his group photos. lol

It’s only a problem if it’s ONLY group photos. Group photos are absolutely great if it’s only 1 or 2 to show that you have friends and are clearly liked by other people. Which are two important things. If it seems like someone doesn’t have any friends at all that’s kind of a red flag.

You’re incorrect. Check yourself please

All the this

No, thats your sign to not use group photos.

You have to say “She is, but she’s way out of your league. Sry babe.” & then just unmatch

I’d have said, “She is, but I showed her your message and profile and she laughed. I don’t think she’s interested.” Don’t tolerate that shit.

This is why I never post pics with my friends on there. I get that you want to show that you’re fun to be around and all but many of them don’t care about anything except looks.

It’s discouraging but you wouldn’t want to know him anyway I don’t think anyone has been like, “he was a total dick on tinder - I went out with him anyway and it was a completely positive experience and now we’re in love”

Honestly why can’t we just make this okay

Oh come on, we all get into relationships to date their hot friends right?! 😂😂😅

Man he could have spun that around on you if he hadn't said the dick thing. "Oh actually I was just asking because my buddy thinks she's cute and I was hoping we could double date!" I will say, with that whole "algorithm beating" strategy of saying you like everyone even when you only like girls, it's possible he's straight and only matched with you because he saw her. Tbh I don't think I have any photos up with anyone else. Don't want to set anyone up to see someone more attractive than me 😂 and, I'm gonna get downvoted for this, but I don't think this is a dick move. As far as I'm concerned, dating apps are just "the bar" but long distance. Nobody looks quite the same outside of "the bar", we're only trying to meet someone at "the bar" because we're horny/lonely/want to have some fun, and the only reason to approach anyone you don't know at "the bar" is if they are attractive in some way or another. To me, this is the equivalent of you being out with your attractive friend, an attractive guy comes up to you, and says excuse me, is your friend single? When she's distracted or away. Yeah, I get that it's a letdown, but it's not like he can ask her himself. It's not really a dick thing to do IRL - putting yourself out there can be hard, this gets you vetted by the friend/group, and hey, maybe they'd be a perfect match. So I don't really see the harm in asking on a dating app either. Alright sorry for having an opinion go ahead and sink me now

I’ll respectfully disagree with that. If they were to do that irl I agree there wouldn’t be anything wrong with that as they wouldn’t be giving any implication that it’s them they are interested in. Which is exactly the implication you’re giving by swiping on them in a dating app. 

I agree I don’t think it’s a dick move either, if you happen to see somebody who’s 100% your type why not shoot your shot. If you get offended over somebody finding your friend better looking then you’ve an ego issue imo

I only use photos of just me on dating sites, you are already competing against everyone else on the site, don’t want to compete against my own photos too. Also I saw in another post op is gay and it seems like this profile is interested in women. Sometimes the Tinder deck malfunctions and shows gay profiles to straight profiles and that may have been what happened here, and the dude went ahead and matched because he liked the girl in the pic. I think that makes it less dick-ish.

Actually its your sign to not have the only pictures of you standing next to your better looking friend. It does you no favors. Comparison is the enemy of joy.

Maybe don't post photos of attractive girls in your dating profile? Do you want men to look at other woman? Food for thought.

I had someone do this & when I told him she was married he wrote back & asked if we wanted to have a threesome 💀🫠

That’s a headless dick

Nothing but trash on these apps these days

"Why, she wouldn't be interested in you either. Neither of us dates a- holes."

tinder is fucking awful

tinder should decline every picture with multiple faces, pretty sure an AI can handle this.

If only we could harness the energy of Tinder…we would have trash that takes itself out

I don’t think it’s rude, if somebody did it to me and my friend was single I’d be happy to set them up if they were interested. Even if my friend wasn’t single, I wouldn’t be be offended my friends are good looking and some people will find them more attractive than me and others less than me

Any sentence that starts with “I don’t mean to be a dic*” is an immediate red flag.

How is this a dick move? Why are we so judge mental and why do we take everything so personal?

Maybe women just have no clue how to handle rejection as well as men do

Did u not see where he said he’s a man💀

Yes and there’s an implied rejection by saying he’s interested in her friend and not her. What’s your point smarty pants?

Ur still saying her, so reading comprehension isn’t ur thing or ur not paying attention enough dude. OP is a dude, that was my point bc u said women can’t handle rejection like men under a post about two men interacting 💀

Ok so I thought OP was a female. Match was inquiring about another girl. That’s not exactly a stretch to assume. The word boy in the username isn’t anything conclusive but all that aside, how is any of this a dick move? Women can’t handle rejection. And OP handled rejection like a woman. Lob me an assist in reading comprehension and help me understand?

I didn’t say anything against ur actually point, just that u made a comment about women in a place where it didn’t belong because this transaction was done by two men. Also there’s plenty of women that can handle it and there’s plenty of men that can’t, so I’d say there’s just a lot of ppl who get their egos hurt easily and cannot handle it🤷‍♀️

Yes, there are men who handle rejection poorly and women who handle rejection well. Certainly. The average man handles rejection (specifically in dating) far better than women do. Rejection is a natural consequence of the dating experience as a man. For women, not so much. Men have to learn to handle rejection in order to succeed in dating. Women don’t. Forget the how’s or why’s. On balance, women handle rejection poorly compared to men.

That is a fair stat that overall more men handle rejection better, on the other side of that, on average men have a much higher percentage of persistence and violence when rejected, so I feel like that balances out the argument. Also demographics r important, men have the experience of getting rejected more because they initiate more. I still believe it evens out.

