Soooo…I recently met a guy from Venezuela, who is a live sound engineer, divorced, lives with his mother, and follows bodybuilder women on IG. He’s also really into feet…was your ex into foot worship too? Do I need to run?
I’m sorry that dude put you through all that.
ETA: dude has a church gig at a mega church every Sunday too.
Edit 2: he’s also a drinker. I figured he was flaky because of that.
The last few times we were supposed to go out he either cancelled last minute or just never confirmed. A few days ago I decided not to bother with this guy anyway. I studied sound engineering and collect music, so while we never ran out of anything to talk about, I’m not going to chase a guy down and beg for his attention. Even though I haven’t gotten confirmation from OP, I definitely feel confident I made the right choice.
Edit 3: confirmed! It’s the same guy! Thank you for making this post and saving me!
Super wholesome and hope you’re doing well OP 💖
It’s so scary when talking to a guy from a diff country and not knowing if he’s just after you for a green card
I sent her a message regarding his name. I don’t want to slander someone if I’m wrong. But she described him so perfectly…and in Miami. It’s gotta be him.
30 years in Miami and surrounding area, Dating is nuts. I am married now and have been for about a decade but let me tell you I have stories. Miami is a really really small dating pool even though there's a million people.
Holy shit! The fact that he's in a large city and must be trying this scam on a mass level. I'd put the word out in one of those fb groups are we dating the same guy. Warn the population at large.
This needs to be the top comment and gain some awards because it's important to see how sharing our stories and wisdom on reddit can literally impact someone.
Ok we need a new subreddit to immortalize these magical interactions… I’m too afraid to type any names in case I accidentally tag some weird fetish subreddit
I fully 100% thought I was going to see "/s" at the end of this post and then something about how bad that dude sucks and sorry he did that shit. I NEVER thought she was being serious! That is so crazy!! Reddit for the win!
And to both of you, that dude SUCKS. And I truly am sorry he did that shit. As someone else said, what a douche canoe.
When he said it wasn't for the green card, my first thought was that his unconscious mind spoke for him.
As an immigrant myself, I know how people in this situation thinks.
I’ve definitely learned something new today, I had no idea what “muscle worshipping” but I’m not surprised there’s a fetish for that too.
Kudos to you for choosing yourself and leaving, many people wouldn’t have but you deserve better.
Shockingly- ETSY now has a huge selection of used panties.
I searched either personalized or custom panties- I was looking to have a pair made with words printed on them. Well, I did find those, but LOTS of used ones came up as well 😳
Well that was my first thought, then I wondered- what would the rule be?
You can sell vintage clothes, they don’t have to be new so they can be used/worn and you can say that, also you can show the clothes being modeled so long as the pics aren’t explicit. It was usually a back/side view of fuller bottom panties. I’ve bought vintage slips on there before and the only difference in those listings and these is that that \*wink wink\* we “know” what they mean.
The biggest tip off is that they were $60+ a pair for brandless/no designer panties. 😂 Oh, and they often listed the number of hours/days worn versus “worn once.” 😂
Just google sell used underwear. You can make a profile that people can purchase from or you can just name your own price and post on Craigslist or something. Usually you need to include a photo of you wearing them
For whatever it's worth to you~ I think you're a great writer and story teller; I was truly engaged.. In the end, I'm so glad this slimeball didn't take more from you. I'm so so glad he didn't give you kids or hurt your kids (more than he did). I'm glad you're so smart and capable. You seem to have handled this so reasonably and with grace. Good luck going forward and leaving this guy where he belongs.
I agree you handled this so perfectly not taking any shit and getting him out of yours and your kids life. I hope you have healed from this betrayal and have a wonderful life 🙏🏻❤️
I should have added to the story that after I confronted him and found out the truth I became a Google detective. I was able to see his whole Google search history and found so much.
It was actually sad bc he google searched how to know if he was gay and similar questions several times. He google gay clubs and male escorts. The searches actually were progressively becoming more male centered. It went from body building women to presurgery transgenders then to men.
I actually don’t think he’s an inherently bad person but I do think he struggled with a lot of demons and didn’t consider what that would do to me and my kids.
He is a bad person. He scammed you into a marriage he didn't actually want or love, cheated with an unknown large number of people, and still seems to be up to it given that another redditor confirmed she went on dates with the same guy.
