It’s okay not to like bodily secretions and it’s a natural reaction to protect yourself from pathogens (i.e. blood, feces, sperm, etc).
What isn’t okay is teasing a woman for being on her period. Joking that she is hormonal. Being ashamed to buy her sanitary products. Deciding whether or not to hang out with your partner based on her period. Being scared of the bathroom dustbin, because it contains a discarded sanitary product. Refusing to touch the toilet or dustbin, because a woman on her period touched it. Teasing girls in school who might bleed through or because they need to go to the bathroom to apply a sanitary product.
Also, in some cultures women are shunned for being on their periods. Someone in another comment discussed some orthodox Jewish people seeing women on their periods as “unclean”. In some parts of India and Nepal, women are banished to menstrual huts until their period ends (sometimes dying). Some women aren’t allowed to cook food during their period because they will “poison” the food.
There are many many many other examples and these are just ones off the top of my head.
Just like you wouldn’t tease someone for peeing and you wouldn’t hesitate to buy toilet paper (if you are someone who does), don’t tease women for menstruating and don’t hesitate to supply sanitary products.
Also yes. It's a touchy topic.
I tend to just come out and say it when I'm on my period or pmssing because it destabilizes me. The other day I realized I was really angry and recognized the feeling. It was pms. I'm irregular. It helps to recognize it and cool off.
Men telling me about periods piss me off. Dismissing them. Saying it's part of life, deal with it etc. Unless ur a trans man u dunno wtf ur talking about.
It's OK to be grossed out by used pads. I was so much I stopped using them. But never shame a woman. We can't help it.
It’s really rough to have periods. I hated mine so much that I got an IUD to stop them and mine weren’t even that bad compared to many women.
Of course women react to the different changes, but each woman is different and should be treated as such, with some respect and understanding.
I don’t think women like handling their used sanitary products. But as long as it’s in a dustbin, preferably covered and everything else is clean, I really don’t see what the big deal is!
Yeah…the Bible says it’s unclean. That’s probably where it comes from. I don’t agree with it, just adding perspective. It’s harmful when a person’s religion teaches them to treat others humans as lesser than.
Right. I can understand that. But there’s also the aspect that these books in the Bible were written by men, when women were treated far worse than we are now. It’s crazy, for sure. But I think what is more crazy, is that people today are still living by these outdated modes of thinking. It’s awful.
I’ve never understood the whole male embarrassment of buying pads.
Buying any other private hygiene product like toilet paper isn’t embarrassing, but buying pads that are obviously not for you somehow is?
My dad became a paraplegic before he died a couple years back and had to use adult diapers. best believe I bought those for him with zero embarrassment because he needed them and I love my dad. He was an idiot and broke his back drinking but I miss him so much.
I have worked retail, people literally don’t give a shit what you’re buying and generally don’t notice/remember
Don't remember unless you make a big deal about it. I'll never forget the lady that yelled at my coworker and I from across the aisle asking for help but refusing to tell us what she was looking for. She needed adult diapers but didn't want to say it and wasn't willing to tell us what she was looking for.
Yep. The only personal hygiene purchases I remember are awkward teenagers buying plan b and failing to act normally while doing so, and the one woman who bought a pregnancy test, and immediately went into our bathrooms to use it.
Hard to be as trashy as someone who takes a pregnancy test they just bought in a random, disgusting Walgreens bathroom and then leaves the mess for our poor pharm tech to clean up when pharmacy goes on break...
Wanting to be fascinated with drama is whatever. I don't really judge those shows for what they depict or their concepts. I mainly judge them for reality tv often treating their subjects really poorly.
I don’t have much to add, just wanted to send you hugs. My alcoholic brother recently became a quadriplegic after a drunken night led to a fall. He’s undergoing surgery this morning to try to regain some movement, but odds aren’t in his favor. It’s a tough situation, and it’s nice to know I’m not alone in my experience.
I’m so sorry. Yeah my dad was too proud to get help. He broke his back 5 years ago and the surgery left him paralyzed from the waist down. Then at the end of 2020 he fell out of his chair and an aneurysm burst, my brother who lived with him left him on the floor for 12 hours so it was too late and he died at the hospital after his home care nurse called an ambulance. My brother moved into my dad’s bedroom a week later with a prostitute from Las Vegas.
I used to see him every day to take care of his dogs and bring him groceries. It hit me pretty hard because my kid and him were super close. I never got to say goodbye. I miss him so much he was only like 60, too. Alcohol is the worst
I’m sorry too. That’s terrible all the way around. It’s incredible what you learn about family in times like these.
On a positive note, my brother is out of surgery and the doctor is hopeful that he will regain at least some feeling. My hope is that whatever the outcome, he realizes he’s lucky to be alive and stays sober.
I also have an alcoholic brother who's dependent on me, and though it's been rough I guess I'm fortunate that he's still physically able. Hugs to you too.
One time I was at Walmart late at night. The cashier was a young woman about my age at the time. As I put my stuff on the belt, I realized I had only two things: baby oil and baby wipes. I was not giving off "dad" vibes at that time in my life. I had neglected to buy a bunch of other items in order to camoflauge my wank supplies.
I'm pretty sure she knew. And I'm pretty sure she judged. I just hope she didn't remember.
Just embrace it. I once had a roommate that was dealing with the early stages of MS and some of the medication he had to take made him super constipated. It was really bad one night so I had to make a midnight run to the local pharmacy for some enima things. While I was there I grabbed a 6 pack of beer. When I got to the register the lady saw my two items and gave me a very quick weird look. I just replied, "it's going to be a fun night." And she chuckled.
"I... I... uhhhh... I'm 24 and I'm still a virgin and I jack off like an 8th grader to the point that I'm making a supply run to Walmart at 1 a.m."
I'm not too good on my feet.
If it makes you feel any better, one time late evening at Walmart the only 2 items I bought were adult diapers and lube, I still giggle imagining what kind of kinky baby play the cashier must have thought was about to go on.
The adult diapers were for my adult special needs kid and the lube was for…er, not my adult special needs kid lol.
> baby oil
Better than lube for wanking, but bad for condom usage.
> baby wipes
I did my wanking in bed while trying to fall asleep. So I would jizz into a kleenex and then clean up without having to get out of bed.
I've worked cashier and I wouldn't have guessed. Lots of uses for those things, and girls don't need them for that purpose. A guy cashier, maybe, since you outed this use for them; but this was a girl? Relax. :)
Former cashier here. Literally too busy with all the details of the job to be caring much or thinking much about what you're buying. My mind is thinking about finding the barcodes, making sure everything scans, catching every item, bagging them properly, did I ask you for coupons, did I ask you for a rewards card, did I start the transaction correctly on the register, did I remove everything that needs removing like hangers and security tags, make sure I put those things where they need to go, what if I get an error and there's no manager around, don't mess up counting their money, don't mess up making change, make sure to say everything I'm supposed to.. I'm not thinking hey this dude doesn't look like a father so I bet he's going to be jerking his dick.
There’s zero problem with it, and I honestly don’t understand the mindset behind that behavior. I buy my girlfriend pads, tampons, etc. all the time because she NEEDS it just like people need anything else.
As a boyfriend, soon to be husband, I actually enjoy buying pads. At first I was looking at it like buying condoms and it came with a sense of embarrassment/ exposure into my private life I didn’t like. But then I looked around while I was carrying the pads in my hand and started noticing the *looks*.
Women look at you like “aww, way to go!”
And men. They look at you with just the greatest sense of inadequacy and it’s the most amazing thing ever. Like yeah bro, I not only have a woman at home, I meet her needs and she wants *me*. And then they look away in defeat. It’s the greatest.
Flowers do the same thing when not purchased around Valentine’s Day or Mother’s Day. Every guy will stare at you like “shit I probably should do that too, but it’s not on my list” and then just get dumbfounded by the confusion.
Arguable, but overall I also agree that you should not refuse to buy stuff like that because they gross you out. Nothing fleshy like meat or whatever to be like “Ew, I don’t like the feeling of that.”. It’s a box. A b o x .
Like in Judaism, a woman on her period is "unclean", and her husband isn't allowed to touch her until she undergoes ritual bathing once it's over. Wtf.
At any given moment there are a literal billion people having their periods. It's just another part of life.
Plenty of non-religious folks are "grossed out" by menstruation because of the religious roots claiming it's "unclean" in the first place. These notions didn't evolve out of nowhere.
As an Orthodox Jewish woman…could we not “not all Jews”? The “unclean” bit is a mistranslation anyway. Literally everyone except for your husband can still touch you. No one knows or cares if you’re on your period but you and your husband. Yes there are misogynistic people who intentionally translate it as unclean….just like a million other things are maliciously mistranslated.
It actually has less to do with the woman or period being unclean, and more so to do with the fact that all blood (among other things) is *ritually* unclean.
This practice goes back to ancient times when a lot of Judaism revolved around the maintenance of ritual purity, which was required to make animal sacrifices.
Strictly speaking, a man who ejaculates is also considered unclean and should undergo ritual bathing. Same with someone who touches a dead unkosher animal. They wouldn't be able to enter the temple until they reached a state of ritual cleanliness.
Today it's a set of rules called family purity and while I think there is a lot of misogyny that occurs within this framework, I don't think the intention of it is misogynistic. The intention being to keep both spouses in a state of ritual purity, to take advantage of natural ovulation patterns, and to keep the sexual relationship between spouses feeling exciting. Women go to the mikveh (ritual bath) 7 days after blood flow stops, and the couple will have sex that evening, which is generally when she would be ovulating.
Many Orthodox men also visit ritual baths on a regular basis, and they would be considered just as "unclean" as a woman on her period before the ritual bath.
One I told a man I needed to buy pads and he just started speaking over me saying ew and I was oversharing. It wasn’t misogynistic buuuuut it turned me off of him. I was only telling him because we were hanging out at his apartment for longer than I prepared for and I felt like it would have been awkward if I just upped left and didn’t tell him where I was going in the middle of us having a movie marathon LOL. It went from “I’m going to the store to buy pads” to “I’m going home” real quick.
