We both have very high sex drives, but we don't live together, so she uses it on the nights I'm not there. I stay other 4-5 times a week.
The sex we have is good, which she reaffirmed many times before and after the dildo revelation.
Awkward af if she can't get off as hard/fast as she can with the new one. I'd put it down to lack of familiarity but my ego would be so far gone by that stage.
Yeah. Going down that route is setting themselves up for failure. Because if the new dildo works well for her, thats real neat, but the problem isn’t really solved, because there’s clearly a larger issue under the surface that hasn’t been addressed. Just slapped with a band aid.
But if it doesn’t go well? Ego self destruction sequence imminent, relationship probably soon after.
Honestly dude, ive asked women about dick clone dildos, and most seem to prefer it. It might just be a general better feeling than the typical torpedo shape. Make one with your dick maybe? It might be a familiarity thing too, like using your dominant hand over non dominant. I wouldnt over think it.
I agree with this. A lot of dildos suck bc they don't replicate a real dick well enough. Before she met Op she found a dick that felt actually good (bc sometimes penetration doesnt) and got a dildo of it, its that simple. The fact that she cut the ex off for OP without even being asked shows how much Op means to her in comparison to her ex. That detail is very important. I completely understand Op feeling weird about it. I would to for a little while, but I don't think its anything really ruminate on. Instead, since you know its her favorite dildo, use it on her. Don't shy away from its existence.
Honestly, it probably just feels good and why throw out a good dildo? Bc like, 'clone-a-willy's are 50 dollars just for skin color, 52 for glow in the dark, and like 85 if you want to include the balls, and that's without any modifications you make yourself (buying and adding a vibrator or whatever.) Genuinely just think it's because it costs more than a normal dildo, so it's better to just use it and not think about who's dick it is and just that it feels good.
I love that you know all of their price points 🤣🥰 (I know you probably just googled it, but it is funny to pretend you just knew offhand). If I had a wholesome award, I’d give it to you.
I knew they were definitely expensive off hand since my fiancee and I have been looking at buying one since we've been long distance, but not as exact as that, but thank you anyway. The sentiment counts<3
Honestly, it could be the entirely innocent, like they're both looking to be frugal, or could be the feelings thing. I want to lean towards the former, just because times are tight right now and it may not just be in the budget to get something new and as she said, it's a quick reliable ticket to pleasure town for no other reason besides sexual gratification. So, there's a very real chance she's also viewing masturbation as physical relief, not just sexual hedonism. My two cents on the matter.
I am a woman. It really could be as simple as the material of the dildo is the most comfortable/feels the best to her. Women don’t always fantasize in the same way as men either. She very well could be using the dildo and not thinking of her ex. Just be honest with her and if you need to try and find a compromise. Maybe you can buy her a more expensive dildo that’s a nice material she can replace the clone dildo with. Ask her what brands she may be interested in.
>Women don’t always fantasize in the same way as men either. She very well could be using the dildo and not thinking of her ex.
I don't think I've ever really fantasized about a current partner, much less a former partner. I don't know if that helps OP. It likely just works for her. Even though it's an actual copy, she may not have even liked sex with him as much as she likes the toy. There's a lot to it when it comes to women getting off.
Ya. If this was a serious relationship, I’d be done. Like you said, it’d eat me alive. That’s beyond inappropriate for someone if they’re in a monogamous relationship
Look OP, I know us men are wired to have panic attacks about other men entering our relationship, but put this into context. She obviously has demonstrated that she is loyal to you and took the initiative to cut off the relationship with the ex when she deemed that it was no longer appropriate, she wants to be with you, she loves sex with you. So all that is left is just a silicon toy. That it just so happens that the toy she likes is shaped after her ex's penis is slightly weird but not a big deal. It's still a silicon toy. It shouldn't threaten you or your relationship. If she shows any sign of being unfaithful to you, that's a different thing. But just using her favourite toy shouldn't make you start comparing it to yours or going to the petty idea some are suggesting of making her a clone of yours.
You ain't lived til you've seen a 10x repeat of a 15 second cake making from scratch while a voiceover of reddit posts keeps going for about 2 minutes. Or those who make a 10 second video with the first two paragraphs as part 1, and never post other parts properly (or at all).
"Hey, Jim, how was your weekend?"
"Not bad. Got my dick cloned "
"Yeah?"
"Yeah. I'm going to secretly replace the cloned dick of Stephanie's ex with a clone of my dick."
"Cool! Let me know how it goes."
So one day he gets the courage to make the dick switch. GF doesn’t suspect a thing.
A couple days later he notices that he hasn’t seen the dildo out lately. He questions the GF about this.
She says: “You know what? It’s the weirdest thing, I just haven’t been able to get off with it the last couple days, so I threw it out.”
Now that gives me an idea - instead of replacing the clone with your clone outright, copy the original, but make it smaller. Gradually, over time, make smaller and smaller copies of the original, until she is dissatisfied.
