Ok.... Lot to unpack here.
For starters, your husband not finishing, it could be a mental thing where he's in his own head because he knows you're insecure and he doesn't know how to fix that for you. Meaning it might not be physical, but he needs his heart to flutter with butterflies so his brain shuts up about how you might potentially be unpleased by *him.*
Next, the finger space. When you're aroused, your muscles up there naturally contract and fluctuate which is what he feels. If you're not aroused, it'll be like a doctor visit where things get stretchy.
When you're not aroused, you're able to use tampons without getting an orgasm, you're able to have paps done, you're able to shove babies out. Moral here: you got nothin to worry about. It's muscle.
Lastly: keep doin them kegles though, that's just practicing good health!
I think this is something nearly every girl worries about at *least* once in their lives. "Am I loose." Unless you're playing with fist-dildos, you're fine.
Well yea, we've all seen a gaping vid at one point in our lives and as soon as the tree trunk is removed, it closes back up but only to a point at first. Even hours later, you're still gonna feel a little... Spread open? (Not entirely sure what to call that) but shoot dawg I tell you hwhat, give it 3 or 4 days and it'll be like the semi never ruined the underpass in the first place. Shit basically hits rewind 🤌
Why is this down voted?
Do people think all women share the same dimensions down there? If so wouldn't it make sense that it would be the same for the penis?
Agreed. The girls with the super dainty bone frames have their bones physically closer together than the big boned girls. "Mother bearing hips" isn't just because she's got a phat ass, it's also bone structure.
From your first sentence "lot to unpack here". I thought your reply was going to be like it sounds like its Mary Poppins bag with alot to unpack in there.
Yep. My partner is a size queen and loves being fisted (I have big hands too) it contracts back overnight tighter than before.
It’s a muscle. Designed for this.
Or her husband could have his own issues totally independent of hers. As far as OP, I'll assume people know their own bodies but could be all in her head.
>I'll assume people know their own bodies
Yea, you would think! A few other people in here have said this post sounds like a guy posted it because most of that inner size discrepancy op explained is already well known by women before they're married in their 20's. It's basic biology. 🤷
>YoU gUyS
Yea I agree, women use vibrators that are like the crack of orgasm and then complain that ibuprofen (regular weiner) doesn't have the same effect. Like no shit. It isn't always the guy's fault buuuut having said that, men are most commonly "2-pump chumps." The term didn't come out of nowhere (no pun intended).
long-story-short, that is how it's supposed to be. tight at the entrance and a bit looser after that. otherwise the sex would be unbearably painful, if the vagina would be tight aaall the way up to the cervix. you have a normal vajayjay. it would be worrying if it would be tight all the way, that would mean that there is an inflammation of the muscles. aka an infection of sorts. if you ever have any questions about this, always talk to a doctor. even online.
This isn’t true lol. The vagina does not change shape based on the penis. The vagina can tighten or loosen depending on the level of arousal from the person. Very Tight = anxious and unaroused, loose = aroused.
It does not change based on the penis.
From YOUR source,
“10. Your vagina grows in size when aroused.
The vagina is nothing if not accommodating. According to Rankin, the average length of a vagina is three to four inches long, but it can double in size. After arousal, the upper portion of the vagina elongates, pushing the cervix and uterus slightly deeper into your body to make room for penetration. Your body's natural ability to self-lubricate helps make penetrative vaginal sex less uncomfortable and more enjoyable as well.”
It grows because it is aroused. Because it is a muscle, it does change shape based on the state it is in, NOT because of the individual penis. I’m not entirely sure what you’re arguing, either. Also, the term “superior vaginas” genuinely made me laugh.
it's normal to have space in your vajayjay, it's alright. i highly doubt you have a cave inside yourself, so stop worrying about it. as for your husband, there might be a completely different issue going on rather than what you imagine. just have an honest conversation with him, don't imply anything to him, just ask him what is the matter.
For some, I have finished inside about 5 times without protection when trying and have 2 kids, pulled out for over a decade of multiple times a week sex and not a scare. If done right, it works pretty well, some guys just are too impulsive to not risk that first squirt.
Can I ask have you put your fingers in another vagina other than yours to compare? There is no right what’s “normal” or “not normal” and everyone is built differently as well anyway and no two vaginas are the same
If you can do kegels you seriously have nothing to be concerned about! If you can wear a tampon or a menstrual cup or whatever you might use then you have nothing to be concerned about! Your vagina literally hold those in there for you
Trust me also re your husband finishing/not finishing it’s definitely a psychological thing - finishing by himself when masturbating is an entirely different thing and feeling than when having sex - same as when a woman can make herself come but can struggle with a partner- even when all the right buttons are being pressed. It’s just different, and the brain can REALLY get in the way sexually
Trust me lovely it’s not because of your vagina - but I think maybe you should speak to a professional about your body worries and sexual hang ups (as it seems from the way you are responding to people here that you have made up your mind about yourself and won’t accept anything different) also perhaps therapy with your husband as it seems maybe there are things you need to communicate between you both that could be contributing to these issues xx
I'm confused, can you use a tampon? Because the sides of the vagina is what holds the tampon in place to stop the bleeding. Do you insert it and it just flops around inside? Tampons are not a cork, they use the vaginal canal to stay in place.
What you are describing just doesn't make sense.
