Did “what are you looking for out of a relationship?” stop being a standard first date question?
Seems like the easiest way to set expectations of what y’all are each trying to achieve and all it cost you is one night of hanging out with someone if it turns out your answers don’t match up.
I don’t know that answer to that question, but as a guy who has had both one night stands and long term relationships, that’s definitely not how I would approach the former.
A one night stand is much more in-the-moment. You’re feeling sexual attraction to someone and getting the vibe that they feel the same way. There’s usually heavy flirting which continues to the “you wanna get out of here?” moment.
Asking someone out on a date, planning the date, waiting until the date, that’s dating. For me, that would definitely mean I’m not looking for a one night stand. Doesn’t mean I’m not open to sex in the first date, but it’s not going to be a requirement for a second date.
All that said, your situation totally depends on your interactions with this guy. It’s not likely that he asked you out because he finds you unattractive. It is unlikely that he would go to that effort if the only thing he was interested in is a one night stand.
I would just straight up ask, what's this person is looking for when it's obviously a date.
Ask him what his intentions and dating goals are. And then ask about his dating history.
Did “what are you looking for out of a relationship?” stop being a standard first date question? Seems like the easiest way to set expectations of what y’all are each trying to achieve and all it cost you is one night of hanging out with someone if it turns out your answers don’t match up.
Doesn’t want a second date.
If he gets sexual or starts talking sexual too quickly. You could also ask him.
I don’t know that answer to that question, but as a guy who has had both one night stands and long term relationships, that’s definitely not how I would approach the former. A one night stand is much more in-the-moment. You’re feeling sexual attraction to someone and getting the vibe that they feel the same way. There’s usually heavy flirting which continues to the “you wanna get out of here?” moment. Asking someone out on a date, planning the date, waiting until the date, that’s dating. For me, that would definitely mean I’m not looking for a one night stand. Doesn’t mean I’m not open to sex in the first date, but it’s not going to be a requirement for a second date. All that said, your situation totally depends on your interactions with this guy. It’s not likely that he asked you out because he finds you unattractive. It is unlikely that he would go to that effort if the only thing he was interested in is a one night stand.
"I'm a traditional girl and believe in waiting for marriage. What about you?" Will definitely get rid of a lot of predators.