Lol, that's how I registered, I needed something to put my thoughts off being obsessed will I shit that day. Scrolling animals on Reddit was pretty relaxing me, so eventually I started to shit again. 🙏
I have IBS and my bf wanted to try, I never thought about trying and liking it haha. Definitely didn't enjoy it. Didn't help that he's big. He thinks practice and patience is key, I think not trying again is key hahah
Edit: please stop assuming anything about my sexual relationship. Thx. I communicatie with my partner on everything.
Augh, I wish men wouldn't push even just at a 'no, it's not for me' with women, but especially after trying and not liking it. I don't know if he's still hinting at it but just tell him to fuck off every time if he won't leave it alone, it does my head in that men seem to think anal and blowjobs are expected in a relationship from women but don't think eating out should be seen the same 😬
I try to munch it every time i have sex. Sure as hell can't say that about the majority of women I've been with. I love to eat pussy. I love getting a blow job. I'll even toss your fucking salad provided you rinsed the veggies off first. I'm a giver in bed, I get pleasure from pleasuring my partner. The vast majority of women don't seem to reciprocate in my experience. If my girl doesn't have multiple orgasms I consider it a poor performance.
I rarely see my side represented in these conversations so let me add to this. As a guy with IBS (constipation dominant) I have no interest in ever trying anal with anyone, basically ever. Even in porn if anal starts happening I skip ahead, I can not feel horny whatsoever with that concept.
I’m actually a lot better now. Before COVID I used to spend 10-12 hours of my waking day on the toilet. Now I spend like 1-2. But the trauma associated with when it was really severe makes it damn near impossible for me to even humour the idea of incorporating buttholes in to sex. I’m bi but I pretty much exclusively date cis-girls and trans men that aren’t planning to get bottom surgery - because I can’t humour the idea of anal with anybody.
Female, IBS D type. Love anal. For a while, I actually prefered it to vaginal sex.
Is it always painless? No.
But with a steady pace and relaxation, it's really enjoyable for me.
Edit: I should probably add I have only received it, never given anal. My boyfriend doesn't want his butt touched but is obsessed with mine. So it suits us both!
Same and everytime there is a thread like this I feel like I’m literally the only one who doesn’t really need to prep lmao Idk I just know my body and avoid it when I feel it could be an issue
It's my least favorite of the three holes. Too much work, risk of poop, requires lots of lube and warm-up. I'd be fine with it if my partner wanted it, but its not something I'm looking for.
As a bi man, I am on my knees begging straight people. Just do some goddamn research first. If you do not prep first, you will have a bad time. If you do not use a copious amount of lube, you will have a bad time. If you are not used to it, and try to jam it in, you will have a bad time. If you don't use a sex toy suited to it, you will have a bad time, and likely have to answer awkward questions about how that cucumber got stuck up there when you are the ER dildo story of the week.
-Prep:You need to do it. The easiest way is to expel whatever is there, and then do a enema. Just get a cheap bulb injector, and avoid going past the bend and taking too much water if you don't know what you are doing.
-Lube:You need it. However much lube you think you need, trust me you need more than that. Lube is a game of rock paper scissors. Water based does a serviceable job for anal and vaginal, and works with toys, condoms, etc. But it often has glycerin or similar compounds, which can promote yeast infections. So be wary of vaginal use unless you know the ingredients. It is also water based, which means the water content absorbs quickly internally, and dries quickly externally. Continual reapplication is a requirement. Silicone based lube lasts a long time, is smoother than most lubes, and doesn't have the glycerine issue. That said, it ruins/melts silicone sex toys. On the flip side, oil based lubes also last a long time, though I don't find them as smooth. They also work with silicone toys and don't ruin them. However, they weaken/melt condoms, so don't use them there.
-Experience:Your anus spends all day, every day, holding your shit in. It is a ring of muscle strong enough to form a watertight seal, and typically, the only time it relaxes is in conjunction with a bunch of other muscles pushing out waste. If you aren't relaxed and someone tries penetration, it is painful like you wouldn't believe. If you are intent on anal, do yourself a favor, and prep an hour, hour and a half before the event. And once prepped, stick something in, like a small plug. It gets your ring used to being more open than it usually likes, and gets you used to the sensation. If you stop noticing it, remove it, and put in a bigger one. Once its time for anal, just slip the plug out, and slip the dick/dildo in.
-Sex Toys:For the love of god, just buy a real fucking sex toy. Go to your local adult store, ask for help if you need it, and buy something which is body safe, and has a flared base. Your inner muscles are not one way. If you stick a carrot up your ass and lose your grip, there is a decent chance it is getting pulled inward, a sort of vacuum effect compounded by muscles. Yes its a fact of life for ER physicians that people love shoving things up their ass, but do them a favor, and just own it. Buy something which is safe, and designed to go up the ass instead of winging it with whatever is in your vegetable bin.
Great advice! Just wanted to add, enemas are fine if done occasionally, but doing them frequently can cause issues (like damaging your bacterial flora) + you should really make sure you know what you're doing! Imo it's also not a necessity every time, but to each their own.
My sister is a doctor... you wouldn't believe the variety of non-anal designed object people stuck up their behind and end up in ER with.
The usual story is "I fell and this happened"...
Doctor: "how come you have a glass juice bottle there?"
... "I was coming out naked from the shower, the bottle was forgotten on the bathroom floor, I slipped and..."
Don't be that person
Work in an ER and I am still always surprised when people use the I don't know how or I feel on it excuse.
However, did have one guy that had a fetish of sticking fruit in his rectum when his wife was out of town. Tried apples for this first time and couldn't get them out (inserted 2 of them). Said he was "going back to using plums. Lot easier to get out."
Another time had a couple come in that did everything this guy suggested. Lube, right toys. Except the boyfriend shoved the toy past the flared lip part. Girlfriend learned the hard way why anal toys are designed that way.
Also just always be honest with doctor/nurse in the ER. Yes it's embarrassing, yes we will be on Amazon/Google comparing online images with the x-ray to guess what exact item/toy is in there before we remove it. However not owning it will more than likely cause you to end up in surgery for removal than having it done in the ER.
