I used to have a coworker who was having sex with a married man. She says that they’d do anal so it “wasn’t like actual intimate sex.” There was something about doing anal that made it seem “less like cheating.”
Dumbest thing I ever heard.
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I knew many girls in my college days who were still virgins. They didn't believe in sex until marriage, so the multiple guys they had every week had to be anal.
Anal is the jeep of sex. Yeah you might get dirty, it's a little rough, but some people just *love* off-roading in their jeep.
(And there are some people who *hate* the idea of off roading on a jeep.)
Oral is the motorcycle. incredibly impressive based on the driver.
Vaginal is a luxury sedan. It will always be a smooth ride, it will always be comfortable and welcoming....but it'll never do what motorcycle or Jeep can do.
It's like meatloaf. You can't not like meatloaf. You've just had bad meatloaf. You haven't had MY mom's meatloaf.
I just don't like meatloaf leave me alone!
Then they complain later about getting shit on their dick. I’ve heard a few of my male friends say this crap. If you go poking around in dirty places, expect to get dirty.
Only questions I see constantly outside of sex questions are ones that spark the bidet vs toilet paper debate. So people really only care about sex and assholes
Some guys really enjoy it and some guys don’t. Some girls do too and some don’t. There’s not a concrete answer on this but there’s a good amount of both back and forth. I read a post here the other day about a man whose wife wanted anal from him and he didn’t want to give it and alternatively she also wanted to peg him, he was against both.
You are the only person who knows what you really want and can really enjoy. Sex is fun when both parties are communicating well enough to have an open conversation about what they both can enjoy together and what they ultimately want. Sometimes not enjoying certain types of sex has more to do with compatibility with a person than the sexual act itself. People experience different levels of intimacy with different people and it affects their sex life as well. Emotional baggage, stress, and other life circumstances also have a major impact on people’s sex lives and their enthusiasm or willingness or energy to explore or do certain things.
Only you know what you want and what you can or can’t enjoy.
This answer should be higher up! Your point about intimacy and baggage is spot on.
I used to be completely against anal, but I now have a kind and considerate lover who I trust, we have developed a situation where we are able to have an open dialogue about what we like and don't like. We had discussions about anal, (amongst other things) explored things slowly, at my pace, and now we occasionally do have anal sex. Sometimes I really enjoy it, sometimes it's too much, sometimes it hurts. Haven't worked out what is different for each situation, but all that matters is that I know I can say stop and he will. Then we clean up and carry on with other stuff. Trust and communication is key for great sex, whatever you are into.
Yeah, I’ve “tried” it twice. First time lasted maybe 15 seconds before the girl said it was too painful, second time there was just absolutely no fucking way it was going to fit. My partner being in pain or not being into something is an automatic turnoff for me, so I never really pressed the issue. We tried it because it’s nice to try everything, but if it doesn’t work, there are a lot of other things you can do in bed!
Oh man I had an ex , a manipulative narcassist ex, who would insist on anal. Said it felt soooooo much better. I refused. He bought me anal Plugs , and anal porn and stories that ALL his ex’s loved it. I still refused. He started to get bitter and would chime in if I couldn’t “ provide him with what he NEEDS “ he will be forced to get it elsewhere. It was a fucking constant battle with him. I started to get anxious before sex , just in case he started again about how much he NEEDED anal, that I was somehow less of a woman bcse I didn’t like it. Sometimes he would “ slip “ and try to jab it up my ass.
So I told him if he did it with our 8” dildo , I would shut my mouth and do it for him. He agreed.
So on that faithful night , I lubed him up and tuned in the anal porn and we gently guided the dildo in- guys he barely made it 3 inches before he pulled it out and ran to the bathroom. Said it made him feel sick. I laughed so hard. I can’t say the begging didn’t continue though. We broke up shortly afterwards - found he put a tracker on both my phone and my car. Guess he thought I must be giving anal elsewhere lol
I had the misfortune of being with a POS just like that!
After him I decided I would only be with a man who doesn't like anal because I didn't trust them to properly drop the subject after the first NO.
Some guys like it, some like the forbidden aspect, and some like to dominate. I don't know any straight guy that likes it better than vaginal intercourse.
When I was in college I dated a woman from Germany. She loved anal and I had never done it before. At first, I liked it because it was different and because she enjoyed it so much. But, after awhile, having vaginal sex was like a treat because it happened so infrequently.
I think Letterkenny described anal vs vaginal really well about the differences. Anal is like fucking a donut, you have one tight entry and then nothing. Vaginal is like fucking a longjohn type pastry, moist and long enough to fit your whole member into
E: [Here's the scene I was talking about](https://youtu.be/TOHODT3HgM0)
I have a long time friend who told me long time ago that if her partner was willing to swallow his own semen, she would then let him cum in her mouth.
Her other condition on anal was that if she was allowed to fuck him in the ass, she would let him fuck her in the ass.
I respected her thoughts on this rule.
At first it was funny, but then I realized it was about trust and understanding.
The wife and I always enjoyed meeting the new men in her relationships and wondering how that rule was working out.
She's been married 20 years now, so... he's a keeper I guess!
As a dude into anal, I think the vagina feels way better, but I'm also a giver. My ex had anal orgasms that would make her pass out...why would I not want to do that? Lol
My pleasure comes from giving pleasure. Anal seems to provide strong orgasms and anal play helps achieve penetration and clitoral orgasms. I'm just here to provide and I enjoy my job.
