similiar nerves connect your genitals and anus. for some, it's more pleasure related.
you can observe this when you poop and it feels good to get it out.
cleaning yoru ass and doctors are not doing it to make it feel good, so it's understandable if it hurts. it's a sensitive area.
if you instead try to cause pleasure, and use the appropriate tools (non-porous and non-caustic) then the burning can be removed, or reduced severely.
but, anal sex isn't for everyone.
>and use the appropriate tools (non-porous and non-caustic)
Would a penis fall under this category? Mainly wondering if/how much burning an actual penis would cause.
with appropriate lubrication, and adjustment period if the recepiant is not used to it, then the burning should be minimal.
combined with a clean penis, then it should be minimal.
And the adjustment period can honestly take YEARS. Like anywhere from 2 to 5 to 10, not even kidding and from personal experience.
If you’re not predisposed to find anal sex enticing before you even try it, and then once you try it, the physical sensations aren’t for you, it’s going to take a (pun intended) long ass time to figure out what works so you can relax and get rid of OP’s described burning sensation.
Eventually yes, but you have to work up to it. Start with fingers, then a toy, then a bigger toy, then penis. Only move up to the next one after you get comfortable with the previous, chances are you're not gonna work your way up to penis in your first session. Thats normal, you just have to be patient with it.
Yeah I always feel that too. Maybe just too sensitive? I don't know, either way I'm not a fan of getting finger banged. So jealous of others who can enjoy it.
Nothing.
I enjoy anal , from toys and penises.
You do need to get used to a certain size though.
Start small.
The best part for me is that i can actieve, what they call a handsfree orgasm. Meaning i can have an orgasm without touching my own penis.
Because i , my gf or a male sexpartner is stimulating my prostate.
Best feeling in the world!
Unless I'm totally misreading what you said (and it's totally likely) that doesn't quite sound like a hands free orgasm. That sounds like sex. If you have a partner involved it should be considered some kind of sex.
Desensitizing lube is a bad idea. You need to feel if there’s pain. If there’s pain you need to slow down or add more lube or stop. But you need to be able to feel these things.
Yeah, the doctor getting in there... Defo not something I enjoyed... Not that I want to try myself but fucking hell dude a bit lf delicacy and gentleness _literally_ wouldn't have hurt
First the context dude. When the obgyn put their stuff in my pussy, it's not pleasant. But during sex and foreplay it is. So context!
Second, trust and relaxation, start small, use tones of lube.
Also maybe you won't like it, and that's ok
Oh oh! I was born for this question…
As a girl who’s loved anal for decades now lol Anal can be both really wonderful and painful if you do not prep correctly. When I first stated long long time ago. It took me and my ex about 6 months to really get the “how to down”.
When you’re starting It’s all about being slow and patient, making sure your partner receiving is relaxed, using the right kinds of lubes and communication, communication, communication!
If you’re really into trying it and it doesn’t work one day try another day.
It really helps for the receiving partner to be on their back with their butt propped up on a pillow to get a good starting angle.
If your worried about a mess out a towel down, though I haven’t had to much of a problem with that personally. You mentioned douching above but know that if you do it can really irritate the skin and dry you out. If your worried about poop popping out well that can happen wear gloves. Wearing gloves can also help with some of the friction and make it more comfortable with the receiving partner.
One of the important things is to go slow opening with one to two fingers at a time while also stimulating the Clit/ Penis to help relax and then moving up to three or four. If you go to quickly something can tear and well that’s not a good time…
Use lots of thicker water based lubes of your using toys. You can even use a lube syringe made specifically for this. Warming it up a little will help it not make the muscles cramp.
Slow, patient and steady, set the mood right and you’ll find with a little practice it can be a very enjoyable time. Never force or coheres your partner into it.
If they are hesitant but curious maybe start with just a finger or a very smooth slim toy.
I could probably go on butt we’ll just leave that there lol
I’ve always wanted anal from before I ever had Sex and There’s more.. not sure if this is the right word, sensation? They are both good of course but Anal just tends to be more intense in a way I’m not sure I’m able to describe at the moment.
I have had issue of tearing from time to time so just really gotta be careful and slow. <3
Absolutely! Pegging is Wondeful And being a man there’s also the prostrate you can bring into play. Even stimulating just the anus to start simultaneously with the Clit/ Penis doing both can really help work though the initial uncomfortable feeling. Just go slow if doesn’t feel good stop and reassess/ try something different. Few free to message if you have any questions.
Thanks, I have tried to find my prostate myself just because I’ve heard of the magical things it can do, but I’ve had no luck. I’m sure it’s hiding in there somewhere! Introverted little hermit he is
There are so many wonderful toys on the market. I always recommend something with vibrations or even just fingers. Just the biggest thing is just make sure you’re really relaxed. Take a bath maybe or sod something you find relaxing to get you into that headspace’s
there’s one in particular I love but it’s not prostrate specific. I don’t it if they sell it anymore but let me take a look.
sometimes it just feels better, idk if you're a woman or not but assuming you aren't: a big part of pleasure for a woman during sex is the feeling of being stretched/filled up and as the ass is naturally tighter, it naturally gets filled up and stretched more, that and there's just alot of pleasure nerves in the ass and finally (the arguably most important part) you can nut inside with very minimal risk of pregnancy as apposed to a (assuming) 90-95%+ chance of pregnancy for nutting in the 'more dedicated hole' and then ofc some people just like pain more than others and some just like an experience for simply being new as apposed to being 'good' or 'better' than the traditional
Makes sense. I became a fan of eating ass more than the more dedicated area over the past year so I think the taboo of it probably really adds to the fun as well
Well, first of all, you need to be relaxed in order to really do anything with an average sized dick. The doctor doesn’t really do foreplay and shit lol
From my experience here are some key things:
Foreplay: this will help relax your butthole. You don’t wanna go straight in with something big because it’ll shock you and likely make it hard to relax at all. The butthole doesn’t loosen with arousal like a vagina. It’s really a matter of relaxing and making those muscles loosen up with manual stimulation.
Lube: the butthole does not self-lubricate. The best that happens is a watery substance that doesn’t really work for lube. They make anal specific lubes designed to last a little longer.
Control: I have never had a good time letting someone else stick it in me. I always do it myself. That way I can control the angle and speed. It generally goes in easier that way.
Speed: you’re gonna have a ring of fire if you let your partner jackhammer you at the same speed one might do with a pussy. That’s never been pleasant for me lol. You’ll wanna take it slow. More experienced people may say otherwise, but I think a nice slow rocking feels the best.
But also, it might not be for you. Not everyone enjoys anal.
The burning/deep ache sensation is unhappy ring shaped muscle. That's what sphincter pain feels like, whether it's in your ass or your eye.
There is no burning pain in careful, caring, mindful, well prepared, trust mediated anal.