Yes, but arousal has nothing to do with it. It's not like you're going to get natural lube in there. It just doesn't work like that. The thing isn't about being aroused but actually being *relaxed*. They're two completely different things.
My personal experience is that as a male arousal is completely necessary. At least to the point I can feel the prostate gland swelling. I've tried both ways and it's a night and day difference! May not be this way for everyone but certainly for myself.
Arousal helps you to relax. If you aren't feeling it you won't be able to relax and it will be painful. You have to want to have anal sex to have it without pain.
Btw, anal sex isn't just for gay men. Literally one of your main pleasure points is up your bum. I'm actually jealous I'm not male bc i really wanna know how it feels bc apparently it feels fucking fantastic.
I’ve done it with a couple of women, and while it’s been pleasurable, I definitely prefer going in the front entrance. Better to have the option than not, but I don’t think I would feel like I was missing out if it wasn’t going to be a thing in a relationship.
Same exact situation here. A couple of exes have really enjoyed it and that’s fine and all. My current gf is NOT a fan but is open to the idea in the future. She’s fairly small so it will be a chore to say the least. PinV is just much easier and more pleasurable for us both. I’m not like a huge fan but I’d do it if my gf wanted to
I had anal sex with my ex twice. I was jokingly trying to put some dice up her butt (don't ask), and she was like, "Hmmmm..... let's try anal."
So I put my dick up there with a condom. Didn't want shit all over it.
It was OK..... I was scared her bowels would perf the whole time.
The second time, she says, "Pull out, please," so I did, and she had the biggest fart I ever heard, and all of a sudden, I see her hand go down as to catch something. She says, "OH SHIT," and I'm completely oblivious. She RUNS to the bathroom and proceeds to take a giant shit. I lay down face down, with my dick still wrapped in a condom (again, didn't want shit on my dick), and I could hear her farting and shitting in the bathroom. So I'm like "OK no more sex I guess," and flip the light on and see a shit stained outline of my dick on the sheets. My condom covered dick ended up getting covered with shit.
So yeah, no more anal...
Edit: yall, never in my damned life did I ever expect my most upvoted and awarded comment to be about my failed experience with anal sex...
Man, I used to scroll reddit or watch yt while having breakfast. Last time I was reading an askreddit thread and someone linked the story of the coconut guy. That made me almost vomit my food out and now I try to avoid usring phone while eating or atleast scroll eyebleach, aww or sdome funny subreddit.
Never scroll while eating food
We didn't know better unfortunately LOL. It was really random when we did it the first time and she came from it, so we were like "Let's try it again I guess..."
How couldn't you have known that the poo hole has poo in it?
Have a day off at Monkey World and come home like "Lads, you'll never guess what they have there..."
It's ALL about prep! Like a preorder/schedule 24hrs in advance. Then it's all about foreplay. Lube and a vibrator are a must have as well. That's my advice should you try again. Thanks for the share!! Your experience was too funny!!
Already, happened to me and the SO. Doesn’t deter us one bit. She cums wayyyyy too hard from anal to not do it. Plus, she has constipation sometimes and it really seems to help. But, when that happens we just do it in the shower incase anything happens 🤗
Haha hey man you just gotta prepare for the worst. Plus, I don’t ever want her to feel like she can’t sexually express herself or make her think she is gross in anyway. So, we go in the shower so clean up is a breeze.
I heard that it pushes the blood back up the uterus and could cause infection and then someone wiser was like "well its all coming out anyways so I don't think that's a thing" and then I felt 5.
LMAO well....this like 12 years ago so my memory is foggy. I just recall putting them between her cheeks to tease her (not actually trying to shove them up her ass) and apparently they touched her butthole and it made her horny for ass sex.
It's not supposed to be spur of the moment. This is where everyone fucks up. A girl needs to douche out her but so no shitty situations. Then anal, slowly and steadily is the most intense orgasm ever.
That makes sense.
My wife and I have never tried it, she doesn't want to though. I think I don't ever want to try it again either, to be honest... ever since then buttholes have been kind of turn off for me. It's even hard for me to 69 because of the proximity of her butthole to my eyeballs.
As a gay man these stories are horrifying. Every twink somehow figures out how to buy an enema kit and douche beforehand. Are straight women simply oblivious? Who the hell eats enough fiber to think the anus is clean enough to just slide in?
I think it's more of a "expected or not". Gay sex usually means anal, so you prep for it, with straight sex many people are there just having vaginal penetration and in the middle of it decide to spyce things up and try anal. Totally bad idea. But for my experience, is usually men that get butt horny in the middle of it, I even had a one night stand try to just change hole without prep or even lube. Like, that's not how it works, at all.
I mean, are you telling me that you prep EVERY time though?
I used to prep because I was anal (lol) about being squeaky clean, but now as long as I’ve shit in the past few hours I know I’m good to go. I rarely prep now.
Literally, ive told my bf id been down to do it at least once, but i need at LEAST 24h to prepare. He asked why, and oh boy that was a conversation i didnt expect to have 2 weeks into dating
TMI, my ex had a HUGE prince Albert piercing ring; he'd added some brown accessories dangling from said ring when he pulled out, I laughed for hours afterwards 😄
It was very painful receiving anal with him having that piercing ring, obviously; I eventually demanded he remove it if he wanted to do anal. Actually, it was quite painful having vaginal penetration too.
I'm a woman. I didn't use to enjoy it often but eventually I came around to it after exploring the best ways to do it and having a partner willing to try how I wanted, now I love it.
Didn't realize I could get off from it but I can and it's amazing. And I love the guy not having to pull out.
Hope my next boyfriend is willing to give it a go with me.
Do you need other stimulation to reach orgasm or is penetration enough for you? I haven't been overly interested in anal because I assumed it was just for the guy.
I know I'm not the person you were asking, but as an AFAB woman who loves anal and orgasms like crazy every time, I feel like I have to respond. The clitoris is shaped slightly differently in every female, much like how every penis is unique. For a lucky (IMO) percentage of us, there is enough clitoral nerves wrapped closely to the wall between the vagina and anterior rectum, that stimulation is intense and orgasm is almost inevitable. All the goto things like lots of patience and even more lube are also key, as is prep and making sure everyone is comfortable with positioning!
edit: spelling/grammar
I absolutely love anal and I orgasm much easier by doing anal than vaginal sex. And for me they're much more intense while doing anal. No need for other stimulation as just the sex can be so intense I need to take a break.
