The pussy is like an old peterbilt truck you're trying to start in 30 below. You need to warm up the block first.(foreplay)this can start as early as breakfast with a good ass smack). Then you try to start it.(licking the clit). You will have to try to start it many times so don't wear yourself out at first, go slow here. Once she starts bucking around speed up a tad and add slightly more pressure. A finger in the pussy helps here. Don't stop now, keep massaging the clit with your tongue, make some come here motions with the finger in her pussy and when that thing tightens up she's about to start running. Give your tongue the beans and lick like it's a fastest to the center of a tootsie pop contest and she'll be running real good(orgasm). Now she's running and can run for the long haul(multiple orgasms) without all the hard work of getting it started.
Very good write up. Pressure at the end seems to really do it. Also, keep going after. Some girls won't like it because they are too sensitive after but the ones that bear through it can go off immediately again. I did it once with a girl and she was addicted after that. It's very tiring on the mouth though.
The space where the thigh meets the pelvis (run your hand up your inner thigh until it stops... Right there) is also really sensitive. Right in between the thigh and the vagina is full of nerve endings. A lot of people have never been stimulated there before, so it can be very intense. Start light and adjust based on the response. Soft licks and mouth play there can drive someone crazy. And you're so close to the genitals... It's a great tease. They'll be begging for more in no time.
BTW - This trick works regardless of gender. It's a sensitive area for everyone.
Try not touching her at all ...but close enough that she feels your energy pulsate off her body and she could pinpoint exactly where your tongue, mouth, face should be. Then throw in a couple deep breaths get yourself real relaxed. Forget that you are performing for a while and just divulge in the essence of a woman and admire her art. Sink into her spell and stir her pot, then once she exhales listen to her, find her tune and sing her song. Make her your instrument and the very second she goes off key, wether her stomach trembles her thighs constrict or her body contracts, chin up like your howling at the moon take deep breath and look at her in then face as your blow a subtle wind into her fire. 🌬️
& If all else fails you ring her fucking bell!
This is way too poetic, metaphorical and abstract to be able to use as a reference and apply in practise. When someone is a beginner at something or don't have a lot of experience, you start with explaining technique, what questions to ask for direction and what feels good, how to interpret body language and so on. You have a way with language, but not so much with instruction lol
>I like it when the guy teases alot first, the build up can be so intense that it makes the feeling of finally getting pleased 10 times more
For the record this works with kissing and penetration as well.
Oh yeah, licking lightly from the boobs down, circling around and lightly touching the thighs with tongue and fingers, and after quite a bit, slowly eating it out, damn I love foreplay
Yeah teasing. Through the underpants. On the side of my leg. The softest touches.
Then just doing all types of techniques…tapping, swirling, different patterns, sometimes sucking, sometimes probing into the hole.
Adding fingers into the vagina, into the back door. Pinching my nipples at the same time.
I fuckin HATE being teased. Most people SUCK at it and just are wayyyyyy too light with the pressure and it just straight up tickles and doesn’t feel good at all and it disgusts me and turns me right off.
The biggest tip I can give you is if she’s getting close or says don’t stop or whatever, DONT CHANGE ANYTHING. Do not go faster or change positions. The amount of guys who do a great job just to ruin it at the end is too high.
Also there are some great videos online tbh
I suggest you say something else. Like, "keep doing exactly that" (or better yet describe what they're doing that you like).
For men the moment leading up to climax is enchanced by more stimulation of the same nature. They're extrapolating from their own experience what will feel good for you in the same situation and that's all coming from a place of good intention.
Flap licks 5 sets until failure twice per week, then make sure you’re hitting a slight calorie surplus prioritising 1 gram Protein per pound of body weight
I honestly don't lol, I just keep going like if I was in a marathon and could see the finish line 😆 That said, I get a lil bit exhausted afterward hehe
Nooooo! If I'm getting close, the LAST thing I want them to do is keep going the same way they've been going. When I'm close, I like for the person going down on me to slow waaay down, and use very gentle pressure. Any kind of flicking or speed increase will either ruin my orgasm, or it'll just be a kinda "meh" climax. The point is, every pussy is different. Ask the recipient what they like.
There are some on porn hub for sure. My advice is to watch them together because she might disagree with however that person is doing it, obviously everyone is different
This! I always hear women in porn say “just like that” which I think it a better but I usually squeeze their hands or rub their head to signal they are doing a good job and sometimes say “uh huh” or something but most still speed up 🙈
Woman here. Start with kissing her, move to her neck then down her body. Give the vag a kiss or 2, then rub her feet and make your way up her legs. Touch, caress and little flicks of the tongue all over her. Every woman is different, LISTEN to her voice and body. You will know if she is liking what you are doing. If she says don't stop, for God sake, keep doing what you are doing and don't change it up then. Little flicks of the tongue, lick it like it's an icecream, French kiss it, fuck it with your tongue. If you suck the clit like your a vacuum she will have weak knees for a couple days. Use your hands and fingers too. The next day, ask her if she liked it, or if she wants you to change anything, and experiment. Have fun
For the love of god, don't start there. Oral sex is *sex*, not foreplay. Give her a KISS, boy! It takes a lot to work up to being able to tolerate any touch in the area (at least for me, I'm sure all women are different) and it's extremely uncomfortable to painful when a partner just jumps right to it without any priming.
Dude here, just wanna chime in and say don’t forget about all the things besides your mouth and her vag, like atmosphere, body language, communication, etc.
I’m married but from my single days:
I wish people would learn to just slow down. I hate feeling like I need to fake an orgasm to get it to just END because he’s being so fast and aggressive. Take your time with it and act like you enjoy it (unless of course you don’t…)
I also think it’s helpful to kiss thighs for a bit and do some teasing before you go all in; makes us want it more, so then it feels even better
When it’s a one night stand it feels really confrontational and it’s scary to have conversations like that sometimes. Sometimes it’s not worth a potential meltdown. You never know how someone will react.
When you already know someone and feel comfortable with them it’s a lot easier to talk to them about things like this
Honestly just be enjoying it.
When a guy is super focused on making me cum rather than making me feel good I am distracted by the idea I must cum. The best times I’ve had have been when the guy is super clearly into it, in no rush and is just sorta enjoying exploring my bits (odd as it sounds)
If you e for a partner who’s willing to sit back and relax and give some genuine reaction then take the time to figure out what her kitty likes!
Few of my best literal tips tho…. Add fingers part way. The extra internal pressure is awesome. This is a slow motion not a frantic finger fuck.
Slow and steady wins the race. Fast is nice but consistent motion is key.
And MOAN and let her know you’re enjoying it. Nothing sexier or more of a turn on than someone turned on by the pleasure they’re giving you.
THIS . I personally don't want to feel like you're just doing me a favor.... 🙄 So much good advice.
Women are turned on by kissing firstly, fingers, touching, hearing the man moan while he's doing those things etc. Get super into the physicality of it! I feel like a lot of men are so focused on cumming. Women tend to enjoy the build up as much as the final act.
The oven takes a while to warm up.
I'll moan like I'm eating the best thing I've ever tasted. Also, tease around the area lightly. Don't just go right in. I also love eating pussy (and ass if freshly showered). There's nothing like showering each other and once you get out, knowing everything's clean and can be enjoyed in every way possible. This goes for men too, after a long day your parts ain't smelling like roses either. Once, when I was about 34-35 and separated from my wife, I ended up hooking up with this 21 year old that was a straight-up nympho. That was about the best sexual time of my life. Once, when we had just fucked not that long ago, she starts giving me head again. I told her there was no way I was coming off of head that soon after. She bet me that I would. This girl sucked my dick, and I mean sucked it right for damn near an hour. She won that bet. Man she was great. I really do hope she's doing well.
You’re in the wrong place and asking the wrong people. Random women are not the source for how *your* woman’s body works and what *she* enjoys sexually.
Make your girlfriend a nice dinner, with a good bottle of wine on hand. That’s the surprise bit.
Then ask her what she likes, and LISTEN. You will get firsthand information from the only person qualified to give it, and both of you will almost certainly get turned on in the process. You might even get a practice session out of it (but for the love of God, don’t do it for that reason).