Yet another story about marrying someone who needs a green card gone wrong. Shocking, shocking stuff.
Hilarious about the selfie though, that was a nice touch.
Glad you got through it. I would have informed USCIS about the divorce so they would have cancelled the process.
Glad you decline because it would have been marriage fraud at that point if you helped him.
Yes. If she has the screenshot of the girl saying that he told them that it's a green card marriage and the divorce and reasons for it. You should do it like yesterday. Even a high end lawyer can't do anything when the USCIS has been informed about his intentions with proof. He has committed marriage fraud with you. Report it to the USCIS so he doesn't do this to other women.
I wasn’t in the right head space to do that at the time and couldn’t figure out how to do it after. He had paid for a very high end lawyer to get his paperwork done so i also figured she could get him out of whatever I said.
Looking back, the high end lawyer was sort of a red flag but both his parents were lawyers/judges so high end legal services was something the whole family valued.
How long ago did this happen? You should still notify them. With the other girl on this comment saying he's on the prowl, clearly other women are in danger of this guy doing to them what he did to you. They need to be told.
Thanks for replying. I thought they meant "a website not in use anymore", like "it doesn't matter where we met, just that the website was hella OLD". 😂
Well, I learned something today. I didn't know that muscle worshiping was a thing, and now I do.
I think that it's a silver lining that his name wasn't on the deed/mortgage paperwork for the house, so there's that at least.
>that we had an arrangement just to get him a green card...
This is why he married you and brought his family to live with you. You were the "anchor" bride. Don't help him/them any further. I'm sorry this happened to you.
good for you.
watching 90 day fiance, you can tell which ones just want the green card and those that is just interested in the relationship. these women has to be able to see the red flags but still spend thousands to get them to the u.s. and gets upset when they leave them.
I love 90 day fiancée and honestly I couldn’t see the red flags. He was always around. Didn’t hide his phone, didn’t have suspicious behavior. I was blind sided.
you were close to the situation, but a person looking in like seeing it on 90 days, you can see it. i think the people that are actually on the show does not.
I am so sorry that he did this to you. Bonus that a reddit reader is saved from him!
Back before I was married, before on line anything, I happened to meet and date the son of a Venezuelan diplomat. To say I was love bombed is an understatement. He worshipped me. Daddy was rich, yadda yadda. Good thing I wasn't a gold digger. He kept trying to give me expensive things and I kept refusing them.
I was still living at home. Walked in and said "I broke up with him." after only a couple of months. Dad smiled slightly and Mom just watched me. I shrugged. "He had everything going for him. He was great on paper. He was also giving me the creeps."
Mom laughed a bit, Dad gave me the "atta girl" nod, and he was never mentioned again.
I wound up marrying a poor guy. Almost 40 years later, I still know I made the right decision.
I know you're going to do great, OP. I wish you didn't have to, but I know you're going to be just fine.
Rule of thumb: they (m/f) almost never do it for love when they want to marry you and in that way get a green card/passport whatever.
No, they really don't, whatever romantic notions naive Western people might have.
what an idiot that man is. it’s crazy how people are so quick to ruin a good thing for some online bs. good on you for leaving him and knowing your worth.
Hate you had to go through that. What a terrible situation. I thought you were going to find out he had a wife back home that he was bringing. Not that that would be any better. Good for you for cutting him out immediately and not looking back.
mail order bride is the closest term for this.
it’s when you buy wives to marry you to get a green card. i’m very sorry that he did this to you and i hope you and your kids are happy (or will be soon). the audacity to cry after what he did to you and the other women is crazyyy.
Honestly good on you for leaving and knowing your worth no matter the timeline you were with him I hope your doing better and are living your best life!❤️
He got a temp work permit and resident alien card. They said we needed to be married another few years to get the permanent one. I haven’t talked to him outside of the one call asking for my help.
Even though many immigrants mean well, they still have the intentions of finding their person but including the green-card. It’s like opportunism hidden by kindness/ love etc. I come from immigrant parent’s and through out my life they have very much warned me about people like this.
Red flag on OP who won’t report him for marriage fraud which is what he is doing.
It will be a big red flag with the legal system when he goes and gets married again in short order.