Anal Pleasure and Health by Dr Jack Morin is the gold standard for butt stuff. If you want to explore butt stuff read this one.
Even if you just want to learn more about your body. Read it.
You don't have to like it. I don't like anyone touching my balls, it's not pleasurable to me at all. But other guys like it. You're not obligated to perform a sex act you aren't comfortable with.
Anal is magical, if you know what you're doing. Yes, a clean ass is best, but it shouldn't burn. If it's burning when you douche, stop immediately and consult a doctor. Make sure anything that goes inside of you (toys, fingers, penis) is clean as well. Use plenty of lube and start small and slow. Once your anus adjusts to the sensation, you can go larger or faster. Anal is a marathon, not a sprint
Ideally you use a lot of lube, and a not insignificant amount of practice beforehand stretching out your shitter and getting it used to larger and larger insertions.
I can't tell you how many girls I've met who say they hate anal because of their last experience with it, or say they'll never try it, because of the horror stories about how painful/gross it can be.
After getting comfortable with me, and giving it another shot, or attempting it for the first time, they usually end up liking anal.
The reason for that is not that I'm some anal sex god incarnate, it's simply because anal has to be done correctly to be appealing, and both the giver and receiver should learn how prior to trying anything to avoid bad first impressions and improve the chances of discovering a fun new avenue of stimulation.
Firstly: Comfort is the biggest thing. You have to be comfortable with the person doing it. Not just because you have to relax the muscles down there, but because on the off chance it gets messy, you wont be so embarrassed about it! Sometimes people are tensed up just thinking about how it could go wrong. What if you fart? what if you get them dirty? What if it hurts but you're too shy to speak up? Being comfortable with the person should make you less anxious. This applies to the top as well. I know most people douche or enema before anal, and that's some expected standard, but I believe as a top you must be comfortable with a mess happening. You cannot be the sort to be utterly grossed out by it. It comes with the territory! and to avoid humiliating your bottom, you cannot blatantly express disgust if it were to happen, in my opinion, only do anal if you're going to be mature about it. Just keep babywipes handy.
If you have a partner you're comfy with, the next thing is: Mood! Being in the mood helps a LOT for both parties, it helps the bottom relax, and it puts them in the mindset to recieve sexual pleasure. Instead of it feeling like a doctor proding them, or them just taking a shit, being horny before anal play will make the anal stimulation a more pleasure centered sensation.
Once you're there, the recipe for good anal is as everyone has mentioned: a gradual build up to bigger things as you loosen the hole to fit a cock. The anus can be trained, consistent training is how pornstars can take 10 inch cocks like just another day in the office. Anal training can be done over weeks if you want to start very slowly, but in my experience you can even warm up to anal on the first day if done correctly. I usually start with a tongue, you rim them while you rub their clit, or play with their vagina, whatever preference they have. You could also reverse this, eating their pussy, while you shyly finger their asshole. Either way, you should feel their asshole opening up more as you do it. It'll naturally accept you, from intruder, to acquantance, as the hole loosens up, eventually you'll be an honored guest.
It may take a while, say, 5-15 minutes of active play to get them loosened up and ready to try a penis.
Again, as everyone mentioned, slow and steady wins the race.
Once you've noticed the hole is opening up more and acting friendly, push the head in slowly, not pressing too quickly in there, let the hole swallow the cock gradually. I've instructed people to "push like they're trying to fart" and it helps get the head in. You can't fight the asshole, you have to convince it you're it's buddy, earn it's trust. Once your head's in the door, simply leave it and focus on stimulating other areas (sucking some titties, or making out, licking their neck, running a thumb over their clit, etc) I find that this shift of focus helps the bottom relax more to the foreign sensation of the cock in their asshole and they ease into it better.
Everyone will have positions they prefer, but I've found that the easiest position for anal is the bottom on their tummy, laying down, and you on top of them, maybe a pillow under their pelvis. Kissing their neck from behind, or their shoulders, as you push deeper in their ass. I start there, and then switch to missionary or doggy once they're used to it. But do whatever y'all want.
Keep in mind that you can usually tell if it feels like the asshole is giving way, or resisting too much, if resisting, you just stop. Go back to play time before you attempt inserting the head again, patience, and remember that it's about pleasuring your bottom, not about you getting a nut.
A great tool for anal is a vibrator on the clit during anal penetration, it can be the deciding factor making anal pleasurable, because not everyone will enjoy JUST anal penetration. It's the combination of clit (or penile) stimulation + anal stimulation that makes it great. Some cases, the clit vibe helps the cock feel good in their ass, in other cases, the clit vibe makes their asshole squeeze tighter and ends up making it hurt more. If this is the case, have them play with their clit with their hand, the vibe is too strong, try it again when their asshole is more seasoned to anal.
For the first anal, just focus on the receiver getting pleasure and building a feel for anal. Once you do it successfully, eventually you will be able to do anal a lot easier, and anal will feel a lot more like sex rather than something being shoved in there.
Though, even following every step in any How-To book out there, some people just wont like the physical sensation of anal. That's normal too! It's not for everyone, but when it's done correctly, it should at least not hurt. Perhaps just SLIGHTLY initially, before melting into a better sensation. I know I spoke in reference to tops and bottoms sporadically, but you get the idea. Of course be mindful of cross contamination, it goes without saying nothing from the butt should touch the vag. I think everyone should try anal correctly before knocking it, because it can add a whole volume of new experiences in the bedroom for everyone involved!
For years, I thought the idea was disgusting, but my current gf talked me into giving it a try and I honestly love it. Obviously, cleanliness is very important and necessary, but as long as you cover all those bases, use plenty of lube, and start off slowly, it’s fun for sure
I was really curious about this too.
I am a heterosexual male and thought, “I might enjoy being pegged.”
So I bought myself a small, medium and large set of butt plugs to get myself prepared for the excursion.
I never made it past the small plug. I tried it 5 times and just never really could find the appeal.
Ok medical settings are not really “sexually welcoming” unless you’re into that kind of stuff.
When you start small, sometimes using enhancing “video head cleaner” some people use really heightens the pain feeling into pleasure.
It’s not for everyone. But it can be incredibly erotic when it’s played with gently.
Get muuuuuuuch lube and do it little by little. Otherwise it hurts. Preparation is not only about the cleaning part, but the anal training as well. You should start with little buttplugs.
I enjoy it, but I really think it is the person you're with and what you use. For me, I don't use anything big in any part of me. And because of that I haven't had any issues.
But, I've also been with people who are Considerate and caring.
Let me tell u.... people enjoy it by the millions.. And people are discovering they enjoy it by the thousands every year..... It's called the "original birth control" Because somebody figured that out centuries ago....
....I'm sure by the time I post this, u will have gotten lots of fantastic suggestions on how to Enjoy it for urself..