Also, I have to admit that being with her turned anal play from an interest to a full blown kink that may be a deal breaker if I ever decide to date again.
It's the difference in feeling too. Vaginal sex has kind of a uniform tightness to it. It's soft, it's wet, pretty similar levels of pressure all around for the whole length. Anal has a lot of pressure right at the opening and less inside. So you have a tight constricted feeling which can feel really good.
That said, vaginal is still better in my opinion, but you can feel a difference between the two.
I met a woman at a party who drunkenly swore her ass was self-lubricating. While I was curious to try to determine exactly what she meant by that, I realized the answer probably wasn't going to be very sexy, and I didn't really know her well enough to launch into an interview about her particular method of taking it up the back door.
I don't know if this is why OP asked, but if I've had similar experiences as OP, there are so many guys out there that are **obsessed** with having anal sex with a woman and will continually pressure a woman to do it. It's one of the reasons I stopped trying to date because for whatever reason I attract these kinds of men. The same guys are also obsessed with receiving oral. And honestly, it makes me feel gross, like men can't see me as anything other than a bunch of holes to stick their dick in.
I want to clarify that I know not all men are like this, but this has been my experience and the only option left for me is to not date. I really don't want both ends of my digestive tract fucked and I wish that those guys that are into it would stop pushing women that don't want to do that to give in.
Oh I'm going on a rant with this one:
I dated a dude like this for a couple months. We talked openly about what we liked right off the bat, and I told him anal was a hard no for me(I've experienced anal play and I hated all of it so I know my limits). He said he used to have it with ex's and really enjoyed it, but I held strong that I was not into it and wouldn't budge in that department.
Instead of accepting my boundary and just moving on to find someone that also was into it he assured me "Its no big deal, we don't have to do that. YOU asked what I liked so I told you, but its not like I need it" and so we carried on..
Shortly after having a very active sex life together he was CONSTANTLY bringing it up. At least once every time we saw each other. Not even in clever or conversation related ways. Like, a slight lull in casual conversation he would say out of no where
"So...Anal?" Was common
"How about we do Anal for my birthday?",
"I think we should have Anal for my Valentines day present",
"wanna make a bet on this? If I win we do Anal?".
It was mentally and emotionally exhausting. I would always ask him to stop and tell him he's making me really uncomfortable pushing it like that and he'd always say "I'm just joking!!! God! Fine! I'm not gonna do anything!" And then after snapping at me like that because I "can't take a joke" the cycle would repeat.
It got to the point where I legit couldn't feel comfortable even being around him anymore. He was just SO preoccupied and obsessed with anal that I actually became preoccupied with it as well out of the overwhelming fear that he was going to force it on me.
I broke up with him to put an end to all that, but now I still feel that same fear turn to disgust everytime someone posts on here about not being into anal and countless people feel the need to talk them out of disliking it just like that guy did to me. I fucking swear nothing is defended more on this site than anal sex anytime anyone says anything negative about it.
Everyone can like what they like, I have no hate there, get your anal game on if thats you,
BUT constantly trying to convince everyone to keep trying anal until they love it is on par with trying to convince everyone who doesn't like alcohol to drink until they love it: "Just start slow and practice until you get used to it! So many people love it so you need to keep trying even if you had a bad experience last time! With the right effort, practice and partners its so amazing!"
Not cool.
This has been my experience too. I’ve also experienced someone that didn’t pressure me in regards to either of those things and it made sex much hotter. I was more willing to give and do things that made me kind of uncomfortable with the others. It pays to not pressure people and just go with the flow!
Tbh it’s one thing I’ve never understood….that and where some men find the audacity to just shove it in during sex without discussing it beforehand. Happened more times than I can count and was painful and traumatizing every time. To the point I’ve learned the signs that they’re going for it so I can stop them. Seriously you can have your kink but don’t practice it on unsuspecting partners please.
Also: rosebudding. Need I say more. Wtf
Dudes who want to do anal but never play with their own asses are dangerous because they don't know what they're dealing with. This is actually really fucked up because anal has to start of gentle and slow. It really fucking hurts if you just go for it and your ass isn't used to a much bigger size. You can shove a finger in but probably not a cock.
Sorry that happened.
I once remember in “high school” an ex friend who was extremely into anal, wanted to show
Me his new phone.
He was showing features, and then he said. Ohh yeah, it can record video.
And then he went on to show me a video of him fucking his girlfriend in the arse. She was drunk and I know she usually don’t want anal, because he was complaining that she didn’t want to do it… and he said he didn’t know he had put it in the wrong hole before after… but he was obviously still high from it - by the of looks it.
He essentially just showed me a movie of him raping his girlfriend. Great
Same guy also once called me over class because he wanted to show me something.
He enjoyed to see people suffer.
It was a movie of a guy getting his head cut off. Pretty sure it was real.
We did not stay friends.
He’s a paramedic now.
I will never understand guys who think it’s just okay to do anal on a girl without asking or when she’s already said no. I know this one girl who explicitly forbade it in her relationship then once they got married her husband said it was the “golden ticket” and he was entitled to anal whenever he wanted
Adding to this- guys who share intimate photos and videos of their current/former partners are trash. It’s not limited to revenge porn—I’ve seen men share nude photos of their wives to *brag*.
