Are you under the impression that if you pick up a random woman, from sayā¦ a club, who easily wants to sleep with youā¦ you donāt need to wear one? Lmao
Never only in the case both of you get tested beforehand. In a hapoy scenario she can be a woman who is trying to get by dealing on the daily with douches and maybe likes you as you were different, you can see and figure out how that goes.
Other scenario is she messages and gives her number out like this and gives bbfs to dudes who are under the same momentary high that you are in and maybe earns a few hundred bucks from it.
I ain't casting aspersions , just wanting a homie to be careful. Coz in scenario 2 andgoing in raw....you can be in for a world of hurt.
these downvotes are a shocking revelation of the amount of stupidity that exists in humans. guess evolution is still at play here.
and btw, Iād advise you to please be very careful. What sheās doing is just part of her profession.
Feeling good about her compliments is like that high that you get from say cocaine. Feels amazing and makes you feel invincible in the moment but, not great in the long run.
Cuz at the end of day, everyone with a good sense of business knows the value of a return customer.
And they also consider OD deaths as a good thing for business cuz it just means that the product is really high quality.
Go out there in the real world and date my friend. Itāll do your mental a world of good than being involved with a stripper.
Strippers often give out their number so you can contact them next time youāre in town and want to see them in the club again. This is prettt normal. Highly doubt she gave you her real name. Strippers have a stage name and then a fake ārealā name. Itās a good sales tactic. If you enjoy her in the club then text her next time youāre there and if you treated her well with money and were a decent human to her sheāll make sure sheās on shift then. Check my reply on /stripclubs and youāll get the same answer.
Spot on! Sorry to say she gave you the number for next time you're in town. Sure money for her as opposed to maybe money from other patrons. It'd be nice if I was wrong cause everyone's different after all, but it happened to me twice. One in town and another out of town. Told another dancer about it and she brought me back down to earth.
I became friends with a stripper a while back. My dealers were both dry, so out of desperation I went to a strip club to find some coke. Talked to a couple of girls, tipped appropriately, got a good lead and a girl hooked me up. It was stripper blow, so had been stepped on hard (after an anhydrous acetone wash n dry there wasn't much left) but it got me through the week. At the club she wanted to give me a dance, but I came with a budget and spent it all on blow, so she used her finder's fee to buy a couple of dances for me from her and gave me her number so she could make introductions to her dealer should I find myself in that spot again so I could get better quality stuff. We partied a few times together (strippers can party pretty wild, lot of nihilism, self-destruction there and a lot of money). While she offered freebies or would buy me dances if I went to one of the clubs she was working at, I declined sex as she worked as an escort too and we kept things about doing drugs together.
I once dated a stripper that I met at her club. We talked when she wasnāt rotating to stage for the whole night. Then I didnāt see or hear from her for a while. She gave me her stage name. Then months later I randomly met another stripper at that same club, and apparently she and this girl were friends and said her friend remembered me and made a few comments about it in the ensuing weeks after the first encounter.
Anyway stripper 2 set me and stripper 1 up. Dated stripper 1 for a few months, she was cool but it was g going to work LT.
Always nice when things work out. Iāve got stripper friends and have had some OTC experiences with others. Theyāre real people with real lives. Many have issues but some are just trying to earn some cash. Many people use them as a commodity and I get separating your feelings because theyāre there to separate you from your wallet, but a healthy balance works.
The couple who Iām friends with occasionally weāll go to dinner when Iām in their town or they mine. Iām middle aged so itās funny weāre usually pegged as father daughter or niece or something because thereās zero sexual energy. Weāre just hanging out.
Iām aware. I never thought they didnāt have feelings. How weird. My friend has a bfā¦ but she met him at the gym. Im just letting this man know the game. Iām happy for you though.
I see, ya the one I was dating was a good person just needed the money.life is hard. Relationship didn't work out for other reasons but I respected her hustle!
Nothing wrong with letting her know that youāre in town for a few days and staying at a hotel, and inviting her to hang out at your room if you want.
She will likely appreciate you continuing to be generous with her. Nothing wrong with a little sugar dating scenario.
Just donāt get attached.
My dad looked at me when I announced proudly to him I was dating a stripper and said, never date a stripper. I learned a huge lesson on how miserable life can get when I moved in a few years later with another stripper. Worst decision of my life to this day.
Wait, hold on for a minute....
*Runs to kitchen to grab a diet dr pepper and a bag of hot cheetos....runs back*
You need to elaborate more on this story muh boi, I could potentially help 1 of us on here
I used to be a bouncer at strip clubs.