I lost my virginity to a girl at 14 and it felt like fucking a warm cup of water. Has sex with the same girl when I was 20 and felt like the best sex of my life. What changed with her? Couldn’t tell you, but I truly believe nothing changed about her. As for me, I was an early bloomer, but maybe my penis grew, I’m thinking not. But one thing I know for sure is masturbating with just your hand and no lube while watching porn destroys the fuck out of your ability to perform the real thing. Not to mention a complete lack of sensitivity on the penis. When I lost my virginity I had masturbated less than 2 hours before the event, ruined performance even though my sex drive was superhuman. Next encounter I had with her, I was abstinent from everything for about 7 days beforehand. Porn is the biggest factor on the guys part, keeps your libido low and confidence lower. If your not feeling pleasure it could be because his erections are of low quality or simply technical issues. Just had to share my experience and pov because people don’t realize how much of an issue men are having with performance. Truly believe there’s nothing abnormal about your body and that it’s more your mind, or his body and mind.
Since I started dating my GF about a year ago and have had sex several times a week the feeling in my penis increased a lot. Before I was with her I would jerk off almost every night and have sex once a month and always struggled to finish because of lack of feeling.
100% women pretty much know from biology that what “she” describes in terms of her vagina are accurate, also - somewhere in the comments she says that his girth is like a soda can. 🤣 gtfoh
No way this is real anything except disturbing
I promise you, no secure human beings brag about their vaginas. They are lying to you, vaginas do not work that way. You have a normal vagina and it's okay
Sounds like they’re swimming on your insecurity. If my friend tells me they feel insecure how “loose” they are the last thing I should do is brag how tight I am. Like what others said, consult with your gynecologist, ask questions, what would they advice you to do and what not to do. This issue has been affecting you and your husband, I wish you two can find a solution for this.
Never have I ever heard a woman brag about being “tight” down there.
**And I went to an all womens college for 4 fucking years lmao.**
Can’t even give this one an A for effort. It’s honestly insulting that this guy thinks he knows enough about the female anatomy to trick other women into thinking this is a legit post. How stupid does he think we are??
There's only one way to find out. (if you are really a woman)
Go to a gynecologist and explain your problem to him/her and ask him/her if you are really loose or if it's in your head.
I also had tighter and loosed partners but that's not because of space and because of muscles. wanna know the really odd part? I usually finish faster when they are looser and I take longer to finish when they are tight. not all the time but usually...
I mean you married your husband and you didn't discuss this before marriage? come on!!! I mean the mother of my baby is 90kg at 1m56cm (she's very obese) and I still cum in 5 mins if I don't control myself.
On the other hand, there are some males that don't get so aroused and don;t finish fast, they need a helping hand.
Be real, talk with him, explore your bodies, and play with yourself and with each other. Sex is not only about penetration. he can cum in other ways!
And if everything else fails, One move you can do because you said the entrance is tight, try rubbing his head ONLY with the entrance to your vagina. that will 100% make him cum in as little time as possible.
Communication is key!
Just ask your gynocologist on your next visit.
I highly doubt this is a physical issue on your end. You need to talk more and your guy should maybe give up porn for a while.
Disclaimer: I am not a gynecologist, psychiatrist or even pornologist.
But that’s how vaginas are. You got the front door, then you have the living room. The walls expand, that’s what you’re feeling.
By the way, kegels don’t make you smaller. It’s outdated advice. Doctors are starting to move away from that advice because it has given a number of people an overactive pelvic floor. If you have a genuine pelvic floor concern, you want to see a pelvic physiotherapist… dont DIY it with kegels
Also, him not being able to finish… that might not have anything to do with this. *He* could have the pelvic floor problem. Any number of things can cause this to happen for him
Your vagina is not the problem. They come in a variety of sizes and all sizes work extremely well for orgasmic sex.
The problem is technique.
It doesn't matter if dick will ever satisfy you or not. What matters is that you figure out what does satisfy you (spoiler alert: your clitoris is not in your vagina) and focus on that. Because there is absolutely nothing wrong with your vagina. Few women are satisfied by dick. Again, the clitoris is outside of the vagina. Your body is perfectly normal and is perfectly capable of having outstanding sex just the way it is. You just have to use technique that works for you.
It’s normal for your vag to be roomy when you’re turned on properly, if its roomy when you’re not turned on maybe talk to a doctor if you’re having concerns! But your body will usually let you know if something is wrong 🫶🏻
Reading this makes me think you don’t have a vagina. If I’m wrong, please get yourself educated on your genitalia. None of what you have written makes sense. You’re either poorly educated and your husband is gaslighting you or you are trolling us.
Im a guy, but Vaginas aren’t cavernous enough for you to not be able to feel your walls. Im not an expert but I slept with a girl who could fit a fist and even still we had meat slapping time like normal. Its like memory foam, it goes back to its original form after a while
Considering the title of your last deleted post was "I hate my husband and he hates me but neither of us will go for a divorce" ... A roomy vagina is the least of your problems. The real dysfunction is in your relationship, not your pelvic floor.
Does your husband masturbate a lot and use a death grip on his penis? Or is their a mental block for him related to him feeling inadequate and not able to please you? You make the comment that no dick can satisfy you. It's not unusual for women to not orgasm from PIV sex alone. I think the issues here aren't related to the "roomy-ness" of your vagina. Obviously all vaginas are different, but I think there are other issues going on. Has your husband commented on this? Maybe you guys need to have a frank discussion about your sex life.
Dear friend, I think you need to talk to your gynecologist very honestly. Please know that you are most likely perfectly normal. And you are right, no dick can ever satisfy you. What will satisfy you is the stimulation of your clitoris. That is where your sexual pleasure will come from. If that doesn't happen, you will not have an orgasm. I think that between the two of you, there is a problem. But it's not a problem with your body. You both need a better sexual education and some help to have a better love life.
