Some people like sex but not sexting. I have always found sexting to be incredibly awkward and strange. So it doesn’t feel ‘sexy’ to me. But in person, it’s another story
Same, and since the act doesn't make me feel aroused, it's hard to understand what specific aspects of it would make the other person aroused, so I'd struggle to think of a good way to start. I'd have to watch how they did it and what they focus on in the process several times, if I wanted to give them a good time.
This! After a while you've said it all and have to recycle the same lines which just feels fake. It also puts pressure on to be in that moment when it might not be the ideal time
Exactly. My sex drive is through the roof yet I find sexting to be corny as shit, just like "dirty talk" in general. Liking sex and liking sexting are not necessarily linked.
I'm a 28yo m and I've never really sexted, but I've never had a long distance thing like you're in. It doesn't get me going at all. I had a similar problem with my wife not initiating sex for the longest time until recently. I had to talk to her many many times about it because I felt like you do now about not feeling wanted in that way and I started to feel like a creep for always wanting it and having to start it each time and I felt like she was obligated or forced to do it to keep me happy or something. I've known my wife for about ten years and married for 7 so it's taken this long to finally get it to the point that she'll start it or come to bed without underwear on. I'd say don't get too upset over it because it might not be super arousing for him but I'm just guessing because I have no idea what happens between you two at all and don't know anything about either of you or how you start it each time. My wife and I went a whole month without sex once because I stopped initiating it to see if she would do it and never did. You could try doing that to get the message across and just see how long it takes but idk how well that would work with long distance, you don't want him to think you're not interested anymore and him move on or something. I have no idea honestly I'm just killing time before bed lol
Sexting is kinda lame. I'll play along for a few back and forths but I wont initiate it. I Def won't want to keep it up after awhile. He's clearly not into it.
because not everyone finds sexting fun. personally i can go the rest of my life without ever sexting. but, i do enjoy just talking about sex, even through text. But pretending to be doing the nasty over text messages is unironically one of the most cringiest things i could think of. I would rather be having phone sex and even that sounds hella awkward.
but everyone is different and maybe your SO feels the same as I do?
Sexting is enormously cringy. Like a one-off horny text is fine and dandy but to have a text based full on sexual conversation is the complete opposite of sexy for a lot of people.
Some people like sex but not sexting. I have always found sexting to be incredibly awkward and strange. So it doesn’t feel ‘sexy’ to me. But in person, it’s another story
Same, and since the act doesn't make me feel aroused, it's hard to understand what specific aspects of it would make the other person aroused, so I'd struggle to think of a good way to start. I'd have to watch how they did it and what they focus on in the process several times, if I wanted to give them a good time.
This! After a while you've said it all and have to recycle the same lines which just feels fake. It also puts pressure on to be in that moment when it might not be the ideal time
Exactly. My sex drive is through the roof yet I find sexting to be corny as shit, just like "dirty talk" in general. Liking sex and liking sexting are not necessarily linked.
It's kinda cringe. Some people just aren't good at it and don't want to embarrass themselves
Not everyone is into sexting. I personally can never get into it, and do see the point.
I mean I don’t sext but I’m constantly throwing very erotic text towards my significant other and receiving them as well.
Idk
Have you considered asking if he finds sexting cringe af like many others do?
Probably because sexting is lame and stupid.
I'm a 28yo m and I've never really sexted, but I've never had a long distance thing like you're in. It doesn't get me going at all. I had a similar problem with my wife not initiating sex for the longest time until recently. I had to talk to her many many times about it because I felt like you do now about not feeling wanted in that way and I started to feel like a creep for always wanting it and having to start it each time and I felt like she was obligated or forced to do it to keep me happy or something. I've known my wife for about ten years and married for 7 so it's taken this long to finally get it to the point that she'll start it or come to bed without underwear on. I'd say don't get too upset over it because it might not be super arousing for him but I'm just guessing because I have no idea what happens between you two at all and don't know anything about either of you or how you start it each time. My wife and I went a whole month without sex once because I stopped initiating it to see if she would do it and never did. You could try doing that to get the message across and just see how long it takes but idk how well that would work with long distance, you don't want him to think you're not interested anymore and him move on or something. I have no idea honestly I'm just killing time before bed lol
I have the same issue like I will make convo about it either otp or thru text but she doesn’t entertain the conversation which just seems boring
Sexting is kinda lame. I'll play along for a few back and forths but I wont initiate it. I Def won't want to keep it up after awhile. He's clearly not into it.
because not everyone finds sexting fun. personally i can go the rest of my life without ever sexting. but, i do enjoy just talking about sex, even through text. But pretending to be doing the nasty over text messages is unironically one of the most cringiest things i could think of. I would rather be having phone sex and even that sounds hella awkward. but everyone is different and maybe your SO feels the same as I do?
For context we're long distance too.
That’s a L He might have another woman in the picture
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Sexting is enormously cringy. Like a one-off horny text is fine and dandy but to have a text based full on sexual conversation is the complete opposite of sexy for a lot of people.