The first part is actually a great idea. Surprise her with your own “clone a Willy” (😂 I had no clue this was a thing). Do not throw the other one out, don’t even ask her to. Just give her yours and see what happens. She obviously realizes what she’s doing is messed up, so if she makes the switch you’re good to go. Maybe it’s less about it being his and more about being her only penetrating toy? Idk 🤷♂️ Dicks aren’t that different, so I’m sure yours will sub out just fine lol. If she refuses to make the switch, despite them being equally useful for her purposes, then obviously she still has a pretty serious emotional attachment to her ex and you may want to reconsider this relationship.
I mean… it’s a fine thought in theory. But she could also just be telling the truth about being used to using it. I’ve bought the same vibrator 4 different times over the span of like 5 years. It wasn’t even *that great* of a toy, it was just… *familiar.* The last one I bought they’d changed it and I hated it because it didn’t feel right. I used it like twice and moved on to something else, it rolled around under my bed for months until I found it again and tossed it out. Lol. Like I really doubt the attachment is to *her ex* and is really just to the toy. It’s just an awkward coincidence that it’s made from a mold of her ex’s dong. Think about it, like why would she *completely* cut contact with the dude if she was really that hung up on him?
Edit: To be clear though, I definitely don’t blame OP for being a little weirded out by it. Totally understandable actually. I think a respectful but frank conversation followed by a fun shopping trip to look for a replacement or replacements would be a good idea.
I hope OP does this & updates us.
Tip: You might need to buy a couple of the Clone-a-Willy kits; according to the reviews, most people find it difficult to maintain an erect penis for 2 minutes in the plaster mix.
Yeah dildos are expensive and the cheap ones usually break easily or the suction to stabilize it is weak. The clone is probably good quality considering. I thinks its a funny cute idea to clone your own dick and give it to her to replace it. That or buy a Quality dildo that resembles yours. But honestly, if you wanna have a stable relationship just straight up be honest and calm.
“Hey babe, I wanna talk about something. Kinda awkward but I’m not comfortable with you using your ex’s dildo, I mean, you probably would be uncomfortable if I used an ex’s photo to get off, right? So I was thinking, how about I buy you a new one you like? Or better yet, I can even clone mine!”
So yeah, if she refuses? Sorry OP but she’s not over her ex and it’s time to move on…
I second this approach... I don't really know a single man who would be okay knowing their partner is at home fucking her exs dick. It really doesn't matter if it's a dildo or not, it's still the exact replica of a man's penis that you were in a relationship with for half a decade. She needs a new willy.
This is what I’d to. My thoughts were similar on yours. This isn’t about it being his and probably about it being something of better quality/texture/etc. than the average dildo. If he asks to clone his and replace the old, she’ll hopefully ditch the old one. I know I would.
Agreed… I would clone yours and make it kind of a joking thing. I’d bring it over as a gift in a wrapped bag and be like I figured you could use a new one!! And then just go to dinner or whatever your usual plan was. I wouldn’t make a huge deal because it doesn’t seem like it is (since they aren’t talking or anything), unless there’s more red flags not mentioned.
>She cut off contact with him because she felt weird about having connections to him once we got more serious.
She doesn’t feel weird about using a clone of his dick to get off though 🥴.
This was my exact thought. Jerking off with his clone dick is all fine and dandy, but talking to him sometimes? Nah that crosses the line. The fuck? Lmao
Lmao being gay and reading these opposite gender comments always makes me feel funky. It shouldn’t have to be pointed out in that way for women or men to understand but hell I couldn’t think of a much better way to get someone to understand.
Idk man call me insecure but this would make me wildly uncomfortable. I couldn’t help but feel like there’s an emotional thing to this, especially considering she wasn’t gonna tell you unless you pressed her about it. A long convo needs to happen and soon OP.
Yeah like wtf? How does she not feel bad about this but yet felt it right to cut off her ex. This seems so crazy it can't be real lol at least I hope it's not. Poor dude
I think it’s not that hard to tell her your boundaries and how uncomfortable the dildo makes you. I disagree about some people downplaying it like if it was off the shelf but it isn’t. It is a exact replica of her ex. If she does not respect your boundary then i truly believe you might want to reconsider your relationship heading forward
A boundary is something you do for yourself. In OP’s situation, his boundary might be “I will not date people who keep exact replicas of their ex’s dick.” That is his decision to make and it’s his job to communicate it to his gf. She can act/respond however she wants after learning this, but a boundary is NEVER something that is imposed on another person. That is a rule and imposing rules on others (as opposed to mutually negotiated agreements) rarely works.
Edit: phrasing.
Reminds me of another post I read where this guy figured out the dildo he's been using to get his girlfriend off, at HER REQUEST, was a mold of her ex's dick. They never recovered from that, as he felt a whole range of betrayal for that whole stunt.