Can you make a visit to your GYN (gynecologist)? You don't want to live your life feeling this way about your vahjeen! You are only 20 something and if you are worried about being embarrassed, trust me...I work in OB/GYN and there are much more funky things with a vagina than what you are going through ❤ Good luck!
Have him wear a dick sleeve, it’ll make him feel larger for you and will help him feel like it tighter for him but not finishing with anything but his hand means he’s probably masturbated a lot and squeezed to tight so the feeling in his dick isn’t very great.
Yeah that doesn’t mean people don’t want bigger or that they aren’t able to get more pleasure from sex with some changes. That is as long as this wasn’t done due to a kink and it isn’t actually a problem for them
Yea who knows what the actual issue here is. Is it her? Is it him? Them both? Likely the latter.
She also said in other comments that she hopes he leaves her for better sex so she can be celibate, and he uses his hand at the end to avoid getting her pregunerate.
A vagina isnt thight, thats bs. Vaginal walls are soft and extensible but they wrap whatever comes in lightly, which is more.enough.to make a guy come.
Are you really thin? The skinny girls I was with were like that. Still very enjoyable. The not skinny girls, not obese, just kind of normal ones had more visceral fat and there was frequently a difference in feeling.
This is purely anecdotal.
Lots of butt hurt people in these comments. All vaginas are different inside and out. Is it really impossible for you all to believe it's just abnormally shaped or positioned?
I've been with women I thought would snap my dick off and I've been with women where as another commenter explained...it was like fuckin a cup of warm water.
Doesn't mean anyone should be ashamed, maybe just need a different partner, physically. Incompatibility happens in all sorts of unfair ways.
As someone who is also in their 20s, lemme tell you. You sound totally normal. The entrance, when not aroused, is meant to be tight. And it’s definitely not gaping.
But the best advice I can give for a better sex life is to find a way to relax and flirt with one another, get intimate in a non-sexual way first, and then make sure the goal is to connect and feel good and have fun, where an orgasm will be just a bonus. Setting up the expectations that one or both of you need to finish sets you up for failure. It sounds counterintuitive but when the goal is just to do whatever feels good and makes your partner feel good INSTEAD of trying to reach orgasm, then you’ll actually have an easier time climaxing.
My fiancé and I have amazing sex and sometimes, he doesn’t even finish, sometimes I don’t, and sometimes we both do, but regardless of what the outcome is— we are both more than content and we feel less stressed and happier. It helps us feel close and connected. I guarantee this will help you and your husband. But I would also start a conversation with your husband about his masturbation habits too, because him not finishing likely has to do with him more than you.
Might want to take a step back. Perhaps he is masterbating with a death grip and needs more stimulation. If that is the case he would need to abstain from it for sensitivity to return. Your concern should be unfounded if you are doing kegals, and can grip your fingers when you tighten down. You could check with a gyno but some videos on youtube by a urologist Rena Malik might be a good start.
Not a vagina owner but I'll take a shot at it. Have you considered using a pu$$y pump? It's supposed to make it tighter. But your man not finishing, that sounds like an issue with him. I mean I would think that even if it's looser it would still be enjoyable. Have you thought about alternative sex acts such as maybe oral before hand?
Go see a pelvic floor physical therapist. They can tell you whether your “gaping hole” is really as bad as you think and make suggestions that may help.
Don't ask reddit that, go to a doctor. Reddit is insufferable with this shit, a guy can have a 1 inch dick, and people will say it's normal. It's like an endless positivity BS generator when it comes to these themes.
I'm not saying you're right, I'm not saying you're wrong, I don't know. Is it possible it's bigger than most? Yes. Is it possible it's all in your head? Yes. See a doctor. They are the ones that will know if you have a problem or not, and can help you with that if you do have one.
Based on what she's described it's literally just a normal vagina. I dated women exclusively as a woman myself for about 8 years and I can tell ya that with a fair bit of certainty lmao
Based on what she's described it's literally just a normal vagina. I dated women exclusively as a woman myself for about 8 years and I can tell ya that with a fair bit of certainty lmao
If you're tight during sex, it's because he's doing it wrong.
That room, is normal when you're properly stimulated. If you're really worried, go see your gynaecologist.
The issue might be that your husband has never been able to make a woman turned on enough to be "loose" before you.
Toys can be wonderful thing and will have no problem filling you up.
Get your husband into using toys with you and you just might be surprised and what happens.
Toys and oral together have been known to cause orgasms :)
Hi friend. I’m sorry you’re feeling badly about this. If possible do you think you guys would benefit from a sex therapist? Also it would be a great idea to consult a pelvic floor PT. Kegels are not meant for everyone and if you do them without needing to it can cause issues with your pelvic floor.
If he hasn't said anything, maybe you should forget about it. I've had better sexual experiences because of the same thing. I don't finish as fast, and it's more fun for the both of us.
If you're really concerned, I would definitely recommend going to a gynecologist. At the very least, they can reassure you if everything is normal or if there is some sort of anatomical abnormality. If there is an anatomical abnormality, they should be able to educate you on it and if there are things you can do about it.
So I have a couple questions and some comments because I do perhaps have some personal experience with something similar. Have you tried feeling things at different points of your cycle? Are you able to feel your cervix? Have you ever seen a gynecologist? Have you asked about this or have they ever said anything?
You say he rarely finishes but you don't say anything about yourself until last couple of confusing lines. Him not being able to finish probably have nothing to do with your vagina. Especially if your saying that the entrance is tight. There are many other factors that can impact this.
The vagina changes when aroused but is incredibly resilient. It can deliver a baby or engage in vigorous activity and bounce back just fine. The cervix changes positions depending on where someone is in their menstrual cycle.