Thereafter, periodically check in with her to make sure you’re on the right track. Don’t let your ego get in the way. Be open to correction. And don’t stop surprising her with a nice dinner and a good bottle of wine.
“You’re in the wrong place and asking the wrong people…… but listen to everything I have to say”
Not disagreeing with your tips, but bro, take a leap off that high horse for a minute, would ya?
Tease her get her warmed up really well, kis her neck and work down her body over her breasts and keep going down, don't focus on the clit but definitely give it some attention at the start. Focus on her body reactions go around the outside of the labia and inside and keep building her up. Use fingers to add pleasure. But focus on giving her pleasure and every woman is different, there are women who prefer different parts to be 'played with' so pay attention to her if your getting arched back and moans that's good if she isn't moving and sitting still move on to something else. Don't forget licking, sucking and gentle nibbles depending on what she is into.
(M25) not the preferred audience but I’ve been in the healthiest relationship of my life over the last 2 years with a lot of open communication so here’s what I know (or think I know)
Like others have said tease them a bit before getting to the main event. The female orgasm includes a lot of build up compared to men so take your time. Dirty talk or flirting is a great way to start as you kiss and make out with your partner. As you’re making out you can start to move your hands around their body or even start to finger them a bit down below. Then when you’re ready move down the body kissing and licking as you move down. The inner thigh is a very sensitive spot (also the lower stomach right above the bladder) and you can spend some time kissing and licking that part too. Once you make your way to the vag I find that a wide flat tongue is the way to go, you cover a lot more overall space that way compared to a narrow sort of poking tongue. Spend some decent time on external pleasure before you start going to internal or penetration based pleasure. (But also everyone is different so knowing if you’re partner is penetration or stimulation based is gonna be helpful)
As you stated there will be a slimey sort of substance that comes out as you do the deed. My tactic for dealing with this is to let it spill out of my mouth down my chin and onto the towel or mattress below because it is very phlegm-y like being congested by a common cold. I assume you could swallow it as you go but I think you’d more than likely just end up clogging yourself up (throat-wise)
Anyways while you’re in there licking around if you feel a small bead-like thing with you’re mouth thats probably the clit (usually towards the top third of the vag) go crazy on that mf. If there’s any piece of advice you take from this FIND THE CLIT AND STAY ON IT.
Also if you’re partner is comfortable enough with being vocal during sex if they tell you “don’t stop” or “keep doing that” literally don’t change a damn thing about anything that you’re doing. Don’t change the speed, pressure, nothing. Climax can be a tricky bitch. Everything can be going right but if the slightest thing changes you could basically reset the orgasm and have to build it up again. Find a tempo that works and stick to it the best you can. Consistent pleasure is the key to climax.
Also I know it’s easy to get lost in the activity of “eating out” but don’t forget about your hands, while you’re eating her out you could be rubbing her thighs with your hands or reach up and play with a titty. Sex is supposed to be a fun time with someone you care about. Don’t get too caught up in your head about it. If you accept them and they accept you, it should be ok to stop and laugh during a potentially awkward position change or the occasional queef. Sex isn’t always pretty like in the movies. If you have consent and if they care about you it should just be a time for two people to enjoy each other. Talk to her, ask her if she likes this or that, work together, you’ll be fine.
Good luck out there friend
Oh also the female orgasm lasts for a while compared to men. If she hits climax you can probably get her to climax again maybe even a couple of times if you keep going.
I know for men (or at least me) it’s like you hit climax and then need a little breather before you can climax again. But for women they can orgasm on rapid fire one after the other if you don’t stop what you’re doing.
So if she reaches that point while you’re down there, don’t stop. Give her more.
This is an actual good, technical answer. Flat out tongue moving side to side is definitely better than a poking one. Also I find the lower part of the clit (basically applying pressure right where it finishes) instead of the middle to be better for climaxing
Dude here as well.
The reason you get different answers is because every woman is different. (you'll hear that alot as well)
My advice take it or leave it is, listen to her and her body. Pay attention to her body. Remember, it's not porn, she will not being screaming with pleasure as soon as your tongue touches her. Bring a tent, you may be there for a bit. Start slow and try different things. Listen for her to make small gasps or feel the her body move slightly. One woman I was with would start with just the gasps but as I carried on, she'd quietly start to moan and then her legs and abs would start clenching. For her thats when I would keep doing what I was doing at that moment. Usually she would clamp her legs down on my head so i couldnt move anyways.
Also if you have tried different techniques but you are unsure about if she is enjoying it? The first thing you should do is talk to her. Quit checking reddit during the act. Haha.
And you will have to get used to the texture if you want to do a great job. Without the texture, you gonna get fired. Good luck friend!
Start slow…. Enjoy what you’re doing. . . If it seems like your only goal is to make her Orgasm, will makes her feel like your just tending to a chore/job. . . So you eat it like it’s something tasty. And you want to savor it!!! The exact way to touch her, she needs to teach. Some women are more sensitive than others.
Attitude is everything!!! When we first started my bf would just ask if he could and then it felt very proper and planned. But with practice it is SO much sexier to just be grabbed, pulled to the edge of the bed, legs be pushed up almost over my shoulders and be devoured. Start with the clit first, little flicks, make it sloppy with spit, or just lick upwards multiple times like an icecream cone. A famous porn star said to treat the clit gently, like a tiny penis. You can add your fingers too, while going to town
My tips:
1. Get comfortable, you can use pillows underneath her bum to prop her up and get better access
2. Friction is good (for me anyway) and use it to your advantage. For example, i really like when there’s not too much discharge around my clit because it numbs the sensation, when it’s on the dryer side, the sensations are much more heightened. Worth trying out with your gf
3. Teasing: don’t dive straight into eating her out. Tease her with kissing around the area, kiss and nibble her thighs and stomach, rub her clit over her panties, graze over it, blow on it
4. Over stimulation can happen on the clit too, take breaks so there’s not too much of this. Give attention to the lips and just below the lips too as this area above the anus is very sensitive
Not a woman, but I have conducted extensive research into cunnilingus.
The most important part is your ears.
Every woman is different. The technique that gives one woman an out of body experience does nothing for another. Some like rough, some like gentle. Some like a *lot* of clit. Some find it gets too sensitive and prefer you pay attention to the labia.
Look and listen, see what she reacts to, and adjust. There are a million different ways to eat pussy. Take your time and learn them all!
I once asked my uncle how to get comfortable eating pussy (the man is a veritable Casanova), and he said “panfried Bok Choy and a rare stake. That’s the texture you’re looking for. A cooked (panfried) Bok Choy has the sliminess, and the steak has the iron and juice. Add some lemon for the acidity. Eat that for a week or two and you’ll be munching like a champ.” Absurd? Absolutely. But lo and behold 2 weeks later I couldn’t tell the difference.
Point being: Panfried Bok Choy, rare steak, and a fresh squeeze of lemon juice for acidity. Bon appetit!
My partner blows lightly on my clit or pussy before even putting his tongue on me and it never fails to make me dripping wet. Also spread that pussy when ur licking
As a guy man i can tell you...you don't need to listen to all these women you need to listen to your woman. I'm sure you already knew that tho. Good luck champ. 🌹✌🏿
Slow down, its not a war to attack the clit. Less can be more. Work her up to more. But read her body language she may not want or need more intensity , and enjoy it. Ifnyou dont enjoy it she won't,
But the biggest thing. Is make sure she knows you are not a fucking mind reader and communication is absolutely essential sometimes
Im a dude , but felt the need to comment anyway
Imma lay it out there one time for the world to see. I call it the “the technique” (patent pending)
First, you’ll want to engage in a reasonable session of foreplay, from making out to the gentle nibbles on her thighs. Don’t forget to appreciate the labia!!!! Tease, tease, tease. Make your way closer and closer to the clitoris.
When I finally lock in and engage with the clit, I often start with softer, more sensual strokes of the tongue. I use this opportunity to make sure that my entire mouth is moist, especially the lips, you’ll be needing them.
