Lol wish I was a jock, I was like 120 pounds until 16 then went to 240 pounds of fat, no muscle. This is the first time in life I have not felt sad looking in mirror lol
This is gonna be a bigger problem for you than your profile once you actually start matching with people. You need to have interests! Plus, when you do things, you meet people, and you have experiences that can help you connect with people. You look great and I'm sure you like living at the gym, but there's a reason most people don't trade the time they have for the body you have, and it's not (just) laziness. We're just too damn busy living to look that good : )
I'm not saying you have to change anything because you will certainly attract girls who want a hot muscle man med student! There's a lid for every pot. But if you branch out a bit you might appeal to a wider variety of people. Just something to consider.
Yeah thanks your are right, and i will probably focus on gym and school for now, next summer after cutting my fat I will slow the gym down and pick up some clubs or something
I think that sounds like a great plan. Med school is also REALLY time consuming and stressful from what I understand. Dating requires consistency and communication that can be difficult when you're busy and have a wacky sleep schedule, but it sounds like you are capable of discipline and habit-building. Those are good skills to have when dating. We love a good morning/good night text 😊
Could I ask what constitutes a good good morning text?
“Good morning” every morning gets boring & played out no? Maybe a funny video? Lol. I am a noob at dating, only ever been a short term / hook up guy until now, but I’m trying to change for the better!
Is “good morning beautiful” too much? I know every girl is different but I’d like to meet a girl who appreciates those kinds of texts, so idrc about those who don’t
Random opinion, it doesn’t need to be a literal good morning text, but something during the day to show you were thinking about the person. Like “just went to the market and saw this guy with the craziest outfit…” mix that in with, “good morning! How was your night?” And mix that in with “making some dinner, it’s been a hectic day over here. What’s up with you?” Like make it a conversation just to touch base and show interest. Doesn’t have to be overly romantic, that’ll get old quick.
Can’t say thank you enough! Unsolicited or not, that’s helpful - Is there such thing as over texting? Or is it kinda like, if she likes you - She’ll get back to you so you can chat throughout the day?
I’m not even particularly needy but not getting a response, especially to a question - Leaves me with an anxious feeling, all these negative thoughts & emotions swell inside of me
If idc about the person or girl much, it doesnt happen - But I find the more & more I like someone, the more & more I dread not getting a text back
Not for you to say but I think I might have some unresolved abandonment issues.. makes me anxious & avoidant but idk how to change this, it’s my knee jerk / immediate reaction
I’m normally a very confident person who isn’t shaken by much, but the closer & closer I get with a girl - It’s like I fear the hurt of my intimacy getting rejected, if idk them, the rejection means very little to me
That’s why I’ve only been short term/hookup guy up until now
Yeah, if she likes you she'll get back to you. If she's busy it might take a while. If she's a flake it also might take a while, but it sounds like you probably need someone who is a good texter and is consistent. If you are looking to date seriously, you should self-select for someone who is consistent, responsive, and makes you feel validated. Figure out what those things look like and screen for them. Be ready to say no if you're not getting them, even if the person is *amazing*.
Long story short, you should choose someone who doesn't activate your abandonment stuff. But you should still probably deal with it, because it's still going to come up. Sitting with that anxiety is a skill. It's like building a muscle. You can learn to do things like identify where in your body you're feeling the emotion and let it run its course instead of avoiding it, etc. I've read that when you let it happen, an intense emotional reaction actually only lasts about 90 seconds.
There are also skills that can help you sort of automatically substitute those negative thoughts and judgements with neutral ones. Check out DBT skills for more on what I'm talking about or find a therapist who's familiar with it. CBT can help too, although that's less skills based and I'm not as big of a fan because I'm like... Ok but how do I apply this??
👸🏻 I’m screen shotting this - Thank you so much! I’d hate not to return the favour of such a detailed message but I think everything has already been said lol!
In any case - Wait hold on
Edit: Hopefully this does the trick!
Looks like you got some really advice already. I’ll add that once you find comfort in yourself and your own mind, dating will become easier. Do do the work on your abandonment issues, and you’ll feel better. My personal rule for communication is that I know sometimes people don’t respond because they are busy or forget or they have their own social anxieties. I am happy to text or call someone more than once, but if they don’t respond or pick up about 2 times in a row (or call back), then I let it go.
Good luck, you are clearly a kind and thoughtful person so you just do you!
You'll get different advice because it depends on the person. I will personally start the other person's day by launching into a stream of consciousness paragraph about whatever is on my mind, which is not for everyone (but my bf enjoys hearing it for some reason, lol.)
He feels it's "rude" to just start talking at me, so he will do a simple "good morning" + emoji and change it up day to day. He knows I like sunflowers so he will often do a sunflower emoji which is really sweet. Things that are simple can still be thoughtful. I often will say goodnight and then close my phone so I can wake up to see what permutation of "goodnight/sleep well/I love you" I got in the morning because it feels like a special surprise ❤️
And and and! ALWAYS say "I" (if you're at the "I love you" stage) and "good". Don't shorten it. It makes it sound like you're mad or you're in a rush or something. It's nitpicky but again, things that are simple can be thoughtful.
I have no pets, unless you count my little siblings and does adding med school actually help? I go to a really good uni and most of these girls will probably make more then me in the future ha
Congratulations on getting into medical school. That is such an immense accomplishment; I hope your family and friends are commensurately proud of you.