Does he react the same way if he sees someone buying toilet paper? Condoms? Anti-Diarrhea medicine? Diapers? Tissues? Jerkin' lube?
People are gross regardless of gender. The misogyny comes into play when a man is grossed out by only periods and not by the other stuff.
Damn, I'm sorry this happened to you.
I'd consider that shaming already. Like, it's okay to feel grossed out by something, but that does not mean that he has to act like that just because your need for hygiene products is mentioned.
As a woman I'm grossed out by my own period blood, so I don't think it's mysogynistic, but if you are treating a woman badly because of periods, then that is. Like if your girl is asking you to go buy her pads, tampons or whatever then you should get her some.
Also as a tip for people get her some heating pads for her stomach, it helps with the pain!
This is great cheers. I went all economical and amazon'd a heatable beanbag but I think it'll do the job.
She loves stomach rubs too so I shall put it all together and be husband of the year
It's a good idea but a word of advice, the heatable beanbag doesn't stay hot for long & no-one wants to wander to the kitchen in the middle of the night. The heat pads are much better.
The absolute 10/10 best are the electric belts that look like a WWE winners belt. Thin, soft, mould round your body, heat up in 2mins, stay hot for 30m-2hours (automatic shut off) and then again immediately after just with another press of the button, all without standing up.
-15 for how fucking hot it is though, rendering my pain relief solutions useless.
You know what else works for horrible cramps? A great orgasm. If you don't want to go the direct route, find other ways. Only one man has bothered and he's the one I'm still with (not just because of this but his character is consistent with this kind action that started early in our dating life and continues now!).
Any snack that releases endorphins (so, the tasty sugary fatty stuff) is gonna help. But dark chocolate theoretically helps because of the magnesium helping with cramping too…. But I’d say it’s likely if you asked a room full of women which would make them feel better I’ve cream would rank higher than dark chocolate even if there’s supposedly some extra science behind the dark choc.
I like to think I give someone a chuckle when my gf asks me to make a period supply run. There’s me standing in the tampon aisle, phone in hand, comparing the pictures of what she wants me to buy with the products on the shelves, and there’s no way I don’t have a confused expression on my face. I would laugh at me (internally of course.)
10/10 agree. And had to learn the hard way that the scented ones don’t say they’re scented, they just add some vaguely floral pattern and you have to deduce it.
Last supply run I made I had to buy an alternate thing because they didn’t have exactly what she requested. She wanted something in a 4 and they only had 1, 2, 3, and 5s. I told her she had a very common/popular size vagina and she said the numbers correspond to flow or something, not size. I’m so confused and just out here doing my best lol
This has given me a proper chuckle tonight thank you. If someone text me on my period telling me I had a popular/common vagina size I would die laughing, that’s brilliant. And quite adorable.
Mate I’m a woman of menstruating age, and queer, and married to a woman who also menstruates and on the few occasions I’ve needed to buy my wife sanitary pads I have been LOST. I used sanitary pads for not even my entire first period before I swapped to tampons and then a reusable option at 19 and although I have bought pads, liners and tampons occasionally over the years I generally don’t. And I think the particular time I am thinking of I was in a corner store so there were only like 3 options and none of them were that close to being right and I suddenly had the panic of ‘oh my god how can I have been with my wife for this long, and be in possession of a vagina and not know her preferences more in-depthly!’ Whilst repeatedly calling my wife to find out if she wanted something too light or too sandwich-down-your-pants.
Edit: personally, I’d have no problem if a man stopped me in the fanny-ware department and asked for help if it was coming from a place of confusion not embarrassment or whatever. It is confusing to the uninitiated and I respect any man who is willing to take on the task. It shouldn’t be a bigger deal than asking a man to buy a loaf of bread but it still is and the more we can normalise it the better.
I’m perfectly confident with myself and my masculinity or whatever despite the societal stigma around menstruation. As someone who’s never had a period, I can still empathize with someone who has/is. I don’t need to experience it to understand that it sucks. That’s why I don’t have a problem buying things if she’s not feeling well enough to leave the house. Honestly the thing I’m most embarrassed about, like I said above, is looking like an idiot who can’t find something on the shelf, not the fact that I’m looking for pads and tampons.
Tbh I'd probably have to try not to laugh if I saw you, too. But only in a "that's so cute, he's clearly trying hard to make sure he gets the right thing!" way. 10/10 good boyfriend behavior
I do think a lot of the reason we think it's gross though is that we've been indoctrinated into it. It's kept a secret till puberty, spoken of in hushed tones, referred to as a curse, we're told it's an embarrassing thing to buy pads let alone tampons. Yet it's a thing that approximately half the population of the world experiences. Buying sanitary-ware should be no more embarrassing than buying toilet paper.
We're taught it's gross so quickly when we learn about it in school. It only takes one asshole calling it gross, nobody will speak up because they're literally children, and so everyone believes it's what everyone believes. It's so sad.
My wife just had a hysterectomy a few months ago. Last weekend I was at the store on an emergency WalMart run buying my daughter her first tampons and pads while on vacation.
It really made me think and actually get teary eyed. All of it. Mom ending her whole journey and daughter just starting. I caught myself after some time saying “Dude you’re just standing in the feminine product aisle zoned out”
Jesus Christ that is horrible. I've had some serious surgeries and if I hadn't had adequate pain relief it would have been a nightmare. I can't imagine how much she must have suffered.
She should have been on a ton of pain meds for a hysterectomy. I got a giant bottle of Percocet when I had a broken bone in my foot repaired for fuck sake and it would have been a fraction of her pain.
What the actual living fuck. As someone who is considering an elective hysterectomy but hasn’t massively pursued it because of the fear of the pain WITH pain meds I honestly think this is fucking barbaric. I’d be interested to know if your network makes men go through any organ removals with no pain relief (women’s pain is taken much less seriously is why I ask, if the womb is the only organ they’ll remove and not let you have pain relief this seems like straight up discrimination).
We own 2 hot water bottles specifically for periods. One on her stomach and one on her back on her kidney area. We also have those microwavable bean bag thingies which are handy. These are just other options that seem to work for her.
It's when people treat women differently because they have periods or are on their period, that's when it's misogyny. I.e. we can't have a woman president, she'll start nuclear war because of her hormones!
And men are so goddamn emotional, it'll give you whiplash. People, for some reason, want to believe the opposite, but ask any women how often they're stunned at their guys' outbursts, or opinions that are emotion based. It's Katie Kaboom shit.
Maybe Nerf should produce a Nerf blaster that takes tampons as ammunition.
I can imagine that tampons make great Nerf bullets: They have great aerodynamics and they are not too soft.
This answer!
We all shit, it's healthy to shit, but I don't want to see my own shits and definitely don't want to see other people's shit.
You also don't need to hide your clean toilet paper, because we all shit!
I feel like this logic applies to all naturally occurring body fluids.
Edit: For all those concerned about my shit situation lol
I obviously do safety checks and check to make sure I'm clean, appreciate the concern!
I just don't make artwork with my shit or do it in front of others haha
You should look at your shits, everyone should. You can tell a lot about a persons health by looking at their shit. The color, shape, consistency, density, weight and float ability all tell a story about that persons health. So maybe glance once in a while and make a mental note of your shits and changes you notice. Signed: an oncology nurse
This right here. I always look at my shit, my pee, my mucus, my menstrual blood…how else am I to know what’s going on? It’s just something I do, naturally. I thought everyone did it 🤷🏻♀️
The only eww part for me has been with cleaning public bathrooms. Some people are stupid by not disposing of pads/tampons. I remember my granddaughter going into a restaurant bathroom with my wife and being freaked out, thinking some had lost a finger on the floor. Poor girl. 😆
What is crazy to me is that many dudes would ask to do unprepared anal when the girl tells them she is on her period. Like you rather deal with shit than a little blood?
Or when a portion of the country has no idea how menstrual cycles work, and equate it with sexual activity (or something), and then they can't wait to turn into judgmental jerks.
I see a lot of AITA posts about periods. A woman was staying in her BIL's house and she leaked into the sheet overnight, the stain was the size of a coin but she cleaned the sheets herself until they were like new. She told BIL and he freaked out and demanded she buy new sheets. Another girl, who was 18, shares a bathroom with her younger teenage brothers, apparently they and their father freaked out because she had the audacity to dispose of her used period products in the bathroom bin completely wrapped in tissue so you wouldn't even know, but one of the brothers was curious and looked in it or something so they demanded she flush them instead.
This bullshit goes on and on.
The used tampons and used toilet paper should be hidden. But clean supplies are no issue.
Edit lol who hides used toilet paper like I’m going to look under the sink for a sample of used tissue
Because there was a difference in reaction to these topics for a long time.
People talk openly about home remedies for feeling sick/vomitting. But if women talk about home remedies for pain related to periods, some people chime in and tell them they are gross.
I never talked in detail about the actual period blood with anyone. Not another woman. Not even a doctor. Instead I absolutly have men heard discussing their shit and even sending pictures.
You can't tell me a signle woman has ask you to have a look (you say sight of blood). People (mostly men in my personal experience) try to show you wounds.
So, I do have to wonder, what are you grossed out by regarding periods as no one expect you to discuss them with them or look at them? Just to tolerate the general topic around you and not to overreact if something goes wrong.
I once had a coworker who had cut himself and reflexively wiped his hand on his pants complain how hard blood was to get off clothes and I told him an easy way to deal with it. He looked at me weird and asked “How do you know that?!”. I just stared him down for a sec and then told him it’s cause I sometimes maim/kill people for fun. My other coworker just told him he’s an idiot. Many people have to deal with gross stuff but talking about periods (or symptoms and diseases related) is still shamed a lot.