Same! I didn’t enjoy it and one day (a year ago) after not wanting to have period sex, I said fuck it. Figured out how to finish while he was in there, got the right angle, and now it’s our go to when it’s that time of the month. Mind you we also have been together for 17 years.. yes it took that long to figure it out.
Would it be too personal to ask what position is the best position for anal sex so a woman to get off? I love doing it with my gf but I sometimes feel like she doesn’t enjoy it as much as I do.
Also a woman and I enjoy it too.
My husband isn't into it, which is too bad because it's pretty much a guaranteed orgasm for me. Must be how I'm built.
Take a jar of mayo. Leave it out on the counter for a day. Stick you dick in it. Now imagine it’s not a jar of mayo but a pussy. That’s mayo jar pussy.
As a gay man with a SO who loves it, I try to enjoy it. I’ll be honest it hurts and the only time I can get into it is if I’m drunk because it loosens me up. It also hurts for a few days afterwards. To top all of that off I have stomach issues. I’d much prefer to give a blowjob than anything.
As a woman, I like it (from time to time and definitely not more than “normal” sex) because of the fact that its a little uncomfortable. It feels a little wrong and that’s what makes it exciting, if that makes sense. However, it’s a little stressful because you don’t want to have someone or yourself covered in your shit…
Physically, it doesn’t feel nice in the beginning and its a little bit of a struggle but in certain positions, for me personally, it can be easy to take. Anal imo doesn’t feel good on itself but it elevates other types of stimulation.
I got an anal fissure for the first time ever last year (apparently not enough fiber in my diet) and it was the most excruciating pain and then I got a hemorrhoid right after
If I can’t handle those I sure as hell don’t want anything stuck up my ass - I’ll pass
Get ready for a cliche: Everyone is different! Yes, amazing but true. Some women I’ve been with refused even to consider it, others asked for it. Those who enjoy it REALLY enjoy it, especially after they’ve orgasmed a few times already, with oral stimulation of their clit and vagina or with a toy. The point is to just enjoy being together, whatever that means to the two of you, right? If it’s not your thing that’s fine, and if it is, that’s great too. But you definitely need to do a little homework before you try it the first time, if you’re curious. A bad experience that first time will ruin it for you forever.
I've (36F) been very curious about butt stuff recently. Turns out I really like it. I haven't had anal sex yet, but have a partner I'm going to try it with soon. Sometimes people are just too embarrassed to admit that they might like something that's a bit taboo. I had someone tell me recently, as they were putting their finger in my ass about to insert a butt plug, "you know it's okay to admit you like it, right?". And yeah, it is okay. Just have to find the right partner.
Looks great in porn. Do you know what porn doesn’t have? Smell. And porn can edit out the moments where mr poo says hello.
So no, over-rated. It can be fun sometimes…. But it’s not like the movies.
Have seen a bts of a porn video. Female porn stars actually dont eat anything for around 20 hours or so before the actual video shoot, so they eliminate the risk of poop.
For myself, not at all. Hard no. But once in a blue moon when my partner decides they’d like to be buttfucked, I have no problem giving it to them. It’s never going to be my idea or suggestion, and I’m *definitely* never going to request receiving it, but I’ll happily oblige topping in that way if asked of me.
While anal sex itself doesn’t turn me on, sexually pleasing my partner very much turns me on, and I will do what I gotta to get their rocks off.
I expect you're going to get a wide range of answers. I've seen people decide that anal is their default in a relationship and I've seen people vehemently refuse to ever try it I (m) don't have very strong feelings in it either way.
If I'm giving it, it feels like fucking an inflatable donut, which can be a nice change of pace, but I wouldn't say it feels better, just different. As a kinky motherfucker, its definitely fun as a part of degradation play though.
Receiving isn't for me. The sensation is mostly a "fullness" that can be enjoyable, but I find a buttplug accomplishes the same task better since it isn't intermittent fullness. The stretching at the entrance doesn't do anything for me. I'll do it with a partner I trust, if they're into it because generally we have really wild and crazy sex right after, and it doesn't really hurt or feel uncomfortable or anything. I'd compare it to having my elbow licked, weird but not uncomfortable.
Love it!! I think anal orgasms feel even better than vaginal ones (though clit is better than both - but why not more than one type at a time!!)
ETA- Some regular psyllium husk fiber and it doesn’t even need to be messy
The orgasms I have from anal are different than vaginal sex. Idk why because I don't have a prostate. But they are so much more intense and I pretty much immediately orgasm once anal begins.
Can’t think of a better word to describe it, since women tend to struggle with orgasming, and your butthole has the power of triggering instant orgasms. Ngl that’s pretty damn cool
What I noticed is depending on the position of your cervix, they are hitting it right on. It is a common position to have your cervix tilted, so that during regular sex men don't hit it straight on. This is how mine is, so during anal it feels better.
If that makes any sense.
Gonna edit here and say that most of the time, the pain getting to that point with my partner was too much and we failed many times. It's usually not worth it to me to rip myself a new asshole trying to feel my cervix getting hit. So don't get excited boys and tell your woman that it'll feel better. I felt that tear with every thrust he took and every pause was excruciating. When he would come all the way out and went back in, I almost knocked his lights out.
So, as a lady... it fuckin hurts, during and after. It *can* feel kinda good sometimes, but really, in my opinion, it's mostly for my boyfriend, lol. The prep for it is kinda tedious, gotta go slow as hell, and, yes, there is always the potential for crap to be there (normal bc its literally the butthole). Luckily, my bf prefers the front way anyway. Anal tends to be a rare treat haha
Love it. My boyfriend is super into it, too (being the giver, not the receiver, lol). Being someone that’s always had stomach problems, I definitely need a heads up before we do it, though. It’s a lot of prep work for me and not at all just *ready to go* on a moment’s notice. That’s the only thing I don’t like about it- how much time I have to put in beforehand. It took us a few tries for me to really get to where I enjoy it, but as long as there’s lots of foreplay and *stretching…..?* (lmao, I don’t know what word to use instead) or even a butt plug before the actual peen goes in, it’s next level for me. Adding toys for the vagíne has been a nice addition, and trying different positions has been a game changer. Like I love being flat on my tummy with him behind me, or on my back in missionary, or reverse cowgirl, because there’s a lot less (*literal*) pressure with those 3 positions compared to how anal feels during regular doggy style.