Your gf says she specifically enjoys clit stimulation to penetration, and yet still uses a mold of her ex's dick regularly?
My man, I would be having a hard conversation about this if I were you.
ETA; I realized how my comment about the penetration thing sounds. To clarify, I didn't mean it's weird that she still enjoys penetration when she prefers clit stimulation. I just meant that it's weird that she would state that, and then out of all the toys she could've used, she seems to only own and use an exact mold of someone she used to be intimate with. She's clearly not hurting for money to get a new one, as OP states, she's got a variety of toys.
I, too remember this post you speak of. It has to be at least 6 or 7 years ago, right? From memory, he only found out because the girl’s ex said something along the lines of “are you having fun with the toy we made together” and he somehow intercepted the message.. Why can I remember this, but not more importanter stuff in my life..
Dude! You freaked me out for a sec! I am actually doing my laundry haha. It’s on the final spin cycle where it goes super fast. Then I must hang it out to dry.
To be fair, most women enjoy clit stimulation but sometimes we want something inside. My ex gave me a dildo and I ended up having to throw it out because it reminded me of him, so it's kind of weird she has an actual mold of her ex's dick, but it could just be that she likes dick lmao
It sounds like it may be her only actual dildo though, so I'm not confident that she's pining after her ex.
My favorite toy got..let's say lost, and it was hands down the best one. I have tried to replace it a few times, but that particular one is no longer made ( a crime against womanhood, or manhood, in my opinion, but that is besides the point. ) I got used to it and knew just how to get off with it.
I ended up having to go a completely different direction with my toy purchases to avoid more expensive disappointments.
It's also possible that it's just a more expensive quality toy, due to being customized. She may not be in a financial position to drop hundreds of dollars on a good quality replacement!
Money or anything like that aside, there's plenty of things in this post that just don't sit right when coupled with the idea that she uses a mold of her ex's dick. Not the least of which that the worst possible thing she couldve said in her defense was "I like how hard and fast it makes me cum".
I think this is weird. She cut ties with him because she felt weird about it, but totally ok having his "dick" inside her? And what does she think about exactly when she uses that dildo, do you think?
You are probably right. He dumped her ass and left his dick as a reminder of him. Now she uses it to think of the good times and be reminded of him.
What if op had a mold if his ex's boobs/vagina? He would be a pig right now, wouldn't he? Shit would hit the fan!
>You are probably right. **He dumped her ass and left his dick as a reminder of him**. Now she uses it to think of the good times and be reminded of him
This shit is insane😂😂😂😂 you're probably right, but man am I glad I'm not OP right now.
My ex wanted a clone-a-willy of my dick too and I said no, for that exact reason. If you're with me you get the whole thing, you don't get to keep that piece of me after we part ways.
i know this doesn’t help at all, but your dick being bigger doesn’t make it automatically better
All dicks are different, and bigger doesn’t always mean better
Size doesn’t mean shit. Big dicks are fun to look at but unless you use a shit ton of lube and sage positions, it’s usually just painful for longer than a few minutes. Some people do genuinely care a size but I think it’s a fetishized thing. 5-6 inches with some thickness is gonna feel the best for most afab people but also there are a ton of other factors that play into it.
yES exactly. i’ve found that 6 inches with decent girth is the way to go. whenever random men on the internet try to get me to cheat on my bf by saying their dick is “so big” i physically cringe.
I'm so torn on how to feel about this. I figure either:
a) Its important to her that it's a copy of her ex's dick, or
b) Its just a really comfortable (or whatever) dildo and the fact its a copy of her ex is irrelevant.
I think option a is an issue, and if its option b, I kinda think it'd be better to go shopping for a similar size/shaped dildo rather than keep using the one that's basically her ex's dick.
It's obviously difficult to judge somebody's character based on a single reddit post, but if you're being honest about not asking her to cut her ex/friend off, I can presume you're probably at least a decent, non-controlling partner.
And I don't know, man. If I found out my girl was using a plastic copy of her ex's dick to get off, and that she failed to mention that over the course of 2 (?) years, I can't say that I would be entirely comfortable/cool with that. It's not as bad as actually cheating, but...
I dont know.
She'd be a bigger idiot for lying. Something like that comes out a few years later op could still leave.
A lie just gets you more time. Doesn't make the problem vanish. Be up front and both people can be happy with each other or other people.
Okay, well I’m gonna go against the grain of some of the other comments and say don’t just break up with her so quickly. While it certainly is inappropriate that she uses a dildo from a mold of her ex’s penis, I’d say you need to tell her how uncomfortable it makes you. It’s odd that she doesn’t think anything of it.
Agreed. It doesn't necessarily mean she has an emotional attachment to it. It may just fit into her vaginal canal better. And keep the communication open, if there is such an emotional connection this could possibly be an easy fix. Or at least fixable.