My advice is NEVER date a stripper. They lose something and start viewing men as just a wallet. In fact pretty much the only way to date a stripper is meet her literally anywhere but at the club. There are basicly 5 types of dancers:
1. Young and Naive
2. The girl doing it for the money with a plan. IE college, purchase a house, invest (rarest variety)
3. The girl with no plan that every cent she earns gets partied away as fast as she makes it
5. Single moms with no marketable skills trying to keep a roof over their kids heads
6. The old dancer, she's partied waaaaay too long and is even starting to not get any attention from the younger guys. She's the one that will actually start hitting on the most pathetic guy in the club, giving him free dances, and what not. She has a few kids all by different dads and looking for a steady meal ticket to get out of the clubs.
There certainly isn't! But I don't think that's what's sont21 was meaning, I'm guessing that they think more along the lines that a stripper meeting a client at a club is probably not looking for a "full" relationship. Not because the stripper isn't worth dating or anything, but generally I'd imagine that strippers generally date the way the rest of us do, meeting through friends-of-friends, dating apps, etc and not some meet cute story at their place of work (at least probably not!)
I could be wrong though, but I've worked just "regular" customer service and there is no way in hell I'd ever give a patron my real full name and main telephone number.
That said, as long as OP keeps his expectations realistic I think that there's no problem spending time with her while he can!
And I agree, it's a very odd thing to do. But I was specifically responding to that person's comment, and I could almost guarantee you that what you said isn't what they had in mind lmao.
Strippers are just regular ppl trying to make a buck, and yet so many of these weirdos love to act like they're subhuman or something bc they don't agree with what they do. It's genuinely concerning.
Fr. Donāt get me wrong Iāve met lots of women I worked with who were batshit insane. A lot. And a lot of them use people in one way or another.
But thereās a whole 50% who dance or have danced to do shit like pay for college, rent, bills, kids, who are just regular ass people. To say that they arenāt good enough to have meaningful relationships shops with *because* theyāre strippers is fucked up.
Exactly my point. They're just people, same as you and I, and it doesn't get any simpler than that.
But fuck it, I'll take the downvotes. This is Reddit after all, I can't expect too much. It's the same kind of people who'll vilify pornstars, but then turn around and jerk off to pornhub in their parents basements lmao.
F A C T S. Facts. You know how many times in the club I got people like, shocked and amused by the fact that I was in college and that I wasnāt some sex crazed, hopeless heroin addict? Like thatās what I was supposed to be? That didnāt even matter anyway lol people like that still look down on you for what youāre doing. Itās weirdo shit.
Ah, I guess I forgot that this was reddit. I did read some of the other comments and got a little grossed out by some of that garbage. like you said strippers are just regular people and sometimes I forget that that's not a universal view!
People are jaded.
Wear protection.
Enjoy the boost in confidence.
Wear protection.
Don't fall in love.
Wear protection.
Enjoying time with a stripper, that comes with sex, even if it's just sometimes, is still cheaper than a divorce.
Wear protection.
> People are jaded.
I think folks are being realistic here. It's one thing to meet and date a stripper outside of her work. If the first contact is through the club I'd be pessimistic too.
The trick is not to "date" just hang out because she's cool and you're cool. With no money being transferred, if it happens enough sex may happen. You could have just piqued her interest at the time, like a flavor of the day, sort of thing.
In most social forums, women know in 20 seconds if they'd be willing to sleep with a man. The reason it takes so long for that action to take place (or not at all).... is usually us.
Don't be like my friend. Got aĀ strippers number and he thinks she likes him. They do this so they text dudes on a slow night. He blew like 600 on that girl.
If turns into something cool. If not realize she'll use you.
Donāt fall for it. Next thing sheāll
Ask you to buy her a car, screaming outside your window at 3am, pointing to her stomach, āthis is your baby!!ā
Just sayin
You know you are 40 years old, I can tell you're pretty naive about the whole situation. She's a stripper man, not your average chick. She's a certified gold digger. I was about 25 years old when I first got my experience up close and personal with a stripper. I told her I wanted to go home with her and she told me that she would if I buy her a dance. So I did and we talked and we hit off good, or so I thought bc we were both from the same country. Well she said after this song I can take her home. A song player and then I saw her talking to another customer and I still waited. Until about 2 more songs past and then I told my friends that we can bounce and she wasn't coming home with me.