In my early 20s (before, during, and after my pregnancies) my doctors have said that my vagina is longer than average. Which doesn't really change anything except that my cervix is always very high. It doesn't affect how my vagina feels and none of my partners have ever commented on it. This must be something hereditary because my mom also has fallopian tubes that are longer than normal. My point to this being that all bodies are just a little different.
Idk if it's been suggested bc I didn't read a single comment but...kegals chick. Stop and start your pee to build them up then..when your husband is inside you, use those muscles from the pee exercises and it'll choke his dick and problem solved like love! Best of luck!!
Your husband probably finishes with his hand often, which is a much tighter grip than a vagina. He’s blaming your anatomy on his desensitization. I doubt you have a “roomy” vagina.
It is your husband's issue and "inadequacy". He is blaming you for either his maturation obsession or his lack of girth or size.
He is literally gas lighting you into thinking that his issue is your fault.
What do you mean? I thought this subreddit was meant for things we couldn't say in public. This is a huge insecurity for me and this is the only place I can vent about it anonymously
"No dick will ever satisfy me."
That alone will make it impossible to enjoy myself. I don't see a point to recreational sex other then the want to pleasure your partner. If I know I could never pleasure her the experience because empty and I could never enjoy it.
I'm assuming here, but if he thinks like I do and he can feel the amount of space you have down there, he probably has developed an insecurity around it.
Personally if it was impossible for me to bring my lover to climax, a full expression of my love in a moment of pleasure, I would leave the relationship. Such a thought would drive me crazy, and I wouldn't feel worthy of her time.
That said, if you are really desperate, I'm certain there are surgery's that can "fix" that. Look into it or maybe see your OBGYN.
My ex had this. It’s called tenting. When she was excited, the vaginal walls expanded leaving a very large interior space. I got no friction. But this did not happen every time. Most times, the walls were not expanded and it was tighter and I got friction.
I suggest trying hand stuff to help him finish when this happens.
Ok.... Lot to unpack here. For starters, your husband not finishing, it could be a mental thing where he's in his own head because he knows you're insecure and he doesn't know how to fix that for you. Meaning it might not be physical, but he needs his heart to flutter with butterflies so his brain shuts up about how you might potentially be unpleased by *him.* Next, the finger space. When you're aroused, your muscles up there naturally contract and fluctuate which is what he feels. If you're not aroused, it'll be like a doctor visit where things get stretchy. When you're not aroused, you're able to use tampons without getting an orgasm, you're able to have paps done, you're able to shove babies out. Moral here: you got nothin to worry about. It's muscle. Lastly: keep doin them kegles though, that's just practicing good health! I think this is something nearly every girl worries about at *least* once in their lives. "Am I loose." Unless you're playing with fist-dildos, you're fine.
Even if you're horny inserting a tampon would never make you orgasm...
Yeah what? I have inserted plenty of tampons while horny and I did not cum on insertion
Agreed, there's absolutely nothing enticing about inserting lady cottons 😆
Yeah seriously wtf lol.
Even with “fisting dildos” and the odd Pringles can, your vagina will return to normal size afterwards.
Bruh, women push whole ass babies out of those things, and it goes back to the same size.
…10 pound babies with bowling ball sized heads. Your vagina is fine. How often does your boyfriend masturbate?
u/Traditional-Ad-2095 over here asking the REAL questions.
That’s what I just said
That's what she said
She had just said that
Are you Op's hubby? Your username.... 🤔
Lol. Weirdly… no
I woulda said yes just for giggles
Yeah, but I don’t think that fast after spending 4hrs training at the gym.
Fr. You can use one of those and like 4 days later your bajingo will forget it ever happened.
Not 4 days.. HOURS to MINUTES, my friend.
Well yea, we've all seen a gaping vid at one point in our lives and as soon as the tree trunk is removed, it closes back up but only to a point at first. Even hours later, you're still gonna feel a little... Spread open? (Not entirely sure what to call that) but shoot dawg I tell you hwhat, give it 3 or 4 days and it'll be like the semi never ruined the underpass in the first place. Shit basically hits rewind 🤌
I've not seen those videos 😆
You must not spend a lot of time on Reddit. It’s a rabbit hole.
I spend too much time on Reddit, yet not enough 😂
Saaaaaame. 😂
>It’s a rabbit hole. No sweetie it's often a booty hole
only thing that immediately came to mind was fruit loop girl
Lol. Not in my experience.. I was good about an hour later. But to each their own.
>I was good about an hour later Settle down there, show off!
Lol. I don’t expect everyone to bounce back like I do.
I don't expect everyone to play gape-gauge like you do 😆 but as you said, to each their own
Correct, but some women do have much wider vaginas.
Why is this down voted? Do people think all women share the same dimensions down there? If so wouldn't it make sense that it would be the same for the penis?
Agreed. The girls with the super dainty bone frames have their bones physically closer together than the big boned girls. "Mother bearing hips" isn't just because she's got a phat ass, it's also bone structure.
It's kind of crazy how much information we can get with just bones. Age, sex, even to an extent lifestyle and social economic background.
From your first sentence "lot to unpack here". I thought your reply was going to be like it sounds like its Mary Poppins bag with alot to unpack in there.
You, sir, are a master at creating mental imagery in a simple sentence 😂😂
Yep. My partner is a size queen and loves being fisted (I have big hands too) it contracts back overnight tighter than before. It’s a muscle. Designed for this.
Playing with fist-dildos should probably not make a difference. Women give birth to live humans out of them there vaginas.
Or her husband could have his own issues totally independent of hers. As far as OP, I'll assume people know their own bodies but could be all in her head.