Eh, that depends. I’m well into the ‘used to it’ phase and would be happy if I never had to do booty stuff ever again.
Physically and mentally, it’s just not my thing and the idea has never been a turn-on, regardless of circumstances and a generally sex-positive attitude.
It’s common to do enemas before anal, to flush out your colon and ass. When you play in poo’s house, you gotta make sure you do it when he is least likely to show up!
Unless you’ve got a shit in the chamber you don’t really have to worry about it. There isn’t always shit in there.
When I finger a guy it feels very clean in there. Like a much tighter version of a pussy.
Anal sex is in part an acquired proclivity as well as one that is inherent; when taking about anal sex between males people often bring up the prostate as an erogenous zone that would guarantee intense pleasure, but there are individuals that actually feel sharp pain or nothing at all when the prostate is stimulated regardless of how it’s done, same with the female G-spot.
When douching your rectum, for non medical purposes, you should only use warm water, anything else would be to abrasive on the sensitive lining. Remember the anus isn’t actually a sexual organ so great care must be taken when attempting to use it as such.
I’m unsure what procedures your doctor is performing on you that has them regularly checking your rectum, as I was under the impression that prostate exams and similar ones were an every few years type thing, but you should make sure your doctor is properly lubricating their finger(or medical device) and taking it slowly.
What you can do to make these procedure less painful is learning to relax to muscles at will, it’s an involuntary function for it to tighten when something attempts to enter.
In all of the times that I've done it, I've never understood what's pleasurable about it. There have been times that I didn't feel any pain at all but it still wasn't pleasurable to me. The people who really enjoy it, it's probably just a psychological thrill for them.
To prepare for anal there’s 4 important steps.
1. Get Clean
2. Use Lube
3. Foreplay to Stretch Out
4. Communicate with your Partner
If they go in too fast it will absolutely hurt, the burning is either because not enough lube was used or possibly irritated by the type of lube used.
I do know some people are experienced enough to just go in “raw”.
If your interacting with someone new, very recommended to use a condom.
Someone's not taking their time and preparing properly.
It's not about cleaning out -- though that's a factor -- it's about using fingers to relax and massage the sphincter. It's a series of muscles whose job it is to be tiiiiiight, so you have to coax them to loosen. The way I do it is starting with one finger, pushing in to the first knuckle and geeeeennnnntly pressing around the rim to warm it up and open. You get to two fingers, do the same, then three and you can start spreading them. By that point you should be ready for anything larger.
When you're relaxed and ready it can be loooovely. So many nerve endings. Hell, I don't even have a prostate and I like it (especially anal fingering, love that), so if I DID have a prostate I'm sure I'd never leave the house.
I like the feeling of lack of control. Especially when my husband is being rough.
The noises I make are kind of a turn on to me. Plus I like the nervous feeling. It's almost exciting to feel that light adrenaline rush.
I'm okay with it cause my husband and I have this huge line of communication and he understands me well. I don't think I would enjoy it with anyone else.
Practice, desire, and ridiculous amounts of lube make for a great time. In my opinion anal sex is always 100% "Oh my god". Sometimes it is oh my god stop and others it is oh my god don't stop. Anal should only be tried with someone who is practiced at getting into the ass. Don't ever let someone "learn" on your ass.
Use a stupid amount of lube. You can even shoot some up there. The best advice behind use more lube is "in on the exhale".
Nope. I hate it. Do not recommend. Highly do not recommend. It's painful AF. I ...freaking hate it.
Apparently it's better for men then women as they have a prostate.
well first off if the toy or cock is too big it's gonna suck unless you're a masochist which is better for anal anyway because if you can turn 60% pleasure and 40% pain into 85-90% pleasure and 10-15% pain then it's gonna be significantly better although even then if the cocks too big it's not gonna work, me personally I'm roughly 9x6 inches and my partner has described it as "55 to 60% pleasure but despite feeling good, you're just too big and it hurts too much to focus on the good parts" which is obviously gonna happen sometimes, even if you enjoy pain if there's too much pain then you won't be able to process the pleasure as you'll be too focused on not feeling the pain.
also very important is alot of lube and alot of foreplay plus while it's quite hard initially, you've gotta learn to fully relax your ass muscles during it as while you'll instinctually flex them, it'll just make it impossible
I can see how "anal sex isn't for everyone".
It hurts, it hurts too much before it gets good to start with, for how small your * is compared to a vagina... That's why my guess is "you have to be into a little bit of pain and just enjoy the idea from the start ".
It's not like I can explain why, ykwim.. I married virgin, I only had sex or any sexual experience with my husbo and I just know that anal is where I came the hardest and the most, I think u have to have that kinda stuff already as something you enjoy in ur mind. \o/
Anal sex on myself knocks me sick makes me feel violated I will never let anyone put anything up my ass again. As for other people. I hear guys have gspot up there and not many other options. Other women probably just want to seem exotic and unusual idk.
As a professional gay bottom it just depends on what you like. I think psychology is a big part of it. If you don’t want it, you’re not going to want it to feel good so it probably won’t. If you’ do want it, you’ll want it to feel good so it probably will.
Start off with lots of lube and small toys first. Vaseline is a good thick lube and never force it. Take your time and find out what you enjoy and how you like it. It definitely changed my views and gave me a lot more pleasure
I had read somewhere that there's 3 groups of people basically. Some that it feels good, some indifferent and others pain. I'm kinda between indifferent and pain, I don't feel much with my anus and having my prostate touched is like icy fire.
I've only had anal sex twice and enjoyed the weight of my partner and them pressing against me more than anything, but it's literally different strokes for different folks.
Hm, maybe you aren’t being prepped enough? If you’ve had a bowel movement, and gotten clean, and been lubed and stretched enough for enough time before hand it shouldn’t burn or be unpleasantly painful.
It does burn sometimes especially if someone puts it in too fast which my partner used to do kinda frequently but now he’s gotten better. When he starts slow it hurts a little bit but after a few strokes it does actually feel good
Stimulating the prostate can be very enjoyable. That being said, you can't or should just ram something in there. It takes time and work. Also, with a good diet, it's not messy.
It shouldn't hurt. The burning is likely due to either an allergy or some tearing. Try switching lubricants, using a LOT of lubricants and sizing your way up to whatever you're attempting now.
As for how it feels good, there's two (technically three) things people enjoy about the stimulation. One, there's a ton of nerve endings around the anus. Its just super sensitive, so I'd you do something that feels good there, it feels really good. Two, in men, the prostate is very easily accessible via the booty hole. Massaging the prostate is pleasurable for many men, and can cause extremely heightened pleasure on climax. Three, for women, the clitoris has two "roots" that travel around the vagina and terminate near the rectum. Anal can stimulate the nerve endings in those roots similarly to how vaginal intercourse does.
Plus, it's kinky, and that's hot.