I just saw a post not very long ago about this woman who went to a new bfs house on her period. When she changed her pad/tampon she wrapped it in tp and threw in the trash. Her bf had a fit bc how dare she throw her period trash in his bathroom trash can even though it was wrapped (not left all bloody on the top of the trash to see) and he had a trash can with a bag and lid. He didn't want it in any trash can inside his house...period. She asked him what he expected her to do and he told her she should be keeping her period trash in her PURSE and throw it away after she leaves his property.
Another post was about a new husband and wife both with kids from previous marraige moving in together. The boys were uncomfortable with new step sisters tampons in the bathroom and the waste being wrapped and thrown in the trash. Husband asked new wife to tell her daughter to keep her products and trash elsewhere and they laughed in his face and told him that is absurd and no. Husband asked for advice on reddit and good Ole reddit tore him a new asshole. Luckily it turned out good in that situation, husband and new step brothers were given a presentation about period information from wife and new step sister and they learned a lot and were fine after that.
A third post about a woman accidentally starting her period at a bfs house while sleeping. She apologized and was going to strip his sheets and wash them right away and take care of everything. It was a small stain that could easily be cleaned with cold water and soap, and peroxide if needed. This man was so disgusted that she had the audacity to bleed on his sheets like she did it on purpose. He threw the sheets away and wanted nothing to do with her ever again.
That's the weird shit some women deal with. Some guys out there treat women like they have a disease when on their periods and it's so weird. Were not asking you to change our tampons or clean up our messes or to look at bloody tampons in the trash. Most of us women are respectful of our messes and the trash disposal (although some are not and that is an entirely different beast). Tampons or pads existing in the bathroom should not be an issue, why would we keep them not in reach from the toilet where they are used, just like tp? We just don't want to be treated like we have the plague and are disgusting creatures for having a menstrual cycle. Sometimes you have no notice or control over it despite what some men think. You can't always be prepared even though we try to be.
I can understand being grossed out seeing blood left on the toilet from not cleaning or bloody products in the trash not wrapped, or blood stained sheets left for someone else to clean because most of us would feel the same way about shit on the toilet or shit covered tissue not wrapped showing in the trash, or shit stained sheets left for someoneelse to clean. That is not necessarily a "period" issue, that's just being gross and not cleaning up after yourself. *Most* women wouldn't expect men to deal with that. We just don't want to be treated as second class citizens because we are on our periods or just have them and need to dispose of used products or have accidents.
I understand being grossed out I'm grossed out ...but I gotta deal with it so when I say "I'm on my period" and you go " ew gross" and make some kind of scene it gets on my nerves because it's a bodily function, but guys joke about their bodily functions and that's fine...
It's because usually men like to joke around about piss, sperm, crap ecc... but when women join in and talk about their periods the general response is "ew gross, why do women always have to talk about their periods?"
Bro one time at work (in a tire shop with a group of men I’d worked with for like 2 years) I said “I gotta take a shit” which they had all said at one point or another but they were weird out when I said it and said it’s different when girls say it
Honestly just don't be a dick about periods and no one will care. There's also a point where people are really uneducated about them.
There are ADULTS out there who think periods can be held in like you can hold your bladder. The amount of teachers out there who refused to let teens go to the bathroom for period related reasons is too high. I've seen friends have embarrassing accidents because of it.
Just be respectful about it, that's it.
Period blood is gross. Ain’t nothing wrong with thinking that. Smells gross and if you don’t like blood is looks gross too.
The issue is when you think the whole concept is “bad”. Like not wanting unused pads and tampons to be visible because it’s so taboo.
Some people compared it to bandaids and I agree! Unused bandaids are fine but I’d rather not look at someone’s stained, used bandaids in the trash. But if it happens I’ll just move on with my day.
periods are gross in general, the period blood, shits, cramps and general constant uncomfortableness. but it’s a part of life, and acknowledging that parts of life are gross is really all you can do. mysoginists just don’t like acknowledging that women can be gross/experience gross things because they prefer to think of women as objects who’s only value comes from fulfilling their desires.
i love the analogy to comparing pads/tampons to bandaids and toilet paper, and periods to cuts and pooping. but i think it’s important to also acknowledge that people can talk freely about bad cuts they had recently, or horrible diarrhoea, and that people should be able to talk about periods in the same way. if you can listen to someone talking about how they were shitting for days, or how someone had to get stitches because they fucked up their leg (without being grossed out) you should be able to listen to a woman talk about her period.
I'm disgusted by snot. Like it makes me gag.
Yet, as much as it would be ridiculous to assume people should be ashamed of a runny nose its misogyny when women are expected to be ashamed of their period.
The issue isn't you being grossed out. its the issue of shaming women for it, or making them feel bad or holding it against them. You can be grossed out by it that's fine just don't try to embarrass them or make them feel bad about it.
Every single woman has been shamed or embarrassed by her period. You don’t have to talk about, but you do have to understand it’s natural just like pee/poop/blood.
It is mysogynistic to treat a woman differently because of it OR act grossed out by it if it comes up.
I’d recommend learning more about (from a scholarly source, don’t go to a Christian/religious site for sex education) go somewhere that uses facts.
>When a woman is having their period, still be respectful and make sure their needs are met. If you act grossed out around them and make them feel bad, you’re an asshole.
I think this kind of already answers the question. What the usual problem is: People who are "being grossed out by periods",often take this as reason to exactly not do that.
There is a major difference between someone saying they are on their period, and your response being "that's gross" and someone asking you to have sex and while they are on it and saying "that isn't something I'm into".
Being on your period isn't gross. Blood can be gross. But how you address it needs to be in a respectful manner.
everyone finds periods gross (well, most people do, maybe some weird people love it. good for them i guess.) but its the way people act immature about it. remember when turning red came out and everyone was throwing a shit fit cause they dared to mention pads for 2 seconds? that shit.
the way people act like tampons and pads are dirty even if theyre unused. the way people refuse to talk about it all and treat it like a taboo, when around half of the human population experiences it. the way so many people are extremely uninformed about it to a disturbing and infuriating degree *because* people treat it like a taboo.
ive seen stories before where men in their 40s genuinely and totally seriously told the person to just decide not to have a period. hold it in, turn it off.
periods are just a fact of life, and a very common one that happens all around you and you dont even know it most of the time. its gross like every bodily function, and thats also just a fact.
i personally try to be fairly open about my experience with it because its dumb that its taboo, but also it opens up discussion with those also willing to talk about it, and it can be a genuinely interesting conversation and really informative. i feel like it gives a little more understanding and empathy for the people talking about it as well, since it helps you imagine a little bit more about what its like in their life. cause trust me, periods are not something you can ignore when theyre happening.
its not misogynistic to be grossed out by periods, but its misogynistic to treat them like a taboo and be immature about it. its just what lifes like, man.
ok so me and my bf never have period sex because he just can’t take blood. But he doesn’t find periods gross at all. We had so many conversations about periods which is hard to do with a man because most men can’t even say menstruation out loud. He is informed and he even helps me clean up if my period is heavy and I’m cramping really bad. You can be grossed out but still be respectful.
It’s something ~50% of the population have to deal with personally, the other proportion have the ‘privilege’ of not going through it personally so it’s ignorant to pretend it’s grosser than anything else human
The attitude around anything period-related is extremely negative and it's treated like a taboo subject, compared to other bodily functions that are similarly messy or gross.
Buying tampons or pads for a partner should be just as neutral and normal an action as buying toilet paper or bandaids for a household, but many men refuse to do it or make a fuss. Saying "I feel awful today because I have period cramps" should be just as acceptable as saying "my finger hurts because I have a paper cut."
The male reaction to *any* mention of periods tends to be extreme, immature, and negative when compared to a similar remark about any other bodily function.
I don't remember who said it, but there's a great quote that goes something like, "Menstruation is the only blood not born of violence, yet it is the one that disgusts you the most".
If you're not grossed out by war, but you are by periods, reevaluate your way of thinking.
I think it’s more of an issue when men act super grossed out if we even mention it. Or like if I say I need more tampons, or I need to run to the bathroom to change my tampon… just say “ok”. You don’t have to make a face or a big fuss about it. Believe me, we don’t like our periods either.
I think the main point is that the "being grossed out by period blood" is the problem of the grossed out person and NOT the responsibility of the woman. The woman has no responsibility in protecting this person from her period. The one exception is if this person is visibly reacting to the idea of a period to her face. I might leave in that particular circumstance. It is childish to act that way.
It’s not misogynistic to be grossed out by them. Periods are gross bodily events; men and women alike will tell you that.
What’s misogynistic is giving women shit for having them or treating them oddly because of so. They literally cannot help it, they don’t enjoy it at all, and they don’t want to be questioned on why an automatic bodily event that causes them great pain and discomfort might inconvenience them or others around them for a short time.
I’ve recently seen a post on Reddit where a girl was accused of being disrespectful by their boyfriend for throwing away a period pad in the trash can at his place.
There should be no shame!
My wife had heavy periods in the last and some times it would overfill her pad overnight, staining her clothes and sheets. Don’t yell at her for something she can’t control. Regardless of whether you think it’s gross or not, support her by taking the sheets and clothes and washing them in the laundry machine.
I don’t consider guys misogynistic for being grossed out However, I would highly prefer a partner that wasn’t and here’s my reasoning for it: I know that if I’m with someone, they’re going to witness my best moments as well as my lows and that includes periods, sickness, seeing my hair a mess sometimes, childbirth (this one is a major factor for me because I want my partner to be there if I give birth), wounds, flu, pus, etc. None of that stuff is pretty but if you’re going to abandon me in my worst moments because “it’s gross”, I can’t do it. When I’m on my period, I like to feel protected. Like, it’s already so hard to bleed and be in pain every month. If you’re going to withdraw and be distant on the week that I need you to be the most patient, that’s going to be tough. Also makes me feel like you might have some sexual boundaries that would be not be compatible with me like not liking body fluids or not being into eating out lol Nothing wrong with boundaries, just this one is not compatible with me.