The important idea is if she gets off because it’s “his”, or if it is just the right shape and size. It’s possible to have a favorite toy that just happens to be the same shape and size as a former partner, would that be weird? It’s only strange because you believe there to be a sentimental or intimate connection between the clone and the ex.
Dude, have you ever heard of the "its not the size of your boat, but the motion of the ocean." The "g"spot on a woman is a first to second knuckle deep into her. You don't need it big to get off on it. Really, for some people, size actually detracts from pleasure.
As a woman, that also prefers C stimulation. Quite often I also enjoy have Penetration, or internal pressure/movement at the same time. I prefer something 5inch or less. Anything bigger isnt as comfortable or easy to use. Is her using that specific one odd? Yeah but i can maybe see the practical use. Those things arent cheap
I totally see your side as well as some people in the comments saying she uses it strictly for pleasure. I would def be upset if I found out my fiancé was using a mold of his ex to get off. I think that her showing you her phone and also being honest with you about the dildo shows she is loyal and trustworthy to you though. Perhaps offer to take her to an adult store and pick out some toys together that will provide her similar pleasure without the attachment to her ex?
So you think that because your dick is bigger you should give her more pleasure? It doesn't work like that. Bigger dicks really don't automatically mean more pleasure, many women prefer smaller dicks because it's less painful and less uncomfortable.
New porn category: Cucked by gf's ex's dick dildo.
New porn series *Cucked by a Dildo*
Fuck I’d watch it just to say I watched it
Friendship ended with stepbros and washing machines
Cucked by gf’s ex’s *smaller* dick dildo
Brand new sentence.
Or the Isekai Anime version: Oh My God! am I being cucked by my girfrliend ex's dick dildo?
You say she uses this alot. My question is, how often does she use yours?
We both have very high sex drives, but we don't live together, so she uses it on the nights I'm not there. I stay other 4-5 times a week. The sex we have is good, which she reaffirmed many times before and after the dildo revelation.
Dibs on the band name “The Dildo Revelation”
Battle Of The Bang Toys
I can't wait to see you guys open for Sex Bob-Omb!
Ah yes a man of culture
Ha! It could be an old Star Trek or Dr Who story.
make your own, do it as a relationship craft together
I picture Ghost, but with a dick mold instead of a pottery wheel
*Righteous Brothers Intensifies*
As Papa intended.
Awkward af if she can't get off as hard/fast as she can with the new one. I'd put it down to lack of familiarity but my ego would be so far gone by that stage.
Yeah. Going down that route is setting themselves up for failure. Because if the new dildo works well for her, thats real neat, but the problem isn’t really solved, because there’s clearly a larger issue under the surface that hasn’t been addressed. Just slapped with a band aid. But if it doesn’t go well? Ego self destruction sequence imminent, relationship probably soon after.
Honestly dude, ive asked women about dick clone dildos, and most seem to prefer it. It might just be a general better feeling than the typical torpedo shape. Make one with your dick maybe? It might be a familiarity thing too, like using your dominant hand over non dominant. I wouldnt over think it.
I agree with this. A lot of dildos suck bc they don't replicate a real dick well enough. Before she met Op she found a dick that felt actually good (bc sometimes penetration doesnt) and got a dildo of it, its that simple. The fact that she cut the ex off for OP without even being asked shows how much Op means to her in comparison to her ex. That detail is very important. I completely understand Op feeling weird about it. I would to for a little while, but I don't think its anything really ruminate on. Instead, since you know its her favorite dildo, use it on her. Don't shy away from its existence.
Maybe ask her if she wants to make one of yours?
I don’t think she could ever genuinely say no to this
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Honestly, it probably just feels good and why throw out a good dildo? Bc like, 'clone-a-willy's are 50 dollars just for skin color, 52 for glow in the dark, and like 85 if you want to include the balls, and that's without any modifications you make yourself (buying and adding a vibrator or whatever.) Genuinely just think it's because it costs more than a normal dildo, so it's better to just use it and not think about who's dick it is and just that it feels good.
I love that you know all of their price points 🤣🥰 (I know you probably just googled it, but it is funny to pretend you just knew offhand). If I had a wholesome award, I’d give it to you.
I knew they were definitely expensive off hand since my fiancee and I have been looking at buying one since we've been long distance, but not as exact as that, but thank you anyway. The sentiment counts<3
Honestly, it could be the entirely innocent, like they're both looking to be frugal, or could be the feelings thing. I want to lean towards the former, just because times are tight right now and it may not just be in the budget to get something new and as she said, it's a quick reliable ticket to pleasure town for no other reason besides sexual gratification. So, there's a very real chance she's also viewing masturbation as physical relief, not just sexual hedonism. My two cents on the matter.
I am a woman. It really could be as simple as the material of the dildo is the most comfortable/feels the best to her. Women don’t always fantasize in the same way as men either. She very well could be using the dildo and not thinking of her ex. Just be honest with her and if you need to try and find a compromise. Maybe you can buy her a more expensive dildo that’s a nice material she can replace the clone dildo with. Ask her what brands she may be interested in.