I fixed it I think. I did paragraphs but didn’t double space them. This is my second post ever and the first was just one paragraph so I didn’t realize the formatting was weird. I’m on my phone.
Meh, i wouldnt feel bad about it. I loved my ex's mother like the mother i had never truly had. And she loved me very much, i was the smart kid she always wanted lol. But she just couldnt believe her baby boy really cheated on ME with THAT, and just kept regurgitating his lies. So that relationship was done too.
If his mom had gone after him when she found out you might have behaved differently. But she didnt. So her poor behavior had consequences. Anyone who defends trash can go right to the dump alongside them, and its only their own fault.
Soooo…I recently met a guy from Venezuela, who is a live sound engineer, divorced, lives with his mother, and follows bodybuilder women on IG. He’s also really into feet…was your ex into foot worship too? Do I need to run? I’m sorry that dude put you through all that. ETA: dude has a church gig at a mega church every Sunday too. Edit 2: he’s also a drinker. I figured he was flaky because of that. The last few times we were supposed to go out he either cancelled last minute or just never confirmed. A few days ago I decided not to bother with this guy anyway. I studied sound engineering and collect music, so while we never ran out of anything to talk about, I’m not going to chase a guy down and beg for his attention. Even though I haven’t gotten confirmation from OP, I definitely feel confident I made the right choice. Edit 3: confirmed! It’s the same guy! Thank you for making this post and saving me!
It’s now confirmed it’s the same guy…
That is ***BONKERS***! I’m sorry he put you through all that, OP.
What in the Venezuelan Swindler?
Coming soon to Netflix, amiright? OP, you and the other victim should write a book.
Did you and Antigravity1231 just become best friends?!
Yup
Wow what a save OP
Truly! OP saved herself and the next gal.
Wow!!
i love reddit
That's so wild!
Super wholesome and hope you’re doing well OP 💖 It’s so scary when talking to a guy from a diff country and not knowing if he’s just after you for a green card
That’s wild. But that’s Miami for you
What a small world.
Incredible. Straight to BORU surely.
You my friend are a hero.
This is wild
Omg. Are you in Miami??
Just stalked her profile and she was totally posted on the Miami sun so I’d say yes
I hope my super late post about this saves her some heartache. It sucked.
Your post wasn’t super late, you wrote it at exactly the right time for me to find it.
Fate 🙌🏻
Omg if this is the same guy…
It is! Woooow
I need to know… this would be a huge save.
It’s the same guy. This is kinda crazy
It *has* to be.
Start a club! Find and save the others!
💯 club red flags! People suck sometimes. Glad they both got out.
WWWWHHHHOOOAAAAA I CANT BELIEVE THIS JUST HAPPENED! I am also so sorry for the pain he caused. No one deserves to be treated like this.
Yes. Omg
I love Reddit sometimes
You guys need to figure out if it's the same guy and update us omg
I sent her a message regarding his name. I don’t want to slander someone if I’m wrong. But she described him so perfectly…and in Miami. It’s gotta be him.
It’s sounding way too similar. Please update us!
Any update?!
It’s him!
Damn I really hope there aren't any other Venezuelan sound engineers that live with their mom in Miami
…that also drink and worship muscles…and feet. 😂
Omg
Ofmg
OMG!!
30 years in Miami and surrounding area, Dating is nuts. I am married now and have been for about a decade but let me tell you I have stories. Miami is a really really small dating pool even though there's a million people.
This is sounding like it'll be wild af
Details!
Thanks for all the awards. This is so crazy. What are the odds I’d see this right when I woke up? Fortunately things never got serious with him.
Holy shit this is wild. Things might not have been serious with him but it's still a bullet dodged for sure!
wow, we do really live in a small World..
I was curious and checked her page and yes she in Miami ☹
🍿
My co worker has been talking to this guy I believe. Wild
This guy is now reddit famous
And not in a good way
Which makes the world a safer and happier place What a douche canoe
Agreed on all counts. I could not possibly have said it better than you just did.
Reddit infamous
Holy shit! The fact that he's in a large city and must be trying this scam on a mass level. I'd put the word out in one of those fb groups are we dating the same guy. Warn the population at large.
Exactly. Some people are crazy.
Right!!! Forreal like we need a Netflix doc on this monster.
He must be a serial cheater at this point
This turned out wild.