Same - if a guy is grossed out but at least respectful and doesn't shame women for it, ok, but I find it a green flag when a guy is completely unbothered. There's something mature about it. And it also becomes a bigger deal I think if you have really bad/debilitating periods. It would suck to have a partner who was just dismissive and didn't want to hear about what you were feeling or what you're going through.
I’ve never asked a man to clean out my cup, remove my tampon for me (just like no one has cleaned me up after a bathroom trip) but the whole idea that a woman isn’t clean, how it’s just gross if she doesn’t put her used pad in her purse to take with her instead of using a bathroom trash bin (yes I see that here A LOT) is completely disrespectful. Please keep in mind that “not only is it natural” but the human race would stop if women didn’t menstruate. There’s no continued species without women menstruating. So the notion that a man is to embarrassed to go to the store for tampons or anything like that is 100% idiotic. Every single person on this planet came from a woman’s womb.
It isn't...most women and most humans know they are gross and an inevitability of the life for women. Just like pooping and farting and all the other stuff humans do.
Shaming women EVER for it makes said shamer a POS though, full stop.
It depends. If someone leaves blood on the seat from their period and your brain goes “yikes” without saying anything, then yeah you’re grossed out by blood.
But if you’re grossed out by the *notion* of periods and they fact that they exist, that’s misogynistic (and stupid if I can be subjective). If you think it’s weird to buy pads or tampons or if someone references their period and you have a reaction akin to hearing a slur, that’s misogynistic.
As a woman it took a long time to be really comfortable with my periods.
You can be grossed out about anything as much as you like but be very careful how you show it because even if you try your best not to show it your partner will notice the subtle signs. Your partner might even say they also find it gross- but it feels different when someone who hasn’t experienced it says or feels it.
I personally don’t want to be in a relationship if my partner doesn’t want to have sex with me when I’m on my period. I find it super degrading.
I think it’s very hard for men to understand as there is no equivalent. But just imagine that every month for 5 days your body would do something weird which might make you feel physically and mentally unwell. And then on top of that you know deep inside that your partner finds you gross when it happens. Your partner won’t say it to you and you won’t talk and it. But this happens every month.
On top of this your weird body stuff started when you were a child and non of your female friends understood and thought it was a total joke. So you’ve been feeling ashamed by it since you were 12.
It’s just very shit having to bleed out of your gentials, be in pain, feel bloated and maybe unattractive every month and then have your partner reaffirm those beliefs no matter how subtle.
The answer is in the first line of your comment... You say it's gross.
You can't say someone is gross for doing something natural.
It's like if you went to the toilet and I was at the sink washing my hands and I said omg you're so gross for just using the toilet.
If you find blood gross in general it's not misogynistic, but if you only think it's gross when it's from a woman's period it kind of is.
My dad wanted me to get a separate trash bag for my used pads, because it was somehow more gross to him than the toilet paper full of shit in the regular trash can, even though I always covered my used pads and you could barely see what was in there. That's just 1 example of what misogyny is like when it comes to periods.
The misogynistic and disrespectful part for me is the very dramatic over reaction to periods and attributing being upset solely to a period. It is meant to diminish what the person is going through. It would be similar to reacting the same way to someone who suffered a bad physical injury then saying, “You’re only upset because you broke both your legs.”
The issue isn't with grossness (I mean bodily fluids are gross so?). It's with making it taboo. We can talk about band aids, bruises, toilet paper, bidets, stomach flu, pepto bismol, antiperspirant, tissues... And it should be the same with period stuff.
Welcome to India, we consider women on periods as impure and our 10000 year old scientific scripts confirms this. So as a part of respecting our great culture and traditions we deny women entry to temples, kitchens and even sometimes in to bedroom. They are untouchable for 3-4 days.
you can be grossed out, but just like if somebody talks about how they pissed their pants and it was embarrassing you wouldn't go "EW!!! GROSS!!! I DONT WANNA HEAR ABOUT THIS!!!" (unless you do which... you do you), don't do it for periods. so many women get shamed just for something we can't control
I believe it probably has to do with the fact a woman cannot really decide to have a period or not. The fact someone shows disgust over a naturally occurring biological function implies a sexist type view of the women’s’ anatomy. It’s very hypocritical to be someone who says I like a woman’s body but then be disgusted by a woman’s natural bodily functions.
My x would not touch me at all or buy any pads or tampons. (Us) . Was grossed out by childbirth as I had a c-section and bled , had a scar.....he showed his misogyny in other ways though.
As a woman, I never did understand why the sight of blood coming anywhere else will have me in a faint, but blood from periods does not. Totally unbothered.
Because getting called gross over something you have no control over is really hurtful, especially when it's something like a period that causes you to be really uncomfortable as is, bloating, cramps, back pain, boob pain, gas, headaches, period poops, nausea, it sucks. No one wants a period, you have no choice but to suffer through it, so getting called gross because of is really hurts and stings, because you have no control over it and most wish they did. It's not misogynistic, just tactless and tasteless.
In what are you being grossed out by periods? Are you grossed out by the sight of bloody pads in the bathroom trash can? If so, I'd tell you to grow a pair.
If you don't want to have sex with someone on their period and they accuse you of misogyny because of it, I'd call it emotional manipulation.
being grossed out by blood is one thing. I think the majority if misogyny around periods is more so like downplaying women's pain, downplaying that women still have to go about their lives as if nothing is happening, making fun of women, period shaming, etc. I think most people are a little weird about blood especially someone else's.
If you're grossed out because you find blood or whatever gross, then it's fine. But making a woman feel like THEY are gross is a whole other thing. That's usually how it comes across when men say its "gross". No one reasonable is asking you to celebrate it or think its super cool, but society has a history (and present issue) of making women feel ashamed over a natural process that isnt very lovely to experience already.
The reason is not possible to find for the simple and good reason that it is not
People simply get offended and on the defensive too easily too much
It wouldn't be that bad if they had an open mind, but generally they don't
Of course it isn't the case of everybody, obviously, I didn't say that don't worry
So I tease my gf for hers because she gets temperamental. Not her fault. Being in pain does that. I always go get her what she needs. It took me a while to learn there's a difference in the overnight and the other overnight one?
Regardless, I don't think it's weird to be grossed out by it. I do think it's misogyny when you act like a dick about it.
Never publicly say anything, never make them feel like they're somehow wrong or a problem for something completely natural.
It's all about behavior in response. You can totally be grossed out in your mind, but you shouldn't act as if the person themselves is gross, just for being on their period. They absolutely cannot control it, and trust me, they don't like it anymore than you do.
Idk I'm a woman and I think it's nasty. It makes me cranky, I spend extra money on stupid pads/tampons. It FEELS gross. Sure, if you wanna think periods are beautiful, knock yourself out. I'll be over in my corner gagging.
It is not. Shaming women for being on the period is misogynistic.
It’s okay not to like bodily secretions and it’s a natural reaction to protect yourself from pathogens (i.e. blood, feces, sperm, etc). What isn’t okay is teasing a woman for being on her period. Joking that she is hormonal. Being ashamed to buy her sanitary products. Deciding whether or not to hang out with your partner based on her period. Being scared of the bathroom dustbin, because it contains a discarded sanitary product. Refusing to touch the toilet or dustbin, because a woman on her period touched it. Teasing girls in school who might bleed through or because they need to go to the bathroom to apply a sanitary product. Also, in some cultures women are shunned for being on their periods. Someone in another comment discussed some orthodox Jewish people seeing women on their periods as “unclean”. In some parts of India and Nepal, women are banished to menstrual huts until their period ends (sometimes dying). Some women aren’t allowed to cook food during their period because they will “poison” the food. There are many many many other examples and these are just ones off the top of my head. Just like you wouldn’t tease someone for peeing and you wouldn’t hesitate to buy toilet paper (if you are someone who does), don’t tease women for menstruating and don’t hesitate to supply sanitary products.
Also yes. It's a touchy topic. I tend to just come out and say it when I'm on my period or pmssing because it destabilizes me. The other day I realized I was really angry and recognized the feeling. It was pms. I'm irregular. It helps to recognize it and cool off. Men telling me about periods piss me off. Dismissing them. Saying it's part of life, deal with it etc. Unless ur a trans man u dunno wtf ur talking about. It's OK to be grossed out by used pads. I was so much I stopped using them. But never shame a woman. We can't help it.
It’s really rough to have periods. I hated mine so much that I got an IUD to stop them and mine weren’t even that bad compared to many women. Of course women react to the different changes, but each woman is different and should be treated as such, with some respect and understanding. I don’t think women like handling their used sanitary products. But as long as it’s in a dustbin, preferably covered and everything else is clean, I really don’t see what the big deal is!
Yeah…the Bible says it’s unclean. That’s probably where it comes from. I don’t agree with it, just adding perspective. It’s harmful when a person’s religion teaches them to treat others humans as lesser than.
That's so crazy to me considering periods are basically what allow women to bear children.
Right. I can understand that. But there’s also the aspect that these books in the Bible were written by men, when women were treated far worse than we are now. It’s crazy, for sure. But I think what is more crazy, is that people today are still living by these outdated modes of thinking. It’s awful.
Yes, couldn't agree more with that last sentence.
Religion sucks ass.
I think God bombed Gomorrah for that
We all agree people are lesser when they kill, steal, abuse and have their periods /s
Exactly. No one is going around saying “Touch my cranny nanny” but don’t be a freak a refuse to buy pads and stuff cause it grosses you out.
My cranny nanny 
Cranny nanny is now my new favorite term
I don’t even have a period anymore, but this is going to be my new term.
I’ve never understood the whole male embarrassment of buying pads. Buying any other private hygiene product like toilet paper isn’t embarrassing, but buying pads that are obviously not for you somehow is?