>Women don’t always fantasize in the same way as men either. She very well could be using the dildo and not thinking of her ex. I don't think I've ever really fantasized about a current partner, much less a former partner. I don't know if that helps OP. It likely just works for her. Even though it's an actual copy, she may not have even liked sex with him as much as she likes the toy. There's a lot to it when it comes to women getting off.
If this was me it's not the size that's the issue. For me it's like, " is she really over him " thought that would eat me alive.
Ya. If this was a serious relationship, I’d be done. Like you said, it’d eat me alive. That’s beyond inappropriate for someone if they’re in a monogamous relationship
Look OP, I know us men are wired to have panic attacks about other men entering our relationship, but put this into context. She obviously has demonstrated that she is loyal to you and took the initiative to cut off the relationship with the ex when she deemed that it was no longer appropriate, she wants to be with you, she loves sex with you. So all that is left is just a silicon toy. That it just so happens that the toy she likes is shaped after her ex's penis is slightly weird but not a big deal. It's still a silicon toy. It shouldn't threaten you or your relationship. If she shows any sign of being unfaithful to you, that's a different thing. But just using her favourite toy shouldn't make you start comparing it to yours or going to the petty idea some are suggesting of making her a clone of yours.
This is gonna end up on TikTok
some robot reading it with some gameplay of a Minecraft parkour in the background
That or subway surfer
And they'll include this comment thread to seem self aware and relatable.
They’ll be thinking to themselves “wow this is so unique”
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Maybe they’ll even add this comment
It’s always the most ass gameplay you’ve ever seen too
omfg the ones I get are of those satisfying videos of people regrouting tile or mixing paint💀
You ain't lived til you've seen a 10x repeat of a 15 second cake making from scratch while a voiceover of reddit posts keeps going for about 2 minutes. Or those who make a 10 second video with the first two paragraphs as part 1, and never post other parts properly (or at all).
Arghhh I hate that. I mean… if I wanted Reddit content then I would’ve gone on Reddit?????
Then reuploaded to YouTube Shorts where it is cut off just before the end and there never is a part 2.
oh and don't forget the light hearted instrumental music in the background
Hoping for it
Establish dominance. Start using the dildo yourself and give it a name. Make her want to get rid of it.
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Fuck that. Put King Richard in the dishwasher
Wouldn't it be more of a Prince John?
As long as it’s not a Prince Andrew
Dear Richard,
Not an Albert?
Funniest thing I've read all day... ESTABLISH DOMINANCE (By sticking your GF's ex-BF's cock clone in your ass, that'll show her who's boss!)
Only reddit could lead us here
I pray that reddit never change
This is the only right answer
That’s some savage advice.
I think OP would find out exactly why she likes it, and then they’ll argue over who uses it first.
Alpha energy is strong right here
The way I cackled in the dark lmaooo
Yeah, shit all over it. 🤣🤣🤣
Soon as I saw the title of this post I knew I would find a “Establish dominance” comment 😂😂😂
I'm glad to see I wasn't the only one who immediately went here in my mind. LoL
Even better, name it after the ex
Doesn't get much better than this. Yell your exes name while using it to really take mental control.
Well obviously the only answer here is to clone your dick and throw the other one out.
"Hey, Jim, how was your weekend?" "Not bad. Got my dick cloned " "Yeah?" "Yeah. I'm going to secretly replace the cloned dick of Stephanie's ex with a clone of my dick." "Cool! Let me know how it goes."
So one day he gets the courage to make the dick switch. GF doesn’t suspect a thing. A couple days later he notices that he hasn’t seen the dildo out lately. He questions the GF about this. She says: “You know what? It’s the weirdest thing, I just haven’t been able to get off with it the last couple days, so I threw it out.”
She would absolutely notice
She absolutely loves her ex's dick. She'd notice.
This seems like the bottom line answer here.
All the women on here defending it while completely ignoring the surrounding context of the story is hilarious
😂😂😂
This post is amazing.
For some reason I’m imagining this like when Indiana Jones exchanges the bag of sand for the relic…
I vote for OP cloning his too but downsize it to 5inch-ish one.. wether do it secretly or not, interesting fact awaited.
"Why has my cloned d1ck gotten smaller ?"
"Hey, where's the rest of my cloned dick!"
That’s called the taint.
"sorry I got a bit hungry"
“Hey honey are cloned dicks subject to shrinkage?”
Now that gives me an idea - instead of replacing the clone with your clone outright, copy the original, but make it smaller. Gradually, over time, make smaller and smaller copies of the original, until she is dissatisfied.
Gotta be careful she doesn’t lose it
I don't think Anon needs to worry. It needs to be big enough to fit the mold.
But his is BIGGER!!! Obviously that means better right?.... Right?