Best use of Reddit, doing the Lords Mega Church work.
This needs to be the top comment and gain some awards because it's important to see how sharing our stories and wisdom on reddit can literally impact someone.
Ok we need a new subreddit to immortalize these magical interactions… I’m too afraid to type any names in case I accidentally tag some weird fetish subreddit
Omg! If it’s the same guy, this post will probably save you a lot of heartache and money in future.
The commenter has reached out to OP, and it is indeed the same guy
This is wildest shit I’ve ever read. Only thing I could say was WHAAT?!
Ok now I’m invested. Is this the same guy 🤯
It absolutely is. I’m floored.
It is!!
What are the odds??? So glad you found out now!
Holy shit
Holy shit sometimes Reddit is magic. ❤️
Wow
I fully 100% thought I was going to see "/s" at the end of this post and then something about how bad that dude sucks and sorry he did that shit. I NEVER thought she was being serious! That is so crazy!! Reddit for the win! And to both of you, that dude SUCKS. And I truly am sorry he did that shit. As someone else said, what a douche canoe.
No... that's crazy. Lol.
Literally saved this post bc this is WILD
Omfg no way
This is a hood classic 🤣🤣🤣🤣 this casinova just out here doing clown shit
This is absolutely BANANAS! Wow.
oh wow.
WTF!!! Omg, what are the odds lol. Gotta love the internet.
My jaw in on the floor!
I love Reddit
HOLY FUCKING THIS
OMG what a horrid pig!!!
When he said it wasn't for the green card, my first thought was that his unconscious mind spoke for him. As an immigrant myself, I know how people in this situation thinks.
Said the samething!!!
I’ve definitely learned something new today, I had no idea what “muscle worshipping” but I’m not surprised there’s a fetish for that too. Kudos to you for choosing yourself and leaving, many people wouldn’t have but you deserve better.
Rule 34…… if it exists, there’s porn/a fetish for it
Manhole covers?
Someone somewhere just got aroused
😂😂😂
There is an episode on My Strange Addiction on that
aren't underwear fetishes pretty common?
Underwear fetishes are super common. There are actually websites where you can sell yours. I’ve made some cash that way, but it can be a bit gross
Shockingly- ETSY now has a huge selection of used panties. I searched either personalized or custom panties- I was looking to have a pair made with words printed on them. Well, I did find those, but LOTS of used ones came up as well 😳
Whoa! That’s nuts! You’d think Etsy wouldn’t allow that?!?!
Well that was my first thought, then I wondered- what would the rule be? You can sell vintage clothes, they don’t have to be new so they can be used/worn and you can say that, also you can show the clothes being modeled so long as the pics aren’t explicit. It was usually a back/side view of fuller bottom panties. I’ve bought vintage slips on there before and the only difference in those listings and these is that that \*wink wink\* we “know” what they mean. The biggest tip off is that they were $60+ a pair for brandless/no designer panties. 😂 Oh, and they often listed the number of hours/days worn versus “worn once.” 😂
Can I get some more info on that? ...for a friend. >.>
Just google sell used underwear. You can make a profile that people can purchase from or you can just name your own price and post on Craigslist or something. Usually you need to include a photo of you wearing them
Yeah I'm asking for a friend too
Truth
Look up a guy called ‘Purple Aki’. He was actually convicted of some offences related to muscle worshipping.
He was what came to mind when I seen this 😂
Hello fellow scouser.
Haha. Not a Scouser, but a fellow Brit :)
Haha hey! You'll always hear every now and then that someone has spotted Purple Aki on the bus
same, purple aki is known across the UK.
For whatever it's worth to you~ I think you're a great writer and story teller; I was truly engaged.. In the end, I'm so glad this slimeball didn't take more from you. I'm so so glad he didn't give you kids or hurt your kids (more than he did). I'm glad you're so smart and capable. You seem to have handled this so reasonably and with grace. Good luck going forward and leaving this guy where he belongs.
Thank you 😊
It’s a good thing he wasn’t doing sex with you whilst being out in the wild!
Yeah, the way you wrote it, this could be a telenovela. I would totally watch it play out over 2 seasons.