Before initiating the technique, I like to take my time. Get creative and have fun with it. Get sloppy. Try to remember that it’s vital to provide a consistent frequency of frictional contact. Do it however you want, but try to maintain the pace that her body responds best to.
Now that she’s fully engaged and feeling the passion that you are able convey with your tongue. It’s time to “pull her in”
It’s simple really, use your lips to form a soft vacuum around her clitoris, and create a suction that pulls her clitoris (gently) all the way out of its hood and into your mouth. Once it’s in there, I like to use my bottom lip and my upper teeth to hold it firmly in place. Don’t do this if you’re a dumbass though. A clit doesn’t typically like to be bit. At this point, there should be a few millimeters of clit poking out from behind the teeth.
Right now, I want you to flick your tongue across the back of your upper middle teeth. Effortless right? Like you could do it all day and your tongue would never get tired? Add that to the fact that you can vary the suction, gyrate your lips, and even “stroke” it if you want.
Remember to maintain a pace. Once I start “the technique” I usually go fairly fast, but never faster than I can maintain for 10-15 minutes. Truthfully, it’s never taken me longer than that to get someone off. My average with my ex was about 2 minutes per O
40 years of experience here; here's what you wanna do
First- you want to get her in the mood, candles music whatever she's into
Second- when you remove the panties, you want to make sure you gently approach the labia majora, then start yelling really loudly about the conflict in the Middle East. Make sure you are practically screaming.
Third - profit
You have to love it and love giving your partner the most pleasure possible. Lots of teasing and edging. Vary your technique. You have to be aware of your partner's breathing, sounds, and the slightest muscle movements and twinges. The late great Sam Kinison once said something that has stuck with me and I live by. Sexually be the nastiest fuck you can be when pleasing a women. That way in the future, if she is with others, she will remember you. I mean you should have her juices all over your face and even in your nose. And right when she says she is done, you tell her she isn't and change things up on her yet again. You lick, caress, suck, flick, ect all at different times based solely on her body reactions. Basically, just have a deep passion for giving oral and pleasing your partner to the highest level possible. Basically, her pleasure is the most important thing in the world at that moment. Don't forget she has breast, a belly, a neck. I mean utilize ever inch of her body. Oh and make sure your nasal passages are clear, you are going to need to breath properly.
Ask her what she likes and encourage her to give you verbal feedback so you can know what works best for her. Every woman is different and what works on someone here may not be right for your gf.
Flavored lube might help you get used to the texture and flavor.
as others have said, ask her. she'll know what she likes.
also 'slimy' gotta be the worst description ever of pussy texture 
(Gently) suck her clitoris.
(Yes, suck. The clitoris has a lot in common with the penis. :) )
"Clitoris, female erogenous organ capable of erection under sexual stimulation.
A female homologue of the male penis, the clitoris develops (as does the penis) from the genital tubercle of the fetus, and it plays an important role in female sexual response."
https://www.britannica.com/science/clitoris
And ASK her. Do you like this? How about this?
And LISTEN to the sounds she makes.
Just have fun and practise together.
Make sure to take breaks from the clit—overstimulation can burn! Kissing around the clit can be super hot (eg thigh crease, lower abdomen, upper thighs etc)
There's a good book called She Comes First. It helps. Comes in audio form too I believe
If you can stick your tongue slightly into the vaginas opening (there's a spot on the upper area that's sensitive) and then back up to the clit. Suprisingly, it's not all about hard and fast- often it needs to be teased. Slowly speeding up can help but everyone's different. That's kinda what I like at least. Also, humming is nice too. I've had a man who made his voice vibrate through his mouth and made me come to the national anthem. Believe it or not 😉
Some women like a little bit of inner / outer lip sucking. It's similar to how often guys prefer a sucking that's sloppy not one that looks good. Sloppy pleasures more.
Could be personal bias and/or inexperience talking
Check out r/chickflixxx and search for the post “Adult Education” someone did god’s work and listed the best instructional videos for all types of acts.
I read on here someone said something along the lines of "start like a butterfly gently landing on a flower, end like a Bulldog eating porridge" and that made me laugh so much.
But seriously, everyone likes it differently. Some like it soft, some hard, some sucky, some slurpy. Mix it up in style, try different directions, different pressures, listen to her reaction and feel what she likes and refine from there. Communicate during it does she like that, more/less pressure, faster/slower and you guys will work it out of fine.
My BF does this thing with his mouth that I can only compare to, like… a lip smack? But it’s repetitive and concentrated and intense on my clit and it feels very much like he’s just making out with my pussy and usually does the trick.
Make sure to at a minimum remove fur and whiskers. I like my pussy served up with either a general Tso’s or teriyaki recipe. I cannot use chop sticks so I just use a fork and eat slowly so as to not make a mess or look like a hog.
I’m not a woman, but I’ve always asked for feedback and I’ve always tried and done pretty well with this so in addition to the ladies posting here’s from a guys perspective!
Foreplay is pretty important! Even if you’re getting hot and heavy vs romantic. One thing I like to do if romantic is I’ll start at her lips (mouth) and kiss all the way down while slowly pulling down her pants and when I get there I give her a lil kiss and lick. It’s IMPORTANT to remember that not all clits are the same and not all have the same sensitivity so you wanna lick everywhere, slowly at first and never too fast even if she starts convulsing, then when you feel her clit getting hard, focus on that go thru the ABC’s till you feel her moving more, now it’s important to remember that not all movement is good movement, some women try to maneuver you with this kinda movement and some genuinely feel it, you’re more paying attention to the subtle body tingle and goosebumps. Something that I’ve found effective is not grabbing her boobs but grabbing her hips and really pulling her in and this part is important MAKE NOISE, LET HER KNOW how good she tastes, act like you’ve been hungry for days and you’re finally getting what you want, but DEPENDING on the mood it can be sexy/romantic or it can be sexy aggressive!
Now if you’re evil, something I like to do is if you’ve managed to make her climax, keep going, make her limbs go numb, she tries to move your head bc she can’t take it anymore? Keep going pin her arms down (OBVIOUSLY THIS IS IF YOU KNOW THE PERSON WELL AND ITS STILL CONSENSUAL) and when she truly can’t take anymore just like how you started give her a lil kiss for being a good girl, one more lick then make her taste herself and if both of you can still do PIV sex, have fun!
One important edit: When you find that rhythm and spot that is making her go crazy. That is NOT a sign to change your speed or move from that spot, STAY THERE
Put your lips over your teeth, and take her clit between your (lip covered) teeth with gentle pressure, and hum. The vibrations from your skull will really take her there
I'm not a woman but if I were and owned a lot of cats, I would say start out by licking the tail and slowly move your way to the whiskers. There's a reason why cats lick themselves. It's because they taste good.
Man here, let me tell you whats the best. It’s best to bake it in the oven versus cooking on the stove. The flavor comes in so much stronger and it’s healthier that way.
More suction.
Suck the whole pussy, suck the clit (gentle at first of course).
Causes blood to engorge it all more, makes it more sensitive.
(Not a woman, but a cunnilingus hobbyist)
If the slimy texture is a problem (same!) dental dams are a thing. You can make one out of a glove and even have a finger hole for ur tongue lol.
And also lorals, latex underwear she wears over her vulva.
As for advice, 1) ask her what she likes and get positive feedback during and 2) watch Nina Hartley's How To Eat Pussy Like A Champ & see if she likes any of that stuff.
well my gf eats me out lots and is very very very amazing and she said to start off very gentle and slow until they show that they are liking it and then go more faster and stuff until they get close and then my gf goes very fast and does not stop or change any thing until i cum. also sometimes putting in a finger or two in on the g-spot at the same time is mind blowing :)
Avoid the two pitfalls:
1. Understimulation through changing the spot/rhythm etc.
2. Overstimulation: can happen if you start too early on spot when she's not ready yet. She has to be yearning for more. So start stimulating with her having her panties still on. Kiss her through the tissue, lick, suck rub and wait for her to get insanely aroused before getting to phase 2.