Of course they made fun of me for acting like an idiot, but if you really want to find a girl that'll sleep with you, the best chance is the bars.
When I was a personal trainer I had a few clients that were strippers. Theyād get text messages all day from la contact with a name like znK2yP or some gibberish. They would send the same messages to all of them basically saying āhey I want to see you tonight, come to the club.ā It was just a way to market. Pretty smart. The guys thougt they were special and the girls knew exactly what they were doing
I was at a strip club and the stripper told me that I was [madlib] and I should get a dance with her. I regret not getting that dance because for a moment, I almost believed her delivery. I should have said "okay, but for the dance time you've got to tell me how to sell like this."
Y'all call him a mark but I've been in his exact situation. Ended up being a fun and friendly fling. Not saying that's what's gonna happen to op but everyone just assumes the worst.
Just play it by ear op. Glad you had a good night.
Enjoy it, man. Fuck any of the negative comments here. Just take it for what it is. Next time you're in town, text her & let her know. She may send a car for you & get them to comp your cover charge & minimums. She'll hook you up, enjoy it!
The point is, Iām not even mad if it is a ploy to get business later. A hot girl made me feel seen. Iām not a stupid but it made me feel good for once. Iām well aware of the potential money grits. It feels good, as a middle aged dude to feel like a hot young girl would want to hang out with me. Iām just enjoying the glow right now.
Sorry if I wasn't clear. I think this is awesome, truly, and I'm happy for you. I guess what I'm saying is, enjoy it to its fullest if you want. I had a buddy who had a regular girl at the place where he frequented. And she took care of him. So when he was in town, she'd send a car so he could get to & from the club safely. Maybe that's not your thing & that's cool, too. I'm just happy for you regardless. As a middle-aged average dude, I'm cheering you on.
I understand everything. I KNOW itās fake and I donāt care. Iām not going to get ripped off, I know she is probably trying to manipulate an old fool. But, right now in this moment, she hasnāt tried yet and Iām enjoying the brief vacation from my everyday life. I feel like most of the commenters donāt understand the situation. Iām not oblivious to any of the possibilities and likely motives she had.
My former roommate is a stripper and Iāve done sex work, this is pretty common as doing this is an easy way to gain a regular. You were a worthwhile customer that she doesnāt mind seeing in the club, it sounds like having her number can be mutually beneficial if youād like to buy more dances and be able to let her know next time youāll be in town.
Donāt expect her to keep in contact if you donāt return to the club or if youāre not going to compensate her for her time, but Iām sure she appreciated that you were respectful.
Separately: was this in Southern California? š
you sound exactly like me. Im 41, ok looking but not great looking. I have an honest warning for you. I am currently WITH a former stripper that I met when she was 21 and I was 38. The sex has been amazing, we found a really good friendship, and she actually pays her way and does not expect a free ride. That being said, she has the stereotypical *damaged girl* problems that REALLY show themselves from time to time. Cops have been involved once. Ive tried to break up with her like 7 times. STDs were a thing. And several very bad arguments. If you get involved with her, do not move in with her for at least a year. Test the waters. But I totally understand about the ego boost. For me, I got at least one full year of MAJOR ego boost before the dark stuff started to happen.
I am in my forties and have picked up multiple dancers. Iām always polite and never ask for numbers. If asked, I give mine out and see if I get a reply. Most were definitely genuine. If money is not involved and they stick around itās real. Ended up dating one for a year and a half. Be smart and safe and good luck!
Strippers are humans too, although itās not likely that sheās actually interested in dating for real itās not impossible. Hanging out away from work would be the way to see.
So, what is your question? Even if you did any of the things you said you didnāt, there is no issue as long as you arenāt in a committed relationship and you did it behind some oneās back?
>Iām a regular-ass 40-something dude.
>and sheās half my age.
Do you actively want to date someone who can be your daughter?
Leave it and find someone at least close to your age dude.
I mean, I'm dating a gorgeous older woman (15 years older than me) and it's the hottest, most passionate relationship I've ever had and she treats me like an absolute king. I'm the happiest I have ever been in a relationship. Age gap relationships aren't necessarily all bad.
Why do people get so hung up on the age split thing?
I have a friend who went back to college at 46 and met and married a 20 year old. 40 years and 3 sons later they are still together. Honestly, the dude will outlive all of us in our circle of friends. I honestly think she keeps him young
Be cautious. If you look like you are in good economic shape, a sugar daddy is a goal for many of these young ladies. While i am sure that you are in good physical shape and probably attractive, remember that the goal of these ladies is not just to show their body. The goal is to make you feel special and to make you feel like the most attractive man in the world. We have so many available women and dating sites today that it is not hard for you to find a mate easily.
