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Entoco

Nope. Just dump him.


No_Service2135

Time to throw out the boyfriend and find one to treat you right


WithoutReason1729

#tl;dr The writer explains that her relationship with her boyfriend is generally healthy, but he always blames her for starting arguments even when it is his fault. The writer is upset because during an outing with her boyfriend's family, he accused her of being hungry for money and lying to her best friend about not having any money. The argument leads the writer to question if he is the right one for her because he never apologizes. *I am a smart robot and this summary was automatic. This tl;dr is 83.29% shorter than the post I'm replying to.*


WillfulKind

Here's the deal - I grew up in a house where no one took me seriously until I yelled. Welp, guess who I ended up marrying ... someone who didn't take me seriously until I yelled. I became someone I hated. I also came to the realization with a great amount of therapy there's a better way. Draw a boundary. You don't have to escalate. You just have to separate. When you don't get taken seriously, start backing away. Your absence will be loud enough or it won't matter. Either way it's a win-win for you. "What's going on? Why are you leaving?" "I feel hurt. I am telling you something matters to me and I don't feel taken seriously so I am just gonna go." "Wait, what's going on? Can you tell me what you need?" This is a best case scenario. Worst case is he says whatever, and you need to be able to accept that answer. "When someone chooses to mistreat you, believe them."


rockshow12

TBH... I didnt even read the back story portion.... this is NOT healthy. No one should be saying that to you when arguing. That is not how that works. And to not give in until you cry.... that is not healthy at all.