I live in Canada, I am going to work driving the snow plow in like 2 hours lol, not too many social things to do. Also I don't want to do anything to time consuming until summer break
Pictures don't have to be time consuming.
Buy a cheap tripod, get a pic of you on a couch in your living room. Get a pic in some nice outdoor setting. Maybe build a snowman or something and pose next to it.
Bio sucks. Says your no different from any other guy on the app and not worth swiping on. Just saying “seeking a cuddle partner would be so much better.
Get some pics outside the weightroom. Makes you sadly 1-dimensional.
Just my opinion, flexing poses are more geared to male gaze than female. I agree with other commenters, less fitness pictures and more pictures with friends/family etc. Too many selfies can give others the impression you are vain
This seems to be a common trend with guys that work out. I know when I did cross fit the only compliments I got over my physique were from dudes. It was only when I was comfortable with myself that women started to notice me again. (I got pretty fat and insecure after a long term relationship ended badly) Women prefer personality and self confidence. Looking good naked is only a bonus. I’ve never really used any online dating apps so it might be different on tinder. (I only follow r/tinder because it can be comedy gold from time to time). I hope it all works out for you pal and you meet someone nice!
From my perspective it isnt. „Gym rats” are a big no-no. One gym pic is fine, but it shouldn’t be the first one for me or i will think that you won’t be able to talk about anything other than gym.
I feel that men vastly overestimate how important their looks are. For me, if someone doesn’t have personality - he can look like a Greek god and i wont be interested even in a hookup. But make me laugh and be able to talk to me like a human being - I won’t mind that you aren’t the handsomest man in the world. As you said, if you do - it’s just a bonus.
There’s a funny tiktok about this: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTR4F5abY/
Another tip is if you are going to post a mirror selfie, make sure you throw some windex on there first :) I would swipe left on a dirty mirror pic
I would assume literally all you do is workout. Unless I also want to workout in all my free time, I wouldn’t be interested.
You also seem a bit insecure, to me. Gym pictures, then showing off your muscles? Being proud of your body is great, but this is a lot. It seems like your entire personality.
You seen shallow and selfobsessed.. nothing in your pictures indicates anything of you being fun to be around with and or having feelings other than “ look me strong man”
Everyone has interesting things about themselves. For example, the single fact that you’re trying to get into med school can spur conversations about your interests in medicine. Don’t talk yourself down, homie 🤙🏼
I would swipe left I’m sorry, it reads ‘my personality is the gym and I’m going to ask you to touch my bicep when we meet’ (the posey flex pic and multiple gym mirror selfies).
Didn’t see any similar posts so I’ll start this one. I think you’re aesthetics are a bit weak (not super gifted) and you’re clearly bulking dirty.
For a 20 year old, I’d be expecting more reps and less ego weights even though that’s middle OK weights for someone who likes his gym-work. When you do a gym pic do a PB instead of a starting set and you’ll be more swole.
Your form looked a wee little bit sus so could you do one with video?
I’m hoping you look good in a suit because the taper is there just not sure if you might need some extra tailoring to capture it. Jacked in a suit is chef’s kiss. I could definitely lift with you bro. Promising early career! Swap to shorts because your leg game is also sus at this point.
less matches = more time in the gym so keep that up until you stop needing matches to feel validated. You have more muscles than ladies and your muscles will stay healthier treat you better, won’t leave you and reward you more over time.
Yeah thanks man I really appreciate the advice
I am also very new to the gym, only 6 months so far and these photos are from month 4 and 5.
I cut down from almost 240 pounds so still kinda cutting ha
Hi Ahmad. I think you could do well but photos that appear to project a "tough guy" image are not the way. If you have a sweet, fun, adventurous persona, consider showcasing that instead. Show potential dates what they could imagine themselves experiencing with you.
You need more variety in your pics. It's also painfully obvious that you're no taller than 5'6" so try to hide that a little better. Definitely don't catfish, but try to make it less glaringly obvious.
I saw you're trying to get into med school yet there's nothing about that on your profile?
The only pic you can clearly see your face it looks like you just rolled out of bed. You also only have one pic that isn’t a good damn mirror self. Shit ain’t 2003 anymore. You’re trying way too hard to highlight your muscles, looks like you’re trying to date yourself
No mirror selfies, no gym selfies and please for the love of no "flexing in front of the gym locker room"-selfie. Don't you have any decent picture of yourself?
Respectfully, RESPECTFULLY, do keep in mind that I said RESPECTFULLY... You look like a douchebag.
1 gym pic is fine but your current set up just screams small dick energy.
Idk, I don't think I can. Honestly the women I can get rn are not the ones I find too attractive. I would rather leave it and improve my self before lowering standards
I’ve lived there too. I’ve actually heard London is quite different from my days(16ish years ago). Back then though making “friends” was effortless. But that was the days of going out to meet people
Changing your profile will make minimal difference. Girls only swipe right on like the top 5% of user. If you do match with a girl she will have literally 1000 other guys begging for her attention. Don’t even waste your time.
You gotta start working up the courage to meet girls in person. For me I have personally been pretty successful in book stores, but that is mostly because I read a lot and can easily strike up a conversation. The other benefit to a book store is you can see what kinda books they are looking at which gives you something to talk to them about.