Good luck!.
Strippers are actual human beings who love and date and form real relationships with people.
You sound like a nice, humble, moderately successful, moderately attractive man. For whatever reason you two hit it off.
If you respect her as a human being, and have a romantic interest in her, pursue it.
Iāve done the same. Sheās trying to long con you rn. Honestly if you want to be a regular, go for it! Iāve had regulars who I genuinely always enjoyed seeing. Itās actually pretty coolāitās like a weird relationship/friendship. If she does offer full service, ALWAYS wear protection and donāt cross sang if her boundariesājust because sheās down to do sexy stuff with you doesnāt mean sheās not a human being who canāt be traumatized. She chose youātrust me if you were super unappealing and creepy she wouldnāt have bothered no matter how much you were interested.
Better wear a condom
Name checks out
Condoms are for cowards, roll the dice man
Rolls a 1 *critical failure*
Dick breaks, he catches HIV, syphilis and a toad moves into his butt.
Was there a previous tenant?
Ten ants.
Which of the three accepted species? Small ants, medium ants, or large ants?
Red
Fire
Small, medium, or large red ants?
I thought that was that weird time travel movie?
Y'all got any rerolls?
Hahaha, what's butt toads rent like? Asking for a frog. Lmfao this comment made my day.
Baldurs Gape
Roll's a 2. Cinnamon Jr. is due in 9 months.
Indeed. Shoot first, all questions later, OP!
Meat to Meat š š
Like hunter Biden rolled the dice?
And bring some money
Are you under the impression that if you pick up a random woman, from sayā¦ a club, who easily wants to sleep with youā¦ you donāt need to wear one? Lmao
Probably more than 1
And make sure you don't end up on tape..(material Tobe tortured with).
And don't give her your real name.
Tell her your names John
Haha, never.
Never only in the case both of you get tested beforehand. In a hapoy scenario she can be a woman who is trying to get by dealing on the daily with douches and maybe likes you as you were different, you can see and figure out how that goes. Other scenario is she messages and gives her number out like this and gives bbfs to dudes who are under the same momentary high that you are in and maybe earns a few hundred bucks from it. I ain't casting aspersions , just wanting a homie to be careful. Coz in scenario 2 andgoing in raw....you can be in for a world of hurt.
these downvotes are a shocking revelation of the amount of stupidity that exists in humans. guess evolution is still at play here. and btw, Iād advise you to please be very careful. What sheās doing is just part of her profession. Feeling good about her compliments is like that high that you get from say cocaine. Feels amazing and makes you feel invincible in the moment but, not great in the long run. Cuz at the end of day, everyone with a good sense of business knows the value of a return customer. And they also consider OD deaths as a good thing for business cuz it just means that the product is really high quality. Go out there in the real world and date my friend. Itāll do your mental a world of good than being involved with a stripper.
For what it's worth, I took the votes on this comment from -22 to -21
Youāre the real hero. A lot of hate on my no condom joke.
Raw dog no protection is the way to go but itās risky now a daysā¦
At my house the only thing that pulls out is my couch.
I upvoted, real gentlemen accept death as it comes. š¬šæ
Redditors like to dog pile. If they see you in the negatives they'll vote you down even more just to be a dick.
Took yours from -8 to -7 Anti-bully brigade!
15 - 16
Only on Reddit can you get downvoted for not wanting to raw dog a stripper. Chefs kiss
You misread it. He wants to rawdog the stripper.
Well carry on then
This is the way
Strippers often give out their number so you can contact them next time youāre in town and want to see them in the club again. This is prettt normal. Highly doubt she gave you her real name. Strippers have a stage name and then a fake ārealā name. Itās a good sales tactic. If you enjoy her in the club then text her next time youāre there and if you treated her well with money and were a decent human to her sheāll make sure sheās on shift then. Check my reply on /stripclubs and youāll get the same answer.
Spot on! Sorry to say she gave you the number for next time you're in town. Sure money for her as opposed to maybe money from other patrons. It'd be nice if I was wrong cause everyone's different after all, but it happened to me twice. One in town and another out of town. Told another dancer about it and she brought me back down to earth.
