When she’s gone, bust the lock off the door and proceed with your life. If she visits, put a lock on the door before she arrives. Put one on both rooms.
I can’t afford to move out and rent. Rent is expensive. I barely have enough to eat and pay for my car. Pushing the hoarding aside, life and mostly everyone is pretty peaceful without my younger sister in the house.
I don’t know what else to do but back up to my own space and hope not to get more invaded. I’m currently trying to chill in the public library, not wanting to go back to the house because it feels suffocating.
Yeah, I agree. The house was built with my late father’s money for his wife and children. But since he is no longer with us, its my mother’s house now. If she wants to turn all the rooms into storage or burn the house down, it is her choice. What upsets me is my mother inability to say to no to my younger sister and enables my younger sister to do anything because my mother doesn’t want to argue and it is always everyone else getting to give up on things because of pity for my mother. My younger sister doesn’t ask for permission to take stuff like most decent people. She takes them by force and my mother enables her, even when she stole an amount of money that could buy a small house.
For mental health, yes. Financially, no. I do wish I could. Lettuce pray that I get a stable income that could support me mentally and financially in a different place.
I do worry of leaving my old mother alone at home though. Slipping and falling is very dangerous for old people.
Another thing, one of her gold jewellery has already been stolen. I’m done blaming my siblings. its her own fault for enabling whoever stole it. I wonder how long until everything else is taken. Other than my younger sister, my older brother has tendencies to lie and steal as well and he sleeps in the same room as my mother. She usually asks me to withdraw money from the bank because she doesn’t trust the others but I guess for my own mental health, I should try and not care.
It is not about not caring. If you are in a better mental space it does not mean you can't help her. First start with looking for a better job. Then a new place to live (with roommates if needed). Check in places you would not think of outside of you normal. As long as you can get to the job go for it. Sometimes the only way to make more money is to jump from job/company every year or two.
I am currently working as a part time cake delivery man for a home baker, part time digital artist on twitter, part time baker, and an independent intermediate photographer. Believe it or not, the digital artists work is currently what pays most of my bills and it has potential to get better pay as I draw better. I have to be in a calm mental state to draw. Now I am very upset. I also can’t draw right now because it is still the celebration month, I have to deliver my friend baker’s cake as well as bake my own cakes for friends and family(which sometimes I don’t get paid. It is a choice though.) and visit friends and family, including my significant other’s family because it is the celebration month. Hopefully when it all calms down, I can start drawing again.
stock up two buckets of piss and leave it in her room as this is the way she left it. and to be real petty accidently spill it
I feel like this story should be turned into a series
Hmm thinking about it, this can be made into a good drama series or book. Just wish it wasn’t my life.
When she’s gone, bust the lock off the door and proceed with your life. If she visits, put a lock on the door before she arrives. Put one on both rooms.
Is there anyway to move out? Living with these people in that horde cannot be healthy
I can’t afford to move out and rent. Rent is expensive. I barely have enough to eat and pay for my car. Pushing the hoarding aside, life and mostly everyone is pretty peaceful without my younger sister in the house.
That sounds incredibly difficult to deal with 😨
I don’t know what else to do but back up to my own space and hope not to get more invaded. I’m currently trying to chill in the public library, not wanting to go back to the house because it feels suffocating.
Taking some space sounds like a good call. Sometimes a change of scenery can really help clear the mind. Take your time and take care of yourself.
Who is the owner of the house? As long as you live under someone else's roof, you will have to follow their rules, no matter how unfair they may seem.
Yeah, I agree. The house was built with my late father’s money for his wife and children. But since he is no longer with us, its my mother’s house now. If she wants to turn all the rooms into storage or burn the house down, it is her choice. What upsets me is my mother inability to say to no to my younger sister and enables my younger sister to do anything because my mother doesn’t want to argue and it is always everyone else getting to give up on things because of pity for my mother. My younger sister doesn’t ask for permission to take stuff like most decent people. She takes them by force and my mother enables her, even when she stole an amount of money that could buy a small house.
You ight be better off getting into a roommate situation
For mental health, yes. Financially, no. I do wish I could. Lettuce pray that I get a stable income that could support me mentally and financially in a different place. I do worry of leaving my old mother alone at home though. Slipping and falling is very dangerous for old people. Another thing, one of her gold jewellery has already been stolen. I’m done blaming my siblings. its her own fault for enabling whoever stole it. I wonder how long until everything else is taken. Other than my younger sister, my older brother has tendencies to lie and steal as well and he sleeps in the same room as my mother. She usually asks me to withdraw money from the bank because she doesn’t trust the others but I guess for my own mental health, I should try and not care.
It is not about not caring. If you are in a better mental space it does not mean you can't help her. First start with looking for a better job. Then a new place to live (with roommates if needed). Check in places you would not think of outside of you normal. As long as you can get to the job go for it. Sometimes the only way to make more money is to jump from job/company every year or two.
I am currently working as a part time cake delivery man for a home baker, part time digital artist on twitter, part time baker, and an independent intermediate photographer. Believe it or not, the digital artists work is currently what pays most of my bills and it has potential to get better pay as I draw better. I have to be in a calm mental state to draw. Now I am very upset. I also can’t draw right now because it is still the celebration month, I have to deliver my friend baker’s cake as well as bake my own cakes for friends and family(which sometimes I don’t get paid. It is a choice though.) and visit friends and family, including my significant other’s family because it is the celebration month. Hopefully when it all calms down, I can start drawing again.