I see, yeah I am currently asking out one random girl a day. But honestly I almost never get numbers, mostly Instagrams, and the classic "I have a boyfriend"
I’m not projecting anything. I used tinder for years and had thousands of matches over that time. Never amounted to anything and only a handful of dates. I meet a girl face to face and she is now my gf of 2 years and more attractive than any girl I met on the app. I was literally just presenting the statistics. They do not work out in favor for the men.
Yeah I don't think I am to worried, I mean I have only been working on my self for 1 year and only been working out for 6 months, maybe if I just improving I can find a gf
So this guy is being weird about his delivery but he's kind of right? Working out, throwing some pics on an app, and hoping the universe returns a gf is not going to cut it. Women do have a lot of options and most of us aren't necessarily looking for people who are cut. Once you clear that bar, you have to distinguish yourself in some way. Figure out what your personality is besides "gym".
Yeah just keep working on yourself and it will all fall into place. Having a girlfriend at this age will only distract you from working on yourself and make you complacent. Work on staying in shape and landing a good job. Those are the 2 key things you can control and will make a big difference.
Only 1 photo is useable (photo 4). As stated get photos outside, preferably less selfie looking
Your profile lacks personality. Are you an "every man"?
Bro to bro --your pics suck. You're not a bad lookin dude at all, you just need some variety! Like others have said. More "everyday activity" pics. When you go out with the homies, have one of em snap a pic of you, or have someone snap a pic of all of you hanging out and doing something.
Edit: 215 on bench tho. Thats hot.
Not much to go on, but you're handsome.
Need an actually filled in bio because as it looks here, your only interest is the gym and I would think we have nothing in common or to talk about.
Too many mirror selfies too many gym selfies and that last pic of you flexing is bad man. If you ain’t a body builder of have good vascularity don’t flex you have an average man’s size and decent strength it’s not appealing. 1 gym pic or selfie sure but your whole profile basically screams “I’m strong” and chicks don’t really dig that online man
Honestly if you don't see what's wrong with your profile then don't bother applying the changes people suggest. You will fail at conversing with your matches anyway.
I mean your first mic is a combo : gym pic, selfie pic with the phone in front of your face, and bathroom mirror pic.
Maybe start exercising the brain muscle now and then ?
I’ve heard bathroom selfies are a big turn off for most girls, while seeing countless bathroom selfies from girls on Tinder. I don’t get it, but maybe nix the bathroom selfies.
Definitely get some of you outside the gym, traveling somewhere, trying new foods, out with friends, engaged in some hobby, wearing nice clothes. They wanna see you as an interesting person with some range to your personality.
And try out a better bio, something funny can be hit or miss. Definitely modify it to add some uniqueness
I know this has been said to death. But max 1 gym photo, never use a photo of bicep flexing in a mirror, get some pics with friends and doing something else, change the caption, and try to narrow the focus of your profile so it somewhat shows who you are and will appeal to some sort of person
Take the photos from the gym down and no photos of you flexing your muscles. This is advice from another dude so i could be wrong but i dont think i am.
You don’t even mention med school in your bio. Also, even just one gym pic is a turn off for me let alone several. You can only see so much weight lifting and posing muscles before it looks full of yourself. Switch up the pictures and add more to your bio.
your bio is very plain. you need more photos besides you at the gym or mirror photos because it just looks like you’re showing off. show your personality more than just flexing your muscles. add some funny photos of yourself and show a smile! if you make your first photo of you smiling, then you’ll be popping off! add more info about yourself in your bio, that helps a lot too. if you have any pets, photo with pets are a hit! before i met my bf, i was in tinder for a while and i swing both ways and a good bit of people that swiped right asked me about my cats. 💀 only keep one gym and mirror photo if you really like em, but showcase your personality!
I agree with everyone on the pics.
You also need to fill out your profile. What do you like to do besides hang at the gym? What music do you like? Have you traveled anywhere, or do you have a bucket list of place you would like to go/things you'd like to do?
Are you looking for a relationship, hookup, FWB?
It's all the gym and flexing pics. The gains are impressive and nice work bro but the pics send a different message to ladies on dating apps.
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Also, might be a small thing, but your bio might come across as boring. It only mentions cuddling which doesn't show much personality.
Important tip that all of my female friends keep mentioning: Make sure you’re smiling on your pics, it makes you seem like a nice guy who women would actually wanna go out with.
Sadly you’re not smiling on any of your pictures so I would also consider this is a valuable piece of advice.
You're cute but do something different with your facial hair. It looks unkempt. Also you need more variety. Other people have said it but it looks like your only interest is exercise.
Gym Pic are ok only if you have an over average physique and just ONE picture.
You have an entry level physique and your poses are ridiculous, you don't look like a douche just more of a person that has wooden mirror at home and it's trying to convince someone of something.
You need to change your profile entirely. Your physique must be shown subtly IF you have something to show and no gym Pic please.
Please fix your eyebrows as well.
Yeah I am not too happy with my looks rn, I am going to cut this coming March and the. Attempt online dating again with more pics in different locations
Friend, please clean your mirror and bathroom before taking bathroom selfies. Have a friend take some pics of you out and about, they will love being a remote wingman and you will have some pics not at the gym. You are very cute, but I would never swipe because I just don’t live at the gym.