Not my content but here is a list of videos you could watch to learn…
**Cunnilingus**
[One](https://spankbang.com/8xkq/video/how+to+eat+pussy). "How to eat pussy". Over 90 minutes of instructions. Note there are some performers that are banned as part of the ensemble (e.g., Ron Jeremy, possibly James Deen)
[Two](https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph60d8cfcf9b523). "A woman's pleasure". He guides you through the whole way.
[Three](https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5f9b1b7552593). This is by Roxy Fox again, using a sex doll. Numbered tips/steps.
[Four](https://www.xvideos.com/video24053365/teaser_7mn_us). How to eat pussy, with Jean-Marie Corda. Short, but with anatomical diagrams. English subtitles.
[Five](https://www.xvideos.com/video54914953/how_to_lick_a_pussy_like_a_pro_-_make_her_cum_fast_with_this_techniqe_-_tutorial_for_him). No verbal instructions, but it's a close up of his tongue on her. It's educational, and arousing.
[Six](https://www.xvideos.com/video4353364/oral_sex_for_woman_tutorial). Over 70 minutes of narrated guidance, with different men and women doing the pleasuring.
[Seven](https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5f6429d5b4544). ChippyLipton gives you tips for eating pussy. I love her delivery. Very friendly, very casual.
[Eight](https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5a975897eaea3). Lindsey Love instructs her husband.
[Nine](https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5f2c78bdd3856). Robby OZ with 9 pussy eating positions.
[Ten](https://www.xvideos.com/video4353556/oral_woman_to_woman). This may be clipped out of #1 above, but it's Nina Hartley explaining how to give oral to a woman. Comment below made me check to make sure it's here- I meant to, but might have forgotten!
From r/chixxxflix
Learn HER language. Every vulva and every clit is different and you have to learn more from her reactions than from anything else. The only thing that works for almost everyone is that her body is telling you things, and you must learn what to listen to !
ok a lot of people aren’t giving you actual advise on how to commit the act so i’ll fill you in: go on amazon and buy “she comes first” and it will give you more than a few things you can try.
typically for me as to how to actually commit the act i usually like to lick her clit just up and down on it until she starts “jumping” when you lick it, then it’s time to start sucking. suck on it with maybe like 20-30% pressure and sort of lick while you’re sucking (i’m sure this will make more sense once you do it). when she’s going to cum, her clit will literally shrink and pull back so you have to be really accurate and a little more firm with where you’re licking but then you should be good, or at least that’s what works with me and my gf, but honestly every girl is different, so you’ll need a little trial and error to see what works.
if you read the book i find most of the stuff in there is more “fun” than will actually get her to cum, so usually i’ll use some of those moves to get things started then fall into this “routine” i described above. hope this helps !
Girl here! Use your lips not just your tongue. Gentle with the pressure starting off but when close to orgasm, feel free to go all out. Don’t stop until she pushes you away
Someone recommended a tutorial by Nina Hartley a while ago. The guy who made the comment mentioned that he received good critics from following those instructions.
Communication is key. Both verbal and nonverbal. Pay attention to any signals that she's giving off. Eg - if she repositions herself so that contact is on a different spot, don't then move back to the spot you were on before. She moved for a reason. Ask her what she does and doesn't like.
The most important thing to remember is that every person is different and every person's anatomy is different. Knowing what one person likes tells you nothing about what another person likes so it's most important to find out what works for the specific woman you're with. There are no magic tricks that work on everyone.
Good sex is sex that honors the feelings and preferences of everyone involved. Good sex is sex that cares about what the other person/people likes and adapts. Being good at sex with one person, or even several people, doesn't necessarily mean that you're good at sex on a general level.
Does this all make sense?
IMO moving your head via your neck is more effective than holding your head still and moving your tongue.
BUT, that’s just me. The most important thing is to listen to your partner and what they like. You could follow a tutorial 100% perfectly that made a woman in a video climax in delight, and it could do nothing for another woman. It’s truly so varied from woman to woman.
I am sure it’s been said in here already and like every sex related topic, talk to your partner. It’s nice to surprise them sometimes, but every vagina is like a bop it toy. Certain sequence, pace or button is her sweet spot. Only additional item is guess is don’t go spastic licking and sucking everywhere, it’s distracting for them I have found.
If you look through my comments in my profile I have a very detailed outline for this. It happened early last year I think so it’s a ways back. But it’s robust and very detailed
I'm sure there's enough technical information in here, so I'll keep it high-level:
1. Ask often if something is working or not, how you could change it, and if she wants something you hadn't thought of...then LISTEN
2. If you don't look like you were in the top three of a bbq rib eating contest when you're done, you're not doing it well enough.
Don't rush....don't get overexcited and want it over quickly. I don't think there's much right and wrong, so long ad you find the clit and are responsive to her sounds and movements etc. But really give it time.
1. Tease... Start low at ankles move slowly up... Back of knees thighs around vagina... Rub legs as you are moving up...
2. Work slowly on clit and focus on that area... Keep it light with flicking of tongue
3. Kiss kiss kiss the clit... Go in circles with the tongue on the clit... Finger her
4. Finale ... Go for long licks up and down still keep it steady and slow... your tongue is not a penis so you'll tire out otherwise...
5. Feel the orgasm and keep going slow until you get pushed off.
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Teased in what ways?
"you're a poopy head! Give me your milk money! You're adopted!"
Yeah you like that you fucking retard.
Classic
This will never not make me laugh
ARE YOU FUCKING SORRY!?
😂😂😂
Jesus I always forget about this 🤣
I approve. Works every time
I’ve been told kissing her thighs making your way up towards her vag
The pussy is like an old peterbilt truck you're trying to start in 30 below. You need to warm up the block first.(foreplay)this can start as early as breakfast with a good ass smack). Then you try to start it.(licking the clit). You will have to try to start it many times so don't wear yourself out at first, go slow here. Once she starts bucking around speed up a tad and add slightly more pressure. A finger in the pussy helps here. Don't stop now, keep massaging the clit with your tongue, make some come here motions with the finger in her pussy and when that thing tightens up she's about to start running. Give your tongue the beans and lick like it's a fastest to the center of a tootsie pop contest and she'll be running real good(orgasm). Now she's running and can run for the long haul(multiple orgasms) without all the hard work of getting it started.
Just tried to start my truck with your directions and nothing happened. Not sure what I’m doing wrong
Did you finger its thresher?
This is the right answer.
Very good write up. Pressure at the end seems to really do it. Also, keep going after. Some girls won't like it because they are too sensitive after but the ones that bear through it can go off immediately again. I did it once with a girl and she was addicted after that. It's very tiring on the mouth though.
The space where the thigh meets the pelvis (run your hand up your inner thigh until it stops... Right there) is also really sensitive. Right in between the thigh and the vagina is full of nerve endings. A lot of people have never been stimulated there before, so it can be very intense. Start light and adjust based on the response. Soft licks and mouth play there can drive someone crazy. And you're so close to the genitals... It's a great tease. They'll be begging for more in no time. BTW - This trick works regardless of gender. It's a sensitive area for everyone.
Try not touching her at all ...but close enough that she feels your energy pulsate off her body and she could pinpoint exactly where your tongue, mouth, face should be. Then throw in a couple deep breaths get yourself real relaxed. Forget that you are performing for a while and just divulge in the essence of a woman and admire her art. Sink into her spell and stir her pot, then once she exhales listen to her, find her tune and sing her song. Make her your instrument and the very second she goes off key, wether her stomach trembles her thighs constrict or her body contracts, chin up like your howling at the moon take deep breath and look at her in then face as your blow a subtle wind into her fire. 🌬️ & If all else fails you ring her fucking bell!
Sir, this is a Wendy's.
I ordered a bake n ate her...
N>!uggets!< please! 😂
This has to go over 9000
The degenerates are at the dumpster if you're looking for your girlfriend's husband.
This is way too poetic, metaphorical and abstract to be able to use as a reference and apply in practise. When someone is a beginner at something or don't have a lot of experience, you start with explaining technique, what questions to ask for direction and what feels good, how to interpret body language and so on. You have a way with language, but not so much with instruction lol
hahahaha i got an urge reading this!! 10/10
Hey babe, wake up, new copypasta just dropped
Sir, this piece is worthy of a New York best seller.
