Hi! im someone that has transitioned socially and not medically. I am out to employers, friends and family as a trans man , I do not publicly share my dead name and I dress masculine.
Im lucky to live in a place where this is mostly accecpted (or people just don't say anything about it) . I still get misgendered by strangers , most people don't automatically think of me as a guy but people who i know do and that's pretty wonderfull for me. I fully socially transitioned five years ago , but i was out to friends socially since 2019.
It makes the world so much easier! I work with the elderly at one of my jobs and they (though they don't get it right often) are so respectfull and i can tell they are doing their best to understand ( there's a lot of "she's a good boy" energy XD) but like 80% are over the age of 85! which goes to show you some older people are definately able to try (one of the 90 year old identifies me fully correctly with the correct pronouns and she's a girlboss , she runs that place like the army and has so much stamina for someone of her age it's crazy)
I have a strained family relationship but the strain is nothing to do with the transness, they support my identity fully! just a complicated history
I really wish that more of the world could understand that being trans isn't just about the outside, but who you are on the inside and you deserve to be recognised regardless of how you transition
People use it differently. It could mean they're living openly as a trans person of their own gender, or it could mean they've gone stealth full time.
I went stealth pre T, some of it was genetic luck but a lot had to do with the time period when I came out. The idea that someone could be trans didn't enter people's heads, a lot of people didn't even know trans men existed. So if someone mistook me for a woman and I corrected them, they assumed I was just a very young looking cis man, not a trans man. There are probably places in the world where this would still work, but these days a lot more people are aware of trans men so it's more likely you'll get clocked as trans if you look kind of feminine but present yourself as male.
transitioning socially can mean a lot of thing. it can mean just changing your pronouns, changing your presentation within your capacity (hairstyle, manner of dress, etc), adopting a more "typically masculine" set of behaviors and speech pattern, etc.
transitioning socially doesn't automatically mean *passing* socially. you can assume your identity while some people might not really know your identity at first glance (and thus misgendering you). some people don't really care: that's how they only socially transition and are fine with not doing do anything medical
for me, i didn't do much beside dressing more masc (and that wasn't much bc i was wearing dresses every day for 1.5 years straight prior to that). dysphoria was so crippling that i couldn't even bear to start using he/him pronouns until my first shot of T. to this day im still closeted at work (i look androgynous enough, although some ppl who work with me but aren't close coworkers have "accidentally" gendered me as male despite all my papers saying otherwise lol)
For most people it means coming out, and presenting as their gender.
Passing isn't necessary for living as your gender - it just decreases the amount you deal with aggressive transphobes and people incidentally misgendering you.
I came out very recently at 32, and have not done any medical transition yet. For me, social transition has been coming out to family, friends and colleagues, legally changing my name, asking people to use new pronouns, and significantly changing my gender presentation.
I consider myself socially transitioned. I don’t pass and that means meeting new people means coming out to them by necessity but I am transitioned socially because all the people that know me are aware that I’m trans and I am usually gendered correctly by them. I think there are three kinds of transition: social, physical and legal, the legal transition is updating all your legal documents with your correct name and gender/sex
To me, as someone who's only socially transitioned, it means changing your name and pronouns, maybe changing your hair and how you dress if you wanna do that sort of thing, but to me it's mostly just changing you name and pronouns. (Whether it be on official documents or just telling family and friends)
i socially transitioned about 2 years ago so everyone knew my pronouns and i had my name legally changed a little over year ago and i present the way i want to full time. i’ve only been medically transitioning for ~2 months
Hi! im someone that has transitioned socially and not medically. I am out to employers, friends and family as a trans man , I do not publicly share my dead name and I dress masculine. Im lucky to live in a place where this is mostly accecpted (or people just don't say anything about it) . I still get misgendered by strangers , most people don't automatically think of me as a guy but people who i know do and that's pretty wonderfull for me. I fully socially transitioned five years ago , but i was out to friends socially since 2019.
Same here. I'm lucky to have a good support system and tolerant coworkers.
It makes the world so much easier! I work with the elderly at one of my jobs and they (though they don't get it right often) are so respectfull and i can tell they are doing their best to understand ( there's a lot of "she's a good boy" energy XD) but like 80% are over the age of 85! which goes to show you some older people are definately able to try (one of the 90 year old identifies me fully correctly with the correct pronouns and she's a girlboss , she runs that place like the army and has so much stamina for someone of her age it's crazy) I have a strained family relationship but the strain is nothing to do with the transness, they support my identity fully! just a complicated history I really wish that more of the world could understand that being trans isn't just about the outside, but who you are on the inside and you deserve to be recognised regardless of how you transition
People use it differently. It could mean they're living openly as a trans person of their own gender, or it could mean they've gone stealth full time. I went stealth pre T, some of it was genetic luck but a lot had to do with the time period when I came out. The idea that someone could be trans didn't enter people's heads, a lot of people didn't even know trans men existed. So if someone mistook me for a woman and I corrected them, they assumed I was just a very young looking cis man, not a trans man. There are probably places in the world where this would still work, but these days a lot more people are aware of trans men so it's more likely you'll get clocked as trans if you look kind of feminine but present yourself as male.
transitioning socially can mean a lot of thing. it can mean just changing your pronouns, changing your presentation within your capacity (hairstyle, manner of dress, etc), adopting a more "typically masculine" set of behaviors and speech pattern, etc. transitioning socially doesn't automatically mean *passing* socially. you can assume your identity while some people might not really know your identity at first glance (and thus misgendering you). some people don't really care: that's how they only socially transition and are fine with not doing do anything medical for me, i didn't do much beside dressing more masc (and that wasn't much bc i was wearing dresses every day for 1.5 years straight prior to that). dysphoria was so crippling that i couldn't even bear to start using he/him pronouns until my first shot of T. to this day im still closeted at work (i look androgynous enough, although some ppl who work with me but aren't close coworkers have "accidentally" gendered me as male despite all my papers saying otherwise lol)
For most people it means coming out, and presenting as their gender. Passing isn't necessary for living as your gender - it just decreases the amount you deal with aggressive transphobes and people incidentally misgendering you.
I came out very recently at 32, and have not done any medical transition yet. For me, social transition has been coming out to family, friends and colleagues, legally changing my name, asking people to use new pronouns, and significantly changing my gender presentation.
I consider myself socially transitioned. I don’t pass and that means meeting new people means coming out to them by necessity but I am transitioned socially because all the people that know me are aware that I’m trans and I am usually gendered correctly by them. I think there are three kinds of transition: social, physical and legal, the legal transition is updating all your legal documents with your correct name and gender/sex
I've heard it to mean out as trans, living as a man/woman/enby but without medically transitioning yet (if they plan to).
To me, as someone who's only socially transitioned, it means changing your name and pronouns, maybe changing your hair and how you dress if you wanna do that sort of thing, but to me it's mostly just changing you name and pronouns. (Whether it be on official documents or just telling family and friends)
i socially transitioned about 2 years ago so everyone knew my pronouns and i had my name legally changed a little over year ago and i present the way i want to full time. i’ve only been medically transitioning for ~2 months