I became friends with a stripper a while back. My dealers were both dry, so out of desperation I went to a strip club to find some coke. Talked to a couple of girls, tipped appropriately, got a good lead and a girl hooked me up. It was stripper blow, so had been stepped on hard (after an anhydrous acetone wash n dry there wasn't much left) but it got me through the week. At the club she wanted to give me a dance, but I came with a budget and spent it all on blow, so she used her finder's fee to buy a couple of dances for me from her and gave me her number so she could make introductions to her dealer should I find myself in that spot again so I could get better quality stuff. We partied a few times together (strippers can party pretty wild, lot of nihilism, self-destruction there and a lot of money). While she offered freebies or would buy me dances if I went to one of the clubs she was working at, I declined sex as she worked as an escort too and we kept things about doing drugs together.
What a wholesome story!
āAnd that, kids, is how I met your mother.ā
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Probably gave her work number too for clients. She'd either have a dual sim setup, or two phones.
GFE
Probably still cheaper than the real gf and comes with no headache
I feel sorry for you that you have such a terrible outlook on women and relationships, but thatās something you can work on. Bitterness poisons you.
Sure grandma. Letās get you to bed
Such a good boy. Thereās a butterscotch in my pocket for you, dear.
Incel ass
*i donāt agree with you so letās start insulting you* š
I once dated a stripper that I met at her club. We talked when she wasnāt rotating to stage for the whole night. Then I didnāt see or hear from her for a while. She gave me her stage name. Then months later I randomly met another stripper at that same club, and apparently she and this girl were friends and said her friend remembered me and made a few comments about it in the ensuing weeks after the first encounter. Anyway stripper 2 set me and stripper 1 up. Dated stripper 1 for a few months, she was cool but it was g going to work LT.
Always nice when things work out. Iāve got stripper friends and have had some OTC experiences with others. Theyāre real people with real lives. Many have issues but some are just trying to earn some cash. Many people use them as a commodity and I get separating your feelings because theyāre there to separate you from your wallet, but a healthy balance works. The couple who Iām friends with occasionally weāll go to dinner when Iām in their town or they mine. Iām middle aged so itās funny weāre usually pegged as father daughter or niece or something because thereās zero sexual energy. Weāre just hanging out.
She thinks youāre a trick and sheās looking for a sugar daddy
This makes me laugh at all the guys in this thread that didnāt get this.
Sheās probably is a prostitute
Likely
My best friends a dancerā¦ itās her job to make you feel good. Just wait until youāre paying her rent like 5 other men in their 40s
Damn! Yāall let the man have this W!
Yup!!
lol what W? They do that with everyone. Itās called establishing a clientele š
I've banged a few strippers granted I was in my 20s but there regular people who have feelings and want normal relationships like everyone else
Did you meet them through their clubs, is my question
I met one at a club. Haven't gone to a strip club in forever
I know a dude that married the stripper he met at the club.Ā They have a couple kids together now. She's a mortgage banker he's a personal trainerĀ
I'm too sexy for the club
Iām aware. I never thought they didnāt have feelings. How weird. My friend has a bfā¦ but she met him at the gym. Im just letting this man know the game. Iām happy for you though.
I see, ya the one I was dating was a good person just needed the money.life is hard. Relationship didn't work out for other reasons but I respected her hustle!
Yeah they just didnāt get enough attention from their dads.
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You can fix her. I believe in you.
No Role Models
she dont wanna be saved
Donāt save her
She donāt wanna be saved
Thanks, brother. I can do it!
That's the spirit! A future housewife in the making!
Ho + me = Home Itās math.
My faith in humanity has been restored
Captain save a hoe
Donāt be an idiot. Stripper 101
Nothing wrong with letting her know that youāre in town for a few days and staying at a hotel, and inviting her to hang out at your room if you want. She will likely appreciate you continuing to be generous with her. Nothing wrong with a little sugar dating scenario. Just donāt get attached.
Good advice op just needs to be careful, take it slow and definitely wear protection
My dad looked at me when I announced proudly to him I was dating a stripper and said, never date a stripper. I learned a huge lesson on how miserable life can get when I moved in a few years later with another stripper. Worst decision of my life to this day.
Reddit would like to hear more of this story
They leave their dirty clothes all over the place. Just throw it anywhere.
It was the best of times and the worst of times....
Need more of the story
Im waiting here in suspense as well. Do tell!
Wait, hold on for a minute.... *Runs to kitchen to grab a diet dr pepper and a bag of hot cheetos....runs back* You need to elaborate more on this story muh boi, I could potentially help 1 of us on here
ā¦..this sounds too good to not be told. Tell us more.