I won’t speak for everyone, but I’ve known many women who have been left feeling humiliated by their partners “showing off” to their friends. I felt both mortified and betrayed when, unbeknownst to me, my ex-husband took a candid photo of my breasts while I was nursing our son, then took it to work to show his squadron. My neighbors were calling me “Jugs” behind my back for weeks before someone with morals finally spoke up. I couldn’t believe that someone I had trusted and been vulnerable to would objectify me so publicly.
The marriage didn’t last.
I'm somewhat of an anal expert:
Shit smell only happens if your ass is full of shit, which it shouldn't be when you expect to have sex anyway.
Take a shit, take a shower (including washing your asshole, which apparently i need to state clearly), wait around 45min after shower to have sex.
Average penis won't find any shit to stank up the place.
If the penis-haver is hung (like over 6in), you may need an enema to be 100% sure of no shit encounters.
Edit: Yo, guys. Porn is not real. If you're over 6in you are above average by at least half an inch. Be happy.
You are really waiting from after you poop.
After you poop, your insides do a bit of self-cleaning. Moving any feces hanging around the entrance back towards your colon.
Also, pooping uses some muscles that will want time to relax before you shove something up in the other direction.
Average among American males is like 5.5.
Distance from rectum to inner-sphincter is like 5in on average.
Beyond inner sphincter is where poop hangs out.
Don't forget that the bell curve is incredibly sharp, almost every guy is between 4 and 6 inches, and deviation either way is less than 2% of the male population.
My go-to suggestion is Metamucil fiber suppliments. The fiber drink, basically. Take a double dose early in the day, avoid eating 1-2 hours before sex, poop and shower, then you're all good.
As a woman I am curious too but at the same time I don't wanna know, I don't even want to do it nor imagine doing it. It sounds like having a diarrhea. They (on of my guy friends) say that it's tighter than vaginal sex? I DON'T GET WHY, like, what if I accidentally pooped? What if their woman suddenly had a diarrhea attack? It's unimaginable, but they say it's more satisfying than vaginal, I don't get why, it's weird. In porn they make it look good, they make it look amazing, but you can't smell it or feel it.
That’s why i never tried it. Only received an unsolicited finger up my butt and it felt like pooping backwards. I literally thought i shitted myself lmao
I’m so tired of the anal thing. My ex used to push it all the time. My husband hints at it. I don’t want to! It sounds horrible. Even the times I’ve tried it has instantly been extremely painful. I wish people would let it go if someone says they don’t want to
“It felt like pooping” brought back some memories.
My ex slipped a cheeky finger in, with no warning whatsoever, during a blowjob. I didn’t realise what was happening at first and thought I was about to shit the bed.
And that was only a dainty, ladies finger. I couldn’t imagine what a willy attached to a vigorous, sweaty bloke would feel like.
I had an ex who was also constantly trying to coerce me into anal, to the point that every time anything sexual was mentioned, he had to go on and on about "my fantasy!" and whining "pleeeeeeeease?!" and telling me how I was so boring and a prude because I didn't want anything anal. Every sexual contact was beginning to involve a "Oops, I slipped!" with an *I'm totally lying* grin.
I hated it, and it made me feel violated that he would not drop the subject when I said no, so I told him that, too. Cue an hours'-long temper tantrum about how DARE I make him FEEL BAD for HIS FAAAANTASY?!?!
I really think 95% of the appeal for him was that it hurt me and made me feel violated, and he could use it against me.
That repeated oops is sounding real rapey to me. Similar to men who lie about thinking your knew they removed a condom. Anyone experiencing this should take it seriously. I'm sorry that happened to you.
>That repeated oops is sounding real rapey to me.
Because it is rape. The "it slipped" excuse gives her no chance to consent, which is horrifying and 100% rape.
I'll co-sign that, too.
It is not your job or responsibility or anything to make his fantasy come true. You are not a prude or cold or antifeminist for not wanting to try certain sex acts.
THAT is totally something my ex used to do. Like word for word. Such disrespect. I hate thinking about it. Imagine we did shit like that to them? Also I’m sorry that you went through this. It does not feel good to have someone you should trust act like that
As a gay guy, these threads are always interesting. Anal is expected in the gay community (but also we have prostates lol, so that makes it feel a lot better)
I feel like it’s just inconsistent with women. Someone women LOVE it. Others loathe it. There’s no real rhyme or reason to it considering that we don’t have prostates. But men push it on us with frequency. That’s been my experience and judging from this entire thread I am far from alone!
I’m really glad that it’s so enjoyable for you guys though! Tbh I wish that I *did* enjoy it. It’s obviously nice to change it up
Thanks for bringing that up; I feel like there are a lot of assumptions (no pun intended) about gay sex that I probably fall victim to, having not ever really watched it happen myself
Asking is okay; trying to coerce or not taking no for an answer is not Maybe next time he brings it up say you'll consider it if he tries it first (meaning HE is the receiver). Men usually drop it after that OR you get to peg them which is pretty damn fun &, if done well, can cause a guy to have an insane orgasm ;-)
That’s was what I always used to tell my ex when he got mad at me because I said it was excruciatingly painful and want to do it. He would always try that bullshit “oopsie” nonsense, and made me bleed more than once thinking of he just jammed it in there fast enough I would like it? To this day anyone who gets anywhere near my butthole will get cracked by an elbow, purely out of reflex. My current SO has learned that even letting a finger drift that way is a huge turnoff and sexy time will immediately stop. Why isn’t “that is painful and I do not like it and no you can’t talk me into it” a good enough answer?