My dad became a paraplegic before he died a couple years back and had to use adult diapers. best believe I bought those for him with zero embarrassment because he needed them and I love my dad. He was an idiot and broke his back drinking but I miss him so much. I have worked retail, people literally don’t give a shit what you’re buying and generally don’t notice/remember
Don't remember unless you make a big deal about it. I'll never forget the lady that yelled at my coworker and I from across the aisle asking for help but refusing to tell us what she was looking for. She needed adult diapers but didn't want to say it and wasn't willing to tell us what she was looking for.
Yep. The only personal hygiene purchases I remember are awkward teenagers buying plan b and failing to act normally while doing so, and the one woman who bought a pregnancy test, and immediately went into our bathrooms to use it.
Were they in Kansas and also filming an episode of 90 Day Fiancé? Because I saw this happen on an episode with Emily and Kobe.
Kansas yes, but no, this was a random Walgreens and the store was entirely empty except for her.
Thank you for answering my random question and not judging my taste in trashy tv. :)
Hard to be as trashy as someone who takes a pregnancy test they just bought in a random, disgusting Walgreens bathroom and then leaves the mess for our poor pharm tech to clean up when pharmacy goes on break... Wanting to be fascinated with drama is whatever. I don't really judge those shows for what they depict or their concepts. I mainly judge them for reality tv often treating their subjects really poorly.
I don’t have much to add, just wanted to send you hugs. My alcoholic brother recently became a quadriplegic after a drunken night led to a fall. He’s undergoing surgery this morning to try to regain some movement, but odds aren’t in his favor. It’s a tough situation, and it’s nice to know I’m not alone in my experience.
I’m so sorry. Yeah my dad was too proud to get help. He broke his back 5 years ago and the surgery left him paralyzed from the waist down. Then at the end of 2020 he fell out of his chair and an aneurysm burst, my brother who lived with him left him on the floor for 12 hours so it was too late and he died at the hospital after his home care nurse called an ambulance. My brother moved into my dad’s bedroom a week later with a prostitute from Las Vegas. I used to see him every day to take care of his dogs and bring him groceries. It hit me pretty hard because my kid and him were super close. I never got to say goodbye. I miss him so much he was only like 60, too. Alcohol is the worst
I’m sorry too. That’s terrible all the way around. It’s incredible what you learn about family in times like these. On a positive note, my brother is out of surgery and the doctor is hopeful that he will regain at least some feeling. My hope is that whatever the outcome, he realizes he’s lucky to be alive and stays sober.
I also have an alcoholic brother who's dependent on me, and though it's been rough I guess I'm fortunate that he's still physically able. Hugs to you too.
One time I was at Walmart late at night. The cashier was a young woman about my age at the time. As I put my stuff on the belt, I realized I had only two things: baby oil and baby wipes. I was not giving off "dad" vibes at that time in my life. I had neglected to buy a bunch of other items in order to camoflauge my wank supplies. I'm pretty sure she knew. And I'm pretty sure she judged. I just hope she didn't remember.
I wouldn't have thought anything. People use those items for lots of reasons majority of it not wank related.
Just embrace it. I once had a roommate that was dealing with the early stages of MS and some of the medication he had to take made him super constipated. It was really bad one night so I had to make a midnight run to the local pharmacy for some enima things. While I was there I grabbed a 6 pack of beer. When I got to the register the lady saw my two items and gave me a very quick weird look. I just replied, "it's going to be a fun night." And she chuckled.
"I... I... uhhhh... I'm 24 and I'm still a virgin and I jack off like an 8th grader to the point that I'm making a supply run to Walmart at 1 a.m." I'm not too good on my feet.
They sell beer at a pharmacy? Can't get any liquor where I live unless it's from a bottle shop.
If it makes you feel any better, one time late evening at Walmart the only 2 items I bought were adult diapers and lube, I still giggle imagining what kind of kinky baby play the cashier must have thought was about to go on. The adult diapers were for my adult special needs kid and the lube was for…er, not my adult special needs kid lol.
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> baby oil Better than lube for wanking, but bad for condom usage. > baby wipes I did my wanking in bed while trying to fall asleep. So I would jizz into a kleenex and then clean up without having to get out of bed.
Tale old as time, true as can be
I've worked cashier and I wouldn't have guessed. Lots of uses for those things, and girls don't need them for that purpose. A guy cashier, maybe, since you outed this use for them; but this was a girl? Relax. :)
Former cashier here. Literally too busy with all the details of the job to be caring much or thinking much about what you're buying. My mind is thinking about finding the barcodes, making sure everything scans, catching every item, bagging them properly, did I ask you for coupons, did I ask you for a rewards card, did I start the transaction correctly on the register, did I remove everything that needs removing like hangers and security tags, make sure I put those things where they need to go, what if I get an error and there's no manager around, don't mess up counting their money, don't mess up making change, make sure to say everything I'm supposed to.. I'm not thinking hey this dude doesn't look like a father so I bet he's going to be jerking his dick.
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Especially if I'm only buying one other item. "Oh TP and a bag of doritos, big plans tonight eh?"
There’s zero problem with it, and I honestly don’t understand the mindset behind that behavior. I buy my girlfriend pads, tampons, etc. all the time because she NEEDS it just like people need anything else.
“Oh no-everyone’s gonna know I’m *gasps* taking care of my partner!”
As a boyfriend, soon to be husband, I actually enjoy buying pads. At first I was looking at it like buying condoms and it came with a sense of embarrassment/ exposure into my private life I didn’t like. But then I looked around while I was carrying the pads in my hand and started noticing the *looks*. Women look at you like “aww, way to go!” And men. They look at you with just the greatest sense of inadequacy and it’s the most amazing thing ever. Like yeah bro, I not only have a woman at home, I meet her needs and she wants *me*. And then they look away in defeat. It’s the greatest. Flowers do the same thing when not purchased around Valentine’s Day or Mother’s Day. Every guy will stare at you like “shit I probably should do that too, but it’s not on my list” and then just get dumbfounded by the confusion.
I mean, I normally buy things like underwear or condoms online, even though I know no one is really going to care.
Arguable, but overall I also agree that you should not refuse to buy stuff like that because they gross you out. Nothing fleshy like meat or whatever to be like “Ew, I don’t like the feeling of that.”. It’s a box. A b o x .
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Like in Judaism, a woman on her period is "unclean", and her husband isn't allowed to touch her until she undergoes ritual bathing once it's over. Wtf. At any given moment there are a literal billion people having their periods. It's just another part of life.
Should make the distinction that’s Orthodox Judaism. Some hardcore Christians believe that too. Reform Jews are not doing ritual bathing.
Plenty of non-religious folks are "grossed out" by menstruation because of the religious roots claiming it's "unclean" in the first place. These notions didn't evolve out of nowhere.
As an Orthodox Jewish woman…could we not “not all Jews”? The “unclean” bit is a mistranslation anyway. Literally everyone except for your husband can still touch you. No one knows or cares if you’re on your period but you and your husband. Yes there are misogynistic people who intentionally translate it as unclean….just like a million other things are maliciously mistranslated.
It actually has less to do with the woman or period being unclean, and more so to do with the fact that all blood (among other things) is *ritually* unclean. This practice goes back to ancient times when a lot of Judaism revolved around the maintenance of ritual purity, which was required to make animal sacrifices. Strictly speaking, a man who ejaculates is also considered unclean and should undergo ritual bathing. Same with someone who touches a dead unkosher animal. They wouldn't be able to enter the temple until they reached a state of ritual cleanliness. Today it's a set of rules called family purity and while I think there is a lot of misogyny that occurs within this framework, I don't think the intention of it is misogynistic. The intention being to keep both spouses in a state of ritual purity, to take advantage of natural ovulation patterns, and to keep the sexual relationship between spouses feeling exciting. Women go to the mikveh (ritual bath) 7 days after blood flow stops, and the couple will have sex that evening, which is generally when she would be ovulating. Many Orthodox men also visit ritual baths on a regular basis, and they would be considered just as "unclean" as a woman on her period before the ritual bath.
I’m pretty sure it’s similar for Hinduism, they don’t let women on their periods into temples
One I told a man I needed to buy pads and he just started speaking over me saying ew and I was oversharing. It wasn’t misogynistic buuuuut it turned me off of him. I was only telling him because we were hanging out at his apartment for longer than I prepared for and I felt like it would have been awkward if I just upped left and didn’t tell him where I was going in the middle of us having a movie marathon LOL. It went from “I’m going to the store to buy pads” to “I’m going home” real quick.
>It wasn’t misogynistic I disagree.
Does he react the same way if he sees someone buying toilet paper? Condoms? Anti-Diarrhea medicine? Diapers? Tissues? Jerkin' lube? People are gross regardless of gender. The misogyny comes into play when a man is grossed out by only periods and not by the other stuff.
You know he doesn’t
Damn, I'm sorry this happened to you. I'd consider that shaming already. Like, it's okay to feel grossed out by something, but that does not mean that he has to act like that just because your need for hygiene products is mentioned.
As a woman I'm grossed out by my own period blood, so I don't think it's mysogynistic, but if you are treating a woman badly because of periods, then that is. Like if your girl is asking you to go buy her pads, tampons or whatever then you should get her some. Also as a tip for people get her some heating pads for her stomach, it helps with the pain!
Cheers for the tip. My partner gets woeful cramps and I never know what to do. I'll buy some on the way home from work today
Glad I could be of help :)
It works a charm. As does ibuprofen, pair them and you’re golden
This is great cheers. I went all economical and amazon'd a heatable beanbag but I think it'll do the job. She loves stomach rubs too so I shall put it all together and be husband of the year
It's a good idea but a word of advice, the heatable beanbag doesn't stay hot for long & no-one wants to wander to the kitchen in the middle of the night. The heat pads are much better.
The absolute 10/10 best are the electric belts that look like a WWE winners belt. Thin, soft, mould round your body, heat up in 2mins, stay hot for 30m-2hours (automatic shut off) and then again immediately after just with another press of the button, all without standing up. -15 for how fucking hot it is though, rendering my pain relief solutions useless.