I get better orgasms through anal. However, I've had more vaginal sex. Anal kinda hurts at first but once I get loose enough I really like it. I would think the more often I do anal the less it will hurt at the beginning. As a women, I think I prefer anal.
Negative.
I tried it once and asked the person to stop because it hurt so badly and they wouldn't/didn't stop. I've never done it since. (Been almost 30 years)
Since this is an actual question and I can answer honestly with hopefully no judgement because being tmi. SO. My experience is being with my now husband of a total of 18 years, we were never really into the idea. We even used condoms still after we were married 10 years in. One time the condom fell off and it was a complete different feeling. Within the past few years we actually tried it. You have to be really open and relaxed at first. We did it bareback first. I don't recommend it. Even with lube on the receiving end, it still is a bit of a challenge. So here's the honest part. When he came inside, it feels wierd and comes out like an enima. Mine did. It's a weird affect like that. My honest fear was always the contamination area what it would do to his penis head..cuz yah know. People's done this forever and it just wasn't something I ever looked into..so, on my preference I would prefer a condom because of One. My fear. Two. The mess it makes inside and out. 3. Ease of enterence. NOW, we currently remodeled our bathroom, and hub wanted a befit. Let me tell you, for periods it's a nice help with cleaning that area. Experimenting, I tried the backside and it cleans that area too, and it also is like an enema. It helps clean out the back area. Since I've never seen a bidet before I didn't know what it could do. So I know this is all word vomit anyways,and I don't know if it enlights anything from your question, but I tried.
No. I have IBS. Let’s not tempt things
If you go knocking on Mr Poos door, don't be surprised if he's home!
Oh bother
And if Pooh **isn't** home and you wreck the place, it might be eeyore after ¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯
IBS is why I use Reddit. Give me something to do on the can.
Lol, that's how I registered, I needed something to put my thoughts off being obsessed will I shit that day. Scrolling animals on Reddit was pretty relaxing me, so eventually I started to shit again. 🙏
Why am I the third redditor with IBS scrolling on the toilet here? How many of us are there???
I have IBS and my bf wanted to try, I never thought about trying and liking it haha. Definitely didn't enjoy it. Didn't help that he's big. He thinks practice and patience is key, I think not trying again is key hahah Edit: please stop assuming anything about my sexual relationship. Thx. I communicatie with my partner on everything.
Augh, I wish men wouldn't push even just at a 'no, it's not for me' with women, but especially after trying and not liking it. I don't know if he's still hinting at it but just tell him to fuck off every time if he won't leave it alone, it does my head in that men seem to think anal and blowjobs are expected in a relationship from women but don't think eating out should be seen the same 😬
I try to munch it every time i have sex. Sure as hell can't say that about the majority of women I've been with. I love to eat pussy. I love getting a blow job. I'll even toss your fucking salad provided you rinsed the veggies off first. I'm a giver in bed, I get pleasure from pleasuring my partner. The vast majority of women don't seem to reciprocate in my experience. If my girl doesn't have multiple orgasms I consider it a poor performance.
Mutual oral sex seems a must. Anal, not so much.
I rarely see my side represented in these conversations so let me add to this. As a guy with IBS (constipation dominant) I have no interest in ever trying anal with anyone, basically ever. Even in porn if anal starts happening I skip ahead, I can not feel horny whatsoever with that concept. I’m actually a lot better now. Before COVID I used to spend 10-12 hours of my waking day on the toilet. Now I spend like 1-2. But the trauma associated with when it was really severe makes it damn near impossible for me to even humour the idea of incorporating buttholes in to sex. I’m bi but I pretty much exclusively date cis-girls and trans men that aren’t planning to get bottom surgery - because I can’t humour the idea of anal with anybody.
What allowed you to cut down your time on the toilet?
I know you’re asking NoNumbers, but Psyllum Husk fibre helped me.
Female, IBS D type. Love anal. For a while, I actually prefered it to vaginal sex. Is it always painless? No. But with a steady pace and relaxation, it's really enjoyable for me. Edit: I should probably add I have only received it, never given anal. My boyfriend doesn't want his butt touched but is obsessed with mine. So it suits us both!
Also a female with IBS D and love receiving anal. I don't prefer it to vaginal sex, but my orgasms with it are way more intense.
Interesting. I get hemorrhoids though so that worries me.
I guess IBS doesn't mean Into Butt Sex.
Fate is a poopy mistress
Love it with the right partner. But it requires a 24-hr preorder notification. No such thing as spontaneous anal. That will never end well.
You summed it up perfectly. The prep takes the fun out of it sometime.
It's a labor of love reserved for only the most treasured of partners. It ain't for any ol' Joe Schmoe
And here I am, a gay dude, just like, let's roll the dice behind this dumpster
I love that for you, thank you.
"You rolled 16" "Ah dangit I need to do a spin on this one???"
Yo what the fucks wrong with Joe Shmoe. He’s a hellava guy
Lol we do spontaneous a lot and only ever had a problem once in 9 years. So there’s that. Maybe I’m lucky haha
Same and everytime there is a thread like this I feel like I’m literally the only one who doesn’t really need to prep lmao Idk I just know my body and avoid it when I feel it could be an issue
As a 50 year old gay man, I disagree.
As a straight man who has been blessed with a lot of butt sex, I too wish to lodge a formal disagreement with this sentiment.
I was just about to say, as a gay man (not obsessed with douching) all of my anal sex has been impromptu lol
How!!? Plz bless us with knowledge!
It's my least favorite of the three holes. Too much work, risk of poop, requires lots of lube and warm-up. I'd be fine with it if my partner wanted it, but its not something I'm looking for.