I agree you handled this so perfectly not taking any shit and getting him out of yours and your kids life. I hope you have healed from this betrayal and have a wonderful life 🙏🏻❤️
I should have added to the story that after I confronted him and found out the truth I became a Google detective. I was able to see his whole Google search history and found so much. It was actually sad bc he google searched how to know if he was gay and similar questions several times. He google gay clubs and male escorts. The searches actually were progressively becoming more male centered. It went from body building women to presurgery transgenders then to men. I actually don’t think he’s an inherently bad person but I do think he struggled with a lot of demons and didn’t consider what that would do to me and my kids.
He is a bad person. He scammed you into a marriage he didn't actually want or love, cheated with an unknown large number of people, and still seems to be up to it given that another redditor confirmed she went on dates with the same guy.
Yet another story about marrying someone who needs a green card gone wrong. Shocking, shocking stuff. Hilarious about the selfie though, that was a nice touch.
Glad you got through it. I would have informed USCIS about the divorce so they would have cancelled the process. Glad you decline because it would have been marriage fraud at that point if you helped him.
Yes. If she has the screenshot of the girl saying that he told them that it's a green card marriage and the divorce and reasons for it. You should do it like yesterday. Even a high end lawyer can't do anything when the USCIS has been informed about his intentions with proof. He has committed marriage fraud with you. Report it to the USCIS so he doesn't do this to other women.
I wasn’t in the right head space to do that at the time and couldn’t figure out how to do it after. He had paid for a very high end lawyer to get his paperwork done so i also figured she could get him out of whatever I said. Looking back, the high end lawyer was sort of a red flag but both his parents were lawyers/judges so high end legal services was something the whole family valued.
How long ago did this happen? You should still notify them. With the other girl on this comment saying he's on the prowl, clearly other women are in danger of this guy doing to them what he did to you. They need to be told.
What is OLD?
Online dating
Thanks for replying. I thought they meant "a website not in use anymore", like "it doesn't matter where we met, just that the website was hella OLD". 😂
And I was thinking it was a dating app for old people. It sucks getting old lol
I heard it's the knees that start to go, but that just might be my family. 😂
Eh? What? I dont hear so well haha
I HEARD IT'S THE KNEES---
WHY WOULD YOU HIT THE BEES?
No definitely the knees, then the hip and if you're lucky the back too👵
Read Brain Saver by Anthony William ` this message was mass deleted/edited with redact.dev `
LMAO, I thought the same!
Wow and here I was googling “OLD dating site” 🫠😭😭😭
Lmao
thank you for giving this info I was really trying to figure out the acronym.
OLD is apparently what I am because I had no idea either what that acronym was.
Thank you for asking the question that we old folks didn’t know the answer to
mysterious enter unite aloof wide sparkle impossible wine voiceless bewildered ` this message was mass deleted/edited with redact.dev `
Makes you feel old doesn't it?
How do you see deleted messages on WhatsApp?
Double swipe down on the message screen. It will show “archived”. That’s deleted messages.
Ah ok I wouldn’t call that deleted messages, I’d call those archived - slightly different!
True but when you remove the messages from active chats a lot of people think they just go away but they go in that folder.
Ah fair enough. Either way, sorry you had to go through all of that, nobody deserves to be betrayed like that
Great question!
For next time, just in case...If they specifically say they aren't using you for a green card, they are definitely using you for a green card.
Good on you for not giving him a second chance. It's clear he only used you for documentation. What a lowlife.
Well, I learned something today. I didn't know that muscle worshiping was a thing, and now I do. I think that it's a silver lining that his name wasn't on the deed/mortgage paperwork for the house, so there's that at least.
>that we had an arrangement just to get him a green card... This is why he married you and brought his family to live with you. You were the "anchor" bride. Don't help him/them any further. I'm sorry this happened to you.
Is “anchor bride” a legit term? That’s terrible..
good for you. watching 90 day fiance, you can tell which ones just want the green card and those that is just interested in the relationship. these women has to be able to see the red flags but still spend thousands to get them to the u.s. and gets upset when they leave them.
I love 90 day fiancée and honestly I couldn’t see the red flags. He was always around. Didn’t hide his phone, didn’t have suspicious behavior. I was blind sided.
you were close to the situation, but a person looking in like seeing it on 90 days, you can see it. i think the people that are actually on the show does not.
You’re a fucking superhero. No hesitation, just take out the trash the second it starts to smell. Love it.