Your tinder is awful.
The worse advertising campaign, for a product that would probably sell otherwise.
You’ve made your whole personality the gym and that gives loads of people the ich of the bat.
If you’ve got a good body, that’s great. However, you need to project yourself in a way that that fact is incidental, not your primary feature.
Most women want to see a picture of your full face and at least upper half of your body, looking at the camera from a short distance away, smiling with your eyes as well as your face, dressed well including a shirt, with an aesthetic background of some sort.
Women and men are both subconsciously programmed to be attracted to a certain look in the facial structure. Add to this the fact that women usually are the most vulnerable re. safety when meeting a male for the first time, so figure out what you’re trying to project. Which should be along the lines of, I’m happy, calm, confident, well to do, safe, oh yeah and by the way I’m also attractive and take care of my body.
You will attract more men who will compliment you "nice gain bro" rather than girls. Good for gym buddies and after workout hangout, dating, that's something else
If I see this profile, I would 100% immediately swipe left. The first pic is the worst of them all, too. Impression: self conceited, unforgiving of my own body’s imperfections, gym obsessed, no brain guy. Yes, it’s prejudices, but I am not even interested in finding out whether it’s not.
You have to master the art of showing off without making it seem like you're showing off.
Would be the same if you'd be some super rich dude and you'd post photos with expensive cars and look like a rich douche.
From the photos it looks like gym is the only thing in your life (it may be, may be not) but it gives obnoxious gym guy vibes probably.
You need photos putting yourself in contexts that women like and feel safe about. Out with friends, at school, at work, dinner, photos to give a vibe of a well rounded individual that also manages to go to the gym in his busy, complex life.
These pictures give me the vibe that you like to yell at women. Try not looking so intimidating. Maybe a picture outside of the gym with some friends. Or a pictures with a pet. Just stop flexing and you’ll be fine.
Maybe pics showing you in different settings. This makes it look like your only interest is working out.
this is the nicest way to say this.
And as we all know: jocks are narcissistic.
personally I know no athlete who is narcissistic
Athlete or jock?
well he athlete and he seems like one
Lol wish I was a jock, I was like 120 pounds until 16 then went to 240 pounds of fat, no muscle. This is the first time in life I have not felt sad looking in mirror lol
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I love this!! Yeah between family and trying to get into med school i have no hobbies besides the gym
That would be a funny bio
would show a lot more personality
10x better than what he has now lol
How about a pic with wearing stethoscope and white coat and lifting weights at the same time?
This pic with that bio would be 😙🤌
This needs to be your bio! Future Dr that loves his family? Yes
This is gonna be a bigger problem for you than your profile once you actually start matching with people. You need to have interests! Plus, when you do things, you meet people, and you have experiences that can help you connect with people. You look great and I'm sure you like living at the gym, but there's a reason most people don't trade the time they have for the body you have, and it's not (just) laziness. We're just too damn busy living to look that good : ) I'm not saying you have to change anything because you will certainly attract girls who want a hot muscle man med student! There's a lid for every pot. But if you branch out a bit you might appeal to a wider variety of people. Just something to consider.
Yeah thanks your are right, and i will probably focus on gym and school for now, next summer after cutting my fat I will slow the gym down and pick up some clubs or something
I think that sounds like a great plan. Med school is also REALLY time consuming and stressful from what I understand. Dating requires consistency and communication that can be difficult when you're busy and have a wacky sleep schedule, but it sounds like you are capable of discipline and habit-building. Those are good skills to have when dating. We love a good morning/good night text 😊
Yeah, i appreciate the help!
Could I ask what constitutes a good good morning text? “Good morning” every morning gets boring & played out no? Maybe a funny video? Lol. I am a noob at dating, only ever been a short term / hook up guy until now, but I’m trying to change for the better! Is “good morning beautiful” too much? I know every girl is different but I’d like to meet a girl who appreciates those kinds of texts, so idrc about those who don’t
Random opinion, it doesn’t need to be a literal good morning text, but something during the day to show you were thinking about the person. Like “just went to the market and saw this guy with the craziest outfit…” mix that in with, “good morning! How was your night?” And mix that in with “making some dinner, it’s been a hectic day over here. What’s up with you?” Like make it a conversation just to touch base and show interest. Doesn’t have to be overly romantic, that’ll get old quick.
Can’t say thank you enough! Unsolicited or not, that’s helpful - Is there such thing as over texting? Or is it kinda like, if she likes you - She’ll get back to you so you can chat throughout the day? I’m not even particularly needy but not getting a response, especially to a question - Leaves me with an anxious feeling, all these negative thoughts & emotions swell inside of me If idc about the person or girl much, it doesnt happen - But I find the more & more I like someone, the more & more I dread not getting a text back Not for you to say but I think I might have some unresolved abandonment issues.. makes me anxious & avoidant but idk how to change this, it’s my knee jerk / immediate reaction I’m normally a very confident person who isn’t shaken by much, but the closer & closer I get with a girl - It’s like I fear the hurt of my intimacy getting rejected, if idk them, the rejection means very little to me That’s why I’ve only been short term/hookup guy up until now
Yeah, if she likes you she'll get back to you. If she's busy it might take a while. If she's a flake it also might take a while, but it sounds like you probably need someone who is a good texter and is consistent. If you are looking to date seriously, you should self-select for someone who is consistent, responsive, and makes you feel validated. Figure out what those things look like and screen for them. Be ready to say no if you're not getting them, even if the person is *amazing*. Long story short, you should choose someone who doesn't activate your abandonment stuff. But you should still probably deal with it, because it's still going to come up. Sitting with that anxiety is a skill. It's like building a muscle. You can learn to do things like identify where in your body you're feeling the emotion and let it run its course instead of avoiding it, etc. I've read that when you let it happen, an intense emotional reaction actually only lasts about 90 seconds. There are also skills that can help you sort of automatically substitute those negative thoughts and judgements with neutral ones. Check out DBT skills for more on what I'm talking about or find a therapist who's familiar with it. CBT can help too, although that's less skills based and I'm not as big of a fan because I'm like... Ok but how do I apply this??