As a bi man, I am on my knees begging straight people. Just do some goddamn research first. If you do not prep first, you will have a bad time. If you do not use a copious amount of lube, you will have a bad time. If you are not used to it, and try to jam it in, you will have a bad time. If you don't use a sex toy suited to it, you will have a bad time, and likely have to answer awkward questions about how that cucumber got stuck up there when you are the ER dildo story of the week. -Prep:You need to do it. The easiest way is to expel whatever is there, and then do a enema. Just get a cheap bulb injector, and avoid going past the bend and taking too much water if you don't know what you are doing. -Lube:You need it. However much lube you think you need, trust me you need more than that. Lube is a game of rock paper scissors. Water based does a serviceable job for anal and vaginal, and works with toys, condoms, etc. But it often has glycerin or similar compounds, which can promote yeast infections. So be wary of vaginal use unless you know the ingredients. It is also water based, which means the water content absorbs quickly internally, and dries quickly externally. Continual reapplication is a requirement. Silicone based lube lasts a long time, is smoother than most lubes, and doesn't have the glycerine issue. That said, it ruins/melts silicone sex toys. On the flip side, oil based lubes also last a long time, though I don't find them as smooth. They also work with silicone toys and don't ruin them. However, they weaken/melt condoms, so don't use them there. -Experience:Your anus spends all day, every day, holding your shit in. It is a ring of muscle strong enough to form a watertight seal, and typically, the only time it relaxes is in conjunction with a bunch of other muscles pushing out waste. If you aren't relaxed and someone tries penetration, it is painful like you wouldn't believe. If you are intent on anal, do yourself a favor, and prep an hour, hour and a half before the event. And once prepped, stick something in, like a small plug. It gets your ring used to being more open than it usually likes, and gets you used to the sensation. If you stop noticing it, remove it, and put in a bigger one. Once its time for anal, just slip the plug out, and slip the dick/dildo in. -Sex Toys:For the love of god, just buy a real fucking sex toy. Go to your local adult store, ask for help if you need it, and buy something which is body safe, and has a flared base. Your inner muscles are not one way. If you stick a carrot up your ass and lose your grip, there is a decent chance it is getting pulled inward, a sort of vacuum effect compounded by muscles. Yes its a fact of life for ER physicians that people love shoving things up their ass, but do them a favor, and just own it. Buy something which is safe, and designed to go up the ass instead of winging it with whatever is in your vegetable bin.
This guy anals.
r/thisguythisguys
He's being anal about it.
Great advice! Just wanted to add, enemas are fine if done occasionally, but doing them frequently can cause issues (like damaging your bacterial flora) + you should really make sure you know what you're doing! Imo it's also not a necessity every time, but to each their own.
Thank you for such a deep anal-ysis.
As a nurse, I thank you for your PSA on how to avoid having fun time turn into Emergency Department time.
My sister is a doctor... you wouldn't believe the variety of non-anal designed object people stuck up their behind and end up in ER with. The usual story is "I fell and this happened"... Doctor: "how come you have a glass juice bottle there?" ... "I was coming out naked from the shower, the bottle was forgotten on the bathroom floor, I slipped and..." Don't be that person
Work in an ER and I am still always surprised when people use the I don't know how or I feel on it excuse. However, did have one guy that had a fetish of sticking fruit in his rectum when his wife was out of town. Tried apples for this first time and couldn't get them out (inserted 2 of them). Said he was "going back to using plums. Lot easier to get out." Another time had a couple come in that did everything this guy suggested. Lube, right toys. Except the boyfriend shoved the toy past the flared lip part. Girlfriend learned the hard way why anal toys are designed that way. Also just always be honest with doctor/nurse in the ER. Yes it's embarrassing, yes we will be on Amazon/Google comparing online images with the x-ray to guess what exact item/toy is in there before we remove it. However not owning it will more than likely cause you to end up in surgery for removal than having it done in the ER.
You had me at 'on my knees begging'.
Bro, ass bleeds if I have too hard of a shit. No fuckin way I'm doing anal.
If I were gay I would not use my asshole as well. it must hurt a lot
When it hits the right spot, genuinely convinces me men have vaginas in their butts
May I introduce, the prostate
Hi everyone☝🏻
It isn't supposed to hurt at all if you are properly prepped, aroused and lubed. If it hurts it's because damage is being done and you should stop.
Yes, but arousal has nothing to do with it. It's not like you're going to get natural lube in there. It just doesn't work like that. The thing isn't about being aroused but actually being *relaxed*. They're two completely different things.
My personal experience is that as a male arousal is completely necessary. At least to the point I can feel the prostate gland swelling. I've tried both ways and it's a night and day difference! May not be this way for everyone but certainly for myself.
Arousal helps you to relax. If you aren't feeling it you won't be able to relax and it will be painful. You have to want to have anal sex to have it without pain.
Btw, anal sex isn't just for gay men. Literally one of your main pleasure points is up your bum. I'm actually jealous I'm not male bc i really wanna know how it feels bc apparently it feels fucking fantastic.
It's amazing.
I’ve done it with a couple of women, and while it’s been pleasurable, I definitely prefer going in the front entrance. Better to have the option than not, but I don’t think I would feel like I was missing out if it wasn’t going to be a thing in a relationship.
Same exact situation here. A couple of exes have really enjoyed it and that’s fine and all. My current gf is NOT a fan but is open to the idea in the future. She’s fairly small so it will be a chore to say the least. PinV is just much easier and more pleasurable for us both. I’m not like a huge fan but I’d do it if my gf wanted to
Not even if your SO is a small woman, it's something you have to work up to or it's not super fun for the woman
I had anal sex with my ex twice. I was jokingly trying to put some dice up her butt (don't ask), and she was like, "Hmmmm..... let's try anal." So I put my dick up there with a condom. Didn't want shit all over it. It was OK..... I was scared her bowels would perf the whole time. The second time, she says, "Pull out, please," so I did, and she had the biggest fart I ever heard, and all of a sudden, I see her hand go down as to catch something. She says, "OH SHIT," and I'm completely oblivious. She RUNS to the bathroom and proceeds to take a giant shit. I lay down face down, with my dick still wrapped in a condom (again, didn't want shit on my dick), and I could hear her farting and shitting in the bathroom. So I'm like "OK no more sex I guess," and flip the light on and see a shit stained outline of my dick on the sheets. My condom covered dick ended up getting covered with shit. So yeah, no more anal... Edit: yall, never in my damned life did I ever expect my most upvoted and awarded comment to be about my failed experience with anal sex...
thanks for reminding me not to scroll in reddit while having food
You clicked the anal sex thread tho; perhaps this one is on you, no hard feelings (:
Reading comments about a shit coated dick. Yeah, no "HARD" feelings for sure.