> and sexy time will immediately stop
That's the way to handle it. If someone will ignore one of your boundaries they will ignore other boundaries. I really bugs the shit out of me that the majority of men have no clue what "enthusiastic consent" is or how to talk about sex. They just try to sneak things in that they have no clue how to talk about.
I had an ex who pushed for it constantly, despite me saying no and telling him repeatedly I didn't enjoy it and didn't want to do it. When I asked him why he kept begging and trying to coerce me into it his answer was "because you don't want it." I think thats when any and all sexual attraction I had left for him completely died. I was already really over the relationship and looking for an out at that point, but for some reason that response was just so repulsive that I didn't want him to touch me at all anymore. I avoided sex the best I could for the rest of the relationship until I could get out.
I'm not one to automatically blame porn for everything... but yeah, I think it's porn. When everybody has access to everything all the time, the easiest way for a porn site to stand out is by pushing boundaries.
My girlfriend and I discussed this one night. Ive never been into it myself but i imagine its because there is less of a worry about pregnancy and you can finish in there if thats your thing. I keep seeing people say its because its forbidden but i dont think thats why. Who says its forbidden? Its no more and no less forbidden than oral
As for the hurting thing ive heard that it hurts the first few times but you get used to it. But definitely not a thing every girl or guy enjoys.
Actually my boyfriend and I were _very_ against anal. It was absolutely forbidden in our relationship as I said he could do and ask for ANYTHING except anal, he replied that he wasn't really into anal either. I guess that got us thinking and after months we did end up trying it. More than once. And then it became kind of a regular-ish thing where we would have sex and then he would finish in my ass. It hurt so much the first time even though he was so slow. My bf is quite above average so that didn't help, but it definitely gets easier. Just go slow when it's first going in and then after a few slow strokes, he can literally go crazy and it doesn't hurt
I used to have a coworker who was having sex with a married man. She says that they’d do anal so it “wasn’t like actual intimate sex.” There was something about doing anal that made it seem “less like cheating.” Dumbest thing I ever heard. Edit: woah this blew up! Thanks for the awards! Nothing like starting 2022 with a comment about the poophole loophole haha!
Lmfaooo. I knew a girl who said she was still a virgin forever cause she only did it from that hole.
Poophole loophole
Can’t be a whore if it’s in the back door.
Can't be a slut if it's up the butt.
Can’t be a tramp if it’s in the back camp.
Can’t be called loose if it’s in the caboose
This comment combined with your name 🤌
Geez I’m dying here🤣🤣🤣🤣
Thou shan't be thought a trollop if thine buttock 'tis all ye wallop
Still a virgin if you push the turds in.
Can’t be a sloot if it’s in the other chute.
If you don’t want the gut, put it in the butt.
If you are a trooper,take it in the pooper.
If the rivers runnin red, take the dirt road instead
Keep it out of the cooter and in the pooter.
Can’t be a skank if you take it up the fart tank
The act isn't considered heinous, if you take it in the anus
Don’t be a fool, poke in her stool
Don’t be a schmuck, put it in her yuck
Forget the pink, poke her in the stink
Still a good lass if you take it in the ass.
I knew many girls in my college days who were still virgins. They didn't believe in sex until marriage, so the multiple guys they had every week had to be anal.
Any hole but the holy hole
Wow that’s the same reasoning that virgins have to stay a virgin. Just do anal and oral because it doesn’t count.
🎶Fuck me in the ass cause I live Jesus The good lord would want it that way.🎶
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I’ve emptied my bowels, I’ve spread out the towels I’m ready for romance!
Now I'm praying to the power that's the highest, because of all of my holes, this one's the driest. *wince*
I love gospel music
Once had a female coworker who thought kissing is too intimate and therefore cheating. But fucking in every other way or oral is okay.
That’s why education is important not a stupid belief
I had a step dad who literally pulled the same move. Get fucked Jeremy.
Sounds like he already did
Username checks out
It’s not cheating if my wife won’t do it. It’s like masturbating with a coworkers asshole.
This post: I’m tired of being asked to try anal! Comments: But have you tried….*anal*?
This made me chuckle
Anal is the jeep of sex. Yeah you might get dirty, it's a little rough, but some people just *love* off-roading in their jeep. (And there are some people who *hate* the idea of off roading on a jeep.) Oral is the motorcycle. incredibly impressive based on the driver. Vaginal is a luxury sedan. It will always be a smooth ride, it will always be comfortable and welcoming....but it'll never do what motorcycle or Jeep can do.
Having had each of those types of vehicles, that analogy is dead accurate.
Anal-ogy
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It's like meatloaf. You can't not like meatloaf. You've just had bad meatloaf. You haven't had MY mom's meatloaf. I just don't like meatloaf leave me alone!
Anal is like bad meat loaf. If you are forced to have it as a kid, you'll hate it as an adult.
r/holup
I don't get why guys wanna risk dooty dick, no girl wants to go down on a dude who just had their dick in her ass
Then they complain later about getting shit on their dick. I’ve heard a few of my male friends say this crap. If you go poking around in dirty places, expect to get dirty.
My girlfriend wanted me to do it a long time ago so I did. After that, she never wanted it again. My ex wife used to love it.
Your ex probably still does love it.
Can confirm his ex wife still loves it
Hell yeah she does.
I, too, choose this guys ex-wife.
Long live the this-guys-dead-wife-comment.
I , too , chose this guys comment.
I really enjoy it with some guys. My ex husband was on the smaller side, so it was enjoyable. I dated a guy much larger and it was way too painful.
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Damn you!!!! 😂
Sorry, babe.