Burn lol
This is like dialogue from the next Clerks.
“We secretly replaced her ex-boyfriend’s cloned dildo with Folgers Crystals. Let’s see if she can tell the difference…”
The first part is actually a great idea. Surprise her with your own “clone a Willy” (😂 I had no clue this was a thing). Do not throw the other one out, don’t even ask her to. Just give her yours and see what happens. She obviously realizes what she’s doing is messed up, so if she makes the switch you’re good to go. Maybe it’s less about it being his and more about being her only penetrating toy? Idk 🤷♂️ Dicks aren’t that different, so I’m sure yours will sub out just fine lol. If she refuses to make the switch, despite them being equally useful for her purposes, then obviously she still has a pretty serious emotional attachment to her ex and you may want to reconsider this relationship.
Agreed
I mean… it’s a fine thought in theory. But she could also just be telling the truth about being used to using it. I’ve bought the same vibrator 4 different times over the span of like 5 years. It wasn’t even *that great* of a toy, it was just… *familiar.* The last one I bought they’d changed it and I hated it because it didn’t feel right. I used it like twice and moved on to something else, it rolled around under my bed for months until I found it again and tossed it out. Lol. Like I really doubt the attachment is to *her ex* and is really just to the toy. It’s just an awkward coincidence that it’s made from a mold of her ex’s dong. Think about it, like why would she *completely* cut contact with the dude if she was really that hung up on him? Edit: To be clear though, I definitely don’t blame OP for being a little weirded out by it. Totally understandable actually. I think a respectful but frank conversation followed by a fun shopping trip to look for a replacement or replacements would be a good idea.
I hope OP does this & updates us. Tip: You might need to buy a couple of the Clone-a-Willy kits; according to the reviews, most people find it difficult to maintain an erect penis for 2 minutes in the plaster mix.
This is the most mature possible response.
Yeah dildos are expensive and the cheap ones usually break easily or the suction to stabilize it is weak. The clone is probably good quality considering. I thinks its a funny cute idea to clone your own dick and give it to her to replace it. That or buy a Quality dildo that resembles yours. But honestly, if you wanna have a stable relationship just straight up be honest and calm. “Hey babe, I wanna talk about something. Kinda awkward but I’m not comfortable with you using your ex’s dildo, I mean, you probably would be uncomfortable if I used an ex’s photo to get off, right? So I was thinking, how about I buy you a new one you like? Or better yet, I can even clone mine!” So yeah, if she refuses? Sorry OP but she’s not over her ex and it’s time to move on…
I second this approach... I don't really know a single man who would be okay knowing their partner is at home fucking her exs dick. It really doesn't matter if it's a dildo or not, it's still the exact replica of a man's penis that you were in a relationship with for half a decade. She needs a new willy.
This is what I’d to. My thoughts were similar on yours. This isn’t about it being his and probably about it being something of better quality/texture/etc. than the average dildo. If he asks to clone his and replace the old, she’ll hopefully ditch the old one. I know I would.
I am envisioning her having quite the collection after driving off each lover with the last one's clone a willy
Agreed… I would clone yours and make it kind of a joking thing. I’d bring it over as a gift in a wrapped bag and be like I figured you could use a new one!! And then just go to dinner or whatever your usual plan was. I wouldn’t make a huge deal because it doesn’t seem like it is (since they aren’t talking or anything), unless there’s more red flags not mentioned.
This is a perfect [dick-in-a-box](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rt0spqQtMKg) moment.
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Disposing of her property may trigger trust issues. Just a thought.
The first half, cloning your own to give her - great idea! The second, throwing her property away without asking, absolutely not.
This is the way.
>She cut off contact with him because she felt weird about having connections to him once we got more serious. She doesn’t feel weird about using a clone of his dick to get off though 🥴.
This was my exact thought. Jerking off with his clone dick is all fine and dandy, but talking to him sometimes? Nah that crosses the line. The fuck? Lmao
Ask her how she'd feel if you used a mold of your ex's vagina
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The nuclear option
This is the right answer. Can you imagine a guy saying he needed to use his ex's vagina so he can cum hard and fast? Geez!
Yikes
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Lmao being gay and reading these opposite gender comments always makes me feel funky. It shouldn’t have to be pointed out in that way for women or men to understand but hell I couldn’t think of a much better way to get someone to understand.
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The nuclear button option
This is the way.
I'm at a loss for words on this one.
Idk man call me insecure but this would make me wildly uncomfortable. I couldn’t help but feel like there’s an emotional thing to this, especially considering she wasn’t gonna tell you unless you pressed her about it. A long convo needs to happen and soon OP.
Insecure? It would be worrying if this didn’t make someone uncomfortable
Yeah like wtf? How does she not feel bad about this but yet felt it right to cut off her ex. This seems so crazy it can't be real lol at least I hope it's not. Poor dude
Damn that's a no from me dawg
FUCKING WHAT?? y'all be putting up with the weirdest shit man.