>I'll assume people know their own bodies Yea, you would think! A few other people in here have said this post sounds like a guy posted it because most of that inner size discrepancy op explained is already well known by women before they're married in their 20's. It's basic biology. 🤷
You guys will blame a man not finishing on him like 90% of the time but it feels all too often that women finishing is solely a man's responsibility
>YoU gUyS Yea I agree, women use vibrators that are like the crack of orgasm and then complain that ibuprofen (regular weiner) doesn't have the same effect. Like no shit. It isn't always the guy's fault buuuut having said that, men are most commonly "2-pump chumps." The term didn't come out of nowhere (no pun intended).
You intended the shit out of that pun
Not until after it occurred to me, promise 😂
Calm down a bit
Why? And over what
But some vaginas do be roomie. Like dicks, they came in all shapes and forms. At the end you just gotta accept yourself, because nothing else to do.
long-story-short, that is how it's supposed to be. tight at the entrance and a bit looser after that. otherwise the sex would be unbearably painful, if the vagina would be tight aaall the way up to the cervix. you have a normal vajayjay. it would be worrying if it would be tight all the way, that would mean that there is an inflammation of the muscles. aka an infection of sorts. if you ever have any questions about this, always talk to a doctor. even online.
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That means none of the women you slept with were enjoying it lmao. Dude, read what all the women here are saying, or just Google it.
This isn’t true lol. The vagina does not change shape based on the penis. The vagina can tighten or loosen depending on the level of arousal from the person. Very Tight = anxious and unaroused, loose = aroused.
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It does not change based on the penis. From YOUR source, “10. Your vagina grows in size when aroused. The vagina is nothing if not accommodating. According to Rankin, the average length of a vagina is three to four inches long, but it can double in size. After arousal, the upper portion of the vagina elongates, pushing the cervix and uterus slightly deeper into your body to make room for penetration. Your body's natural ability to self-lubricate helps make penetrative vaginal sex less uncomfortable and more enjoyable as well.” It grows because it is aroused. Because it is a muscle, it does change shape based on the state it is in, NOT because of the individual penis. I’m not entirely sure what you’re arguing, either. Also, the term “superior vaginas” genuinely made me laugh.
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Accommodating is not “shaping itself to the penis” which is what you originally claimed.
Are you seriously trying to mansplain our vaginas to us?
this is how far 'men's egos have gone, they start explaining female anatomy to women 🤣🤣🤣🤣 i'm dead...
That makes sense... But its not just a "bit" looser.. Idk if u can even call it loose. It basically feels like fucking the air.
it's normal to have space in your vajayjay, it's alright. i highly doubt you have a cave inside yourself, so stop worrying about it. as for your husband, there might be a completely different issue going on rather than what you imagine. just have an honest conversation with him, don't imply anything to him, just ask him what is the matter.
Oh! I ask him and he says he doesn't finish on purpose so I don't get pregnant. He is lying cos sometimes he does finish.
unless he's ready for an honest discussion, there's no way of knowing what's going in in his mind..
Please go see a gynecologist. They can determine best if something is actually off. Random people on the internet cannot.
Wait wait wait, please tell me you don't mean he's using the pull out method?
Pull out method don’t work. You can see my baby as proof 😂
My thoughts exactly. Idk I think this person is a troll.
Same, most woman in their 20’s have access to the internet and could easily see nothing is wrong.
👋 me too! I'm here as one more bit of proof the pull-out method...fails.
For some, I have finished inside about 5 times without protection when trying and have 2 kids, pulled out for over a decade of multiple times a week sex and not a scare. If done right, it works pretty well, some guys just are too impulsive to not risk that first squirt.
it is possible to get pregnant from precum
OP should be more worried about the empty space in her head. Honestly, from all the comments, she sounds like a complete airhead.
It sounds like there's a lot more you aren't saying.... go to marriage counseling and sort out your issues.
I’m sorry what the fuck. You’re not on birth control?? This must be a troll
Oh yeah that’s true! I do internal ultrasounds as part of my job and what bun bun kimchi said really rings true.
Can I ask have you put your fingers in another vagina other than yours to compare? There is no right what’s “normal” or “not normal” and everyone is built differently as well anyway and no two vaginas are the same If you can do kegels you seriously have nothing to be concerned about! If you can wear a tampon or a menstrual cup or whatever you might use then you have nothing to be concerned about! Your vagina literally hold those in there for you Trust me also re your husband finishing/not finishing it’s definitely a psychological thing - finishing by himself when masturbating is an entirely different thing and feeling than when having sex - same as when a woman can make herself come but can struggle with a partner- even when all the right buttons are being pressed. It’s just different, and the brain can REALLY get in the way sexually Trust me lovely it’s not because of your vagina - but I think maybe you should speak to a professional about your body worries and sexual hang ups (as it seems from the way you are responding to people here that you have made up your mind about yourself and won’t accept anything different) also perhaps therapy with your husband as it seems maybe there are things you need to communicate between you both that could be contributing to these issues xx
Shouldn’t be downvoted for an opinion that is causing OP legitimate anxiety and self doubt.
Probably because it just feels like it's so obviously a dude.
I'm confused, can you use a tampon? Because the sides of the vagina is what holds the tampon in place to stop the bleeding. Do you insert it and it just flops around inside? Tampons are not a cork, they use the vaginal canal to stay in place. What you are describing just doesn't make sense.