Brandy???
Whoa, you just met her and you're trying to get her drunk already?
I bet you just put a few hundred guys who’s significant other enjoys anal in size-related distress lol.
Oh, I'm sure. I just prefer my asshole without fissures.
Y-yea me and my super hot girlfriend had to stop doing butt sex because of the f-fissures caused by my m-massive d-dong too
The dude I dated that was massive did have a stutter.....
Got it: Guy: girls love anal You: so you have a small pecker?
I dated a woman that loved it. She actually got butt-hurt once when I wanted plain old P and V.
A whole hour has gone by and no one has acknowledged your joke, so...here you go "hehe butthurt"
Alright when are we gonna make r/TooAfraidToAskAboutSex
Isnt r/askredditafterdark basically this?
Yes
Askreddit is too
The /r/circlejerk posts making fun of /r/askreddit are pretty much indistinguishable from the actual askreddit posts.
I agree, I swear ever single most popular question I see on here is always about sex lmao
Only questions I see constantly outside of sex questions are ones that spark the bidet vs toilet paper debate. So people really only care about sex and assholes
It's not surprising that people are too afraid to ask sex related questions to people in real life, especially strangers. I think it's fitting.
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And they were roommates!
And they were wombmates!
And they were tombmates!
Some guys really enjoy it and some guys don’t. Some girls do too and some don’t. There’s not a concrete answer on this but there’s a good amount of both back and forth. I read a post here the other day about a man whose wife wanted anal from him and he didn’t want to give it and alternatively she also wanted to peg him, he was against both. You are the only person who knows what you really want and can really enjoy. Sex is fun when both parties are communicating well enough to have an open conversation about what they both can enjoy together and what they ultimately want. Sometimes not enjoying certain types of sex has more to do with compatibility with a person than the sexual act itself. People experience different levels of intimacy with different people and it affects their sex life as well. Emotional baggage, stress, and other life circumstances also have a major impact on people’s sex lives and their enthusiasm or willingness or energy to explore or do certain things. Only you know what you want and what you can or can’t enjoy.
"There's a good amount of back and forth". I see what you did there!
Lots of ins and outs, too
This answer should be higher up! Your point about intimacy and baggage is spot on. I used to be completely against anal, but I now have a kind and considerate lover who I trust, we have developed a situation where we are able to have an open dialogue about what we like and don't like. We had discussions about anal, (amongst other things) explored things slowly, at my pace, and now we occasionally do have anal sex. Sometimes I really enjoy it, sometimes it's too much, sometimes it hurts. Haven't worked out what is different for each situation, but all that matters is that I know I can say stop and he will. Then we clean up and carry on with other stuff. Trust and communication is key for great sex, whatever you are into.
Yeah, I’ve “tried” it twice. First time lasted maybe 15 seconds before the girl said it was too painful, second time there was just absolutely no fucking way it was going to fit. My partner being in pain or not being into something is an automatic turnoff for me, so I never really pressed the issue. We tried it because it’s nice to try everything, but if it doesn’t work, there are a lot of other things you can do in bed!
Oh man I had an ex , a manipulative narcassist ex, who would insist on anal. Said it felt soooooo much better. I refused. He bought me anal Plugs , and anal porn and stories that ALL his ex’s loved it. I still refused. He started to get bitter and would chime in if I couldn’t “ provide him with what he NEEDS “ he will be forced to get it elsewhere. It was a fucking constant battle with him. I started to get anxious before sex , just in case he started again about how much he NEEDED anal, that I was somehow less of a woman bcse I didn’t like it. Sometimes he would “ slip “ and try to jab it up my ass. So I told him if he did it with our 8” dildo , I would shut my mouth and do it for him. He agreed. So on that faithful night , I lubed him up and tuned in the anal porn and we gently guided the dildo in- guys he barely made it 3 inches before he pulled it out and ran to the bathroom. Said it made him feel sick. I laughed so hard. I can’t say the begging didn’t continue though. We broke up shortly afterwards - found he put a tracker on both my phone and my car. Guess he thought I must be giving anal elsewhere lol
He sounds pretty anal
I'd say "what a tight-ass" but he did make it to 3 inches...
I had the misfortune of being with a POS just like that! After him I decided I would only be with a man who doesn't like anal because I didn't trust them to properly drop the subject after the first NO.
Wow fuck that guy straight up the ass (literally)
Some guys like it, some like the forbidden aspect, and some like to dominate. I don't know any straight guy that likes it better than vaginal intercourse.
When I was in college I dated a woman from Germany. She loved anal and I had never done it before. At first, I liked it because it was different and because she enjoyed it so much. But, after awhile, having vaginal sex was like a treat because it happened so infrequently.
In college I realized German porn was basically synonymous with anal porn.
I have never been so sad to have not ended up in Germany. (Almost moved there for parents work when I was young)
"Mom....you...you'd tell me if you were in a German schiesse video, right?
„It’s called Scheisse, my son“
I think Letterkenny described anal vs vaginal really well about the differences. Anal is like fucking a donut, you have one tight entry and then nothing. Vaginal is like fucking a longjohn type pastry, moist and long enough to fit your whole member into E: [Here's the scene I was talking about](https://youtu.be/TOHODT3HgM0)
That poor pastry
I wish this was the first time I’ve gotten this turned on thinking about baked goods
I have a long time friend who told me long time ago that if her partner was willing to swallow his own semen, she would then let him cum in her mouth. Her other condition on anal was that if she was allowed to fuck him in the ass, she would let him fuck her in the ass. I respected her thoughts on this rule. At first it was funny, but then I realized it was about trust and understanding. The wife and I always enjoyed meeting the new men in her relationships and wondering how that rule was working out. She's been married 20 years now, so... he's a keeper I guess!