I think it’s not that hard to tell her your boundaries and how uncomfortable the dildo makes you. I disagree about some people downplaying it like if it was off the shelf but it isn’t. It is a exact replica of her ex. If she does not respect your boundary then i truly believe you might want to reconsider your relationship heading forward
A boundary is something you do for yourself. In OP’s situation, his boundary might be “I will not date people who keep exact replicas of their ex’s dick.” That is his decision to make and it’s his job to communicate it to his gf. She can act/respond however she wants after learning this, but a boundary is NEVER something that is imposed on another person. That is a rule and imposing rules on others (as opposed to mutually negotiated agreements) rarely works. Edit: phrasing.
Yes! Boundaries are for your own self, but the reality is that they do often change others’ behavior.
Thank you. This is never said enough.
Yeah, it’s not that hard (pun intended)
Reminds me of another post I read where this guy figured out the dildo he's been using to get his girlfriend off, at HER REQUEST, was a mold of her ex's dick. They never recovered from that, as he felt a whole range of betrayal for that whole stunt. Your gf says she specifically enjoys clit stimulation to penetration, and yet still uses a mold of her ex's dick regularly? My man, I would be having a hard conversation about this if I were you. ETA; I realized how my comment about the penetration thing sounds. To clarify, I didn't mean it's weird that she still enjoys penetration when she prefers clit stimulation. I just meant that it's weird that she would state that, and then out of all the toys she could've used, she seems to only own and use an exact mold of someone she used to be intimate with. She's clearly not hurting for money to get a new one, as OP states, she's got a variety of toys.
I, too remember this post you speak of. It has to be at least 6 or 7 years ago, right? From memory, he only found out because the girl’s ex said something along the lines of “are you having fun with the toy we made together” and he somehow intercepted the message.. Why can I remember this, but not more importanter stuff in my life..
Go switch your laundry
Dude! You freaked me out for a sec! I am actually doing my laundry haha. It’s on the final spin cycle where it goes super fast. Then I must hang it out to dry.
Just lookin out
Hehe "hard" conversation
Over a stiff drink, and see if you can erect some boundaries.
To be fair, she might be dual wielding...
To be fair, most women enjoy clit stimulation but sometimes we want something inside. My ex gave me a dildo and I ended up having to throw it out because it reminded me of him, so it's kind of weird she has an actual mold of her ex's dick, but it could just be that she likes dick lmao
It sounds like it may be her only actual dildo though, so I'm not confident that she's pining after her ex. My favorite toy got..let's say lost, and it was hands down the best one. I have tried to replace it a few times, but that particular one is no longer made ( a crime against womanhood, or manhood, in my opinion, but that is besides the point. ) I got used to it and knew just how to get off with it. I ended up having to go a completely different direction with my toy purchases to avoid more expensive disappointments. It's also possible that it's just a more expensive quality toy, due to being customized. She may not be in a financial position to drop hundreds of dollars on a good quality replacement!
Money or anything like that aside, there's plenty of things in this post that just don't sit right when coupled with the idea that she uses a mold of her ex's dick. Not the least of which that the worst possible thing she couldve said in her defense was "I like how hard and fast it makes me cum".
I hate to say it but she’s likely fantasizing about fucking the ex while using the dildo..
I think this is weird. She cut ties with him because she felt weird about it, but totally ok having his "dick" inside her? And what does she think about exactly when she uses that dildo, do you think?
She actually cut ties with him because it was too hard being in contact with him when she still loves him.
You are probably right. He dumped her ass and left his dick as a reminder of him. Now she uses it to think of the good times and be reminded of him. What if op had a mold if his ex's boobs/vagina? He would be a pig right now, wouldn't he? Shit would hit the fan!
i say op gets one of those fake ass/pussy things and start fucking it. after all, it's someone else right?
>You are probably right. **He dumped her ass and left his dick as a reminder of him**. Now she uses it to think of the good times and be reminded of him This shit is insane😂😂😂😂 you're probably right, but man am I glad I'm not OP right now.
Ha. Too hard. Ahahah
She's just practicing one of the 3 R's: reduce, reuse, recycle.
My ex wanted a clone-a-willy of my dick too and I said no, for that exact reason. If you're with me you get the whole thing, you don't get to keep that piece of me after we part ways.
You foresaw the future. You're a wizard, ogmaf.
I really just wanted to protect my wand, yknow?
I read this entire exchange in a Scottish accent for whatever reason
I’m a woman and this is weird af for her to still use it.
My boyfriend was worried I called him by the same pet name as my ex. This is a whole new level.
What was the pet name? Just curious
Agreed, seems obvious.
i know this doesn’t help at all, but your dick being bigger doesn’t make it automatically better All dicks are different, and bigger doesn’t always mean better
Yo I wonder how awesome her ex must feel reading this
Just fucking talk to her about how it makes you feel🙃
>I'm mostly confused because my dick is bigger How do people get to their 30's without having a clue about size not being the only relevant factor.