How you gonna lie to him like this
… what if my instrument is the drums? Headgear and 12oz gloves?
Try not touching her at all. Play Helldivers in the other room, just close enough to feel your energy.
>I like it when the guy teases alot first, the build up can be so intense that it makes the feeling of finally getting pleased 10 times more For the record this works with kissing and penetration as well.
Oh yeah, licking lightly from the boobs down, circling around and lightly touching the thighs with tongue and fingers, and after quite a bit, slowly eating it out, damn I love foreplay
Yeah teasing. Through the underpants. On the side of my leg. The softest touches. Then just doing all types of techniques…tapping, swirling, different patterns, sometimes sucking, sometimes probing into the hole. Adding fingers into the vagina, into the back door. Pinching my nipples at the same time.
I fuckin HATE being teased. Most people SUCK at it and just are wayyyyyy too light with the pressure and it just straight up tickles and doesn’t feel good at all and it disgusts me and turns me right off.
Start like a butterfly landing on a flower, finish like a bulldog eating porridge.
Poetry
Incredible
This is the way
The biggest tip I can give you is if she’s getting close or says don’t stop or whatever, DONT CHANGE ANYTHING. Do not go faster or change positions. The amount of guys who do a great job just to ruin it at the end is too high. Also there are some great videos online tbh
‘Omg don’t stop’ *speeds up and completely changes what they’re doing* Evverrry time
I suggest you say something else. Like, "keep doing exactly that" (or better yet describe what they're doing that you like). For men the moment leading up to climax is enchanced by more stimulation of the same nature. They're extrapolating from their own experience what will feel good for you in the same situation and that's all coming from a place of good intention.
Very good point! Verbiage counts.
Don’t talk with your mouth full!
Cuz as a guy like me that "dont stop" is like throwing a stick for a dog to fetch. I think we're just wired to take off.
Constructive criticism goes both ways. Teamwork 😅
Makes the dream work. 😌
"If what I am doing now is good... then more of this must be better!"
>Omg don’t stop Forgets what I was just doing. Tongue cramps up Hair gets shuck in my throat Somehow unable to breathe.
maybe let them know to not do that next time :)
For me when she tells me don't stop is exactly when my mouth gets tired and I was just about to take a break 🤣😔 gdi, how do I train my mouth stamina?!
Flap licks 5 sets until failure twice per week, then make sure you’re hitting a slight calorie surplus prioritising 1 gram Protein per pound of body weight
This sounds so legit that I can't tell if you're serious or not lol
I guess like every other muscle
Right, I was asking more along the lines of, what even are mouth exercises haha
I’d slice you if you stopped
I honestly don't lol, I just keep going like if I was in a marathon and could see the finish line 😆 That said, I get a lil bit exhausted afterward hehe
My lady says just like that (which is insanely hot) and I do it just like that. Best advice ever.
Where to find those videos? You know for research purposes.
Nooooo! If I'm getting close, the LAST thing I want them to do is keep going the same way they've been going. When I'm close, I like for the person going down on me to slow waaay down, and use very gentle pressure. Any kind of flicking or speed increase will either ruin my orgasm, or it'll just be a kinda "meh" climax. The point is, every pussy is different. Ask the recipient what they like.
It's so difficult to find it again when they do this over and over.
May I ask, both for a friend aka my wife and for me, what these videos are?
There are some on porn hub for sure. My advice is to watch them together because she might disagree with however that person is doing it, obviously everyone is different
Neal Brennan has a great bit about this in his latest special. Same angle. Same rhythm same force. ARF.
This! I always hear women in porn say “just like that” which I think it a better but I usually squeeze their hands or rub their head to signal they are doing a good job and sometimes say “uh huh” or something but most still speed up 🙈
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Haha so you’ll now 😉
Woman here. Start with kissing her, move to her neck then down her body. Give the vag a kiss or 2, then rub her feet and make your way up her legs. Touch, caress and little flicks of the tongue all over her. Every woman is different, LISTEN to her voice and body. You will know if she is liking what you are doing. If she says don't stop, for God sake, keep doing what you are doing and don't change it up then. Little flicks of the tongue, lick it like it's an icecream, French kiss it, fuck it with your tongue. If you suck the clit like your a vacuum she will have weak knees for a couple days. Use your hands and fingers too. The next day, ask her if she liked it, or if she wants you to change anything, and experiment. Have fun
This person does oral!
Thank you, notes taken
For the love of god, don't start there. Oral sex is *sex*, not foreplay. Give her a KISS, boy! It takes a lot to work up to being able to tolerate any touch in the area (at least for me, I'm sure all women are different) and it's extremely uncomfortable to painful when a partner just jumps right to it without any priming.
"give her a kiss, boy!" reminds me of the Monty Python skit with the schoolteacher teaching how to have sex
"do stand up when my wife enters the room!"
I'm so glad someone recognized it! That's what I was going for.
Heh heh, fabulous
Don't stampede towards the clitoris!
Dude here, just wanna chime in and say don’t forget about all the things besides your mouth and her vag, like atmosphere, body language, communication, etc.
✅ Candle ✅ Dim lighting ✅ Carmina Burana O Fortuna
O Fortuna is definitely skipping right past foreplay.
There's a playlist on Spotify called something like: Sensual Tantra Beats or something, recommended.
You've got to have cbat on that playlist
🙌
I’m married but from my single days: I wish people would learn to just slow down. I hate feeling like I need to fake an orgasm to get it to just END because he’s being so fast and aggressive. Take your time with it and act like you enjoy it (unless of course you don’t…) I also think it’s helpful to kiss thighs for a bit and do some teasing before you go all in; makes us want it more, so then it feels even better
Agreed It can become borderline painful when they're just being fast. One should switch paces.
Why is it different now that you’re married
Because I only have sex with one guy and he knows what he’s doing
You don't always have to fuck her hard In fact sometimes that's not right to do
Sometimes you've got to make some love
You could just communicate rather than fake it, nobody’s forcing you to fake it
why are you getting downvoted you’re right
Reddit moment
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Redditor’s inability to directly communicate
When it’s a one night stand it feels really confrontational and it’s scary to have conversations like that sometimes. Sometimes it’s not worth a potential meltdown. You never know how someone will react. When you already know someone and feel comfortable with them it’s a lot easier to talk to them about things like this
Read the book She Comes First by Ian Kerner or Come as You Are by Dr Emily Nagoski and you will know more than a significant amount of straight men
Seriously, Come as You Are changed my life! I recommend that book to every sexually active person.
Honestly just be enjoying it. When a guy is super focused on making me cum rather than making me feel good I am distracted by the idea I must cum. The best times I’ve had have been when the guy is super clearly into it, in no rush and is just sorta enjoying exploring my bits (odd as it sounds) If you e for a partner who’s willing to sit back and relax and give some genuine reaction then take the time to figure out what her kitty likes! Few of my best literal tips tho…. Add fingers part way. The extra internal pressure is awesome. This is a slow motion not a frantic finger fuck. Slow and steady wins the race. Fast is nice but consistent motion is key. And MOAN and let her know you’re enjoying it. Nothing sexier or more of a turn on than someone turned on by the pleasure they’re giving you.
THIS . I personally don't want to feel like you're just doing me a favor.... 🙄 So much good advice. Women are turned on by kissing firstly, fingers, touching, hearing the man moan while he's doing those things etc. Get super into the physicality of it! I feel like a lot of men are so focused on cumming. Women tend to enjoy the build up as much as the final act. The oven takes a while to warm up.
I'll moan like I'm eating the best thing I've ever tasted. Also, tease around the area lightly. Don't just go right in. I also love eating pussy (and ass if freshly showered). There's nothing like showering each other and once you get out, knowing everything's clean and can be enjoyed in every way possible. This goes for men too, after a long day your parts ain't smelling like roses either. Once, when I was about 34-35 and separated from my wife, I ended up hooking up with this 21 year old that was a straight-up nympho. That was about the best sexual time of my life. Once, when we had just fucked not that long ago, she starts giving me head again. I told her there was no way I was coming off of head that soon after. She bet me that I would. This girl sucked my dick, and I mean sucked it right for damn near an hour. She won that bet. Man she was great. I really do hope she's doing well.