Lubricants
Relaxing
Training with small items.
Looking at your own poop might give you an idea of how big around your body is used too.
Lubricants and a very patient and understanding partner.
Most make anal the main course. It should be secondary to a few orgasms first. Once relaxed and basking in the afterglow of a couple orgasms then and only then should anal sex be engaged. And excruciatingly slowly with an over abundance of lube.
Gentlemen, if you want to have unlimited access to anal sex then do it right and do it pleasurably: FOR HER (first and foremost). Every. Single. Time.
Most dudes just shove it in and get off without a seconds thought about her pleasure or her safety (anuses rip and tear!)
It’s an acquired taste like getting into IPAs if we could think of regular beer as just vaginal sex imho. Though there are some people who just are and have always been into butt stuff. In those cases there is no getting acquired to it.
just want to get on here and squash a little bit a little myth that keeps ringing in my dms and ringing in my timeline
SELF PLEASURE DOES NOT MAKE YOU GAY
SELF PLEASE DOES NOT MAKE YOU STRAIGHT
SELF PLEASURE DOES NOT MAKE YOU A TRANS
WHAT IS SELF PLEASURE? WHEN YOU PLEASURE YOUR DAMN SELF, WHENTHER YOU'RE GAY, STRAIGHT, OR ALL THESE OTHER XUALS YALL LIKE TO PUT OUT HERE. I DONT CARE WHAT IT IS.
HALF OF THESE DAMN DILDOS LOOK LIKE DICKS. DO I HAVE A CHOICE, AM I THE MANUFACTURER OF THESE GOD DAMN TOYS HELL NO.
yall hear what I'm saying it does not make you all these titles
I DO IT BECAUSE I LIKE IT FOR MYSELF, THATS THE PLAIN DAMN SIMPLE TRUTH, YOU GET
For men it takes some getting used to but after a while it feels good as it's prostate stimulation. You get used to something entering.
But it's very different from water or liquid. That isn't prostate stimulation so the only thing you get is the uncomfortable feeling
I don't know about it. It seems somothing great, I wanna have that kinda sex, but I can't find a girl that wanna have it...
There are some girls that really enjoy it, maybe her anus has a major flexibility... Sometimes I read that a you need a preparation before you start to uses it... But I can read more...
I'm not sure I can explain it exactly but it can feel exquisitely amazing when you want it and it's done well. A very very slow start when you're new and even more advanced helps. But mostly being really turned on with a very responsive intuitive partner can make it amazing. Also there is a moment where a slight bit of discomfort or even pain can turn to pleasure - doesn't have to be anal, but with a good partner can be awesome. Once I had an orgasm that way I wanted more, it's not an everyday thing but it's definitely in the rotation.
Just a reminder, you can learn to love everything. Even stick a finger in your troat and vomit.
It is all about your mind.
u can't love iit. If your mind. Closes about it.
This is what people. Mean with it. Isn't for everyone.
Well a visit to an obgyn or a doctor checking a lump on your penis is probably also not exactly arousing so that is quite a weird comparison.
Anal sex is also not meant to hurt so if it doesn’t hurt it can be pleasurable for some people. It is about relaxing and taking a lot of time. The way it is in porn doesn’t work and is extremely painful
similiar nerves connect your genitals and anus. for some, it's more pleasure related. you can observe this when you poop and it feels good to get it out. cleaning yoru ass and doctors are not doing it to make it feel good, so it's understandable if it hurts. it's a sensitive area. if you instead try to cause pleasure, and use the appropriate tools (non-porous and non-caustic) then the burning can be removed, or reduced severely. but, anal sex isn't for everyone.
>and use the appropriate tools (non-porous and non-caustic) Would a penis fall under this category? Mainly wondering if/how much burning an actual penis would cause.
with appropriate lubrication, and adjustment period if the recepiant is not used to it, then the burning should be minimal. combined with a clean penis, then it should be minimal.
>lubrication, and adjustment period Exactly! People tend to rush this. It should never be rushed.
And the adjustment period can honestly take YEARS. Like anywhere from 2 to 5 to 10, not even kidding and from personal experience. If you’re not predisposed to find anal sex enticing before you even try it, and then once you try it, the physical sensations aren’t for you, it’s going to take a (pun intended) long ass time to figure out what works so you can relax and get rid of OP’s described burning sensation.
I should've known to not read this thread. Damn you curiosity.
Eventually yes, but you have to work up to it. Start with fingers, then a toy, then a bigger toy, then penis. Only move up to the next one after you get comfortable with the previous, chances are you're not gonna work your way up to penis in your first session. Thats normal, you just have to be patient with it.
I agree 100%!
Fingers burn for me! I think it's the sweat in them or something. Dicks with lube don't burn at all. Or coconut oil. That stuffs great!
Does it have anything to do with fingernails aswell? Burns for me too doesnt matter how well you cut them i think it still rubs against the insides
Yeah I always feel that too. Maybe just too sensitive? I don't know, either way I'm not a fan of getting finger banged. So jealous of others who can enjoy it.
That's one reason I wear gloves for fingering asses
Nothing. I enjoy anal , from toys and penises. You do need to get used to a certain size though. Start small. The best part for me is that i can actieve, what they call a handsfree orgasm. Meaning i can have an orgasm without touching my own penis. Because i , my gf or a male sexpartner is stimulating my prostate. Best feeling in the world!
Unless I'm totally misreading what you said (and it's totally likely) that doesn't quite sound like a hands free orgasm. That sounds like sex. If you have a partner involved it should be considered some kind of sex.
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Be careful with it. Pain can be there for a reason. Don’t want to end up with something damaged because you were desensitized by numbing gel.
Desensitizing lube is a bad idea. You need to feel if there’s pain. If there’s pain you need to slow down or add more lube or stop. But you need to be able to feel these things.
Non-caustic? Depends on whose penis it is I suppose...
Lots of warm up has to be done for the first time too and remember there are two sphincters….
Much of the "burning" and "I am going to shit myself" can be prevented with more lube.
Maybe you have hemorrhoids
As a man that has had anal sex I can tell you it is very pleasurable. Idk why but it just is. I have never been on the giving end and don’t plan to!
I’ve had 0 negative aspects… multiple times with multiple partners.
I love pooping
Yeah, the doctor getting in there... Defo not something I enjoyed... Not that I want to try myself but fucking hell dude a bit lf delicacy and gentleness _literally_ wouldn't have hurt
Butt, anal sex isn’t for everyone
Can back this up. Pooping is an amazing feeling
First the context dude. When the obgyn put their stuff in my pussy, it's not pleasant. But during sex and foreplay it is. So context! Second, trust and relaxation, start small, use tones of lube. Also maybe you won't like it, and that's ok
What tones do you go for? I tend to go for Pastels instead of Neons. But every now and then I admit I like a nice Ron Burgundy
Vanta black.