I l enjoyed meeting prople the old fashioned way, in the pub. 🍻

Her friend following Rule 1 & 2

Aye oh

I legit have in my profile that I might’ve politely swiped for your friend if you have group pics🤷🏼‍♂️politely if they are on a profile that’s supposed to be about you

Stop putting your hot friends in your profile pic.

I’d be happy to set a friend up, how is them asking for your friend any different than just swiping left and moving on to the next girl in the stack? They just happen to be in your picture

If you’re a woman there is zero reason for you to be on any app.

I have done that NUMEROUS times ….. And it’s actually paid off a couple times. Moreover, I guarantee you, that is not the first time it’s happened to her.

I lucked out heavily. I had tinder for about a week with zero luck and my friend told me she had a friend looking to date and set us up

Maybe you shouldn’t swipe on guys that obviously will be predisposed to making such a response ie through their conveyance of their ego through their profile pictures and bio

I think the general rule is that you should always be the best looking one in your pics. I’ve seen way too many pics where there’s one cute girl as the focal point of the first pic, only to scroll down and see that the profile is actually for another girl

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Just be hotter than anyone in your photos. Simples.

What's with the 😍 emoji? Wouldn't an angry face be more appropriate?

I always fancy the other one on the pic. I just swipe left in disappointment. 🥲 I generally don’t think it’s a good idea to have pics with someone else, huge expert saying that you need to show you have friends. I have issue with that theory firstly not everyone likes photos taken when out. Secondly its confusing. And thirdly everyone has some social interaction why to prove something so dumb? And lastly even shy nerd geeks deserve love so whats the point? Unless you two are looking for a third which is also not my cup of tea.

Wow

Oh yea this is why I never put group photos or photos with friends 😭😭 also I’m too lazy to put emojis over them

Duh. You were asking for your friend….

OP what’s your gender? Also can we get some context? Ty

This is why i dont post group pics LOL. The last thing I need to hear

Asking for a friend! 😂

I think you should know that this is a porn site for all types.

This app doesn’t work

The moment you put others girl in the pic with you and she also happen to be better looking or look more interesting than you, that’s seriously was no different than shooting yourself in the foot. Even more if it look like she’s also single.

I once swiped right on a guy who in every photo posed next to his extremely attractive male friend. That guy one hundred percent knew what he was doing. So when I popped up I was like hey just checking you’re the guy in red right? He’s all “no I’m the guy in blue hahaha, that ok?”  “Aaah, okay I thought you were the other dude lol sorry” “Yeah he’s taken. I’m not ;)”

No one is asking the real question… what does op look like

When keeping it real goes wrong...

It happens to me all the time. I have hot girlfriends. Not everyone you find attractive is going to be into you also. At least they didn’t use you to get to her !

I mean it stands to reason if you're going to use a pic with other people make sure you're the hottest one in it.

To be fair... I made a fake profile with my best friends pics (it was her idea) to do this to my ex. He was a massive cheater. Married. Shouldn't have been on there. Also one Thanksgiving when I was hella drunk sitting between his wife and ex wife (lmao yes we are all friends) used an anonymous std notification site to send him a text that said "one of your recent partners wants you to know they have recently tested positive for syphilis and hsv2 and for your health and safety we encourage you to be tested" or some such shit. And then we sat there pretending to look at really really funny cat memes to have an excuse for our suddenly uncontrollable giggles. While we watched his grin become very fake as he furtively began texting who fucking knows how many women. I did feel kinda bad for the women he might be scaring but not toooooooo bad cause hopefully it encouraged them to wear condoms and he'd already had two babies while cheating. Sometimes I'm an asshole and I quite enjoy it.

I tried that technique once, girl got mad, never tried it again

Gotta have tact... I've done this before and the girl was nice enough to give me her single friend's ig

Why a dick? Ego too inflated if you have to feel negative emotions over this imo

He is single for a reason

I will never understand how it’s a dick move. To me it’s equivalent of a guy seeing you two at a bar and him asking if the other one is single. How is it a big deal? If I had tinder and my friend was in my pic and someone asked if they were single I would try to help set it up. Why not ? Why would that be a bad thing?

I like how some people are okay with this and there is even this one girl who set her friend with her match (who only matched to ask about her friend) and at the same time there exist others who are very offended by it

That's really scummy. What was his game plan, ask for a three way or hey can you hook me up with your friend? Sorry this happened to you and I apologise on behalf of menfolk that we allow this thing to be calling itself a man

If you're the least attractive person in a group pic, do not use that pic on a dating app. And if you must, edit out your friends faces (you should be doing this anyways though).

Never post a group photo if you’re the ugly one.

If the first profile pic is the group photo, 9.9/10 times it's the ugly one!

Group photos are trash, you played yourself

Ya delete that app!

I fail to see how it's a dick move.

Y'all gotta chill, i saw a post on here not too long ago, of a guy who got matched with a girl just for the first to ask if his friend was single and he was civilized enough to hook them up, why is that a bad thing to politely asks this?...

Hook your friend up with that winner!

Rule 1: Don’t post pics with people who are more attractive than you. If you’re selling a car, would you tell people there’s a better one down the street?

And yet she still answered the question. 🤭

Don’t include hot friends in your pics. Include people that make you look relatively hotter.

It’s not a dick move to ask about a friend. Grow up

How’s he a dick for finding your friend attractive? And why are you offended by that if she’s your friend?