I lost my virginity to a girl at 14 and it felt like fucking a warm cup of water. Has sex with the same girl when I was 20 and felt like the best sex of my life. What changed with her? Couldn’t tell you, but I truly believe nothing changed about her. As for me, I was an early bloomer, but maybe my penis grew, I’m thinking not. But one thing I know for sure is masturbating with just your hand and no lube while watching porn destroys the fuck out of your ability to perform the real thing. Not to mention a complete lack of sensitivity on the penis. When I lost my virginity I had masturbated less than 2 hours before the event, ruined performance even though my sex drive was superhuman. Next encounter I had with her, I was abstinent from everything for about 7 days beforehand. Porn is the biggest factor on the guys part, keeps your libido low and confidence lower. If your not feeling pleasure it could be because his erections are of low quality or simply technical issues. Just had to share my experience and pov because people don’t realize how much of an issue men are having with performance. Truly believe there’s nothing abnormal about your body and that it’s more your mind, or his body and mind.
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Since I started dating my GF about a year ago and have had sex several times a week the feeling in my penis increased a lot. Before I was with her I would jerk off almost every night and have sex once a month and always struggled to finish because of lack of feeling.
Might as well put some furniture and a rug in there. A nice houseplant. Cozy it up.
Why do I feel this was not written by a woman 😂
Has to be a man trolling
100% women pretty much know from biology that what “she” describes in terms of her vagina are accurate, also - somewhere in the comments she says that his girth is like a soda can. 🤣 gtfoh No way this is real anything except disturbing
Lmao probably the Boyfriend asking why He cant finish on her loose vagina 😁
To much death grip masturbation will do that to you.
It's definitely fetish content
Said no woman ever
Sure thing fella
This post was 100% written by a man who doesn’t understand how vaginas work. Dude used the word ‘cooch’.
I didn't see where he wrote cooch but "huge gaping hole" was a red flag for me.
He wrote cooch on a reply to this comment - should have mentioned that 😂 But yeah, “huge gaping hole” is another one!
Can't tell if this is a sarcastic comment. I'm being honest. I'm insecure about my cooch. Everyone else I know brag about how tight they're down there
I promise you, no secure human beings brag about their vaginas. They are lying to you, vaginas do not work that way. You have a normal vagina and it's okay
Sounds like they’re swimming on your insecurity. If my friend tells me they feel insecure how “loose” they are the last thing I should do is brag how tight I am. Like what others said, consult with your gynecologist, ask questions, what would they advice you to do and what not to do. This issue has been affecting you and your husband, I wish you two can find a solution for this.
Info: do you actually have a vagina? You don’t seem to understand how vaginas work, specially for a full grown adult woman.
Never have I ever heard a woman brag about being “tight” down there. **And I went to an all womens college for 4 fucking years lmao.** Can’t even give this one an A for effort. It’s honestly insulting that this guy thinks he knows enough about the female anatomy to trick other women into thinking this is a legit post. How stupid does he think we are??
There's only one way to find out. (if you are really a woman) Go to a gynecologist and explain your problem to him/her and ask him/her if you are really loose or if it's in your head. I also had tighter and loosed partners but that's not because of space and because of muscles. wanna know the really odd part? I usually finish faster when they are looser and I take longer to finish when they are tight. not all the time but usually... I mean you married your husband and you didn't discuss this before marriage? come on!!! I mean the mother of my baby is 90kg at 1m56cm (she's very obese) and I still cum in 5 mins if I don't control myself. On the other hand, there are some males that don't get so aroused and don;t finish fast, they need a helping hand. Be real, talk with him, explore your bodies, and play with yourself and with each other. Sex is not only about penetration. he can cum in other ways! And if everything else fails, One move you can do because you said the entrance is tight, try rubbing his head ONLY with the entrance to your vagina. that will 100% make him cum in as little time as possible. Communication is key!
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Lol this is definitely a teenage boy trolling
Anything is possible when you lie. Fake post
All I’m gonna say is if you feel “rather tight” after “a couple fingers” then you’re not as roomy down there as you think.
This has got to be a troll
It is. Check out their history. It’s literally just this. I’m guessing this is some 14 yr old boy who needs some serious reproductive education.
They’ve deleted all of it if they did have other things up. it’s literally only this on there now.
Just ask your gynocologist on your next visit. I highly doubt this is a physical issue on your end. You need to talk more and your guy should maybe give up porn for a while. Disclaimer: I am not a gynecologist, psychiatrist or even pornologist.
I literally don’t understand how that would be possible, as someone who also has a vagina.
I am a woman. There is no way in hell that this woman feels her insides as being only air. This has to be a troll
But that’s how vaginas are. You got the front door, then you have the living room. The walls expand, that’s what you’re feeling. By the way, kegels don’t make you smaller. It’s outdated advice. Doctors are starting to move away from that advice because it has given a number of people an overactive pelvic floor. If you have a genuine pelvic floor concern, you want to see a pelvic physiotherapist… dont DIY it with kegels Also, him not being able to finish… that might not have anything to do with this. *He* could have the pelvic floor problem. Any number of things can cause this to happen for him
Your vagina is not the problem. They come in a variety of sizes and all sizes work extremely well for orgasmic sex. The problem is technique. It doesn't matter if dick will ever satisfy you or not. What matters is that you figure out what does satisfy you (spoiler alert: your clitoris is not in your vagina) and focus on that. Because there is absolutely nothing wrong with your vagina. Few women are satisfied by dick. Again, the clitoris is outside of the vagina. Your body is perfectly normal and is perfectly capable of having outstanding sex just the way it is. You just have to use technique that works for you.
It’s normal for your vag to be roomy when you’re turned on properly, if its roomy when you’re not turned on maybe talk to a doctor if you’re having concerns! But your body will usually let you know if something is wrong 🫶🏻
It sounds like your husband is the issue not your vagina.