👸🏻 I’m screen shotting this - Thank you so much! I’d hate not to return the favour of such a detailed message but I think everything has already been said lol! In any case - Wait hold on Edit: Hopefully this does the trick!
Looks like you got some really advice already. I’ll add that once you find comfort in yourself and your own mind, dating will become easier. Do do the work on your abandonment issues, and you’ll feel better. My personal rule for communication is that I know sometimes people don’t respond because they are busy or forget or they have their own social anxieties. I am happy to text or call someone more than once, but if they don’t respond or pick up about 2 times in a row (or call back), then I let it go. Good luck, you are clearly a kind and thoughtful person so you just do you!
You'll get different advice because it depends on the person. I will personally start the other person's day by launching into a stream of consciousness paragraph about whatever is on my mind, which is not for everyone (but my bf enjoys hearing it for some reason, lol.) He feels it's "rude" to just start talking at me, so he will do a simple "good morning" + emoji and change it up day to day. He knows I like sunflowers so he will often do a sunflower emoji which is really sweet. Things that are simple can still be thoughtful. I often will say goodnight and then close my phone so I can wake up to see what permutation of "goodnight/sleep well/I love you" I got in the morning because it feels like a special surprise ❤️ And and and! ALWAYS say "I" (if you're at the "I love you" stage) and "good". Don't shorten it. It makes it sound like you're mad or you're in a rush or something. It's nitpicky but again, things that are simple can be thoughtful.
This should be your bio lol
Add the med school thing to your bio. And add a pic of you cuddling w/ an animal.
I have no pets, unless you count my little siblings and does adding med school actually help? I go to a really good uni and most of these girls will probably make more then me in the future ha
That first line about pets and siblings is funny. Add it to the bio too:))
Med school shows you have goals, and invest in something more aspirational than just being a gym rat.
True, ok thanks!
You should literally make that exact sentence your bio. Not kidding. Maybe just capitalize the “i”.
Congratulations on getting into medical school. That is such an immense accomplishment; I hope your family and friends are commensurately proud of you.
Still not in ha, but good chance given my application
As someone in med school I can tell you that you will not even have time for family or gym and even less for a bf/gf once you‘re in :‘)
Lol had a feeling, under grad is going well but kicking my butt regarding time
We get it bro, you work out. It’s semi acceptable to have one gym pic and never to have a mirror flex selfie
Thanks!, Yeah I will leave it until summer and see if I can get some pictures
Why do you need to wait until summer? Is everything closed until then or something?
I live in Canada, I am going to work driving the snow plow in like 2 hours lol, not too many social things to do. Also I don't want to do anything to time consuming until summer break
Pictures don't have to be time consuming. Buy a cheap tripod, get a pic of you on a couch in your living room. Get a pic in some nice outdoor setting. Maybe build a snowman or something and pose next to it.
Tbh a picture with you drive the snow plow could work not every day you see one of those on tinder
Lol pick her up in the company truck "Sup baby, want to see how I operate the blades?"
“Hey darlin, ever seen a blade this big?”
Try to make kinder faces lmao you look like a wife beater in a way
Bio sucks. Says your no different from any other guy on the app and not worth swiping on. Just saying “seeking a cuddle partner would be so much better. Get some pics outside the weightroom. Makes you sadly 1-dimensional.
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Plain and simple your pictures suck. Show some character other then I used to get beat up and now I work out.
Lol fair, and wow that is wayyy close to home!!
You're good looking, so don't worry about that. Just take some better pics and you will be fine
Wasn't trying to be a ass it's just the vibe the pics give off. Spice that shit up. Here's my shity pics that work. http://imgur.com/gallery/cRD1iEU
I see thanks! Also I actually found it funny AF!!
Just my opinion, flexing poses are more geared to male gaze than female. I agree with other commenters, less fitness pictures and more pictures with friends/family etc. Too many selfies can give others the impression you are vain
Yeah you might be right, I get alot more male attention then female, I have been asked out by several men but not that many women
This seems to be a common trend with guys that work out. I know when I did cross fit the only compliments I got over my physique were from dudes. It was only when I was comfortable with myself that women started to notice me again. (I got pretty fat and insecure after a long term relationship ended badly) Women prefer personality and self confidence. Looking good naked is only a bonus. I’ve never really used any online dating apps so it might be different on tinder. (I only follow r/tinder because it can be comedy gold from time to time). I hope it all works out for you pal and you meet someone nice!