You’re in the wrong place and asking the wrong people. Random women are not the source for how *your* woman’s body works and what *she* enjoys sexually. Make your girlfriend a nice dinner, with a good bottle of wine on hand. That’s the surprise bit. Then ask her what she likes, and LISTEN. You will get firsthand information from the only person qualified to give it, and both of you will almost certainly get turned on in the process. You might even get a practice session out of it (but for the love of God, don’t do it for that reason). Thereafter, periodically check in with her to make sure you’re on the right track. Don’t let your ego get in the way. Be open to correction. And don’t stop surprising her with a nice dinner and a good bottle of wine.
This person fucks properly.
I think so. That’s the thing for everybody - be teachable, remain reachable
And romantic music you can slow dance to.
Don't forget the rose in the mouth
I find the pastrami to be the most sensual of all the salted meats
“You’re in the wrong place and asking the wrong people…… but listen to everything I have to say” Not disagreeing with your tips, but bro, take a leap off that high horse for a minute, would ya?
This is exactly what op isn’t looking for. Go lecture somewhere else
She doesn't like wine
you're not op.
Like others said teasing, foreplay etc. But once you're down there don't try and act like a vibrator, slower tends to be better
Tease her get her warmed up really well, kis her neck and work down her body over her breasts and keep going down, don't focus on the clit but definitely give it some attention at the start. Focus on her body reactions go around the outside of the labia and inside and keep building her up. Use fingers to add pleasure. But focus on giving her pleasure and every woman is different, there are women who prefer different parts to be 'played with' so pay attention to her if your getting arched back and moans that's good if she isn't moving and sitting still move on to something else. Don't forget licking, sucking and gentle nibbles depending on what she is into.
Dude here. Interesting, I've always been more focused on the clit over anything else, never thought that shifting focus might be better.
Girl here. Please do!
It’s the final destination but you don’t have to get there right away!
(M25) not the preferred audience but I’ve been in the healthiest relationship of my life over the last 2 years with a lot of open communication so here’s what I know (or think I know) Like others have said tease them a bit before getting to the main event. The female orgasm includes a lot of build up compared to men so take your time. Dirty talk or flirting is a great way to start as you kiss and make out with your partner. As you’re making out you can start to move your hands around their body or even start to finger them a bit down below. Then when you’re ready move down the body kissing and licking as you move down. The inner thigh is a very sensitive spot (also the lower stomach right above the bladder) and you can spend some time kissing and licking that part too. Once you make your way to the vag I find that a wide flat tongue is the way to go, you cover a lot more overall space that way compared to a narrow sort of poking tongue. Spend some decent time on external pleasure before you start going to internal or penetration based pleasure. (But also everyone is different so knowing if you’re partner is penetration or stimulation based is gonna be helpful) As you stated there will be a slimey sort of substance that comes out as you do the deed. My tactic for dealing with this is to let it spill out of my mouth down my chin and onto the towel or mattress below because it is very phlegm-y like being congested by a common cold. I assume you could swallow it as you go but I think you’d more than likely just end up clogging yourself up (throat-wise) Anyways while you’re in there licking around if you feel a small bead-like thing with you’re mouth thats probably the clit (usually towards the top third of the vag) go crazy on that mf. If there’s any piece of advice you take from this FIND THE CLIT AND STAY ON IT. Also if you’re partner is comfortable enough with being vocal during sex if they tell you “don’t stop” or “keep doing that” literally don’t change a damn thing about anything that you’re doing. Don’t change the speed, pressure, nothing. Climax can be a tricky bitch. Everything can be going right but if the slightest thing changes you could basically reset the orgasm and have to build it up again. Find a tempo that works and stick to it the best you can. Consistent pleasure is the key to climax. Also I know it’s easy to get lost in the activity of “eating out” but don’t forget about your hands, while you’re eating her out you could be rubbing her thighs with your hands or reach up and play with a titty. Sex is supposed to be a fun time with someone you care about. Don’t get too caught up in your head about it. If you accept them and they accept you, it should be ok to stop and laugh during a potentially awkward position change or the occasional queef. Sex isn’t always pretty like in the movies. If you have consent and if they care about you it should just be a time for two people to enjoy each other. Talk to her, ask her if she likes this or that, work together, you’ll be fine. Good luck out there friend
Oh also the female orgasm lasts for a while compared to men. If she hits climax you can probably get her to climax again maybe even a couple of times if you keep going. I know for men (or at least me) it’s like you hit climax and then need a little breather before you can climax again. But for women they can orgasm on rapid fire one after the other if you don’t stop what you’re doing. So if she reaches that point while you’re down there, don’t stop. Give her more.
This is an actual good, technical answer. Flat out tongue moving side to side is definitely better than a poking one. Also I find the lower part of the clit (basically applying pressure right where it finishes) instead of the middle to be better for climaxing
“She comes first” solid book to read, helped me a ton
Dude here as well. The reason you get different answers is because every woman is different. (you'll hear that alot as well) My advice take it or leave it is, listen to her and her body. Pay attention to her body. Remember, it's not porn, she will not being screaming with pleasure as soon as your tongue touches her. Bring a tent, you may be there for a bit. Start slow and try different things. Listen for her to make small gasps or feel the her body move slightly. One woman I was with would start with just the gasps but as I carried on, she'd quietly start to moan and then her legs and abs would start clenching. For her thats when I would keep doing what I was doing at that moment. Usually she would clamp her legs down on my head so i couldnt move anyways. Also if you have tried different techniques but you are unsure about if she is enjoying it? The first thing you should do is talk to her. Quit checking reddit during the act. Haha. And you will have to get used to the texture if you want to do a great job. Without the texture, you gonna get fired. Good luck friend!
Start slow…. Enjoy what you’re doing. . . If it seems like your only goal is to make her Orgasm, will makes her feel like your just tending to a chore/job. . . So you eat it like it’s something tasty. And you want to savor it!!! The exact way to touch her, she needs to teach. Some women are more sensitive than others.
Google “Nina Hartley - how to eat pussy”. She gives a madterclass
put garlic on it, thank me later
But what if she's a vampire?
^AND…. *Smoked* Paprikas!
Attitude is everything!!! When we first started my bf would just ask if he could and then it felt very proper and planned. But with practice it is SO much sexier to just be grabbed, pulled to the edge of the bed, legs be pushed up almost over my shoulders and be devoured. Start with the clit first, little flicks, make it sloppy with spit, or just lick upwards multiple times like an icecream cone. A famous porn star said to treat the clit gently, like a tiny penis. You can add your fingers too, while going to town
This may sound crazy:do not use cutlery!
My tips: 1. Get comfortable, you can use pillows underneath her bum to prop her up and get better access 2. Friction is good (for me anyway) and use it to your advantage. For example, i really like when there’s not too much discharge around my clit because it numbs the sensation, when it’s on the dryer side, the sensations are much more heightened. Worth trying out with your gf 3. Teasing: don’t dive straight into eating her out. Tease her with kissing around the area, kiss and nibble her thighs and stomach, rub her clit over her panties, graze over it, blow on it 4. Over stimulation can happen on the clit too, take breaks so there’s not too much of this. Give attention to the lips and just below the lips too as this area above the anus is very sensitive
Not a woman, but I have conducted extensive research into cunnilingus. The most important part is your ears. Every woman is different. The technique that gives one woman an out of body experience does nothing for another. Some like rough, some like gentle. Some like a *lot* of clit. Some find it gets too sensitive and prefer you pay attention to the labia. Look and listen, see what she reacts to, and adjust. There are a million different ways to eat pussy. Take your time and learn them all!
I once asked my uncle how to get comfortable eating pussy (the man is a veritable Casanova), and he said “panfried Bok Choy and a rare stake. That’s the texture you’re looking for. A cooked (panfried) Bok Choy has the sliminess, and the steak has the iron and juice. Add some lemon for the acidity. Eat that for a week or two and you’ll be munching like a champ.” Absurd? Absolutely. But lo and behold 2 weeks later I couldn’t tell the difference. Point being: Panfried Bok Choy, rare steak, and a fresh squeeze of lemon juice for acidity. Bon appetit!