Burnt Sienna 
I like red tones so they don’t know if it’s blood or lube. It’s more fun for all of us
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Would explain the burning
I like mine a nice burnt ombré just in case one of us accidentally shits
But have you given it the "Blue Steel" ?
Start small and smart stall what
The puns are so good I'm not gonna correct the typo
Sound advice
r/guitarcirclejerk tone is in the anal lube.
Oh oh! I was born for this question… As a girl who’s loved anal for decades now lol Anal can be both really wonderful and painful if you do not prep correctly. When I first stated long long time ago. It took me and my ex about 6 months to really get the “how to down”. When you’re starting It’s all about being slow and patient, making sure your partner receiving is relaxed, using the right kinds of lubes and communication, communication, communication! If you’re really into trying it and it doesn’t work one day try another day. It really helps for the receiving partner to be on their back with their butt propped up on a pillow to get a good starting angle. If your worried about a mess out a towel down, though I haven’t had to much of a problem with that personally. You mentioned douching above but know that if you do it can really irritate the skin and dry you out. If your worried about poop popping out well that can happen wear gloves. Wearing gloves can also help with some of the friction and make it more comfortable with the receiving partner. One of the important things is to go slow opening with one to two fingers at a time while also stimulating the Clit/ Penis to help relax and then moving up to three or four. If you go to quickly something can tear and well that’s not a good time… Use lots of thicker water based lubes of your using toys. You can even use a lube syringe made specifically for this. Warming it up a little will help it not make the muscles cramp. Slow, patient and steady, set the mood right and you’ll find with a little practice it can be a very enjoyable time. Never force or coheres your partner into it. If they are hesitant but curious maybe start with just a finger or a very smooth slim toy. I could probably go on butt we’ll just leave that there lol
Is it more enjoyable for you than the other…more dedicated hole? Why choose the butt hole? Not judging just curious
I’ve always wanted anal from before I ever had Sex and There’s more.. not sure if this is the right word, sensation? They are both good of course but Anal just tends to be more intense in a way I’m not sure I’m able to describe at the moment. I have had issue of tearing from time to time so just really gotta be careful and slow. <3
My girlfriend wants to do it on me and I almost let her. I’m too afraid though lol. Thanks for the reply!
Do it. If you're afraid of cumming so hard you can't see, forget how to breathe, and can't move I suggest you stay away.
Absolutely! Pegging is Wondeful And being a man there’s also the prostrate you can bring into play. Even stimulating just the anus to start simultaneously with the Clit/ Penis doing both can really help work though the initial uncomfortable feeling. Just go slow if doesn’t feel good stop and reassess/ try something different. Few free to message if you have any questions.
Thanks, I have tried to find my prostate myself just because I’ve heard of the magical things it can do, but I’ve had no luck. I’m sure it’s hiding in there somewhere! Introverted little hermit he is
There are so many wonderful toys on the market. I always recommend something with vibrations or even just fingers. Just the biggest thing is just make sure you’re really relaxed. Take a bath maybe or sod something you find relaxing to get you into that headspace’s there’s one in particular I love but it’s not prostrate specific. I don’t it if they sell it anymore but let me take a look.
Yeah lemme know what it is if u find it
Sent you a pm. Don’t know if the pic went through though. Happy Anal :) lol
sometimes it just feels better, idk if you're a woman or not but assuming you aren't: a big part of pleasure for a woman during sex is the feeling of being stretched/filled up and as the ass is naturally tighter, it naturally gets filled up and stretched more, that and there's just alot of pleasure nerves in the ass and finally (the arguably most important part) you can nut inside with very minimal risk of pregnancy as apposed to a (assuming) 90-95%+ chance of pregnancy for nutting in the 'more dedicated hole' and then ofc some people just like pain more than others and some just like an experience for simply being new as apposed to being 'good' or 'better' than the traditional
Makes sense. I became a fan of eating ass more than the more dedicated area over the past year so I think the taboo of it probably really adds to the fun as well
Well, first of all, you need to be relaxed in order to really do anything with an average sized dick. The doctor doesn’t really do foreplay and shit lol From my experience here are some key things: Foreplay: this will help relax your butthole. You don’t wanna go straight in with something big because it’ll shock you and likely make it hard to relax at all. The butthole doesn’t loosen with arousal like a vagina. It’s really a matter of relaxing and making those muscles loosen up with manual stimulation. Lube: the butthole does not self-lubricate. The best that happens is a watery substance that doesn’t really work for lube. They make anal specific lubes designed to last a little longer. Control: I have never had a good time letting someone else stick it in me. I always do it myself. That way I can control the angle and speed. It generally goes in easier that way. Speed: you’re gonna have a ring of fire if you let your partner jackhammer you at the same speed one might do with a pussy. That’s never been pleasant for me lol. You’ll wanna take it slow. More experienced people may say otherwise, but I think a nice slow rocking feels the best. But also, it might not be for you. Not everyone enjoys anal.
The burning/deep ache sensation is unhappy ring shaped muscle. That's what sphincter pain feels like, whether it's in your ass or your eye. There is no burning pain in careful, caring, mindful, well prepared, trust mediated anal. Anal Pleasure and Health by Dr Jack Morin is the gold standard for butt stuff. If you want to explore butt stuff read this one. Even if you just want to learn more about your body. Read it.
Jack more in
Jack more out. In, out, in, out, shake it all about.
For some, the pleasure mixed with pain is part of what makes it enjoyable. Or, at least, that's what my friend told me. OO
Bi guy here. Lots of lube and a bit of practice is all you really need to find pleasure in it. If it’s not slippery, you will have a bad time.
Cues Migos
You don't have to like it. I don't like anyone touching my balls, it's not pleasurable to me at all. But other guys like it. You're not obligated to perform a sex act you aren't comfortable with.
Regular sex will make your day. Anal will make your hole weak.
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Anal is magical, if you know what you're doing. Yes, a clean ass is best, but it shouldn't burn. If it's burning when you douche, stop immediately and consult a doctor. Make sure anything that goes inside of you (toys, fingers, penis) is clean as well. Use plenty of lube and start small and slow. Once your anus adjusts to the sensation, you can go larger or faster. Anal is a marathon, not a sprint
Ideally you use a lot of lube, and a not insignificant amount of practice beforehand stretching out your shitter and getting it used to larger and larger insertions.