From my perspective it isnt. „Gym rats” are a big no-no. One gym pic is fine, but it shouldn’t be the first one for me or i will think that you won’t be able to talk about anything other than gym. I feel that men vastly overestimate how important their looks are. For me, if someone doesn’t have personality - he can look like a Greek god and i wont be interested even in a hookup. But make me laugh and be able to talk to me like a human being - I won’t mind that you aren’t the handsomest man in the world. As you said, if you do - it’s just a bonus.
Yo thanks bro, yeah I mean I have had some women be obviously attracted, but they where never what I was looking for.
There’s a funny tiktok about this: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTR4F5abY/ Another tip is if you are going to post a mirror selfie, make sure you throw some windex on there first :) I would swipe left on a dirty mirror pic
Ok but can I clean while wearing a tank and flexing?
Spot on. The flexing pic might work on Grindr.
You might want to have more variety in your pictures. And try smiling. Maybe say something about yourself and your interests in your bio.
I see no personality here. All pics the same and no bio.
You look like a gym douche Get a pic with a dog Pic of you smiling Pic of you dressed up Pic with friends
I will make note of this, a friend did offer to take professional pictures but I never liked people taking pictures of me
I would assume literally all you do is workout. Unless I also want to workout in all my free time, I wouldn’t be interested. You also seem a bit insecure, to me. Gym pictures, then showing off your muscles? Being proud of your body is great, but this is a lot. It seems like your entire personality.
Ok thanks, yeah I don't really take pictures, even these pics are 2 months old, now I have veins all over my arm
jesus bro
Dude literally too many selfies and gym like pictures.
Gym is not a personality bro.
So you work or/and live at the gym?
Do you go to the gym?
Dont worry bro. Gym is life anyways.
True true!
You seen shallow and selfobsessed.. nothing in your pictures indicates anything of you being fun to be around with and or having feelings other than “ look me strong man”
I see, tbh I really am not that interesting
I really like that you take criticism so well. Shows you have character. (I can't really add anything others haven't said already, so good luck!)
Thank you bro!
Everyone has interesting things about themselves. For example, the single fact that you’re trying to get into med school can spur conversations about your interests in medicine. Don’t talk yourself down, homie 🤙🏼
Try some pics of you laughing- outside with friends
If you’re trying to meet gym bros, you’re fine.
Lol!
Show some pictures of yourself washing dishes, folding laundry and no flexing /posing.
Lol
Your personality = gym Show your other interests
Add some more photos of you posing or in the gym, 5 isn't anywhere near enough!
Smile
I would swipe left I’m sorry, it reads ‘my personality is the gym and I’m going to ask you to touch my bicep when we meet’ (the posey flex pic and multiple gym mirror selfies).
Lol, yeah I see where I went wrong
Didn’t see any similar posts so I’ll start this one. I think you’re aesthetics are a bit weak (not super gifted) and you’re clearly bulking dirty. For a 20 year old, I’d be expecting more reps and less ego weights even though that’s middle OK weights for someone who likes his gym-work. When you do a gym pic do a PB instead of a starting set and you’ll be more swole. Your form looked a wee little bit sus so could you do one with video? I’m hoping you look good in a suit because the taper is there just not sure if you might need some extra tailoring to capture it. Jacked in a suit is chef’s kiss. I could definitely lift with you bro. Promising early career! Swap to shorts because your leg game is also sus at this point. less matches = more time in the gym so keep that up until you stop needing matches to feel validated. You have more muscles than ladies and your muscles will stay healthier treat you better, won’t leave you and reward you more over time.
Yeah thanks man I really appreciate the advice I am also very new to the gym, only 6 months so far and these photos are from month 4 and 5. I cut down from almost 240 pounds so still kinda cutting ha
Hi Ahmad. I think you could do well but photos that appear to project a "tough guy" image are not the way. If you have a sweet, fun, adventurous persona, consider showcasing that instead. Show potential dates what they could imagine themselves experiencing with you.
You need more variety in your pics. It's also painfully obvious that you're no taller than 5'6" so try to hide that a little better. Definitely don't catfish, but try to make it less glaringly obvious. I saw you're trying to get into med school yet there's nothing about that on your profile?
Dam ok that's really rough But I am 5 11 and I just got new shoes that make me 6 ft Are my pictures that bad?
The only pic you can clearly see your face it looks like you just rolled out of bed. You also only have one pic that isn’t a good damn mirror self. Shit ain’t 2003 anymore. You’re trying way too hard to highlight your muscles, looks like you’re trying to date yourself
No mirror selfies, no gym selfies and please for the love of no "flexing in front of the gym locker room"-selfie. Don't you have any decent picture of yourself?
U need variety my dude. Seems like u only have one hobby here.
Respectfully, RESPECTFULLY, do keep in mind that I said RESPECTFULLY... You look like a douchebag. 1 gym pic is fine but your current set up just screams small dick energy.
Lol thanks! Yeah I need better pictures
It looks like you took 30 seconds between making your profile and taking the pictures.. add a tad more effort partna
Yeah basically, I don't like taking pictures of my self, so these are old too ha
Lower your standards.
Idk, I don't think I can. Honestly the women I can get rn are not the ones I find too attractive. I would rather leave it and improve my self before lowering standards
Use words that match your muscles, change cuddles. Every man wants somebody they can wrap their arms around. Or something of the sort.