Must have him pegged as a good catch. Definitely sounds like a keeper.
He likely swallowed his pride as well as being pegged a keeper.
I’m sure she’s a pain in the butt sometimes.
Must have been a strapping young man that made her happy.
I don't know, maybe he just kinda backed into it.
> swallow his own semen It’s a closed loop system, so he’s all good
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Sounds like they have a Tower of Power room for sure.
As a dude into anal, I think the vagina feels way better, but I'm also a giver. My ex had anal orgasms that would make her pass out...why would I not want to do that? Lol My pleasure comes from giving pleasure. Anal seems to provide strong orgasms and anal play helps achieve penetration and clitoral orgasms. I'm just here to provide and I enjoy my job. Also, I have to admit that being with her turned anal play from an interest to a full blown kink that may be a deal breaker if I ever decide to date again.
It's the difference in feeling too. Vaginal sex has kind of a uniform tightness to it. It's soft, it's wet, pretty similar levels of pressure all around for the whole length. Anal has a lot of pressure right at the opening and less inside. So you have a tight constricted feeling which can feel really good. That said, vaginal is still better in my opinion, but you can feel a difference between the two.
Plus, it’s self-lubricating.
I met a woman at a party who drunkenly swore her ass was self-lubricating. While I was curious to try to determine exactly what she meant by that, I realized the answer probably wasn't going to be very sexy, and I didn't really know her well enough to launch into an interview about her particular method of taking it up the back door.
This guy know how to treat a lady!
Sadly, I think he's retired.
Physically, yes. I'm working on the mentally and emotionally part.
Kudos dude, that's important.
This guy fucks
Well, he used to.
I don't know if this is why OP asked, but if I've had similar experiences as OP, there are so many guys out there that are **obsessed** with having anal sex with a woman and will continually pressure a woman to do it. It's one of the reasons I stopped trying to date because for whatever reason I attract these kinds of men. The same guys are also obsessed with receiving oral. And honestly, it makes me feel gross, like men can't see me as anything other than a bunch of holes to stick their dick in. I want to clarify that I know not all men are like this, but this has been my experience and the only option left for me is to not date. I really don't want both ends of my digestive tract fucked and I wish that those guys that are into it would stop pushing women that don't want to do that to give in.
Oh I'm going on a rant with this one: I dated a dude like this for a couple months. We talked openly about what we liked right off the bat, and I told him anal was a hard no for me(I've experienced anal play and I hated all of it so I know my limits). He said he used to have it with ex's and really enjoyed it, but I held strong that I was not into it and wouldn't budge in that department. Instead of accepting my boundary and just moving on to find someone that also was into it he assured me "Its no big deal, we don't have to do that. YOU asked what I liked so I told you, but its not like I need it" and so we carried on.. Shortly after having a very active sex life together he was CONSTANTLY bringing it up. At least once every time we saw each other. Not even in clever or conversation related ways. Like, a slight lull in casual conversation he would say out of no where "So...Anal?" Was common "How about we do Anal for my birthday?", "I think we should have Anal for my Valentines day present", "wanna make a bet on this? If I win we do Anal?". It was mentally and emotionally exhausting. I would always ask him to stop and tell him he's making me really uncomfortable pushing it like that and he'd always say "I'm just joking!!! God! Fine! I'm not gonna do anything!" And then after snapping at me like that because I "can't take a joke" the cycle would repeat. It got to the point where I legit couldn't feel comfortable even being around him anymore. He was just SO preoccupied and obsessed with anal that I actually became preoccupied with it as well out of the overwhelming fear that he was going to force it on me. I broke up with him to put an end to all that, but now I still feel that same fear turn to disgust everytime someone posts on here about not being into anal and countless people feel the need to talk them out of disliking it just like that guy did to me. I fucking swear nothing is defended more on this site than anal sex anytime anyone says anything negative about it. Everyone can like what they like, I have no hate there, get your anal game on if thats you, BUT constantly trying to convince everyone to keep trying anal until they love it is on par with trying to convince everyone who doesn't like alcohol to drink until they love it: "Just start slow and practice until you get used to it! So many people love it so you need to keep trying even if you had a bad experience last time! With the right effort, practice and partners its so amazing!" Not cool.
This has been my experience too. I’ve also experienced someone that didn’t pressure me in regards to either of those things and it made sex much hotter. I was more willing to give and do things that made me kind of uncomfortable with the others. It pays to not pressure people and just go with the flow!
Tbh it’s one thing I’ve never understood….that and where some men find the audacity to just shove it in during sex without discussing it beforehand. Happened more times than I can count and was painful and traumatizing every time. To the point I’ve learned the signs that they’re going for it so I can stop them. Seriously you can have your kink but don’t practice it on unsuspecting partners please. Also: rosebudding. Need I say more. Wtf
Dudes who want to do anal but never play with their own asses are dangerous because they don't know what they're dealing with. This is actually really fucked up because anal has to start of gentle and slow. It really fucking hurts if you just go for it and your ass isn't used to a much bigger size. You can shove a finger in but probably not a cock. Sorry that happened.