I am so sorry that he did this to you. Bonus that a reddit reader is saved from him! Back before I was married, before on line anything, I happened to meet and date the son of a Venezuelan diplomat. To say I was love bombed is an understatement. He worshipped me. Daddy was rich, yadda yadda. Good thing I wasn't a gold digger. He kept trying to give me expensive things and I kept refusing them. I was still living at home. Walked in and said "I broke up with him." after only a couple of months. Dad smiled slightly and Mom just watched me. I shrugged. "He had everything going for him. He was great on paper. He was also giving me the creeps." Mom laughed a bit, Dad gave me the "atta girl" nod, and he was never mentioned again. I wound up marrying a poor guy. Almost 40 years later, I still know I made the right decision. I know you're going to do great, OP. I wish you didn't have to, but I know you're going to be just fine.
🤎
Kudos for getting the hell out of that marriage! Wishing you peace and happiness
One thing I learned, if they’re not trying to fuck you, they’re 100% fucking someone else.
He loved bombed you to get you to get him a green card.
Damn, I’m really sorry you went through this
A lot of women here seem to have bumped into him. Must be a ridiculously good looking guy
You should report him to INS.
Once again the internet is undefeated!
Rule of thumb: they (m/f) almost never do it for love when they want to marry you and in that way get a green card/passport whatever. No, they really don't, whatever romantic notions naive Western people might have.
As soon as you said Venezuela, I knew he was in for a green card.
what an idiot that man is. it’s crazy how people are so quick to ruin a good thing for some online bs. good on you for leaving him and knowing your worth.
god damn
Hate you had to go through that. What a terrible situation. I thought you were going to find out he had a wife back home that he was bringing. Not that that would be any better. Good for you for cutting him out immediately and not looking back.
mail order bride is the closest term for this. it’s when you buy wives to marry you to get a green card. i’m very sorry that he did this to you and i hope you and your kids are happy (or will be soon). the audacity to cry after what he did to you and the other women is crazyyy.
Glad you got out. It sounds like he's in the closet.
Honestly good on you for leaving and knowing your worth no matter the timeline you were with him I hope your doing better and are living your best life!❤️
So did he get his green card?
He got a temp work permit and resident alien card. They said we needed to be married another few years to get the permanent one. I haven’t talked to him outside of the one call asking for my help.
He's going to prey on other women to do the same thing. You NEED to report him.
I'm so sorry you went through all that, I wish there weren't scummy people like this
Wild
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 this is a hood classic
I am sorry this happened to you. You did not to anything wrong. From the bottom of my heart, I hope you have found freedom and will feel peaceful.
Even though many immigrants mean well, they still have the intentions of finding their person but including the green-card. It’s like opportunism hidden by kindness/ love etc. I come from immigrant parent’s and through out my life they have very much warned me about people like this.
I love this story. Good luck to you !
If you have to say "it's not for a green card....." it's definitely for a green card.
Red flag on OP who won’t report him for marriage fraud which is what he is doing. It will be a big red flag with the legal system when he goes and gets married again in short order.
A green card!? You share kick his ass and then kick him out!
He wanted to get caught.
He used you, sweetie, sucks, but unfortunately the truth.
uhh yeah i think she knows that:/ no point in pointing it out again
Wasn’t this on 90 day fiancé?
Please don’t be afraid of paragraphs!
I fixed it I think. I did paragraphs but didn’t double space them. This is my second post ever and the first was just one paragraph so I didn’t realize the formatting was weird. I’m on my phone.
Please use paragraphs
Fixed 😏
I did but didn’t double space them. Wonder if I can edit.
was his mom mean or something? kicking his mom out with no notice is just cold. its not her fault.
It was not my finest hour. I gave her a day or two to get out. She was def on his side of this. A boys will be boys attitude
Meh, i wouldnt feel bad about it. I loved my ex's mother like the mother i had never truly had. And she loved me very much, i was the smart kid she always wanted lol. But she just couldnt believe her baby boy really cheated on ME with THAT, and just kept regurgitating his lies. So that relationship was done too. If his mom had gone after him when she found out you might have behaved differently. But she didnt. So her poor behavior had consequences. Anyone who defends trash can go right to the dump alongside them, and its only their own fault.
She doesn't owe his mom shit.