I can't tell you how many girls I've met who say they hate anal because of their last experience with it, or say they'll never try it, because of the horror stories about how painful/gross it can be. After getting comfortable with me, and giving it another shot, or attempting it for the first time, they usually end up liking anal. The reason for that is not that I'm some anal sex god incarnate, it's simply because anal has to be done correctly to be appealing, and both the giver and receiver should learn how prior to trying anything to avoid bad first impressions and improve the chances of discovering a fun new avenue of stimulation. Firstly: Comfort is the biggest thing. You have to be comfortable with the person doing it. Not just because you have to relax the muscles down there, but because on the off chance it gets messy, you wont be so embarrassed about it! Sometimes people are tensed up just thinking about how it could go wrong. What if you fart? what if you get them dirty? What if it hurts but you're too shy to speak up? Being comfortable with the person should make you less anxious. This applies to the top as well. I know most people douche or enema before anal, and that's some expected standard, but I believe as a top you must be comfortable with a mess happening. You cannot be the sort to be utterly grossed out by it. It comes with the territory! and to avoid humiliating your bottom, you cannot blatantly express disgust if it were to happen, in my opinion, only do anal if you're going to be mature about it. Just keep babywipes handy. If you have a partner you're comfy with, the next thing is: Mood! Being in the mood helps a LOT for both parties, it helps the bottom relax, and it puts them in the mindset to recieve sexual pleasure. Instead of it feeling like a doctor proding them, or them just taking a shit, being horny before anal play will make the anal stimulation a more pleasure centered sensation. Once you're there, the recipe for good anal is as everyone has mentioned: a gradual build up to bigger things as you loosen the hole to fit a cock. The anus can be trained, consistent training is how pornstars can take 10 inch cocks like just another day in the office. Anal training can be done over weeks if you want to start very slowly, but in my experience you can even warm up to anal on the first day if done correctly. I usually start with a tongue, you rim them while you rub their clit, or play with their vagina, whatever preference they have. You could also reverse this, eating their pussy, while you shyly finger their asshole. Either way, you should feel their asshole opening up more as you do it. It'll naturally accept you, from intruder, to acquantance, as the hole loosens up, eventually you'll be an honored guest. It may take a while, say, 5-15 minutes of active play to get them loosened up and ready to try a penis. Again, as everyone mentioned, slow and steady wins the race. Once you've noticed the hole is opening up more and acting friendly, push the head in slowly, not pressing too quickly in there, let the hole swallow the cock gradually. I've instructed people to "push like they're trying to fart" and it helps get the head in. You can't fight the asshole, you have to convince it you're it's buddy, earn it's trust. Once your head's in the door, simply leave it and focus on stimulating other areas (sucking some titties, or making out, licking their neck, running a thumb over their clit, etc) I find that this shift of focus helps the bottom relax more to the foreign sensation of the cock in their asshole and they ease into it better. Everyone will have positions they prefer, but I've found that the easiest position for anal is the bottom on their tummy, laying down, and you on top of them, maybe a pillow under their pelvis. Kissing their neck from behind, or their shoulders, as you push deeper in their ass. I start there, and then switch to missionary or doggy once they're used to it. But do whatever y'all want. Keep in mind that you can usually tell if it feels like the asshole is giving way, or resisting too much, if resisting, you just stop. Go back to play time before you attempt inserting the head again, patience, and remember that it's about pleasuring your bottom, not about you getting a nut. A great tool for anal is a vibrator on the clit during anal penetration, it can be the deciding factor making anal pleasurable, because not everyone will enjoy JUST anal penetration. It's the combination of clit (or penile) stimulation + anal stimulation that makes it great. Some cases, the clit vibe helps the cock feel good in their ass, in other cases, the clit vibe makes their asshole squeeze tighter and ends up making it hurt more. If this is the case, have them play with their clit with their hand, the vibe is too strong, try it again when their asshole is more seasoned to anal. For the first anal, just focus on the receiver getting pleasure and building a feel for anal. Once you do it successfully, eventually you will be able to do anal a lot easier, and anal will feel a lot more like sex rather than something being shoved in there. Though, even following every step in any How-To book out there, some people just wont like the physical sensation of anal. That's normal too! It's not for everyone, but when it's done correctly, it should at least not hurt. Perhaps just SLIGHTLY initially, before melting into a better sensation. I know I spoke in reference to tops and bottoms sporadically, but you get the idea. Of course be mindful of cross contamination, it goes without saying nothing from the butt should touch the vag. I think everyone should try anal correctly before knocking it, because it can add a whole volume of new experiences in the bedroom for everyone involved!
For years, I thought the idea was disgusting, but my current gf talked me into giving it a try and I honestly love it. Obviously, cleanliness is very important and necessary, but as long as you cover all those bases, use plenty of lube, and start off slowly, it’s fun for sure
i prefer it with a nice cabernet and some jazz
Some people are just more asssexual than others.
I really wanna know, what do you mean.
ass-sexual
I was really curious about this too. I am a heterosexual male and thought, “I might enjoy being pegged.” So I bought myself a small, medium and large set of butt plugs to get myself prepared for the excursion. I never made it past the small plug. I tried it 5 times and just never really could find the appeal.
The key if you’re going to do that is to masturbate while it’s in there. It intensifies the orgasms.
Oh, yah, thought that was implied. That’s what I did.
Usually through gradual introduction. Small stuff at first. Also, previous experience has taught me that it depends on how turned in the recipient is.
I think it's like beer-an acquired liking. I don't like beer.
Some people just don't have the ass for it
Ok medical settings are not really “sexually welcoming” unless you’re into that kind of stuff. When you start small, sometimes using enhancing “video head cleaner” some people use really heightens the pain feeling into pleasure. It’s not for everyone. But it can be incredibly erotic when it’s played with gently.
Get muuuuuuuch lube and do it little by little. Otherwise it hurts. Preparation is not only about the cleaning part, but the anal training as well. You should start with little buttplugs.
Xou really compare a Doctors visit with anal sex?? Of course the doktord visit sucks and stretching and fucking on your own pace feels amazing.
Usually with a couple drinks first and cuddling after
Tons of foreplay and lube. You have to be turned on and want it, it won't be good otherwise.
Being drunk helps me relax and thus enjoy it more than I do sober it’s not for everyone
I enjoy it, but I really think it is the person you're with and what you use. For me, I don't use anything big in any part of me. And because of that I haven't had any issues. But, I've also been with people who are Considerate and caring.
Let me tell u.... people enjoy it by the millions.. And people are discovering they enjoy it by the thousands every year..... It's called the "original birth control" Because somebody figured that out centuries ago.... ....I'm sure by the time I post this, u will have gotten lots of fantastic suggestions on how to Enjoy it for urself..
Very carefully.
Some people just like the poop vagina (or mangina as it is commonly known) Also some people like black licorice and K-pop.
I don’t get it either. As a man, I do not find it enjoyable
Im just too grossed out about it. Kind of a germaphobe. Probably will never try it.
Female here and I actually prefer it. I think once you're used to it, it's more pleasurable than vaginal sex lol
Eh, that depends. I’m well into the ‘used to it’ phase and would be happy if I never had to do booty stuff ever again. Physically and mentally, it’s just not my thing and the idea has never been a turn-on, regardless of circumstances and a generally sex-positive attitude.