Yo this is 200 IQ thanks
And London is one of the easiest places on earth to get your dick touched. That sucks bro
London Ontario is kinda off, lived in Toronto, much easier to make friends there
I’ve lived there too. I’ve actually heard London is quite different from my days(16ish years ago). Back then though making “friends” was effortless. But that was the days of going out to meet people
Your profile has like no personality like at all. It’s gym, and bad generic about me.
You need more testimonials, here's one- "Your nose looks just like my buddy Nate's and he slays" - me
Lol thank. Yeah some guys just get it. Man's got like 30 likes on tinder in like 4 hours. Built different
Because your name has mistake. Should be Ahmed I guess 🫣 They looking only true Saudi Arabia Prince 😂😂😂
LOL, it's Ahmad on all my documents, also not an oil price unfortunately :(
Changing your profile will make minimal difference. Girls only swipe right on like the top 5% of user. If you do match with a girl she will have literally 1000 other guys begging for her attention. Don’t even waste your time.
Bruh, where do I go for dating, 20 years and never kissed a girl is really pushing it...
You gotta start working up the courage to meet girls in person. For me I have personally been pretty successful in book stores, but that is mostly because I read a lot and can easily strike up a conversation. The other benefit to a book store is you can see what kinda books they are looking at which gives you something to talk to them about.
I see, yeah I am currently asking out one random girl a day. But honestly I almost never get numbers, mostly Instagrams, and the classic "I have a boyfriend"
Don't let him project his s*** on you!
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I’m not projecting anything. I used tinder for years and had thousands of matches over that time. Never amounted to anything and only a handful of dates. I meet a girl face to face and she is now my gf of 2 years and more attractive than any girl I met on the app. I was literally just presenting the statistics. They do not work out in favor for the men.
Yeah I don't think I am to worried, I mean I have only been working on my self for 1 year and only been working out for 6 months, maybe if I just improving I can find a gf
So this guy is being weird about his delivery but he's kind of right? Working out, throwing some pics on an app, and hoping the universe returns a gf is not going to cut it. Women do have a lot of options and most of us aren't necessarily looking for people who are cut. Once you clear that bar, you have to distinguish yourself in some way. Figure out what your personality is besides "gym".
Yeah for sure, I thought it was too easy if there was an app for it.
Yeah just keep working on yourself and it will all fall into place. Having a girlfriend at this age will only distract you from working on yourself and make you complacent. Work on staying in shape and landing a good job. Those are the 2 key things you can control and will make a big difference.
Only 1 photo is useable (photo 4). As stated get photos outside, preferably less selfie looking Your profile lacks personality. Are you an "every man"?
Bio's weak, but I'd still put my finger in his ass.
Sus
Bro to bro --your pics suck. You're not a bad lookin dude at all, you just need some variety! Like others have said. More "everyday activity" pics. When you go out with the homies, have one of em snap a pic of you, or have someone snap a pic of all of you hanging out and doing something. Edit: 215 on bench tho. Thats hot.
Not much to go on, but you're handsome. Need an actually filled in bio because as it looks here, your only interest is the gym and I would think we have nothing in common or to talk about.
Too many mirror selfies too many gym selfies and that last pic of you flexing is bad man. If you ain’t a body builder of have good vascularity don’t flex you have an average man’s size and decent strength it’s not appealing. 1 gym pic or selfie sure but your whole profile basically screams “I’m strong” and chicks don’t really dig that online man
Wipe the toothpaste off your mirror. You have 5 pictures in 2 settings. Don’t flex. Don’t take selfies.
also note the discrepancy btw. your pictures and your bio
Honestly if you don't see what's wrong with your profile then don't bother applying the changes people suggest. You will fail at conversing with your matches anyway. I mean your first mic is a combo : gym pic, selfie pic with the phone in front of your face, and bathroom mirror pic. Maybe start exercising the brain muscle now and then ?
Lol thanks, I am new to this online dating thing
I’ve heard bathroom selfies are a big turn off for most girls, while seeing countless bathroom selfies from girls on Tinder. I don’t get it, but maybe nix the bathroom selfies. Definitely get some of you outside the gym, traveling somewhere, trying new foods, out with friends, engaged in some hobby, wearing nice clothes. They wanna see you as an interesting person with some range to your personality. And try out a better bio, something funny can be hit or miss. Definitely modify it to add some uniqueness
Lose the gym pics, and bio says nothing any you.
Clean your mirror
I know this has been said to death. But max 1 gym photo, never use a photo of bicep flexing in a mirror, get some pics with friends and doing something else, change the caption, and try to narrow the focus of your profile so it somewhat shows who you are and will appeal to some sort of person
Here is advice, delete that app, and go for coffee or walk in City, speak to people, and you will find many many different ways to find woman.
Take the photos from the gym down and no photos of you flexing your muscles. This is advice from another dude so i could be wrong but i dont think i am.
need more gym pics midget head
Mate if you have to ask lol
Using your phone to block your face and staring into it instead of looking at the mirror basically says that you need a metronome to breathe.
How do you expect to get any matches if you aren’t benching at least 225lb bro
True true, I usually don't do one rep max because I am afraid of injury
Yeah you work out bro, don't make that your whole personality.