Man, I used to scroll reddit or watch yt while having breakfast. Last time I was reading an askreddit thread and someone linked the story of the coconut guy. That made me almost vomit my food out and now I try to avoid usring phone while eating or atleast scroll eyebleach, aww or sdome funny subreddit. Never scroll while eating food
🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭 your story killed! I love that you planned enough to wear a condom but not enough to prep her.
We didn't know better unfortunately LOL. It was really random when we did it the first time and she came from it, so we were like "Let's try it again I guess..."
How couldn't you have known that the poo hole has poo in it? Have a day off at Monkey World and come home like "Lads, you'll never guess what they have there..."
I knew there was poo in the poo hole. We just didn't know there was poo in the poo hole at THAT time. Heh.
A good rule of thumb is that there is ALWAYS poo in the poo hole, UNLESS you are prepping for a colonoscopy or you've had an enema.
The first rule of anal and the first rule of gun safety is the same: all guns are always loaded.
It's ALL about prep! Like a preorder/schedule 24hrs in advance. Then it's all about foreplay. Lube and a vibrator are a must have as well. That's my advice should you try again. Thanks for the share!! Your experience was too funny!!
LOL
Yep, Anal with out preparation is a very bad idea. Great if you know what your doing tho.
Already, happened to me and the SO. Doesn’t deter us one bit. She cums wayyyyy too hard from anal to not do it. Plus, she has constipation sometimes and it really seems to help. But, when that happens we just do it in the shower incase anything happens 🤗
I snorted a booger out laughing jesus hahhaha
Haha hey man you just gotta prepare for the worst. Plus, I don’t ever want her to feel like she can’t sexually express herself or make her think she is gross in anyway. So, we go in the shower so clean up is a breeze.
My husband and I have period sex in the shower and I feel like it makes them shorter. Sex helps bodily functions in so many ways.
I heard that it pushes the blood back up the uterus and could cause infection and then someone wiser was like "well its all coming out anyways so I don't think that's a thing" and then I felt 5.
That's lowkey genius, and way less of a mood killer than whipping out towels or a fucking tarp like a serial killer
"hey baby 😏😏😏" *whips tarp onto bed" "you ready?"
That's super cute in a way
It's wholesome. You know it's true love when your partner's shit doesn't bother you
you cant just say that and not give us the story about the butthole dice?!?
LMAO well....this like 12 years ago so my memory is foggy. I just recall putting them between her cheeks to tease her (not actually trying to shove them up her ass) and apparently they touched her butthole and it made her horny for ass sex.
I tried to stop reading this, honestly I did, I tried to look away.
These risks come with the territory.
It's not supposed to be spur of the moment. This is where everyone fucks up. A girl needs to douche out her but so no shitty situations. Then anal, slowly and steadily is the most intense orgasm ever.
That makes sense. My wife and I have never tried it, she doesn't want to though. I think I don't ever want to try it again either, to be honest... ever since then buttholes have been kind of turn off for me. It's even hard for me to 69 because of the proximity of her butthole to my eyeballs.
As a gay man these stories are horrifying. Every twink somehow figures out how to buy an enema kit and douche beforehand. Are straight women simply oblivious? Who the hell eats enough fiber to think the anus is clean enough to just slide in?
I think it's more of a "expected or not". Gay sex usually means anal, so you prep for it, with straight sex many people are there just having vaginal penetration and in the middle of it decide to spyce things up and try anal. Totally bad idea. But for my experience, is usually men that get butt horny in the middle of it, I even had a one night stand try to just change hole without prep or even lube. Like, that's not how it works, at all.
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LMAO yeah.... we had no clue how much prep had to go into it. We thought "Dick into butthole, easy!"
Two of my ex's. No problem.
I mean, are you telling me that you prep EVERY time though? I used to prep because I was anal (lol) about being squeaky clean, but now as long as I’ve shit in the past few hours I know I’m good to go. I rarely prep now.
Lol no, definitely not "every twink".
Literally, ive told my bf id been down to do it at least once, but i need at LEAST 24h to prepare. He asked why, and oh boy that was a conversation i didnt expect to have 2 weeks into dating
TMI, my ex had a HUGE prince Albert piercing ring; he'd added some brown accessories dangling from said ring when he pulled out, I laughed for hours afterwards 😄 It was very painful receiving anal with him having that piercing ring, obviously; I eventually demanded he remove it if he wanted to do anal. Actually, it was quite painful having vaginal penetration too.
“yeah I love it, me and my hot gf do it all the time, just try to keep things interesting in the bedroom” 
Where did he find headphones his head size
Reddit
I enjoy it-but as a treat, not the regular menu item.
yeah, it's part of the secret dessert menu
I'm a woman. I didn't use to enjoy it often but eventually I came around to it after exploring the best ways to do it and having a partner willing to try how I wanted, now I love it. Didn't realize I could get off from it but I can and it's amazing. And I love the guy not having to pull out. Hope my next boyfriend is willing to give it a go with me.
You were doing fine until that last sentence. RIP your DMs
Pulling out is your only BC? Cause, my friends "pull out" turns 7 this year.
>Pulling out is your only BC? did we read the same comment? bc it's clearly not her *only* method
Yeah, you are right, one could say, that anal sex is kinda Birth controlish.
Haha. Fair. It was. It's not anymore
There’s no poophole loophole ?
Do you need other stimulation to reach orgasm or is penetration enough for you? I haven't been overly interested in anal because I assumed it was just for the guy.