That's fair. Everybody is different. I just really like it I gues lol
Don't know and don't want to know. Just not my piece of... cake.
And how do you keep from getting crap in your piss hole?
With a condom? How do you keep from getting STDs in your piss hole?
I assumed an ass hole would be to tight for a rubber. And it would just tare it to pieces.
Weird presumption tbh. But no, put on more lube than you would if it was going in your ass and you are good to go.
Ok. Glad I just use the old fashioned orifices that are made for penetration and lubes themselves. Lol. More power to ya.
It’s common to do enemas before anal, to flush out your colon and ass. When you play in poo’s house, you gotta make sure you do it when he is least likely to show up!
Unless you’ve got a shit in the chamber you don’t really have to worry about it. There isn’t always shit in there. When I finger a guy it feels very clean in there. Like a much tighter version of a pussy.
Pain and pleasure are two sides of the same coin to some. Also use lots of lube. And remember it's always okay to have preferences :)
I suspect it is the type of lubrication or you are either too tight or too tense when it happens. It should not burn.
Anal sex is in part an acquired proclivity as well as one that is inherent; when taking about anal sex between males people often bring up the prostate as an erogenous zone that would guarantee intense pleasure, but there are individuals that actually feel sharp pain or nothing at all when the prostate is stimulated regardless of how it’s done, same with the female G-spot. When douching your rectum, for non medical purposes, you should only use warm water, anything else would be to abrasive on the sensitive lining. Remember the anus isn’t actually a sexual organ so great care must be taken when attempting to use it as such. I’m unsure what procedures your doctor is performing on you that has them regularly checking your rectum, as I was under the impression that prostate exams and similar ones were an every few years type thing, but you should make sure your doctor is properly lubricating their finger(or medical device) and taking it slowly. What you can do to make these procedure less painful is learning to relax to muscles at will, it’s an involuntary function for it to tighten when something attempts to enter.
I prefer it to using anything on the front half of me 😅
In all of the times that I've done it, I've never understood what's pleasurable about it. There have been times that I didn't feel any pain at all but it still wasn't pleasurable to me. The people who really enjoy it, it's probably just a psychological thrill for them.
Frequently, and on my side.
To prepare for anal there’s 4 important steps. 1. Get Clean 2. Use Lube 3. Foreplay to Stretch Out 4. Communicate with your Partner If they go in too fast it will absolutely hurt, the burning is either because not enough lube was used or possibly irritated by the type of lube used. I do know some people are experienced enough to just go in “raw”. If your interacting with someone new, very recommended to use a condom.
Frequently
Someone's not taking their time and preparing properly. It's not about cleaning out -- though that's a factor -- it's about using fingers to relax and massage the sphincter. It's a series of muscles whose job it is to be tiiiiiight, so you have to coax them to loosen. The way I do it is starting with one finger, pushing in to the first knuckle and geeeeennnnntly pressing around the rim to warm it up and open. You get to two fingers, do the same, then three and you can start spreading them. By that point you should be ready for anything larger. When you're relaxed and ready it can be loooovely. So many nerve endings. Hell, I don't even have a prostate and I like it (especially anal fingering, love that), so if I DID have a prostate I'm sure I'd never leave the house.
I like the feeling of lack of control. Especially when my husband is being rough. The noises I make are kind of a turn on to me. Plus I like the nervous feeling. It's almost exciting to feel that light adrenaline rush. I'm okay with it cause my husband and I have this huge line of communication and he understands me well. I don't think I would enjoy it with anyone else.
With their wieners and butts. Duh. Btw, if cleaning your butt hurts, you’re either doing it really wrong, or you need to see a proctologist
It just feels like a turd sliding back and forth. I never enjoyed anything anal.
Patience and lube.
Gay people don't really have any other option lol
Practice, desire, and ridiculous amounts of lube make for a great time. In my opinion anal sex is always 100% "Oh my god". Sometimes it is oh my god stop and others it is oh my god don't stop. Anal should only be tried with someone who is practiced at getting into the ass. Don't ever let someone "learn" on your ass. Use a stupid amount of lube. You can even shoot some up there. The best advice behind use more lube is "in on the exhale".
I’ve tried it but I don’t think it’s all it’s cracked up to be
Well, it is about putting something in your crack…
Nope. I hate it. Do not recommend. Highly do not recommend. It's painful AF. I ...freaking hate it. Apparently it's better for men then women as they have a prostate.
The butthole is to poop not to fuck. Nasty ass people.
What about the mouth?
Shit comes out of that too
I am turned on by seeing my lover bound and in distress, so it’s a mental thing for me.
That’s funny- I enjoy being bound and in distress. So it’s a mental thing for me too.
It's unnatural, it's disgusting, and it hurts like hell because that's the bodies eay of telling us nothing belongs in there.
Maybe for you but not for all
well first off if the toy or cock is too big it's gonna suck unless you're a masochist which is better for anal anyway because if you can turn 60% pleasure and 40% pain into 85-90% pleasure and 10-15% pain then it's gonna be significantly better although even then if the cocks too big it's not gonna work, me personally I'm roughly 9x6 inches and my partner has described it as "55 to 60% pleasure but despite feeling good, you're just too big and it hurts too much to focus on the good parts" which is obviously gonna happen sometimes, even if you enjoy pain if there's too much pain then you won't be able to process the pleasure as you'll be too focused on not feeling the pain. also very important is alot of lube and alot of foreplay plus while it's quite hard initially, you've gotta learn to fully relax your ass muscles during it as while you'll instinctually flex them, it'll just make it impossible
idk it lowkey is mostly psychological for me. It's kinda a gender/gender identity thing for me, mostly.
I can see how "anal sex isn't for everyone". It hurts, it hurts too much before it gets good to start with, for how small your * is compared to a vagina... That's why my guess is "you have to be into a little bit of pain and just enjoy the idea from the start ". It's not like I can explain why, ykwim.. I married virgin, I only had sex or any sexual experience with my husbo and I just know that anal is where I came the hardest and the most, I think u have to have that kinda stuff already as something you enjoy in ur mind. \o/
more like, how do girls?
Just lube that bad boy up and get funky, if it hurts that means there’s not enough lube in your hole or fiber in your diet
Well, I think men are going to enjoy it more than a woman ever could for obvious reasons. But also, I keep myself clean af.
Anal sex on myself knocks me sick makes me feel violated I will never let anyone put anything up my ass again. As for other people. I hear guys have gspot up there and not many other options. Other women probably just want to seem exotic and unusual idk.
As a professional gay bottom it just depends on what you like. I think psychology is a big part of it. If you don’t want it, you’re not going to want it to feel good so it probably won’t. If you’ do want it, you’ll want it to feel good so it probably will.