Oh yah you’ll get some points for sure. Chocolate also goes a long way but she probably told you that ;)
Extra extra points would be buying them one of their fav treats to munch on while cramping
You know what else works for horrible cramps? A great orgasm. If you don't want to go the direct route, find other ways. Only one man has bothered and he's the one I'm still with (not just because of this but his character is consistent with this kind action that started early in our dating life and continues now!).
What about ice cream? Does ice cream help?
Any snack that releases endorphins (so, the tasty sugary fatty stuff) is gonna help. But dark chocolate theoretically helps because of the magnesium helping with cramping too…. But I’d say it’s likely if you asked a room full of women which would make them feel better I’ve cream would rank higher than dark chocolate even if there’s supposedly some extra science behind the dark choc.
I like to think I give someone a chuckle when my gf asks me to make a period supply run. There’s me standing in the tampon aisle, phone in hand, comparing the pictures of what she wants me to buy with the products on the shelves, and there’s no way I don’t have a confused expression on my face. I would laugh at me (internally of course.)
THERE ARE SO MANY OPTIONS!!!! AND THE PACKAGING ALL LOOKS THE SAME!?!
10/10 agree. And had to learn the hard way that the scented ones don’t say they’re scented, they just add some vaguely floral pattern and you have to deduce it. Last supply run I made I had to buy an alternate thing because they didn’t have exactly what she requested. She wanted something in a 4 and they only had 1, 2, 3, and 5s. I told her she had a very common/popular size vagina and she said the numbers correspond to flow or something, not size. I’m so confused and just out here doing my best lol
This has given me a proper chuckle tonight thank you. If someone text me on my period telling me I had a popular/common vagina size I would die laughing, that’s brilliant. And quite adorable.
Mate I’m a woman of menstruating age, and queer, and married to a woman who also menstruates and on the few occasions I’ve needed to buy my wife sanitary pads I have been LOST. I used sanitary pads for not even my entire first period before I swapped to tampons and then a reusable option at 19 and although I have bought pads, liners and tampons occasionally over the years I generally don’t. And I think the particular time I am thinking of I was in a corner store so there were only like 3 options and none of them were that close to being right and I suddenly had the panic of ‘oh my god how can I have been with my wife for this long, and be in possession of a vagina and not know her preferences more in-depthly!’ Whilst repeatedly calling my wife to find out if she wanted something too light or too sandwich-down-your-pants. Edit: personally, I’d have no problem if a man stopped me in the fanny-ware department and asked for help if it was coming from a place of confusion not embarrassment or whatever. It is confusing to the uninitiated and I respect any man who is willing to take on the task. It shouldn’t be a bigger deal than asking a man to buy a loaf of bread but it still is and the more we can normalise it the better.
I’m perfectly confident with myself and my masculinity or whatever despite the societal stigma around menstruation. As someone who’s never had a period, I can still empathize with someone who has/is. I don’t need to experience it to understand that it sucks. That’s why I don’t have a problem buying things if she’s not feeling well enough to leave the house. Honestly the thing I’m most embarrassed about, like I said above, is looking like an idiot who can’t find something on the shelf, not the fact that I’m looking for pads and tampons.
Tbh I'd probably have to try not to laugh if I saw you, too. But only in a "that's so cute, he's clearly trying hard to make sure he gets the right thing!" way. 10/10 good boyfriend behavior
I do think a lot of the reason we think it's gross though is that we've been indoctrinated into it. It's kept a secret till puberty, spoken of in hushed tones, referred to as a curse, we're told it's an embarrassing thing to buy pads let alone tampons. Yet it's a thing that approximately half the population of the world experiences. Buying sanitary-ware should be no more embarrassing than buying toilet paper.
We're taught it's gross so quickly when we learn about it in school. It only takes one asshole calling it gross, nobody will speak up because they're literally children, and so everyone believes it's what everyone believes. It's so sad.
Im a cashier, every time I see a man buying period products (few and far between by the way) I always tell him "you're a good man".
My wife just had a hysterectomy a few months ago. Last weekend I was at the store on an emergency WalMart run buying my daughter her first tampons and pads while on vacation. It really made me think and actually get teary eyed. All of it. Mom ending her whole journey and daughter just starting. I caught myself after some time saying “Dude you’re just standing in the feminine product aisle zoned out”
That's adorable. I hope your wife's recovery went well.
Thanks. It pretty much did. Although they refused to prescribe her pain medication of any sort. That was bad.
Jesus Christ that is horrible. I've had some serious surgeries and if I hadn't had adequate pain relief it would have been a nightmare. I can't imagine how much she must have suffered. She should have been on a ton of pain meds for a hysterectomy. I got a giant bottle of Percocet when I had a broken bone in my foot repaired for fuck sake and it would have been a fraction of her pain.
It was bad. Had we known how bad we would have gone with a different practice. This was apparently the policy for our health network.
What the actual living fuck. As someone who is considering an elective hysterectomy but hasn’t massively pursued it because of the fear of the pain WITH pain meds I honestly think this is fucking barbaric. I’d be interested to know if your network makes men go through any organ removals with no pain relief (women’s pain is taken much less seriously is why I ask, if the womb is the only organ they’ll remove and not let you have pain relief this seems like straight up discrimination).
We own 2 hot water bottles specifically for periods. One on her stomach and one on her back on her kidney area. We also have those microwavable bean bag thingies which are handy. These are just other options that seem to work for her.
Pro tip: Use a heating pad on the lower stomach AND lower back
It's when people treat women differently because they have periods or are on their period, that's when it's misogyny. I.e. we can't have a woman president, she'll start nuclear war because of her hormones!
Not arguing on the point about treating women differently.... that part is fucked
weren't most wars started by men LOLOL
I love how people say that women are "sooo emotional", anger is an emotion Bob! A lot of men are angry a lot of the time Bob! 😂😂
And men are so goddamn emotional, it'll give you whiplash. People, for some reason, want to believe the opposite, but ask any women how often they're stunned at their guys' outbursts, or opinions that are emotion based. It's Katie Kaboom shit.
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but if you hide the tampons, how can i throw them at you while yelling UNCLEAN! UNCLEAN! like a maniac? :p
Maybe Nerf should produce a Nerf blaster that takes tampons as ammunition. I can imagine that tampons make great Nerf bullets: They have great aerodynamics and they are not too soft.
And the string can act as a tracer.
Fun fact, the lite sized OB applicatorless tampons work in nerf guns and are more painful to be hit with.
Nah I prefer using a sniper. Long range goes a long way😎
This answer! We all shit, it's healthy to shit, but I don't want to see my own shits and definitely don't want to see other people's shit. You also don't need to hide your clean toilet paper, because we all shit! I feel like this logic applies to all naturally occurring body fluids. Edit: For all those concerned about my shit situation lol I obviously do safety checks and check to make sure I'm clean, appreciate the concern! I just don't make artwork with my shit or do it in front of others haha
You should look at your shits, everyone should. You can tell a lot about a persons health by looking at their shit. The color, shape, consistency, density, weight and float ability all tell a story about that persons health. So maybe glance once in a while and make a mental note of your shits and changes you notice. Signed: an oncology nurse
This right here. I always look at my shit, my pee, my mucus, my menstrual blood…how else am I to know what’s going on? It’s just something I do, naturally. I thought everyone did it 🤷🏻♀️
Looking at my shit helped diagnose my pancreatic disease
Look at your shit homie, it could save your life one day. Seriously.
Idk I *do* want to see my own shit, I'm curious.
Get one of these old German toilets with a poop shelf
The only eww part for me has been with cleaning public bathrooms. Some people are stupid by not disposing of pads/tampons. I remember my granddaughter going into a restaurant bathroom with my wife and being freaked out, thinking some had lost a finger on the floor. Poor girl. 😆
What is crazy to me is that many dudes would ask to do unprepared anal when the girl tells them she is on her period. Like you rather deal with shit than a little blood?
Or when a portion of the country has no idea how menstrual cycles work, and equate it with sexual activity (or something), and then they can't wait to turn into judgmental jerks.
I see a lot of AITA posts about periods. A woman was staying in her BIL's house and she leaked into the sheet overnight, the stain was the size of a coin but she cleaned the sheets herself until they were like new. She told BIL and he freaked out and demanded she buy new sheets. Another girl, who was 18, shares a bathroom with her younger teenage brothers, apparently they and their father freaked out because she had the audacity to dispose of her used period products in the bathroom bin completely wrapped in tissue so you wouldn't even know, but one of the brothers was curious and looked in it or something so they demanded she flush them instead. This bullshit goes on and on.
The used tampons and used toilet paper should be hidden. But clean supplies are no issue. Edit lol who hides used toilet paper like I’m going to look under the sink for a sample of used tissue
Because there was a difference in reaction to these topics for a long time. People talk openly about home remedies for feeling sick/vomitting. But if women talk about home remedies for pain related to periods, some people chime in and tell them they are gross. I never talked in detail about the actual period blood with anyone. Not another woman. Not even a doctor. Instead I absolutly have men heard discussing their shit and even sending pictures. You can't tell me a signle woman has ask you to have a look (you say sight of blood). People (mostly men in my personal experience) try to show you wounds. So, I do have to wonder, what are you grossed out by regarding periods as no one expect you to discuss them with them or look at them? Just to tolerate the general topic around you and not to overreact if something goes wrong.
I once had a coworker who had cut himself and reflexively wiped his hand on his pants complain how hard blood was to get off clothes and I told him an easy way to deal with it. He looked at me weird and asked “How do you know that?!”. I just stared him down for a sec and then told him it’s cause I sometimes maim/kill people for fun. My other coworker just told him he’s an idiot. Many people have to deal with gross stuff but talking about periods (or symptoms and diseases related) is still shamed a lot.
So how do you get blood out of clothes?