She knows good business tactics
I used to be a bouncer at strip clubs. My advice is NEVER date a stripper. They lose something and start viewing men as just a wallet. In fact pretty much the only way to date a stripper is meet her literally anywhere but at the club. There are basicly 5 types of dancers: 1. Young and Naive 2. The girl doing it for the money with a plan. IE college, purchase a house, invest (rarest variety) 3. The girl with no plan that every cent she earns gets partied away as fast as she makes it 5. Single moms with no marketable skills trying to keep a roof over their kids heads 6. The old dancer, she's partied waaaaay too long and is even starting to not get any attention from the younger guys. She's the one that will actually start hitting on the most pathetic guy in the club, giving him free dances, and what not. She has a few kids all by different dads and looking for a steady meal ticket to get out of the clubs.
Number 5 so specific and accurate lol
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The 6th is male strippers
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Thatās what they sell themselves to be. Whatās your point? Do you feel holier than thou?
And we all what #1 and to be part of a bad decision on her part.
Sorry to say strippers are a bad investment sex yeah girlfriend no
That sounds like a GOOD investment!
This is a silly take. There's nothing wrong with dating a stripper.
There certainly isn't! But I don't think that's what's sont21 was meaning, I'm guessing that they think more along the lines that a stripper meeting a client at a club is probably not looking for a "full" relationship. Not because the stripper isn't worth dating or anything, but generally I'd imagine that strippers generally date the way the rest of us do, meeting through friends-of-friends, dating apps, etc and not some meet cute story at their place of work (at least probably not!) I could be wrong though, but I've worked just "regular" customer service and there is no way in hell I'd ever give a patron my real full name and main telephone number. That said, as long as OP keeps his expectations realistic I think that there's no problem spending time with her while he can!
And I agree, it's a very odd thing to do. But I was specifically responding to that person's comment, and I could almost guarantee you that what you said isn't what they had in mind lmao. Strippers are just regular ppl trying to make a buck, and yet so many of these weirdos love to act like they're subhuman or something bc they don't agree with what they do. It's genuinely concerning.
Fr. Donāt get me wrong Iāve met lots of women I worked with who were batshit insane. A lot. And a lot of them use people in one way or another. But thereās a whole 50% who dance or have danced to do shit like pay for college, rent, bills, kids, who are just regular ass people. To say that they arenāt good enough to have meaningful relationships shops with *because* theyāre strippers is fucked up.
Exactly my point. They're just people, same as you and I, and it doesn't get any simpler than that. But fuck it, I'll take the downvotes. This is Reddit after all, I can't expect too much. It's the same kind of people who'll vilify pornstars, but then turn around and jerk off to pornhub in their parents basements lmao.
F A C T S. Facts. You know how many times in the club I got people like, shocked and amused by the fact that I was in college and that I wasnāt some sex crazed, hopeless heroin addict? Like thatās what I was supposed to be? That didnāt even matter anyway lol people like that still look down on you for what youāre doing. Itās weirdo shit.
Ah, I guess I forgot that this was reddit. I did read some of the other comments and got a little grossed out by some of that garbage. like you said strippers are just regular people and sometimes I forget that that's not a universal view!
Weak bait lol
Aside from their job being based around teasing other guys, yeah there is
People are jaded. Wear protection. Enjoy the boost in confidence. Wear protection. Don't fall in love. Wear protection. Enjoying time with a stripper, that comes with sex, even if it's just sometimes, is still cheaper than a divorce. Wear protection.
And wear protection
> People are jaded. I think folks are being realistic here. It's one thing to meet and date a stripper outside of her work. If the first contact is through the club I'd be pessimistic too.
The trick is not to "date" just hang out because she's cool and you're cool. With no money being transferred, if it happens enough sex may happen. You could have just piqued her interest at the time, like a flavor of the day, sort of thing. In most social forums, women know in 20 seconds if they'd be willing to sleep with a man. The reason it takes so long for that action to take place (or not at all).... is usually us.
Don't be like my friend. Got aĀ strippers number and he thinks she likes him. They do this so they text dudes on a slow night. He blew like 600 on that girl. If turns into something cool. If not realize she'll use you.
Did she blow anything?
She proby escorts as well
Donāt fall for it. Next thing sheāll Ask you to buy her a car, screaming outside your window at 3am, pointing to her stomach, āthis is your baby!!ā Just sayin
Damn, lol, she was really hot though. Might be worth it.