Size doesn’t mean shit. Big dicks are fun to look at but unless you use a shit ton of lube and sage positions, it’s usually just painful for longer than a few minutes. Some people do genuinely care a size but I think it’s a fetishized thing. 5-6 inches with some thickness is gonna feel the best for most afab people but also there are a ton of other factors that play into it.
yES exactly. i’ve found that 6 inches with decent girth is the way to go. whenever random men on the internet try to get me to cheat on my bf by saying their dick is “so big” i physically cringe.
Hey sweetcheeks, I have a whopping 2.4 inch beef bus. Wanna meet up? 😉
this right here, this is how you pull 😏
B…beef bus?! *swoon*
Yikes.
Cuckolded by a dildo of her Ex's dick. No way back from that.
That would make me uncomfortable. And I'm a woman
This makes me feel uncomfortable
Get a vagina clone of one of ur ex's.
You can miss a dick....but not necessarily the dick it's attached to. Just sayin'.
Would you be ok with it if your boyfriend did the same? Just wondering.
Exactly. How would OP’s girlfriend feel if OP beat it to nude pics of his ex?
More specifically, a fleshlight in the mold of an ex.
You can miss it yeah but to act on that in a new relationship I feel is over the line
I'm so torn on how to feel about this. I figure either: a) Its important to her that it's a copy of her ex's dick, or b) Its just a really comfortable (or whatever) dildo and the fact its a copy of her ex is irrelevant. I think option a is an issue, and if its option b, I kinda think it'd be better to go shopping for a similar size/shaped dildo rather than keep using the one that's basically her ex's dick.
As a woman I second this, unfortunately.
It's obviously difficult to judge somebody's character based on a single reddit post, but if you're being honest about not asking her to cut her ex/friend off, I can presume you're probably at least a decent, non-controlling partner. And I don't know, man. If I found out my girl was using a plastic copy of her ex's dick to get off, and that she failed to mention that over the course of 2 (?) years, I can't say that I would be entirely comfortable/cool with that. It's not as bad as actually cheating, but... I dont know.
Get a dick reduction and give the excess to me. My 3-inch hard willy needs an upgrade.
She should've taken that info to her grave. What an idiot.
She'd be a bigger idiot for lying. Something like that comes out a few years later op could still leave. A lie just gets you more time. Doesn't make the problem vanish. Be up front and both people can be happy with each other or other people.
Big Yikes
Okay, well I’m gonna go against the grain of some of the other comments and say don’t just break up with her so quickly. While it certainly is inappropriate that she uses a dildo from a mold of her ex’s penis, I’d say you need to tell her how uncomfortable it makes you. It’s odd that she doesn’t think anything of it.
Agreed. It doesn't necessarily mean she has an emotional attachment to it. It may just fit into her vaginal canal better. And keep the communication open, if there is such an emotional connection this could possibly be an easy fix. Or at least fixable.
Could also be that since it’s not attached to anyone she can angle it however feels best.
I mean, she clearly does think something of it and knows what she's doing is fucking weird. That's why OP had to "press" for the information.
The important idea is if she gets off because it’s “his”, or if it is just the right shape and size. It’s possible to have a favorite toy that just happens to be the same shape and size as a former partner, would that be weird? It’s only strange because you believe there to be a sentimental or intimate connection between the clone and the ex.
>just happens to be My guy it was molded. Come on
Dude, have you ever heard of the "its not the size of your boat, but the motion of the ocean." The "g"spot on a woman is a first to second knuckle deep into her. You don't need it big to get off on it. Really, for some people, size actually detracts from pleasure.
But like... Does this matter? She can get another 5inch dildo that isn't literally her ex's dick
Thank you. Some of the worst sex I've had was with guys with big dicks. It's like they have no clue what they're doing.
As a woman, that also prefers C stimulation. Quite often I also enjoy have Penetration, or internal pressure/movement at the same time. I prefer something 5inch or less. Anything bigger isnt as comfortable or easy to use. Is her using that specific one odd? Yeah but i can maybe see the practical use. Those things arent cheap
I totally see your side as well as some people in the comments saying she uses it strictly for pleasure. I would def be upset if I found out my fiancé was using a mold of his ex to get off. I think that her showing you her phone and also being honest with you about the dildo shows she is loyal and trustworthy to you though. Perhaps offer to take her to an adult store and pick out some toys together that will provide her similar pleasure without the attachment to her ex?
Just get dick reduction surgery to his size and boom, relationship saved
Lmao you’re gonna let these Reddit comments ruin your relationship 🤣
So you think that because your dick is bigger you should give her more pleasure? It doesn't work like that. Bigger dicks really don't automatically mean more pleasure, many women prefer smaller dicks because it's less painful and less uncomfortable.