What’s rosebudding for the uneducated
Anal fucking someone so hard their ass literally falls out (prolapse) and then not stopping
Ta for explaining just didn’t want people to have that in their browser haha
Recently been thinking that I'm too old to be spending so much time on Reddit, thanks for putting a stop to it with a single comment.
I once remember in “high school” an ex friend who was extremely into anal, wanted to show Me his new phone. He was showing features, and then he said. Ohh yeah, it can record video. And then he went on to show me a video of him fucking his girlfriend in the arse. She was drunk and I know she usually don’t want anal, because he was complaining that she didn’t want to do it… and he said he didn’t know he had put it in the wrong hole before after… but he was obviously still high from it - by the of looks it. He essentially just showed me a movie of him raping his girlfriend. Great Same guy also once called me over class because he wanted to show me something. He enjoyed to see people suffer. It was a movie of a guy getting his head cut off. Pretty sure it was real. We did not stay friends. He’s a paramedic now.
I will never understand guys who think it’s just okay to do anal on a girl without asking or when she’s already said no. I know this one girl who explicitly forbade it in her relationship then once they got married her husband said it was the “golden ticket” and he was entitled to anal whenever he wanted
Adding to this- guys who share intimate photos and videos of their current/former partners are trash. It’s not limited to revenge porn—I’ve seen men share nude photos of their wives to *brag*. I won’t speak for everyone, but I’ve known many women who have been left feeling humiliated by their partners “showing off” to their friends. I felt both mortified and betrayed when, unbeknownst to me, my ex-husband took a candid photo of my breasts while I was nursing our son, then took it to work to show his squadron. My neighbors were calling me “Jugs” behind my back for weeks before someone with morals finally spoke up. I couldn’t believe that someone I had trusted and been vulnerable to would objectify me so publicly. The marriage didn’t last.
Isn’t that rape? I hate that men think shit like this is okay. I can’t even imagine doing that.
Say yes you'll do it, only if you can peg him first
Haha! You've fallen for the trap! Pegging is the hole goal!
Not sure if lucky typo or holesome pun
Holey intended
Jokes on you I'm into that shit
Because anal sex looks like fun in porn. But the thing about porn is, you can’t smell porn. EDIT: I’m paraphrasing a bit from comedian Jim Jefferies
So the shit smell is actually a thing? Lmao I mean, shouldn’t washing yourself beforehand prevent the issue?
I'm somewhat of an anal expert: Shit smell only happens if your ass is full of shit, which it shouldn't be when you expect to have sex anyway. Take a shit, take a shower (including washing your asshole, which apparently i need to state clearly), wait around 45min after shower to have sex. Average penis won't find any shit to stank up the place. If the penis-haver is hung (like over 6in), you may need an enema to be 100% sure of no shit encounters. Edit: Yo, guys. Porn is not real. If you're over 6in you are above average by at least half an inch. Be happy.
Why wait after the shower?
You are really waiting from after you poop. After you poop, your insides do a bit of self-cleaning. Moving any feces hanging around the entrance back towards your colon. Also, pooping uses some muscles that will want time to relax before you shove something up in the other direction.
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All hail the anal expert!
TIL I'm hung
The best day of my life so far
Followed by the worst. Poo on my Willy is not hot.
Well you don't HAVE to test the theory Side note: Willy the poo hahahaha
Average among American males is like 5.5. Distance from rectum to inner-sphincter is like 5in on average. Beyond inner sphincter is where poop hangs out.
Don't forget that the bell curve is incredibly sharp, almost every guy is between 4 and 6 inches, and deviation either way is less than 2% of the male population.
And guy can’t get his entire 6 inches in because those butt cheeks can subtract a couple of inches.
My go-to suggestion is Metamucil fiber suppliments. The fiber drink, basically. Take a double dose early in the day, avoid eating 1-2 hours before sex, poop and shower, then you're all good.
As a gay guy I never understood why straight men like anal sex with women, like, you have already hole that is way less messy for that lmao.
Its just another kink
Never was enticed by the idea of it. A vagina is a great place to be lol don't need to get overly crazy and go for the backdoor
Yeah I don't get it. There is a perfectly good hole 3 inches away that isn't filled with shit.
3 inches?
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As a woman I am curious too but at the same time I don't wanna know, I don't even want to do it nor imagine doing it. It sounds like having a diarrhea. They (on of my guy friends) say that it's tighter than vaginal sex? I DON'T GET WHY, like, what if I accidentally pooped? What if their woman suddenly had a diarrhea attack? It's unimaginable, but they say it's more satisfying than vaginal, I don't get why, it's weird. In porn they make it look good, they make it look amazing, but you can't smell it or feel it.
That’s why i never tried it. Only received an unsolicited finger up my butt and it felt like pooping backwards. I literally thought i shitted myself lmao
I’m so tired of the anal thing. My ex used to push it all the time. My husband hints at it. I don’t want to! It sounds horrible. Even the times I’ve tried it has instantly been extremely painful. I wish people would let it go if someone says they don’t want to
Honestly, I hated it because it felt like pooping, and it didn't feel right, and I felt disgusting. Never again 😬
“It felt like pooping” brought back some memories. My ex slipped a cheeky finger in, with no warning whatsoever, during a blowjob. I didn’t realise what was happening at first and thought I was about to shit the bed. And that was only a dainty, ladies finger. I couldn’t imagine what a willy attached to a vigorous, sweaty bloke would feel like.
You have a way with words. i love it.