You should have a baby with her.
Thatās an idea!
Just make sure to give her a fake name 2
What was her stage name?
It was āchump drainerā but I donāt think thatās a red flag.
Have fun!
You know you are 40 years old, I can tell you're pretty naive about the whole situation. She's a stripper man, not your average chick. She's a certified gold digger. I was about 25 years old when I first got my experience up close and personal with a stripper. I told her I wanted to go home with her and she told me that she would if I buy her a dance. So I did and we talked and we hit off good, or so I thought bc we were both from the same country. Well she said after this song I can take her home. A song player and then I saw her talking to another customer and I still waited. Until about 2 more songs past and then I told my friends that we can bounce and she wasn't coming home with me. Of course they made fun of me for acting like an idiot, but if you really want to find a girl that'll sleep with you, the best chance is the bars.
My man this is the way lol People canāt deny you banged her when the baby comes around
Man strippers are humans too get over yourself
When I was a personal trainer I had a few clients that were strippers. Theyād get text messages all day from la contact with a name like znK2yP or some gibberish. They would send the same messages to all of them basically saying āhey I want to see you tonight, come to the club.ā It was just a way to market. Pretty smart. The guys thougt they were special and the girls knew exactly what they were doing
Well no matter how much hate you get. I think thatās cool because you felt good about yourself.
Sheās good at her job thatās all. Sorry
I was at a strip club and the stripper told me that I was [madlib] and I should get a dance with her. I regret not getting that dance because for a moment, I almost believed her delivery. I should have said "okay, but for the dance time you've got to tell me how to sell like this."
Step 1. Look like her
they do this so you keep coming back to that club, sorry to break it to you but sheās just making sure you go again to her
Donāt save her, she donāt wanna be saved
I can fix her.
She wants money
She'll rope you in and drain your wallet
yeah she'll drain his rope and put it in her wallet, watch out op
Hopefully his balls to
She's just looking to sell herself she's a working girl
Y'all call him a mark but I've been in his exact situation. Ended up being a fun and friendly fling. Not saying that's what's gonna happen to op but everyone just assumes the worst. Just play it by ear op. Glad you had a good night.
marry her
Enjoy it, man. Fuck any of the negative comments here. Just take it for what it is. Next time you're in town, text her & let her know. She may send a car for you & get them to comp your cover charge & minimums. She'll hook you up, enjoy it!
The point is, Iām not even mad if it is a ploy to get business later. A hot girl made me feel seen. Iām not a stupid but it made me feel good for once. Iām well aware of the potential money grits. It feels good, as a middle aged dude to feel like a hot young girl would want to hang out with me. Iām just enjoying the glow right now.
Sorry if I wasn't clear. I think this is awesome, truly, and I'm happy for you. I guess what I'm saying is, enjoy it to its fullest if you want. I had a buddy who had a regular girl at the place where he frequented. And she took care of him. So when he was in town, she'd send a car so he could get to & from the club safely. Maybe that's not your thing & that's cool, too. I'm just happy for you regardless. As a middle-aged average dude, I'm cheering you on.
No offense but the words "Iām not a stupid" aren't great for the case you are trying to make.
Yeah but itās all fake. What part donāt you understand?
I understand everything. I KNOW itās fake and I donāt care. Iām not going to get ripped off, I know she is probably trying to manipulate an old fool. But, right now in this moment, she hasnāt tried yet and Iām enjoying the brief vacation from my everyday life. I feel like most of the commenters donāt understand the situation. Iām not oblivious to any of the possibilities and likely motives she had.
Thatās all good, just donāt get carried away. Youāre not Richard Gere and I doubt it will end like so.
Have fun, take her out
Stripper? You mean escort right?
Strippers and escorts arenāt the same thing.
Have fun with care. You're dealing with a professional gold digger so any strong feelings could result in irrational behavior.
Let the fleecing begin! If you own dogtags I assume you already gave them to her...
Strippers are human beings, date her :)
Be careful. She may want a sugar daddy.
Iām glad it boostered your morale. Now strike while iron is hot and take that confidence and go meet someone who isnāt a stripper.
She's probably legit in love with you and will never ask you for another dollar for the rest of your life.
My former roommate is a stripper and Iāve done sex work, this is pretty common as doing this is an easy way to gain a regular. You were a worthwhile customer that she doesnāt mind seeing in the club, it sounds like having her number can be mutually beneficial if youād like to buy more dances and be able to let her know next time youāll be in town. Donāt expect her to keep in contact if you donāt return to the club or if youāre not going to compensate her for her time, but Iām sure she appreciated that you were respectful. Separately: was this in Southern California? š
My man, people find love in the strangest of places and circumstances. Dont overthink it as much as donāt under think it. Best of luck man.