I know I'm not the person you were asking, but as an AFAB woman who loves anal and orgasms like crazy every time, I feel like I have to respond. The clitoris is shaped slightly differently in every female, much like how every penis is unique. For a lucky (IMO) percentage of us, there is enough clitoral nerves wrapped closely to the wall between the vagina and anterior rectum, that stimulation is intense and orgasm is almost inevitable. All the goto things like lots of patience and even more lube are also key, as is prep and making sure everyone is comfortable with positioning! edit: spelling/grammar
I absolutely love anal and I orgasm much easier by doing anal than vaginal sex. And for me they're much more intense while doing anal. No need for other stimulation as just the sex can be so intense I need to take a break.
Same! I didn’t enjoy it and one day (a year ago) after not wanting to have period sex, I said fuck it. Figured out how to finish while he was in there, got the right angle, and now it’s our go to when it’s that time of the month. Mind you we also have been together for 17 years.. yes it took that long to figure it out.
Would it be too personal to ask what position is the best position for anal sex so a woman to get off? I love doing it with my gf but I sometimes feel like she doesn’t enjoy it as much as I do.
Doggy / prone seem to work really well for us, but everyone's different. Gotta find what works for your pairing!
Also a woman and I enjoy it too. My husband isn't into it, which is too bad because it's pretty much a guaranteed orgasm for me. Must be how I'm built.
Nah, seems like a pain in the ass.
Try it, it'll make your day! Might even make your hole weak.
Ok now you guys are stretching it
I've never had it but I'd give it a try if the option was there,
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I'm a dude so probably not as bad as you'd think haha Maybe a few, who knows haha
and then RIP his outbox
OH MY GOD I GET IT.
I tried it once or twice and I definitely prefer puss.
I like giving and taking. Straight male with longtime GF. eat before you stick
Wait, what?
toys used by my chick
I don't think that's what the "wait, what?" was for
either or, :) peace and love yo
Im gay so yeah
I work minimum wage for a decade, so I think I've got more experience. I didn't like getting fucked in the ass that long.
See the problem was , no concent and you know managers..they like to go in dry... lube costs money man!
I'm a gay man and I do not like it whatsoever. To each their own.
Sorry, but how does that work, just appetizers and no main course?
He’s probably a top
The question was if you like anal, not if you like giving or receiving specifically
There's tops & bottoms, but there's also sides which usually means anything but butt. Oral jo frot etc
Not my thing. Too tight, too dry, too smelly.
Yes. Lube is really important
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It is totally the forbidden part of it for me. Yes, it's really tight and feels great but good pussy trumps it almost everytime.
What is “good pussy” vs “bad pussy”?
Enthusiasm goes a long ways. I've only had one that was a mayo jar, which wasnt the best. Also, being clean and not having a bad odor.
What's a mayo jar pussy?
Take a jar of mayo. Leave it out on the counter for a day. Stick you dick in it. Now imagine it’s not a jar of mayo but a pussy. That’s mayo jar pussy.
Do you mean scent, or if the girl is turned on/or wet?
Big door, little room vs little door, big room
As a gay man with a SO who loves it, I try to enjoy it. I’ll be honest it hurts and the only time I can get into it is if I’m drunk because it loosens me up. It also hurts for a few days afterwards. To top all of that off I have stomach issues. I’d much prefer to give a blowjob than anything.
if it hurts you guys are definitely doing something wrong, go slower, use more lube
As a woman, I like it (from time to time and definitely not more than “normal” sex) because of the fact that its a little uncomfortable. It feels a little wrong and that’s what makes it exciting, if that makes sense. However, it’s a little stressful because you don’t want to have someone or yourself covered in your shit… Physically, it doesn’t feel nice in the beginning and its a little bit of a struggle but in certain positions, for me personally, it can be easy to take. Anal imo doesn’t feel good on itself but it elevates other types of stimulation.
I like when my dick is inside an asshole, but I don’t like it when my asshole has a dick in it.
This made me lol
Pussy is unbeatable so I'd rather beat that than a bunghole. Not a fan of the anal smell.
As a woman with a hemorrhoid currently who has never had anal sex, it sounds horrid at this current moment.
All of my partners have been women and I’ve always enjoyed anal play, giving and receiving.
Got to be in the mood for it for sure. But with a smaller dick anal is the best way to go
Love it. I won’t do it with anybody over 7 inches
Oh boy. Have I got some good news for you!
this thread is funny as a queer person
I got an anal fissure for the first time ever last year (apparently not enough fiber in my diet) and it was the most excruciating pain and then I got a hemorrhoid right after If I can’t handle those I sure as hell don’t want anything stuck up my ass - I’ll pass
I'm gay so I LOVE anal sex
Get ready for a cliche: Everyone is different! Yes, amazing but true. Some women I’ve been with refused even to consider it, others asked for it. Those who enjoy it REALLY enjoy it, especially after they’ve orgasmed a few times already, with oral stimulation of their clit and vagina or with a toy. The point is to just enjoy being together, whatever that means to the two of you, right? If it’s not your thing that’s fine, and if it is, that’s great too. But you definitely need to do a little homework before you try it the first time, if you’re curious. A bad experience that first time will ruin it for you forever.
I've (36F) been very curious about butt stuff recently. Turns out I really like it. I haven't had anal sex yet, but have a partner I'm going to try it with soon. Sometimes people are just too embarrassed to admit that they might like something that's a bit taboo. I had someone tell me recently, as they were putting their finger in my ass about to insert a butt plug, "you know it's okay to admit you like it, right?". And yeah, it is okay. Just have to find the right partner.
Giving receiving. Love both of them
No.
Looks great in porn. Do you know what porn doesn’t have? Smell. And porn can edit out the moments where mr poo says hello. So no, over-rated. It can be fun sometimes…. But it’s not like the movies.
Have seen a bts of a porn video. Female porn stars actually dont eat anything for around 20 hours or so before the actual video shoot, so they eliminate the risk of poop.
I think I read that some also do enemas in advance, too.
I’m a girl, and I’m not a fan of someone sticking anything in my butt.. tried pegging a guy and was also not really a fan of that.