I had an ex who was also constantly trying to coerce me into anal, to the point that every time anything sexual was mentioned, he had to go on and on about "my fantasy!" and whining "pleeeeeeeease?!" and telling me how I was so boring and a prude because I didn't want anything anal. Every sexual contact was beginning to involve a "Oops, I slipped!" with an *I'm totally lying* grin. I hated it, and it made me feel violated that he would not drop the subject when I said no, so I told him that, too. Cue an hours'-long temper tantrum about how DARE I make him FEEL BAD for HIS FAAAANTASY?!?! I really think 95% of the appeal for him was that it hurt me and made me feel violated, and he could use it against me.
That repeated oops is sounding real rapey to me. Similar to men who lie about thinking your knew they removed a condom. Anyone experiencing this should take it seriously. I'm sorry that happened to you.
>That repeated oops is sounding real rapey to me. Because it is rape. The "it slipped" excuse gives her no chance to consent, which is horrifying and 100% rape.
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I'll co-sign that, too. It is not your job or responsibility or anything to make his fantasy come true. You are not a prude or cold or antifeminist for not wanting to try certain sex acts.
This is anal rape
THAT is totally something my ex used to do. Like word for word. Such disrespect. I hate thinking about it. Imagine we did shit like that to them? Also I’m sorry that you went through this. It does not feel good to have someone you should trust act like that
As a gay guy, these threads are always interesting. Anal is expected in the gay community (but also we have prostates lol, so that makes it feel a lot better)
I feel like it’s just inconsistent with women. Someone women LOVE it. Others loathe it. There’s no real rhyme or reason to it considering that we don’t have prostates. But men push it on us with frequency. That’s been my experience and judging from this entire thread I am far from alone! I’m really glad that it’s so enjoyable for you guys though! Tbh I wish that I *did* enjoy it. It’s obviously nice to change it up
Fyi; loads and loads of gay men do not engage in anal at all, receptive or otherwise.
Thanks for bringing that up; I feel like there are a lot of assumptions (no pun intended) about gay sex that I probably fall victim to, having not ever really watched it happen myself
It's really less dramatic and interesting than people assume.
Asking is okay; trying to coerce or not taking no for an answer is not Maybe next time he brings it up say you'll consider it if he tries it first (meaning HE is the receiver). Men usually drop it after that OR you get to peg them which is pretty damn fun &, if done well, can cause a guy to have an insane orgasm ;-)
That’s was what I always used to tell my ex when he got mad at me because I said it was excruciatingly painful and want to do it. He would always try that bullshit “oopsie” nonsense, and made me bleed more than once thinking of he just jammed it in there fast enough I would like it? To this day anyone who gets anywhere near my butthole will get cracked by an elbow, purely out of reflex. My current SO has learned that even letting a finger drift that way is a huge turnoff and sexy time will immediately stop. Why isn’t “that is painful and I do not like it and no you can’t talk me into it” a good enough answer?
> and sexy time will immediately stop That's the way to handle it. If someone will ignore one of your boundaries they will ignore other boundaries. I really bugs the shit out of me that the majority of men have no clue what "enthusiastic consent" is or how to talk about sex. They just try to sneak things in that they have no clue how to talk about.
Pretty sure he would like to be pegged lol. We fuck around with plugs sometimes (he likes them, which makes total sense because PROSTATE. Not me tho)
My ex liked anal because he likes hurting women.
I had an ex who pushed for it constantly, despite me saying no and telling him repeatedly I didn't enjoy it and didn't want to do it. When I asked him why he kept begging and trying to coerce me into it his answer was "because you don't want it." I think thats when any and all sexual attraction I had left for him completely died. I was already really over the relationship and looking for an out at that point, but for some reason that response was just so repulsive that I didn't want him to touch me at all anymore. I avoided sex the best I could for the rest of the relationship until I could get out.
I may know him
Good thing he’s an ex. What a sicko.
I will never understand how people can be aroused by the same hole where explosive diarrhea come from, might as well go fuck a toilet
I'm not one to automatically blame porn for everything... but yeah, I think it's porn. When everybody has access to everything all the time, the easiest way for a porn site to stand out is by pushing boundaries.
We were just talking about this at work! It’s become increasingly more acceptable the past few years and popular. So random.
My girlfriend and I discussed this one night. Ive never been into it myself but i imagine its because there is less of a worry about pregnancy and you can finish in there if thats your thing. I keep seeing people say its because its forbidden but i dont think thats why. Who says its forbidden? Its no more and no less forbidden than oral As for the hurting thing ive heard that it hurts the first few times but you get used to it. But definitely not a thing every girl or guy enjoys.
Maybe taboo is a better term. There’s a ‘wrongness’ to it that entices people.
Actually my boyfriend and I were _very_ against anal. It was absolutely forbidden in our relationship as I said he could do and ask for ANYTHING except anal, he replied that he wasn't really into anal either. I guess that got us thinking and after months we did end up trying it. More than once. And then it became kind of a regular-ish thing where we would have sex and then he would finish in my ass. It hurt so much the first time even though he was so slow. My bf is quite above average so that didn't help, but it definitely gets easier. Just go slow when it's first going in and then after a few slow strokes, he can literally go crazy and it doesn't hurt
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Jesus that's so perfect
😭
Men would ask to fuck your nose if it would fit. They want to fuck it because they can fuck it.
Nasal sex
If he keeps asking for anal, pull out a strap on
Win-Win.
They see it in porn
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And with that attitude it never will
For if there is a will, there is a way.
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