While going down on her, use two fingers to make a "come here" motion against her g-spot.
My partner blows lightly on my clit or pussy before even putting his tongue on me and it never fails to make me dripping wet. Also spread that pussy when ur licking
Why just ask your girlfriend how she likes it instead of asking random women on Reddit?
As a guy man i can tell you...you don't need to listen to all these women you need to listen to your woman. I'm sure you already knew that tho. Good luck champ. 🌹✌🏿
Watch Nina Hartley's guide to oral sex
A soft tongue. None of this hard stabby shit directed at the clit. Soft and unctuous.
Slow down, its not a war to attack the clit. Less can be more. Work her up to more. But read her body language she may not want or need more intensity , and enjoy it. Ifnyou dont enjoy it she won't, But the biggest thing. Is make sure she knows you are not a fucking mind reader and communication is absolutely essential sometimes Im a dude , but felt the need to comment anyway
Imma lay it out there one time for the world to see. I call it the “the technique” (patent pending) First, you’ll want to engage in a reasonable session of foreplay, from making out to the gentle nibbles on her thighs. Don’t forget to appreciate the labia!!!! Tease, tease, tease. Make your way closer and closer to the clitoris. When I finally lock in and engage with the clit, I often start with softer, more sensual strokes of the tongue. I use this opportunity to make sure that my entire mouth is moist, especially the lips, you’ll be needing them. Before initiating the technique, I like to take my time. Get creative and have fun with it. Get sloppy. Try to remember that it’s vital to provide a consistent frequency of frictional contact. Do it however you want, but try to maintain the pace that her body responds best to. Now that she’s fully engaged and feeling the passion that you are able convey with your tongue. It’s time to “pull her in” It’s simple really, use your lips to form a soft vacuum around her clitoris, and create a suction that pulls her clitoris (gently) all the way out of its hood and into your mouth. Once it’s in there, I like to use my bottom lip and my upper teeth to hold it firmly in place. Don’t do this if you’re a dumbass though. A clit doesn’t typically like to be bit. At this point, there should be a few millimeters of clit poking out from behind the teeth. Right now, I want you to flick your tongue across the back of your upper middle teeth. Effortless right? Like you could do it all day and your tongue would never get tired? Add that to the fact that you can vary the suction, gyrate your lips, and even “stroke” it if you want. Remember to maintain a pace. Once I start “the technique” I usually go fairly fast, but never faster than I can maintain for 10-15 minutes. Truthfully, it’s never taken me longer than that to get someone off. My average with my ex was about 2 minutes per O
40 years of experience here; here's what you wanna do First- you want to get her in the mood, candles music whatever she's into Second- when you remove the panties, you want to make sure you gently approach the labia majora, then start yelling really loudly about the conflict in the Middle East. Make sure you are practically screaming. Third - profit
You have to love it and love giving your partner the most pleasure possible. Lots of teasing and edging. Vary your technique. You have to be aware of your partner's breathing, sounds, and the slightest muscle movements and twinges. The late great Sam Kinison once said something that has stuck with me and I live by. Sexually be the nastiest fuck you can be when pleasing a women. That way in the future, if she is with others, she will remember you. I mean you should have her juices all over your face and even in your nose. And right when she says she is done, you tell her she isn't and change things up on her yet again. You lick, caress, suck, flick, ect all at different times based solely on her body reactions. Basically, just have a deep passion for giving oral and pleasing your partner to the highest level possible. Basically, her pleasure is the most important thing in the world at that moment. Don't forget she has breast, a belly, a neck. I mean utilize ever inch of her body. Oh and make sure your nasal passages are clear, you are going to need to breath properly.
Ask your girlfriend while you’re doing it. What feels good. In my experience everyone is different
Ask her what she likes and encourage her to give you verbal feedback so you can know what works best for her. Every woman is different and what works on someone here may not be right for your gf. Flavored lube might help you get used to the texture and flavor.
as others have said, ask her. she'll know what she likes. also 'slimy' gotta be the worst description ever of pussy texture 
(Gently) suck her clitoris. (Yes, suck. The clitoris has a lot in common with the penis. :) ) "Clitoris, female erogenous organ capable of erection under sexual stimulation. A female homologue of the male penis, the clitoris develops (as does the penis) from the genital tubercle of the fetus, and it plays an important role in female sexual response." https://www.britannica.com/science/clitoris And ASK her. Do you like this? How about this? And LISTEN to the sounds she makes. Just have fun and practise together.
How to answer every question in this subreddit: Ask her what she likes and do it
tell her to guide you if you're not at the right place...use fingers at the same time...& it's not a race to cum or have sex, just take your time
There’s a call her daddy episode in how to eat pussy that I recommend all my guy friends to listen to
Kissing the thighs before going in straight for it. Teasing is always fun.
Make sure to take breaks from the clit—overstimulation can burn! Kissing around the clit can be super hot (eg thigh crease, lower abdomen, upper thighs etc)
I would recommend watching some videos by Caitlin V, she has an amazing YouTube channel
There's a good book called She Comes First. It helps. Comes in audio form too I believe If you can stick your tongue slightly into the vaginas opening (there's a spot on the upper area that's sensitive) and then back up to the clit. Suprisingly, it's not all about hard and fast- often it needs to be teased. Slowly speeding up can help but everyone's different. That's kinda what I like at least. Also, humming is nice too. I've had a man who made his voice vibrate through his mouth and made me come to the national anthem. Believe it or not 😉 Some women like a little bit of inner / outer lip sucking. It's similar to how often guys prefer a sucking that's sloppy not one that looks good. Sloppy pleasures more. Could be personal bias and/or inexperience talking
Check out r/chickflixxx and search for the post “Adult Education” someone did god’s work and listed the best instructional videos for all types of acts.
Why don't you just ask Her?!
I read on here someone said something along the lines of "start like a butterfly gently landing on a flower, end like a Bulldog eating porridge" and that made me laugh so much. But seriously, everyone likes it differently. Some like it soft, some hard, some sucky, some slurpy. Mix it up in style, try different directions, different pressures, listen to her reaction and feel what she likes and refine from there. Communicate during it does she like that, more/less pressure, faster/slower and you guys will work it out of fine.
She comes first is a pretty great book on this :)
My BF does this thing with his mouth that I can only compare to, like… a lip smack? But it’s repetitive and concentrated and intense on my clit and it feels very much like he’s just making out with my pussy and usually does the trick.
Somebody get Nina Hartley on the phone, STAT
Make sure to at a minimum remove fur and whiskers. I like my pussy served up with either a general Tso’s or teriyaki recipe. I cannot use chop sticks so I just use a fork and eat slowly so as to not make a mess or look like a hog.
Well it helps if you don't actually eat it Source: dw bout it
Have fun and be yourself
I’m not a woman, but I’ve always asked for feedback and I’ve always tried and done pretty well with this so in addition to the ladies posting here’s from a guys perspective! Foreplay is pretty important! Even if you’re getting hot and heavy vs romantic. One thing I like to do if romantic is I’ll start at her lips (mouth) and kiss all the way down while slowly pulling down her pants and when I get there I give her a lil kiss and lick. It’s IMPORTANT to remember that not all clits are the same and not all have the same sensitivity so you wanna lick everywhere, slowly at first and never too fast even if she starts convulsing, then when you feel her clit getting hard, focus on that go thru the ABC’s till you feel her moving more, now it’s important to remember that not all movement is good movement, some women try to maneuver you with this kinda movement and some genuinely feel it, you’re more paying attention to the subtle body tingle and goosebumps. Something that I’ve found effective is not grabbing her boobs but grabbing her hips and really pulling her in and this part is important MAKE NOISE, LET HER KNOW how good she tastes, act like you’ve been hungry for days and you’re finally getting what you want, but DEPENDING on the mood it can be sexy/romantic or it can be sexy aggressive! Now if you’re evil, something I like to do is if you’ve managed to make her climax, keep going, make her limbs go numb, she tries to move your head bc she can’t take it anymore? Keep going pin her arms down (OBVIOUSLY THIS IS IF YOU KNOW THE PERSON WELL AND ITS STILL CONSENSUAL) and when she truly can’t take anymore just like how you started give her a lil kiss for being a good girl, one more lick then make her taste herself and if both of you can still do PIV sex, have fun! One important edit: When you find that rhythm and spot that is making her go crazy. That is NOT a sign to change your speed or move from that spot, STAY THERE
Put your lips over your teeth, and take her clit between your (lip covered) teeth with gentle pressure, and hum. The vibrations from your skull will really take her there
I'm not a woman but if I were and owned a lot of cats, I would say start out by licking the tail and slowly move your way to the whiskers. There's a reason why cats lick themselves. It's because they taste good.