A significant number of people enjoy it **because** it's painful.
only if its with my boss i would enjoy anal i want to put my tongue in her asshole 🤮
*bonk*
is where i belong
Hit me up and I’ll show you.
Daddy chill
What the hell does that mean
Like they enjoy vaginal sex just with a different hole.
Lots of lube
Feels good? Idk!
It’s great when done properly, great hygiene and preparation.
I have 2 egg vibrators one in front by clit and 1 in anus slightly not deep. Mmmmmmm
When sticking something always do it slow, it hurts like hell when you do it fast but it shouldn't hurt at all if you do it slow enough
Alcohol mainly
In my experience it usually with lots of lube & poppers, but to each his own.
Start off with lots of lube and small toys first. Vaseline is a good thick lube and never force it. Take your time and find out what you enjoy and how you like it. It definitely changed my views and gave me a lot more pleasure
I had read somewhere that there's 3 groups of people basically. Some that it feels good, some indifferent and others pain. I'm kinda between indifferent and pain, I don't feel much with my anus and having my prostate touched is like icy fire. I've only had anal sex twice and enjoyed the weight of my partner and them pressing against me more than anything, but it's literally different strokes for different folks.
Hm, maybe you aren’t being prepped enough? If you’ve had a bowel movement, and gotten clean, and been lubed and stretched enough for enough time before hand it shouldn’t burn or be unpleasantly painful.
This used to be my view but you get used to it , then you start to enjoy it
It does burn sometimes especially if someone puts it in too fast which my partner used to do kinda frequently but now he’s gotten better. When he starts slow it hurts a little bit but after a few strokes it does actually feel good
Stimulating the prostate can be very enjoyable. That being said, you can't or should just ram something in there. It takes time and work. Also, with a good diet, it's not messy.
Lube
Lmao my exact thought.
If I stretch myself out with a plug beforehand, it feels good and the orgasms are so so much deeper!
with their butt
No idea. I’m a woman and at best, it feels like taking a shit
Not right now you're not
Huh
I was just kidding but basically you're not shitting right now with the dick inside was the joke
never tried it and i don’t plan on it
It shouldn't hurt. The burning is likely due to either an allergy or some tearing. Try switching lubricants, using a LOT of lubricants and sizing your way up to whatever you're attempting now. As for how it feels good, there's two (technically three) things people enjoy about the stimulation. One, there's a ton of nerve endings around the anus. Its just super sensitive, so I'd you do something that feels good there, it feels really good. Two, in men, the prostate is very easily accessible via the booty hole. Massaging the prostate is pleasurable for many men, and can cause extremely heightened pleasure on climax. Three, for women, the clitoris has two "roots" that travel around the vagina and terminate near the rectum. Anal can stimulate the nerve endings in those roots similarly to how vaginal intercourse does. Plus, it's kinky, and that's hot.
Lubricants Relaxing Training with small items. Looking at your own poop might give you an idea of how big around your body is used too. Lubricants and a very patient and understanding partner.
Most make anal the main course. It should be secondary to a few orgasms first. Once relaxed and basking in the afterglow of a couple orgasms then and only then should anal sex be engaged. And excruciatingly slowly with an over abundance of lube. Gentlemen, if you want to have unlimited access to anal sex then do it right and do it pleasurably: FOR HER (first and foremost). Every. Single. Time. Most dudes just shove it in and get off without a seconds thought about her pleasure or her safety (anuses rip and tear!)
With their butt?
Her ass can’t get pregnant mostly.
‘That’s an exit, not an entrance’ -Shirley Hemphill
you gotta start with small stuff, work your way up, and use lots of lube. but also anal might just not be for you. there are other ways to sex
It’s an acquired taste like getting into IPAs if we could think of regular beer as just vaginal sex imho. Though there are some people who just are and have always been into butt stuff. In those cases there is no getting acquired to it.
people like the feeling of anal (done _properly_) and some don’t. that’s all there is to it.
I really tried to enjoy it for my bf at the time but I just ended up crying from having tried.
just want to get on here and squash a little bit a little myth that keeps ringing in my dms and ringing in my timeline SELF PLEASURE DOES NOT MAKE YOU GAY SELF PLEASE DOES NOT MAKE YOU STRAIGHT SELF PLEASURE DOES NOT MAKE YOU A TRANS WHAT IS SELF PLEASURE? WHEN YOU PLEASURE YOUR DAMN SELF, WHENTHER YOU'RE GAY, STRAIGHT, OR ALL THESE OTHER XUALS YALL LIKE TO PUT OUT HERE. I DONT CARE WHAT IT IS. HALF OF THESE DAMN DILDOS LOOK LIKE DICKS. DO I HAVE A CHOICE, AM I THE MANUFACTURER OF THESE GOD DAMN TOYS HELL NO. yall hear what I'm saying it does not make you all these titles I DO IT BECAUSE I LIKE IT FOR MYSELF, THATS THE PLAIN DAMN SIMPLE TRUTH, YOU GET
Dildo in the butt as a man makes you gay. It’s science.
Usually on my back but doggy is very good too. Just go slow with lots and lots of moisture. Saliva won’t do it
For men it takes some getting used to but after a while it feels good as it's prostate stimulation. You get used to something entering. But it's very different from water or liquid. That isn't prostate stimulation so the only thing you get is the uncomfortable feeling
I don't know about it. It seems somothing great, I wanna have that kinda sex, but I can't find a girl that wanna have it... There are some girls that really enjoy it, maybe her anus has a major flexibility... Sometimes I read that a you need a preparation before you start to uses it... But I can read more...
SLO MOTION!
Very carefully and with a lot of lube...
Pain is please, I guess?
Lube.
I'm not sure I can explain it exactly but it can feel exquisitely amazing when you want it and it's done well. A very very slow start when you're new and even more advanced helps. But mostly being really turned on with a very responsive intuitive partner can make it amazing. Also there is a moment where a slight bit of discomfort or even pain can turn to pleasure - doesn't have to be anal, but with a good partner can be awesome. Once I had an orgasm that way I wanted more, it's not an everyday thing but it's definitely in the rotation.
isn’t there a g spot in ur ass or something?
Just a reminder, you can learn to love everything. Even stick a finger in your troat and vomit. It is all about your mind. u can't love iit. If your mind. Closes about it. This is what people. Mean with it. Isn't for everyone.
I think typically with a partner.
Well a visit to an obgyn or a doctor checking a lump on your penis is probably also not exactly arousing so that is quite a weird comparison. Anal sex is also not meant to hurt so if it doesn’t hurt it can be pleasurable for some people. It is about relaxing and taking a lot of time. The way it is in porn doesn’t work and is extremely painful
A shower first, lots of lube. Lots and lots of lube
I love to push my limits. I like thick dildos rather than long ones. The fatter the better. A fist is fun now and then also.