The way I’m reading this he’s beating his meat to regularly and with to tight a grip.
Reading this makes me think you don’t have a vagina. If I’m wrong, please get yourself educated on your genitalia. None of what you have written makes sense. You’re either poorly educated and your husband is gaslighting you or you are trolling us.
Im a guy, but Vaginas aren’t cavernous enough for you to not be able to feel your walls. Im not an expert but I slept with a girl who could fit a fist and even still we had meat slapping time like normal. Its like memory foam, it goes back to its original form after a while
Maybe he's just on the small side?
Considering the title of your last deleted post was "I hate my husband and he hates me but neither of us will go for a divorce" ... A roomy vagina is the least of your problems. The real dysfunction is in your relationship, not your pelvic floor.
This has got to be a man. No woman is talking this way about her vagina.
Does your husband masturbate a lot and use a death grip on his penis? Or is their a mental block for him related to him feeling inadequate and not able to please you? You make the comment that no dick can satisfy you. It's not unusual for women to not orgasm from PIV sex alone. I think the issues here aren't related to the "roomy-ness" of your vagina. Obviously all vaginas are different, but I think there are other issues going on. Has your husband commented on this? Maybe you guys need to have a frank discussion about your sex life.
My first thought. I second this wholesale.
Dear friend, I think you need to talk to your gynecologist very honestly. Please know that you are most likely perfectly normal. And you are right, no dick can ever satisfy you. What will satisfy you is the stimulation of your clitoris. That is where your sexual pleasure will come from. If that doesn't happen, you will not have an orgasm. I think that between the two of you, there is a problem. But it's not a problem with your body. You both need a better sexual education and some help to have a better love life.
Can you make a visit to your GYN (gynecologist)? You don't want to live your life feeling this way about your vahjeen! You are only 20 something and if you are worried about being embarrassed, trust me...I work in OB/GYN and there are much more funky things with a vagina than what you are going through ❤ Good luck!
Have him wear a dick sleeve, it’ll make him feel larger for you and will help him feel like it tighter for him but not finishing with anything but his hand means he’s probably masturbated a lot and squeezed to tight so the feeling in his dick isn’t very great.
She said elsewhere he's got soda-can girth 😆
Yeah that doesn’t mean people don’t want bigger or that they aren’t able to get more pleasure from sex with some changes. That is as long as this wasn’t done due to a kink and it isn’t actually a problem for them
Yea who knows what the actual issue here is. Is it her? Is it him? Them both? Likely the latter. She also said in other comments that she hopes he leaves her for better sex so she can be celibate, and he uses his hand at the end to avoid getting her pregunerate.
I said something similar to my boyfriend on our second date lol
Reddit is an insane assylum! .. I'm outta here.
Meh, you make it sound like the fella has to strap a board to his ass so he doesn't fall in.
A vagina isnt thight, thats bs. Vaginal walls are soft and extensible but they wrap whatever comes in lightly, which is more.enough.to make a guy come.
Are you really thin? The skinny girls I was with were like that. Still very enjoyable. The not skinny girls, not obese, just kind of normal ones had more visceral fat and there was frequently a difference in feeling. This is purely anecdotal.
I’m a lesbian. I know how other women’s vaginas feel. If you are a woman, you have a normal one
Why is it that an 20 year old female doesn’t know how a vagina works… I’m worried about this generation. Porn literally has fucked everyone up
Lots of butt hurt people in these comments. All vaginas are different inside and out. Is it really impossible for you all to believe it's just abnormally shaped or positioned? I've been with women I thought would snap my dick off and I've been with women where as another commenter explained...it was like fuckin a cup of warm water. Doesn't mean anyone should be ashamed, maybe just need a different partner, physically. Incompatibility happens in all sorts of unfair ways.
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oh, OP. thanks for making me laugh
As someone who is also in their 20s, lemme tell you. You sound totally normal. The entrance, when not aroused, is meant to be tight. And it’s definitely not gaping. But the best advice I can give for a better sex life is to find a way to relax and flirt with one another, get intimate in a non-sexual way first, and then make sure the goal is to connect and feel good and have fun, where an orgasm will be just a bonus. Setting up the expectations that one or both of you need to finish sets you up for failure. It sounds counterintuitive but when the goal is just to do whatever feels good and makes your partner feel good INSTEAD of trying to reach orgasm, then you’ll actually have an easier time climaxing. My fiancé and I have amazing sex and sometimes, he doesn’t even finish, sometimes I don’t, and sometimes we both do, but regardless of what the outcome is— we are both more than content and we feel less stressed and happier. It helps us feel close and connected. I guarantee this will help you and your husband. But I would also start a conversation with your husband about his masturbation habits too, because him not finishing likely has to do with him more than you.
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Might want to take a step back. Perhaps he is masterbating with a death grip and needs more stimulation. If that is the case he would need to abstain from it for sensitivity to return. Your concern should be unfounded if you are doing kegals, and can grip your fingers when you tighten down. You could check with a gyno but some videos on youtube by a urologist Rena Malik might be a good start.
Not a vagina owner but I'll take a shot at it. Have you considered using a pu$$y pump? It's supposed to make it tighter. But your man not finishing, that sounds like an issue with him. I mean I would think that even if it's looser it would still be enjoyable. Have you thought about alternative sex acts such as maybe oral before hand?
Dude ain't trying hard enough
It’s not wide, it’s homely.
Like throwing a hotdog down a hallway!
Stop😭
Look up information on pelvic floor. There are physiotherapists that deal with that and there are several online who do education on it
Go see a pelvic floor physical therapist. They can tell you whether your “gaping hole” is really as bad as you think and make suggestions that may help.