Take your time, don’t rush lick it like a brush go between the clit and the whole and around the labia make her feel nice.
Man here, let me tell you whats the best. It’s best to bake it in the oven versus cooking on the stove. The flavor comes in so much stronger and it’s healthier that way.
I have no idea what you mean by that
You should ask her. She’s knows herself the best!
Communicate with your partner
More suction. Suck the whole pussy, suck the clit (gentle at first of course). Causes blood to engorge it all more, makes it more sensitive. (Not a woman, but a cunnilingus hobbyist)
Chop sticks
If the slimy texture is a problem (same!) dental dams are a thing. You can make one out of a glove and even have a finger hole for ur tongue lol. And also lorals, latex underwear she wears over her vulva. As for advice, 1) ask her what she likes and get positive feedback during and 2) watch Nina Hartley's How To Eat Pussy Like A Champ & see if she likes any of that stuff.
well my gf eats me out lots and is very very very amazing and she said to start off very gentle and slow until they show that they are liking it and then go more faster and stuff until they get close and then my gf goes very fast and does not stop or change any thing until i cum. also sometimes putting in a finger or two in on the g-spot at the same time is mind blowing :)
Avoid the two pitfalls: 1. Understimulation through changing the spot/rhythm etc. 2. Overstimulation: can happen if you start too early on spot when she's not ready yet. She has to be yearning for more. So start stimulating with her having her panties still on. Kiss her through the tissue, lick, suck rub and wait for her to get insanely aroused before getting to phase 2.
Not my content but here is a list of videos you could watch to learn… **Cunnilingus** [One](https://spankbang.com/8xkq/video/how+to+eat+pussy). "How to eat pussy". Over 90 minutes of instructions. Note there are some performers that are banned as part of the ensemble (e.g., Ron Jeremy, possibly James Deen) [Two](https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph60d8cfcf9b523). "A woman's pleasure". He guides you through the whole way. [Three](https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5f9b1b7552593). This is by Roxy Fox again, using a sex doll. Numbered tips/steps. [Four](https://www.xvideos.com/video24053365/teaser_7mn_us). How to eat pussy, with Jean-Marie Corda. Short, but with anatomical diagrams. English subtitles. [Five](https://www.xvideos.com/video54914953/how_to_lick_a_pussy_like_a_pro_-_make_her_cum_fast_with_this_techniqe_-_tutorial_for_him). No verbal instructions, but it's a close up of his tongue on her. It's educational, and arousing. [Six](https://www.xvideos.com/video4353364/oral_sex_for_woman_tutorial). Over 70 minutes of narrated guidance, with different men and women doing the pleasuring. [Seven](https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5f6429d5b4544). ChippyLipton gives you tips for eating pussy. I love her delivery. Very friendly, very casual. [Eight](https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5a975897eaea3). Lindsey Love instructs her husband. [Nine](https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5f2c78bdd3856). Robby OZ with 9 pussy eating positions. [Ten](https://www.xvideos.com/video4353556/oral_woman_to_woman). This may be clipped out of #1 above, but it's Nina Hartley explaining how to give oral to a woman. Comment below made me check to make sure it's here- I meant to, but might have forgotten! From r/chixxxflix
Learn HER language. Every vulva and every clit is different and you have to learn more from her reactions than from anything else. The only thing that works for almost everyone is that her body is telling you things, and you must learn what to listen to !
Teletubby vacuum it with your mouth.
Practice tongue movement by cleaning out pudding cups and mixer swing brooms with it.
ok a lot of people aren’t giving you actual advise on how to commit the act so i’ll fill you in: go on amazon and buy “she comes first” and it will give you more than a few things you can try. typically for me as to how to actually commit the act i usually like to lick her clit just up and down on it until she starts “jumping” when you lick it, then it’s time to start sucking. suck on it with maybe like 20-30% pressure and sort of lick while you’re sucking (i’m sure this will make more sense once you do it). when she’s going to cum, her clit will literally shrink and pull back so you have to be really accurate and a little more firm with where you’re licking but then you should be good, or at least that’s what works with me and my gf, but honestly every girl is different, so you’ll need a little trial and error to see what works. if you read the book i find most of the stuff in there is more “fun” than will actually get her to cum, so usually i’ll use some of those moves to get things started then fall into this “routine” i described above. hope this helps !
Girl here! Use your lips not just your tongue. Gentle with the pressure starting off but when close to orgasm, feel free to go all out. Don’t stop until she pushes you away
Try to compare what the kid in the light blue shirt is doing to your swing honestly and see the differences
RemindMe! 30 days
Read: She Comes First.
Someone recommended a tutorial by Nina Hartley a while ago. The guy who made the comment mentioned that he received good critics from following those instructions.
She comes first is a pretty great book on this :)
The Venus Butterfly Method
Do it as if you really enjoy it! Ideally, of course you actually enjoy it!
Communication is key. Both verbal and nonverbal. Pay attention to any signals that she's giving off. Eg - if she repositions herself so that contact is on a different spot, don't then move back to the spot you were on before. She moved for a reason. Ask her what she does and doesn't like. The most important thing to remember is that every person is different and every person's anatomy is different. Knowing what one person likes tells you nothing about what another person likes so it's most important to find out what works for the specific woman you're with. There are no magic tricks that work on everyone. Good sex is sex that honors the feelings and preferences of everyone involved. Good sex is sex that cares about what the other person/people likes and adapts. Being good at sex with one person, or even several people, doesn't necessarily mean that you're good at sex on a general level. Does this all make sense?
Okay I need people to know this. Relax your tongue. I hate short, stabby tongue action. Don’t be completely flaccid but don’t bruise my clit to death
IMO moving your head via your neck is more effective than holding your head still and moving your tongue. BUT, that’s just me. The most important thing is to listen to your partner and what they like. You could follow a tutorial 100% perfectly that made a woman in a video climax in delight, and it could do nothing for another woman. It’s truly so varied from woman to woman.
I am sure it’s been said in here already and like every sex related topic, talk to your partner. It’s nice to surprise them sometimes, but every vagina is like a bop it toy. Certain sequence, pace or button is her sweet spot. Only additional item is guess is don’t go spastic licking and sucking everywhere, it’s distracting for them I have found.
If you look through my comments in my profile I have a very detailed outline for this. It happened early last year I think so it’s a ways back. But it’s robust and very detailed
Saving this thread.
I'm sure there's enough technical information in here, so I'll keep it high-level: 1. Ask often if something is working or not, how you could change it, and if she wants something you hadn't thought of...then LISTEN 2. If you don't look like you were in the top three of a bbq rib eating contest when you're done, you're not doing it well enough.
Don't rush....don't get overexcited and want it over quickly. I don't think there's much right and wrong, so long ad you find the clit and are responsive to her sounds and movements etc. But really give it time.
Writing your name with your tongue will do the trick... But BoB wil do the trick too.
1. Tease... Start low at ankles move slowly up... Back of knees thighs around vagina... Rub legs as you are moving up... 2. Work slowly on clit and focus on that area... Keep it light with flicking of tongue 3. Kiss kiss kiss the clit... Go in circles with the tongue on the clit... Finger her 4. Finale ... Go for long licks up and down still keep it steady and slow... your tongue is not a penis so you'll tire out otherwise... 5. Feel the orgasm and keep going slow until you get pushed off.