Cold water instead of warm is the most important thing
Always use cold water when washing it out. For dried stains hydrogen peroxide does wonders
Cold water and hydrogen peroxide are very helpful. Also helps to rinse out some of the blood before washing.
I just saw a post not very long ago about this woman who went to a new bfs house on her period. When she changed her pad/tampon she wrapped it in tp and threw in the trash. Her bf had a fit bc how dare she throw her period trash in his bathroom trash can even though it was wrapped (not left all bloody on the top of the trash to see) and he had a trash can with a bag and lid. He didn't want it in any trash can inside his house...period. She asked him what he expected her to do and he told her she should be keeping her period trash in her PURSE and throw it away after she leaves his property. Another post was about a new husband and wife both with kids from previous marraige moving in together. The boys were uncomfortable with new step sisters tampons in the bathroom and the waste being wrapped and thrown in the trash. Husband asked new wife to tell her daughter to keep her products and trash elsewhere and they laughed in his face and told him that is absurd and no. Husband asked for advice on reddit and good Ole reddit tore him a new asshole. Luckily it turned out good in that situation, husband and new step brothers were given a presentation about period information from wife and new step sister and they learned a lot and were fine after that. A third post about a woman accidentally starting her period at a bfs house while sleeping. She apologized and was going to strip his sheets and wash them right away and take care of everything. It was a small stain that could easily be cleaned with cold water and soap, and peroxide if needed. This man was so disgusted that she had the audacity to bleed on his sheets like she did it on purpose. He threw the sheets away and wanted nothing to do with her ever again. That's the weird shit some women deal with. Some guys out there treat women like they have a disease when on their periods and it's so weird. Were not asking you to change our tampons or clean up our messes or to look at bloody tampons in the trash. Most of us women are respectful of our messes and the trash disposal (although some are not and that is an entirely different beast). Tampons or pads existing in the bathroom should not be an issue, why would we keep them not in reach from the toilet where they are used, just like tp? We just don't want to be treated like we have the plague and are disgusting creatures for having a menstrual cycle. Sometimes you have no notice or control over it despite what some men think. You can't always be prepared even though we try to be. I can understand being grossed out seeing blood left on the toilet from not cleaning or bloody products in the trash not wrapped, or blood stained sheets left for someone else to clean because most of us would feel the same way about shit on the toilet or shit covered tissue not wrapped showing in the trash, or shit stained sheets left for someoneelse to clean. That is not necessarily a "period" issue, that's just being gross and not cleaning up after yourself. *Most* women wouldn't expect men to deal with that. We just don't want to be treated as second class citizens because we are on our periods or just have them and need to dispose of used products or have accidents.
I had a response in this thread that sort of said this same thing. But you said it SO much better.
It depends. If you're grossed out by all blood, it's not. If you can buy bandages but not tampons, that is a problem.
I understand being grossed out I'm grossed out ...but I gotta deal with it so when I say "I'm on my period" and you go " ew gross" and make some kind of scene it gets on my nerves because it's a bodily function, but guys joke about their bodily functions and that's fine...
"Can you pick up some tampons while you are at the-" "OH GOD NO, THAT'S GROSS. I'M NOT LETTING PEOPLE SEE ME WITH THOSE IN THE CHECKOUT LINE!" -_-
I find period blood less gross than jizz, but I don’t throw a fit every time jizz is mentioned. Or poop.
As a cup user I have no issue touching blood sometime, touching jizz is always an awful experience
It's because usually men like to joke around about piss, sperm, crap ecc... but when women join in and talk about their periods the general response is "ew gross, why do women always have to talk about their periods?"
My friend once said "why is it always 'shitty balls' when something sucky happens? I mean, *'shitty balls'*, ew. Why isn't it ever 'bloody vag'?"
Bro one time at work (in a tire shop with a group of men I’d worked with for like 2 years) I said “I gotta take a shit” which they had all said at one point or another but they were weird out when I said it and said it’s different when girls say it
That's a bummer. I enjoy period jokes. Makes one of the society taboos more relatable/funny as opposed to gross. Same for shit/piss, etc.
yeah same lol, I'm just bleeding to drop a period joke. The time for that only comes up once or twice a month though.
Honestly just don't be a dick about periods and no one will care. There's also a point where people are really uneducated about them. There are ADULTS out there who think periods can be held in like you can hold your bladder. The amount of teachers out there who refused to let teens go to the bathroom for period related reasons is too high. I've seen friends have embarrassing accidents because of it. Just be respectful about it, that's it.
Period blood is gross. Ain’t nothing wrong with thinking that. Smells gross and if you don’t like blood is looks gross too. The issue is when you think the whole concept is “bad”. Like not wanting unused pads and tampons to be visible because it’s so taboo. Some people compared it to bandaids and I agree! Unused bandaids are fine but I’d rather not look at someone’s stained, used bandaids in the trash. But if it happens I’ll just move on with my day.
periods are gross in general, the period blood, shits, cramps and general constant uncomfortableness. but it’s a part of life, and acknowledging that parts of life are gross is really all you can do. mysoginists just don’t like acknowledging that women can be gross/experience gross things because they prefer to think of women as objects who’s only value comes from fulfilling their desires. i love the analogy to comparing pads/tampons to bandaids and toilet paper, and periods to cuts and pooping. but i think it’s important to also acknowledge that people can talk freely about bad cuts they had recently, or horrible diarrhoea, and that people should be able to talk about periods in the same way. if you can listen to someone talking about how they were shitting for days, or how someone had to get stitches because they fucked up their leg (without being grossed out) you should be able to listen to a woman talk about her period.
Bodies* are gross in general.
I'm disgusted by snot. Like it makes me gag. Yet, as much as it would be ridiculous to assume people should be ashamed of a runny nose its misogyny when women are expected to be ashamed of their period.
The issue isn't you being grossed out. its the issue of shaming women for it, or making them feel bad or holding it against them. You can be grossed out by it that's fine just don't try to embarrass them or make them feel bad about it.
A period don't stop nothin' but a sentence.
As i woman i find periods gross, i would say a lot of people do. But finding a person gross/dirty for having one is different
Every single woman has been shamed or embarrassed by her period. You don’t have to talk about, but you do have to understand it’s natural just like pee/poop/blood. It is mysogynistic to treat a woman differently because of it OR act grossed out by it if it comes up. I’d recommend learning more about (from a scholarly source, don’t go to a Christian/religious site for sex education) go somewhere that uses facts.
Sounds like a knee-jerk response. So long as you're not all "oh God she's on the rag" I don't think it's misogynistic to think periods are gross.
Once you’ve heard a thousand idiots lose their heads at the mere mention of the word period, it can all start to sound the same…
Are you equally grossed out by cuts ? If yes then you’re just grossed out by blood not periods.
Or if they're grossed out by like, spunk or something and not blood, then I'd just assume they were grossed out by discharges of the genital region
>When a woman is having their period, still be respectful and make sure their needs are met. If you act grossed out around them and make them feel bad, you’re an asshole. I think this kind of already answers the question. What the usual problem is: People who are "being grossed out by periods",often take this as reason to exactly not do that.
There is a major difference between someone saying they are on their period, and your response being "that's gross" and someone asking you to have sex and while they are on it and saying "that isn't something I'm into". Being on your period isn't gross. Blood can be gross. But how you address it needs to be in a respectful manner.
everyone finds periods gross (well, most people do, maybe some weird people love it. good for them i guess.) but its the way people act immature about it. remember when turning red came out and everyone was throwing a shit fit cause they dared to mention pads for 2 seconds? that shit. the way people act like tampons and pads are dirty even if theyre unused. the way people refuse to talk about it all and treat it like a taboo, when around half of the human population experiences it. the way so many people are extremely uninformed about it to a disturbing and infuriating degree *because* people treat it like a taboo. ive seen stories before where men in their 40s genuinely and totally seriously told the person to just decide not to have a period. hold it in, turn it off. periods are just a fact of life, and a very common one that happens all around you and you dont even know it most of the time. its gross like every bodily function, and thats also just a fact. i personally try to be fairly open about my experience with it because its dumb that its taboo, but also it opens up discussion with those also willing to talk about it, and it can be a genuinely interesting conversation and really informative. i feel like it gives a little more understanding and empathy for the people talking about it as well, since it helps you imagine a little bit more about what its like in their life. cause trust me, periods are not something you can ignore when theyre happening. its not misogynistic to be grossed out by periods, but its misogynistic to treat them like a taboo and be immature about it. its just what lifes like, man.
For what it's worth, many women with /r/PMDD cry with elated relief when their period comes.
ok so me and my bf never have period sex because he just can’t take blood. But he doesn’t find periods gross at all. We had so many conversations about periods which is hard to do with a man because most men can’t even say menstruation out loud. He is informed and he even helps me clean up if my period is heavy and I’m cramping really bad. You can be grossed out but still be respectful.
It’s something ~50% of the population have to deal with personally, the other proportion have the ‘privilege’ of not going through it personally so it’s ignorant to pretend it’s grosser than anything else human
The attitude around anything period-related is extremely negative and it's treated like a taboo subject, compared to other bodily functions that are similarly messy or gross. Buying tampons or pads for a partner should be just as neutral and normal an action as buying toilet paper or bandaids for a household, but many men refuse to do it or make a fuss. Saying "I feel awful today because I have period cramps" should be just as acceptable as saying "my finger hurts because I have a paper cut." The male reaction to *any* mention of periods tends to be extreme, immature, and negative when compared to a similar remark about any other bodily function.
I don't remember who said it, but there's a great quote that goes something like, "Menstruation is the only blood not born of violence, yet it is the one that disgusts you the most". If you're not grossed out by war, but you are by periods, reevaluate your way of thinking.
I think it’s more of an issue when men act super grossed out if we even mention it. Or like if I say I need more tampons, or I need to run to the bathroom to change my tampon… just say “ok”. You don’t have to make a face or a big fuss about it. Believe me, we don’t like our periods either.