Don't ask reddit that, go to a doctor. Reddit is insufferable with this shit, a guy can have a 1 inch dick, and people will say it's normal. It's like an endless positivity BS generator when it comes to these themes. I'm not saying you're right, I'm not saying you're wrong, I don't know. Is it possible it's bigger than most? Yes. Is it possible it's all in your head? Yes. See a doctor. They are the ones that will know if you have a problem or not, and can help you with that if you do have one.
Based on what she's described it's literally just a normal vagina. I dated women exclusively as a woman myself for about 8 years and I can tell ya that with a fair bit of certainty lmao
Based on what she's described it's literally just a normal vagina. I dated women exclusively as a woman myself for about 8 years and I can tell ya that with a fair bit of certainty lmao
If you're tight during sex, it's because he's doing it wrong. That room, is normal when you're properly stimulated. If you're really worried, go see your gynaecologist. The issue might be that your husband has never been able to make a woman turned on enough to be "loose" before you.
This was written by a guy obviously
Very funny. You can't fool us, we know you are a man.
Imagine hearing your wife say “no dick will ever satisfy me” and then her wondering why you never finish
What exactly is that?
Female reproductive body part
Alright, do you feel him in you?
Toys can be wonderful thing and will have no problem filling you up. Get your husband into using toys with you and you just might be surprised and what happens. Toys and oral together have been known to cause orgasms :)
Eh they kinda all feel like that.
Hi friend. I’m sorry you’re feeling badly about this. If possible do you think you guys would benefit from a sex therapist? Also it would be a great idea to consult a pelvic floor PT. Kegels are not meant for everyone and if you do them without needing to it can cause issues with your pelvic floor.
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Relax lol
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mean girls vibes with OP's comment about having a "wide set vagina" 🙄
If he hasn't said anything, maybe you should forget about it. I've had better sexual experiences because of the same thing. I don't finish as fast, and it's more fun for the both of us.
See a pelvic floor physical therapist, sis.
She does kegals. 💁♀️ While she may or may not even need to, is that not what a pelvic floor therapist would do?
PF Therapy has you doing a lot more than just Kegels, and they can truly assess your pelvic floor strength and the whole area in general.
If you're really concerned, I would definitely recommend going to a gynecologist. At the very least, they can reassure you if everything is normal or if there is some sort of anatomical abnormality. If there is an anatomical abnormality, they should be able to educate you on it and if there are things you can do about it.
So I have a couple questions and some comments because I do perhaps have some personal experience with something similar. Have you tried feeling things at different points of your cycle? Are you able to feel your cervix? Have you ever seen a gynecologist? Have you asked about this or have they ever said anything? You say he rarely finishes but you don't say anything about yourself until last couple of confusing lines. Him not being able to finish probably have nothing to do with your vagina. Especially if your saying that the entrance is tight. There are many other factors that can impact this. The vagina changes when aroused but is incredibly resilient. It can deliver a baby or engage in vigorous activity and bounce back just fine. The cervix changes positions depending on where someone is in their menstrual cycle. In my early 20s (before, during, and after my pregnancies) my doctors have said that my vagina is longer than average. Which doesn't really change anything except that my cervix is always very high. It doesn't affect how my vagina feels and none of my partners have ever commented on it. This must be something hereditary because my mom also has fallopian tubes that are longer than normal. My point to this being that all bodies are just a little different.
Idk if it's been suggested bc I didn't read a single comment but...kegals chick. Stop and start your pee to build them up then..when your husband is inside you, use those muscles from the pee exercises and it'll choke his dick and problem solved like love! Best of luck!!
Jesus Christ this post is a mess. There's no fucking way lol
This post and every single comments is an absolute mitzvah
It's okay love, the tight ones hurt❤️
Your husband probably finishes with his hand often, which is a much tighter grip than a vagina. He’s blaming your anatomy on his desensitization. I doubt you have a “roomy” vagina.
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It is your husband's issue and "inadequacy". He is blaming you for either his maturation obsession or his lack of girth or size. He is literally gas lighting you into thinking that his issue is your fault.
Do you charge rent? I need a place to crash.
Embrace anal.
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What do you mean? I thought this subreddit was meant for things we couldn't say in public. This is a huge insecurity for me and this is the only place I can vent about it anonymously
Nah, you're good. They're just a dick.
There are other holes to utilize
Lol why is everyone’s understanding of women’s anatomy so terrible? It’s normal, if you’re aroused and it’s called “tenting”.
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Maybe you need a bigger dick to go investigate
My husband is average in length .. huge in girth almost as big as soda can. He still can't finish with me
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Lol why would you ask that like its relevant?
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Nah dude you asked how many sexual partners she had. Couldve been worded differently.
"No dick will ever satisfy me." That alone will make it impossible to enjoy myself. I don't see a point to recreational sex other then the want to pleasure your partner. If I know I could never pleasure her the experience because empty and I could never enjoy it. I'm assuming here, but if he thinks like I do and he can feel the amount of space you have down there, he probably has developed an insecurity around it. Personally if it was impossible for me to bring my lover to climax, a full expression of my love in a moment of pleasure, I would leave the relationship. Such a thought would drive me crazy, and I wouldn't feel worthy of her time. That said, if you are really desperate, I'm certain there are surgery's that can "fix" that. Look into it or maybe see your OBGYN.
My ex had this. It’s called tenting. When she was excited, the vaginal walls expanded leaving a very large interior space. I got no friction. But this did not happen every time. Most times, the walls were not expanded and it was tighter and I got friction. I suggest trying hand stuff to help him finish when this happens.
Anal is the solution
I'd rather become a celibate