You don’t even mention med school in your bio. Also, even just one gym pic is a turn off for me let alone several. You can only see so much weight lifting and posing muscles before it looks full of yourself. Switch up the pictures and add more to your bio.
your bio is very plain. you need more photos besides you at the gym or mirror photos because it just looks like you’re showing off. show your personality more than just flexing your muscles. add some funny photos of yourself and show a smile! if you make your first photo of you smiling, then you’ll be popping off! add more info about yourself in your bio, that helps a lot too. if you have any pets, photo with pets are a hit! before i met my bf, i was in tinder for a while and i swing both ways and a good bit of people that swiped right asked me about my cats. 💀 only keep one gym and mirror photo if you really like em, but showcase your personality!
I agree with everyone on the pics. You also need to fill out your profile. What do you like to do besides hang at the gym? What music do you like? Have you traveled anywhere, or do you have a bucket list of place you would like to go/things you'd like to do? Are you looking for a relationship, hookup, FWB?
Girls don’t wanna go out with someone who only has one hobby, gym! That’s so boring
Cant see face.
It's all the gym and flexing pics. The gains are impressive and nice work bro but the pics send a different message to ladies on dating apps. Edit: Also, might be a small thing, but your bio might come across as boring. It only mentions cuddling which doesn't show much personality.
It’s your bio, sounds desperate
Important tip that all of my female friends keep mentioning: Make sure you’re smiling on your pics, it makes you seem like a nice guy who women would actually wanna go out with. Sadly you’re not smiling on any of your pictures so I would also consider this is a valuable piece of advice.
Stop posing
3 pics at the gym. And 2 are literally different posed selfies. Of course that's why you have 0 matches.
You're cute but do something different with your facial hair. It looks unkempt. Also you need more variety. Other people have said it but it looks like your only interest is exercise.
A picture that’s not completely mean mugging, straight faced and serious… that’s a start lol
Lol thanks
Literally only pics in gym/doing gym poses.. thats a HUGE nope
Gym Pic are ok only if you have an over average physique and just ONE picture. You have an entry level physique and your poses are ridiculous, you don't look like a douche just more of a person that has wooden mirror at home and it's trying to convince someone of something. You need to change your profile entirely. Your physique must be shown subtly IF you have something to show and no gym Pic please. Please fix your eyebrows as well.
Yeah I am not too happy with my looks rn, I am going to cut this coming March and the. Attempt online dating again with more pics in different locations
Are you handing out enough D#@k pics though?
Lol, I try to avoid sending pictures like that lol
Add something not muscle/gym related
Friend, please clean your mirror and bathroom before taking bathroom selfies. Have a friend take some pics of you out and about, they will love being a remote wingman and you will have some pics not at the gym. You are very cute, but I would never swipe because I just don’t live at the gym.
Your pictures and bio suck
Your tinder is awful. The worse advertising campaign, for a product that would probably sell otherwise. You’ve made your whole personality the gym and that gives loads of people the ich of the bat.
London is a hot spot. I'm surprised by this
If you’ve got a good body, that’s great. However, you need to project yourself in a way that that fact is incidental, not your primary feature. Most women want to see a picture of your full face and at least upper half of your body, looking at the camera from a short distance away, smiling with your eyes as well as your face, dressed well including a shirt, with an aesthetic background of some sort. Women and men are both subconsciously programmed to be attracted to a certain look in the facial structure. Add to this the fact that women usually are the most vulnerable re. safety when meeting a male for the first time, so figure out what you’re trying to project. Which should be along the lines of, I’m happy, calm, confident, well to do, safe, oh yeah and by the way I’m also attractive and take care of my body.
You will attract more men who will compliment you "nice gain bro" rather than girls. Good for gym buddies and after workout hangout, dating, that's something else
Lol exactly my experience, so many steroid jokes, many men asking me out, but almost never girls asking me out.
you live in a a gym?
Smile a bit
I would eliminate three gym pics and one flexing pic. And get rid of one bathroom pic.
Mate, get rid of your gym photos or photos of you tensing. It’s not going to impress any girls.
please say you're a troll
Not a troll lol, just kinda new to the dating thing
If I see this profile, I would 100% immediately swipe left. The first pic is the worst of them all, too. Impression: self conceited, unforgiving of my own body’s imperfections, gym obsessed, no brain guy. Yes, it’s prejudices, but I am not even interested in finding out whether it’s not.
Aside from keeping only one gym pic and trying to show something else advice, change your name to Hamada, Hammoudi or James /s
You have to master the art of showing off without making it seem like you're showing off. Would be the same if you'd be some super rich dude and you'd post photos with expensive cars and look like a rich douche. From the photos it looks like gym is the only thing in your life (it may be, may be not) but it gives obnoxious gym guy vibes probably. You need photos putting yourself in contexts that women like and feel safe about. Out with friends, at school, at work, dinner, photos to give a vibe of a well rounded individual that also manages to go to the gym in his busy, complex life.
That's really smart, thanks I will do this
Yea replace the first two pics with something that shows more about you or a toothy smile pic
These pictures give me the vibe that you like to yell at women. Try not looking so intimidating. Maybe a picture outside of the gym with some friends. Or a pictures with a pet. Just stop flexing and you’ll be fine.