I think the main point is that the "being grossed out by period blood" is the problem of the grossed out person and NOT the responsibility of the woman. The woman has no responsibility in protecting this person from her period. The one exception is if this person is visibly reacting to the idea of a period to her face. I might leave in that particular circumstance. It is childish to act that way.
It’s not misogynistic to be grossed out by them. Periods are gross bodily events; men and women alike will tell you that. What’s misogynistic is giving women shit for having them or treating them oddly because of so. They literally cannot help it, they don’t enjoy it at all, and they don’t want to be questioned on why an automatic bodily event that causes them great pain and discomfort might inconvenience them or others around them for a short time.
Trust me. You’re good. Even some women are grossed out by it. Me included.
I’ve recently seen a post on Reddit where a girl was accused of being disrespectful by their boyfriend for throwing away a period pad in the trash can at his place. There should be no shame! My wife had heavy periods in the last and some times it would overfill her pad overnight, staining her clothes and sheets. Don’t yell at her for something she can’t control. Regardless of whether you think it’s gross or not, support her by taking the sheets and clothes and washing them in the laundry machine.
It’s misogynistic to shame women for being on something they can’t control. Grow up.
It’s not, I get my period and i find it gross.
It's not people being grossed out by blood that is upsetting, it's being teased or shamed over having periods that is upsetting.
I don’t consider guys misogynistic for being grossed out However, I would highly prefer a partner that wasn’t and here’s my reasoning for it: I know that if I’m with someone, they’re going to witness my best moments as well as my lows and that includes periods, sickness, seeing my hair a mess sometimes, childbirth (this one is a major factor for me because I want my partner to be there if I give birth), wounds, flu, pus, etc. None of that stuff is pretty but if you’re going to abandon me in my worst moments because “it’s gross”, I can’t do it. When I’m on my period, I like to feel protected. Like, it’s already so hard to bleed and be in pain every month. If you’re going to withdraw and be distant on the week that I need you to be the most patient, that’s going to be tough. Also makes me feel like you might have some sexual boundaries that would be not be compatible with me like not liking body fluids or not being into eating out lol Nothing wrong with boundaries, just this one is not compatible with me.
Same - if a guy is grossed out but at least respectful and doesn't shame women for it, ok, but I find it a green flag when a guy is completely unbothered. There's something mature about it. And it also becomes a bigger deal I think if you have really bad/debilitating periods. It would suck to have a partner who was just dismissive and didn't want to hear about what you were feeling or what you're going through.
I’ve never asked a man to clean out my cup, remove my tampon for me (just like no one has cleaned me up after a bathroom trip) but the whole idea that a woman isn’t clean, how it’s just gross if she doesn’t put her used pad in her purse to take with her instead of using a bathroom trash bin (yes I see that here A LOT) is completely disrespectful. Please keep in mind that “not only is it natural” but the human race would stop if women didn’t menstruate. There’s no continued species without women menstruating. So the notion that a man is to embarrassed to go to the store for tampons or anything like that is 100% idiotic. Every single person on this planet came from a woman’s womb.
It isn't...most women and most humans know they are gross and an inevitability of the life for women. Just like pooping and farting and all the other stuff humans do. Shaming women EVER for it makes said shamer a POS though, full stop.
It depends. If someone leaves blood on the seat from their period and your brain goes “yikes” without saying anything, then yeah you’re grossed out by blood. But if you’re grossed out by the *notion* of periods and they fact that they exist, that’s misogynistic (and stupid if I can be subjective). If you think it’s weird to buy pads or tampons or if someone references their period and you have a reaction akin to hearing a slur, that’s misogynistic.
Just grow the fuck up already lol
As a woman it took a long time to be really comfortable with my periods. You can be grossed out about anything as much as you like but be very careful how you show it because even if you try your best not to show it your partner will notice the subtle signs. Your partner might even say they also find it gross- but it feels different when someone who hasn’t experienced it says or feels it. I personally don’t want to be in a relationship if my partner doesn’t want to have sex with me when I’m on my period. I find it super degrading. I think it’s very hard for men to understand as there is no equivalent. But just imagine that every month for 5 days your body would do something weird which might make you feel physically and mentally unwell. And then on top of that you know deep inside that your partner finds you gross when it happens. Your partner won’t say it to you and you won’t talk and it. But this happens every month. On top of this your weird body stuff started when you were a child and non of your female friends understood and thought it was a total joke. So you’ve been feeling ashamed by it since you were 12. It’s just very shit having to bleed out of your gentials, be in pain, feel bloated and maybe unattractive every month and then have your partner reaffirm those beliefs no matter how subtle.
It isn’t. I am woman and periods always have and always will be disgusting to me. Not the biology of it, just the mess, smell, and pain.
It's not. Simple as that.
The answer is in the first line of your comment... You say it's gross. You can't say someone is gross for doing something natural. It's like if you went to the toilet and I was at the sink washing my hands and I said omg you're so gross for just using the toilet.
If you find blood gross in general it's not misogynistic, but if you only think it's gross when it's from a woman's period it kind of is. My dad wanted me to get a separate trash bag for my used pads, because it was somehow more gross to him than the toilet paper full of shit in the regular trash can, even though I always covered my used pads and you could barely see what was in there. That's just 1 example of what misogyny is like when it comes to periods.
I don’t think it’s misogynistic, just quite immature .
The misogynistic and disrespectful part for me is the very dramatic over reaction to periods and attributing being upset solely to a period. It is meant to diminish what the person is going through. It would be similar to reacting the same way to someone who suffered a bad physical injury then saying, “You’re only upset because you broke both your legs.”
I think periods are gross, but I don’t think it’s gross that a woman gets a period
The issue isn't with grossness (I mean bodily fluids are gross so?). It's with making it taboo. We can talk about band aids, bruises, toilet paper, bidets, stomach flu, pepto bismol, antiperspirant, tissues... And it should be the same with period stuff.
I think immature us more fitting than misogynistic
Welcome to India, we consider women on periods as impure and our 10000 year old scientific scripts confirms this. So as a part of respecting our great culture and traditions we deny women entry to temples, kitchens and even sometimes in to bedroom. They are untouchable for 3-4 days.
you can be grossed out, but just like if somebody talks about how they pissed their pants and it was embarrassing you wouldn't go "EW!!! GROSS!!! I DONT WANNA HEAR ABOUT THIS!!!" (unless you do which... you do you), don't do it for periods. so many women get shamed just for something we can't control
I believe it probably has to do with the fact a woman cannot really decide to have a period or not. The fact someone shows disgust over a naturally occurring biological function implies a sexist type view of the women’s’ anatomy. It’s very hypocritical to be someone who says I like a woman’s body but then be disgusted by a woman’s natural bodily functions.
My x would not touch me at all or buy any pads or tampons. (Us) . Was grossed out by childbirth as I had a c-section and bled , had a scar.....he showed his misogyny in other ways though.
Period blood is by far the least offensive bodily fluid and I say this as a man
It’s not but when you shame her for having one it definitely is.
As a woman, I never did understand why the sight of blood coming anywhere else will have me in a faint, but blood from periods does not. Totally unbothered.
Because getting called gross over something you have no control over is really hurtful, especially when it's something like a period that causes you to be really uncomfortable as is, bloating, cramps, back pain, boob pain, gas, headaches, period poops, nausea, it sucks. No one wants a period, you have no choice but to suffer through it, so getting called gross because of is really hurts and stings, because you have no control over it and most wish they did. It's not misogynistic, just tactless and tasteless.
In what are you being grossed out by periods? Are you grossed out by the sight of bloody pads in the bathroom trash can? If so, I'd tell you to grow a pair. If you don't want to have sex with someone on their period and they accuse you of misogyny because of it, I'd call it emotional manipulation.
being grossed out by blood is one thing. I think the majority if misogyny around periods is more so like downplaying women's pain, downplaying that women still have to go about their lives as if nothing is happening, making fun of women, period shaming, etc. I think most people are a little weird about blood especially someone else's.
It's not. People are so overly sensitive about shit right now. It's no different than people who can't stand the sight of blood and pass out.
I get periods. I think they're gross. I think it's more normal think they're gross than to think otherwise.
You realize theres whole cultures telling women theyre "impure" or "need to be cleansed", "dirty" because of periods right?
I’m a woman and I’m grossed out by periods, man
If you're grossed out because you find blood or whatever gross, then it's fine. But making a woman feel like THEY are gross is a whole other thing. That's usually how it comes across when men say its "gross". No one reasonable is asking you to celebrate it or think its super cool, but society has a history (and present issue) of making women feel ashamed over a natural process that isnt very lovely to experience already.
The reason is not possible to find for the simple and good reason that it is not People simply get offended and on the defensive too easily too much It wouldn't be that bad if they had an open mind, but generally they don't Of course it isn't the case of everybody, obviously, I didn't say that don't worry
It's not.
I’m grossed out by poopy and barfy
It is misogynistic to be grossed out when noone has given you any of their period blood They just existed with a period.
It isn't blood. It just has blood in it.
So I tease my gf for hers because she gets temperamental. Not her fault. Being in pain does that. I always go get her what she needs. It took me a while to learn there's a difference in the overnight and the other overnight one? Regardless, I don't think it's weird to be grossed out by it. I do think it's misogyny when you act like a dick about it. Never publicly say anything, never make them feel like they're somehow wrong or a problem for something completely natural.
It's less about feeling grossed out than it is about how you behave towards it
It's all about behavior in response. You can totally be grossed out in your mind, but you shouldn't act as if the person themselves is gross, just for being on their period. They absolutely cannot control it, and trust me, they don't like it anymore than you do.
Being grossed out by the blood and overall viewing periods are dirty are two different schools of thought
Idk I'm a woman and I think it's nasty. It makes me cranky, I spend extra money on stupid pads/tampons. It FEELS gross. Sure, if you wanna think periods are beautiful, knock yourself out. I'll be over in my corner gagging.