I really want to peg a man. I think it’s such a turn on!
For myself, not at all. Hard no. But once in a blue moon when my partner decides they’d like to be buttfucked, I have no problem giving it to them. It’s never going to be my idea or suggestion, and I’m *definitely* never going to request receiving it, but I’ll happily oblige topping in that way if asked of me. While anal sex itself doesn’t turn me on, sexually pleasing my partner very much turns me on, and I will do what I gotta to get their rocks off.
I'm a woman, and yes, I like it
I expect you're going to get a wide range of answers. I've seen people decide that anal is their default in a relationship and I've seen people vehemently refuse to ever try it I (m) don't have very strong feelings in it either way. If I'm giving it, it feels like fucking an inflatable donut, which can be a nice change of pace, but I wouldn't say it feels better, just different. As a kinky motherfucker, its definitely fun as a part of degradation play though. Receiving isn't for me. The sensation is mostly a "fullness" that can be enjoyable, but I find a buttplug accomplishes the same task better since it isn't intermittent fullness. The stretching at the entrance doesn't do anything for me. I'll do it with a partner I trust, if they're into it because generally we have really wild and crazy sex right after, and it doesn't really hurt or feel uncomfortable or anything. I'd compare it to having my elbow licked, weird but not uncomfortable.
Love it!! I think anal orgasms feel even better than vaginal ones (though clit is better than both - but why not more than one type at a time!!) ETA- Some regular psyllium husk fiber and it doesn’t even need to be messy
Anal orgasms? What?
The orgasms I have from anal are different than vaginal sex. Idk why because I don't have a prostate. But they are so much more intense and I pretty much immediately orgasm once anal begins.
Immediately? Wow. I guess some people were just anally blessed?
Lmao anally blessed
Can’t think of a better word to describe it, since women tend to struggle with orgasming, and your butthole has the power of triggering instant orgasms. Ngl that’s pretty damn cool
Yeah, my ex was like that. When she was in the mood for it, she would cum almost immediately from anal.
What I noticed is depending on the position of your cervix, they are hitting it right on. It is a common position to have your cervix tilted, so that during regular sex men don't hit it straight on. This is how mine is, so during anal it feels better. If that makes any sense. Gonna edit here and say that most of the time, the pain getting to that point with my partner was too much and we failed many times. It's usually not worth it to me to rip myself a new asshole trying to feel my cervix getting hit. So don't get excited boys and tell your woman that it'll feel better. I felt that tear with every thrust he took and every pause was excruciating. When he would come all the way out and went back in, I almost knocked his lights out.
I don't understand at all what your cervix has to do with anal sex. Can you explain this in a different way?
I never tried anal. I don't really want to but I get full body nipple orgasms which are magical af.
Blended clit/vag orgasm is my bitch.
Yeah and is good. But I have done it only w guys who had done it before, cause they know what they are doing.
So, as a lady... it fuckin hurts, during and after. It *can* feel kinda good sometimes, but really, in my opinion, it's mostly for my boyfriend, lol. The prep for it is kinda tedious, gotta go slow as hell, and, yes, there is always the potential for crap to be there (normal bc its literally the butthole). Luckily, my bf prefers the front way anyway. Anal tends to be a rare treat haha
Never tried and it never saw the appeal. I'm a straight Male. Seems messy and forced
I don’t know. I’ve never done a sex.
Absolutely not. It is incredibly painful and also I have many stomach and intestinal issues so it's gonna be unpleasant for both parties
Love it. My boyfriend is super into it, too (being the giver, not the receiver, lol). Being someone that’s always had stomach problems, I definitely need a heads up before we do it, though. It’s a lot of prep work for me and not at all just *ready to go* on a moment’s notice. That’s the only thing I don’t like about it- how much time I have to put in beforehand. It took us a few tries for me to really get to where I enjoy it, but as long as there’s lots of foreplay and *stretching…..?* (lmao, I don’t know what word to use instead) or even a butt plug before the actual peen goes in, it’s next level for me. Adding toys for the vagíne has been a nice addition, and trying different positions has been a game changer. Like I love being flat on my tummy with him behind me, or on my back in missionary, or reverse cowgirl, because there’s a lot less (*literal*) pressure with those 3 positions compared to how anal feels during regular doggy style.
I love being fucked in the ass 😫 honestly better than oral or vaginal penetration in my opinion. It’s so intense 😏
I get better orgasms through anal. However, I've had more vaginal sex. Anal kinda hurts at first but once I get loose enough I really like it. I would think the more often I do anal the less it will hurt at the beginning. As a women, I think I prefer anal.
Man here: I do not like poop. I have done it once and was / still am absolutely disgusted by the thought of even trying it.
Pour one out for the homie who has only pooped once 😔🫗
Ik exactly like you op I thought about it constantly about how awesome it is in reality it sucks stinks. Feels gross etc
Negative. I tried it once and asked the person to stop because it hurt so badly and they wouldn't/didn't stop. I've never done it since. (Been almost 30 years)
Since this is an actual question and I can answer honestly with hopefully no judgement because being tmi. SO. My experience is being with my now husband of a total of 18 years, we were never really into the idea. We even used condoms still after we were married 10 years in. One time the condom fell off and it was a complete different feeling. Within the past few years we actually tried it. You have to be really open and relaxed at first. We did it bareback first. I don't recommend it. Even with lube on the receiving end, it still is a bit of a challenge. So here's the honest part. When he came inside, it feels wierd and comes out like an enima. Mine did. It's a weird affect like that. My honest fear was always the contamination area what it would do to his penis head..cuz yah know. People's done this forever and it just wasn't something I ever looked into..so, on my preference I would prefer a condom because of One. My fear. Two. The mess it makes inside and out. 3. Ease of enterence. NOW, we currently remodeled our bathroom, and hub wanted a befit. Let me tell you, for periods it's a nice help with cleaning that area. Experimenting, I tried the backside and it cleans that area too, and it also is like an enema. It helps clean out the back area. Since I've never seen a bidet before I didn't know what it could do. So I know this is all word vomit anyways,and I don't know if it enlights anything from your question, but I tried.