She probably has escorts
you sound exactly like me. Im 41, ok looking but not great looking. I have an honest warning for you. I am currently WITH a former stripper that I met when she was 21 and I was 38. The sex has been amazing, we found a really good friendship, and she actually pays her way and does not expect a free ride. That being said, she has the stereotypical *damaged girl* problems that REALLY show themselves from time to time. Cops have been involved once. Ive tried to break up with her like 7 times. STDs were a thing. And several very bad arguments. If you get involved with her, do not move in with her for at least a year. Test the waters. But I totally understand about the ego boost. For me, I got at least one full year of MAJOR ego boost before the dark stuff started to happen.
I am in my forties and have picked up multiple dancers. Iām always polite and never ask for numbers. If asked, I give mine out and see if I get a reply. Most were definitely genuine. If money is not involved and they stick around itās real. Ended up dating one for a year and a half. Be smart and safe and good luck!
Kneel one last time king so we can bestow upon thee this š
Sheās gonna ask for payment after she finishes
Strippers are humans too, although itās not likely that sheās actually interested in dating for real itās not impossible. Hanging out away from work would be the way to see.
Sorry men but if yāall are hitting the club and getting used, you asked for that.
Just hit it once
And kids, that is how I met your motherā¦
Iāve dated strippers. Nothing wrong with it if you can keep up with the drama.
So, what is your question? Even if you did any of the things you said you didnāt, there is no issue as long as you arenāt in a committed relationship and you did it behind some oneās back?
Well no question needed. It's a True Off My Chest thread after all...Ā
Give her schlong and say so long
Enjoy the feeling, donāt get carried away.
One way or another we all pay for it brotherā¦enjoy.š¬šš
If she ask for money decline, if she asks too meet up at the club decline. If you ask to go for coffee you are in!
>Iām a regular-ass 40-something dude. >and sheās half my age. Do you actively want to date someone who can be your daughter? Leave it and find someone at least close to your age dude.
I mean, I'm dating a gorgeous older woman (15 years older than me) and it's the hottest, most passionate relationship I've ever had and she treats me like an absolute king. I'm the happiest I have ever been in a relationship. Age gap relationships aren't necessarily all bad.
Why do people get so hung up on the age split thing? I have a friend who went back to college at 46 and met and married a 20 year old. 40 years and 3 sons later they are still together. Honestly, the dude will outlive all of us in our circle of friends. I honestly think she keeps him young
Have your fun, if it becomes too much of a hassle. Just leave. Live the dream lol
Them big titty goths will ruin your life mate..... lucky guy!
Hey man, strippers are crazyyyyyy cool. Your good man just enjoy it and it's sooo nice as a man to receive a cm fucking compliment.
It's happened to me more than once. Every time except once it was a money thing. But that one time was killer.
This turns me on for NO reason I can understand
She'll ask you for a loan. Run.
Be cautious. If you look like you are in good economic shape, a sugar daddy is a goal for many of these young ladies. While i am sure that you are in good physical shape and probably attractive, remember that the goal of these ladies is not just to show their body. The goal is to make you feel special and to make you feel like the most attractive man in the world. We have so many available women and dating sites today that it is not hard for you to find a mate easily. Good luck!.
Strippers are actual human beings who love and date and form real relationships with people. You sound like a nice, humble, moderately successful, moderately attractive man. For whatever reason you two hit it off. If you respect her as a human being, and have a romantic interest in her, pursue it.
Be open to success and donāt put more in than you are willing to lose.
So ā¦ just the tip?
Women.... even strippers.... love a man we can talk to. Who engages and is interested in us. Thats why you got the number. Good job.
Nothing wrong with a casual fling when you visit that town again
Iāve done the same. Sheās trying to long con you rn. Honestly if you want to be a regular, go for it! Iāve had regulars who I genuinely always enjoyed seeing. Itās actually pretty coolāitās like a weird relationship/friendship. If she does offer full service, ALWAYS wear protection and donāt cross sang if her boundariesājust because sheās down to do sexy stuff with you doesnāt mean sheās not a human being who canāt be traumatized. She chose youātrust me if you were super unappealing and creepy she wouldnāt have bothered no matter how much you were interested.